Haemin Sunim, a Zen Buddhist teacher and author of “The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: How to Be Calm in a Busy World,” says his happiness is connected to doing things slowly and intentionally.

“I think. It all depends. On how much. Time. You have,” says the Korean Buddhist monk Haemin Sunim, at the pace of a sailing boat on a windless day.

Haemin Sunim suggests a simple five-step plan to give yourself the gift of self-care this holiday season.

“As my breathing becomes much deeper and I’m paying attention to it, I feel much more centered and calm,” Haemin Sunim said.

“If we accept the struggling self, our state of mind will soon undergo a change,” Haemin Sunim writes.