100 Ways to Keep Your Kids in Check
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Whether you are anticipating your new arrival or navigating through the assortment of kids you already have, this straight talk guide will hip you to Generations “Y” [Why?] and “Z” and what makes them tick. Child rearing is challenging and our kids are one click away from being smarter than us. This A to Z safari will take you and your child from labor and delivery to college, from gibberish to goal setting and from the neighborhood to the world. Don't hesitate purchase your copy of “100 Ways to keep Your Kids in Check” your new game plan is tucked inside!
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100 Ways to Keep Your Kids in Check - Cookie Reeves
Table of Contents
100 Ways to Keep Your Kids in Check
Chapter 1 | The Art of Communication
Chapter 2 | Home Sweet Home
Chapter 3 | The Earth Belongs to All of Us
Chapter 4 | Take Time, To Make Time
Chapter 5 | The Art of Looking Good
Chapter 6 | Dining Out / Dining In
Chapter 7 | Sleep, What’s That?
Chapter 8 | I Love School
Chapter 9 | Work Hard, Play Harder
Chapter 10 | Good Guys Finish First
Chapter 11 | Friends vs Bullies
Chapter 12 | Nourish Your Body & Keep It Moving
Chapter 13 | Grooming / Hygiene
Chapter 14 | Character Under-Development
Chapter 15 | Emotions / Tendencies
Chapter 16 | Interest / Skills / Talents
Chapter 17 | Authenticity, | Creativity, | & Imagination*
Chapter 18 | Wealth = Knowledge
Chapter 19 | Gratitude & Generosity
Chapter 20 | We Are The World
DEDICATION
This book is dedicated to all the amazing people who have guided me with their infinite wisdom. To my dad, Buddy, who was a Lupus patient in the VA Hospital, throughout my entire childhood and adolescence. His extensive record collection comforted me and cultivated my passion for all genres
of music, from Bach to Boogie, Rogers and Hammerstein to John Philip Sousa, and Tex Ritter to Ella Fitzgerald. My mother, Lois, told me to think global
she said, everybody else, is local.
My Aunt Mildred made me volunteer at the VA Hospital every summer, with a smile. She said, If you can't help somebody else, then what good are you?
My Aunt Vitalia put color in my, black and white teenage years. She said, Everything needs a touch of red!
Le'Verge and Johnny Frank Wilkinson opened up their home to my family and showered us with unconditional love. The Chief
taught me how to clean without complaining. To Mother Jackson who told me one day, I wouldn’t have a dog, that didn't mind me!
Also, the magic of being a kid is alive and well in me because of Cruz, Leo, Aleah, Aminah, Kai and Tatianna.
PREFACE
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Oh the places we go and all the people we meet.
Dr. Seuss
Children have always been in the center of my heart of hearts.
Even as a child, I enjoyed taking care of younger kids. Fixing them up, combing their hair, and teaching them something new. Being an only child, I longed for sibling companionship. I would come up with a thousand ideas and tricks to keep my playmates entertained. My motive was to make sure that they didn’t want to go home. But, eventually they did and I was alone again. Some of my friends were really mean to me, but it didn't matter. My mother impressed upon me to look for the good in them, and I always found it.
I am enjoying being a part-time nanny to a now three-year-old precious little boy. I have nurtured him with all my love and care for two school terms. His parents are high functioning working professionals. His mother is a Public Defender for Special Needs adults and veterans and his father is a middle school Science Teacher in Orange County, CA.
Seeing me bond with their son, they would often ask me, questions like, How do you get him to drink that much water?
My reply was, That's all l give him, he needs it to focus.
They would be baffled seeing their son’s conduct when he was with me. Curiously they would ask, Doesn’t he whine or throw tantrums when he is with you?
And to that I said, There is no chance of that ever happening on my shift!
My practice is always to arrive early to their home, out of sight to give them a chance to share breakfast and their last precious moments together. Well, on this particular day I overheard this same well mannered 3 year old at 7 a.m. barking out orders to everyone and flipping backwards at the table, instead of doing what he had been told! I called his name and he froze in silence. That day I promised his mother that during summer break, I was going to write a guidebook so, they could understand and reinforce the principles I was instilling in their son. Voila! The seed for writing 100 Ways to Keep Your Kids in Check
was planted.
A child while growing up spends most of their childhood in 3 places: at home, at school, and in public. Preparing them to live life graciously in this fishbowl
takes time, patience, and ingenuity. This comprehensive guidebook is an action-packed, quick read sprinkled with challenging parenting topics and peppered with hand-drawn illustrations.
100 Ways to Keep Your Kids in Check
will positively help, parents-to-be, new and older parents, single parents, foster parents, grandparents, caregivers, youth workers, and teachers. Our quest is to achieve a mutual understanding and develop a working relationship with the precious children who have been entrusted to us. It is our joy to happily navigate them through the unpredictable waters of life and illuminate their unique paths. Relax, forget that you were ever a grown-up and run a marathon or two in a pair of these little one's
shoes.
INTRODUCTION
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MAMA
DIDN’T
RAISE
NO
FOOL
Most of us are familiar with this saying, so, it's probably safe to say that your mom didn't raise you to act foolishly or at least she prays she didn't. Ironically enough, somehow parenting has now become a fool's game. Instead of raising our children, we seem to co-parent them. This scenario wouldn’t be too bad if the other parent wasn’t the child. We see this happening every day in the grocery store, restaurants and even in our own cars. Today’s generation of children seem to be raising us instead of the other way around. Our kids treat us like the popular cable service called On Demand
where you click on a movie or TV show and press play. Then in an instant, our desires are fulfilled and we get exactly what we want. I'm sure you have an idea of what I mean.
Now, let’s put this analogy into perspective. Have you ever been in a situation at the grocery store when your child throws an item they want into the cart without your permission? You take it out, because it's not on the list or it’s unhealthy or just because you are the parent! No matter what the circumstances are, you said, No!
Now, your child is crying, whining and begins to throw a loud temper tantrum in a public space. When this happens, you go On Demand
and give in to their desires to simply make them stop crying. Another instance is when you and your little one(s) are in the car and a movie is on the DVD player or a song is on the radio. Your child wants you to change it. Because you are driving and can’t risk taking your eyes off the road, you avoid all the extra efforts required to discipline your child at this moment. Without thinking you give in and let them take control. Once again you go On Demand.
In 100 Ways to Keep Your Kids in Check
you will not only learn how to shatter this trap of being On Demand
but you will also grasp effective ways to identify with your kids. Our world has changed dramatically. Some of the techniques our parents used to bring us up are outdated or outlawed. This guide gives millennial parents fresh ways to connect and speak our kids language with an ‘old school’ vibe. As the subtitle suggests, your energy and efforts will be systematically channeled to guarantee their success. Take a deep breath, your sanity is at stake!
It is so refreshing to see children with a sparkle in their eyes. You can almost sense their insatiable desire to embrace everything around them. They are all born to win and they will as we enrich their journey with the right upbringing. Parenthood is much like the simple drawing game, Connect the Dots, wherein one tries, with pencil in hand, to connect the lines between the dots until the entire drawing is revealed. Everything in life fits together. Each moment unfolds and unearths a beautiful picture. You simply have to be by your child’s side to put the pieces of life's puzzle together with them.
Chapter 1
The Art of Communication
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If you talk to your children, you can help them keep their lives together. If you talk to them skillfully, you can help them to build future dreams.
Jim Rohn
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Communication begins at home, the ultimate launching pad for our children.