CONSOLIDATION

The CARE and ATTENTION given to a new believer until the

character of Christ is seen in him or her.
Why Consolidate?
its basic
to care for the babies
to raise up fathers
to close the back door
to grow the church
its B.R.I.D.G.E that connect
B- asic Question and Assessment (Verification)
R- elational Group (Allocation)
I- ntentional Phone Call (Phone Call)
D- irect Meeting (Visitation)
G- uideline for Growth (Follow up materials)
E- ncounters (Pre-Encounter, Encounter & PostEncounter)
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Therefore, go and make and make disciples of all nations
-Matthew 28:19-20
The purpose of the church is to Win souls and make disciples! We
cant make disciples of people that we dont keep.
Consolidation is connecting the new believer to
Christ
Cell
Church
Its all about relationship
Get rid of ME mentality! Its not about you, its all about them.
The process of consolidation begins as soon as a person gets saved.
Consolidation is completed when the person graduates from PostEncounter.
1. HOW TO DO AN ALTAR CALL IN THE CELL?
After the lesson have everyone bow their heads and close their
eyes.
Begin with identifying their condition: Romans 3:23, we are
sinners.

 Secondly, identify their problem: Romans 6:23, sin separates

them from God in a place the Bible calls hell.
Next, give them the hope we have in Jesus: Romans 5:8-9, God
loves us so much that he sent Jesus to die for us while we were
still sinners! There is hope for the problem.
After Altar Call

Confirms, explains, and reaffirms salvation.

Leader prays with them at cell to receive salvation.
Teach them the importance of cell and church.
Fill our ministry form
Explain to them that when they come to church on Sunday,
they need to respond during the Altar Call.
Why?
To make a public declaration.
To enter them into the process.
Go in front immediately!
To create an atmosphere for salvations, excitement.
To calm the fears of those who want to go in front.
2. HOW TO DO AN ALTAR CALL?
Every celebration the Pastor must invite people to receive Christ
in their life.
Invite the people to go in front if they would like to receive Christ.
Leader/Friend goes with them to the front of the church.
Pray with the Pastor to receive Christ.
Go to the Consolidation room.
This officially enters them into the consolidation process.
BASIC QUESTION AND ASSESSMENT (VERIFICATION)
1. Bring them to Consolidation Room (a short presentation of the
Gospel is once again presented to them.)
2. Introduce yourself
3. Break the ice
4. Ask simple diagnostic questions
5. Reinforce specific teaching points that are relevant to the person
6. Fill out the verification form
7. Ask for their prayer need and pray for them.
Schedule the initial follow up meeting within 24 hrs.
Dont wait to make a phone call.
o Meet with them within 24 hrs of Salvation and start the
consolidation lessons.
o Make sure they go back to Church!.
The Principle is The longer it takes the harder it gets

RELATIONAL GROUP (ALLOCATION)

Involve them in your cell.
Let them feel as if it is their cell & their Church.
Teach them the importance of bringing their friends so that
their friends can be saved.
If you cannot fit them in your cell.
Endorse them to other Cell Leader.
Be sure the person will be able to attend a cell.
INTENTIONAL PHONE CALL (PHONE CALL)
Purpose of the phone visit:
1. To show a genuine interest in the person and
their need.
2. To win the confidence of the new believer.
3. To leave the doors open for a visit.
How to prepare the call?
1. In prayer
2. Find the appropriate place
3. Planning the time
How to make a call
1. Greet the person politely
2. Start the conversation
3. Evaluate their spiritual condition
4. Set an appointment for a visit
5. Pray for the person
Strategies for success
1. Always be pleasant and friendly
2. Avoid:
Being harsh or impatient during the conversation
Putting pressure on the new believer
Taking more time than necessary
Arguing or confronting
Showing self-interest, rather than considering the needs of
the other person.
DIRECT MEETING (HOME VISITATION)
Purpose of Visitation:
1. To find out what their impression was about the meeting they
attended at church.
2. To find out their needs and to minister to them under the
guidance of the Holy Spirit.

3. To link them to a cell group, and encourage them to get

involved in the church activities, especially to go on an
Encounter.
How to prepare the visit?
1. Contact the person,(by phone) and tell that person your desire
to visit and pray for them.
2. Set the day, time and place of the visit. (also done in phone
visit.)
3. Meet with the person who is going to accompany you. Pray
together to have Gods support.
Making the Visit
1. Introduce yourselves
2. Find out where they are spiritually
3. Share
4. Pray
5. Involve
6. Release Peace
Ensuring the success of your Visit
1. Take care of your personal appearance and remember that
you are the ambassador of Goa and his church (2 Cor. 5:20)
2. Be smart and clean and make sure you have fresh breath
(Heb. 10:22)
3. Speak and listen
4. Dont take too long
GUIDELINE FOE GROWTH (FOLLOW UP MATERIALS)
Start follow up lessons.
Every new believer must be met with within 24 hrs from the time
of salvation.
There are 6 follow up lessons
o You should easily do one lesson a week
FOLLOW UP LESSONS
1. IMMEDIATE FOLLOW-UP Confirm Salvation, importance of
Church and Cell
2. SECOND VISIT Teaching Spiritual Growth & Divine
Guidance (Devotional)
3. THIRD VISIT How to Overcome Temptation
4. FOURTH VISIT Finances
5. FIFTH VISIT Holy Spirit (right before Encounter)
6. SIXTH VISIT Teach them How to Give their Testimonies
(after Encounter)
SUPPLEMENTAL TEACHINGS

1. Overcoming the Fear

2. Overcoming the Family Problems
3. Overcoming Depression
4. Healing
5. Overcoming Rejection
6. Courtship
7. Supplemental Teachings
NOTE: These do not replace the 5 follow up lessons. These are
teaching that you can use as a means to help you minister more
specifically to the needs of the people who are being saved.

The leader job in consolidation

To put a guard around your people from the enemy
To equip the new believer to walk out their new life today
To answer questions/ fear/ doubts so that they can walk in
confidence.
Help them to fall in love with the Jesus who saved them (personal
intimate relationship)
ENCOUNTERS (PRE-ENCOUNTER, ENCOUNTER & POSTENCOUNTER)
Talk with them about the Encounter
o Tell them the dates
o Teach them the Pre-Encounter
o Help them to raise money
o Create an excitement in them to meet God.
Guide them in the Encounter/Post-Encounter
o As spiritual leader minister to them during the encounter
o Be sure they finish the Post-Encounter.

CONSOLIDATION FOLLOW UP LESSONS

MESSAGES TO MINISTER
And my speech and my preaching was not with enticing words of
mans wisdom, but in demonstration of the Spirit and of power. 1 Cor.
2:4
Three Words of Advice in Giving These Lessons:
1. Dont go with words of human wisdom, but rather with the Holy
Spirits power. Dont preach. Present God as alive and real,
capable of changing all things because He has the power to do it.
In other words, not boring! Make it conversational.
2. Be totally dependent upon God, knowing that everything you say
and do is from Christ. It is not through your ability but through
Gods mercy.
3. Seek guidance of the Holy Spirit. He is the only One who knows
the heart of the new believer. He can reveal to us deep things
about them, so that we can touch their lives with the power of
God. Study!
Explain the lesson within 10 minutes. The simpler the message,
the better result will be. Always use the bible as the foundation of
your explanations and counsel. Use practical and personal
examples that will help your listener to develop their faith. Make
sure your objectives are clear, and not get side-tracked from it. The
lesson must be simple, practical, and centered to Christ. Be positive
and never condemning. Give encouragement, inspire faith, bring out
the restoration, and dont forget to bring them to true repentance.
Always edify and build up faith in your listener, emphasizing that
we are children of God. Remember, a conversation that fails to
show the love of God and inspire their faith, does not build life in
the new believer, nor does it encourage them to follow Jesus.
Conclude by inviting the new believer to put into practice all
that they have learned, and motivate them to do follow through.
Share the benefits of obedience, listening to Gods advice and
daring to find
out that He will never disappoint those who trust in Him. Remember,
you have the power of God to do this work and that is why He
chose and sent you. Believe God. He does not send anyone to fail.
He will support you and use you thank to your obedience and
willingness.

1st Visit: CONFIRM SALVATION & IMPORATANCE OF CELL AN

CHURCH
24-HOUR FOLLOW-UP
OBJECTIVE: To make sure the new believer completely understands their new decision and knows the importance of going to cell
and church.
1. GOD LOVES YOU- He loves you so much that you are called
his child. (1 John 3:1)
2. SIN- separates you from God, it is not to be tolerated or
laughed at. (Romans 3:23) ...all have sinned and fall short of
the glory of God (Romans 3:12) All have turned away from
God; all have gone wrong. NO one does good. Not even one.
3. CHRIST IS THE ONLY WAY- (Romans 5:8) But God showed
His great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we
were still sinners Jesus Christ was crucified for your sins.
(John 14:6) I am the way, the truth and the life. No one can
come to Father except through me.. There is no other way;
His sacrifice was perfect!
4. REPENTANCE- To repent means to turn around and go the
other way, its a choice. (Acts 3:19) Now turn from your sins
and turn to God, so you can be cleansed of your sins. To
repent is to change your way of thinking to think like God.
5. RECEIVING CHRIST- (Romans 10:9-10) if you confess
with your mouth that Jesus is the Lord and believe in your
heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be
saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and
with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
6. THE IMPORTANCE OF CHURCH AND CELL- Emphasize 4
things: support, strength, friends and encouragement. (Acts
2:44, 46-47) And all the believers met together constantly and
shared everything they had. They worshiped together at the
Temple each day, met in homes for the Lords Supper, and
shared their meals with great joy and generosity- all the while
praising god and enjoying the goodwill of all the people. And
each day the Lord added to their group those who were being
saved. (Hebrews 10:25) not neglecting to meet together,
as is the habit of some, encouraging one another; and all the
more as you see the day drawing near.
7. PRAY FOR THEM
2nd Visit: SPIRITUAL GROWTH AND DIVINE GUIDANCE
Second Visit

Objective: To teach the new believer what they need to do in order

to grow in their Christian life and how to receive Godly guidance in
making decision.
For the word of God is living and active; sharper than any double
edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints
and marrow, it judges thought and attitude of the heart Hebrews
4:12
1. Make sure they: have a Bible, what version, make sure they
know how to use it, know what the Old and New Testament
is, etc
2. Teach them how to do a devotional, beginning with the New
Testament. Guidelines; read three chapters each morning in
the New Testament, apply following topics in a journal after
choosing the verses for that day:
a. Message to you (Summary of Verses)
b. Promises for you
c. Commands
d. Warnings
e. Personal Application
3. Teach them to leave a legacy to their family about what God
has done in their lives Give personal testimony about your
devotional life and how it has helps you.
4. Teach the new believer how to pray to God in a
Conversational way. Tell them to be open with God, He
wants to help them in every area of their life and he cares
about their family too. He hears their prayers!
5. Prayer and devotionals will help them make decisions that
shape their future. They need to listen to god and obey what
He says, which will bring great blessing in their lives! The
new believer doesnt have to do it alone anymore; they have
Jesus to guide them and you to help as well.
Minister to the new believer to start on a daily discipline if
reading the Bible and praying. Pray for them so that they see
how to do it, and allow them the opportunity to pray if they wish
to.
3rd Visit: HOW TO OVERCOME TEMPTATION
Third Visit
Objective: Too give the new believer the tools needed to overcome
troubles and sin, and to live in victory.

But remember that the temptation that come into your life are no
different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will
keep the temptation from becoming so strong that you cant stand
up against it. When you are tempted , he will show you a way out so
that you will not give in to it.
1 Corinthians 10:13
1. God knows us and He will never let us receive any temptation
that is too great for us to resist.
2. God provides us with a way of escape from temptation.
3. Because Christ, Himself, was tempted and overcame it, He is
there with us when we are tempted and is able to help us
overcome it.
4. Encourage the new believer to honestly acknowledge their
weakness and to ask for Gods help because He is our only
source of help.
5. Encourage them to spend time doing things that will
strengthen their spiritual life (studying and reading bible,
6. Ask them to tell you the things that have changed their life
since they got saved. Tell them what they can lose if they give
in to temptation.
4th Visit: FINANCES
Fourth Visit
OBJECTIVE: To encourage the new believer to trust that God is
able to take care of all their needs.
1. God by his nature is a giver and a provider. (Genesis 22:14)
2. The curse of financial poverty began with the fall of man
(Genesis 3:17-19).
3. Christ has redeemed us from the curse of the law (Galatians
3:13-14).When Christ died on the cross, the crown of thorns
symbolized that He was carrying the curse of Genesis 3:17.
Therefore, today when we receive Him in our lives (confirm
their salvation at this point) we are freed from the curse of
poverty.
4. God promises to supply all our needs. He commits to provide
for all His children who obey Him.
5. Encourage the person to believe in the sufficient of the death
Christ to redeem them and that He desires to give them all
they need. Invite them to begin to pray every day specifically
for their needs.
6. Pray for them!
Christ has redeemed us from the curse of the aw, having become a
curse for us for it is written Cursed is everyone that is hung on a

tree.
Galatians 3:13
5th Visit: TEACHING ON THE HOLY SPIRIT
Fifth Visit
(This lesson needs to be taught right before they go to the
Encounter)
OBJECTIVE: To show the new believer their need for more power
in their walk and a deeper intimacy with the Lord.
1. The Promise
a. Jesus promise the Holy Spirit to His disciple (John 7:3739)
b. The disciples received the promised Holy Spirit. (Acts 2:14)
c. Jesus promised the Holy Spirit to us. (Acts 2:29)
2. What difference does the Holy Spirit make in my life?
a. The Holy Spirit communicates to us and through us
(1Corinthians 14:2, Romans 8:26)
b. Courage- you will receive power to reach others (Acts
1:8)
3. How I can I have this gift?
a. Thirst: you have to want it (John 7:37-39)
b. Believe: the Lord will give you the promised gift (Luke
11:10-13)
c. Ask (like 11:10-13)
d. Receive (John 20:22)
e. Keep being filled (Ephesians 5:18)
TWELVE STEPS FOR NEW BELIVERS
1. Through the law comes the knowledge of sin- 1 Timothy 1:8,
Romans 7:7, Mark 10:17-18, Romans 3:19
2. Holy Spirit Conviction- Acts 2:37
3. Repentance- Acts 2:38
4. Water Baptism- Acts 2:38
5. Holy Spirit Baptism- Acts 2:38
6. Break the Generational Curses- Galatians 3:13
7. Command the blessings of Abraham- Deuteronomy 28:1-3
8. Join a cell- Acts 2:46
9. Connect with a cell leader and immediately begin follow upEphesians 4:11-14
10. Give them a Bible- 2 Timothy 3:16-17

11. Sign them up for the Pre-Encounter and Encounter- Acts

2:42
12. Coach them to give their testimony- Revelation 12:11
prayer, cell and church attendance).
6th Visit: SHARING YOUR TESTIMONY
Sixth Visit
(This lesson is to be taught after they attend the Encounter)
OBJECTIVE: After they attend the Encounter, show the how to
prepare their testimony and importance of giving it.
WHY DO WE GIVE OUR TESTIIMONY?
The Great Commission: Matthew 28:19-20
Therefore go and make disciple of all nations, baptizing them in the
name of the Father, and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. Teaching
them to obey everything I commanded on you. And surely I am with
you always to the very end of the age.
We are commanded to get people saved.
God has changed you, you are different, you are a new
creation
Tell people what He has done for you, what has changed, how
you have changed.
He who has the son has life, he who does not have the Son
does not have life you want your friends and family to go to
heaven, right?
Revelation 12:11 And they overcame him by the blood of the
Lamb, and by the word of their testimony, and they loved not their lives
unto
the death.
CELL LEADER:
Empower them to give their testimony (be encouraging)
They need to know that there is power in their testimony; no
one can take that away from them.
Make them confident in their testimony.
Go with them when they meet with their friend.
Meet with people every day you can.
Do not let them go 30 days without winning someone
Doesnt have to be same age, sex or gender to give testimony
to..
WHEN DO YOU GIVE YOUR TESTIMONY?

Meet with your friends and family individually and share your
testimony. Your leader will be there to help you win them you Christ!
GUIDELINES TO FOLLOW IN GIVING YOUR TESTIMONY:
My attitudes, needs and problems before I received Christ
Some examples of needs are:
Lack of peace
No meaning to life
Lack of security
No real security
Fear to death
Desire to be in control
Lack of purpose
No motivation
Something missing
Lack of significance
Loneliness
My life revolved around me, and I gained happiness and
security from
Examples are
Social life
Marriage/family
Drugs/alcohol
Money
Hobbies/entertainment
Work
Sports/fitness
Education
Sexual relationships
1. How did this/these disappoint me?
2. When and how did I first hear about Christ?
3. What were my struggles just before I received Christ?
4. What happened when I received Christ and how did my
attitude begin to change, why?
State specifically the steps you took to become a Christian.
What happened after I received Christ?\
How has my life changed, and when did I notice that
change?
State how Christ is filling your deep inner needs. In the before,
you expressed your needs and how your tried unsuccessfully to

meet them. You now want to briefly show the difference that
Christ has made in your life. Be authentic. Let them know that
life can still be struggle. You might want to share how your
relation-ship with Christ has helped you through a tough time.
Conclude with a statement like this: But one of the greatest
benefits is that I know with certainly that I have eternal life. (1
John 5:11-12)
How am I motivated differently now?
HOW TOPREPARE AND SHARE YOUR PERSONAL TESTIMONY?
One of the most effective tools you have for sharing your faith is the
story of how Jesus Christ gave you eternal life and how He has
enriched your life. By following the steps outlined in this paper, you will
learn how to tell others in the same manner about how you came to
know Christ. The choice of the right words, the flow of your story, and
knowing how to begin and how to end are all important.
Testimonies can be prepared on many subjects and tailored to various
audiences. The kind of testimony outlined here is designed to be given
To a non-Christian and is best suited for sharing one-on-one.
The purpose of preparing a testimony is not necessarily to memorize it
and give it verbatim, but to help you put into words some off the
important
and interesting details of your conversion and personal relationship
with Jesus Christ. A testimony serves primarily as a doo-opener, not
a
convincing tool. Many people are open to talk about the gospel after
Hearing a personal testimony.
LEADING INTO YOUR TESTIMONY
When you feel comfortable giving your testimony, you may begin to
wonder, When do I share it, or How do I initiate conversation that
will lead to presenting my testimony? The following suggestion may
help:
1. Establish rapport and include some small talk: Discuss
family,
job, hobbies, interest, etc
2. Be alert for expressed needs such as family problems or
stress on the job: Be a good listener, first! You can them share
how Christ has helped you through some of the same areas

3. Discuss part concerns and needs in your life:

We used to struggle in our marriage relationship, or, I used to
allow the pressures of work to get to me then I discovered
something that made a tremendous difference in my life. Would
you be interested in hearing about it?
4. Discuss contemporary situations in the news or in your
area:
(e.g. in response to a discussion that turns to the problem of
drug abuse on campus) It seems that people are really trying to
find something that satisfies. Ive found that my relationship with
God has met many of those deep needs in my life.
5. Build relationships: show that you really care. Dr. Daniel
Everett of the University of Pittsburg said it well when he spoke
here last year, The #1 commodity of the university is ego. The
scarcest resource is love. If you show that you care, people will
ask you why.
6. Avoid religious statements or arguments on moral issues.
THE CLOSE
When you have shared your personal testimony, you may want to
conclude with a statement that causes the person to reflect on what
you have just shared. What you say will depend on how this person
has been responding to what you have shared.
If their response seems positive you could say something like:
1. Bill, has anything like this ever happened to you?
2. Mary, do you know for certain whether you have eternal life?
3. May I share with you someday why I know for certain that I have
eternal life?
4. May I share an illustration with you that explains how a person can
know for certain that he has eternal life?
Will you commit to preparing your personal testimony?

SUPPLEMENTAL TEACHINGS
After the initial teaching you can use the following messages
according to their needs.
Also, if they need ministry in one of the following areas you may
substitute it in place of one of the initial teachings. (But make sure that
you make up the missed lesson. You must teach them all of the initial
teachings.)
Fear
Depression

Rejection
Family Problem
Healing
Courtship

OVERCOMING FEAR
OBJECTIVE: To motivate people to trust in the Lord as their source of
help.
1. What is fear? Fear- to feel a painful apprehension of some
impending evil; to feel anxiety on an account of some expected
evil. If you focus on what
you fear, it will take root in your heart. It then comes out of your
mouth and is empowered by a demonic spirit. The fears of the
wicked will all come
true; so will the hopes of the righteous. (Proverbs 10:24)
2. Fear start limits our abilities (Proverbs 29:25). Fear will cause you
to miss out on opportunities, to be negative and to think that
everything is
impossible. What controls your life, fear or faith? Are you afraid
to surrender your life to Jesus? Are you afraid to trust the Lord with
your money? Are
you afraid to trust Lord with your children?
3. The solution is faith. We are called to live a life motivated by faith
and not by fear. Fear is the opposite of faith. Dont live your life
dedicated by fear.
4. We conquer our fears by the love of Jesus. There is no fear in
love. But perfect love drives out the fear.. (1 John 4:18) His
presence brings us strength, value and faith, and takes away
every negative thought. For God has not given us a spirit of fear,
but power and love and of a sound mind. (2 Timothy 1:7)
5. Encourage the new believer not to let fear and negative thinking
dominate them. Motivate them to confess that now they are in
Jesus, He will go
before them and no evil will come to them. Pray with them,
emphasizing the fact that Jesus is in them and that he will remain
with them. will remain
with them.
OVERCOMING FAMILY PROBLEMS

OBJECTIVE: To challenge the new believer to overcome all obstacles

in family reconciliation.
1. Every family problem brings tension to members of the family and
creates an environment of conflict and insecurity.
2. It is necessary to forgive in order to bring Christs presence into
the home. (Matthew 5:251-26)
3. Taking the first step towards reconciliation is a true Christian act
which is pleasing to God. At the same time we are receiving the
forgiveness that God offers us. (Matthew 18:32-25)
4. Tell them that their family must have a direction and a purpose.
(Proverbs 29:18) There must be one vision because two vision is
die-vision. (Matthew 12:25)
5. Teach them that prayer can help us to learn how to work out our
differences and how to change.
COMMENT: We must not try to force others into reconciliation. It is
better to allow the Holy Spirit to work in each person. Pray for each
family member, that forgiveness, restoration and love will come upon
them. Wherever possible, look for a way in which the offended
person can pray for and bless the one who hurt them, as this will
bring true forgiveness. If you overcome your pride, you will take the
first steps to achieve reconciliation.
OVERCOMING DEPRESSION
OBJECTION: To restore hope, renew their thoughts, and help them to
leave things in the hands of God.
1. Depression is a state of mind that causes people to see everything
round them in a negative way. They experience feelings of
sadness, failure, rejection, and lose sight of reality. They are
overwhelmed by a feeling that God has abandoned them.
Hopelessness.
2. You must show that person that they are not alone. Emphasize
the fact that God is with them and that they must seek Him.
3. Encourage them to renew their mind. (Romans 12:2). Changing
their way of thinking will enable them to see the marvelous plans
that God has for their life.
4. Invite them to cast their cares on to Jesus (Matthew 11:28). It is
His desire that we give Him all our worries so that we can find our
rest in Him.
5. Prayer must be a confession of victory, a declaration of the
excellent things god has for us and must emphasize how much
god loves us and believes in us.

COMMENT: Encourage the new believer not to let their problem

oppress them. Encourage them to trust in Jesus and to bring all their
feelings and problems to Him. Pray with them emphasizing Gods
Sovereignty and the fact that God is in control of all things. be
transformed by the renewing of your mind. Romans 12:2
HEALING
OBJECTIVE: To get the sick person to the point where they believe
that Jesus took their sickness and He will heal them.
1. Sickness is not Gods purpose (John 10:10). Explain that God
does not like to see His sons and daughters sick. On the contrary,
He desires to heal
them so that they can enjoy abundant life.
2. Jesus came to die on the cross to give us salvation (confirm
salvation in the new believer at this point) and also to carry our
sickness in His body (Isaiah 53:4). When Christ died on the cross,
He also established freedom from infirmity for us. Therefore, He
has
the power to heal those who believe on him.
3. Jesus promise to us is this: if we believe, we will lay hands on sick
people and they will get well. We must explain that our hands are
nothing special- it is Jesus that heals though our touch. (Mark
16:17-18)
COMMENT: Do not be afraid of praying for those who are sick. Pray
according to Isaiah 53:4-5 and Exodus 15:26. Make sure the person
you are talking to believers in Christ and has decided to obey him.
Surely He has borne our griefs (sickness) and carried our sorrows
(pains)
OVERCOMING REJECTION
OBJECTIVE: To show the new believer that rejection is a trick of an
enemy, and to demonstrate that God accepts them unconditionally.
1. Rejection is a feeling that you are inferior to other people and that
you have no value; feeling unwanted. Desiring love but not
believing that anyone cares. Left out, no sense of belonging,
unable to give or receive love.
2. Three keys to overcome rejection:
a. Understand that love is our biggest need.
We were created with a need to love and to be loves. To us,
love is acceptance. This is the reason that we are always
looking for acceptance. Everyone needs to feel loved. Its not
okay to be loved, you need to feel loved.

b. Renounce rejection
Satan specializes in making man fell rejected. This is one of
his most powerful weapons. (If you want to be a good wife,
mother, friend you have to get healed emotionally) Rejection
is the most terrible feeling that a person can experience.
Things That Cause Rejection: Not loved as a child (feel loved),
negative or destructive words, physically or emotionally
abused, adultery, divorce, constant criticism as a child, sexual
abuse.
Sign or Expression of Rejection: Depression, violence, anxiety;
escaping through excessive work, TV, drugs, hobbies, video
games, psychosomatic disease (originates in the
mindulcers) manipulation, lust and fantasies, obsessive
behaviors, rebellion.
c. Releasing Forgiveness
Jesus was clear about forgiveness
Forgive us for doing wrong, as we forgive others. (Matthew
6:12)
Jesus knows how much bitterness can destroy our heats.
3. It is important to show the new believer just how valuable he or
she is to God. Ephesians 1:13-14 shows hoe God blesses us and
wants the best for us, He has adopted us as His children,
forgiving us, and loving us in spite of everything.
COMMENTS: Encourage the new believer not to believe things that
people have said about them in the past. Rather encourage them to
believe what
says about them and to understand their adoption as a child of God
and the real value God places on them.
COURTSHIP
OBJECTIVE: To make the new believer aware of the importance of
courtship, making decisions about courtship, and the role of courtship
as a preparation towards marriage.
1. God loves you and wants the best for you. For I know the plans I
have for you declares the Lord plans to prosper you not to harm
you, plans to give you a hope and better future. There is no one
that knows you better than God. He knows exactly the type of
person who is best suited to your character, and He will give him
or her to you. Just how God made Eve and Adam, He has made
someone just for you!
2.
God knows your heart, and He knows better than you
do who will be the best for you For the lord does not see as man

sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord
looks at the heart. (1 Samuel 16:7)
By far the best and safest way of choosing the right person is to
seek the guidance of the One who knows our hearts. Our own
wisdom can fail us, but God does not make mistakes.
3. Courtship is a preparation for marriage. For this reason we
should be careful who we give our hearts and affection to. Keep
your heart with all diligence, for out of its springs the issues of
life. (Proverbs 4:23)
4. Lead the person to commit their emotions to the Lord, seeking
His direction until He gives them an answer. Encourage the
person to ask God if the person they are friends with is the right
person for them. Get them ask God to develop[ a close spiritual
harmony between them if the person is right for them to marry
and, if not, for Him to take away their peace. If the person is not
right, tell them to ask God to give them the boldness to end the
relationship.
5. Pray for them that they will have a pure relationship, focused on
God and His plan in this.
6. Tell them that you will hold them accountable for the things that
they desire this relationship.