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    Mental Health Tips
    Mental Health Tips
    Mental Health Tips
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    Mental Health Tips

    By Kelly J Bawden MS LMFT

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    Mental Health Tips is a book full of tools and strategies to help you improve your life. Using healthy coping tools can mean the difference between a stressful drama-filled life and a life of joy and gratitude. When our mental health is off balance other areas of our life can also become off balance without us even realizing it. This book will give you tools to:

    Decrease stress and anger
    Stop emotional eating
    Stop emotional spending
    Stop self-destructive behavior patterns
    Change your negative thinking patterns
    Understand grief and loss
    Improve your communication
    Understand and regulate your emotions
    Have healthier relationships with yourself and others
    Get in charge of your life

    Mental Health Tips is a fast paced book full of tools to improve your life. The stories are personal stories from Kelly about overcoming her own battle after her son passed away from a fatal car accident as well as stories of other people that use these tips to overcome their struggles. When your mental health improves your overall life will improve.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBalboa Press
    Release dateJan 25, 2016
    ISBN9781504344777
    Mental Health Tips
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    Kelly J Bawden MS LMFT

    Kelly Bawden has had a love of psychology and the mental health field since she was a young child. Her friends and family always knew she would be a therapist someday. She struggled in school most of her life and gave up the dream of psychology in her early 20’s. She began raising her children and this was her main focus. In 1997 at age 37 her desire to be in the psychology field took over and she began the journey of school and working with teenagers in crisis. She loved what she was doing and worked hard to finish school. Her dream of being a therapist happened she was working, spending time with her kids and grand kids and life was good. In 2008 her 26 year old son passed away in a car accident and her world shattered. She was functioning and existing but she was not living. There are times from 2009 to 2011 that were a blur because she was running on auto-pilot just to make it through the day. Her only goal was to get to bed at night and sleep she was sleeping much of the time. Eventually she lost her job, endured 5 more deaths in the family and felt lost. The mental health tips in this book are tips that she used and have helped her clients use for years. Now it was her time to put her feet to the fire and do the work that she had helped others do. “Not as easy as I have made it seem” she would say which would piss her off even more. This is her journey and how she learned to live in spite of the loss that affects her life every day. Mental health matters and these mental health tips work.

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      Mental Health Tips - Kelly J Bawden MS LMFT

      © 2015 Kelly J Bawden, MS, LMFT.

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced by any means, graphic, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping or by any information storage retrieval system without the written permission of the author except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.

      This is a book of mental health tips to help you improve and repair your life. Life is hard, and many times our emotions and negative thinking patterns get in the way of effectively handling problems. This book offers tips to improve negative thinking patterns, decrease emotional stress, improve communication to others, improve relationships not only with others but with yourself as well, and to stop self-destructive behaviors so you can improve your overall life. The tools within this book are designed to help you get in charge of your life.

      Balboa Press

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      Bloomington, IN 47403

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      1 (877) 407-4847

      Because of the dynamic nature of the Internet, any web addresses or links contained in this book may have changed since publication and may no longer be valid. The views expressed in this work are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher, and the publisher hereby disclaims any responsibility for them.

      The author of this book does not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical, emotional, or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being. In the event you use any of the information in this book for yourself, which is your constitutional right, the author and the publisher assume no responsibility for your actions.

      Print information available on the last page.

      ISBN: 978-1-5043-4476-0 (sc)

      ISBN: 978-1-5043-4478-4 (hc)

      ISBN: 978-1-5043-4477-7 (e)

      Library of Congress Control Number: 2015918581

      Balboa Press rev. date: 1/25/2016

      Contents

      Acknowledgments

      Chapter 1     Mental Health Tip #1: Whether you believe you can or can’t, you are right … so in this moment, believe in yourself.

      Chapter 2     Mental Health Tip #2: Getting to know and like yourself can change your entire life.

      Chapter 3     Mental Health Tip #3: Teach others how you would like to be treated. To do this, start by treating yourself like you would your best friend.

      Chapter 4     Mental Health Tip #4: Only bring from the past that which will help you in the present.

      Chapter 5     Mental Health Tip #5: When you learn to forgive yourself and others, your life will become less stressful, and small moments will feel like blessings.

      Chapter 6     Mental Health Tip #6: When life gives you lemons, take them—they are free.

      Chapter 7     Mental Health Tip #7: Thoughts are just thoughts. They only hurt if you react to them … remember, all thoughts will pass.

      Chapter 8     Mental Health Tip #8: When an emotion comes, don’t push it away, because the more you push it away, the more it will come back with a vengeance later.

      Chapter 9     Mental Health Tip #9: It is okay to ask for help.

      Chapter 10     Mental Health Tip #10: Movement is one of the keys to feeling good about life.

      Chapter 11     Mental Health Tip #11: A meditation practice has been known to change lives. This healing method works!

      Chapter 12     Mental Health Tip #12: Doing the opposite of what you think or feel may help you get into the solution.

      Chapter 13     Mental Health Tip #13: Simple moments bring the best memories; enjoy those simple times.

      Chapter 14     A Look into Grief

      Chapter 15     Thoughts about Mental Health

      About the Author

      Acknowledgments

      Talking about mental health is still taboo; however, if we do not take care of our mental health, it can affect our life without our even knowing it. I did not realize how much not dealing with the grief from losing my son was affecting how I was living my life. Because of my daughter and grandchildren, I was motivated to do something about it. I am grateful for family, friends, counselors, and mentors who helped me. I am grateful to be able to write about mental health and pass on what I have learned through my own journey and the journey of those I have been privileged to work with. I am humbled by what so many have endured in their lives. It is important for all of us to remember that mental health matters.

      Chapter 1

      Mental Health Tip #1: Whether you believe you can or can’t, you are right … so in this moment, believe in yourself.

      My first mental health tip is about learning to have a relationship with yourself. Most people are pretty hard on themselves. Negative self-talk will tear down your confidence and ability to take risks and achieve your goals. Many times we use distractions to feel better. These distractions are usually self-destructive and allow us to hide how we are truly feeling. This keeps us from taking risks in life. It is often easier to tell ourselves why we cannot do something than it is to risk and challenge ourselves.

      When we first imagine a goal or dream, there are no judgments or conflicts in our imagination. There is only the vision of what achieving that goal or dream will look like. But once it has been imagined, doubts start entering our minds. These thoughts may sound like this: I do not have the money to do this, I don’t have the education or ability to pull this off, I am not good enough, I am not worth it, or This is a stupid dream. Why would I ever pursue it? The list goes on and on. Our past and what we think about ourselves determine if we will begin taking steps toward our goal or stay stuck by believing those awful thoughts and maintaining the status quo.

      It is very common for people to doubt their abilities, wish for a different life, and continue an unsatisfactory life. They complain of being bored and stressed-out most of the time and often turn to self-destructive behaviors to ease the pain, such as drinking alcohol daily, overusing prescription medications, gambling away their money, viewing pornography, spending money they do not have, or overeating or binge-eating to avoid feeling low. These behaviors become patterns that are very hard to change. Often these behaviors become addictions. Life then becomes a series of cycles and patterns that just do not feel good. This creates low moods, anxiety, depression, and feelings of overwhelm and frustration.

      Listening to these negative thoughts and the reasons that something is impossible only increases self-doubt and negative thinking. Affirmations go both ways. If we listen to our negative self-talk, we affirm these negative thoughts. Henry Ford once said, Whether you think you can or you can’t, you are right. This is absolutely true. What we tell ourselves shapes our lives. If our thoughts are filled with self-doubt, our actions will continue to bring consequences that will affirm our self-doubt. It becomes a vicious cycle.

      There are so many problems in life that it can feel overwhelming. People from all backgrounds have challenges in life. When drink, gambling, food, pills, or other addictions become the way to cope with stress, it actually increases the stress. People may feel relief in the moment, but it does not last long.

      Mental health is not talked about very often. I would love to help change that, and this book is my way to help people know that mental health is a part of life and it’s good to talk about it. It is actually healing to talk about it. I have a passion for mental health and have seen so many lives disrupted because of self-destructive behaviors. In my 20 years of counseling clients I have learned many tools that improve mental health. I have an extensive educational background in marriage and family therapy, mental health therapy, and psychology. I am currently working on a PhD in psychology. Most of the tools I teach come from not only my education, but also my life experiences.

      I have seen many people who have gambled away their money or were financially successful but used methamphetamine, cocaine, or other illicit drugs to get through the day. I have counseled with people who drank themselves to the point of passing out every night and those who have abused prescription pills to the point that they were not the same person. I have worked with those who ate as a way to decrease stress but in the end felt sick because they had eaten so much. At the time, it feels like the food, alcohol, or drug is helping, but in the end, it is making things worse. We can’t eat away our emotions, drink away our problems, or use pills as a coping mechanism.

      Drugs and alcohol change people. I am not referring to social drinking or drinking to celebrate an event. I am talking about the drug and alcohol use that affects an individual’s entire life. I have worked with many individuals whose lives have fallen apart because of drugs or alcohol. I have also worked with individuals who have continued to function and keep their jobs or their relationships intact. We each have a story that we live every day.

      Patty was successful, but she had been drinking, gambling, and using cocaine and Adderall for about fifteen years. By the time she reached midlife, she really had nothing to show for it and a hard time remembering most of it. She had a grown child, but she didn’t remember most of his life. When her son had a child of his own, this spurred her to think about life a little differently. She began looking at her life and felt a lot of regret. She realized how lonely she was most of the time. She was successful in business, but it was not enough. She would get up and go to work, and after work, she would go drink and gamble. She used cocaine or Adderall to get through the day, and in the evening, she would drink until she passed out so she could sleep. However, she was passing out, not sleeping. In like manner, she was existing, not living.

      When people exist instead of live, there is generally a great deal of self-destruction occurring. In the beginning, they may use drugs, alcohol, food, sex, or gambling as a way to deal with stress or to have some fun. But eventually, these patterns take over and become the coping skills they use to get through the day. These behaviors numb emotion and thus allow people to keep from feeling life. The behaviors also keep them from experiencing life, and when any emotion or discomfort occurs, the only way they know to deal with it is by drowning it in alcohol, prescription pills, sex, and so on. This can cause people to fear feeling the slightest emotion, and when they have not felt anything for a very long time, using drugs, alcohol, and food is a way to keep the emotion away. They fear the overwhelming hurt and pain; most of them never want to feel that way again. So drugs and alcohol cover up this emotion as well as other emotions. After feeling no

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