Do you think sexy means flashing lots of skin in super tight, short-short skirts and dresses, low-cut blouses, sweaters and cartoon loud makeup? You’re destroying your brand, image and style, most people will reject you. Love yourself, your body, as is, be feminine. Healthy with clothes is a subtle sexy, not "flashy." Choose comfortable fitting jeans, silky, soft top or a long-sleeve maxi dress. Wear boots, shoes with low heels, flats, sneakers. "Flashy" looks desperate. Bees find flowers.