Masculine Intelligence

Masculine Intelligence
Paul Dobransky, M.D. and Mens Psychology Magazine (C) 2012, All Rights Reserved
Foreword
MENS TECHNOLOGY This!book!is!an!introduction!to!the! fundamentals!of!Mens Psychologys!major!systems!and programs!for!men.! Its!taken!over!15!years!of!practice,!research! and!education. Enjoy! We will be using strategies and tactics from: MindOS Mastery Mature Masculine Power KWML Mastery The Omega Male Program Masculine Intelligence in Personal Boundaries The Depresculinity Program
The!enclosed!Masculine!Intelligence!Program!comes!with!an!Audio!Program, this!transcript!of!it. You are also invited to take advantage of the entirely free Advanced Masculine Intelligence that comes along with every Mens Psychology On Demand Membership. It!is!intended!to!get!you!started!on!a!complete!understanding!of!the!invisible world!of!psychology!from!a!purely!masculine!perspective!addressing!aspects!of!yo ur!relations!with!women,!your progress!on!a!mission!in! life!at!work, and!the!experience, pride!and!accomplishment!of!being!a!man!in!general. This!is!Dr.!Paul!for!http://www.menspsychology.com!and!Men's! Psychology!magazine and!welcome!to!Masculine!Intelligence,!a!special!program that!I!am!putting!on!for!you!today.!! Thanks!for!being!here. We!are!going!to!do!a!question!and!answer!section!in here,!but!we're going!to!focus!down!on:!what!do!we!mean!by masculine! intelligence,!and!why!do!we!provide!the!science of!being!a!man!at www.menspsychology.com?
We!are!going!to!be!covering!all!of!the!general!areas!of!a man's! life!and!we're!going!to!be!applying!this!idea!of masculine! intelligence!to!those!areas.!!That's!what!we're going!to!do.
Chapter 1
The Science of Being a Man
You were born with this power, because you are male, but it will take a lifetime for you to fully discover its depth and breadth, and just as in any technology, its uses and misuses. You will most sharpen, cultivate and master these instincts in two arenas - that of women and work.. Click for Deeper Study
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The Science of Being a Man

YOUR LIFE 1. Depends on numerous things, but the most core thing is your level of masculinity and its expression 2. It is not the same as being a woman, even though women can do any job men do, are just as intelligent, and have just as much emotion and identity 3. There are cultural forces that would have you believe that being a man is no different or unique than being a woman
What!is!the!science!of!being!a!man?!! Why!do!we!describe ourselves!as!helping!you!with!that!specically:! the!science!of being!a!man?!! To!a!lot!of!people,!the!word!science!implies something!scary!or! difcult!to!understand.!! Maybe something!we!didn't!do!so!well!at!in!school.!!I!mean!it!in!a lighterhearted!way!than!all!of!that.!!Although!our!science!is very!robust!and!can be!very!technical!if!you!drill!down!deep enough!into!it.
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The!idea!behind!the!science!!I'm!reminded!of!its!importance by!a!recent!news! story!I!saw.!!You!know!how!there!have been!all!of!these!controversial! court!rulings!and!criminal trials!and!things!like!this!happening?!! I!saw!a!show!with!the very!eminent!attorney!Alan!Dershowitz!on!it.!!He!is!this big!legal!theorist,!the!grandfather!of!modern!law!in!America.
The!host!of!the!show!was!commenting!on!what!he!felt!was an!atrocious!court!ruling!in!a!criminal!case,!where!the!person got!off!even!though!everyone!thought!that!they!were!guilty.
we!here,!what!are!we!meant!to!do,!and!how!does!the!world work!around!us? It's!thinking!about!thinking.
He!said,!"This!is!a!travesty.!!How!does!American!law!work!if it!doesn't!nd!truth!and!justice?!!Isn't!that!what!law!is about?" Alan!Dershowitz!said,!"Well,!no,!law!is!not!about!truth!and justice.!!Law!is!about!sticking!to!the!Constitution!and administering!laws!and!rules!appropriately."!! He!said,!"If you!want!truth,!go!to!a!scientist.!!And!if! you!want!justice,!go to!a!philosopher.!!Don't!go!to!a!lawyer." I!thought!that!was!really!interesting!and!different!that!he chose!those!two!words!to!describe!truth!and!justice;!a scientist!and!a!philosopher,!because!that!is!a!lot!of!what!we provide!at!Men's!Psychology!Magazine. There!is!a!lot!to!what!we!do!that!has!roots!in!that!scary word:!!philosophy.!!And!it!turns!out!philosophy!as!a!eld!of study!is!really!what!immediately!pre-dates!the!rise!of psychology!as!a!eld. Philosophy!is,!very!broadly!speaking,!thinking!about!the meaning!of!things!and!who!are!we!as!humans!and!why!are
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That!is!what!gave!rise!to!psychology!around!Freud's!time. We!started!using!this!word:!!psychology.!! So!Men's Psychology!certainly!has!built!into!it;!the!notion!of philosophy!as!a!valuable!way!of!thinking.!! Trying!to understand!ourselves!and!the!world!around!us! in!detail,!in terms!of!what!does!it!all!mean?!! How!does!this!all!work?!!I want!to!understand.!!That's!philosophy. There!was!a!philosopher:!!Bertrand!Russell,!who!once!said that:!"Philosophy!is!the!no-man's!land!between!science!and religion."!!I!think!that!is!a!pretty!interesting!quote!in!terms!of philosophy!or!psychology!being!a!kind!of!territory!in between!science!and!religion. Now!when!we!talk!about!religion!!I!don't!really!talk!about specic!religions.!!I!respect!them,!whatever!one!you!come from,!but!there!is!certainly!a!spiritually!sense!to!our psychology.!!
We!are!drawn!to!want!answers!and!meaning!in life!and!in!who!we!are.!!What!is!our!identity? Science!offers!something!very!unique.!!It!offers!us!the!ability to!try!to!come!up!with!what!the!common!principles!and laws!are!by!which!things!work,!and!to!be!able!to!rely!on them!repeating!into!the!future,!to!things!still!working!the same!way!moving!into!the!future. In!that!sense,!at!times,!some!of!the!materials!you!are!going!to learn!in!Men's!Psychology!can!seem!almost!like!magic!so!to speak.!! Obviously!they!aren't.!! There!is!no!such!thing!as magic,!but!they!seem!magical!for! the!reason!that!they!can!be predictive.!! If!you!can!learn!to!decode!what!is!going!on!in your!dating,! or!your!relationships!with!women,!or!in!your career!then! you!are!going!to!have!this!predictive!power!to kind!of!know! generally!what's!more!likely!to!happen!in!the future. That's!very!powerful!because!you!can!make!some!solid choices!that!way,!so!that!things!go!well!for!your!life.!!That!all comes!down!to!what!science!offers.
Everything!that!we!talk!about!and!teach!at!Men's Psychology!has!to!do!with!this!principle:!that!if!there!are laws!by!which!things!work!and!science!is!a!part!of!that,!then we!can!rely!on!it.!! This!is!not!all!opinion. When!I!teach!men!about,!for!example,!dating!or relationships,!I'm!not!just!drawing!form!my!personal experience!of!having!been!on!dates.!!I'm!drawing!from!some very!robust!principles!and!material!that!comes!from!my profession.!!
Who is Dr. Paul?

A GUY LIKE YOU 1. A guy who had to learn about love from scratch, like you 2. A guy who started with nothing and built a career from scratch, like you 3. A guy who took that, and learned to help himself... 4. ...so that he could help you in the same way
I'm!coming!from!a!standpoint!that!is!curious.!! I'm!a!curious person!and!if!you're!here,!you!probably!have!that!trait!as well.!! You!wonder!what!makes!things!tick.!!You!are!a!curious man.!!I!am!coming!neither!from!a!place!of!just!opinion!and being!opinionated,!nor!am!I!coming!from!a!place!that!is intellectually!elitist,!so!to!speak.!!Although,!I!talk!about!a!lot of!principles!that!are!maybe!new!and!different!to!guys!that have!not!had!formal!training!in!science,!the!reason!I!had!to develop!all!of!this!material!was!to!help!myself!understand!it. In!my!formal!education!!The!words!used!in!my!eld!are really!sophisticated!words!that!I!always!felt!did!not!offer!a lot!of!practical!value!in!everyday!life,!to!the!point!where!I had!to!translate!them!for!me!to!even!understand!them. I'm!very!much!a!visual!learner.!!Maybe!you!are!too.!!I've never!been!as!good!with!written!materials!and!reading!in
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order!to!understand!things.!!I!have!to!draw!pictures!for myself!to!understand!what's!what.!!That's!the!beginnings!of Men's!Psychology.!!That's!what!I!did!for!myself!to understand!psychology!better,!was!to!draw!diagrams!of!how things!work. I'm!not!coming!from!an!intellectual,!superior!place!at!all!in talking!to!you.!!I'm!coming!to!you!as!a!guy!just!like!you who's!curious!and!wants!to!learn!and!understand!things thoroughly!and!maybe!have!some!predictive!power!for!the future!;!knowing!what!to!do!to!get!things!done!successfully and!happily.
both!nutritious!foods.!!They!are!the!same!in!that!way,!but they!are!different.!!They!taste!different,!they!look!different. And!that's!okay!-!they!ARE!different.! But!both!are!good!for you. Men!and!women!are!different!in!this!way,!specically!in their!instincts.!!How!they!interpret!the!world,!how!they communicate,!and!especially!what!makes!them!feel!most alive!or!passionate,!or!even!in!romance!makes!them!feel sexually!attracted!and!attractive.!! That!is!where!we!are!very different:!!men!and!women.
That!is!the!value!of!science. The!science!of!being!a!man!would!be!specically!advocating The!science!of!being!a!man!would!rst!have!to!recognize!that men!and!women!are!equal!but!decidedly!different.!!The place!that!they!are!different!is!in!their!instincts.!! In!fact,!this word!masculinity!and!the!word!femininity!I!have! found!to be!simply!the!unconscious!instincts!that! are!unique!to!men versus!the!unconscious!instincts! that!are!unique!to!women. Being!different!from!each!other!does!not!make!us!unequal. It!just!makes!us!different;!like!an!apple!and!an!orange!are
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for!men!and!speaking!men's!language!to!them!about psychology!and!how!it!works!in!a!way!that's!going!to!be very!powerful!for!you!specically!as!a!man.!! The!science!of being!a!man!is!what!we're!all!about.
Chapter 2
What is Masculinity?
Its not the same as Femininity. Its also not self-esteem, maturity, style, or dictated by cultures or society. Its instinctual, a set of reexes, and its your source of passion for women and for life itself. You will power ahead in life because of these three... Click for Deeper Study
Instincts vs. Character

UNCONSCIOUS VS CONSCIOUS 1. The unconscious mind is the same as the instincts - irrational, illogical, and yet still masculine 2. The conscious mind is where character, maturity, logic and rationality are working 3. The emotions are somewhere between the two
This!program,!Masculine!Intelligence!!let's!take!a!look!at that!phrase.!!What!do!I!mean!by!that?!! What!do!we!mean!by masculine!intelligence?!!A!lot!of!the!time! when!you!think!of the!word!intelligence!you!may!think!of! someone!one-upping someone!else!in!how!smart!they!are.!! What!I!mean!by!the word!intelligence!is!that!you!are!awake,!and!aware,!and
curious,!and!inquisitive,!and!know!what!time!it!is.!! You!have!a sense!of!understanding!the!hows,!whats!and!whys!of psychology!and!how!things!work;!whether!it!is!dating!and relationships,!or!its!career,!you!are!in!intelligent!in!terms!of knowing.!! You!get!it,!you!understand. Why!"masculine"!intelligence?!! You!may!have!heard!of!the word!intelligence!being!used!
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in!a!lot!of!sort!of!"markety"ways!out!there!over!the!years.!! In Masculine Intelligence, we say that!that!men!are!unique,! There!was!a!thing!called "emotional!intelligence".!! There!was!a!book!and!training programs!by!a!psychologist!with! that!name.!! What!he!was doing,!basically,!was!trying!to!get!people! out!of!the!sense!of having!an!IQ!and!more!into!learning! about!emotions!and how!they!work,!and!how!to!be!more! socially!savvy.!!Really what!it!amounted!to!is!a! way!of!describing!character. Character!has!everything!to!do!with!our!maturity!level.!!The notion!of!emotional!intelligence!was!basically!to!get!people thinking!more!about!emotions!and!social!connections!to!each other!and!the!importance!of!social!connections!to!bettering our!lives!through!having!a!mature!character. We go to exhaustive lengths in the mens training program called MindOS Mastery to teach every detail of growing character maturity to men. Well,!Masculine!Intelligence!would!go!even!deeper!than!that. If!you!are!sleeping,!you!don't!have!to!wake!up!and!remind In fact, we even lay it out further in a second ebook for you, called Advanced Masculine Intelligence, which comes free with subscribing to our Mens Psychology On Demand Service.
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that!men!have unique!sets!of!instincts!and!reexes,! ways!of!seeing!the world,!very!unique!ways!of! solving!problems!quickly, unconsciously!even;! doing!things!without!thinking!a!whole lot!about!them! because!of!being!male;!this!notion!of instincts;!and! what!are!they,!and!how!does!that!t!into psychology? Another!way!of!looking!at!that!is!to!say!that!if!you!went back!to!the!very!rst!model!of!Freud's!where!he!said:!"Well, there's!a!conscious!mind!and!there's!an!unconscious!mind." Really!what!he!was!talking!about!is!instincts!-!behaviors!that simply!happen!automatically!without!us!having!to!think. We go deep into what the differences are between men and women in the instincts in the Mature Masculine Power Program in fact, that program covers male instincts as if they are a giant tool kit for you to pull out the right instinct for the right situation in life - with women or work - and from there we also look at male initiation, or going from boy thinking to man thinking.
yourself!to!breath,!or!for!your!heart!to!beat.!!These!are
autonomic,!or!automatic.!!They!are!reexes!of!the!body!that are!programmed!to!keep!operating!even!without!you!being at!the!steering!wheel. You!don't!have!to!make!your!own!heart!beat,!or!make yourself!breath.!!It!happens!automatically. If!we!extend!that!idea!of!instincts!into!other!areas!of!life!like: dating,!relationships,!career,!and!general!personal!growth. Then!we!can!understand!them!in!a!richer!and!more!practical way!than!just!thinking!about!the!functions!of!the!body.!!We can!say,!"Huh,!just!because!I!am!male!I!will!have!a!tendency to!automatically!react!a!certain!way!to!certain!situations!in life." For!example,!in!competition!with!other!men!I'm!going!to have!this!reaction!that!I!don't!even!need!to!think!about.!!Or in!sexual!attraction,!in!early!dating!I'm!going!to!react!and behave!in!certain!situations!without!having!to!consciously think!about!it!on!purpose.!! It's!because!I'm!male.!! It's!because I!have!masculinity!that!I!react!these! certain!ways!without having!to!think.!!And!it!is! decidedly!different!from!how women!react!to!the! very!same!circumstances.
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So!as!a!result,!the!idea!of!masculine!intelligence!recognizes that!we!have!these!two!parts!to!the!mind.!!We!have!an intellect,!we!have!a!conscious!part!of!the!mind!that!we!do steer!and!do!control!and!through!which!we!do!understand things!logically;!but!there!is!this!other!part!of!the!mind!too, that!is!uniquely!masculine!and!is!unconscious,!that!is!run!by reexes!and!instincts.!! If!we!learn!to!understand!those primitive!instincts!that! make!us!uniquely!male!and!bring!it all!together,!that!we'll! be!at!the!steering!wheel!of!all!of!our behavior.
When Things Dont Make Sense

EXPLAINING THE UNEXPLAINABLE 1. When things dont make sense or are nonsense or dramatic, its instincts at work 2. Mens and Womens Instincts are reexes, not based in logic... 3. Which is why attraction is not a choice because it is an irrational, illogical instinct 4. When things go wrong or dont make sense, its time to learn the deep roots of how the instincts work
Have!you!ever!had!one!of!those!experiences!where!you!just shot!your!mouth!off!and!said!something!inappropriate!or discourteous!or!you!offended!a!girlfriend,!or!you!put!off!a friend!and!then!you!kind!of!slap!yourself!on!the!forehead and!say:!!"Oh,!what!was!I!thinking?!!Why!did!I!say!that?!!I didn't!need!to!say!that.!!But!why!did!I!do!that!thing!I!just did?"!! It!doesn't!make!any!logical!sense.!! Well,!it!makes perfect!sense!to!us!at!Men's!Psychology!because!
it!was instinctive.!!You!did!it!out!of!masculine!instinct!that!you weren't!awake!and!aware!to!at!the!time.!!And!it!may!not have!resulted!in!the!best!results!for!your!life,!or!been!the most!socially!appropriate,!but!it!was!perfectly!masculine!that you!did!that!thing!you!did!or!said!that!thing!you!said. Instead!of!letting!our!instincts!run!our!lives,!if!we!could learn!a!little!more!about!how!they!work!and!why,!we!could be!more!at!the!steering!wheel!of!them,!even!though!they aren't!based!in!logic.
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That!is!a basic!principle!of!evolution.!!And!so!one!of!the!things!we There's!a!friend!of!mine!that!is!really,!really!good!at marketing.!!He!is!not!a!science!expert,!but!he!likes!talking!to men,!and!he!likes!describing!to!them!that!!"Attraction!is!not a!choice"!is!one!of!the!things!he!says;!its!one!of!his!little slogans.!! I'm!closest!to!what!you!would!call!a "unication!theorist".!! "Attraction!is!not!a!choice." What!that!really!means!!he's!talking!about!sexual!attraction not!love!or!partnership,!not!other!areas!of!romance,!but!just sexual!attraction!not!being!a!choice.!! What!he!is!saying!is: "Sexual!attraction!is!an!instinct." Instincts!aren't!choices,!they!are!automatic.!!They're!reexes, and!on!top!of!all!that,!they!are!not!logical.!!They!are!not based!in!logic!and!common!sense. The!reason!why,!is!that!our!instincts!evolved.!!They!came!out of!the!process!of!human!evolution!and!as!a!result,!the environment!that!we!had!to!live!in!as!primitive!people!was!a threat!on!our!lives!-!we!had!to!adapt!to!it,!and!change!with!it !get!more!and!more!automatic!with!how!we!respond!to threats!so!that!we!could!stay!alive!as!a!species.!! When!women!do!what!they!do!in!dating,!we!may!roll!our eyes!or!complain,!but!the!reason!they!do!what!they!do!is because!they!are!feminine!and!they!have!a!set!of!feminine instincts!that!are!very!different!from!ours.!! It's!perfectly normal!and!natural!for!them!to!do.!!
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draw!on!at!Men's!Psychology!is!Evolutionary!Psychology. I!had!said!at!the!outset:!"Who!am!I!and!what!is!it!that!I've created!here?"!!
That!means!somebody!who!takes psychology!models!and! combines!them!in!a!way!that!retains scientically! robust!credence.!! I!combine!models together!to!make!new,!more!simple,! and!easier!to understand!models!of!psychology.!! One!of!the!things!that!I then!do!is!learning!about!these! various!elds!of!psychology. Evolutionary!Psychology!is!one!of!the!newest!out!there!to learn!about.!!It!addresses!some!of!the!more!primitive,!animal behavior!aspects!to!us.!!So!back!to!"attraction!is!not!a!choice"; that's!simply!saying!that!sexual!attraction!is!an!instinct!and instincts!aren't!logic!based.
And!then!we!complain about!it!because!we!are!not!feminine. If!they!had!more!masculine!intelligence,!then!they!would We!don't!speak!that!language.!!We!weren't!trained!to. Masculine!Intelligence!is!then!the!same!goal!that psychoanalysis!has,!which!is!to!get!people!to!look!at!their unconscious!drives!and!instincts!that!are!so!crazy!and illogical,!and!get!more!behind!the!steering!wheel!of!them; which!is!the!same!thing!as!growing!up. It's!the!same!thing!as!nding!maturity: Where!you!get!more!and!more!control!and!understanding!of your!own!impulses!and!instincts!and!you!steer!them!toward building!your!life!constructively;!building!something!better for!yourself!rather!than!just!being!caught!unawares!with your!instincts!running!the!show. To understand the conscious, logical mind in extreme detail, we You!can!see!a!lot!of!this!"acting!out"!behavior,!this!normal masculine!instinct!out!in!public,!like!in!the!politicians'!lives when!they!have!scandals!and!things!like!that. They!are!acting!out. It's!perfectly!normal,!natural!and!masculine!for!them!to!do what!they!do,!but!if!they!do!it!at!the!wrong!time!in!socially inappropriate!ways,!that's!what!creates!the!scandal.
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accept!that!being!male!and!being!masculine!is!good,!but using!masculinity!as!a!set!of!tools!or!little!working!parts!of your!instincts;!using!them!in!the!right!ways!at!the!right times!to!solve!the!right!problems!is!going!to!be!a!more successful!way!to!go. One!of!the!ways!we!can!go!about!this!is!to!describe!to!you one!of!the!most!useful!models!that!we!use.!!As!curious!guys trying!to!learn!about!psychology,!life!and!people,!comes from!the!evolutionary!psychologist!and!to!them!when!this rst!came!out!it!seems!a!little!too!simplistic!and!got!shot down!and!pooh-poohed!by!the!academic!world.!!Yet, revisiting!this,!I!found!it!to!be!really!very!helpful!and practical!and!useful.
have the MindOS Mastery Program. And to understand the unconscious, irrational (but clearly instinctual) mind, we have the Mature Masculine Power Program.
Chapter 3
Three Brains of Being a Man
There are three areas of the mind that you need to be concerned with as a man - whether in addressing your relations with women, or at work, these three will keep you sharp in your instincts, energized in your emotions and self-esteem, and wise and successful in your intellectual life. You will power ahead in life because of these three... Click for Deeper Study
The Reptilian Brain

THE REPTILIAN BRAIN The Reptilian Brain - center of the instincts and masculinity, the unconscious and passion
It's!the!Triune!Brain!Model:!!the!idea!of!there!being!a!part! a!division!in!the!mind!into!three!parts!that!they!called!the reptilian!brain,!the!mammalian!brain!and!higher!brain!is!very useful. One!of!the!ways!that!we!look!at,!a!lot!of!times,!love!and romance!is!to!see!it!all!as!one!big!mish-mash!of!stuff,!and rarely!do!we!divide!it!into!these!three!parts.!!But!if!we!did, we!could!perfectly!understand!our!dating,!our!relationships, and!our!careers. The!Reptilian Brain: The!rst!part,!the!reptilian!brain,!really!is!the!same!as Freud's!sense!of!what!he!called!the!unconscious. It's!our!instincts,!drive,!reexes,!things!that!happen!with!us on!autopilot.!!That's!the!reptilian!brain.!!And!in!that!area, men!and!women!are!most!different.!!They're!decidedly different. Masculinity!is!a!set!of!reexes!and!instincts!that!make!you male.!!And!femininity!is!a!set!of!reexes!and!instincts!that make!women,!women.!!The!reptilian!brain!addresses!all!the things!that!have!to!do!with!what!both!Freud!and!Darwin
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talked!about;!surviving!and!reproducing.!!They!both!said!in their!own!way!that!those!two!functions!in!us!are!really!the prime,!core!drivers!of!all!of!our!behavior. There!is!this!force!in!us!that!is!always!trying!to!keep!us!alive, get!us!to!survive,!or!to!feel!more!alive,!to!feel!more!vital!in other!words;!a!second!force!in!us!that!is!driven!toward!sex and!reproducing;!toward!nding!a!woman!attractive!and wanting!to!be!attractive!to!them.!!These!are!in!the!reptilian brain.!!So!this!area!of!the!mind,!called!the!reptilian!brain,!it's where!we!have!these!two!forces!at!work.!!We!want!to survive!and!we!want!to!reproduce.!!It!is!responsible!for everything!we!do!that!we!slap!ourselves!in!the!head!over!or!have!regrets. "Why!did!I!do!that?!!Why!did!I!say!that?"!!It's!all!driven!by this!reptilian!brain!area!of!us.
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The Mammalian Brain

THE MAMMALIAN BRAIN Mammalian Emotions - Responsible for Emotional Attraction with a woman. Responsible for charisma in social circles and the workplace
The!second!area!is!the!mammalian!brain.!!That's!really!just the!center!of! emotions,!and!emotions!are!different!from instincts. Instincts!cause!us!to!automatically,!physically!do!things;!to do!physical!behaviors. Emotions!are!more!of!a!subjective!feeling!in!us!and!the mammalian!brain! is!the!center!of!them. Why!is!it!called!the!mammalian!brain!to!the!evolutionary psychologist? It's!because!mammals!are!high!enough!animals!that!they have!evolved!to! develop!emotions.!! The!reason!mammals have!emotions!is!because!somewhere!along!the!line! in!the evolutionary!tree!animals!gures!out!that!there!is!power!in numbers;! that!if!they!hunt!as!a!herd,!that!is!going!to!get more!food!and!nutrition! than!just!hunting!alone;!and!that!if they!associate!with!each!other! as!a!herd,!it's!more!protective against!predators,!for!example.!! Again,!evolutionarily,!it's!all "we!have!to!survive!as!a!species."
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Mammals!came!along!and!they!grew!organically!as!they evolved!!these!species!gured!it!out!that!the!way!to!cause association!and!connection!working!as!a!team!or!as!a!unit!by separate!creatures!is!through!emotional!bonding;!which today!we!could!simply!call!"friendship",!and!which!is!the same!thing!as!love.!! You!can!love!a!woman!romantically,!and that!implies!that!you! don't!just!love!her,!you!also!have!desire for!her.!!But!you!can! also!love!a!friend!and!not!have!the desire!part.!!You!could!love!a! family!member.!!In!fact,!you can!even!truly!love!and!have! friendship!with!your!pets. Your!dog!or!your!cat!that!is!your!pet!is!a!mammal!just!like you,!and!mammals!have!emotions.!!And!simply!because!of emotions,!that's!how!we!can!dene!friendship!or!love.!! It's simply!an!exchange!of!emotion. That's!how!mammals!gured!out!how!to!work!as!a!group!or as!a!team,!even!though!they!have!separate!bodies.!!It's!their emotional!bond.!!And!with!your!pets,!the!thing!that!causes us!to!not!think!of!pets!as!actual!friends!is!because!there!is!no language,!obviously.
Yet,!language!and!words!are!not!needed!to!have!friendship or!love.!!It's!simply!an!exchange!of!emotion.!!You!can!tell when!your!dog!is!sad!or!depressed.!!In!fact,!today!they!even prescribe!Prozac!to!dogs!and!cats!that!are!depressed.!!So clearly,!dogs!and!cats!have!emotions.!!They're!mammals. That's!the!mammalian!brain.
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The Higher Brain

THE HIGHER (HUMAN) BRAIN Higher-Brained Maturity - Character and Intellect - responsible for all partnerships and commitments, as well as overall success with women and work.
The!last!part!of!the!brain!evolutionary!psychologists!call!the higher!brain. The!higher!brain!is!what!makes!us!more!sophisticated!than other!animals.!! It!houses!our!intellectual!ability!and especially!is!houses!our!ability!to!
think!abstractly!and!to have!an!imagination;!and!therefore!to!predict!the!future;!to take!a!guess!at!what!is!likely!to!happen!in!the!future.!!This!is something!that!lower! animals!don't!have!to!the!degree!that we!do,!which!is!why!evolutionists!call! it!the!higher!brain. This!is!the!area!you!would!call!the!conscious!mind,!and!the area! in!which!we!are!self-aware!and!where!we!have!logic ability.!!You!would! also!say!that!it!is!the!center!of!maturity. We!can't!really!call!animals!mature!or!immature,!but!we!can call!other!human! beings!mature!or!immature.!! That's!because of!the!higher!brain.
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These!three!areas!of!the!mind:!!the!reptilian!brain,!the mammalian!brain!and!the!higher!brain,!make!up!three general!areas!of!our!mind!and!how!it!functions. We cover all you could want to know about these three brains in the area of dating, relationships and romance in the Omega Male Program at www.menspsychology.com.
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Chapter 4
Two Areas of Life to Master as a Man

There are three areas of life that you need to be concerned with as a man - addressing your relations with women, your progress at work, and therefore being a man in general. You will power ahead in life because of these three... Click for Deeper Study
Relations With Women

THREE KINDS OF CONNECTION TO WOMEN 1. The Reptilian Brain - center of Sexual Attraction, masculinity, femininity and passion 2. The Mammalian Brain - center of Emotional Attraction, friendship, love, and value 3. The Higher Brain - center of Intellectual Attraction, wisdom, decisions, logic, boundaries, rights, self-awareness, and partnership in commitment
If!you!go!to!www.menspsychology.com,!what you!will!end!up!seeing! is!that!now!that!we!have!embarked on!being!journalistic!with! what!we!do,!we!have!a!button there!called!"features"!and!that's! feature!articles.!!You!will!see three!areas!of!life,!three!important! areas!of!life!that!tend!to give!us!the!most!challenges. Those!are!women,!work!and!being!a!man. But!over!under!"programs"!if!you!see!these!same!categories: !!Skills!with!women
!!Skills!in!career,!and... !!Skills!at!being!a!man... ...and!then!nally!one!to!wrap!them!all!together: skills!at growth!and!evolution.
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These!are!the!major!areas!of!challenge!in!a!man's!life,!and!the major!areas!of!growth:!!women,!career!and!being!a man. What!we!do!with!our!programs!then!is!we!address!those major!areas!of!life!for!men!using!a!different!course!or program!that!comes!from!each!of!these!three!areas!of!the mind:!!the!reptilian!brain,!the!mammalian!brain!and!the!higher brain. Our prime course that addresses these three types of attraction with a woman is called the Omega Male Program on Video Streaming, CD/DVD or live seminars in some of the worlds major cities.
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How Your Brain Affects Work

THE WORK BRAIN 1. Mature Masculine Power - the instincts of work 2. KWML - teambuilding and personality styles at work 3. MindOS Mastery - politics and diplomacy at work 4. The Mens Psychology On Demand Program - getting guidance and mentoring about work (and women as well as personal growth too!) CLICK FOR DEEPER INSTRUCTION
MATURE MASCULINE POWER:" So!our!course!that!addresses,!What!is!masculinity?!-!what are!the!instincts,!what!is!there!to!be!learned!about!them, what!are!all!the!variations!of!them,!when!and!how!do!I!use them!in!life?!!That's!in!the!Mature!Masculine!Power Program. When!we're!thinking!about!the!mammalian!brain,!the emotions !what!is!friendship,!what!is!love,!what!are emotions!and! how!do!they!work,!and!what!are!they!useful for?!!That!has! everything!to!do!with!personality!style.!!What makes!us! different!from!each!other,!not!just!different!from women,! has!a!lot!to!do!with!our!personality!style.
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KWML!MASTERY: The!program!we!have!that!addresses!that!is!called!KWML Mastery.!!KWML!Mastery!means!that!there!are!four!kinds!of personality. There!are!Kings!(or!Queens!if!we're!talking!about!a!woman), Warriors,!Magicians!and!Lovers.!!These!are!the!four!general personality!styles!that!we!talk!about.!!Each!one!of!them expresses!itself!differently!and!emotionally. If!you!wanted!to!learn!about!love,!friendship,!compatibility in!terms!of!personality!style,!and!therefore!communication, likes!and!dislikes,!likely!future!behaviors,!things!that!people prefer;!then!it!would!serve!you!well!to!learn!a!lot!about personality!styles.
You!have!something!called!boundaries,!you!have!decision making,!you!have!ethics!or!conscience,!and!intuition!or shrewdness!that!guide!your!decisions.!!You!have!two!kinds of!learning!that!you!do,!that!you!could!call!left-brained!and rightbrained,!or!education!versus!experience.!!There!are!two kinds!of!self-esteem!in!you:!!well-being!and!condence. MINDOS MASTERY: All!of!these!are!addressed!in!the!MindOS!Mastery!Program. Why!do!I!call!it!MindOS?!!It's!because,!just!like!the evolutionary!psychologists,!I!view!the!brain!as!being something!physical.!!It's!an!organ!of!thinking!and!behavior, but!it's!like!computer!hardware. The!mind!is!different!from!the!brain,!and!yet!related!to!it!in
That's!why!the!KWML!Mastery!Course!talks!about personality!style.!!That's!the!mammalian!brain.
the!same!way!that!software!can!run!on!computer!hardware. Your!brain!is!like!hardware!and!your!mind!is!like!software. When!we!talk!about!software!in!the!computer!world,
The!higher!brain!is!everything!intellectual!and!your conscious!mind!and!how!it!works.!!It!has!a!lot!of!working parts!too.
sometimes!we!use!this!phrase:!operating!system.!!That means!the!software!that!houses,!contains!and!channels!all the!workings!of!any!other!kind!of!software.!!That's!an operating!system. MindOS!means:!the!operating!system!of!the!human!mind.

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is!the!ability!to!understand!life!as!a!man!instinctually!as That's!what!you!learn!about!in!MindOS!Mastery.!!It's!your conscious!mind.!!It's!everything!to!do!with!boundaries, decisions,!self-esteem!and!your!ideas!and!your!intellect;!how all!of!that!works!together!to!compose!what!we!could!call your!character,!or!your!maturity. Character!is!a!different!thing!from!personality.!!Character!is maturity.!!Personality!is!just!a!style!of!expressing!your identity.!!Your!level!of!maturity!is!different!from!your general!style!of!personality. MindOS!addresses!character!and!maturity;!the!conscious mind,!the!higher!brain!that!the!evolutionary!psychologists talk!about. KWML!is!all!about!your!emotional!life,!the!emotional!part!of your!mind,!or!the!mammalian!brain. Then!nally,!your!core!primitive!instincts!called!masculinity is!addressed!by!Mature!Masculine!Power. What!we!could!do!is!go!through!these!general!areas!of!life, as!a!man:!!women,!career,!and!being!a!man!in!general, general!personal!growth,!and!address!each!of!those!three concerns!that!men!have!with!some!masculine!intelligence;!which
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different!from!how!women!understand!life,!and!how!they behave.!!In!so!doing,!we!can!understand!women!better, understand!how!we!are!different. We!use!this!same!method!of!doing!teleseminars!every!week, by!the!way.!!Those!are!available!to!you!if!you!are!member!of Men's!Psychology!"On!Demand",!which!you!can!nd!on!the site!under!men's!resources!!the!On!Demand!membership. We!eld!questions!live,!or!if!you!can't!attend!the!calls,!you can!shoot!those!questions!in!anyway!and!we!will!answer them!on!audio.!!The!whole!thing!gets!recorded!as!a!download!for! you.
Chapter 5
Why Men Compete
There is no avoiding conict and competition in the life of a man. Make it better for yourself by getting real skills, and learning why men compete the way they do. You too, can become a erce competitor... Click for Deeper Study
May the Best Man Win

DONT TAKE IT THAT WAY 1. Men compete to know what their ranks are 2. Men compete to know what their roles are 3. Men compete to learn whether they can trust their lives with you on the same team
QUESTION:"
Yeah,!Dr.!Paul.!!Why!do!men!compete!with!each!other?
Dr.!Paul:" Well,!we!can!look!at!that!on!each!of!these!three!levels:!the reptilian!brain!level,!the!mammalian!brain!level!(for personality!differences),!and!then!the!higher!brain!level (maturity!differences).!!Leaving!those!later!two!alone!for now,!let's!go!with!just!primitive!instincts!that!we!call masculinity. Why!do!we!compete!with!each!other,!how!do!we!compete with!each!other!and!how!is!that!different!from!the!way women!compete!with!themselves!and!each!other? It's!always!useful!to!do!a!little!mental!experiment;!going back!in!time!by!eons,!many!hundreds!of!thousands!of!years and!ask!yourself:!!"What!were!humans!doing!to!try!to survive?!!What!were!men!doing!differently!from!women?" It!had!a!lot!to!do!with!their!societal!roles!!came!out!of!body size!and!muscularity.!!Today!we!have!computers!and!we have!all!the!technology!that!made!the!sexes!exactly!equal!in
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what!they!are!able!to!do!in!career,!but!in!ancient!times!our bodies!actually!matters,!as!far!as!roles!in!society. Men!would!take!roles!in!mainly!killing.!!We!would!kill animals!for!food,!we'd!hunt,!and!we'd!wage!war!and!get defense!against!other!tribes!that!would!try!to!take!our!food or!our!women.!!We!had!to!kill.!!We!naturally!took!to!those roles!because!of!larger!body!size!and!muscularity.
It!was!crucial!to!gure!out!a!sense!of!rank!and!skill!level!and a!hierarchy!among!them.!!Why?!!Because!if!they!didn't,!just like!in!today's!military,!you!have!various!ranks!because!you instantly!know!who!needs!to!be!leading!whom!and!doing what,!to!be!a!most!efcient!team!when!it's!life!or!death stakes. We're!either!going!to!starve!or!we're!not,!if!we!have!a!good hunt. That's!how!we!compete.!!We!compete!by!trying!to!one-up
Women!would!take!roles!in!organizing,!protecting,!and conserving!the!grain!through!the!winter,!for!example.!!They would!know!how!much!there!is!and!how!long!it!will!last; child!rearing!and!child!care!while!the!men!were!out!killing.
each!other!in!rank.!!We!need!to!do!that,!it's!built!into!our instincts!because!if!we!don't,!at!some!point!in!times'!past,!we could!die!for!not!doing!that. Now!when!women!compete,!it's!more!about!a!sense!of:!!do!I
It's!not!a!"sexist"!thing,!it's!common!sense!and!it's!biology that!because!of!our!body!differences!and!muscularity differences!we!just!evolved!into!these!two!roles.!!Masculine instinct!would!go!along!with!that.!!The!role!doesn't!make!the instinct.!!The!instinct!leads!to!the!role.!!We!can!get!more!into that!some!other!time. As!far!as!competition,!what!would!happen!is:!!if!you!could imagine!a!group!of!men!out!on!a!hunt!and!they!didn't!know anything!about!each!other!when!they!were!forming!this hunting!team,!what!was!crucial!to!gure!out?
belong!or!not,!or!do!we!shun!this!one!particular!woman!or not?!!It's!not!as!much!about:!what!is!my!rank?!Am!I!number one,!two!or!three?!!We!men!are!very!rank-based!and!that's why!we!have!to!compete. Now,!if!you!want!to!get!into,!some!other!time!perhaps!on!a teleseminar,!the!idea!of:!what!is!ghting!dirty!versus competing!like!a!gentleman? What!is!gentlemanly!competition!versus!brutal,!no!holds barred!competition?!!That!has!to!do!with!ones'!maturity!level too.!!Ideally,!if!we!compete!like!gentlemen!we!both!get!to
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grow,!even!though!one!person!will!be!called!the!victor,!one person!will!be!called!the!winner!and!the!other!guy!won't. We!both!learn!from!it.
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Men Who Play Dirty

DOUCHEBAGS AND TOOLS 1. Watch out for these guys 2. Learn how playing dirty is a brief advantage 3. Learn how competing like a gentleman is never forgotten
QUESTION:"
The!interesting!thing!about!that!suggestion!is,!let's!say!you
were!a!gentleman!and!you!tried!to!compete!as!a!gentleman, but!you're!competing!against!somebody!that!is!playing dirty.!!Would!you!say!that!you!are!at!a!disadvantage? Dr.!Paul:" You!would!say!the!rules!are!different!than!if!you!were competing!with!another!gentleman.!!You!would!never!be!at a!disadvantage!if!you!have!this!thing!we're!generally!talking about!called:!!masculine!intelligence.!!It!simply!means!you know!what!time!it!is.!!You!know!what!is!going!on psychologically;!you!can!read!the!scenario!for!these!three areas!of!the!mind. If!you!are!a!good!guy!who!wants!to!compete!like!a gentleman!but!you're!dealing!with!someone!who!ghts!dirty, then!what!you!automatically!know!through!checking!out!the boundaries!in!the!situation!is!that!you!have!good!solid mature!boundaries!and!that!other!guy!doesn't.!!He!is!less mature!than!you,!which!means!that!he's!not!going!to!play!by the!rules,!which!means!you!are!going!to!have!to!contain!him or!remove!yourself!from!the!picture!-!eject!from!the competition!33
!because!he!is!just!going!to!cause!a!whole!lot!of damage,!including!potentially!to!himself. The!approach!at!it!doesn't!mean!it's!a!no-win!situation!for you,!it!just!means!you're!going!to!have!to!take!a!role!almost as!a!parent.!!Like!if!you!had!a!son!and!you!were!wrestling with!your!son!and!he!was!getting!a!little!extreme!and!he picked!up!a!knife!or!a!hammer!or!something,!you'd!say: "Okay,!whoa!whoa!whoa,!no!no,!you're!not!going!to!do!that. You!put!that!down." You!would!get!the!danger!out!of!his!hands.!!You!would!have to!take!that!some!kind!of!containment!role!over!this!guy!who ghts!dirty. In!other!words,!don't!ght!him!unless!you!can!completely shock!and!awe!him;!overwhelm!him,!because!he!won't play!fair.!!You!have!to!have!total!dominance!over!him!in!the way!that!a!parent!can!completely!control!a!child. Or!get!out!of!there,!eject.
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Chapter 6
Why Learn Mens Psychology?
Mens minds work differently from a womans. We are equal yet different, and have an entirely different set of instincts - and this is the major difference between men and women - the reexes and instincts that we call Masculinity are very different from those of Femininity. You will power ahead in life because of these differences... Click for Deeper Study
Mens Psychology is Different

THREE DIFFERENCES 1. The Reptilian Brain - this is where Masculinity and Femininity reside, and what makes us most different 2. The Mammalian Brain - center of the emotions, where men and women are of four types - King or Queen, Warrior, Magician or Lover 3. The Higher Brain - center of the intellect, where men and women are quite equal in maturity, intelligence and personal growth CLICK FOR DEEPER INSTRUCTION
WHY!LEARN MENS PSYCHOLOGY?! Let's!take!a!quick!look!at!these!general!areas.!!I!want!you!to understand!how!the!programs!work!and!why!we've designed!it!this!way!for!you. Really!what!we're!doing!at!menspsychology.com!is!that!we are!a!combination!of!resources!for!men!that!are!educational!with!journalism!from!a!man!point!of!view!-!something!that you!really!don't!see!in!any!one!place!out!there. Even!the!major!men's!magazines!and!major!men's!websites are!so!large!that!they!are!at!least!partially,!if!not!threequarters!staffed!with!women!who!have!feminine!instincts and!see!the!world!a!certain!way,!and!communicate!with certain!feminine!instincts. It,!let's!say,!contaminates!the!advocacy!of!men!in!only!a man's!voice. What!we're!trying!to!do!is!preserve!that!both!in!our journalism!as!well! as!in!what!we!teach,!not!in!a!way!where!it is!men!versus!women,! but!in!a!way!where!it!just!simply honors!that!men!think!this!certain!way...
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THE!OMEGA MALE!PROGRAM:!That's!the! ...and!they!need!certain!things!to!feel!good!as!men,!in!man language.!!That's!what!we're!going!overall.!!That's!the!big picture. Tunneling!down!to!these!three!items: !Features!-!which!are!feature!articles!on!women!or!career!or being!a!man!in!general,!and... It's!the!rst!thing!that's!got!to!happen!with!a!woman.!!If!you !Programs!-!our!educational!courses,!once!again,!skills!with women,!skills!in!career!and!skills!in!being!a!man.!!And then!nally!wrap!them!all!together!with... !Skills!in!growth!and!evolution!as!a!man. How!many!guys!screw!THAT!up?!They!think!a!woman!they What!we!do!here!is!we!combine!these!three!general concerns:!women,!work!and!being!a!man!... ...with!the!three!areas!of!the!mind!that!there!are!to!learn about:!!the!reptilian,!the!mammalian!brain!and!the!higher!brain. If!you!were!to!click!on!"skills!with!women"!under programs,!you!would!see!several!different!courses,!the rst!of!which!is!The Omega Male Program: Total!Mastery!of!Sexual!Attraction!and Dating. You!must!START!with!SEXUAL!ATTRACTION!for!it!to EVER!be!present!later. have!befriended!might!come!around!or!see!the!light,!or somehow!realize!what!a!great!guy!he!is. Wrong.!Its!too!late.!You!are!friends,!and!a!man!who!is friends!with!a!woman,!in!which!there!is!no!sexual!attraction !Im!sorry,!it!is!just!not!going!to!happen,!EVER. don't!get!sexual!attraction!with!a!woman!right!away,!there are!going!to!problems!progressing!any!further!at!all.!!You!are not!going!to!make!a!girlfriend!out!of!her;!you're!not!going!to marry!her.!!There's!got!to!be!sexual!attraction!rst. Omega!Male!Program!and!what!it!does,!is!it!takes these!three! areas!of!the!mind:!!reptilian!brain,!mammalian!brain and!higher! brain!and!it!envisions!a!courtship!process!between a!man!and!a! woman!as!marching!through!those!same!three areas!of!the!mind. Reptilian!brain!means!sexual!attraction.
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THE!KWML MASTERY PROGRAM:! Second,!there's!got!to!be!the!mammalian!brained!idea!of friendship,!love!and!emotional!compatibility.!!That's!the KWML!Mastery!Course!-!how!that!tunnels!down!into!that specic!area.!!In!the!Omega!Male!Program!it!combines!really all!of!the!programs!to!address!women!and!romance. Sexual!attraction,!followed!by!friendship!or!love,!which!is!the same!as!emotional!attraction,!and!then!the!third!phase!of human!courtship!is!partnership!and!commitment.!!Usually!the area!that!men!are!least!interested!in!learning!about,!but!it's still!there. If!you!are!married!or!want!to!someday!be!married,!you've got!to!learn!about!that!area:!!commitment!or!partnership (intellectual!attraction.)!!That's!what!I!mean!by!"total mastery!of!sexual!attraction!and!dating". That's!the!Omega!Male!Program.
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Chapter 7
Sex, and Being a Man Around Women

What women say they want in a man on the surface is a very different thing from what they desire and respond to sexually, in dating and relationships. This is because the reptilian brain of both men and women is instinctual and unconscious - it is a set of reexes that are triggered... Click for Deeper Study
Sex and Being a Man

THREE POWERS 1. The Reptilian Brain - center of the instincts and masculinity, the unconscious and passion 2. The Mammalian Brain - center of the emotions, happiness, friendship, love, teamwork, and value 3. The Higher Brain - center of the intellect, wisdom, decisions, logic, boundaries, rights, self-awareness, and partnership in commitment CLICK FOR DEEPER INSTRUCTION
SEX!AND!BEING A!MAN!AROUND WOMEN: " Underneath!that!you!see!Sex!and!"Being!a!Man"!Around Women. What!that's!doing!is!tunneling!down!deep!into!just!the!rst phase!of!human!courtship,!which!is!just!sexual!attraction. That!has!everything!to!do!with!how!masculine!are!you!and how!feminine!she!is. Ultimately,!if!you!want!to!have!a!sexual!attraction!and connection!with!a!woman,!the!higher!your!masculinity!in general,!the!more!attractive!you!will!be!to!her. The!higher!her!femininity!in!general,!the!more!attractive she'll!be!to!you.!!That's!even!regardless!of!her!precise!looks. Have!you!ever!been!just!sexually!really!desiring!a!woman that!maybe!some!of!your!buddies!said!was!not!that attractive!to!them,!but!she!was!to!you?
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It's!because!it's!not!just!about!looks,!although!that's!the biggest!drive!of!men!being!attracted!to!women.!!It's!also about!their!femininity,!how!they!conduct!themselves,!how they!treat!you,!how!they!behave,!how!they!move.!!That!all really!gets!your!blood!boiling!for!them!sexually. Sex!and!"Being!a!Man"!Around!Women!is!then!addressing!the primitive!ways!of!conducting!yourself!with!women!that with!a!public!spotlight!on!it!might!seem!undiplomatic,!or politically!incorrect!and!this!sort!of!thing;!but!we!all!know!is nonetheless!attractive!to!women. What!women!complain!about!publicly!about!men!is!very different!from!how!they!might!respond!to!you!in!private. They!might!complain!to!their!mom!about!what!a!jerk!you are,!but!then!secretly,!privately!they!want!you!desperately. They!want!to!come!over!to!your!place!and!feel!sexual!toward you.!!That!has!everything!to!do!with!your!level!of masculinity. The!program!that!we!address!that!with!beyond!the!Omega Male!Program!to!tunnel!down!deep!is!the!Mature!Masculine Power!Program.!!It's!learning!about!all!these!little!circuits that!compose!the!thing!that!we!call!your!masculinity. Underneath!that!is!How!to!Choose!and!Keep!a!Girlfriend.
Now!isn't!that!a!different!thing!from!just!getting!sexual attraction!going!in!the!rst!place?!!The!notion!of!a!girlfriend means!you!are!going!to!date!exclusively.!!You're!not!going!to see!other!people!at!the!same!time!in!most!cases;!for!that!to work!out!for!you!you've!got!to!have!more!than!just!sexual attraction!going!on.!!You've!got!to!a!match!of!personality styles!or!you!are!not!going!to!get!along!well. You're!not!going!to!be!able!to!keep!a!commitment!going because!you!just!don't!make!good!partners,!even!in!a boyfriendgirlfriend!relationship.!!The!KWML!Mastery Program!addresses! that!by!describing!people!as!having!four different!kinds!of! personality!style.
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Get a Personality
THE FOUR TYPES 1. Kings and Queens - logical, organized, and nurturing 2. Warriors - logical, organized, and outgoing, action-oriented 3. Magician - creative, spontaneous, outgoing and action-oriented, performers 4. Lovers - creative, spontaneous, shy, passive, nurturers
PERSONALITY A!King!or!a!Queen!is!a!nurturing,!kind,!yet!wise!and thoughtful!analytical!person. A!Warrior!is!an!analytical,!targeted,!exact!logic-based person!who!is!harddriving!and!outgoing.!!They!are!action- taking. A!Magician!is!more!on!the!creative!side!of!thinking,!less
analytical,!more!humorous,!fun,!adventurous,!big!thinker, but!also!action!oriented.!!It's!a!world!traveler,!an!adventurer, the!life!of!the!party,!the!master!of!ceremonies!-!that's!a magician. A!Lover!is!a!more!kind,!nurturing,!soft,!but!also!artistic, creative!person. It!turns!out!that!in!these!four!personality!styles,!which!have nothing!to!do!with!gender,!have!nothing!to!do!with!being!a man!or!a!woman!!they!are!just!personality!styles.
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If!you!nd!someone!who!is!your!opposite!in!personality style,!you!make!a!perfect!team!for!dealing!with!things!that happen!in!life. If!you!are,!say,!a!King!male!then!you!need!a!Magician!female to!round!yourself!out.!!The!great!thing!about!it!is!as!romantic partners,!girlfriend-boyfriend,!you!make!such!a!robust!team together!because!anything!that!comes!at!you!life!someone!is gifted!at!handling.!!If!it's!not!you,!then!it's!her.!!If!it's!not!her, then!it's!you. They!are!entirely!different. Even!better!than!that,!since!you!originally!asked!about competition,!when!we!pair!up!with!someone,!male!or!female !It!it's!just!a!male!buddy!and!you're!calling!it!a!friendship, or!if!it!is!a!woman!and!you're!calling!it!a!romance,!if!the person!is!your!opposite!there's!minimal!threat!of!competing with!each!other!because!you!are!good!at!your!thing. The!gifts!of!your!personality!style!in!terms!of!talents!and abilities!that!are!natural-born. As!a!King,!you're!good!at!being!studious!and!being!an expert!and!giving!advice,!and!your!opposite,!the!Magician, has!their!thing.!!They!are!good!at!public!performance.!!They are!good!at!cracking!a!joke.!!They're!good!at!singing!in public.!!They!are!good!at!going!out!and!solving!problems!on the!y.!!That's!not!your!thing. It's!because!there!are!these!three!areas!of!the!mind,!not!just one.!!You!would!immediately!know!then!that!you've!got!to ramp!up!your!sexual!attraction!skills!as!opposed!to!your emotional!skill.
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If!they're!your!partner!or!they're!your!friend,!you!don't!feel threatened!by!that!because!they're!your!friend,!or!they're your!partner.!!They!are!good!at!things!you're!not.!!You're good!at!things!they're!not. So!opposites!attract!in!friendship!and!what!we!would!call, Love. Love!is!a!different!thing!from!desire,!from!sexual!desire.
Just!that!distinction!right!there!can!be!completely enlightening!to!a!guy!who's!trying!to!navigate!the!dating world,!to!understand!that!if!a!woman!desires!you!sexually, she!might!not!at!all!love!you!in!terms!of!your!personality matching. Or!she!may!love!you!and!mean!it!when!she!says:!!"I!consider you!a!friend."!!That!might!mean!she!"loves"!you,!but!she!just doesn't!sexually!desire!you.!!She!is!not!lying.!!She's!telling the!truth.
...you!master!every!possible!area!of!dealing!with!women, Choosing!a!girlfriend!has!everything!to!do!with!KWML Mastery,!personality!styles. Lastly,!there's!How!to!Manage!a!Committed!Relationship. That's!beyond!boyfriend-girlfriend. That!is!long-term!partnership. You!guys!better!have!a!match!of!maturity!level!and!good boundaries!or!it!will!not!work!out.!!Someone!will!cheat!on someone!or!you!just!nd!you!can't!partner!up!and!solve problems!well!together. It!just!doesn't!work. That!is!MindOS!Mastery!that!you!address!that!with. Using!these!four!courses: !Mature!Masculine!Power!to!learn!about!masculine!instinct !KWML!to!learn!about!personality!styles !MindOS!to!learn!about!maturity!and!boundaries,!and... !The!Omega!Male!Program!which!wraps!it!all!together... whether!it's!relating!to!a!girlfriend!or!having!a!better!dating life!or!communicating!with!women!in!the!workplace,!these four!programs!help!you!completely!understand!and!master everything!you!ever!wanted!in!the!world!of!women.
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Chapter 8
Career Excellence
Men vest a great deal of personal identity in their career progress, and this is not a voluntary choice. Its instinctual. As a result, your career progress gives you passion for life, a feeling of more masculinity, identity and attractiveness to women for this very reason. You will excel in career rst, to excel with women... Click for Deeper Study
Career Makes the Man

GET A MISSION, NOT A JOB 1. Your mission in life is more than a job or even a career... 2. It is a source of identity and masculinity... 3. ...which powers your very passion for life itself, and attracts women, friends, and opportunity
CAREER!ISSUES: The!next!area!is!career.!!Now,!why!do!we!have!these!three areas:!!women,!work!and!being!a!man,!especially!women and!work? Why!are!they!so!important? There!is!a!thing!we!talk!about!in!the!Mature!Masculine Power!Program! called!the!Equation!of!Masculinity. If!there!were!a!way!that!I!wanted!to!try!to!subjectively quantify!"what! is!masculinity?"!in!a!way!that!you!could!sort of!sense!or!measure!or!analyze. What!I!came!up!with!is,!If!masculinity!is!a!set!of!reexes!or instincts!and! if!instincts!according!to!both!Freud!and!Darwin are!for!the!purpose!of! causing!us!to!being!able!to!survive!and to!reproduce,!then!it!would! make!sense!that!there!would!be!a survival!variable!in!the!equation! of!masculinity!and!a reproductive!variable!in!the!equation.
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The!reproductive!variable!is!your!skill!with!women!and!the survival!variable!for!men,!specically!men,!happens!to!have everything!to!do!with!your!career.!! How!is!your!career going?!!What!I!mean!by!that!is!have! you!ever!lost!a!job!and!it was!kind!of!a!sucky!job;!you!really! didn't! like!it!so!much,!so in!a!logical!sense!it's!good! that!you're!gone!-!that!you!left that!job? But,!because!you!got!"red"!and!suddenly!didn't!have income,!even!though!you're!perfectly!capable!of!getting another!job!in!short!order,!you!temporarily!felt!crazy!-!like your!life!was!threatened!somehow. Even!though!that!is!illogical,!isn't!really!what's!happening,!it "felt"!that!way.!!It!felt!so!threatening.!!Or!somebody!tarnishes your!reputation!at!work!and!you!just!feel!completely threatened.!!That's!because!our!careers,!as!men,!are!the!way we!feel!most!vital!and!viable,!if!you!will;!survivability,!so!to speak.
Those!same!ancient,!primitive!instincts!are!still!in!us!today. So,!if!you!lose!your!job!as!a!middle!manager,!even!though you're!not!going!to!die!from!that,!it!feels!like!you!could;!even though!that's!irrational. That's!what!we're!addressing!in!these!career!areas.!!That's why!career!is!included!as!a!core,!core!area!of!being!a!man because!it!literally!is!the!only!thing!you!really!control!in!life. We!don't!control!women.!!They!are!unique!individuals.!!We can!appeal!to!them!and!attract!them,!but!we!don't!control them.!!But!we!most!certainly!control!what!we!want!to!be when!we!grow!up,!or!what!we're!driving!for!in!our!careers. Our!careers!make!us!feel!alive. Divide!career!out!into!the!three!areas!of!the!mind!and!you now!have: Finding!and!Following!Your!Mission!as!a!Man;!followed!by...
Taken!all!the!way!back!to!ancient!times,!if!a!man!had!a!career as!a!hunter,!for!example,!and!suddenly!broke!an!arm!and couldn't!hunt,!he!literally!might!die.!!What!if!he!was!!I'm not!even!talking!about!antibiotics!and!orthopedic!surgery here.!!If!for!some!reason!a!man!lost!his!ability!to!do!his!"job", which!is!to!hunt,!he!would!die. How!to!Lead,!Strategize!and!Manage!Problems,!also!very necessary!for!your!career.

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How!to!Build!Teams!and!Master!Politics!-!very!necessary!for your!career;!and!then!nally...
With!these!three!subjects,!take!our!three!core!courses:!!the Mature!Masculine!Power!Program,!the!KWML!Mastery Program,!and!the!MindOS!Mastery!Program,!and!apply them!to!the!area!of!career,!the!foundational!core!area!of!a man's!life.
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Finding Your Mission as a Man

YOUR MISSION, IF YOU ACCEPT IT 1. Is something you are naturally good enough to grow at and learn even more about 2. Is something that you just plain like and enjoy 3. Is something that must benet society if it is to be successful 4. Will never let you down, and can always be counted upon
YOUR!MISSION:!!!! Finding!and!following!your!mission!as!a!man;!why!do!I use!the!word!mission? And!why!do!I!never!use!that!word!in!referring!to!women's careers? Think!about!the!gender!difference,!the!difference!between masculinity!and!femininity. Men!all!have!a!sense!of!a!mission!that!they!are!on!at!any given!time.
Your!mission!-!your!temporary!mission!-!might!be!you!are trying!to!get!to!a!party!on!time,!or!it!might!be!you!are!trying to!put!something!new!on!your!car.!!You!are!on!a!mission!to solve!the!problem.!!Or!you!are!on!a!mission!alongside!your favorite!sports!team.!!You!want!to!see!them!win.!!You!feel like!you're!on!the!same!mission!as!your!team. This!word!mission!is!unique!to!us!as!men!because!of!our masculine!instincts.
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If!we!go!back!to!ancient,!primitive!times!once!again,!and consider!that!men!out!on!the!hunt!most!certainly!had!a group!mission!and!they!had!to!accomplish!that!mission!- food!!or!die.
With!the!Mature!Masculine!Power!Program!we!really heavily!cover!masculinity!-!yes!in!the!area!of!attracting women,!but!even!more!so!in!the!areas!of: !How!can!I!be!a!man!in!the!workplace!and!what!is!my
We!are!very!goal!directed!in!our!instincts.!!I!use!that!word "mission"!to!be!something!much!bigger!than!just!a!job,!or even!a!career.!!It's!like!a!raison!d'tre;!it's!your!reason!for existence,!or!preserves!your!existence.!!It's!what!you!are!put on!earth!to!do,!that!has!more!to!do!with!life!than!just!nding a!great!relationship!or!marriage!or!even!having!children.!!It's what!makes!you!unique. Its!what!makes!you!feel!alive,!viable,!vital,!passionate, and!on!re!as!a!man. Everybody!can!have!a!relationship.!!Everybody!can!have children,!but!what!makes!you!unique!and!different!as!a!man has!everything!to!do!with!expressing!itself!in!your!career. We've!all!had!jobs,!a!job;!but!our!jobs,!many!of!them!or!most of!them;!don't!feel!like!a!mission!for!our!lives.!!It's!not!what we!were!put!on!earth!to!do.
mission!in!life? !How!can!I!gure!out!what!that!is!and!start!executing!on it;!moving!toward!it?
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Building Teams and Leadership

YOU CANT GO IT ALONE 1. You have to have a team of men to succeed at your mission in life 2. You will have to be a leader, like it or not 3. Your team will need to have their personal missions align with your own 4. And all individual missions will have to line up with the company in general
BUILDING TEAMS:! The!second!area:!!How!to!Build!Teams!and!Master!Politics. That's!KWML!Mastery. Building!teams,!composing!teams,!deciding!who!to!befriend in!the!workplace,! who!makes!a!great!business!partner,!has everything!to!do!with!choosing! someone!whose!personality is!opposite!your!own. In!fact,!the!perfect!team!in!the!workplace!or!in!building!a business!is!composed!
of!a!king,!a!warrior,!a!magician!and!a lover,!because!combined;! they!can!solve!any!problem together.!!They!have!the!complete!set!of! skills!as!a!team!to solve!any!problem. Building!teams!and!mastering!politics!has!a!lot!to!do!with understanding!people's! personality!styles.!! That's!why KWML!can!be!applied!to!your!career!in!that!way.
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LEADERSHIP:!!" Lastly,!leadership!has!everything!to!do!with!your!maturity level!as!a!man.!!Strategizing!and!Managing!Problems!-!that all!has!to!do!with!your!intellectual!ability!and!character ability,!maturity!level,!to!be!able!to!be!a!leader!and!manage and!solve!problems.!!That's!MindOS!Mastery. We've!got!two!more!general!areas!to!apply!masculine intelligence!to.!!One!is!Skills!at!Being!a!Man,!feeling!like!a man,!operating!like!a!man;!and!Skills!at!Personal!Growth and!Evolution. I'm!going!to!cover!these!last!two!general!areas!of!a!man's!life and!how!to!apply!masculine!intelligence!to!them.
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Chapter 9
Skills at Beating Fear
Defeating fear for all men must be mastered. The answer is courage, as covered in the Anxiety Map of the MindOS Program. In the process of initiation as a man, when you beat the fear of death, there is nothing else to fear... Click for Deeper Study
Courage is the Cure

DO WHAT IS RIGHT... 1. ...even if afraid, or its difcult or uncomfortable. This is courage, the cure for fear. 2. Knowing what is right comes from your sense of ethics and intuition. 3. These can only be gained through trial and error in making moral decisions
SKILLS!AT BEATING!FEAR:! Skills!at!Being!a!Man!-!what!do!I!mean!by!that!as!opposed to!we're!just!talking!about!women!or!we're!just!talking!about career.!!I'm!talking!about!more!of!a!deep!sense!of!identity,!a sense!of!feeling!passionate!for!life!itself,!feeling!good!about who!you!are!as!a!man.!!Skills!at!being!a!man!!Our!rst course!that!we!talk!about!is!actually!an!ebook!called!Attack Anxiety.
The!reason!we!include!that!in!this!category!of!being!a!man!is because!in!most!cases!our!rst!roadblock!to!any!growth!or improvement!in!our!lives!is!beating!fear. Fear!stops!us!cold.!!It!stops!us!not!only!from!solving problems!we!face!but!from!even!learning.!!We!can't!learn when!we're!in!the!anxiety!state.!!So!we've!got!to!get!fear!or anxiety!out!of!the!way!quickly!and!rst;!and!courage!is!the cure!for!fear. In!that!Program!and!in!the!MindOS!Mastery!Program,!when I!cover!a!thing!called!the!"anxiety!map"!I!show!you!how
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courage!is!the!cure!for!all!anxieties!and!how!courage!isn't something!you!have!to!go!nd!or!buy!or!borrow.!!It's!as simple!as!deciding!to!do!what's!right,!even!though!you're terried,!or!even!though!you!feel!bad,!or!even!though!you feel!depressed. If!you!just!do!the!right!thing,!you!are!being!courageous.!!You can!be!both!terried!and!courageous!at!the!same!time. For!example,!like!a!solder!at!war.!!One!of!our!new!bloggers was!actually!with!Special!Forces!in!the!US!Military,!very interesting!guy;!you'll!hear!from!him!at!some!point!and!see his!blogs!and!posts!in!the!Forum. In!the!military,!if!you're!at!war,!you!can!be!both!terried, while!you're!in!a!battle,!but!still!do!courageous!acts.!!You've got!to!learn!this!as!a!man.!!It's!something!that!is!unique!to men.!!It's!a!unique!experience!of!having!to!nd!courage! well,!use!the!courage!that!you!already!have!the!ability!to use;!which!is!simply!doing!the!right!thing!no!matter!how bad!it!feels!to!do.
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Alpha Males Have No Fear

THE SECOND METHOD 1. When you know your rank in a society, it also relieves fear 2. Being alpha-male or as dominant in a group, leading it, also makes you immune to anxiety and fear 3. You have action in your favor, and action alleviates fear
ALPHA-MALE INSTINCTS:! Courage was the rst thing to learn about anxiety and fear - its ultimately the cure. But there are other things specic to being a man which alleviate fear. Women can have courage too, so courage is not specic to men. Being alpha-male is. Its!another!thing!that!makes!you!a!man,!feeling!like!a man without fear !how!do!you!use!your!"alpha!male"!instincts.!!We hear!a!lot!these! days!about!it's!good!to!be!an!alpha!male. Everyone!wants!to!be!the!alpha!male.!! There!can!be!only!one alpha!male,!right? But!what!a!lot!of!people!don't!talk!about!is!how!in!animal populations!when!there!is,!say,!an!alpha!male!gorilla;!how long!do!they!get!to!be!the!alpha!male?!!Sometimes!it's!just!for a!day,!and!then!a!bigger!gorilla!comes!along;!or!a!week!or month!at!most.
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This!notion!of!trying!to!be!an!alpha!male!in!the!most,!sort!of unsophisticated!sense!of!the!phrase,!is!not!too!useful!for your!life. When!you!hear!programs!about!"be!the!alpha!male!in dating,!blah,!blah,!blah";!not!so!useful!because!there's!going to!be!another!bigger!gorilla!who's!going!to!come!along!and knock!you!off!your!pedestal!in!short!order. What's!more!useful!is!to!know!what!masculine!instinct!is, how!to!use!it!in!the!right!ways!at!the!right!times. Which!of!the!tools!in!your!tool!belt,!so!to!speak,!are!useful!at the!current!moment!at!the!current!scenario!and!do!so!with maturity? Maturity!is!what!makes!you!durable!instead!of!just!a temporary!alpha!male!leader.!!Maturity!is!what!sees!you through!to!the!end,!makes!you!durable!as!a!man. That's!why!the!Mature!Masculine!Power!Program!is!called that.!!I!don't!want!you!to!just!be!a!temporary!alpha!male.!!I want!you!to!have!a!lifetime!of!solid!leadership!and, sometimes,!dominance!over!groups!of!people.!!They!respect you!for!your!maturity,!not!just!your!brutal,!primitive masculinity.!!That's!Mature!Masculine!Power.
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Charisma Has No Fear

THE THIRD METHOD 1. Fear cannot coexist with happiness and passion 2. Men with charisma cannot feel fear while being charismatic 3. Therefore, if your charisma is directed toward building teams and accomplishing your mission, you have no fear, AND you are putting your fear to constructive use
SKILLS!AT HAVING CHARISMA:! How!to!Build!Social!Circles!and!Charisma;!you!know!a second!part!of!feeling!good!as!a!man!does!have!to!do!with how!networked!we!are,!how!connected!we!are!both!to!other men!and!to!women,!to!people!in!general!as!friends.!! The thing!that!gets!us!friends;!there's!a!principle!underneath!this button!really!is!the!KWML!Mastery!Program,!which!is!not just!about!personality!styles,!it's!also!about!what!is friendship?!!What!is!love?!!And!even,!what!is!value?!!What!is it!to!be!valued!in!a!group?!!What!makes!us!valuable? Literally!what!makes!us!valuable!in!a!group!is!the!degree!to which!we!make!other!people!feel!happy;!the!degree!to!which we!raise!other!people's!self-esteem!level.!!That's!how!valued we!are. Making!friendships,!building!your!social!networks,!even applying!this!over!into!the!career!category:!networking!for your!career,!has!everything!to!do!with!how!happy!can!you make!other!people.
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!A!magician!needs!to!be!given!an!audience!to!clap!for How!much!of!a!raise!or!a!bump!in!their!self-esteem!can!you give!them?!!Whatever!degree!that!is,!is!how!valued!you!will be!to!that!group!or!to!those!clients!or!to!your!sports!team. If!you!want!to!be!the!captain!of!the!team,!the!most!valuable player,!he's!the!one!that!makes!most!of!the!team!the happiest;!whether!it's!through!winning!or!through!skill!or just!how!he!conducts!himself!as!a!friend. Notice!sometimes!when!we!see!big!sports!leagues,!there's the!most!valuable!player.!!He's!not!necessarily!the!exact, more!skilled!player.!!He!has!teamwork!ability,!and!charisma. So!how!to!have!more!charisma!and!build!bigger!social circles;!KWML!guides!that.!!If!you!know!people's!personality style,!then!you!know!exactly!what!makes!them!feel!happy, makes!them!feel!fullled,!and!raises!their!self-esteem!level. !If!you!know!how!to!conduct!yourself!with!a!King;!he needs!to!be!an!expert. !A!Warrior!needs!to!be!honored!for!their!accomplishments and!their!power. If!you!can!do!these!things!for!these!four!personality!styles, then!you!will!be!more!and!more!and!more!valued!by!that person!or!group,!and!obviously!that's!good!for!your!life. !And!a!lover!needs!to!be!valued!for!their!story-telling ability,!and!for!their!kindness.!!They!need!to!be appreciated!in!that!way. them;!they!like!to!perform.
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Chapter 10
Be Master of Your Own Destiny
A man is self-determining. His character produces his success, fulllment and the details of his life story, but his masculinity is like the power source for all that. To be master of your own destiny you have to turn your fuel - your masculinity - toward growing mature character... Click for Deeper Study
Character Is Destiny
FATE VS DESTINY 1. Fate you have no control over. It is not masculine, and there is nothing you can do about bad luck 2. Destiny is determined by your character maturity, among the features of which is your quality of decisions, your boundaries, and self-awareness, called Observing Ego 3. Know what to call luck and what to see as an opportunity for character growth
BE!MASTER!OF YOUR!OWN DESTINY: Lastly,!How!to!Be!Master!of!Your!Own!Destiny;!this!is!again under!the!Skills!at!Being!a!Man!category.!!We're!applying masculine!intelligence!to!this. You!hear!a!lot!of!talk!about!this!word:!destiny.!!A!lot!of!self- help,!marketytype!people!out!there!like!using!that!word destiny.!!They!like!using! the!word!passion.!!But!they!most often!use!those!words!in!very,! so!vague,!ways!that!it's!not practical.!!We!want!to!know!"how!to":!!how!to!get!a girlfriend,!how!to!keep!my!job.!!I!want!to!know!exactly,!how do!I!do!it?!!Like!
an!instruction!manual.!!And!then!I!want!to be!taught!how!to!execute!on!that. If!you!could!demonstrate,!that!would!be!all!the!better.!!Our destiny,!scientically,! the!closest!thing!to!that!would!be reaching!our!highest!potential!as!men.!! I!have!a!quote!for you,!that's!immensely!useful!and!very!true. It!comes!from!a!philosopher!named!Heraclitus!and!was!later quoted!by!Freud!often.
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Instead!of!just!motivational,!woo!woo,!cheerleading!kind!of "Character!is!destiny." Character!is!destiny,!and!that!is!a!major!subject!of!the MindOS!Mastery!Program!where!we!learn!about!general personal!growth,!maturity,!and!character. The!reason!character!is!destiny!is!because!for!you!to!reach your!highest!potential!as!a!man!means!that!you!are!reaching the!highest!maturity!you!can!reach. !Higher!maturity!means!stronger!boundaries,!which makes!you!more!durable!and!diplomatic;!higher!selfesteem,!which!makes!you!more!loved!and!valued!by others,!and!gives!you!the!most!wisdom!in!your!decisions. !Wise!decisions!mean!you!are!almost!always!right!with your!decisions,!as!far!as!what's!going!to!give!you!a successful!outcome. So!if!you!want!to!truly!grow!toward!your!highest!destiny, then!you!would!want!to!grow!as!mature!as!you!can!grow. That!is!science-based.!!That's!masculine!intelligence,!to!see it!that!way. training!programs.!!It's!very!analytical!and!accurate.!!If!you worked!on!your!boundaries,!and!you!worked!on!your!ethics, and!you!worked!on!your!shrewdness,!and!you!worked!on your!self-esteem,!your!well-being!and!your!condence,!you worked!on!your!education!and!you!worked!on!your!life's experience!and!you!had!this!thing!wrapped!around!it!all! the!only!technical!phrase!I!really!use!is!called!"observing ego".
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Skills at Self-Guidance
HOW TO FATHER YOURSELF 1. Every time you do courage, you are fathering yourself emotionally 2. When you use Observing Ego, you are fathering yourself intellectually and through character growth that you, yourself produce 3. Self-guidance starts as loneliness in the same way that courage is lonely... 4. ...but with time, everyone wants to join you
SKILLS!AT SELF-GUIDANCE:! What!"observing!ego"!means!is:!!the!ability!to!self-monitor and!selfcorrect!and!be!your!own!best!friend,!your!own mentor!as!you're!living!life. You!have!Self-Guidance.!It's!similar!to!being!mindful,!to!the Buddhists,! or!being!self-aware!and!sentient;!asking!yourself questions.!!It's!like!selftalk!where!you!ask!yourself!questions such!as:!How!am!I! doing!with!my!life!right!now?!!How!am!I doing!with!this!woman?!! Is!she!attracted!to!me!right!now,!or not,!and!why? It's!asking!yourself!questions!in!real!time!as!you!live!your life.!!That's!"observing!ego".!!Without!that!skill,!you!can't grow. "Observing!ego"!is!the!prime!course!skill!of!any!personal growth. You!will!not!grow!or!improve!as!a!man!without!"observing ego"!ability.!! And!if!you!get!it,!and!cultivate!it!and!use!it, then!you!grow.!! You!become!more!mature.!!You!become!of higher!character!and!
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therefore!you!are!closer!to!getting!your destiny,!your!highest! potential!as!a!man;!because!of!all!these working!parts!of!your! psyche,!or!your!maturity. When!we!don't!use!"observing!ego",!that's!when!our reptilian!brain!takes!over.!!That's!how!it!works.!!That's!when we!act!out.!!That's!when!we!make!a!silly!mistake,!we!say something!we!regret.!!It's!the!source!of!any!regrets.!!If!you've ever!had!any!regrets!in!your!life,!they!were!caused!by!an absence!of!"observing!ego"!skill!at!that!time.!!And!if!you cultivate!more!of!it,!guess!what?!!You!have!less!regrets!in life.!!You!win.!!That's!how!to!master!your!own!destiny. MindOS!Mastery!addresses!this. That's!using!masculine!intelligence!in!that!area!of!reaching your!destiny,!your!highest!potential. The!last!general!area!of!the!man's!life!is!General!Personal Growth!and!Your!Evolution.!!For!these,!we!have!some!very rich!choices!in!programs. Because!your!career!growth!is!your!core!sense!of!vitality!and There!are!six!of!them. Total!Men's!Solutions:!!the!program!is!called!the!Instant Teleseminar!Download.!!It's!over!40!hours!of!live!coaching, just!like!we're!doing!here:!!teleseminars!from!a!whole!year's teleseminars.
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It!covers!literally!every!possibility!of!a!man's!life!in!great detail!with!exact!examples!from!where!we!work!together!to solve!problems.!!It's!very!rich!story!telling.!!That's!Total Men's!Solutions. Beneath!that,!Growing!Strength,!Respect,!and!Boundaries; that's!clearly!MindOS!Mastery!where!we!learn!all!about boundaries. How!important!would!it!be!to!develop!the!ability!to!have constant!protection!from!stress!to!retain!all!of!your!resources and!use!them!in!just!the!right!ways!at!just!the!right!times? That's!all!boundary!related.!!Your!boundary!is!your!budgeter of!your!resources,!and!your!resources!as!a!man!need!to!be mainly!steered!toward!your!career!growth. Why?
viability,!the!survival!variable!that!Freud!and!Darwin would've!talked!about.!!Boundaries,!boundaries,!boundaries are!what!preserve!your!resources!as!a!man;!whether!your money,!your!time,!your!energy.!!Your!resources!matter. MindOS!Mastery!helps!with!that.
Courage!and!Condence!-!certainly!the!roadblock!to!even starting.
That's!really!derogatory!and!men!need!to be!honored!again.!! Depresculinity!addresses!that!and!gives you!tools!for!xing!that.
Defeat!"Depresculinity".!!This!is!our!newest!program. Depresculinity.!!We!wanted!to!address!something!much more!widespread!than!just!plain!old!sadness!or!depression. We!wanted!to!address!something!that!we!think!is!really exponentially!on!the!rise!in!Western!culture;!that!has!to!do with!how!men!are!viewed!in!society!in!the!past!couple!of decades!for!three!decades. And!how!they!are!starting!to!view!themselves!and!how!you can!go!to!work!and!do!your!day!job!and!even!have!a relationship,!but!still!never!feel!totally!on!top!of!the!world, feel!great!as!a!man!in!who!you!are.!!That's!what!we're referring!to!by!Depresculinity. Chances!are!if!you!are!a!man!living!today,!you!have!felt!this feeling!at!least!briey,!called!depresculinity.!!There!is!a specic!way!of!solving!it!that!is!not!the!same!as!getting!over some!sadness!or!depression.! It's!very!specic!to!men,!to how!men!get!better!from! this!feeling!of!depresculinity.!!It gives!you!a!lot!of!tools!for!dealing! with!today's!society!and how!men!are!seen;!how!they're! often!depicted!as!"bad",!just because!they're!male.!!Or!that!men! are!so!silly!watching!their silly!sports!events.!! By!learning!those!stories,!it!explains!to!you,!as!it!has!for thousands!of!years!what!the!solutions!are!for!you!as!a!man, uniquely!a!man.!!Not!for!women,!just!for!men.!!So!Mature Masculine!Power!addresses!that,!using!ancient!Greek!Gods.
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Down!beneath!that:!!Superhero!Masculinity.!!I!wanted!to!go the!extra!mile!with!what!are!masculine!instincts!and!how!do they!work?!!We!completely!cover!that!in!the!Mature Masculine!Power!Program. The!way!we!do!that!in!that!program!is!we!use!the!ancient Greek!Gods!as!sort!of!key!codes!for!understanding!each!little circuit!of!what!we!call!masculine!instinct. If!you!learn!stories!about!Zeus!or!Cupid!or!Eros!or Prometheus!or!Odysseus!or!Hades!or!Mercury!or!Hermes, you're!learning!about!the!little!sub-categories!of!masculine instinct;!when!you!learn!about!each!of!those!mythologic Gods.!! The!stories!are!designed!to!teach!us!how!do!I!use!my communication!ability,!that's!Mercury;!how!do!I!use!my leadership!ability,!that's!Zeus;!how!do!I!manage!my resources!well,!that's!Poseidon.
you!translate!them!to!your!everyday!life.!!You'll!be!out!in!the SUPERHERO MASCULINITY: But,!I!realized!in!looking!at!these!ancient!mythologies!that there's!actually!modern!mythology!too.!!It's!called: Superhero!comics.!!Superheroes!!Ironman,!Batman, Superman,!Spiderman! !are!really!today's!equivalent!of these!ancient!mythologic!stories;!the!ancient!Greek!Gods.!!So I!added!this!new!program!that!is!a!perfect!companion!to Mature!Masculine!Power!Program!called!Superhero Masculinity. It!views!masculinity!almost!like!a!superheroes'!tool!belt!with utilities!in!it.!!When!you!learn!about!Spiderman,!you!nd out!how!to!use!your!intellect!to!really!man!up!and!feel!vital as!a!man.!!When!you!learn!about!Superman,!you!might!learn about!his!fortress!of!solitude!and!the!masculine!instinct!to nd!privacy!and!a!workshop!or!garage!or!special!place!that only!you!know!about!where!you!feel!like!you!feel!up!on!life again;!spending!alone!time.!!That's!actually!the!Hades instinct!from!the!Mature!Masculine!Power!Program. Superman!has!that!Hades!instinct!today,!in!his!fortress!of solitude. You!can!use!the!superheroes!just!like!you!can!use!the!ancient Greek!Gods!as!a!Rosetta!stone,!a!secret!code,!to!gure!out what!are!the!working!parts!of!your!masculinity!and!then
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world!doing!your!dating!or!being!in!a!career!and!all!of sudden!Spiderman!will!pop!to!mind,!or!Batman!will!pop!to mind!and!to!women!that!would!seem!silly.!!To!other!people who!don't!know!about!this!kind!of!technology!it!might!seem silly. But!for!your!purposes,!it's!very!useful!and!practical!and sciencebased!to!use!some!of!these!stories!to!help!give!you guidance!and!advice!on!solving!problems.
BROTHERS: Then!lastly,!we!do!have!a!program!called!Brothers.!!It's brotherly!advice.!!Some!of!the!most!difcult!problems!men face! !You!may!have!noticed!in!your!life!that!sometimes!you feel!like!you!can't!go!to!your!dad,!your!father!about!certain kinds!of!problems.!!They!are!personal!in!a!unique!way!and sometimes!they!are!so!uniquely!male!you!wouldn't!go!to, say,!a!female!therapist!about!them,!or!a!sister!or!a!mother. But!the!notion!of!having!a!brother!is!someone!who!is!of!your same!generation!who!gets!you,!understands!you!and!maybe has!some!advice!to!offer.!!Like!an!older!brother.!!So!we!made a!program!on!the!most!touchy!subjects!that!men!face!today called!Brothers.
We!of!course!have!a!general,!your!exterior,!how!to!ramp!up your!success!through!your!looks!and!your!lifestyle.!!Setting up!a!bachelor!pad!and!cultivating!a!sense!of!clothing!and fashion!and!grooming!as!a!last!physical!category!for!you!to learn!about!to!really!round!it!out!as!a!man.!!One!of!our!coach staff!members,!Josh,!really!knocked!it!out!of!the!park!with these!programs.!!They!are!like!nothing!else!out!there!that you!would!nd!even!in!men's!fashion!magazines.!!They!are fantastic. Those!are!all!of!our!programs!and!those!are!how!to!apply this!notion!of!masculine!intelligence!to!the!major!areas!of!a man's!life!and!getting!solutions.
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Chapter 11
Mens Questions and Answers
Men often dont turn to each other for answers directly. The only acceptable way is in which we approach men of higher rank, whom we know have our best interests in mind, and are on the same team mission You will need mentors. This is your chance... Click for Deeper Study
Self-Defeat
DEPRESCULINITY AND SELF-DEFEAT 1. Depresculinity is a diminishment of BOTH your Masculinity AND your Self-esteem 2. It may carry self-defeating behavior in it 3. The cure is to work on BOTH your Masculinity and your mood CLICK FOR DEEPER INSTRUCTION
Lets get into real,!personal!questions!and!answers.!These!are!submitted!from!all over!the!world.!!You!can!feel!free!to!chime!in!and!we!can discuss!these.!! Keep!in!mind!this!notion!of!there!being!a science!to!being!a!man! and!that!we!ultimately!want!to cultivate!masculine!intelligence! in!what!we!do;!something with!specically!male!sensibility!and! understanding!of!our own!instincts. Question: Tommy!from!Santa!Anna,!CA!says:!!"Hey!Dr.!Paul,!I!feel!that my!depresculinity!is!triggered!by!a!lack!of!success!in!my career.!!I'm!always!procrastinating!what!I!know!I!must!do, but!this!selfdefeating!behavior!seems!to!dominate!over!me. How!can!I!overcome!this!behavior?!!I!appreciate!all!that!you do!for!us!as!men!and!I'm!a!huge!admirer!of!your!work. Thank!you." Dr.!Paul:" Thank!you!back.!!He!uses!the!word!Depresculinity,!which!is a!word!I've!coined!to!describe!the!modern!state!of!men!not feeling!great!about!their!lives,!or!on!top!of!the!world,!or!vital in!more!of!a!societal!way.!!Men!are!not!honored!today!for
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just!being!men!and!for!the!role!that!they!take!in!society.!!A problem!of!the!last!two!or!three!decades!that!has!escalated and!has!deep!impact!on!your!personal!life.!!He!doesn't!feel good!about!his!career!and!he!says!he's!always procrastinating!and!this!is!a!self-defeating!behavior.!!How can!I!overcome!this!behavior? One!thing!for!a!guy!to!look!out!for!in!this!kind!of!dilemma or!problem!is!perfectionism.!!What!do!I!mean!by!that?!!Some of!the!time!that!a!guy!feels!not!so!great!about!a!major!area!of life,!whether!it's!women!or!work,!is!that!he!has!a!view!in!his mind!of!an!ideal!and!it's!good!that!we!do!this,!that!we dream,!that!we!set!really!lofty!goals!because!it!gifts!us!a "north!star"!to!steer!toward;!our!ship. It!gives!us!a!measuring!point!that!is!our!ultimate!dream.!!But we!get!into!a!problem!when!we!"don't!enjoy!the!journey along!the!way." That!has!everything!to!do!with!boundaries.!!A!specic!way to!x!perfectionism!as!a!cause!of!not!really!enjoying!your career!or!doing!well!at;!it!has!to!do!with!unreasonable standards!like!idealistic!standards!for!your!career.!!It!has!to do!with!growing!better!boundaries. So!you!would!work!on!your!boundaries!and!you!would work!on!giving!yourself!more!of!a!pat!on!the!back!for!the
small!advances!along!the!way.!!One!of!the!specic techniques!I!like!giving!guys!in!the!Mature!Masculine!Power Program,!which!has!everything!to!do!with!career,!is!the!idea of!"enjoy!the!future!now."!!It!helps!to!get!rid!of!some!of!the perfectionism!that!makes!you!feel!down!and!blah!when!you look!around!at!what's!going!on!in!your!life!right!now.!!And you're!nowhere!near!your!ultimate!dream!yet. Enjoy!the!future!now.!! It's!a!way!of!using!your!imagination but!in!an!educated!guess! way!that!if!you!started!working toward!a!career!shift!to! a!new!eld,!or!you're!going!to!start school!in!the!fall,! or!you've!left!the!job!and!you're considering!changing!cities.!! Look!forward!to!the possibilities!for!the!future!and!enjoy! them!now,!so!that!you feel!better!now.!!That!will!help!take! away!part!of!the emotional!part!of!that!depresculinity! state!that!you're!in. Now,!another!thing!that!we!have!here!is,!you!are!clearly saying:!"I!procrastinate."!!Obviously!that's!the!probably!the major!thing!you're!going!to!have!to!x.!!You!have!already identied!it!and!you!know!it!exists.!!Then!he!says:!!"This!selfdefeating!behavior!dominates!over!me."!!I!thought!a!lot about!this!phrase:!self-defeating.
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What!comes!in!my!mind!about!that!and!makes!me!wonder about!it!is!that!in!some!of!my!biology!training!when!I!was much!younger,!they!would!talk!about!how!amazing!the brain!is!as!an!organ!and!how!it's!evolved!to!be!so!accurate and!so!much!of!a!champion!of!our!survival!and!our!welfare that!almost!everything!it!does!is!to!benet!us.!! Not!to!defeat us.
Have!you!ever!stopped to!think!that!maybe!you!just! don't!like!it?!!And!that!if!you don't!like!it,!it!can't! be!a!career!mission. So!you're!off!your!mission!as!a!man,!and!that!if!you!found the!right!thing!to!do,!you!probably!wouldn't!procrastinate.You'd!b e!motivated.!!You!would!show!up!on!time,!every time.!! So!get!rid!of!the!negative!label!of!"self-defeating"!and
So!I!actually!started!to!question!the!idea!of!self-defeating!as a!phrase.!!You!know,!a!lot!of!therapists!use!that!phrase:!!selfdefeating!behavior.!! How!is!it!possible!for!self-defeating behavior!to!even!exist! if!our!own!brains!are!these!perfect machines!that!always! are!trying!to!act!on!our!behalf!and make!things!good!for!us?!! Maybe!don't!use!the!phrase:!!self- defeating.!! Maybe!wonder!why!your!brain!is!trying!to!help you!by!procrastinating.!!It's!trying!to!do!something!good!for you,!in!your!favor. Obviously,!the!rst!thing!that!pops!to!mind!is!any!of!us would!procrastinate!in!a!job!we!don't!like.!! So!whatever!it!is you're!spending!your!time!on!now!
say:!!"Well,!clearly!my!brain!is!trying!to!help!me!by!making me!procrastinate."!!What!does!that!tell!me!about!me?!!And what!does!that!tell!me!about!my!day!job?!!"Oh,!must!be!the wrong!one!for!me."!!I!would!think!of!it!that!way.
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Immediate Gratication
SLOW DOWN 1. Immediate gratication is childish 2. Delayed gratication is not 3. The former always gets you into trouble, except when it is light and leisurely 4. The latter always serves you, except when you dont plan - when you are tilting at windmills like Don Quixote CLICK FOR DEEPER INSTRUCTION
QUESTION: "I!have!been!wondering!about!the!natural!drive!for!people!to seek!immediate!gratication!or!short!cuts.!!I!see!myself!when I!was!younger!as!doing!the!same,!probably!natural.!!Now!I realize!the!importance!of!striving!to!make!long!term persistent!work!and!in!general!not!desire!quick!xes.!!Do you!have!any!advice!on!how!to!really!sink!this!concept!in?!!I sometimes!see!myself!'fall!back'!into!not!so!mature!ways!of doing!things!and!going!for!the!quick!x!in!life." Dr.!Paul: Some!of!you!who!have!been!around!a!long!time!with!what we!do!are!familiar!with!me.!!You!know,!pooh-poohing!the marketers!out! there!who!sell!quick!xes.!! It's!really!catering!to people's!instinct!to!want!to!be!provided!to!and!efciently!in the!shortest!possible!way:!!Get!rich!quick!or!personal!growth quick;!instant! everything.!!Even!with!technology!
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Technology!is!great!for!us!because!it!speeds!our!way!to!a desired!goal,!and!it!shortens!the!length!of!time!it!takes!to!get there.!!But!there!is!no!such!thing!as!instantaneous!and!free growth!success!or!happiness.!!You!have!to!be!worked!on.
We!have!a!right!to!pursue!it,!which!is!in!and!of!itself,!pretty enjoyable;!because,!remember,!you!can!enjoy!the!future!now. Pursuing!happiness!is!what!it's!all!about. So!when!you're!talking!about!troubles!with!instant
One!of!the!interesting!things!that!happened!to!me!two!years ago,!4th!of!July,!American!independence!day.!!I!physically ran!into!a!man!named!Chris!Gardner,!a!giant!of!a!man; seemed!seven!feet!tall.!! He!was!giving!money!to!a!homeless person!on!the!street! with!his!day.!!I!recognized!him,!and!I said:!!"Chris."!! He!goes,!"Yes?"!!
gratication!and!how!do!I!get!the!value!of!long!term!effort!to sink!in?!!I!would!go!back!to!that!idea!of!the!pursuit!of happiness!is!a!God-given!right,!built!into!all!human!beings. You!have!the!right!to!pursue!it,!and!that!in!and!of!itself,!is manly!and!masculine.!!To!be!on!a!mission;!to!be!in!pursuit!of what!you!want.!!Enjoying!the!future!now!is!a!major!part!of getting!yourself!to!commit!to!long!term!things!that!take effort!and!patience. Boundaries!are!the!other!part!of!it;!working!on!boundaries.
And!I!said:!"I'm!Dr.!Paul.!!I really!like!your!story,!your!life!story." His!story!was!depicted!in!the!lm:!!The!Pursuit!of Happiness,!starring!Will!Smith.!!One!of!the!things!they!cover in!that!movie!is!!Build!into,!I!believe!the!Declaration!of Independence!for!Americans.!!
If!you!want!to!really!dive!deep!into!getting!this!specic problem!solved!you!would!go!learn!tons!about!boundaries in!the!Mind!OS!Mastery!Program!and!you!would!specically go!also!to!the!Anger!Map!and!Anxiety!Map,!especially!the Anger!Map. If!you!compare!the!upper!right!part!of!the!Anger!Map!to
They!talk!about!the!pursuit!of happiness!is!a!right!that!we!have, like!a!built!in!God-given right;!the!pursuit!of!happiness.!! And!in!that!lm,!and!Chris Gardner!himself,!he!really!makes! this!point!-!drives!it!home!- that!happiness!isn't!what!it!said.!! We!don't!have!a!"right"!to happiness.
your!question,!you'll!see!the!answer.!!The!upper!right!arrow on!both!of!those!maps!is!the!destructive!choice!for!that emotion.!!And!anything!that!is!destructive!also!carries!along with!it!poor!boundaries!and!impatience,!or!impulsiveness.

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Part!of!getting!over!procrastination!difculty,!or!in!this!case going!after!quick!xes!in!life!involves!recognizing!that whatever!is!quick!is!probably!destructive.!! Whatever!is!slow, patient,!and!long!labored!upon! usually!is!constructive. That's!always!the!right!choice.!!You!use!"observing!ego"!to put!the!spotlight!on!all!of!the!above!and!you're!good.!!You stay!aware!of!the!value!of!long!term!effort!by!using "observing!ego".!!Reminding!yourself!of!its!value.
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Curiosity and Intelligence

CURIOSITY AND INTELLIGENCE 1. You cannot learn or grow without curiosity, regardless of intelligence 2. Pure IQ does not lead to success - practice does 3. But Masculine Intelligence is knowing how your brain as a man works. It doesnt take a high IQ 4. Its all about doing the right things as a man CLICK FOR DEEPER INSTRUCTION
QUESTION: Curious!is!the!name!of!this!guy.!! Curious!says:!! "Hey!Dr. Paul.!!How!do!you!think!the!globalization!is!affecting people's!relationships?!!Is!it!becoming!more!and!more common!for!people!to!date!and!marry!outside!their!own country!and!culture,!or!otherwise!not!follow!tradition?!!Do you!think!this!causes!more!conict!within!relationships!or can!it!be!a!source!of!strength?!!It!is!often!heard!that!elderly people!say!it!is!wise!to!marry!within!your!own!country, culture,!and!social!status.!!I!understand!the!wisdom!behind this,!but!also!at!the!same!time,!wonder!if!it!makes!life!too rigid,!too!much!of!a!pattern!to!follow;!instead!of!being!brave, passionate,!and!striving!to!discover!your!own!path,!your own!desires!and!your!own!life.!!Thanks!a!lot."
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Dr.!Paul:" Yes,!so!he's!commenting!on!our!mobility:!!transportation, communication,!really!technology.!!My!answer!is!that!all technologies!have!an!upside!and!a!downside.!!They!can!be used!for!good!or!bad.!!They!bring!new!challenges,!but!they bring!new!advantage.!!We!keep!evolving!through!new technology.!!We!have!the!Stone!Age,!the!Bronze!Age,!the!Iron Age,!etc.!!New!technologies!always!come!along,!and!they always!have!an!upside!and!a!downside. I!think!the!idea!of!relationship!and!international!travel!!The upside!to!them!that!for!us!to!t!in!to!our!culture;!you!could say!that!culture!is!becoming!world!culture!now.!!It's!not provincial.!!We!all!need!to!t!into!the!greater!society!we!live and!love!in.!!If!all!of!culture!is!becoming!more!global,!then we!are!staying!right!in!tune!and!right!with!the!beat!of!the music!to!also!be!global!in!our!relationships!and!in!how!we do!business.!!We!t!in,!if!that!becomes!the!cultural!norm. The!downside!of!globalization!on!relationships!probably!has something!to!do!with!diminished!in-person!contact!with each!other.!!Remember!we're!evolved!over!hundreds!of thousands!of!millions!of!years.!!We!are!not!evolved!for electronic!communication!throughout!our!relationships.
We!need!in-person!contact!because!of!those!primitive instincts!in!us!that!are!still!there,!even!after!hundreds!of thousands!of!years. What!happens!because!of!this?!!Probably!more!cheating, more!break!ups!of!relationships,!caused!by!temptation!and poor!communication.!!That's!what!I!think.!!There's!a!good side!and!a!bad!side. Question:"Andy,!all!the!way!from!Helsinki,!Finland.!!"Hi!again!Dr. Paul.!!I!really!enjoyed!last!week's!teleseminar.!!Thanks.!!It!got me!thinking!about!the!idea!of!being!limitless." Dr.!Paul:" Yes.!!We've!been!talking!for!two!months!about!men's!lms; lms!that!are!educational!for!men!about!their!specic instincts!and!growth.!!So,!Limitless,!with!and!actor!named Bradley!Cooper,!is!what!we!covered!last!week. Question:"He!says:!!"I!think!it's!common!in!society!today!to!want everything!and!to!think!that!it's!realistic!to!get!everything,!be limitless,!to!be!in!great!shape!or!handsome!or!successful, have!a!lot!of!women,!be!condent,!perfect!family,!perfect husband,!perfect!wife,!and!perfect!sex.!!I've!always!sensed that!there!is!something!wrong!with!this.!!It!never!really!felt
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right!and!last!week's!teleseminar!put!it!nicely!in!perspective. Thanks.!!I!now!think!I!understand!fairly!well!that!it!ismature!and!wi se!to!give!your!energy!in!some!area!of!life persistently!and!long!term.!! Do!you!have!any!tips!on!how!to learn!to!kind!of!block!the!have!to!get!everything!now,!right now,!marketing!mentality!in!today's!society!and!remember to!focus!on!a!couple!of!key!areas!of!life!persistently!and!long term!and!maintain!focus!on!these!and!not!get!distracted!by the!sexy!promise!of!getting!it!all!in!today's!society?" Dr.!Paul:" If!you!are!barely!good!enough!and!then!you!add!10,000 Yes,!I!have!a!couple!of!things!for!you:!!one!from!MindOS Mastery!and!one!from!the!Mature!Masculine!Power Program.!!You!know,!there!are!also!two!resources!that!I'd!like to!send!you!to:!!one!is!the!author!Malcolm!Gladwell. He!has!really!remarkable!books!that!are!journalistic!and!they are!about!some!unique!things!about!our!culture.!!His!most recent!book!is!called!Outliers.!!He!is!taking!about!success, successful!people.!!What!makes!successful!people?!!He found!something!stunning!in!the!research. He!found!out!that!IQ!doesn't!matter. 10,000!hours!of!discipline!or!practice!at!something!equals world!class!mastery.!!That's!amazing!to!know.!!It!doesn't have!to!do!with!IQ!or!height!or!looks,!and!it!is!unfortunately for!all!of!us,!not!a!quick!x.!!It's!10,000!hours.!!That's!your answer.!!If!you!want!to!be!world!class,!you've!got!to!do something!for!10,000!hours.!!That's!Malcolm!Gladwell's answer.
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He!found!out!that!genius!talent!doesn't!matter. What!he!found!is!that!it's!all!centered!on!your!question.!!It's centered!on!discipline!and!commitment!over!time.!!That!is the!singular!thing!that!makes!people!successful. In!fact,!he!describes!it!as!if!you!are!just!barely!good!enough to!do!a!task!like!play!the!violin,!or!be!an!accountant,!or!be!an athlete.!!If!you!are!just!barely!good!enough!to!do!it,!meaning you!won't!totally!screw!it!up!every!time!otherwise!you shouldn't!be!in!that!eld.
hours!of!practice!which!usually!takes!people!about!10!years to!accomplish.!!10,000!hours!of!practice!at!whatever!the!task is,!whether!it's!a!violin!or!accounting!or!sports;!that!after 10,000!hours!you!have!reached!not!just!good!status,!but world!class!ability!at!that!task.!!That's!stunning.!!That!is exactly!that!answer!to!your!question.
Patience, Persistence, and Passion

THE THREE PS 1. Patience - good things come to those who wait (and arent impulsive) 2. Persistence - never give up, and you make it through the dips of life - the Wastelands 3. Passion - you have to love what you do, and do what you love
Another!resource!I'll!direct!you!to!is!actually!an!old Hollywood!maxim!about!success!as!well. It's!called!The!Three!Ps. The!old!time!producers,!when!asked!how!does!somebody "make!it"!in!Hollywood;!make!it!as!a!movie!star,!become famous?!!They!say!there!is!no!such!thing!as!"getting discovered."!!You!won't!"get!discovered."!!You've!got!to!have the!three!Ps!instead. The!three!Ps!are: !patience !persistence !and!passion. Patience,!persistence,!and!passion!are!the!three!Ps. Notice,!none!of!those!are!about!IQ.
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None!of!those!are!about!coming!from!wealth!or!being highborn. None!of!those!have!anything!to!do!with!decits!of!some!sort or!a!handicap. Having!patience,!persistence,!and!passion;!all!three!are purely!psychological!and!don't!even!grant!favored!status!to a!particular!kind!of!personality!style!in!a!guy.
This!is!another!thing!that!you!can!promise!yourself!and enjoy!the!future!now!about!the!notion!that!all!you've!got!to do!is!persist!at!something!you!want!to!do!or!that!you!want to!be.!!Be!patient!about!it!as!you!are!doing!the!practice,!the activity.!!And!make!sure!that!it!is!something!you!are passionate!about!to!begin!with.!!That!you!feel!alive!just because!of!practicing!at!it. If!you!love!the!violin!or!you!love!to!sing!or!you!love!to!write
Patience!is!a!mature!feature!of!your!character. Persistence!is!a!mature!feature!of!your!character. And!passion,!we!center!that!in!the!reptilian!brain. Passion!is!exactly!the!same!as!how!masculine!are!you?!!The more!masculine!you!are,!the!more!passion!you!feel,!whether for!women!or!for!life.!!The!more!masculine!you!are,!the!more passionate!you!feel. It!is!the!other!antidote!to!Depresculinity,!by!the!way,!is discovering!how!to!feel!more!passion!by!way!of!working!on specic!skills!of!masculinity.!!So!patience,!persistence,!and passion!is!the!way!to!get!to!be!a!star,!which!means!once again!the!most!central!feature!is!time;!having!a!mind!for!the long!term,!not!the!quick!x,!short!term.
or!you!love!working!with!numbers!or!you!like!working!with your!hands!and!doing!mechanics!on!cars;!whatever!it!is,!you just!love!doing!it,!imperfectly.!!You're!golden!if!you!just!look to!the!long!term!and!keep!doing!it.
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Bullying and Courtesy

JUST SAY NO 1. Bullies are narcissists - which is the same as being childish 2. Anti-bullying measures involve using boundaries to say NO to what isnt right for you 3. It also involves ethics and empathy - being able to take care of yourself and recognize that bullies are weak people themselves
QUESTION: We!have!Gio,!G-I O,!from!New!York:" "When!I!go!out,!I!usually!interact!well!with!females; however,!I!sense!that!when!I!enter!a!room!or!interact,!I!get sneers!from!men.!!This!throws!me!off.!!I've!either!stared!back or!tried!to!ignore!it.!!Sometimes!I!just!look!straight!back!at them.!!90!percent!of!the!time!they!look!away.!!Sometimes!it escalates!to!an!argument!or!a!ght.!!Nonetheless,!it!affects the!interaction!with!women!as!they!are!turned!off!by!this.!!It also!bothers!me!because!I!like!to!get!along!with!people. When!I!ignore!it,!it!leaves!me!feeling!irritated!and!affects!my selfesteem.!!Is!this!normal!man!behavior!that!I!need!to!get used!to?!!How!should!I!compete!back!with!other!men!to maintain!our!self-esteem?!!I!don't!fear!the!physical!ght.!!I fear!the!social!disharmony,!legal!repercussions,!and!the stigma." Dr.!Paul:" Wow.!!That's!a!good!one.!!Well,!I!think!what!you're!asking!is what!are!the!various!combinations!or!variables!that!cause
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you!to!be!perceived!especially!by!other!men!in!the!way!that you!do. The!rst!thing!that!popped!to!mind!as!a!tip!is!that!a!lot!of guys!that!don't!get!along!with!other!guys!can!really!get!hurt in!their!self-esteem!because!they!think!that!because!they!are not!liked!by!the!other!guys!that!it!must!mean!that!they!are inferior!somehow;!inferior!in!rank!or!ability!or!skill!or masculinity!itself.!!Don't!succumb!to!that!potential!mistake because!other!men!may!dislike!you!because!they!see!you!as better!than!them,!that!they're!judging!you!with!incomplete information!about!you!and!considering!themselves!"less than"!you. That!might!be!why!they!don't!like!you.!!So!rst!off,!don't!let it!harm!your!self-esteem!because!of!that.!!Secondly,!this!is!a principle!!That!rst!one!was!from!Mature!Masculine!Power because!it's!about!male!instincts,!we!need!to!size!ourselves up!against!other!men!to!know!who!we!are.!!We've!got!to!be somewhere!in!a!rank,!somewhere!in!a!hierarchy!to!know who!we!are.!!Even!if!it's!low!on!the!totem!pole!we!actually feel!more!comfortable!and!less!anxious!just!knowing!where we!t,!where!we!t!in. Isn't!that!interesting,!that!you!could!be!low!on!the!totem pole,!low!in!rank,!but!feel!good!just!because!you!know where!your!rank!is?!!And!because!you!know!where!your
rank!is,!then!you!know!what!you!want!to!work!toward. Then!you!feel!great,!because!you!are!enjoying!the!future now,!you're!working!toward!something. The!other!part!of!this!is!from!KWML!Mastery;!the!concept!of what!is!the!difference!between!love!and!like?!!What!makes people!like!us!as!opposed!to!love!us?!!What!are!the differences? In!this!program,!KWML!Mastery,!I!dene!love!as!boosting each!other's!level!of!self-esteem,!which!is!the!same!as boosting!each!other's!happiness!level.!!The!ability!to!make each!other!happy!is!one!in!the!same!as!love!or!friendship. But!what!if!we!weren't!talking!about!something!that!deep!or that!emotional?!!Not!something!to!the!level!of!actual friendship,!maybe!more!of!acquaintances!we're!talking about;!rst!impressions!with!people.!!That's!more!what you're!dealing!with. Then!we'd!have!to!talk!about!the!word:!like.!!The!word!like is!different!from!the!word!love!because!we!like!each!other, we're!willing!to!tolerate!each!other!and!be!in!the!same!space as!each!other!because!we!like!each!other!for!one!of!two reasons.!!We!like!those!who!like!us!and!we!like!those!who are!like!us.!!It's!a!saying!I!use!in!the!KWML!Mastery.!! We!like those!who!like!us!and!we!like!those!who!are!like!us.!!
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These two!ways!of!being!liked!are!the!same!being!valued!or tolerated!or!accepted!and!are!more!intellectual!than emotional. We!have!a!reciprocity!with!each!other!that's!built!into!us.!!If somebody!is!good!to!you,!even!if!they!have!complete difference!from!you!in!terms!of!lifestyle,!personality,!and!all the!rest,!we!still!have!a!need!to!be!good!back!to!them.!!It!is built!into!us!to!be!reciprocal.!!If!you!want!other!guys!to!like you!more,!tolerate!you!more,!get!less!into!conict!with!you, then!nd!a!way!to!let!them!know!you!approve!of!them. Greet!other!men!with!a:!"What's!up?",!or!a!hand!shake.!!Be friendly!to!make!friends.!!Be!friendly!to!be!liked!back.!!We like!those!who!like!us.
Now!underneath!all!of!that,!we've!talked!about!MindOS Mastery,!KWML!Mastery,!let's!talk!a!little!bit!about!the Mature!Masculine!Power!Program. Male!instinct!is!competitive,!needs!to!nd!out!where!it!ranks among!other!men.!!We!have!to!accept!that!that!exists.!!In other!words,!when!you're!looking!for!women!to!meet!and date,!you!are!in!competition!with!other!men,!period.!!You can't!pretend!it!away.!!You!can't!hide!your!eyes!from!it!and hope!that!it!vanishes.!!It's!there,!it's!always!there,!it's happening,!and!it's!real.!!Get!used!to!it.!!We!compete!with other!men. We!do!have!a!choice,!that!we!opened!the!rst!question!with,
The!other!way!that!we!like!each!other,!that!we!like acquaintances!is!if!we,!on!rst!impress,!detect!similarity!in who!we!are.!!Is!there!something!about!you!that:!you!dress differently,!you!look!differently,!or!you!behave!differently than!the!other!men!you!encounter.!!Maybe!you!don't!live!in the!best!city!for!you,!where!you!t!in!the!best,!have!similar life!style!to!the!other!men,!similar!appearance!and!behavior. The!way!to!be!liked!more,!the!other!way,!is!to!be!similar!to other!people.!!Comment!on!the!fun!they're!having!or!the behavior!they're!doing!or!the!clothing!they!wear.!!Say,!"Oh, yeah,!I!got!that!too.!!I'm!like!you."!!Those!are!the!two leverage!points!for!you!to!get!more!harmony!out!of!these run-ins.
which!is!we!can!compete!like!gentlemen!or!we!can!play dirty.!!You!can!choose!to!compete!like!a!gentleman!and!be courteous!to!other!men,!even!though!you!are!competing!for the!women.!!If!they!won't!play!fair,!then!you!need!to!extract the!woman!from!the!situation.!!Pull!them!aside!and!have!a private!conversation;!private!irting.!!Or!nd!a!different venue!where!there!are!more!diplomatic!men!and!still!hot women.
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Reptiles at Work
YOUR INSTINCT AND PERSONALITY AT WORK 1. Reptilian instincts (Masculinity) in the workplace is written about by philosopher, Machiavelli 2. Personality is different from masculine instincts - women have personality styles too 3. Master both, add character, and you are master of the workplace 4. Guys who are ONLY reptilian in the workplace, get ahead briey, but are brought down in the end
Question:"Eric!from!Italy!says,!"Hey!Dr.!Paul,!I've!got!a!question. should!we!use!the!reptilian!brain!or!masculine!instinct!in!the work!place,!especially!a!kind!of!work!place!where!there!is not!a!chief!around!where!there!are!a!bunch!of!people!of!coworkers!who!rudely!compete!with!each!other?" Dr.!Paul:" I'm!not!exactly!sure!what!you!are!asking.!!I'm!trying!to decode!it!here!for!myself.!!Are!you!asking!is!it!okay!to!let these!primitive!instincts!be!used!in!the!work!place!when people!really,!really!rudely!compete!with!each!other?!!Yes.!!In fact,!it!is!happening!whether!you!like!it!or!not,!including your!participation!in!it.!!Why?!!Because!the!reptilian!brain!is the!unconscious!and!the!unconscious!is!therefore!not!in!your awareness.!!It's!happening!without!you!knowing!it's happening,!no!matter!what!you!do. Step!one!is,!get!used!to!that!idea. Step!two!is,!start!to!learn!about!your!masculine!instincts!and how!they!work.
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There!is!a!specic!philosopher!that!you've!heard!of,!that!you ought!to!read!up!on:!!Machiavelli.!!Machiavelli!was!out!to!do something!good!in!the!world,!believe!it!or!not,!even!though he's!demonized!by!the!church!as!teaching!evil,!sneaky!and underhanded!business!tactics.!!What!he!really!was!trying!to do!I!think!is!just!explain!masculine!instinct!to!people!and how!to!use!it!in!career!and!in!politics.!! Learn!about Machiavelli. Read!books!such!as!The!Art!of!War,!and!you'll!nd!out!about some!of!these!reptilian!brain,!primitive!instincts!that!are happening!all!the!time,!inevitably,!outside!of!your awareness.!!Maybe!it's!also!outside!of!your!co-workers' awareness.!!If!you!are!aware!and!they're!not,!then!even!if they!are!more!brute!force!people!than!you,!you!still!have!the upper!hand.
Question:"STL!Quagmire.!!(Do!you!think!that!means!St.!Louis, possibly?)!!"Will!this!teleseminar!be!available!for!down!load in!the!premium!forms?" Dr.!Paul:" Yes.!!It!will,!if!you!go!back!to!the!same!link at the On Demand Program where we eld these questions all the time.!!It!also!will!be made!into!both!an!audio!program! for!direct!down!load!from our!site,!which will!all!be!free!to!you!and!other!members. Question:"Daniel!in!Berlin.!!"Hey!Dr.!Paul,!I've!read!KWML.!!I! am denitely!left-brained!but!I!cannot!dene!myself.!!I!am!a king!or!a!warrior.!!I!think!I'm!both.!!Is!this!possible?!!I!was trying!to!be!more!right-brained,!more!magicianly,!but!I!felt!in a!dating!situation!I!couldn't!do!it.!!How!can!I!build!skill!for my!right-brain?" Dr.!Paul:" Well,!good.!!I'm!glad!you!have!the!KWML!
Imagine!a!circus!lion!tamer!or!handler!of!elephants!for!the circus.!!Superior,!more!deadly!animals,!much!larger!animals that!could!crush!you!or!eat!you,!and!yet!the!lion!tamer!can still!manage!the!superior,!deadly!force!creature. You!can!do!the!same!in!the!workplace,!even!if!they!are meaner,!ruder,!or!tougher!than!you.!!Your!awareness!and their!lack!of!it!is!the!ultimate!advantage.!!Mature!Masculine Power!Program.!!And!read!about!Machiavelli.
!I!think!you!read the!KWML!ebook,!but!do!not! have!the!KWML!Mastery Program!on!DVD!and!CD.!! There!is!a!difference.!!The!ebook is!a!starter!book,! an!introduction!book.!!The!Mastery Program!in!KWML!on!disc! is!very!thorough!and comprehensive,!worlds!beyond!just! the!ebook.!!It!explains what!I'm!going!to!tell!you!right!now.
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A!King!and!a!Warrior!are!both!left-brained!people intellectually.!!A!Lover!or!a!Magician!are!both!right-brained people!intellectually.
improv!comedy!acting!class!denitely!beefs!up!your!right brain!intellectual!muscles. Secondly,!purposely!traveling!without!plans;!travel!to!a
What!he!is!saying!he!wants!to!do!is!become!more!wellrounded!as!a!guy!by!cultivating!more!magician!skill,!if!he!is a!king!or!warrior.!!That!means!he!needs!to!grow!more!rightbrained!intellectual!muscle.!!There!are!two!different!routes!to doing!that.!!If!you!know!you!are!a!king!or!a!warrior!then!you could!simply!do!some!of!the!activities,!skills,!preferences, traits,!and!lifestyle!that!magicians!do. They!travel,!they!go!on!adventures,!they!road!trip,!they!do random!things.!!They!change!their!minds!quickly.!!They!go to!ve!parties!a!night!instead!of!just!one.!!They!are!into novelty.!!They!are!pleasure!seeking.!!They!always!want!to!do something!new.!!They!want!to!be!the!rst!to!do!things.!!They are!very!physical.!!They!are!not!in!their!heads;!they!are!in their!bodies!doing!things.!!So!do!the!lifestyle!they!do!and!it's going!to!make!you!uncomfortable!at!rst!because!it!doesn't come!natural!to!you.!!But!use!courage!to!do!it!anyway!and try!to!learn!lessons. The!other!way!to!cultivate!right-brained!ability!specically!is make!yourself!a!list!of!activities!to!practice!at!that!are!rightbrained.!!It's!anything!that!is!creative!or!performance-based, innovative,!spontaneous!or!artistic.!!For!example,!taking!an
different!country!without!prearranging!your!schedule. Figure!it!out!as!you!go.!!It!will!be!challenging!but!enriching. The!randomness!of!social!environment!choices;!go!to!a neighborhood!of!town!that!is!totally!different!from!what!you are!used!to!and!nd!a!place!to!socialize.!!It!will!be challenging,!fearful,!but!it!will!make!you!grow. Hang!out!with!a!new!group!socially!that!you've!never!hung out!with!before;!who!have!a!different!lifestyle!from!you.!!Be observant.!!Learn!from!the!environment.!!Even!thou!it's fearful!to!try!new!things.!!These!are!all!ways!to!build!your rightbrain!skill. It's!what!I!wrote!about!in!a!recent!mainstream!article!on men's!psychology!called!"Be!a!Surfer,!Not!an!Accountant". All!the!things!I!write!about!in!there!about!surfers!are!rightbrain!skills.!!Practice!those.
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Depresculinity, and Mano a Mano

FIGHT FOR WHAT YOU WANT 1. Get out of Depresculinity, be a man, and ght for what you want 2. But choose your battles 3. You will not be able to avoid conict and competition in life, but with these programs, you will be well-equipped for them
Question:"Mick!from!Zurich,!Switzerland.!!"Hi!Dr.!Paul,!as!it!comes to!my!Depresculinity,!I!think!it!has!to!do!with!how!I've!been raised:!!dismissive!talking!and!behavior!about!my!father, sexuality!in!being!a!man,!all!said!by!mother.!!For!her,!I!had the!role!as!a!substitute!partner.!!I!was!the!reason!my!parents had!to!marry!and!I!was!compared!to!others'!marriages.!!I usually!failed.!!I!am!physically!short:!ve!foot.!.!." Dr.!Paul:" 20?!!5!foot!2,!I!think!he!means.!!So!he's!talking!about!the effect!of!things!we!can't!control:!where!we!come!from,!who our!parents!are,!what!we!inherited!biologically!in!height. Men!are!concerned!about!height,!hair!loss,!being!overweight, all!of!these!things!that!we!don't!control!because!they!are!part of!our!physical!bodies.!!What!you!can!do!is!what!you control.!!To!a!degree,!this!is!a!boundary!question.!!How!can!I have!better!boundaries!with!myself,!and!have!it!impact Depresculinity?!!Feeling!less!depressed!and!more!masculine; you!would!cultivate!boundaries.!!The!way!you!would!do that!would!be!to!do!your!best!with!what!you!do!have.
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boundary!too,!because!a!boundary!separates!our!view!of!the You!do!control!having!a!better!physique.!!You!control!your nutrition.!!You!control!the!people!you!know.!!You!control your!value!among!them.!!You!control!your!material!worth. These!things!are!all!leverage!points!for!you,!that!you!do!have control!over. Ironically,!even!though!you!don't!control!your!height!or!hair loss,!or!things!like!this!(and!you!don't!control!the!parents that!you!came!from)!simply!by!working!away!!The!saying is:!"If!all!you've!got!is!lemons,!then!make!lemonade." Working!with!what!you've!got,!you!can!build!miraculous things!in!part!because!the!very!act!of!working!toward!a!goal is!masculinizing.!!If!you!raise!your!masculinity!level!through doing!work!on!yourself,!doing!your!best!with!what!you've got,!your!higher!masculinity!level!leads!to!massively increased!opportunities!in!life. Masculinity!itself!is!what!attracts!women!sexually,!so ironically,!it!doesn't!matter!what!your!height!is,!or!hair!loss, or!things!like!this,!or!who!your!parents!are.!!In!the!eyes!of!a woman,!the!masculine!you!are,!the!more!attractive!you!are!period. So!you!need!to!accept!that.!!Women!don't!see!you!the!same way!you!see!yourself.!!You'll!have!to!develop!that!as!a It!was!a!very!odd!situation!because!I!got!caught!by!surprise and!at!the!same!time,!I!was!with!my!family!and!we!had people!visiting!from!overseas.!!It!wasn't!the!time!to!get!into!a scrap,!but!it!left!me!with!the!feeling!of,!that!I!should've!done
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world!and!others!from!how!they!view!it.!!For!you,!it's!going to!be!all!about!growing!boundaries.!!That!means!recognizing the!people!that!see!you!differently!than!you!see!yourself!and shedding!some!of!the!perfectionist!ideas!you!may!have.!!You can't!make!yourself!grow!taller,!but!you!can!grow!tter, wealthier,!more!skilled,!more!experiences,!and!more masculine. That's!what!you're!after!anyway,!is!results!with!other!people. Feeling!more!masculine!and!feelings!less!depressed!means no!more!Depresculinity!for!you. QUESTION:!!Hi!Dr.!Paul.!!I!have!a!question!actually.!!It!has!to!do specically!with!male!competition.!!It's!a!two-part!question. One!of!them!!I'm!going!to!describe!a!situation!and!it's!going to!sound!a!little!childish,!but!I!wanted!to!get!your interpretation!of!it.!!I!was!coming!from!the!park!one!time and!I!was!actually!watching!the!cars!swerve!in!and!out!of trafc!and!trying!to!get!back!into!my!car.!!Some!guy,!right;!he actually!approaches!and!he!says:!!"Hey,!you!were!looking!at my!car.!!Why!were!you!looking!at!my!car?"!!I!responded,!I said:!!"Hey,!nobody!was!looking!at!your!car."
something!about!it.!!Or!I!should've!confronted!the!guy,!or you!know.!.!.!!I!wanted!to!know,!what!is!your!interpretation of!this!situation!and!how!should!I!have!handled!that. Dr.!Paul:" Well,!it!sounds!like!you!had!that!uncomfortable!experience of!having!to!make!a!choice!that!was!more!convenient!for!you because!you!didn't!have!time!to!mess!around!with!a!stranger and!solve!his!low!self-esteem!problems,!and!paranoia,!or why!he!would!think!you're!trying!to!steal!his!car!or something.!!So!it!was!best!for!you!to!leave,!but!you!left!with the!masculine!instinct!being!triggered!for!wanting!to!win. We!have!an!instinct!to!win.!!Where!we!don't!win,!we!feel knocked!down!a!peg!in!our!masculinity!level.
It!ought!to!help!you!to!solve!this!in!the!future!to!simply!be aware!that!you!are!in!control!of!the!choices!here.!!Do!you want!to!choose!on!the!side!of!preserving!your!resource!of time,!which!benets!your!life!and!makes!you!more masculine?!!Or!do!you!want!to!side!on!having!to!win,!or trying!to!win?!!Either!way,!you!still!control.!!Then!you!don't feel!like!you're!punked!by!some!guy,!like!you're!sneakattacked!by!some!guy.!!Then!you!feel!like!less!than!a!man!for backing!down!from!a!ght!or!something. QUESTION:!!Right,!and!trying!to!be!a!mature!masculine!man!tha t!is masculine,!yet!professional!and!intelligent!in!an!everyday life.!!I!wanted!to!!What!would've!been!the!right!thing!to do? Dr.!Paul:"
Even!if!trying!to!win!is!irrational!and!makes!no!sense.!!It's the!reason!we!go!to!war!a!lot!of!times.!!You!know,!Freud!said he!was!certain!that!there!is!a!human!unconscious!for!only two!reasons.!!One,!we!dream.!!Where!the!hell!do!dreams come!from?!!We're!not!making!them!up.!!And,!two,!we!have war.!!He!said!that's!why!he!knows!there!is!an!unconscious, because!war!is!illogical. Fighting!is!illogical!and!yet!we!do!it.!!It's!because,!for!males, we!need!to!win!to!feel!masculine.
I!think!you!did!the!right!thing.!!You!responded!with!minimal effort.!!You!gave!an!intellectual!response.!!It!reminds!me!of! remember!Good!Will!Hunting!with!Matt!Damon,!where!he is!in!this!verbal!argument,!one-upmanship!over!who's!the smarter!guy!at!Harvard.!!He!really!puts!the!guy!to!shame and!then!says:!!"How!about!them!apples?"!!Clearly,!he's!able to!st!ght!but!he!doesn't!in!that!case.!!He!uses!his!intellect to!win.!!The!end!result!is:!!you!want!to!win!as!a!man,!but!you don't!have!to!win!with!sts.!!You!can!win!through!being superior!intellectually.
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QUESTION:!!Okay.!!And,!you!know,!at!that!time,!in!that!moment, !I!felt!I did!the!right!thing!because!the!family!was!there.!!It!wasn't the!right!time.!!The!guy!looked!like!a!street!punk!anyway. But,!you!know,!the!masculine!side!of!me!was!more!like!I wanted!to!ght!him!and!not!look!bad!to!my!family!either, because!now!I!!You!know!how!men!are!always!protecting our!social!hierarchy!as!well!to!others,!to!our!family,!to!other men!in!our!environment!and!the!nature!of!backing!down hurts!that!side!of!the!self-esteem!of!yourself.!!In!everyday life!and!getting!along,!I!did!the!right!thing.!!But!it!kind!of,!it's been!irking!me!for!a!while. Dr.!Paul:" I!think,!again,!it!goes!back!to!this!idea!that!where!the!juice!is in!this!is!in!winning.!!You!need!to!win.!!You!need!to!walk away!with!your!head!held!high.!!And!then!you're!concerned about!how!your!family!sees!you.!!You!can!win!intellectually. You!can!win!through!preserving!your!resource!of!time. You've!won!if!you've!done!that.!!If!the!guy's!an!a-hole!and he's!threatening,!then!you!may!need!to!do!something physical!and!that's!the!superior!choice. It!depends!on!the!circumstances.!!But!an!interesting!side note!to!all!of!this!is!if!we!were!talking!about!you!being!in!a marriage,!or!having!a!girlfriend,!or!having!friends!with!you, the!kind!of!friends!you!choose,!or!wife!you!choose,!or
girlfriend!you!choose;!they!ought!to!be!the!kind!of!people who!understand!that!one!can!win!through!preserving!a man's!resources!and!winning!intellectually,!not!just!with sts.!!I've!seen!a!lot!of!guys!!What!I'm!getting!at!is!I've!seen a!lot!of!guys!who!have!a!girlfriend!who's!hot,!but!is!not!a!big time!intellectual!person,!and!kind!of!doesn't!get!it!as!far!as, you!know,!a!guy!backing!down!from!a!ght!because!that does!make!him!win.!!He's!not!going!to!waste!his!time!on some!idiot.!!But!she!doesn't!get!that. She's!hot!and!that's!why!he!likes!her,!but!she!complains: "Why!did!you!back!down!from!that!guy?!!You!should've fought!that!guy."!!Well,!that's!a!bad!match.!!They!shouldn't be!together!in!a!relationship. QUESTION:!!So,!ultimately!it's!a!judgement!call? Dr.!Paul:" Yes.!!It!is!a!judgement!call,!but!just!like!our!situation!we described!about!a!guy!being!in!the!work!place.!!If!you!are awake!and!aware!to!what!the!menu!options!are,!you!could choose!any!of!them!and!you!still!win. The!times!you!feel!bad!are!when!you!feel!like;!"Oh,!I!backed down!ght!and!that's!bad.!!That's!unmasculine."!!But!if you're!aware!that!this!guy's!a!schmuck,!you!don't!want!to
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waste!your!time!on!him,!so!you're!walking!away!with!your head!held!high.!!He's!an!idiot!wasting!his!time.!!Then!you dont'!lose!any!masculinity!and!there!is!no!shame!to!it. QUESTION:!!I!understand.!!I!think,!and!I!guess!the!deep!root!of!t he question!is,!sometimes!as!you're!actually!becoming!aware!of everything!that!it!takes!for!you!to!be!!to!live!to!the!highest potential!of!being!a!man,!that!you!don't!want!to!overlook something!that!starts!wearing!down!your!self-esteem.!!Or wears!you!down!how!you!feel!about!yourself;!to!how!we insidiously,!under!the!skin,!affects!you!in!indirect!ways. That!was!my!main!concern.
ability!to!sleep!with!one!eye!open,!as!they!say,!to!always have!a!Spidey-sense!on,!that!when!there!is!some!jerk!who might!ght!and!he!can't!take!you!by!surprise!if!you're always!cultivating!this!"observing!ego"!ability;!this!sense!of being!aware!of!your!environment.!!Then!walking!away!is!no sweat,!because!you!didn't!get!jumped.!!You!didn't!get surprised. QUESTION:!!So,!if!I!understand!you!correctly,!it's!not!the! walking!away that's!unmasculine,!it's!that!one!could!develop! awareness!to anticipate!what's!going!to!happen!and!preselect!your choice.!!That!would!be!more!masculine. Dr.!Paul:"
Dr.!Paul:" Yes.!!I!think!a!corollary!to!it,!and!this!may!be!what!you!are asking!simultaneously:!!guys!who!know!they're!walking away!from!a!ght!on!purpose!and!don't!want!to!lose!face, feel!less!masculine!because!they!walked!away!from!a!ght, and!are!doing!so!not!out!of!free!choice!and!wise consideration,!but!are!doing!it!because!the!other!guy surprised!them!before!they!had!a!chance!to!react.!!That!is unmasculine!and!does!feel!bad.!!It's!cured!by!cultivating more!"observing!ego"!ability. Our!one!new!blogger,!Houdini,!who!was!with!Special!Forces can!certainly!speak!to!this!concept!that!if!you!cultivate!the
Right.!!It's!not!getting!made!the!fool!by!another!man.!!It's avoiding!getting!made!the!fool!and!therefore!winning!in!the interaction.!!The!other!man!might!be!physically!bigger!than you.!!He!might!be!a!superior!ghter,!but!.!.!. QUESTION:!!He!was!actually!smaller. Dr.!Paul:" But!we're!not!after!winning!physically,!we're!after!the internal!experience!psychologically!of!winning.!!That's!what we're!after. QUESTION:!!As!it!pertains!to!ourselves?
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Dr.!Paul:" Yes.!!You!weren't!made!the!fool.!!You!weren't!used!by another!man.!!You!weren't!taken!advantage!of!by!another man,!is!what!you're!after.!!Then!you've!won.!!You!weren't bullied.!!You!weren't!sneak-attacked.!!When!you!are!awake and!aware!that!some!other!man!is!a!better!ghter!than!you, well!then!you!can!walk!away!with!your!head!held!high because!you!can't!control!that!he's!eight!feet!tall.!!But!if!a lesser!man!than!you!physically!surprises!you,!takes advantage!of!you,!makes!you!look!foolish!or!silly;!you could've!prevented!that.
how!our!various!programs!apply!to!each!and!every!kind!of problem,!with!specic!skill!building.! When you enroll in the Mens Psychology On Demand Program, you get a massive follow up ebook called Advanced Masculine Intelligence - which lays out many of the foundational principles we teach in all our programs, almost like a synopsis of them for introductory study - before going to the all-out CD/DVD or Video Streaming programs. I!hope!you!guys!enjoy your!membership!at!the!
QUESTION:!!And!how!would!you!have!prevented!that?!!If!they're !in!the emotional!state!that!they!are!a!schmuck!like!you!said? Dr.!Paul:" By!having!your!Spidey sense!on,!your!"observing!ego"; being!more!observant!of!your!environment,!not!so!in!your head!that!you're!not!paying!attention.
On!Demand!Program!and!http:// www.menspsychology.com,!and!the!weekly!newsletters,!the teleseminars,!all!of!the!above,!the!podcasts!even!and!I'll!look forward!to!talking!to!you!personally!on!the!teleseminars!and in!the!member!Forums!as!well. This!has!been!Dr.!Paul!for!www.menspsychology.com!and
QUESTION:!!All!right.!!Yes.!!The!funny!thing!is,!the!guy!was!small er!than me!and!it!wasn't!even!like!a!match. Dr.!Paul:" All!right,!anybody!else?!!If!not,!it!looks!like!we!have!reached the!end!of!program:!!Masculine!Intelligence,!which!we!have applied!to!every!major!area!of!a!man's!life.!!I've!shown!you
Men's!Psychology!Magazine.!!Thank!you!for!joining!us.
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Aggression
A destructive, immature use of anger described in MindOS, in which one hurts another person, invading their boundary, and at rst discharges negative emotion (anger), but is met with repercussions from society in which one is hurt or punished in return, and returns to anger and or depression. Ultimately it begins with a lack of ones needs being met (one is low on well-being), and its potential cure is assertiveness. An aggressive person is also a low self-esteem person in the area of well-being.
Related Glossary Terms Assertiveness, MindOS, Self-esteem, The Anger Map, Well-being
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Assertiveness
A positive, constructive, mature use of anger, depicted on the Anger Map from the MindOS system, and whose use results in obtaining well-being out of ones anger.
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Confidence
A paternal variety of self-esteem or positive emotional energy, but not gender-specic. The other type of self-esteem in the MindOS system is called well-being. Females of the Warrior or Magician personality style in the KWML system can be dominant in this type of emotional energy or self-esteem. It is action-taking in essence, and is the reward achieved when one exercises courage doing the right thing no matter how bad it feels.
Related Glossary Terms KWML, MindOS, The Anxiety Map, Well-being
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Depresculinity
Both a state of mind unique to men, deeper than a depression and not treatable with medication or standard gender-neutral therapy, as well as a program from Mens Psychology Magazine on mens moods, their current cultural situation, and corrective measures that are empowering for men in general.
Related Glossary Terms Passion, The Anger Map
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Depression
A destructive use of anger, and resulting from being low on the self-esteem type called well-being, or resulting from a type of stress called hurt which has invaded ones personal boundary. Action in general and assertiveness in specic are the psychological cures. Depresculinity has depression associated with it, but is a deeper-level, gender-based problem in which one also lacks masculinity or has it blocked in expression.
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Femininity
A set of instincts or reexes unique to females, and comprised of individual skills that are inborn, and yet can be cultivated, expressed, augmented, and utilized much like the tools in a tool belt - decodable by way of myths such as the goddesses of ancient Greece. Further study, see the Mature Masculine Power Program at www.menspsychology.com/courses/ miman.
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Impulsivity
A core of addiction, impulsivity is a negative, destructive use of ones anxiety, in which the anxiety is discharged through thoughtless action. Shown on the Anxiety Map of the MindO system, its cure is courage, which corrects the problem of lacking condence underneath ones anxiety. One may also lack boundary strength in exhibiting impulsivity or addiction.
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KWML
A personality typing system as well as a program from Mens Psychology Magazine which illustrates all the uses of personality in choosing a woman to date, befriend or marry, as well as how to build teams in the workplace. The KWML Mastery Program is that course. Also available as a free test at the KWML Test of Mens Psychology Magazine.
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Masculinity
A set of instincts or reexes unique to males, and comprised of individual skills that are inborn, and yet can be cultivated, expressed, augmented, and utilized much like the tools in a tool belt - decodable by way of myths such as the gods of ancient Greece. Further study, see the Mature Masculine Power Program at www.menspsychology.com/courses/ miman.
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Masochism ("Victim-thinking")
A negative, destructive use of anxiety in which one dumps on others, worries or complains at them, describes hopelessness or helplessness in the face of evidence to the contrary. Shown on the Anxiety Map of the MindOS system, it originates from lacking condence, and its cure if courage, which leads to new condence. It may also be foisted upon others when there is lacking boundary strength, or what are called holes in ones personal boundary.
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Mature Masculine Power

A program of Mens Psychology Magazine explaining career issues, the circuits of masculinity, and the process of male initiation into adult life.
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MindOS
A visual system of psychology from Mens Psychology Magazine explaining the conscious mind, its working parts in a graphic, practical way anyone can understand for the purpose of happiness, success, fulllment and general growth of character maturity.
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Passion
A feeling of being alive and the opposite of depresculinity - a feeling of being deadened and depressed. It is more than emotion. It is a force of instinct leading to action, and for men, is the same as masculinity, while for women it is the same as femininity. There are only two origins and uses of passion - that which causes one to survive and feel alive, feel viable, and that that pertains to reproduction, sex in romance.
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Self-esteem
A positive emotional energy that comes in two varieties according to the MindOS system: well-being, and condence. It is also the core of love and forming friendships, as in the second phase of human courtship described in the Omega Male Program, and in detail in the emotional connections between personality styles in the KWML personality system.
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Superhero Masculinity
A program that goes hand in hand with Mature Masculine Power, in envisioning mens instincts as like superhero powers one would have in a utility belt.
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The Anger Map

A visual method of understanding the type of self-esteem called well-being, and described in MindOS and other Mens Psychology Programs. It explains the nature and technology to deal with aggression, depression, hurt feelings, needs in life not being met, as well as victim attitudes.
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The Anxiety Map

A visual method of understanding all things pertaining to anxiety and fear, masochism and victim-thinking, impulsiveness and addiction, suffering of loss and lack of condence, the second type of self-esteem besides well-being. Its principles are fully covered in the MindOS Program.
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The Omega Male Program

A complete system of courtship explaining the three phases and all steps of the human mating sequence, as well as troubleshooting any romantic situation, date, relationship or marriage for what works and what doesnt with a particular individual. Much like an MRI machine for ones romantic life. It comes with a practical applications module in the form of the Virtual Dating Coach.
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The Personal Boundary

An invisible circle around every person, and marking ones territory, privacy, and what is in ones control and responsibility in life, versus what is not (which is outside the boundary.) It is what is referred to by skin when one has thin skin or thick skin or someone gets under your skin. It is the buttons people can push, and its gaps or holes are the places where one has issues or is oversensitive, dramatic, overwhelmed, or stressed. Described in the MindOS system in basic, and extensively in Masculine Intelligence in Personal Boundaries, this feature of your psyche is like a shield against stress, is like a tank which can contain all your psychological resources, and acts as a lter of what is good for you versus what is not, and a budgeter of your resources. It contains your personal strength, respect for self and others, and is strengthened by developing skill at both saying and hearing the word, no.
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The Virtual Dating Coach

A literal articial intelligence program in audio form, t for an iPod or MP3 player, in which a man can receive coaching, live, out on the town at the early steps of courtship with a woman. All contingencies are covered in terms of what they do wrong in attracting women, and corrective measures are recommended for each.
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Well-being
A maternal variety of self-esteem or positive emotional energy, but not gender-specic. Males of the King or Lover personality style in the KWML system can be dominant in this type of emotional energy or self-esteem. It is nurturing in essence, and is the reward achieved when one exercises assertiveness getting ones own needs met without harming or using others.
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We!are!going!to!be!covering!all!of!the!general!areas!of!a man's! life!and!we're!going!to!be!applying!this!idea!of masculine! intelligence!to!those!areas.!!That's!what!we're going!to!do.

The Science of Being a Man

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The Science of Being a Man

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The!host!of!the!show!was!commenting!on!what!he!felt!was an!atrocious!court!ruling!in!a!criminal!case,!where!the!person got!off!even!though!everyone!thought!that!they!were!guilty.

we!here,!what!are!we!meant!to!do,!and!how!does!the!world work!around!us? It's!thinking!about!thinking.

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Who is Dr. Paul?

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for!men!and!speaking!men's!language!to!them!about psychology!and!how!it!works!in!a!way!that's!going!to!be very!powerful!for!you!specically!as!a!man.!! The!science!of being!a!man!is!what!we're!all!about.

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Instincts vs. Character

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When Things Dont Make Sense

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draw!on!at!Men's!Psychology!is!Evolutionary!Psychology. I!had!said!at!the!outset:!"Who!am!I!and!what!is!it!that!I've created!here?"!!

Three Brains of Being a Man

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The Reptilian Brain

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The Mammalian Brain

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The Higher Brain

The!last!part!of!the!brain!evolutionary!psychologists!call!the higher!brain. The!higher!brain!is!what!makes!us!more!sophisticated!than other!animals.!! It!houses!our!intellectual!ability!and especially!is!houses!our!ability!to!

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Two Areas of Life to Master as a Man

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Relations With Women

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!!Skills!in!career,!and... !!Skills!at!being!a!man... ...and!then!nally!one!to!wrap!them!all!together: skills!at growth!and!evolution.

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How Your Brain Affects Work

the!same!way!that!software!can!run!on!computer!hardware. Your!brain!is!like!hardware!and!your!mind!is!like!software. When!we!talk!about!software!in!the!computer!world,

The!higher!brain!is!everything!intellectual!and!your conscious!mind!and!how!it!works.!!It!has!a!lot!of!working parts!too.

sometimes!we!use!this!phrase:!operating!system.!!That means!the!software!that!houses,!contains!and!channels!all the!workings!of!any!other!kind!of!software.!!That's!an operating!system. MindOS!means:!the!operating!system!of!the!human!mind.

Why Men Compete

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May the Best Man Win

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Women!would!take!roles!in!organizing,!protecting,!and conserving!the!grain!through!the!winter,!for!example.!!They would!know!how!much!there!is!and!how!long!it!will!last; child!rearing!and!child!care!while!the!men!were!out!killing.

each!other!in!rank.!!We!need!to!do!that,!it's!built!into!our instincts!because!if!we!don't,!at!some!point!in!times'!past,!we could!die!for!not!doing!that. Now!when!women!compete,!it's!more!about!a!sense!of:!!do!I

grow,!even!though!one!person!will!be!called!the!victor,!one person!will!be!called!the!winner!and!the!other!guy!won't. We!both!learn!from!it.

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Men Who Play Dirty

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Why Learn Mens Psychology?

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Mens Psychology is Different

Sex, and Being a Man Around Women

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Sex and Being a Man

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PERSONALITY A!King!or!a!Queen!is!a!nurturing,!kind,!yet!wise!and thoughtful!analytical!person. A!Warrior!is!an!analytical,!targeted,!exact!logic-based person!who!is!harddriving!and!outgoing.!!They!are!action- taking. A!Magician!is!more!on!the!creative!side!of!thinking,!less

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