Recently, I watched a beautiful, wise and insightful documentary called Your Mum and Dad. It’s a journey about overcoming family trauma and grief and included footage of real therapy sessions and conversations with European Academy Award Nominee Klaartje Quirijns’ own parents about the tragic loss of her sister. The documentary’s title, inspired by the famous Larkin poem, This Be The Verse, revealed how our ancestors’ past can play out in our present. It reminded me of the work by Charlie Morley.

When I first read Charlie Morley’s book, , and later attended one of his shadow retreats exploring the same subject, I was struck by the analogy