this will change the generated django model level, what I am asking is how to change specifically the auto generated graphql field by graphene. Using related name will unfortunately change the django model set name as well, is it possible to just specifically change the generated graphql field?

The only way I can think of is to manually create a graphql field in the model and create the resolve_* but it seems to be too much boiler plate :/

Yes, you are correct that you'd need to do it more manually if not specifying a related name at the model level. There is no built-in functionality for changing the relation (or field) names at the schema level.