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to be completely honest

Are you familiar with the “Let Them” theory? I’ll tell you friends the more I grow the more I am okay with accepting the “Let Them” in my own life and relationships. ⠀ ⠀ This is something that took me a very long time to learn. I used to tolerate a lot because I didn’t want to lose people. But I learned the hard way if they were really my people they would never treat me like that. Don’t make the mistake of being so understanding and forgiving that you overlook the fact that you’re being ...

You may lose people when you: Stop trauma bonding Honor your boundaries Realize you can't "save" others Refuse to do their emotional work

And that was the moment. The moment I recognized, we aren't friends anymore.We're just two people who talk sometimes. Nothing more, nothing less.

stop tolerating disrespect just because you don't want to lose people

Some people know what they have, yet they lose the thing they loved the most. #thoughts