There are many sexual options that don’t include penetration. And these options can be so good that everybody should add more penetration-free erotic play into their sexual repertoire.

It is a common and slowly changing misconception that ”proper” sex requires intercourse. This simply isn’t true. As sexual beings, we have a huge range of satisfying stimulation and sexual play to choose from without resorting to penetration to finish off. Most of us are well-versed in the act of sexual intercourse because it is simple and easy, and as result, it saves time and effort. However, good sex takes both time and effort, so don’t scrimp on your sex life. Take your time and the rewards shall be yours.

Delicious sex comes in many shapes and forms. Save the penetration for another day, and delve deeper into sexual play and intimacy with your girl with some of these activities. Challenge yourself by creating a sensual environment where both of you can try new things and practice other erotic activities.

Dirty talk and erotic storytelling

A dirty story is a fun and sexy way to spend time with your lover, and it may provide you both with some new ideas and a bit of mental stimulation. A story can be told almost anywhere: in the car, over the phone, via e-mail or letter, or even in bed. If you’re not comfortable making up stories on the fly, find a magazine or website that has fiction that suits your tastes and read it to your partner. Keep in mind that females prefer lots of foreplay, especially in their imaginations. A story that heads straight for intercourse is the same as in real life, and it probably won’t get the desired result. The story is just a story for its own sake; there doesn’t have to be an “ending” or an orgasm for either of you. It is simply a very enjoyable way to share sex, perhaps without even touching each other.

Sensual massage

Massaging your partner is among the most coveted activities in a relationship. A sensual massage, however, is a slightly different kettle of fish because it is relaxing and sexually stimulating at the same time.

There are very few rules to giving a sensual massage, but generally, slow and sexy movements are key. Take your time, use a scented essential oil that has aphrodisiac properties, such as ylang-ylang, and keep the lights low. Glide over her skin using firm but gentle pressure with your hands or whichever body part you want to use, such as arms, chest, stomach, legs or feet. Just make sure to cover every inch of her body and avoid her hot spots until the final act. The idea is to make her want you to touch her hot spots. Take your time and create anticipation, and she surely will want your touch.

Touching each others’ bodies releases mood-enhancing endorphins, and no matter what happens afterward, the body feels good simply for having been nourished from the outside in. Also, don’t expect a sensual massage in return; it’s the last thing you feel like doing after receiving one.

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