LEADERSHIP & SUCCESS

In Relationships & Communication

Personal or internal actions

Marcus O. Durham, PhD

Robert A. Durham, PhD
Rosemary Durham

Dream Point Publishers

Tulsa

Leadership & Success

In Relationships & Communication
Personal or internal actions
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TO

Pettie Beason Durham, my Mom, who taught me by getting things

done while others were thinking about it.
In Memoriam:
William O. Durham, D. Min., my Dad, who taught me about
leadership through example, before I knew its importance. During
his youth, because of the Great Depression, he only went through
the eighth grade. At age 79, he completed his Doctorate.

TABLE OF CONTENTS
Title Page .......................................................................... 1
Leadership & success series .......................................... 13
Where we are going

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1. Who do you think you are?.................................................... 14

First
Personal, interpersonal, leadership
Success machine model
Plan
Goal setting
Surpass yourself
Interaction
Technology terminology
Leadership issues
Review

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2. Personality temperament....................................................... 25
Wiring
Development environments
Assessment
Blend
Results
Interpretation
Tradition, tradition
Fast forward
D. A. Choleric
Validity
Correlation
Review

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3. Personality style ...................................................................... 43

Transition
Control model
Characteristics of types
D A Choleric, expressive logic
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I C Sanguine, expressive feeling
S S Phlegmatic, controlled feeling
C T Melancholy, controlled logic
Counterpoints
Negative logic, destructive
Negative feeling, indecisive
Uncontrolled feeling, stubborn
Uncontrolled logic, cantankerous
Other indicators
Direction
Common negatives
Parting shot
Impressions
Use in leadership
Review

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4. Leadership style ...................................................................... 65

Three influences
What style
Blake & Mouton grid
Theory x theory y
Theory z
Teams
Assessments
One for the money
Two for the show
Three to get ready
What next
Vision
Review

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5. Leadership foundations.......................................................... 82
Leadership development
Leader or boss
10 Qualities of Successful Leaders
80 / 20
Am I enough
Time to yourself
Delegation
Organizational Structures
Assessment
Review

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6. Character: Leaders have values ............................................ 98

Leadership & Success in Organization & Culture

Society needs
A little history
Virtue
Morality
Integrity
Compassion
Charisma
Calm
Patience
Kindness
Confidence
Genteelness
Control
Freedom
Categorical
Review

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7. Motivation ............................................................................. 111

Where from
What is it
High performers
Assessment
Maslow hierarchy of needs
Positive and negative motivation
Resolving difficulties
Review

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8. Communication .................................................................... 126

What is it
Communication cues
Keep it positive
Gentleman with class
Conversation
Telephone
Electronic mail
Grammar
Parlor games
What did you say
Review

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9. Presentations ......................................................................... 142

What is it
Apprehension
Kinesis demonstration

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Ten steps for overcoming
Your topics
The paper
Visuals
Presentation
Presentation humor
Practice presentation
Assessment
Review

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10. Non-verbal communication.................................................. 162

What you see
First impression
Attire
Photography
Basic wardrobe
Facial care and grooming
Handshake
Exercise
Review

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11. Kinesics .................................................................................. 177

What do you know
Body language
Body temperament profile
Facial expressions
Eye expressions
Hand expression
Body images
What do you do
Review

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12. Graphology............................................................................ 196

Handwriting
History
Procedure
Three zones
Three figures
Seven shapes
Size
Angle
Termination
Humps
Circular

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Crossing
Review

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13. Review via aphorisms........................................................... 210

A pithy saying
Principles
End

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14. About the authors ................................................................. 215

Personal - MOD
Marcus O. Durham
Robert A. Durham
Rosemary Durham
Cover

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PREFACE

Everything we know is developed from something we have read,

heard, or seen. Therefore, these other thoughts necessarily influence
what we write. To the best of our knowledge, we have given
specific credit where appropriate.
Rather than footnotes or references, we have listed the works that
have provided significant information in one way or another, since
this is often in concepts rather than quotes.
Statements that are attributed to us are things we have used
commonly and do not recall seeing from someone else. Others
obviously have similar thoughts. If we have made an oversight in
any credits, we apologize and we would appreciate your comments.

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Thought
People are where they are
because of the choices they make
MOD

Where we are going ______________

How vast is the topic of Leadership and Success? How can you
benefit from skills in leadership? Can there be success without
leadership in some area? Are the principles the same for an
individual, a group, or a society? Are the practices the same for an
individual, a group, or a society? Is this a topic that can be taught or
is it something that is innate? How do you define leadership? What
is success?
These are just some of the questions answered in the series on
Leadership and Success. The topic is too broad for a single book. A
series of three volumes provide the foundations for continued
personal development and growth.
Each book in the Leadership & Success series addresses a different
group of topics, each related to your success as a leader. The
structure of this series is based on the three areas of leadership
involvement: internal development, horizontal interactions, and
vertical relationships. The progression of the three books is arranged
in the order in which you, as a leader, can have the most impact:
people, organization, and society.
The first book, on relationships and communication, deals with
individual relationships and how others perceive you. These
chapters are primarily involved with areas that you can impact
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directly. Relationships and communication is most interesting and

intriguing. Think about it. Everything we do is defined by how we
interact with others, while the topic of communication includes
everything from individuals to presentations and visual cues.
The second book, on organizations, culture, and ethics, deals with
the makeup of a venture or association. These chapters are primarily
oriented toward optimizing the performance within a group that may
be global. Think about it. Our culture is defined by how we interact
with others, while the topic of organizations includes everything
from businesses to social groups and even families.
The final book, on economics, law, and technology, concentrates on
the influences of society and groups outside your sphere. Society
includes everything that is outside of an organization. Economics
impacts the amount of money in your bank account. This book has
practical, day-to-day keys that you can use to make your venture
successful.
How is the best way to use the series? Because each is a stand alone
work, they can be used individually or as a group. The method
depends on the forum and the needs.
The books are structured for seminars as well as personal study. The
chapters are configured for a one to one-and-a-half hour discussion.
By completing all the activities, most chapters can require three to
four hours. Although the combination of books makes an excellent
text for a technical and engineering management course or
executive development programs, they are beneficial to anyone
desiring to improve.
These topics will be approached from the context of communication
and relationships, and will follow closely the principles developed
in the first book in the series. The remainder of the books will
discuss components of leadership and management, and will include
people relationships, organizations, and the tools necessary for
success. The topics, then, will include both the application and
implementation elements of a successful leader or a manager.

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Thought
Leadership and success
is about relationships.
MOD

First ___________________________
Leadership and success is about relationships.
You can have the confidence that you are at the top of your game.
The beginning of leadership and success is to understand the
foundations of human response. People react on three levels:
logically or mentally, emotionally, and physically.
In one perspective, these three reactions are inseparable. All three
influence each response that a person makes. Nevertheless, for
discussion and analytical purposes, it is convenient to focus on one
reaction at a time, and examine responses in different
circumstances.
There is a model of human response which can supply a framework
for addressing each person and situation. The objective of this
model is to provide a quick reference that covers the three types of
human interaction. Personal or internal reactions deal with how we
take care of ourselves. Interpersonal or horizontal relations deal with
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our interchange with peers. Leadership or external responses

influence how we relate to authority. Our responses in one arena
will have influence in the other two.
You can be all you want to be. It simply takes an appetite to
develop an attitude that controls the action.

The keys to success are the same in leadership and business, as they
are in personal relationships. The purpose of this discussion is to
identify these keys, and provide you an understanding of how to use
them to unlock your potential. The topics covered range from
personal development and interpersonal skills to effective
communication.

Personal, interpersonal, leadership __

Personal relationship defines how you see yourself as a complete
person. It is essential to understand how you are wired, and how this
influences your outward expression with attire and look. Equally
important is your ability to handle stress through meditation,
exercise, and nutrition.
Interpersonal skills describe the interactions that occur between two
people, or very small groups. Included in this discussion are diverse
topics such as personality types, verbal communications, and nonverbal language. The discussion of these responses and interactions
is in the context of a common control system model, used to define
interactions of physical systems in a technical and medical world.
Leadership is the process of influencing one or more people toward
a goal. Leadership necessarily is included in the discussion of each
topic in this series. Topics that specifically address influencing
groups include business structure, continuous improvement, and
negotiations.

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Success machine model____________

A control system model, or diagram, can graphically illustrate the
interaction and responses to certain situation. This response can be
referred to as your success machine. Proper tuning and fuel for your
machine breeds success, while negative reactions and a lack of
nourishment cause atrophy and demise. A simplified control system
model is shown below.
mental

stimulus

+/-

physical

emotional

An outside influence, or stimulus, stimulates an emotional reaction.

The emotional response promotes a physical reaction. The mental
faculties analyze the result and cause a feedback, or modification of
the perception or emotional response.
The three responses, or elements of the control system, can be
referred to in a variety of ways.
Emotional
Dream

Physical

Mental

Obstacles

Success

Appetite

Action

Attitude

Passion

Performance Prayer

Feelings

Results

Spirit

Heart

Hands

Head

The mental feedback is the way you choose to act. In any control
system, positive feedback causes an expansion that, unchecked,
ultimately approaches an explosion. Similarly, negative feedback
causes decline until a steady state of zero, or nothing, is reached.

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The same is true of your choices. Positive feedback causes growth.

Negative feedback causes destruction.

People are where they are because of the choices they make.
- MOD

You must feed each of the areas of the control, or response, system.
Without nourishment, that area of your success machine will cease.
Some of the ways your can feed your machine are illustrated for
each of the control areas.
A Dream is the process feeding the emotions by look, touch, or
pictures of where you want to be. It is a reminder of why you are
doing what you are doing. 7
The physical part of the system is the technical aspect of your
business or venture. Overcome obstacles by physical action or work.
At least once a year, attend and participate in a technical conference
related to your field. This not only allows you an opportunity to
keep up on the state of the art, but also can provide valuable
interaction and networking opportunities.
The mental portion of your success machine is driven by your
attitude. Attitude is developed by what you read, what you hear, and
with whom you associate. Attending a couple of motivational or
sales conferences a year enhances attitude, as does reading and
studying books and biographies written by proven leaders, The time
and effort will pay tremendous dividends.
Attitude is what keeps you going when the competition quits.

In all areas of your success machine, it is imperative to have a

mentor that can give you insight into areas that you do not have
experience, or in which you need improvement. A personal mentor
is fantastic. If that is not available, you must create a surrogate.
Your mentor for each area of your success machine need not be the
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more experienced, highly skilled professional in the same field. This

is often the easiest person to find.
Your mentor for your emotional or mental areas should be similarly
skilled and experienced in those areas. Choose people that have
success that you can draw from. To learn about attitude, choose
someone that has a good attitude. To gain skills when dealing with
your emotions, find someone that believes in you and your success,
and can help you see where you are going.

Plan____________________________
Your dream or vision does not change. It is your destination. It may
be refined as you gain experience, but the basic objective stays the
same.
The plan is the path that you take to get to your objection. It will
change. There is more than one way to accomplish any goal. The
plan is the process of going over, under, around, or through a
challenge.
Consider an example. When I start to go to my ranch, that
destination is my vision. I can travel along many roads. Some are
shorter, but have more stops. Others are circuitous, but go around
some of the challenges. I do not care what plan or path I use. I
simply want to get there with the resources I have available.
The desired route may not be the fastest or the most efficient; it may
be the most scenic, the most relaxing, or a route that allows you to
accomplish other things along the way. Similarly, the desired path
to your goal may not be the one that is the most direct. Other factors
such as family, relationships, health, and other commitments must
influence the plan.
Technologists tend to choose the most logical, most efficient plan,
and stick doggedly to it regardless of changes, challenges, obstacles,
or other factors. The key is the ultimate vision. No route, or plan, is
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If one plan does not work, chuck it. Get another one. Just keep your
focus on where you want to go.

Goal setting _____________________

There is a long-established story about goal setting. Although the
original report has not been identified, or documented, the results of
the study have been perpetuated in numerous forums, and have
reached the point of folklore. In our own surveys with students, we
have found similar results.
A Yale University study was conducted in 1953. Part of the research
asked about goals. Only 3% of the respondents had written,
definitive goals. The group was tracked 20 years later. The goalsetting group had more net-worth than the other 97% combined.
It is critical that you write down your goals and define a time that
you want them accomplished Often goals are not written because
people do not want to fail Some people consider it a failure if they
do not meet the goals in the time frame identified.
If you do not make a goal on time, it is not a failure. It is merely
another obstacle to overcome. Goals are a target or process, they are
not a destination.
If you do not make the date, you still have the goal. Simply refine
the plan and change the date. The goal, the dream, is still
unchanged.
A wag has said if you do not have a target you are sure to hit it.
- A wag
People do not often plan to fail; however, they often fail to plan.
- Adage

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Surpass yourself _________________

For each individual, the most important person is himself. This does
not, however, preclude serving others. Dale Carnegie realized this
and gave an excellent guide on serving other peoples needs and
achieving yours. [Carnegie] It is a win-win combination.
Find out what people want and help them to get it.
As a result you will get what you want.
- Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

In order to achieve personal success, you must have a different

mindset than the norm.
Suppose that you were willing to stretch yourself, willing to try
harder, determined to do more, then you can expect greater
frustration than the next person, more humiliation than the next
person, more setbacks than the next person. But as a result of this
kind of courage, you can also expect greater success than the next
person, you can experience the exhilaration of reaching heights
most people only dream of. In other words, you can surpass
yourself.
- Dr. Eden Ryl

This quote is from my good friend, Dr. Eden Ryl, a behaviorist,

trainer, consultant, and author. [Ryl] During the 1970s, she starred
in a series of dramatic and exciting behavioral training films. Some
of the titles include You Pack Your Own Chute, You Can
Surpass Yourself, Grab Hold of Today, "The Pike Syndrome,"
and The Joy of Involvement.

Interaction _____________________
Interaction with people is the key of any successful venture, whether
personal or business. Interaction takes place on three levels personal, interpersonal, and leadership. Alternately these can be
viewed as internal, external or horizontal, and vertical interactions.

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This discussion was developed to assist you, in understanding the

keys to a better future, through an emphasis on these relationships
and interactions. The principals discussed in this book are proven,
and are developed from many years of involvement with leadership
and management, education and teaching, as well as business
ownership and development. Each topic is addressed at least three
times: an overview followed by a detailed discussion, and finally,
real-world application and review.
What can application of these principals do for you? They can
provide the tools with which you can work to make your venture
successful and profitable.

Technology terminology ___________

In todays era of more and more rapid technological advances, no
discussion is complete without examining the impact of technology.
Technology influences every area of our lives, including leadership,
communication, and interactions. Since technology is so pervasive,
it is necessary to engage in some discussion to address terms and
how they are applied in this series.
Any person that understands the nuances of their industry can be
considered a technical professional in that area. We normally think
of technical experts as being engineers and scientists. However, an
art curator that comprehends the intricacies and methodology of a
painting is a technical authority. A marketing professional who
grasps the workings of the industry is a technician. An economist
who understands the interrelations of a market environment is
equally technical in his profession.
With this in mind, it is necessary to have terms that cross the
spectrum of fields. Technician is the current word for a mechanic. In
many peoples minds, this primarily relates to the manual activities
of a discipline. As a result, that term tends to be too limiting. From
an academic perspective, technologist is a term of art that applies to
a person with a four-year technical degree, yet lacks the advanced
math and science of an engineer. Since technologists are not

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analysts, that term, too, is limiting. A technocrat is a technical

expert in a managerial or administrative position. When it relates to
government, the term is bureaucrat. Since the topic under study is
leadership, that term is also limiting.
Three categories of people will be discussed in the technology
arena; however, only two words are required.
A technical specialist or techno-specialist is used to describe a
person that understands the technical nuances of the industry.
A techno-leader is used to describe not only the person that is in a
leadership positions with respect to the techno-specialists, but also a
person at an elevated level in a technical field.

Leadership issues ________________

Consider all the issues that are involved in leadership. In order to
address the development of leadership traits, those issues must be
defined. Despite the vast impact of these topics, the list is quite
short. Although no one is perfect and no one can master all these
areas, the more you develop each of these areas, the more success
you can expect.
Although some of the topics are difficult to grasp and master, they
are not simply ethereal ideals. They are the standards that define
leadership. Without attention to these principles, any leader is
destined for failure.
Vision
Ethics & morality
People
Time
Money
Technology
Quality
Safety
Environment & natural resources

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Legal
Each of these issues will be discussed from several perspectives. In
certain circumstances, some are more critical than others. All,
nevertheless, are critical components of your success.
Since leadership development is a process, there is a straightforward
method you can undertake to see how you are doing. Ask yourself a
series of questions based on these standards. If the answer to any of
these questions is no, consider looking at that area in more detail.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.
8.
9.

Is my vision of where I am going well defined?

Is my dealing with ethical & moral issues appropriate?
Is my relationship with people issues adequate?
Is my allocation of time issues appropriate?
Is my application of money issues adequate?
Is my understanding of technology issues adequate?
Is my implementation of quality issues adequate?
Is my performance of safety issues adequate?
Is my appreciation of environment & natural resources issues
adequate?
10. Is my response to legal issues sufficient?
These questions apply to relationships, organizations, government,
society, or the home.
To paraphrase the US Army, You can be all you want to be.
[Army]

Review _________________________
Leadership and success is about relationships. Relationships can be
internal/personal, horizontal/interpersonal, or vertical/leadership.
Your responses in one area impact the other two. The principles of
leadership issues are consistent across society and organizations.

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Application______________________
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.
8.

Write 3 goals you want to accomplish in the next year.

Write 2 goals you want to accomplish in the next 3 years.
Write the goals you want to accomplish in 10 years.
What are three ways in which people react?
What are the three types of human interaction
Explain the significance of Dale Carnegies statement.
What is the key to any successful venture?
Give a definition of leadership?

Bibliography ____________________

Carnegie, Dale, How to Win Friends and Influence People, 1939.

Ryl, Eden, You Can Surpass Yourself, Ramic Productions, Newport Beach,
CA.
US Army, http://www.army.mil/ArmySeals.htm, December 29, 2003.

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Thought
We would not know their names (Wrights)
if they had been pessimists.
President George W. Bush
Honoring 100 years of flight
12/18/03

Wiring _________________________
Have you ever wondered why you react the way that you do? Do
you intend to behave one way but actually react differently? Have
you wondered, Why did I do that?
These are all valid questions. And the answer is that is the way
you are wired. That is not a justification for bad behavior. An
understanding of your natural reactions does, however, provide a
foundation for how to manage and control those reactions. An
understanding of our personal, or internal, relationship is the first
key to leadership. It also provides the foundation for successful
interpersonal, or horizontal, relations.
When dealing with individuals, particularly within an organization
or group, most people do not consider the fundamental personality
differences between individuals. Nevertheless, in order for a leader
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encoded tendencies not only of your team players, but also your
colleagues and associates.
A persons temperament is hard-wired into their system. Our
genetic tendencies are a combination of six people, our two parents
and four grandparents, and to a lesser extent all of our ancestors.
Because of the interaction of recessive and dominant genes, you
may be more like your grandparents than your parents. Our
temperament is determined as surely as the color of our eyes, hair,
and the features of our face.
A second major influence on our personality is our environment, or
what we are exposed to. In our most formative years, our parents
determine our environment. It is often difficult, therefore, to
determine which responses are hereditary and which are more
influenced by our environment.
What makes you who you are is a combination of your genetic
tendencies, your environment, and, ultimately, the choices that you
make. There comes a time when you are responsible to make
choices on what you do. Regardless of heredity or past experiences,
you alone are responsible for your actions and responses.
In keeping with the success machine model defined in the previous
chapter, we can relate these three influences. Your temperament is
your base emotional system. Your environment is the physical
world of outside stimulus. Your choices define the feedback into
your success machine, and are derived from your mental decisions.
Choices
Response

Environment

+/-

Temperament

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Development environments ________

When determining how people will react to different stimuli, it is
convenient to identify them by common characteristics. If we define
a circle that would encompass all individuals and potential
responses, then we can relate people based on their location in that
circle.
There are an infinite number of unique points within the circle of
people. No two points, or people, are identical. Nevertheless, points
that are adjacent have similar characteristics. If it were possible to
divide the circle into quadrants, it could be assumed that points in
the same quadrant would have similar properties, to a greater or less
extent.
The quadrants can be identified by a persons answers to two
questions.
Are you more task oriented or more people oriented?
Are you more outgoing or more reserved?

Based on a persons answers, they most closely correspond to a

single quadrant in the circle of people. Once you understand the
common characteristics of people in those quadrants, you can know
a great deal about how they will respond to stimulus.
The figure below is a graphical representation of this circle and
quadrants. Those individuals that tend to being task-oriented fall on
the left half of the circle, while those with a more people-oriented
perspective fall on the right half. Similarly, those with outgoing
personalities are in the upper half of the circle, while those that tend
to be more reserved are represented in the lower half of the circle.
The quadrants are designated as D, I, S, and C. These
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People

Outgoing
Reserved

The question arises, Where do you draw the line between the
quadrants? Notice that within the "S" quadrant, there are points
that are closer to "C" and others that are closer to "I". It is expected
that of those who primarily exhibit S, or people-reserved,
responses, some will be closer to exhibiting I behavior, while
others will tend closer to C behavior. Regardless, all "S" still has
the tendency to be controlled, perceptive oriented.
Over the years, some students have responded with a comment that
you cannot put them in a box and describe their temperament. As
you will see, that comment alone gives a great clue into their
temperament.
The purpose of our discussion into temperament is not about putting
people in a box or trying to force them to a certain behavior. It is
simply an observation of characteristics and how people respond.
Once you understand the tendencies of yourself as well as other
people, this will give you an advantage in moving towards your
goals and dreams.

Assessment _____________________
Each person is unique, and has individual strengths and weaknesses.
A persons hardwired temperament causes an initial response which
may be appropriate or unfortunate. These initial tendencies can be

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controlled with training and practice. In an effort to improve both

personal and interpersonal relationships, it is important to realize a
persons natural tendencies.
The following is a standard scientific profile assessment of
personality types, and has been derived from a number of profiling
techniques used by other authors. It is adopted from a paper by Roy
Reed published in England. [Reed] It has been modified somewhat
to reflect American comprehension of the words. The structure has
also been changed to correspond more closely to other assessments
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Each row has a list of four descriptive words. From those four
terms, select the word that is most like you and mark the box before
the word with an M. Similarly, select the term that is least like
you and mark it with an L. Do not mark the other two words on
the row. Continue the process for all 24 groups. It is not necessary
that any of the four words accurately describe you 100% . The point
of the analysis is to determine the relative descriptiveness of the
terms, only as they relate to the other terms on that row.
original

persuasive

gentle

humble

unyielding

attractive

pleasant

duty minded

bold

charming

loyal

easily led

will power

cheerful

helpful

open-minded

courageous

jovial

even-tempered

precise

competitive

social-striving

considerate

harmonious

unconquerable

playful

obedient

fussy

brave

inspiring

submissive

timid
soft-spoken

self-reliant

sociable

patient

adventurous

cordial

moderate

receptive

decisive

talkative

controlled

conventional

daring

enthusiastic

satisfied

diplomatic

aggressive

entertaining

soft touch

fearful

determined

assuring

good-natured

cautious

eager

high spirited

willing

agreeable
tolerant

assertive

confident

sympathetic

persistent

animated

generous

well disciplined

force of character

admirable

kind

resigned

pioneering

optimistic

accommodating

respectful

argumentative

light hearted

nonchalant

adaptable

positive

trusting

contented

peaceful

vigorous

good mixer

lenient

refined

outspoken

companionable

restrained

accurate

restless

popular

neighborly

organized

# of M = _____

# of M = _____

# of M = ____

# of M = _____

# of L = _____

# of L = _____

# of L = ____

# of L = _____

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Blend __________________________
Seldom does any person exhibit only one type of reaction. Most
people are a blend of all four groups. The comparative ranking of
the categories reveals tremendous insight into a persons
temperament. The number of most versus least identifications is a
measurement of the intensity that you exhibit toward the
temperament of the group. The four columns are related to the D-IS-C quadrants respectively.
How is the information interpreted? The designation of both the
most and the least descriptive terms is significant. If we think of the
success machine model, your actions have both a natural response
and a response that is determined by the environment. Finally, your
choices ultimately determine your actions.
The quantity of most terms selected in each column describes
your environment style. This style is a measure of how a person
handles environmental influences. It changes with time,
circumstances and exposure to different environments. The column
with the largest number of mosts defines which quadrant, D, I, S
or C, in which your environmental style falls.
Your natural, or genetic, style is described by the selections of
least descriptive terms. If a category has no selections as least,
then that group is influencing you to some extent in every
circumstance. This style usually will not change significantly over
time. The column with the smallest number of leasts shows in
which quadrant your natural style falls
As an illustration consider the following information.
D

# of M = 12 # of M = 7 # of M = 3
# of L = 2

# of L = 0

C
# of M = 2 Environmental = D I

# of L = 13 # of L = 9

Natural = I D C

In this example, the persons environmental style is D, with a

fairly strong influence of I. The natural style is I, with a very
strong influence of D, and a lesser influence from C type

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behavior. A persons perceived style is generally associated with the

natural blend. The value of 5 is typically the dividing line to be
considered a high-related category.

Results _________________________
Typically, one category will have a much higher number of most
marks. When analyzing your blend, the category with the most M
(or least L) checkmarks is your dominant tendency. This is the
automatic trait. It is the core or primary tendency. It is the way you
will initially react to stimuli.
The category that has the second highest relation is the set of
responses that a person will typically exhibit under pressure or
stress. If the traditional response is not effective, a person naturally
will try an alternative.
These two categories define your primary blend. Further blends are
observed by combining all the characteristics in order.
The category with the lowest number of M values (or greatest
number of L values) is also significant. This category exhibits
those traits that tend to be the greatest challenge in your
relationships. It encompasses the characteristics that require the
greatest amount study and effort.

Interpretation ___________________
More advanced and comprehensive versions of the above profile
assessment are available. These typically use the same 24 categories
and four choices. However, rather than one word in each column,
each choice typically contains three words that can provide a finer
clarification of meaning.
In addition, much more aggressive and detailed analyses are
available. This combination of profile and results comprises
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As a matter of interest, the population typically has the following

distribution.
D 10%
I

25-30%

S 30-35%
C 20-25%

These percentages have been observed through years of analysis of

various participants in personality and temperament studies.
Particular groups may be distributed slightly differently, but on a
composite basis, these values tend to hold true. The values are also
very similar to the relationships that Dr. Rohm has reported in his
extensive works. [Rohm]
When you understand personality traits, you can know a person
better than they know themselves. An interesting exercise is to have
your spouse fill out the evaluation of you. Is the perspective the
same as yours? Should it be? Does that make it easier to understand
why there are conflicts in some areas?
There are numerous other assessment tools available. Several are
used in the next chapters. When using these, how do the results
compare to the earlier list? They should be similar; however,
individual understanding of words and terminology may create
some variation. Despite this, the dominant and second level traits
should be easily recognized.
Further insight into interactions is obtained in the descriptive
sections below.

Tradition, tradition _______________

The four quadrants discussed above have been called by many terms
throughout recorded history. The earliest record of these traits in
common usage by Western culture is based on ancient Middle
Eastern philosophy written about 3000 years ago by a king and wise
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Approximately 2500 years ago, the ancient Greeks were the

dominant philosophical culture and advanced their ideas. The Greek
philosopher, Plato, lived about 427-347 BC. He described peoples
traits based on their relationship to culture and society. He
categorized people into the classifications of idealist, artisan,
rationalist, and guardian.
A contemporary of Plato, Hippocrates, the Greek father of medicine,
lived about 460 380 BC. He began to apply science to
understanding the four characteristics. He developed the theory that
the body was controlled by four body fluids or humors. Hippocrates
called these yellow bile, red blood, colorless phlegm, and black bile.
The body processes were determined by wet or dry and hot or cold.
Dry

Wet

Hot
Cold

This is not unlike the Oriental theories that developed around the
same time. These theories correlated everything to what was
described as the four earth elements. These are fire, air, water, and
earth.
Hippocrates theories were refined and advanced by the Greek
physician Galen, who lived from 130 200 AD. Galen was court
advisor to the Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius. He extended the
theory of humors to psychology. With it, he gave an extended
description of each characteristic. His books became the basis of
Middle Eastern medicine.
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Choleric

Sanguine

Melancholic

Phlegmatic

Fiery, ideas

Cheerful,
passionate

Ill-tempered

Apathetic,
sluggish

Fast forward _____________________

Galans physiology and psychology terms were used for a number
of years. They are still the predominant foundation for psychology
in Europe. Although American psychology was strongly influenced
by Freud, the four-quadrant concept still has a very large basis.
The mother and daughter team Katherine Briggs and Isabel BriggsMyers developed the first known tools for measuring personality
traits. Isabel Myers developed her book The Myers-Briggs Type
Indicator in 1958 and published it in 1962 [Myers]. In the book, she
addressed 16 personality types. These were subsequently combined
into four quadrant types. She called them Sensing Perceiver (SP),
Sensing Judger (SJ), Intuitive Thinker (NT), and Intuitive Feeler
(NF).
The sensing people (S) are sensitive to the environment. The
perceiver (P) is sensitive to people and is an entertainer. The judger
(J) is sensitive to data and evaluates all options.
The intuitive (I) people have insight into how the world works. The
feeler (F) is emotional and idealistic. The thinker (T) is people
oriented and rational.
Although the Meyers-Brigg method provided a technique, it has
some problems. First, it is only a rough indicator. It has a unique
identifying rate of only 54%. The remaining population is assigned
to the nearest category. This comes from their choice of indicator
comparisons. Notice it is not symmetric in the descriptors, but
assigns four areas individually. Additionally, the Meyers-Briggs
method gives information, but does not provide direction for
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Dr. David Keirsey and Marilyn Bates wrote a book, Please

Understand Me, which was first published in 1978. [Kiersey, 1] In
1998, Kiersey revised it with Please Understand Me II. [Kiersey, 2]
Kiersey had his own terms named for patron Greek gods:
Apollonian, Dionysian, Promethean, Epimethian. He also related the
concepts to terms used by Plato. He developed several tests to
evaluate the styles. Keirsey has the most conflict in correlating to
other styles. Nevertheless, because of the public availability of some
of these tests, his technique is quite popular.
Don Lowry in Keys to Personal Success proposed a visual system
based on colors rather than descriptive terms. [Lowry] Blue is
feeling, orange is vibrant, green is persistent, and gold is duty. He is
a follower of Keirsey. The objective of his color pattern was to
address the temperaments without using technical terminology.
Since these initial works, there have been advances in application
and methodology. The previous styles are fundamentally based on
the philosophies of Carl Jung. All these theories have conflicts,
which lead to inconsistencies between the authors. These techniques
are primarily based on Platos terminology and have a philosophical
approach.

D. A. Choleric ___________________
The following techniques have a very simple pattern that makes
them friendlier and easier to use. Although there are still challenges
with these systems, they seem to have a balanced arrangement. They
are primarily based on Hippocrates terminology and employ a
scientific approach.
Dr. Tim LaHaye popularized these concepts in 1966 with a series of
books beginning with Spirit Controlled Temperament. [LaHaye]
This was a popular concept intended for individual application.
Because of its style and utility, it is still in print in a revised version.
LaHayes principles are based on the terminology of Galan.

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Florence Littauer in Personality Plus provided additional examples

and methodologies. [Littauer] Her list of traits was interesting in
that she used the same letters to start each word when comparing the
temperaments.
In some circles, the older names have given way to more descriptive
values. The DISC Language is based on the work of Dr. William
Moulton Marston in his book The Emotions of Normal People.
[Marston] Dr. Marston was born in 1893, was educated as a lawyer
and psychologist, developed the systolic blood pressure test, and
invented the lie detector. He was also a comic strip writer and the
inventor of Wonder Woman. In his very popular psychology books
and articles, he proposed a new set of terms based on characteristics.
Using alliteration, he described each temperament with multiple
terms that began with the same letter. To describe the four
categories of tendencies, he used the terms Dominance, Influence,
Steadiness and Compliance, hence DISC.
All people exhibit all four behavioral factors in varying degrees of
intensity.
- W.M. Marston

Since the 1980s Dr. Robert Rohm has been an author and lecturer
on the topic of DISC personality styles. [Rohm] He has popularized
concepts that often were left to psychologists. Dr. Rohms
contribution was to develop the idea of separating people into
quadrants based on the adjectives what, who, why, and how. While
the concept is simple, much more detailed analysis and application
is developed in his books. Like LaHaye, he is particularly focused
on how to take advantage of, and compensate for, your style.
Dr. Peter Drucker is the author of numerous books on management.
[Drucker] He identifies the four styles in terms of their usefulness in
a business environment. These are the action man, front man, people
man, and thought man. These are very close to the DISC types.
This book series describes a feedback control model common to the
sciences. [Durham] In this model, choices or reactions to stimuli are
controlled primarily by emotional feelings understanding and
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The feedback can be positive, or expressive, causing expansive

growth up to explosion. Conversely, it can be negative causing
unchanging stability.
The resulting temperament descriptions are described in relation to
their functional ability within a group or organization. The functions
are expressive logic or authoritative (dominance), expressive feeling
or communicative (influence), controlled feeling or supportive
(steadiness), and controlled logic or task oriented (compliance).
They correspond directly with the DISC model.
Rational, logic, & structure

Understanding, perception, feeling

Expressive
Controlled

Arnie Warren has written a clever, relatable work, The Great

Connection, to illustrate the topic of temperaments and their
interactions. [Warren] Although the concept material is technically
correct, the application is demonstrated through a novel about four
people. It is an excellent introduction to the topic.

Validity_________________________
The Myers-Briggs analysis, as discussed earlier, has a unique
identification rate of only 54%. The remaining 45% are placed in
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In contrast, the DISC analysis has a validity rate of between 88%

and 91%; this is as high as any assessment of this type in the world.
The validity was asserted by Dr. Sylvan Kaplan from a study in
1983 [Kaplan]. This accuracy was validated from a study conducted
by Dr. Russell J. Watson of Wheaton College in 1989 [Watson].
The assessment is very simple to complete, as demonstrated in the
previous sections. The respondent has twenty-four categories with
four questions each. He chooses which terms with which he "most"
and "least" identifies from 4 different boxes. This provides about
19,680 different graphs from the 24 "most" words and another
19,680 different graphs from the "least" responses. Depending on
the analyst, this is typically condensed into 384 different reports.
This correlation provides the very high validity measures seen.
Obviously the quick analysis from the two questions that began this
chapter simply gives tendencies and is not intended to be the
thorough scientific method. Nevertheless, it is a quick use tool that
is very convenient for a first pass.

Correlation ______________________
Durhams model correlates closely to Rohm and Kaplan, and
resolves the conflict with Keirsey. The assessment for this model is
discussed in a later section. The terms used in the assessment are
selected based on the functions of an organization.
The major difference between all methods is the perspective of the
authors. While Rohms background is administration and
counseling, Durhams is the sciences and management. Therefore,
as expected, Rohm approaches the analysis from the right side of
the diagram and Durham approaches with a science perspective
from the left side of the chart.
How do all the concepts relate? There are substantial variations
between the divisions used to identify the temperaments. As a
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There is a close correlation between the LaHaye and Marston

analysis. There is close correlation between Myers and Keirsey.
There is not a direct correlation between Myers and Marston. The
closest correlations are shown in the table below.

Plato

Scientist

Artisan (actor)

Philosopher

Hippocrates

Yellow bile

Red blood

Milky phlegm Black bile

Galan

Choleric

Sanguine

Phlegmatic

Melancholic

Oriental

Fire

Air

Water

Earth

Myers code

NT

SP

NF

SJ

Myers

Introspective Sensing
thinker
perceiver

Introspective
feeler

Sensing
judger

Apollonian

Epimethian

Keirsey, 1978 Promethean

Keirsey, 1987 Rationalist

Dionysian

Guardian

Artisan

Idealist

Guardian

Lowry

Green

Orange

Blue

Gold

Marston

D
dominant

I
influencer

S
stabilizer

C
cautious

LaHaye

Powerful

Popular

Peaceful

Perfect

Drucker

Action man

Front man

People man

Thought man

Rohm

What !

Who *

How

Why ?

Durham

Authoritative Communicative Supportive

+logic
+feel
~feel

Task oriented
~logic

To illustrate the divergence in approaches, compare how the

advocates of each system categorize famous, well-known persons,
such as presidents of the United. States. The results are very
different. For example, Ronald Reagan is called an artisan by
Kiersey, because he was an entertainer. In contrast he is called a
phlegmatic, by LaHaye because of his stable, supportive nature. It
depends on the characteristic that is being identified. Reagan would
be classified as communicative by Durham, because of his
functional ability. Despite the differences, all systems classify the
amiable president as a people person.

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It is fascinating that the two basic schools of thought in

temperament analysis use terminology and approaches developed by
contemporaries in ancient Greece, more than 2500 years ago.

Review__________________________
Personality temperament is about the way you are wired. The
longest used technique has been the four-quadrant method. It has
been around since the ancient Greeks. When performing an
assessment it is found that no one has the characteristics of only one
quadrant. We are a blend of all four. Nevertheless, the dominant
trait gives excellent insight into how people will react to
circumstances.

Application ______________________
1. Which quadrant of the DISC chart do you think is most
appropriate for you?
2. Complete the assessment.
3. What is your environmental style, the column with the greatest
number of mosts?
4. What is your natural style, the column with the fewest number
of leasts?
5. How does the assessment compare with the quadrant?
6. The D temperament is characterized by what A function and
which Greek name?
7. The I temperament is characterized by what C function and
which Greek name?
8. The S temperament is characterized by what S function and
which Greek name?
9. The C temperament is characterized by what T function and
which Greek name?

Bibliography_____________________

Peter Drucker, The Frontiers of Management, 1986

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Durham, Marcus O., Who Is This God?, DreamPoint Publishers, Tulsa, 2002
Kaplan, Sylvan, The Kaplan Report. A study of the validity of the Personal
Profile System, Inscape Publishing Inc., Minneapolis, 1983.
Keirsey, David and Marilyn Bates, Please Understand Me, 1978.
Keirsey, David, Please Understand Me II, 1998.
LaHaye, Tim, Spirit Controlled Temperament, 1966.
Littauer, Florence, Personality Plus.
Lowry, Don, Keys to Personal Success.
Marston, William Moulton, The Emotions of Normal People.
Myers, Isabel, The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, Educational Testing Service,
1962.
Reed, Roy, Personality Profiling in the Workplace, Modern Management,
Institute for Supervision and Management, Lichfield, Staffordshire, England,
February 2002.
Rohm, Robert, and Carey, E. Chris, Who Do you Think You AreAnyway?,
Personality Insights, Atlanta, August 2001.
Warren, Arnie, Great Connection, Pallium Books, Florida.
Watson, Russell J., "Statistical Comparison Between the TTI Style Analysis
and the Performax Personal Profile System," Wheaton College, 1989.

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PERSONALITY STYLE

Thought
Are you more task or people oriented?
Are you more outgoing or reserved?
DISC

Transition ______________________
What are the characteristics of each style? Are there strengths or
weaknesses? How do you scientifically develop a style model? Are
there some things that are common across all types/
The previous chapter gave a basic assessment of temperament. as
well as a good background into different authors philosophy back
to the beginning of recorded history. This chapter takes that
information and describes the characteristics of each type and how
they relate to leadership.

Control model ___________________

The standard control model, or success machine, was discussed in
earlier chapters. This model is common throughout the sciences,
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mental

stimulus

+/-

physical

emotional

The three areas that affect response are physical, emotional, and
mental. Since the system is a loop, each area will impact the other
two. The amount and type of impact is determined by the feedback.
Positive feedback causes the response to grow. Without some other
influence, it will grow until it explodes. In this case, the controlling
outside influence is a mental choice. Negative feedback causes a
diminishing response and control. The physical response settles
until it is stable and unchanging.
If the relationship between the three areas of the success machine
were plotted, they would create a representation of a threedimensional figure. That is an accurate representation, which
corresponds to the world in which we live. Historical theories of
temperament are only two-dimensional and correlate only to the
mental and emotional processes. In these models, the physical
response is not described.
As was described earlier, a circle can be visualized that would
encompass all people. There are an infinite number of points within
the circle. Each of these points represents the special characteristics
of each individual. For ease of analysis, the circle can be divided
into quadrants, which represent a group of tendencies and typical
reactions.
For a two-dimensional survey, only two questions are required to
define the quadrant with which you most closely identify.
Are you more oriented to make decisions based on rationale, logic
and structure or on understanding, perception and feeling?
Are you more expressive or more controlled?
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People
Understanding, perception, feeling

Outgoing
Expressive
Controlled
Reserved

The D-I-S-C symbols correlate with the personality temperament.

The corresponding A-C-T-S symbols are leadership styles which
describe how a person acts within a group. These ACTS symbols
are selected based on the function within an organization. The
symbols A-C-T-S with D-I-S-C represent the Authoritative
Determined, Communicative Involved, Supportive, and Task
oriented Constrained.
In this model, choices or reactions to stimuli are controlled
primarily by understanding, feelings, and perception or by rationale,
logic, and structure. Feedback can be positive, or expressive,
causing expansive growth up to explosion. Conversely, feedback
can be negative causing unchanging stability.
Thus, the temperament types are expressive logic (+logic, A),
expressive feeling (+feel, C), controlled feeling (~feel, S), and
controlled logic (~logic, T).
The terms expressive and controlled have a well understood
meaning. On the other hand, a variety of concepts are associated
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Emotional Mental
appetite

attitude

feelings

logic

perception

rational

artistic

math

right brain

left brain

By combining normal interactions and relationships with the

fundamental descriptions of the control model, characteristics of
each temperament can be scientifically and even mathematically
derived. At that point, the classification is no longer subjective.
The application of this type of analysis provides insight into how a
person will relate to various circumstances as shown in the
following table.
How do you
relate to

Authoritative Communicative Supportive

Task

Decisions

+ logic

Dominant drive Attitude

+ feel

~ feel

~ logic

Feel

Feel

Physical

Feedback

Positive

Positive

Control

Control

Decision

Logic

Perceptive

Perceptive

Logic

Relations

Vertical

Horizontal

Internal

Self

Concepts

Ideas

People

People

Facts

Attitude

Idealist

Optimist

Realist

Pessimist

Time

Future

Now

Present

History

Projects

Overview

Overview

Details

Details

Methods

Process

People

People

Process

Light

Bright

Light

Clear

Dark

Business

Action

Front

Morale

Analysis

Innovation

New

Contemporary

Unchanging Traditional

Learning

Classroom

Apprentice

Apprentice

Culture

Proper

Flamboyant

Fine, quality Practical

Control

Explosive

Now

Stable

Initial

Dress

Correct

Contemporary

Classy

Classic

Arts

Accurate

Wild

Details

Moody

Construction

Boss

Sales

Craftsman

Finish

Classroom

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Math symbol

Exclusive

Exceeding

Exceptional

Excellent

Exhaustive

Characteristics of types ___________

Each temperament has characteristic tendencies that drive them to
do certain jobs better than others. This does not necessarily mean
the selection of a profession, but rather the dominant skill set that
exists within the profession.
No hair color is better. Colors are just different. However, some
colors respond better to sunlight and some indicate maturity.
Similarly, no style is better than another. They are just different.
Each type will be discussed with their strengths and observations of
how those with this dominant type typically react. Once you have
identified your strengths, we will look at areas that you can
improve. Just as you cannot change your DNA, you cannot change
your analysis of who you are. Just because you do not like some of
the weaknesses associated with your dominant personality type does
not make the analysis any less accurate. Nevertheless, the
weaknesses can be controlled by your choices.

D A Choleric, expressive logic ______

Commander Choleric is represented by Will Riker of StarTrek the
Next Generation. [Roddenberry] He has an authoritative,
expressive-logic, dominant tendency toward every situation.
He is the idea-oriented, hyperactive, quick, strong-willed,
optimistic, positive, practical, independent person. He is the strong,
confident personality who can make quick decisions and execute
them. If there is such a thing as a born leader, this is the
temperament. His motto may be, Lead, follow, or get out of the
way, or just Get out of the way. In the parlance of the old west
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His mind is clever and well organized, but details tend to be a bore
to him. Once he says he will do something, he will. Because he is
committed, he seldom changes his mind, regardless of the adversity.
This often makes him a crusader who is interested in utilitarian or
pragmatic goals. These goals can also be moral or with the intent to
right some wrong.
The arts are seldom of interest to the driver. If he does attempt to
develop as a musician or artist, he will be very precise and
flamboyant. However, his skill will tend toward the technically
precise, without the emotion of many artists.
He is not a lawn magnet. He frequently detests yard work. When he
does lawn work, the manicure will be dramatic - everything cut
short.
He is out-going and may have a quick smile. His humor can be
sharp, and is often dry.
He is a true believer in whatever cause to which he has committed.
Nevertheless, when convinced of the propriety of a change, he will
quickly adapt his allegiance.
He is optimistic and accomplishes his goals by shear determination,
if necessary. As a consequence, he often glosses over relationships,
particularly if there is a task to be accomplished.
As a driver, Commander Choleric tends to have a lead foot, and is
aggressive in traffic. He tends to eat the same food regularly, since it
is efficient, and besides, he likes it. Because of the attention to detail
involved, he does not balance his checkbook. As a marksman, his
mantra may be Ready, fire, aim.
He is the Chow Chow in the dog world with his fierce loyalty and
commitment to duty. His car is a Cadillac, since it is a strong
statement, has the power to get where he wants to go, yet still gives
him the room he needs to be comfortable. If he were a Navy ship, he
would be an aircraft carrier, since it is the command vessel with the
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A person with these dominant traits likes to lead or be in charge.

His career choices should involve leadership, motivation, and
productivity. Committee work does not fit well with his
temperament; decisions are often made too slowly, and with too
much compromise. He is a developer and often enjoys construction
because it has recognizably visible results. He can do well in sales
because he knows and believes in his product. He can excel at
teaching practical skills. Politics may appeal to him because of his
focused commitment, military because of the structure and
practicality of the rules, sports because of his drive. Executive or
supervisor positions, or any other field requiring vision, will benefit
from this personality. Vision is a desirable trait in any organization.

I C Sanguine, expressive feeling ____

Sonny Sanguine is the communicative, expressive feeling, outgoing
life of the party. He has the communicative, warm, fun-loving,
backslapping, hand-shaking, charismatic, never met a stranger
temperament that thrives on influence and personal relationships.
He is friendly, compassionate, and optimistic.
He thoroughly enjoys people and has an infectious nature to those
around him. He is a great storyteller even when he uses jokes that he
has used frequently. He genuinely feels the other persons emotions,
whether high or low.
He is spontaneous, and really means to do all the things he said. It is
just that when he meets the next person, he is spontaneous and
really means to do all the things he said. He often just forgets the
last encounter.
His vitality makes him the envy of the more reserved types.
Lawn work is fun to him. He goes out with all intent of doing the
lawn, and then he goes down the street to visit with the neighbors. It
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As a spontaneous person, his driving is exciting. It may go from

speeding to below minimums. It varies with the conversation. He
may turn to look at passengers to which he is talking while he is
driving. His eating habits are exciting. Whatever is the new thing is
the new thing. Checkbook, what is that? As a marksman, his mantra
may be Ready, lets have fun.
He is the Labrador retriever in the dog world, with his tail wagging
and likable nature. His car is a flashy Mercedes. If he were a ship,
he would be a sailing sloop, since it is fun.
The influencer part of his personality likes to persuade others to his
way of thinking. His career choices should involve people. He can
do well in sales because he likes to give people what they want,
acting or entertaining because he likes the recognitions, politics
because of natural charisma, medicine because of compassion, or
any field where he can make people happy. That is a desirable trait
in any organization.

S S Phlegmatic, controlled feeling __

Phyllis Phlegmatic has the supportive, controlled-feeling, stable,
sincere, non-offensive temperament. She is the calm, cool,
easygoing, well-balanced individual. She is happy, pleasant,
unexcited, and avoids personal involvement. She is a specialist. She
may be a skilled craftsman or physician. She is witty, dependable,
and efficient, since she does not want to make extra work for her or
anyone else.
She avoids doing anything that might be considered offensive or
may hurt someone. Although she is kind hearted, she seldom
displays emotions. She is consistent every time, tends to appreciate
art and the finer things in life. She can walk into a new store and
immediately identify the finer things without looking at the price
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She sees humor in what others do and can keep people laughing
without cracking a smile herself. As a spectator, she has great joy in
needling other temperaments. She pokes at the aimless Sonny,
ridicules the moody Mozart, and chills the excited plans of the
Commander.
She is a reluctant leader who is very competent and efficient with a
cool reticence. Although she may be very capable and aspire to
leadership, she will seldom ask for it. Because she waits, she is
often overlooked and misses many opportunities for both herself
and the organization.
She is the slow driver that stops at yield signs on the expressway.
She does not get tickets unless it is for obstructing traffic flow. She
is a very capable lawn owner, but procrastinates. She is the last to
finish eating. She is capable of accurately keeping the checkbook,
but may procrastinate until the last moment.
She is the Collie in the dog world because of consistency and
dependability. Her car may be a van or pickup truck because it is
practical. If she were a Navy ship, she would be a supply vessel or
tanker since it supports the entire fleet.
The stabilizer in her personality likes to provide the necessary
support to help complete the job. Her career choices often involve
education because of patience. She often is the administrator or
counselor because of the strong support ethic. She fits well as an
engineer because of desire for planning. Her mechanical abilities
lend themselves to the skilled craftsman. Because of her ability to
be diplomatic and unabrasive, she has the gift to create harmony.
That is a desirable trait in any organization.

C T Melancholy, controlled logic ___

Mozart Melancholy is the task-oriented, controlled-logic, sensitive,
artistic temperament with the deepest swing of emotions. Because
of his intense feeling, he can create haunting music and art. This
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to the depths of morose. Because most musicians have some

melancholy bent, much music has a lament or wail.
As a counterpoint, he is very analytical with a thorough
comprehension of details. This desire for perfection can make it
difficult to complete a task. He accurately understands problems, so
may be hesitant to start a new project. He is a legalist by nature and
his favorite word is officially. He is very conscientious and
conservative.
Although he is meticulous and detailed, his surroundings may
appear very cluttered because he keeps everything. Nevertheless, he
knows where everything is located.
He is a faithful friend, but does not make friends easily. They must
be cultivated and he lets them come to him.
He is prone to self-sacrifice. There seems to be a desire to make
himself suffer, in spite of the high IQ and intellectual ability.
Because of this tendency, he tends to select very difficult fields of
endeavor.
Mozart is the meticulous driver that knows the best route and the
exact records of the car. He gets delight in enforcing the law by
driving just under the speed limit and forcing other drivers to slow
down. He is the left lane vigilante that annoys Commander Choleric
so much.
He has a natural aptitude for growing plants and manicuring the
yard, unless that is his area of clutter. He is a finicky eater and has
great difficulty in making a selection. He is precise in his checkbook
and accounting, knowing where every cent is spent. His preciseness
often seems unnecessary to his mate or colleagues.
He is the Bloodhound in the dog world because of his propensity for
accurate detail. His car is a very practical small, foreign type, or
often an older large vehicle that was not quiet ostentatious in its day.
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could sneak in, ferret out all the details, and get out without creating
much noise.
The cautious part of his personality thrives on consistent quality and
excellence. His career choices often involve music or the arts
because of the emotional variety, acting because he can quickly
adopt a different personality, research because of the details, or
philosophy because of theoretical ideas. Because of the selfsacrificing, service orientation and attention to perfection, he may
be a skilled craftsman of quality or a humanitarian. Because of his
intelligence, he often wants to supervise, but is frustrated by
ordinary personnel relationships. Because of his self-sacrifice and
creativity, he has the gift to excel. That is a desirable trait in any
organization.

Counterpoints ___________________
Any tendency or characteristic that is allowed free rein will
unbalance the individual. Often times, those traits that are most
positive, when allowed to run unrestrained, can be the most
negative. A puppy is enjoyable with her exuberance and desire to
play, but that same exuberance and high activity can be annoying
when taken to the extreme.
Counterpoints to the four temperaments are provided. These should
serve as a caveat to the reader who has identified himself in one of
the four categories.

Negative logic, destructive _________

Because of his strong will and quick response, the Authoritative
personality individual can have emotional outbursts. This may be in
the form of tears or hot-temper. The tendency can be destructive to
relationships. This persons impetuous streak can cause financial
challenges because of over commitment or excitement about a new
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He might think we could make this idea work if it were not for all
the people.
While society has greatly benefited from the development of the
dominant choleric, there is a yellow side. The result can make him
cruel, sarcastic, impetuous, and self-sufficient.

Negative feeling, indecisive ________

Because of his constant activity, the person with a Communicative
personality is disorganized and impractical. He may run off halfcocked in the wrong direction. His enormous talents frequently go
unused because he may be weak willed, egotistical, and emotionally
unstable. He is never far from tears or laughter.
He might think we could make this project work because all we
need are people.
While society has greatly benefited from the gift of joy from the
sanguine, there is a red side. He can explode into livid anger. He
may soon forget, but the other person will not. He never gets ulcers,
but can give them to everyone else.

Uncontrolled feeling, stubborn _____

Because of her propensity to act slowly, the Supportive personality
person can be perceived as lazy. Since she resents being stimulated
to action, she is stubborn. Because of her sense of humor, she can be
a tease. Her reserved nature makes her selfish with her emotions,
money, and time. She is opposed to change, since it means more
work. This can make her appear indecisive. She is very practical and
can often see a better way, but her hesitance to get involved and
offend someones feeling keeps her from accomplishing things to
her potential.
She might think we could make this project work if someone
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While society has greatly benefited from the skill and harmony of
the supportive phlegmatic, there is a colorless side. She can be a
rebel that brings the wheels of a project to a halt.

Uncontrolled logic, cantankerous ___

Because of his analytical attention to detail, the individual with a
Task-oriented personality is self-examining and self-centered, often
to the exclusion of all but a few friends. Because he is a
perfectionist, he can be very pessimistic. Insults that are
insignificant to others can create, in him, a revengeful bent. He often
suffers from paralysis of analysis.
He might think we could make this project work if I can get all the
details worked out.
While society has greatly benefited from the art and music of the
cautious melancholy, there is a dark side. He can be extremely
moody and gloomy leading to morbidity.

Other indicators __________________

Since the personality temperaments correlate with the body
language and communication of a person, it is appropriate to
consider a few other symbols that have been used in psychological
circles. These are various ways that have been employed to illustrate
a persons reactions to stimulus.
The trait color is the classic representation of the characteristics,
based on the work of Hypocrites. The preferred color is the one that
is often selected by those that have that personality.

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Trait

Prefer Animal

Authoritative

green
yellow
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Communicative red

Supportive

Task

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Car

Ships

Chow
Chow

Cadillac

Enterprise
carrier

red

Labrador

Mercedes
convertible

Paradise
cruise

milky

blue

Collie

Van / pick-up

Intrepid
scout

black

yellow Bloodhound

Toyota
Honda

/ Calypso
research

Direction________________________
There is no right or wrong temperament. Neither is there one that is
better or worse. The classification of temperaments simply describes
how we initially respond to a stimulus. Nevertheless, because of the
inherent propensities of each personality type, there are things at
which one is naturally more adept.
For example, which is the best temperament for a technical person,
such as an engineer? What do you think? Actually, there is no best.
It depends on the aspect of the technical field.
Many think that the task-oriented, melancholy, C-T type person is
the most appropriate tendency for technical people. Since these
folks are detail oriented, they can analyze many problems. However,
an authoritative, choleric D-A type personality individual provides
ideas, leadership, and direction and keeps the projects going.
Further, a person with a communicative, sanguine I-C dominant
personality is well equipped to sell the product and to keep the team
excited. Finally, a person with a supportive, phlegmatic S type
personality is critical as a stabilizing, support member of the team.
This person is often the specialist and actually makes things work.
As we see, each personality tendency has a place on the team.
As another example, which is the best temperament for a minister?
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Many think that a minister with a communicative, sanguine I-C type

personality is best suited for serving. Since folks with this dominant
personality are people oriented, they are excellent at relationships.
However, an authoritative, choleric D-A personality advocate
provides ideas, leadership and direction, and often is the builder of
the congregation and facilities. Further, a minister with a taskoriented melancholy C-T type personality is well equipped to music
and monastery. Finally a cleric that has a supportive, phlegmatic S
personality type is critical as an associate to carry the team. As we
see, each personality tendency has a place on the team.
Through these examples, we have seen there is no best temperament
for any profession. Rather there are temperaments that tend to better
skill sets within any area of endeavor. It takes all types to make a
balanced team.
Rather than trying to identify what is the best temperament, look at
the tendencies of that type, and determine what skills they can bring
to the team. This provides an excellent indication of where a person
can be most productive and happy.
When assembling a team, a leader must be careful to truly identify
an individuals temperament. Then the leader must ascertain the
training and attitude that can best utilize the strengths, and
compensate for the weaknesses of that personality type. As we will
see in the next chapter, a person, regardless of temperament, tends
to take on certain characteristics, based on the position he in which
he is placed. For example, a person with a phlegmatic S personality
who is normally a very supportive individual can be quite forceful
when in the position of a manager.

Common negatives _______________

There are three negatives that all temperaments share. These are
anger, fear, and depression. Just the awareness that others have the
same challenges as you should give you hope, and a basis for
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First, anger is one the most destructive emotions known. It can

destroy relationships, create health problems, and constrict positive,
winning attitudes. Many people are not aware that they are
constrained by anger since they may not know the many disguises.
Dr. LaHaye illustrated that anger takes as many as sixteen forms:
bitterness, malice, clamor, envy, resentment, intolerance, criticism,
revenge, wrath, hatred, seditions, jealousy, attack, gossip, sarcasm,
and unforgiveness. [LaHaye]
What causes anger in an otherwise healthy, intelligent person? In
simplest terms, I did not get my way. Translated into the
vernacular, it is one word, selfish.
Anger is not a characteristic of leadership, but will destroy a
leaders and an organizations credibility. A leader must exercise
control and maintain a winning attitude.
Second, fear is the most constricting, stifling, limiting emotion. It
can prevent healthy relationships, cause health problems that are
psychosomatic, and constrict attitudes from driving action. A good
description of fear can be seen in an acronym False Evidence
Appearing Real.
There are as many variations to fear as there are to anger. The forms
are anxiety, doubts, timidity, indecision, superstition, withdrawal,
loneliness, over aggression, worry, inferiority, cowardice, suspicion,
hesitancy, depression, haughtiness, and social shyness.
What causes fear in virtually every person? It almost always can be
traced to a point where that person received the disapproval of
someone they respected, or to traumatic negative experience. It is
self-centered indulgence.
Fear is not a characteristic of leadership. A leader must have a
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Third, depression is the most unpleasant and abnormal emotion. It

leads to reduced vitality and desire. It impacts both the educated and
the unlearned.
Depression is one of the most debilitating emotions. It can place
barriers to relationships, create perceived health problems which
become real, and create an attitude of I dont care.
Depression can take many forms and effects. Some are gloom,
pessimism, apathy, fatigue, hypochondria, loss of productivity,
irritability, hypocrisy, rebellion, withdrawal, and escape.
What causes depression in an otherwise healthy person? In simplest
terms, Other people are better. Translated into simple language, it
is one word, self-pity.
Depression is not a characteristic of leadership, but will lead to
decline and demise. A leader must act in the best interest of the
team, including himself.
All these emotions are overcome not with another emotion, but with
an attitude or spirit. This winning attitude can be developed with
some limited success by logic and an understanding of the natural
laws and principles of leadership. A winning attitude is best
developed inside the framework of a moral conviction that has a
greater overriding power and influence than the individual himself
possesses.
There is a valid, logical reason that a belief in a Creator of higher
power has existed for all of recorded history. To attempt to discredit
the experience of history is to immediately lead back to the three
negatives and their problems. It is the height of selfish selfindulgence to believe that one person can know more than all the
preceding generations. That way of thinking stifles the framework
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Parting shot _____________________

Why do some people appear to change their basic temperament?
Temperament is how you are wired. It is an inherent part of the
person. It is how you emotionally react when in a position you
cannot control. Personality style, however, describes how you
interact with others. From observing the impacts of different actions
on your success machine, temperament can be controlled. By
repeated practice, new thought grooves are etched in the brain.
Practice becomes habit in your action with others. This control
process can be something you develop, or it can be forced on you
externally from some authority.
Parents are the first authority that controls the action of youngsters.
Habits learned from your parents can be so ingrained, that the
childs erratic temperament can be in control. In some instances,
upon exercising their adulthood, the person may revoke some of the
parental control habits. This action typically comes at a time of
considerable stress. As a result, this persons basic interaction with
people will change. Although it appears as a temperament change,
in reality, it is simply revealing the fundamental temperament,
without the feedback in place.
Similarly, a spouse may exercise control over her partner. The
subservient spouse then appears to take on the temperament of the
dominant one. In reality, so much control has been exerted, that the
subservient spouse loses his original identity.
An interesting thing happens in these relationships. If the
subservient spouse decides to terminate the relationship, the
dominant spouse often cannot understand why. After all, he thinks
that he did everything for the other person. The subservient person
then will typically enter into an even more controlling relationship
because she does not have confidence in herself.
If she can develop that confidence through proper guidance, before
entering a new relationship, she will often overcompensate and
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may suffer because she has developed such an independence and

self-reliance.
What is the temperament type that is most prone to be controlling?
Which desires perfection and do it my way? It is predominantly
the logical control, task oriented C-T type person.
Which is the personality type most prone to being controlled? It can
be any type that was very restrictively controlled as a child and did
not break out of the mold before establishing a new relationship.
Typically, however it is the do not rock the boat, S reserved control
type.
The transition time between parental influence and independence
has great importance in the developing of adult relationships. If that
time is not adequate and attitude expanding, the adult has difficulty
in reaching their potential as leaders and achieving success.
Chemicals can also impact the control of personality. These actually
change the wiring path. The body process is controlled by very
minute electrical signals. Chemicals are the path for these signals.
With a chemical imbalance or mind-altering drugs, the path way is
rerouted, the electrical signal misfires, and the personality response
is different. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle and being aware of
external influences are critical to being who you are.

Impressions _____________________
Dr. Robert Rohm [Rohm] has created a quick reference table to aid
in identifying the personality style of people you encounter. He uses
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Like to do
Decor

Body
language

Speech

Asks
Strength

D
Fast
Large desk,
awards,
useful
accessories
Big gestures,
leans
forward,
advancing
Directive
tones, abrupt,
interrupting,
always doing
something
What
Firm

I
Fun
Flashy,
trendy, fun
pictures

S
Traditional
Personal
mementos,
family pictures

Expressive,
friendly
posture,
amusing
Talkative,
varied tones,
personable,
easily
distracted
Who
Fun

Gentle
gestures,
reassuring
Conversational,
warm tones,
friendly,
prefers
listening
How
Friendly

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C
Proper
Aesthetically
pleasing,
unique,
functional
Unemotional,
controlled
gestures,
assessing
Clarifying
monotone,
logical,
focused,
emotionless
Why
Factual

Use in leadership ________________

Two major benefits come to a leader from understanding
temperaments. The first is the awareness of personal strengths and
weaknesses in emotional reaction. That permits the leader to
develop the winning attitude or spirit that will overcome the
challenges and grow the strengths with positive feedback.
The second benefit is the ability to develop relationships with others
on the team. It helps to be aware of and to anticipate how someone
may react. It also helps in developing them as a player or as a
leader.
The principles are equally valid in the framework of marriage. How
do you react? How does your spouse handle situations? Can you use
this information to reduce conflict and provide support?
As we saw, every temperament has a great asset to provide. An
effective leader knows the assets, motivates the person to use the
abilities, and creates an environment to control the negatives.
Any personality temperament can be an effective leader, with proper
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If you have ever met an authoritative, choleric D-A who has learned
to be patient with people while impatient for results, you have met a
winner.
If you have ever met a communicative, sanguine I-C who has
learned to control his disorganization and lack of follow-through,
you have met a winner.
If you have ever met a supportive, phlegmatic S who has gone
through assertiveness training and has incorporated this into his
daily life, you have met a winner.
If you have ever met a task-oriented, melancholy C-T who has
mastered decision-making and delegation, you have met a winner.

Review__________________________
In summary, the infinite number of personality temperaments can be
divided into four quadrants based on two questions.
Are you more likely to make decisions based on methodical
information and math or on understanding, perception and feelings?
Are you more expressive or more controlled?

- MOD

Application ______________________
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.

What is your predominant temperament?

Is your temperament more like a parent or a grandparent?
What are the three words that describe your dominant trait?
What are the three words that describe your greatest weakness?
Which is the best temperament and explain why?
What are the three common negative emotions?
What is one, four letter word beginning with s _ _ _, which
underlies the negative emotions?
8. Can you change your temperament?

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9. Can you control the way you are perceived?

10. How are emotions controlled?

Bibliography ____________________

LaHaye, Tim, Spirit Controlled Temperament, Tyndale1966.

Roddenberry, Gene, Star Trek, The Next Generation, 1987
Rohm, Robert, and Carey, E. Chris, Who Do you Think You AreAnyway?,
Personality Insights, Atlanta, August 2001.

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Thought
You will change,
if you want to succeed.
MOD

Three influences _________________

Is there a best management style? Is there a wrong style for you?
What determines your style? Can your style change? How is
management related to leadership?
Three things determine leadership styles: the personality trait of the
individual, the position of the manager, and the characteristics of the
organization. If the individual personality traits of the manager do
not correspond with the culture or characteristics of the
organization, then conflict and stress develops.
As was observed in the chapter on personality, each leader has a
primary and secondary temperament. The primary temperament is
his natural, most comfortable direction for leadership or
management, while the secondary temperament defines how the
leader is prone to act under stress.
Despite an individuals natural temperament, the position of
manager implies certain characteristics and styles. The position of a
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and problem solving. At its basest form, the characteristics of the

position are similar to the dominant or choleric personality type.
When a person with a different temperament is placed in the
position of a manager, it is crucial that they fulfill the requirements
of the position, else unneeded conflict arises. This is not to say that
only those with an A personality are effective managers, rather
the position of a manager requires development of certain traits.
In addition to the individual characteristics, and the characteristics
of the position, the characteristics of the organization influence the
effectiveness of a leader. Every organization has its own culture.
The culture is primarily established by the leader with the most
direct influence. He may not be the boss, but may be the oldest,
most experienced, or simply the most effective political member of
the group. This organizational culture may conflict with the
personality traits of the manager, or even the characteristics of the
managers position.
The makeup of people in the organization can also impact the
culture to some extent. Most organizations, however, consist of
people of a similar mindset. Employees are generally hired that have
similar experience, outlook or characteristics as their boss. People
tend to volunteer into, or seek out, organizational cultures that are
similar to their mindset. What happens when a leader tries to modify
the culture or work in a foreign culture?

What style ______________________

The discussion in this chapter is about styles in leadership. Your
leadership style is the way that you implement your plan. With the
correct mindset, attitude and skills, a person with any temperament
mix can be a very effective leader. Temperament is how you are
wired. Leadership style is what you have learned.
In this chapter, leadership descriptions are defined in terms of the
organization and functions, rather than the individual. Therefore the
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task, support (ACTS) model is most descriptive. This can correlate

directly to the DICS model.
Management is the art of balance between the task that needs to be
done and the people that are involved. Leadership is the ability to
influence people. Some see that as conflicting interests. Others see it
as requiring insight to get both done. The successful manager makes
his leadership style a win-win for both the project and the people.
The next sections discuss several different analyses of management
style that have been developed and popularized by various authors
over the last half century. Many of these are subjects for week-long,
intense off-site seminars for aspiring leaders and managers. The
following is a quick review and familiarization with the topic of
leadership style, as seen by these authors.

Blake & Mouton grid _____________

Robert Blake and Jane Mouton originally published their work in
1964. [Blake, 1] An updated version, which applies to
organizational culture, was published by the same authors, along
with Anne McCanse in 1989. [Blake, 2] Blake & Mouton define a
grid that relates tasks to people, which has become one of the
traditional techniques of management training. The task orientation
is plotted on the horizontal axis with a strength scale of 1 to 9. The
people scale is on the vertical axis, also with a scale of 1 to 9.
A 9/1 leadership style indicates a maximum commitment to
production objectives, with little attention given to peoples
feelings. This is the authority compliance approach. It assumes
that efficiency derives from arranging conditions in a way that
people interfere to a minimum. This correlates to a task-oriented, T,
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p
e
o
p
l
e

5,5

1,1

9,1
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Conversely, a 1/9 leadership style suggests a disposition to

relationships and people needs at the expense of the job. This is the
country club atmosphere. The concept is that a well thought out
attention to peoples likes will lead to comfortable, friendly place
conducive to maximum work. This correlates to a communicative,
C, approach.
A 1/1 leadership style is characteristic of a low-profile manager who
operates by the book and, if possible, with little people contact. This
is impoverished management. It assumes that the least exertion to
get the work done is most appropriate. This is typical of a laborcontrolled shop, where the goal is to keep a good job, rather than
perform exceptionally. In contract, this leadership style may also
exist in a research environment of highly skilled professionals who
require little direction or association with colleagues. This correlates
to a supportive, S, approach.
The middle of the grid, 5/5, is not a balanced situation. The manager
has no consistent style and blows with the wind of change, as he
sees it. The middle-of-the-road management is achieved by
balancing the evil necessity of doing the work with maintaining
morale at a satisfactory level.
The 9/9 leadership style suggests there is no conflict between the
task and people. The job can be compatible with the people needs.
This is team management. It assumes people have an inherent desire
to do well at work, if given the opportunity and motivation.
Committed people with a common stake lead to trust and respect.
This correlates to the authoritative, A approach.

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It is quite easy to see how Blake & Moutons management styles

correlate to the temperament types. The DISC chart can be relabeled
using the management styles numbering.
Task
Rationale, logic, & structure

People
Understanding, perception, feeling

9,9

1,9
Outgoing
Expressive
Controlled
Reserved

9,1

1,1

Theory x theory y _______________

Douglas McGregor developed his contrarian theory for The Human
Side of Enterprise and published it in 1960. [McGregor]
McGregors analysis assumes that managers operate from two
possible sets of expectations about people.
The Theory X philosophy is pessimistic. It assumes work is
anathema, most people are lazy, and they will avoid work or exert
minimum effort. People need direction and maximum control in
order to get adequate performance. A Theory X manager tends to
think he is compensating for the weaknesses of people. This
correlates to the controlled approach on the ACTS chart.
The Theory Y philosophy is optimistic. It assumes people have
potential and ability and they desire to achieve something. A Theory
Y manager tends to think his role is to capitalize on the strengths of
the group. This correlates to the expressive approach on the
ACTS.
Since managers adopt styles that fit their belief, their actions tend to
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managers theory on people, then, becomes a self-fulfilling

prophecy.

Theory z ________________________
William Ouchi, in 1974, published his own theories of leadership
style based on the practices of the Japanese companies that were
entering the international market at the time [Johnson & Ouchi].
Ouchi referred to this style of leadership as Theory Z. The Theory Z
philosophy states that if the psychological, security and social needs
of an employee are met, then that employee will be productive.
Ideas such as lifetime employment, promotion based on seniority,
broad experience of employees, and collective decision making are
the result of this philosophy. On its surface, this philosophy is tied
very closely to the 1/9 management style or C, communicative
approach.
There are significant differences, however, between a Theory Z
philosophy and the country club management style that stem
primarily from cultural differences. While Western cultures
emphasize the importance of the individual, and the individuals
contributions, eastern cultures, such as the Japanese, emphasize the
importance of the organization at the expense of individual
incentive. Thus, although the goal of a Theory Z management
philosophy is to meet the employees needs to create a good work
environment, it does so in a rigid, controlled environment that is
much closer to the 9/1, or T, task management style.

Teams _________________________
Team is a popular concept that implies a mutual benefit, without
significant conflict. There have been many acrostics made from the
letters in team: Together Everybody Achieves More. The
negative side is TooBad Everybody Aint Motivated.
Sports and the political system of democracy have promoted a
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work together to accomplish the task. No team is effective without a

coach or leader. The team concept is as much a method of operation
between colleagues as it is an organizational style.
Numerous concepts can be developed that advocate the team
philosophy. However, it can be reduced to four criteria.
1.
2.
3.
4.

Team members must be clear about goals and objectives.

Team efforts must be coordinated.
The team has agreed on the criteria for success.
The team must believe they can work together.

On closer scrutiny, this is the criteria for success in any project.

Assessments _____________________
In an earlier chapter we looked at personal assessment. Now comes
the time to perform leadership assessments. Why would an
organization or leader bother with assessments?
Consider a simple quiz developed by Dr. James S. Vuocolo.
[Vuocolo] The information has been modified to be consistent with
other assessments.

Check the question only if your answer is yes.

____1. Have you ever been mismanaged?
____2. Have you ever misunderstood your partner/spouse/teenager, or
young adult family member?
____3. When you were mismanaged, did you take time to discuss it with
the person who mismanaged you?
____4. Have you ever left a store vowing never to return?
____5. Was it because of the way you were treated?
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____7. Did you decide to not buy from that salesperson?

Ninety-five percent of the people surveyed answered yes to 5 and 7.

Do you think that your treatment and your resulting reaction is what
the owner would desire? Not if he wants to continue in business.
Harvey McKay observed, "The most costly mistake a manager can
make is a bad hire." [McKay]
Whether you represent a non-profit organization, are an
entrepreneur, or belong to a huge corporation, personnel challenges
can stifle your venture.
It is incomprehensible to consider getting any gadget worth only a
few dollars that does not have an instruction manual. You may
choose to ignore the manual, but the information is there. Similarly,
it is prudent to have some guide or manual when considering
relationships, in order to provide information for better
communications. These assessments will provide a leadership guide.
However, the organization must develop a guide for the
expectations of the people. This is discussed in significant detail in
the second series book on organizations.

One for the money _______________

Margarethe Collins in Leadership Styles presents a comparative
way to determine your style. [Collins] This assessment is about you
and how you handle situations.
The ten questions of Collins survey have four choices of response.
Rank every choice on a scale of 4, 3, 2, or 1. 4 is most similar, 3 is
somewhat similar, 2 is little and 1 is least like you. That gives a
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Rank your evaluation. Use 4 for most like, 3 for similar, 2 for sometimes,
and 1 for least like you.
Example: When you are doing your homework your desk:
_1__a. has piles of papers, but you know what is in the piles.
_2__b. is messy and it doesnt bother you at all.
_4__c. is messy, and you dont want to admit you cant find things.
_3__d. isnt messy at all.
1. When assigned to a group to complete an assignment you
____a. want to be the leader in charge.
____b. enjoy getting to know and learn from group members most.
____c. listen patiently to others ideas.
____d. want to do things right the first time.
2. When your friends are disagreeing on what to do for the evening you
____a. state reasons why your idea is best.
____b. just want to go out and have a good time.
____c. are willing to do what the group wants most.
____d. like to plan ahead, so this doesnt occur.
3. At parties people see you as
____a. the one who organized a great time.
____b. the life of the party.
____c. calm and easy going.
____d. the person who ensures everything is laid out well so everyone
has a good time.
4. For you life is most meaningful when
____a. you are productive and accomplishing things.
____b. you are lighthearted and playful.
____c. it is filled with people and purpose.
____d. free of stress and pressure.
5. When you get in an argument with a significant other or best friend you
____a. fight back with facts.
____b. become quiet and hold anger.
____c. distance yourself and avoid further conflict.
____d. become upset and feel hurt, but dont discuss.
6. In evaluating the outcome of a project, others would have described you
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first one to act.

outgoing personality.
one who understood others feelings.
one who wanted to know the guidelines.

7 When in a group debate you

____a. argue your point.
____b. discuss with energy and relationship viewpoints.
____c. let others lead the debate.
____d. think your points through before speaking.
8. If your project is getting off track you
____a. tend to tell others what to do.
____b. need praise and enthusiasm to get others back on track.
____c. are patient with others.
____d. work independently to accomplish tasks.
9. If your friend were in trouble you would be
____a. protective, resourceful and recommend solutions.
____b. optimistic and downplay the seriousness.
____c. concerned, empathetic and loyal.
____d. supportive, patient and a good listener.
10. When you fail you feel
____a. silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn.
____b. embarrassed and nervous, wanting to escape.
____c. self-critical, depressed and you dwell on it.
____d. unsettled, but keep everything within.

Total the value for each letter choice (a, b, c, or d) in the chart
below. The sum of all letters should be 100. The sum of each letter
gives your propensity to that orientation. Each letter corresponds to
a particular leadership style. Collins descriptor is shown as the
style. The corresponding descriptors are also given.
Choice Value Collins Descriptor

Durham Organize Acts Control

Director/Responsible

Authoritative

+logic

Persuader/Spontaneous

Communicative

+feel

Stabilizer/Compassionate Supportive

~feel

Analyst/Conceptual

~logic

Task-oriented

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Two for the show _________________

In the preceding chapters and sections, we have discussed a number
of assessments. Another is provided for those that want just one
more. It is similar to the Collins assessment, with a different set of
questions and descriptors. This measurement is about relationships
inside an organization.
Dr. Anthony Falikowski provided the basis for this assessment in
Mastering Human Relations. [Falikowski]
For consistency with other assessments, the scoring has been
modified. Complete the evaluation in the same way as the previous
assessments. As in all appraisals, it is important to give your true
perception, not what you think is the right response.

Rank your evaluation. Use 4 for most like, 3 for similar, 2 for sometimes,
and 1 for least like you.
1. People occupying formal leadership roles should pay attention to
____a. the organization's hierarchy.
____b. the immediate practical needs of the organization.
____c. the future growth needs of the organization.
____d. the philosophy and systems of the organizations.
2. As a leader, I am/would be best able to
____a. build conceptual frameworks and develop models.
____b. respond immediately and realistically to problems in and open and
flexible way.
____c. use my charisma to facilitate participation and group decision
making.
____d. establish rules and policies while at the same time bring projects
to completion.
3. As a leader of others, I am inclined to ask questions like
____a. What's involved? Who possesses the power or authority? What's
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____b. What's the immediate need? Where is the problem? What are the
risks and benefits? How soon can we get started to resolve the
matter?
____c How will this affect people's morale? Who should be informed?
What is most important for people?
____d. What's my responsibility? What's the proper sequence? Why
should we change? Can this be justified?
4. My personal belief is that leaders
____a. should help organizations and institutions to operate according to
their missions.
____b. should run an organization/group/institution to meet current
needs.
____c. must use their followers' talents and potentials to maximize the
strength of the group/organization.
____d. should run an organization using solid and reliable information.
5. In functioning as a leader of people, I (would) value
____a. ability and intelligence, complexity and principles.
____b. an environment that encourages flexibility and risk-taking.
____c. cooperative effort and good interpersonal relations.
____d. caution, care and accuracy.
6. At work, I (would) orient to
____a. planned change for the future.
____b. things that affect current needs.
____c. motivating others to get the best from them.
____d. things that meet or don't meet standards.
7. What I appreciate in myself as a (potential) leader is
____a. my genius, thinking ability, and idea production.
____b. my active nature, cleverness, and great sense of timing.
____c. my high energy level, the unique contributions I can make, as well
as my ability to value others.
____d. my sense of responsibility, loyalty and industry.
8. As a leader, I need others to
____a. recognize my talents and abilities.
____b. respond to me.
____c. approve of my efforts.
____d. appreciate me as an individual.
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____a. by silly mistakes, stupidity, illogic, and unnecessary duplication.

____b. by having limits imposed, being told what to do and having to do
things conventionally.
____c. if people criticized me and treated me impersonally.
____d. by ignored deadlines, rule violations and violations of procedures.
10. I irritate others by
____a. hurting their feelings, nitpicking, my skepticism and by taking
others for granted.
____b. lack of follow through.
____c. getting emotional, moralizing, overextending myself and creating
dependencies.
____d. my sarcasm, seriousness or by my critical pessimistic attitudes.
11. My liabilities as a leader arise from the fact that I
____a. am impatient with human concerns, escalating standards and a
lack of personal execution after designing something.
____b. am unpredictable, impatient with theoretical abstractions, tactless
and unconcerned with the past or its implications for the future.
____c. often ignore problems and sweep difficulties under the rug while
playing favorites and trying to please.
____d. am impatient about project delays, I make hasty decisions, I am
preoccupied with negative outcomes and believe long and hard
work is the way to succeed.

Like many other authors, Falikowski applied his own terms to the
leadership traits. The responses (a, b, c, d) correspond to his
definition of visionary, troubleshooter, catalyst, and traditionalist.
Although those are good terms, the questions correlate directly to
the control model descriptions of authoritative A, communicative
C, supportive S, and task-oriented -T.

Three to get ready ________________

As we observed when we began the topic of personality assessment,
a broad classification of personality traits and leadership styles can
be obtained through examination of two criteria. The first has to do
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perception and feeling. The second is the relationship of expressive

or controlled.
The final leadership assessment is used only to determine the
strength of the task propensity as compared to the strength of the
people orientation. The questions are adopted from Organizational
Behavior by Hellriegel, Slocum, Woodman, and Bruning. This
assessment technique was modified to provide more convenience of
use that correlates well with the other evaluation tools.
Select whether your exhibit the trait often, sometime, or seldom.
Style ranking

Often Some Seldom

time

1.

I take time to explain how a job should be carried 2

out.

2.

I explain the part that co-workers are to play in the 2

group.

3.

I make clear the rules and procedures for others to 2

follow in detail.

4.

I organize my own work activities.

5.

I let people know how well they are doing.

6.

I let people know what is expected of them.

7.

I encourage the use of uniform procedures for others 2

to follow in detail.

8.

I make my attitude clear to others.

9.

I assign others to particular tasks.

10. I make sure that others understand their part in the 2

group.

11. I schedule the work that I want others to do.

12. I ask that others follow standard rules and 2

regulations.

13. I make working on the job more pleasant.

14. I go out of my way to be helpful to others.

15. I respect others' feelings and opinions.

16. I am thoughtful and considerate of others.

17. I maintain a friendly atmosphere in the group.

18. I do little things to make it more pleasant for others 2

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to be a member of my group.
19. I treat others as equals.

20. I give others advance notice of change and explain 2

how it will affect them.

21. I look out for others' personal welfare.

22. I am approachable and friendly toward others.

Then total the results for questions 1-12 and for questions 13-22.
The first twelve questions are rational, logic and structure oriented;
the last 10 are for understanding, perception and feeling oriented.
A value greater than 12 indicates you are strong in that area. A
higher number indicates greater strength. The weight of the ratio of
the two groups gives an indication of your approach. The most
effective leader has a high numbers in both sets of questions, and a
balanced ratio between the two sets.

What next ______________________

What does a leader gather from the information obtained from the
above assessments? How does it help the organization?
Consider your style and that of each member of your group. What
are the main strengths and weaknesses of the group? What is your
group missing to be successful? Can it be corrected internally or is
help needed? What type of training would be most effective?
The assessments can also be used as a development tool. Look at the
questions and concepts in terms of where you are and where you
want to be. Also consider the success machine.
mental

stimulus

+/-

emotional

physical

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Although your temperament is wired into your emotional design,

the physical manifestation in our leadership role can be controlled
with mental processes. The ability to control these mental decisions
comes by training, development of proper attitude or spirit, and
finally by your choice. The physical effects of negative traits can be
damped and your positive traits can be enhanced.
A proper attitude and proper choices are strongly directed by your
character. In order to assist you with this growth, a character
framework is provided in a later chapter.
In order to be successful, decide how you want the team to work
with you, and then decide how you can work best with the team.

Vision __________________________
Leadership is results oriented rather than task oriented. A leader has
the vision to see the end result, and can move within all styles as
necessary to reach the goal.
The leader has three tasks: he must motivate each individual; he
must get the team to buy into the project; and he must recognize and
capture the synergy of the team. When this occurs, the whole is
greater than the sum of the parts.
A leader knows the various leadership styles and uses them
effectively. In addition, he knows how his personal style encourages
or stifles production.
Application of the concept of leadership styles, as they apply to
organizational structure, is discussed in the book on organizations.

Review _________________________
In summary, leadership styles can be correlated to a corresponding
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can be learned through training. It is the balance between tasks and

people and the difference between expressive and controlled.

Application ______________________
1. Do assessments 1, 2, & 3. How do the results compare?
2. On a Blake & Mouton grid, a 9/9 is what type organization?
3. Which theory is optimistic and believes people are capable? X
or Y
4. What is a positive definition of the acronym TEAM?
5. Is the attitude toward a client, the same for an employee and
owner? Explain.
6. Should a leader have a high task and methodology value or a
high people value?

Bibliography_____________________

Blake, Robert, and Jane Mouton, The Managerial Grid, Gulf Publishing,
Houston, 1964.
Blake, R. R., J. S. Mouton, and A. A. McCanse, Change by Design, AddisonWesley, Reading, PA, 1989.
Collins, Margarethe, Leadership Styles, Rotary Youth Leadership Award,
www.stevegarrett.com/ryla/ryla_pdf/01_dev_leader.pdf, Arcadia, CA, 2003.
Falikowski, Dr. Anthony, Mastering Human Relations, 3rd Edition. Pearson
Education, Canada, 2002.
Hellriegel, Slocum, Woodman, and Bruning, Organizational Behavior, ITP
Nelson, Scarborough, Ont.
Johnson, R.T. and W. Ouchi, Made in America under Japanese Management
Harvard Business Review, Sept-Oct 1974
McGregor, Douglas, The Human Side of Enterprise, McGraw-Hill, New York,
1960.
McKay, Harvey, Swim With Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive, Ivy, New
York, 1958.
Vuocolo, Dr. James S., www.soulbusiness.com, Redlands, CA, 1997.

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Thought
Leadership is results oriented,
rather than task oriented.

Leadership development __________

Is there a secret to leadership? Why is it necessary to have
leadership? Are leaders born or taught? Are there things that leaders
consistently do? Does everyone want to become a leader? Is the
leader necessarily the boss?
An earlier chapter addressed leadership styles, and how they
correlate to personality traits. In this chapter, we will look at how
leaders are developed and what leaders do.
Leadership can be described based on the control model defined
earlier.
Leadership is helping people believe they can do it, and giving them
the tools to do it, then using feedback to reinforce their confidence.
- MOD

One survey has shown that 95% of the people want someone to tell
them what to do. They are asking for a leader. Why would the other
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A passion for or a vision of the end result is what distinguishes a

leader from the rest of the pack. Vision in a leader is also what
makes others willing to be part of the team.
A leader is someone who can inspire others to achieve.

There are three secrets to a successful leader. A leader asks openended questions, listens to what others say, and acts appropriately.
If you want anything, you must ask for it. Ask?

This principle is affirmed many, many times in virtually every

business and religious writing.
Leadership is more about who you become than what you do.
Others see a leader at the top. In reality, the most effective leader is
a servant.
Rather than making declarations, a leader is able to find what it is
that people want. By helping others get what they want, a leader can
accomplish what he wants.

Leader or boss ___________________

Three ideas arise in the context of leaders. A leader has the vision or
passion for the organization. He is result driven. He must balance
between the task and people.
A manager implements the plan for the organization. A manager is
typically task driven.
The founder or owner of an enterprise is typically a visionary. It is
this vision that motivated him to begin a venture in the first place.
As a business begins to expand, it is necessary to add managers to
perform the day-to-day operations. The visionary often is ineffective
at this task. Management is a repetitive process that requires
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The revolutionary is seldom a good king. A revolutionary is an

activist who wants to stir the pot. He is excellent at motivating
people and getting them excited. He is, however, less effective at
managing, governing, and negotiating. There are numerous recent
political examples.
Lech Walesa was a brash, energetic electrician in communist Poland
[Ash]. He was able to motivate a large segment of the working
people to challenge the government. The result was the
establishment of a democracy in his country. Because he had started
and culminated the freedom drive, Walesa was anointed as the
President. He was less effective in that role as he came to represent
a nation in the international community, and was eventually voted
out of office.
Dr. Newt Gingrich was a brash, energetic college professor
[Gingrich]. He became a Congressman of a minority party from a
small southern state in the United States. Historically, elections for
the U.S. Congress are driven by local issues. Dr. Gingrich
recognized that, in order for the Republicans to gain control, they
must nationalize the election of local representatives. That is,
create a unified doctrine and platform for representatives
nationwide.
Despite his relative lack of real power, Dr. Gingrich was able to
rally fellow Republican Representatives and to develop a Contract
with America. The Republicans then used this Contract as a
campaign promise for what would be done in the first 100 days
when they were the majority party.
The result was that, in an unprecedented shift of power, the
Republicans became the dominant party in the U.S. House of
Representatives. Newt became the Speaker of the House, arguably
the second most powerful man in the country. He was able to pass
the tenets of the Contract with America, even with a hostile
President. Dr. Gingrich, however, was less effective in the routine
matters of governance. He was summarily removed from his role as
Speaker of the House. He then successfully went on to other
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How do these examples relate to running an organization, rather

than politically changing the world landscape?
A classic example is Howard Head. Head was an aircraft engineer
and frustrated athlete. In a time when skis were wood, he developed
the idea to make them from aircraft aluminum. The result was a
much easier ski to use. From that idea grew one of the premium ski
companies.
As founder and owner, Head naturally became the President. He
was not as effective in running the company as he was at
innovation. The company began to slide. Unlike most innovators, he
realized his weaknesses and voluntarily hired a President to run the
company. Head then took on the role of Vice-President for
innovations and product development.
Who was the leader of the company? Was it the President or the
Vice-President? Was the leader the day-to-day boss?
Ego prevents most innovators from turning over the management
functions to someone else. That ability, however, is real leadership.
It is this trait that will permit the organization to excel. A leader
keeps the vision and permits someone else to manage.

10 Qualities of Successful Leaders __

Dr. Whitt N. Schultz of Buffalo University developed a list of what
he had observed about the qualities of successful leaders. The article
Successful Leaders: Ten Essential Qualities, was published in
Successful Supervision [Schultz].
1. They are accurate observers.
Absorb while you observe. Look at everything as if its the first
and last time youll ever see it.

2. They know how to listen.

Listening is wanting to hear.

3. They take copious notes

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4. They welcome new ideas.

Be open, responsive, and encouraging to others to bring their best
thinking.

5. They value time as a precious commodity.

Use time skillfully.

6. They set regular goals.

Strive hard to achieve your goals.

7. They try to understand others.

Reserve judgment until you understand the others point of view.

8. They always anticipate achievement.

After achieving, build on strengths to set new goals.

9. They know how to ask clear, courteous and incisive questions.

Questions are the creative acts of intelligence.

10. They know how to organize their approach to challenges.

Focus your total mind power on the important and relevant.

80 / 20 _________________________
One of the most quoted concepts in leadership and the makeup of
organizations is the 80 / 20 rule, developed by Vilfredo Pareto. A
variation of the Pareto principle can be stated as the trivial many
and the critical few.
Vilfredo Pareto was an engineer who migrated into economics and
political sociology. He lived in Italy from 1848 to 1923. Pareto first
published his observations in 1888 [Pareto].
Pareto observed that 80% of the land and wealth was owned by 20%
of the people. His further research, and that of others, confirmed this
general principle: in any general population 20% of the people will
succeed, 20% will flounder, and the remaining 60% will just exist.
The principle has many applications in every venture.
Eighty percent of revenue will come from twenty percent of your
customers.
Eighty percent of problems will come from twenty percent of your
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Eighty percent of the work will require only twenty percent of the
total project time. The remaining twenty percent of the work will
require eighty percent of the time.
Eighty percent of the taxes are paid by twenty percent of the people.
Is that fair? The best approach to increase tax revenue is to apply
10% to all income. The top 20%, then, will have more money to
develop more spending, which will ultimately increase the total tax
income.
Eighty percent of the revenue will come from twenty percent of the
time. This is extremely well known in the retail business. The store
remains open all year, but it is only the season between
Thanksgiving and Christmas that is highly profitable. The Friday
after Thanksgiving is commonly referred to as Black Friday,
because that is the first day all year that many retailers begin to
make a profit.
Eighty percent of the work will come from 20% of the people. The
least productive twenty percent of the people will create 80% of the
problems.
Being aware of the Pareto Principle assists the leader in focusing his
effort. At first glance, the effective thing to do would be to eliminate
the eighty percent and focus on the upper twenty.
This action, however, would be counter-productive. Even the top
20% is segmented by the 80 / 20 rule. If carried to conclusion, there
would be no one left. Nevertheless, the rule can be used to
determine the most effective place to expend resources and efforts.
Rather than eliminating the 80%, a better plan is to increase the total
volume. The rule still applies, though the twenty percent is now of a
larger number.
When analyzing why the rule works, several things come up. It is a
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would be expected, therefore, that an equal number will excel as

will fail, and three times that number averages out the middle.
Other than assisting with a vision for an organization, how does the
80 / 20 apply to developing leaders?
From the first look, 80% of the people in any group are out of the
running. The leaders will come from the 20%. That is, however, a
larger number of leaders than is observed in practice.
Consider applying the 80/20 rule to the 20%. The result is that 4-5%
of the total, or 20% of 20%, will excel. Apply the rule to the 5% and
the result is the 1% rule.
Now translate that to practice in any group. Eighty percent are
below the line and will not have a substantial impact. Twenty
percent will contribute most of the results. Five percent will be
leaders. One percent will be stellar performers who will change the
world.
Can you move up the scale? Absolutely, apply the principles of
leaders. The principles work whether you are presently in the
position of leader or not. Leadership is about who you are, not what
position you hold.

Am I enough ____________________
Everyone has questions about themselves and their worth.
Interestingly, these questions are very similar for all of us. This is a
very personal section that reflects differently on men and women.
The purpose is not chauvinistic. It is simply reflecting what people
think. The premise of this section is based on a seminar on
leadership by John Capellan of ICM [Capellan].
Men tend to ask, Am I enough, can I do it? For women, it is a
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These questions get to the core of why we do things, even when

those things do not make sense. The only one that can answer this
question is your father. If that resource is not available, then we tend
to lean on our spouse for the answer.
If the father did not have a proper relationship with the child, then
the question would be unanswered or answered negatively. The
most devastating thing that can happen to a persons psyche is to
perceive that you did not match up to your fathers expectations.
If affirmation did not come from the father, then people look for it
elsewhere [Canfield]. In many instances, this leads to co-dependent
relationships, which are frequently destructive. For example, a
woman who did not receive paternal love from her father may go
into numerous relationships of erotic love, looking for assurance.
Studies of criminals have shown that often there was a serious
problem with the perpetrators father figure. In some cases, the
father had threatened more than once, You keep doing that and you
will end up in jail. So, eventually, the son lived up to the
expectation. In other cases, the role of the father was challenged. In
the majority of the remaining cases, there was an absence of a
father.
None of this is to excuse any action. We are responsible for our own
choices. If there is an inadequate father influence, that positive
support must come from someone else.
Develop a mentoring relationship with someone you respect.
Surprisingly, leaders are willing to share. But they are guardians of
their time. A leader will want demonstration that their time is
appreciated and valuable to you.
If a personal mentor is not available, let the written word become
your mentor. Become a voracious reader of positive material that
can build you. Become a regular listener to recordings of successful
individuals. Find a place of association that affirms you and your
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What does all this have to do with leadership?

Words mean things. People tend to live up to the words they hear. If
you want to create a leader, tell the person that he can do it. Very
often, they will live up to your expectations.
A powerful personal illustration comes from my father. At the age
of 39, I began to approach that traditional midlife crisis. As an
executive with a major corporation, I had the perks of a corner
office with multiple windows, walnut furniture, a conference area, a
company supplied car, and a very substantial salary. My staff of
professionals was top performers. Our four children were in private
school. Our home was paid for and we were debt free. I was just
completing my doctorate. Ok, so in most peoples eyes, we had
arrived.
Then I decided to leave the corporate world and start our own
business from scratch. My father was still alive at the time. While
visiting with him outside his home, I tossed the idea to him. In the
entire time I was growing up, Dad was always self-employed.
Would a leader developing a son for leadership ask, Why are you
risking everything? Why do you not stay where you are? No! My
dads response was a very simple observation. Son, I was
wondering if you were ever going to grow up.
With that impetus, would it have been possible to not go for it?
Leaders create leaders.
Leave a legacy, not an inheritance.

In many instances, it appears that leaders are born. In reality, they

had a mentor, and they developed confidence in themselves that
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Time to yourself _________________

A successful leader spends time with the people in his family and
organization. However, that is very draining of his energy and
resources. It is critical that he take time to be charged.
Albert Einstein, Napoleon Bonaparte, and Thomas Edison were
frequent nappers. Presidents John F. Kennedy and Ronald Reagan
vindicated the power nap. That is not bad company to be in. Each
took time to isolate himself almost every day.
This is a no talk time. It is a time to let the mind shift into neutral.
The time should be short, so that the body does not go into deep,
REM sleep. That level of sleep causes lethargy for an extended time
afterwards, unless it is allowed to go through an entire sleep cycle of
around two hours. For me, the magic time is 17 minutes. For you, it
may be different.
With practice, you should be able to mentally tell yourself when it is
time to wake up. When it is time, get up without hesitation. Until
you develop mental awakening, avoid noisy alarms. These startle
the body into fight or flight mode.
The second area of personal time is for contemplation. It is not for
sleeping, it is for meditation. This time is typically about one-half
day, although for you it may be more. Because of the large time
commitment, it must occur on a scheduled interval. It is a time
without interruption by the outside world. That means all the
electronic devices are removed. A natural setting is even better.
Contemplation allows you to think through problems and
opportunities. It encourages you to reconsider priorities. It makes
the entire body more alert and sensitive to what is going on. Your
mind can again be creative - take a note pad with you so you can
record your ideas.
One of my favorite escape times is during an extended expressway
trip. This type of highway driving removes much of the aggravation
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and listen to yourself. I have developed some of my most creative

ideas there.

Delegation ______________________
Leaders must carefully guard their vision, attitude, and time.

These three items are things that no one else can provide. The
effective realization of these three factors separates the doer from
the want-to-be.
Since a leader is results oriented, individual tasks should not be a
personal priority. These are things that others can do.
Perhaps one of the most difficult things for a leader is to transfer
control of some segment to another person. After all, the leader has
the vision. He knows where he is going. That implies he should
know everything that needs to be done. That is not reality.
The approach reminds me of our son, when he was two years old.
He was a strong willed child. Whenever he was offered help, his
stock answer was Do it by me self! That is a great idea for
creating independence and self-confidence. It is not a good practice
for getting the task done quickly and effectively.
Technically competent people can be found to do almost any job.
What is the equivalent hourly cost of that person? Compare that to
the value of the leader. It does not make economic value for the
leader to do tasks that can be delegated.
Delegation is the transfer of responsibility with the authority to do a
task, but not the transfer of ultimate accountability for the
performance.

Responsibility is the obligation to perform assigned tasks

effectively.
Authority is the power to make final decisions that others are
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Accountability is being answerable for the satisfactory completion

of tasks.
If responsibility is delegated to a junior individual, then the
authority to make the final decision must also be reassigned.
However, answerability cannot be transferred.
If responsibility and authority rests with different people, one
person cannot accomplish the task. Nothing has been delegated.
Responsibility and authority have to do with making decisions.
Answerability has to do with management of the task.
Before a project can be delegated, it must be defined. The scope
must be adequate so that the junior party can implement a plan
without interference from the delegator. The delegator must remain
available for counsel and advice, but not micro-manage the process.
This is a fine line to walk.
A control system must be in place. This is another implementation
of the control model called the Success Machine. The stimulus is
the project assignment. The physical manifestation is the results of
the tasks. The emotional element is trust with both parties. The
mental element is confidence of the delegator and abilities of the
junior. Feedback comes from the junior to the delegator in terms of
progress reports; the delegator must then feedback to the junior his
appreciation for the work done.
Confidence /
Ability

Assignment

+/-

Performance

Trust

There can be multiple control loops. It is reasonable to have a

different control and accountability for each step or task that is
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It is not reasonable to only provide feedback at the end of the task,

or at a regularly scheduled performance review. Feedback should
occur often, particularly as it relates to good performance. It is a
downfall of many managers that they regularly provide critique
but rarely give praise.

Organizational Structures
Organizational structures, by necessity, have a top-down,
hierarchical configuration. That means that there are fewer players
the higher you go in an organization. There is ultimately one person
at the top with total responsibility. This authority is then delegated
through the organization.
Organizations take one of three approaches to management of ideas:
top-down, peer, and bottom-up.
The most common approach is top-down. This is the easiest to
implement. It is the government approach. All information and ideas
comes from the top. There are three major fallacies to this approach.
It assumes the people at the top are more brilliant and intelligent and
can make no mistakes. It assumes the people at the bottom are not
capable of knowing, only following direction. It is the most
expensive approach both in money and in lost opportunities created
by stifling creativity and objectivity.
The second method of managing ideas is peer review. This is a team
or fraternity approach. It is very effective in a small group. This
approach permits brainstorming and piggy-backing on other ideas.
Its major limitation is that the size must be restricted to 9 or less
players. Another risk is the creation of a clique or elitist club.
Finally, there is a risk of stifling independent thought. If
uncontrolled, the members of the team can begin to believe that they
are incapable of action without a team decision.
The foundational approach is a bottom-up structure. This is the most
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ideas is delegated to every person. Three things are required. There

can be no repercussions for mistakes. Authority to implement must
be transferred to a very low level. Rewards must be generous. This
practice lends itself to the most creativity and permits ingenious
solutions and opportunities. It is the most rewarding for the
organization. But it requires the most leadership ability to nurture
the community.
Regardless of the approach used to generate ideas and implement
them, the ultimate responsibility still rests with the leader. No
matter where the idea comes from, the leader, or executive, has to
make the final decision whether or not to pursue it. The decision
may come in the form of complete delegation to a subordinate, but
the decision is still the leaders.

Assessment ______________________
R. A. Mackenzie in The Time Trap: How To Get More Done In Less
Time has developed a profile to determine how well you delegate
[MacKenzie]. Complete the assessment of your personal responses.

Check the question only if your answer is yes.

____1. Do you take work home regularly?
____2. Do you work longer hours than your subordinates?
____3. Do you spend time doing for others what they could be doing for
themselves?
____4. When you return from an absence for the office, do you find the
In basket too full?
____5. Are you still handling activities and problems you had before your
last promotion?
____6. Are you often interrupted with queries or request on ongoing
projects or assignments?
____7. Do you spend time on routine details that others could handle?
____8. Do you like to keep a finger in every pie?
____9. Do you rush to meet deadlines?
____10. Are you unable to keep on top of priorities?

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Two or more checks indicate a need to improve. Five or more

indicate a serious problem. If there is a problem it is not just a
personal problem, but also an organizational concern. Not only is it
affecting you and your quality of life, it is limiting the growth of
juniors.
If the assessment indicates a need for improvement, it is important
that you get additional training and that you follow through with
delegating. Other people are competent or you should save a salary
and get rid of them. In that case, at least there will be more money
to contribute to your widow at the time of your early departure.
How does this apply to a small shop or to a one-man show? All the
factors are still appropriate. What are you and your time worth to
the organization? It may be time to hire an assistant to handle the
mundane and routine. The other major consideration is that you may
be doing unnecessary and non-billable work. Dump it and get back
to smelling the roses. Your family and your physician will
appreciate it.

Review _________________________
Leaders are not born; they are trained by a mentor. All leaders
effectively do the same things. They ask open-ended questions, they
listen to the answer, and they act appropriately. A leader jealously
guards his vision, attitude and time. These cannot be provided by
anyone else.

Application _____________________
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.

Give two definitions of leadership.

What is the difference in a leader, manager, and boss?
What are the three secrets of a successful leader?
What is 80/20?
How do you obtain the 5% and 1% rules?
Who are the five percenters?

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7. What is the basic resounding question that men ask about their
virility?
8. How does that question get answered?
9. What three things does a leader guard?
10. Why does a leader delegate?

Bibliography_____________________

Ash, Timothy Garton, Lech Walesa, Poland's brash union organizer stood up
to the Kremlin and dealt the Eastern bloc a fatal blow, The Time 100, Time,
http://www.time.com/time/time100/leaders/profile/walesa.html.
Canfield, Ken R., 7 Secrets of Effective Fathers, Tyndale, 1992.
Capellan, John, Seminar in Dallas, TX, ICM, PO Box 9071, Bakersfield,
CA 93389, 2004.
Gingrich, Newt, To Renew America, Harper Collins, New York, 1995.
Mackenzie, R. A., The Time Trap: How To Get More Done In Less Time,
McGraw Hill, New York, 1972.
Schultz, Whitt N., Successful Leaders: Ten Essential Qualities, Successful
Supervision, 1988
Pareto, Wilfredo, Cours d'conomie politique (1896, 1897), 2 volumes,
Geneve, 1964 edition.

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Thought
Practices are many,
Principles are few,
Practices may change,
Principles never do.
- An old proverb

Society needs ____________________

What is character? How does character relate to leadership and
success? Isnt character a religious issue? Can character be
changed? What is the moral authority for character?
Character is a group of mental, moral, and ethical traits that describe
a person and/or a society. There are numerous nuances to the
definition of character from acting to alphabets. In this context
character is an individuals pattern of behavior; moral quality; and
the principles and motives that control the life. [Webster]
Character is how a person behaves when no one is looking.
- Popular quip

If a culture is going to survive, then it must have certain

expectations and requirements of its citizens. Some features are
universal, such as the protection of life. Although even these have
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In this context, character is defined as the trait that promotes

equitable treatment of every person, regardless of station.
The behavior of a person is determined by the nature of his dealings.
As was noted in previous chapters, and by the structure of this
series, a person has three responses - personal, interpersonal, and
higher authority. Personal is with himself, interpersonal is with
others, and higher authority is with greater power. Alternately, the
relationships are respectively called internal, horizontal or external,
and vertical. These can easily correlate to the personality
relationships of emotional, physical, and mental.
What is the moral authority of character? When describing these
values, they must be compared to something. Society and a culture
do not develop concepts of character arbitrarily. These are
fundamental traits, and are generally recognized in cultures around
the world.
In order to examine the role of character in a culture, it is useful to
examine the founding document of the worlds currently oldest
government, the Declaration of Independence of the United States
of America, and the thoughts of the creators of that document, and
the government it founded.
When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one
people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them
with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the
separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of
Nature's God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of
mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel
them to the separation.
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created
equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain
unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the
pursuit of Happiness.--That to secure these rights, Governments are
instituted among Men,
- Declaration of Independence

The Declaration of Independence clearly states that the moral

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Unfortunately, some people have avoided the topic of character.

They mistakenly think it is a religious topic. Although it is one of
the tenets of religious systems, character is also a way of life and in
relations to people as well as relations with a higher authority and
Deity.
In some circles, theology and religion are regarded as a private
matter. That is impossible. The way you think, feel, and act impacts
others. Theology is very much about relationships. Despite current
attempts to revise history, it is the foundation of government.
Our Constitution was made only for a moral and religious people. It
is wholly inadequate to the government of any other.
- John Adams
Peace, prosperity, liberty and morals have an intimate connection
- Thomas Jefferson
We have stacked the whole of all our political institutions upon the
capacity of mankind for self- government, upon the capacity of each
and all of us to govern ourselves, to control ourselves, to sustain
ourselves according to the Ten Commandments of God.
- James Madison

Ethics are a part of virtually every profession. Many of these

professions require continuing education in ethics as a component of
maintaining registration. This chapter and a later one specifically on
ethics and professionalism address those issues.
Character and ethics are the foundation of laws and the legal system.
Without a framework, it is impossible to have consistent laws and
relationships with society.
Virtue or morality is a necessary spring of popular government.
- George Washington
No free government, or the blessings of liberty, can be preserved to
any people but by a firm adherence to justice, moderation,
temperance, frugality, and virtue; and by a frequent recurrence to
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- Patrick Henry
Neither the wisest constitution nor the wisest laws will secure the
liberty and happiness of a people whose manners are universally
corrupt. He therefore is the truest friend of the liberty of his country
who tries most to promote its virtue, and who, so far as his power
and influence extend, will not suffer a man to be chosen onto any
office of power and trust who is not a wise and virtuous man.
- Samuel Adams

A little history ___________________

The list of character traits that are generally accepted is actually
quite limited. In the Western civilization, based on the JudeoChristian ethical structure, these are identified in the historical and
religious teachings. A Middle Eastern scholar, Paul of Tarsus,
enumerated these character traits in letters to the cities of Galatia
and Ephesus in Asia Minor, then part of the old Roman Empire.
These lists of character traits have survived over two thousand
years. That is a strong comment on the value of their qualities.
These traits are referred to by Paul of Tarsus as the fruit of the spirit.
In the success machine, spirit is related to attitude, or the mental
decisions. Fruit is one of the products of a live organism. Fruit
carries all the characteristics of the parent in the seed [Durham].
Each character trait itemized by Paul will be investigated
individually. To aid in comprehension, additional related terms are
discussed in order to expand on related concepts and ideas. These
synonyms are provided strictly to improve understanding.
All these values are considered positive attitudes in the human
perspective. They may, however, be observed in different ways. A
person may embrace the trait, such as being moral, within himself.
Alternately, he may extend it to other people, such as treating others
well. Finally, other people will view the same trait as a leadership
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The topic of character traits is broken into 12 sections. This will

allow you to use one character trait per month in leadership
programs. Specifically, memorize a new trait and definition each
month, and attempt to apply this trait specifically to all of your
dealings. When this program has been used in organizations, there
has been a phenomenal improvement in attendance, improvement in
productivity, and reduction in complaints. Try it.

Virtue _________________________
Virtue is worthwhile.
Alternative interpretations are active goodness, asset, high caliber,
well doing, desirable quality, high merit, value, and benefit.
Virtue is an excellent word, but in some circles has come to be
primarily associated with chastity, especially in women.
Worthwhile has a broader application and acceptance in current
usage of the English language.

Morality _______________________
Morality is conforming to right human conduct.
Honesty, justice, equity, fairness, impartiality, and lawfulness are
renderings that are more familiar. In many cases, it is rendered just,
right, freed, judgment, and justification.

Integrity _______________________
Integrity is truth tempered with discretion.
The word is variously translated as honesty, truth, veracity,
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Truth is a legal term that can be used to distort intentions and

reality. We have seen politicians that technically, within the law, tell
the truth. However, they do not state accurate events or information.
Therefore, they are telling the truth while distorting the
circumstance and reality.
Integrity involves the facts tempered with judgment. It carries with
it the idea of truth in concert with intentions.
My wife has a very personal illustration of integrity. The fact is a
person (me) has a loss of hair. Integrity is saying nothing about it.
Everyone understands the facts and the intent.
My Dads definition of integrity was doing what you say.

Compassion _____________________
Compassion is emotional concern for others.
Related concepts are care, sympathy, concern, and consideration. It
carries the idea of a desire to give or help others. In some contexts it
is called love. This is a caring love. The other two types of love are
erotic and friendship.
Compassion is exercised toward another, even if you do not have a
relationship. It may be caring for an individual because of their
plight.

Charisma _______________________
Charisma is favor and joy.
Related words are grace, gladness, hail, greeting, or exuberance.
In addition, it has very fascinating derivatives. Favor is derived
from the same old root and literally means joy, grace, gratitude,
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shown in a term applied to debts. A grace period is an extension,

which is granted as a favor, to allow payment of the bill.
Another definition is always a gift. The connotation is personal
magnetic charm, appeal, or favor. This is a logical expectation since
a person with tempered joy does have great appeal.

Calm __________________________
Calm is peace and is also called prosperity.
It denotes a state of untroubled, undisturbed well-being. It is the
absence or end of strife. The term is sometimes rendered as rest or
quietness.
An English word that is very similar in etymology is serene. The
idea is to be internally at peace and to project calm to others.
The concept is expressed succinctly in one statement. Calm replaces
anxiety when our internal comfort comes from vertical influence.

Patience ________________________
Patience is the ability to wait, without being frustrated.
Other terms are endurance, tolerance, and persistence. It is from the
idea of forbearance or fortitude. In this case, the ability to wait
derives from strength not from laziness. Patience is active rather
than passively letting events happen.
Long suffering is a very descriptive term used in some renderings,
but it is seldom heard in common usage.

Kindness _______________________
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Kindness is usefulness or excellence. Kindness can be described as

the quality of humanity. Other options are mellow, goodness,
gentleness, good, easy, better, and gracious. By comparison,
excellence is goodness to the highest degree.

Confidence ______________________
Confidence is the mental assurance that something is true.
Synonymous concepts include credence, conviction, reliance,
constancy, and fidelity.
Confidence is related to faith. Unfortunately to many, faith has
taken on metaphysical components. Confidence or faith is a rational
characteristic. The idea is often associated with belief. Confidence is
more of an attitude based on logical arguments. Belief seems to be
more emotion derived from strong desire.
Both are necessary for success. Confidence creates an atmosphere of
control. Belief creates the desire to make it happen.

Genteelness _____________________
Genteelness is modesty with class.
Genteelness is simply being a gentleman or lady.
The primary idea is the opposite of brashness. Modesty is
sometimes linked to humility and meekness. Unfortunately, in
current vernacular, these words carry the impression of milquetoast.
However, in no way should the term gentle imply that someone is
a wimp.
A gentleman is the epitome of distinction and is well received. A
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a gentleman or lady at any social level. Regardless of station, he is

regarded as the best of his class.
How would you describe a gentleman? A gentleman is an example
of confidence, strength, nice, kind, pleasant, considerate, someone
with integrity, and respect for others.
In fact, a gentleman is the one word that best describes the entire
suite of character traits.

Control ________________________
Control is temperance or moderation.
Moderation is a related thought. The word temperance fell out of
use in the earlier part of the 1900s. It was closely associated with
the control of alcoholic use. Because of that unpopularity, the word
has almost vanished from the language.
As illustrated earlier, control is the mental function that keeps the
emotional and physical in check. Control is one of those fascinating
concepts that cross all boundaries. It is used to describe personal
actions, relationships, financial situations, and mechanical devices.
Whether in psychology, philosophy, or physics, control is crucial.
In every circumstance, control simply means to apply feedback or
constraint to a stimulus or input so that a desired response or output
is obtained. The model called a success machine which developed
earlier demonstrates control.
feedback

stimulus

response

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Examples vary widely. A person who is a control freak must

dominate every situation. A ship has a rudder to control direction. A
heater has a thermostat to control temperature. Financial
expenditures are controlled to stay in a budget. In what area do you
need to have further control?

Freedom ________________________
Freedom is making the right choices.
Freedom implies making choices that concur with natural law and
eliminates any consequences of concern.
Freedom is obtained and maintained by the choices you make.
Those choices depend on your character.
Free is perhaps one of the more emotional words in language. Being
free was as strong a desire in ancient history as it is today. Legal
concepts are not generally considered character traits. However, this
is one overriding desire of mankind that requires specific action to
develop and protect for yourself and others. Therefore, it can
accurately be considered a character trait.
Freedom is almost always stated with negation of an undesirable
situation. It means unconstrained, unlimited, independent, and
uncontrolled by external influence. In contrast, control is an internal
character trait imposed on yourself when relating to higher
authority.
Perfect before the law means the law has no consequences to you.
Therefore, you are free. However, freedom must be closely guarded.
When the dream or will for freedom has been shattered, choice
stops.
Liberty . . . is the great parent of science and of virtue; and . . . a
nation will be great in both always in proportion as it is free."
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Categorical _____________________
The fundamental type of relationship can be used to categorize each
of the character traits. Internal relationships focus on you
personally. Horizontal relationships deal with other people; it is how
you treat others. The final relationship is vertical or how we deal
with higher authority. Each of the twelve character traits can be
classified as dealing primarily with internal, horizontal or vertical
relationships. All twelve traits, however, impact our relationships in
all three areas.
Internal

Horizontal Vertical

Morality

Virtue

Integrity

Compassion Patience

Confidence

Charisma

Kindness

Genteelness

Calm

Freedom

Control

Positive and negative ________

Positive and negative are opposing polarities. They apply to every
circumstance and situation. Their existence is not subject to
question, but is a natural fact easily demonstrated by science. This
idea in itself illustrates structure. Each person makes a choice either
to understand and implement the natural laws or to ignore and reject
these precepts. The consequence of not heeding the natural laws is
always negative.
Not only are there positive and negative choices, and positive and
negative results, there are positive and negative influences. These
influences are variously called attitudes, spirits, messengers, guides,
or in the religious context angels.
Numerous synonyms are used for the polar opposites of positive and
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Right

Wrong

Good

Bad

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In the system design, there was no provision to force robotic action.

By making a choice to accept natural law, then the positive feedback
is to grow. Alternatively, should one choose to ignore or reject
natural law, there is negative feedback that leads to decay.

Review _________________________
Is it not intriguing that with understanding the few basic character
traits, we can relate to anyone? Can you imagine a person with all
these positive attitudes - virtue, morality, and integrity? Think about
a person with all the expanded traits: compassion, charisma, and
calm; patience, kindness, and freedom; confidence, genteelness, and
control.
What would you call that person? Do you want to be that way?
These are all positive attitudes that are available.
The essence of all the character traits is to be calm, in control, with
class.

That describes a gentleman or lady.

Application _____________________
1. Do these traits effectively summarize what you desire to see in
other people?
2. How close are you to meeting the standards of character?
3. What is the most important trait for the good of society? Why?
4. What is the most important trait for the good of your
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5. What is the most important trait for your personal compass?

Why?
6. Why do you think the most important might be different?
7. What is your greatest strength?
8. What is your weakness? It will become your strength if you
develop it.
9. What is your moral basis for your personal values?
10. Does your moral basis impact your perspective on the most
significant traits?
11. What is confidence?
12. What is a gentleman?

Bibliography ____________________

Declaration of Independence, United States of America, 1776.

Durham, Marcus & Rosemary, Who Is This God, DreamPoint Publishers,
Tulsa, 2002.
Websters New World Dictionary, World Publishing, NewYork, 1968.

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MOTIVATION

Thought
Motivation is helping people
to reach their potential.
MOD

Where from _____________________

What is motivation? What does it take to motivate people? Are
everyones motivational needs the same? Is money the primary
motivator? What are the other influencers?
Earlier chapters provided several assessments of your personality
temperament and leadership style. We also discussed character traits
that are critical to a leader. This chapter will discuss one of the most
important aspects of leadership: how to encourage people to reach
their potential.

What is it _______________________
For the novice manager, motivation consists solely of telling an
employee to do something. If the employee does not comply in the
manner that the manager wanted, the manager threatens the
employee. Is that motivation? Is it effective in the short term or the
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Negative motivation with orders and threats may work in the short
term, but it is not as effective as positive encouragement. Pushing
someone to do something is like pushing a chain, no matter how
hard you push, it just does not go where you want it.
Motivation is not telling, but selling

As discussed previously, early in the twentieth century, Dale

Carnegie delineated effective tools for dealing with people at any
level [Carnegie].
1.
2.
3.

Never criticize, ever.

Give positive affirmation.
Find out what people want and help them to get it. In the
process you will get what you want.

The first two areas are covered in the temperament and leadership
style. The remaining question, then, is what do people want.
Does everyone want the same things? No, but there tends to be
consistency in peoples needs. Can everyone reach the same level of
performance? No, the objective of a successful leader is to help each
person reach their potential.
In order to have everyone perform at the same level, then you are
forced to settle for the lowest common denominator. High
performers must be scaled back in order to stay in pace with the
lower performers. Not only is this the least productive for the team,
it is also extremely frustrating for high-achievers and they will
eventually leave the organization.
Motivation is helping people to reach their potential.
- MOD

So, should everyone be rewarded the same? There are three schools
of thought on rewards.

Reward people based on their position or seniority.

Reward people based on their effort.
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The first option represents the reward system found in most laborcontrolled organizations, and many large, old-style companies. This
method of reward sounds egalitarian, and follows the Theory Z
management style discussed in a previous chapter, but it is
repressive. It says to high achievers no matter what you do, you
can only advance so fast. It says to low achievers keep your nose
clean long enough and youll be OK. Neither group of people is
motivated to perform at a higher level. This system is the easiest to
implement because it is simply a number. It is task oriented thinking
and shows no value for people or their needs.
The second reward system, paying people based on their effort,
sounds compassionate. Despite the desires of the employees, and
often the manager, there is no free lunch. In order for there to be
resources for reward, their must be profit to the organization. This
method of reward is people oriented thinking and shows no
understanding of the costs of running an enterprise.
To those with no real experience running a business, the final
reward system sounds crass, but is the most reasonable. The primary
purpose of any firm is to maximize the shareholders wealth through
providing a service to the clients. A secondary purpose of a
company is to provide employment to its staff and employees. If
there are no services being provided to the clients, there is no
income, and no resources to pay employees or give a return to the
owners. This method of rewards shows leadership thinking and
respect for individuals accomplishments. It encourages all
participants to perform at a higher level, so the rewards to
themselves, and the organization will be higher.

High performers _________________

Why do some people perform better than others? Why does one
person finish a project in one week and an equally capable
counterpart takes three weeks? How does one leader get his team to
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Mel Hensey gives a clue to the key to performance [Hensey].

While it is difficult to measure productivity, particularly for
knowledge workers, managers can assess relative output. As they
have done it, particularly in groups, they have noted the following:
High morale and high performance groups or individuals with
equal skill resources will outperform those that are just marginally
acceptable by a factor of almost 3 to 1. Motivation makes a big
difference in group output, from marginal to high performing.
- Mel Hensey

What are the elements that foster high-performers? If these issues

are identified, then we have a direction to go when attempting to
motivate others. As expected, motivation goes back to the control
model called the success machine. There are emotional, mental, and
physical factors.
Self-satisfaction is the why. It is an emotional good feeling. Selfsatisfaction is not external recognition; it is the gratification of your
inner sense of worth. It is simply virtue. Self-satisfaction quells the
negative personality trait of depression.
Self-confidence is the mental assurance that something is true. It is
faith that you can accomplish the tasks you choose. It quells the
negative personality trait of fear.
Achievement is the physical realization that you did it. You
contributed something tangible to the human condition. Because of
its significance, someone else can recognize your contribution. It
quells the negative personality trait of anger.
If we can help people find ways to fulfill these three issues, we can
help an individual achieve his potential. In the process, you can
achieve your own goals.

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Assessment ______________________
What motivates people more than anything else? Is it money? Au
contraire. In study after study it has been shown that other things are
more important, all else being equal.
Cleland and Kocaoglu in Engineering Management developed a list
of factors that are perceived to motivate people [Cleland].
This assessment is confidential. There is no place for your name.

Indicate the five items from the list which you believe are the most
important to you to do your best work.
____1.
____2.
____3.
____4.
____5.
____6.
____7.
____8.
____9.
____10.
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____14.
____15.
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____24.
____25.
____26.

Steady employment
Respect for me as a person.
Adequate rest periods and coffee breaks
Good pay
Good physical working conditions.
Chance to turn out quality work.
Getting along well with others on the job.
Having a local house organ, employee paper, bulletin.
Chance for promotion.
Opportunity to do interesting work.
Pensions and other security benefits.
Having employee services such as office, recreational, and social
activities.
Not having to work too hard.
Knowing what is going on in the organization.
Feeling my job is important.
Having an employee council.
Having a written description of the duties in my job.
Being told by my boss when I do a good job.
Getting a performance rating, so I know how I stand.
Attending staff meetings.
Agreement with agencys objectives.
Large amount of freedom on the job.
Opportunity for self-development and improvement.
Chance to work not under direct or close supervision.
Having an efficient supervisor.
Fair vacation arrangements.

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____27. Unique contributions.

____28. Recognition of peers.
____29. Personal satisfaction.

What was the priority of your personal motivating factors?

1
2
3
4
5

If you were to rank your peers, would you expect the results of the
assessment to be different? If you were to rank those you
supervised, would you expect different results? Why do you
suppose that other people think and feel very different from you?
We have used the survey in a number of classes. After individuals
rank themselves, the group results are tallied. Then a stimulating
discussion is directed.
In conducting these surveys, we often find that individuals tend to
assume that their peers, or people they supervise, have different
motivating factors than they do. The assessment shows what is
important to the individual. In summing the results, we find that the
same things tend to be important to members of groups that are
somewhat homogeneous. For example, managers tend to think
similarly and engineers of the same age tend to think similarly.

Maslow hierarchy of needs ________

In 1954, a hierarchy of human needs was proposed by Alexander H.
Maslow in Motivation and Personality [Maslow]. Maslow
developed the idea that peoples needs can be segmented into five
categories. The lowest level need that is not being satisfied will
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need is filled. A higher level need achieves dominance only when

the lower level needs have been satisfied.
Maslows hierarchy is shown with the fundamental or lowest seated
first. The highest level of satisfaction is fifth.
1. Physiological needs.
The survival needs required to maintain life are food, water, sex,
shelter, and clothing.
2. Safety needs.
The security needs help a person hold onto #1. These include a
safe neighborhood, steady job, life insurance, and a moat or
stockade.
3. Social needs.
The need to relate and belong includes friendship, affection,
belonging, love, acceptance, and social activity.
4. Esteem needs.
The need to be respected includes status, recognition, prestige,
and holding and using power.
5. Self-actualization needs.
The need to achieve ones self, regardless of what others think.
It includes self-fulfillment, self-realization, and sense of
accomplishment.
A satisfied need is no longer a motivator. It is important, then, to
realize where people are, and what their current motivational needs
are. A beginning professional or lower paid individual may be
concerned for his physiological and safety needs. An upper level
manager should have those covered and may be looking for esteem
and self-actualization.
There is one problem with Maslows theory. It assumes that only
one level is active. In reality, we have found that, at any given point,
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one need may be dominant, but the other needs will still be
motivation factors to some extent.
I remember when I was quite young that I wanted people to know I
had lived on this earth and had made a difference. That was a goal
well before I had satisfied the other needs. Perhaps that objective
has been one of my motivating factors.
What has been the highest objective of your needs hierarchy? That
will be your limit of achievement.

Positive and negative motivation ___

There are things that motivate people positively and things that
motivate negatively. Positive motivating factors encourage people.
These tend to be associated with the Maslow esteem and selfactualization needs. People are most satisfied when these are
provided.
Conversely there are negative motivation factors. These factors do
not necessarily encourage people to achieve more. If these are not
provided, however, there is a negative effect on performance. These
are more associated with Maslows lower hierarchy needs safety
and security. Notice that money is in this category.
Expanding on Maslows work, Frederick Herzberg developed a list
of satisfiers and dissatisfiers from interviews with professionals
[Herzberg]. Their position and education may account in part for
some of the factors. Because these individuals have, to the most
part, met their physiological and safety needs, Herzbergs results
were different from Maslows list.
Positive

Negative

Achievement

Company policy / administration

Recognition

Supervision

The work

Relationships with others

Responsibility Working conditions

Advancement

Salary

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Personal life
Status
Security

Herzberg found that people assumed that the items in the negative
column were a right of employment. As in many other areas,
perception becomes reality. Once a need is met, it is viewed as a
right. If this right is not granted, it becomes a negative to that
individual. People expect to be treated equitably with dignity. If
they are not, then they become dissatisfied.
Despite the fact that they are the most significant motivating factors
for people, the items in the left column are generally the least
expensive to provide. What does it cost to tell someone he is doing a
great job? Does it help or hurt the organization to give people more
responsibility?
Growth can come in many ways. One of the most appreciated is to
recognize people by providing personal development training for
them. This improves their performance, and an even bigger benefit
is that it helps their self-worth and satisfaction. That makes them a
better value.
What is the difference between how a manager and a leader view
the personal development of their employees? A manager would try
to put a bottom line figure on the value of the training. Since this is
often not easily recognizable, this tends to be difficult. A leader
recognizes that people are significant. He will get results from
building the people.
Which attitude ultimately affects the bottom line more positively?
When managers run a company, training is curtailed. The short time
reduction in investment results in a long-term lack of growth.
When a leader runs a company, training is a major part of the
operation. The long-term result is growth of the organization and the
individual. This creates a winning arrangement for the individual
and the organization.

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Resolving difficulties _____________

The information on motivation has been for general application. It
stresses that everyone has needs that will change based on
circumstances and position. The discussion has illustrated that
everyone has things that motivate him or her. These needs are based
on an individuals emotional, mental, and physical perspectives. We
have also addressed the costs and benefits of motivation to the
organization and the individual.
What does a leader do when there are difficulties? Because of
different temperaments, goals, and needs, there are conflicts in
personalities and styles. These are unavoidable. The negative
results, however, can be mitigated. It is the leaders responsibility to
be the servant. He is well advised to try to understand the other
person before making a decision or taking action.
One of the effective ways to resolve difficulties is to look at how the
person is wired. What are the things that motivate him? What is his
area of challenges? The following charts were adopted from
Margarethe Collins [Collins].
From all these observations, there is one common theme. People
want to be appreciated, just in different ways.

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Dominant, Authoritative, Expressive Logic

Strengths
Like quick results

Weaknesses
Are sometimes hasty

Like cause to action

Take big risks

Love a challenge

Can be brash

Decide things quickly

Are predictable

Act as a catalyst for change

Are impatient

Like to have authority

Are too impromptu

Meet trouble head on

Make assumptions

Are good problem solvers

Are insensitive to others

Are strong minded

Can be stubborn

Are intense

Are sometimes intimidating

Are strong willed

Can seem insensitive

Are achievers

Seem unapproachable

Motivated by

Needs

Power

Challenge

Authority

Human relation skills

Prestige

Experience

Challenge

Discipline

Opportunity

A team of equals

Variety

Accountability

Directness

Clear limits

Advancement

Scheduled rest/recovery time

A free hand

Structured solutions

Action

Caution

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Influence, Communicative, Expressive Feeling

Strengths

Weaknesses

Are cheerful

Can be naive

Like to be around people

Tend to neglect tasks

Are optimistic

Sometimes ignore danger

Make a good impression

Are influenced by assumptions

Are articulate

Sometimes arent taken seriously

Are gregarious

Can seem evasive

Are motivating

May seem insincere

Tend to be friendly

Sometimes doesnt follow through

Tend to be enthusiastic

Tend to overlook reality

Like to be helpful

Can seem condescending

Are entertaining

Can seem unconcerned

Are pleasant

Are not confident

Motivated by

Needs

Popularity

Objectivity

Recognition

To be heard

An audience

To be more realistic

Extracurricular activities

Priorities

Equality

Deadlines

Freedom

Accountability

The opportunity to be heard

To plan more

Coaching

To test the logic of ideas

Comfort

To be more disciplined

Confidence

Follow through

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Supportive, Controlled Feeling

Strengths

Weaknesses

Maintain standards

Can seem dull

Are dependable

Are sometimes blind to change

Are quiet

Can be inflexible

Are patient

Appear listless

Are unassuming

Resist multiple priorities

Tend to specialize

Appear lazy

Are unflappable

Seem purposeless

Are focused

Do not challenge others

Are loyal

Need predictability

Are good listeners

Do not delegate well

Provide a calming influence

Are usually threatened by change

Are modest

Respond poorly to crisis

Motivated by

Needs

Security

A quicker reaction to change

Status quo

To accept challenges

Leisure time

To do more than one thing

Credit for accomplishments

To make their successes known

Realistic expectations

To hold other accountable

Appreciation

To be more flexible

Team support

A supportive team

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Compliance, Tasker, Controlled Logic

Strengths
Maintain Standards

Weaknesses
Can be negative

Are detail oriented

Are pessimistic

Enjoy predictability

Seem aloof

Are diplomatic

Can be withdrawn

Are accurate

Are loners

Use critical thinking

Get depressed

Seek excellence

Resist delegating

Are obedient

Are slow decision-makers

Do not challenge authority

Seem inflexible

Are careful

Tend to bottle up grievances

Are diligent

Motivated by
Security

Needs
Precision

Standard operating procedures

Careful planning

A sheltered environment

Exact expectations

The reassurance of their worth

Performance appraisals

No sudden changes

More respect for people

A team environment

More tolerance for conflict

Recognition

More tolerance for imperfection

The status quo

Optimistic teammates

Symbols of success

Review _________________________
Motivation is not telling, but selling. Find out what people want and
help them get it, in the process, you will get the results you want.
Motivation is helping people reach their potential. Everyone has
needs. They may be expressed in different ways and they may
change with time. The driving needs are based on personality
tendency, age, and position. High performers must be recognized as
unique and requiring more flexibility and reward if their potential is

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to be realized. Unfortunately, in many organizations, high

performers tend to be a threat to the status quo, and are not given the
opportunity to excel.

Application _____________________
1. What is motivation?
2. What are 3 issues that make people high performers?
3. The three factors that cause people to be high performers quell
which negative personality traits.
4. What is the common thing necessary to resolving difficulties
and the one general thing that all people want?
5. What are the tools that Carnegie uses in dealing with people?
6. What personal objective will set the limit on your level of
achievement?
7. What is one way that a leader can improve the long-term value
of his people, and growth of his organization?

Bibliography ____________________

Carnegie, Dale, How to Win Friends and Influence People, 1939.

Collins, Margarethe, Leadership Styles, Rotary Youth Leadership Award,
www.stevegarrett.com/ryla/ryla_pdf/01_dev_leader.pdf, Arcadia, CA, 2003.
Cleland, D.I., and D. Kocaoglu, Engineering Management, McGraw Hill,
New York, 1981.
Hensey, Mel, Collective Excellence: Building Effective Teams, American
Society of Civil Engineers, New York, 1992.
Hersberg, F.,One More Time: How Do You Motivate Employees?, Harvard
Business Review, Vol. 46, 1968.
Maslow, A. H., Motivation and Personality, Harper & Row, 1954.

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COMMUNICATION

Thought
People do business with people
they like and respect.
MOD

What is it _______________________
How do you get your message across? What is the best vehicle?
What is the difference in communicating, telling, and selling?
Communication is presenting your idea in the most effective way
and getting feedback. It is more about listening than about speaking.
Communication is perhaps the weakest link for technical
professionals who aspire to management and leadership.
Communication is more important than technical information. If
you cannot communicate your knowledge, then you do not have
knowledge. You only have personal information. If you can
communicate effectively, you can overcome many challenges.
Numerous vehicles are used to transmit a message. These include
books, papers, articles, reports, memos, emails, letters, lectures,
presentations, phone calls, audio recordings, video recordings,
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Messages come to us through the eye gate, ear gate, and touch
sensors. In personal relations, touch is very powerful. Because of
that, it must be used with caution in a business environment. The
method of handshake and other forms of body language will be
discussed in another chapter.
Written communication is strictly through the eye gate. Audio
recordings and phone calls are strictly through the ear gate.
Presentations use predominantly the eye and ear, with some touch.
Since a presentation addresses all issues, it will be covered first.
Then specific applications are applied to the other methods.
Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The
friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are
listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand.
- Dr. Karl Menninger (1893-1990)

Communication cues _____________

A presentation involves much more than the words. Dr. Albert
Mehrabian developed the classic statistics about effective
communications [Mehrabian]. Interestingly, he has his
undergraduate and graduate degrees in engineering and his doctorate
in psychology. He did his teaching and research at U.C.L.A. His
research shows the relative importance of the cues used in
communication.
Cue

Verbal 7%
Vocal

38%

Visual 55%

Verbal is the words you use. It is the data, information and content.
It is the least important mode. It is what you say.
Vocal is the voice inflections, expression, resonance, tempo and
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Visual is the body language. It is eye placement, posture, gestures,

facial expressions, and visual aids. It is how you look, what you
wear, and what is seen. It is who says it.
"I hear and I forget, I see and I remember, I do and I understand."
- Confucius

Obviously these cues apply to visual presentations. The cues also

apply to telephone and electronic mail. Who has not spoken on the
phone and could detect anger or joy coming across the line?
I place a mirror beside my phone to remind me to answer the phone
with a smile. That comes across to the other party. It sets a tone for
the relationship.
The same clues apply to electronic mail, which is typically written
quickly without a great deal of review and analysis. Therefore, it
carries more of the emotional message.
Dr. Layne A. Longfellow, an experimental psychologist, wrote a
very interesting treatise on Body Talk: The Game of Feeling and
Expression [Longfellow]. This adopted Mehrabians work into a
board game that is played by expressing emotions with defined parts
of the body. It is an effective tool used by actors and professional
speakers.
What is communicated by this sketch? Are any words necessary?
What vocalization may be heard? Are they in the dictionary?

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Educated and professional men and women, who are trained to use
words and logic, often lack the skill of natural interaction with
others. In effect, they may appear to be culturally deprived.
Everyone uses body language. The language is more easily spoken
than explained. How is it learned? Children adopt it by watching
and repeating. As we become more educated, the words are
emphasized. Non-verbal may be repressed or not further developed
past that childhood level. In If I Ran the Zoo, Dr. Seuss described
such a comically unpleasant humanoid as a n e r d [Seuss].
It is crucial to understand the non-verbal communication, if you
expect to be an effective presenter. It is equally important in
developing relationships.
An exercise is presented in the chapter on presentation. This is
beneficial in opening up the clues to effective communication.

Keep it positive __________________

Earlier discussion addressed the cues to communication. Notice that
verbal is only 7% of the equation. The fact that this is a small value
has a huge impact on what people hear and do.
Edgar Dale illustrated the retentions process. He found that after
two weeks, people tend to remember 10% of what they read, 20% of
what they hear, 30% of what they see, 50% of what they see and
hear, 70% of what they say, and 90% of what they say and do
[Dale].
Other research has different percentages because of variations in the
methodology. Research conducted by Szuprowicz has shown that
people retain only 20% of what they see, from 20% to 30% of what
they hear, and about 40% to 50% of what they both see and hear.
And they can retain up to 80% of what they see, hear, and do at the
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With those very low retention statistics, it is crucial to give only

positive instructions. For some reason the negative part of the
command is not heard or not translated.
Have you ever told a child, Do not do that? What is the next thing
he will do? Yes. The very thing you direct against. Many think that
is simply rebellion, part of the learning, or injecting an idea to
experiment.
That does not appear to be the case. After extensive research, we
have found that adults respond the same way. It appears that the
negative does not always get translated in the brain. As a result, they
do exactly the opposite of what you and they desire.
It is as if a persons wiring wants to respond positively to any
information. The negatives are very small, short words. They are
part of the filtering that happens with the words in the
communication process.
If you want a person to avoid doing something, give them a positive
alternative to implement. The success rate is much higher.

Gentleman with class _____________

Communication involves numerous media and vehicles. It can be
written, oral or visual. Communication success can most
consistently be obtained by following the character traits of a leader.
The essence of all the character traits is to be calm, in control, with
class. That describes a gentleman or lady.
- MOD

Many things are summarized in the term gentleman or lady. That is

the image you want to project. It says everything about your look,
your expression, and your dress. It says everything about your
confidence and relationships. It says everything about your
knowledge of the topic.
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Crudeness or brashness will get attention and some humor, but

misses on the respect and authority. In some circles, it may even
drive money. However, it is not acceptable in a professional context.
A gentleman or lady has a consistent format in all communication.
It is the sandwich technique.
1. Give sincere thanks or positive affirmation. This is not
perfunctory, but entails real value.
2. Address your topic. Use clarity, brevity, and simplicity.
3. Close with appreciation for an act. This is not to the person, but
what he did or does.
Realizing the relationship aspect of communication will drive you a
long way to overcoming any apprehension and having a successful
outcome.
Business is about relationships.
People do business with people they like and respect.
- MOD

Conversation ____________________
How can someone start a conversation or keep one going? It is
about asking open-ended questions, and then listening. There are
only a few responses that can make someone a great
conversationalist.
1. Tell me about your FORM (family, occupation, recreation, or
monetary interests). Select one of these topics as an icebreaker.
This is a way to get the conversation started. It lets the other
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2. Keywords. Listen for key words that the person says. Then ask
them to comment on that particular thought. It is appropriate to
occasionally give a thought, but conversation is about helping
the other person to communicate. Actually attorneys are skilled
at this technique when questioning a party or getting an
opponent to tell what they know. Avoid the attorney attack, but
use the tool to keep the conversation flowing.
3. Insert. After their comments, insert short phrases like right, yes,
thats good, humm, or interesting. These interjections are like
saying sic em! to a dog. They encourage the person to
continue. They also illustrate that you are listening. Agree
where you can, be silent where you cannot.
4. Pause. Wait before responding to any statement or question. It
signifies that you are thinking about the thought. Furthermore, it
precludes your having to come up with a comment while the
other party is talking, so it allows better listening. An extended
pause will often get the other party to talking. Very few people
can tolerate silence or dead air. Therefore, they will usually
make some comment. Remember, the first person to speak after
a long pause has conceded control of the conversation to the
other person.
5. So what you are saying is ... Summarize your perception of the
other persons position. It provides an opportunity for
clarification. It also puts them in a position to be the one who
responds. This can be very effective to get them to re-evaluate
their thoughts, if they are having difficulty in coming to your
way of thinking.
By using these tools, the other person is talking about their favorite
topic, himself. Fascinatingly, by saying very little, you will be
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Telephone _______________________
The telephone has become one of the most intrusive instruments
into our lives. Because of historical reasons, it dominates whatever
is happening. People will answer the phone regardless of what else
is occurring.
Businesses will answer the phone when a customer is standing
there. Is that rude or good business? Someone has made the effort to
come to your location. Give them the courtesy of your time. Make
other arrangements for the phone. If you are the only one there, ask
their permission to answer the phone. This gets them as part of the
team. Then make the call short or arrange a call back.
Have you ever detected an irritated tone in someones voice over the
phone? You can sense their feelings, cant you?
As an aid in helping set the right tone, place a mirror near the
phone. Look into it before you answer. Smile! It comes across on
the line. It sets an attitude for the call. It establishes a relationship
with the other person.
Answer crisply, Hello, this is ----. Alternately smile and answer,
Hello, may I help you?
For safety and security reasons, do not ever, never, ever, give your
last name on a residential phone. Even in a business environment
use only 1 name. If it is the last name, precede it with a title such as
Doctor, Professor, and Captain. However, do not use a position such
as Vice-President. If you prefer the formality of Mister or even
President, use it with the office, even if you are answering the phone
yourself. Consider This is Mr. Smiths office. When Mr. Smith or
Fred is asked for, respond with This is he.
Similarly when calling someone, give you name. Immediately
follow with an affirmation, and then begin your request. If you
know them, begin with sincere thanks about something. If you do
not know them, you might try I understand you are the person that
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During the conversation, if the person cannot solve the problem ask
who do you think is the best person for me to chat with? If there is
difficulty, affirm, Please transfer me to your supervisor, who did
you say that was? Be persistent, but in all else, be polite. It works.
After you have finished the conversation, close with appreciation.
Even if they have not resolved the problem, appreciate their referral
to the next person, or their efforts to help.

Electronic mail __________________

Electronic mail (email) can be a boon or bust depending on how it is
used. It has the distinct advantage of permitting you to use it on
your time schedule. It is powerful in that it provides a documented
response around the world. It can be used in a near real-time
exchange of information.
It has one major drawback. There is so much junk mail that it can
eat up excessive time just processing the trash. Filtering between the
good and bad is important since it is not always possible to tell who
is mailing or what the content is. Clearly state in the subject so the
other person will not trash it.
Since the basic philosophy of email is speed, it is simply a note.
Keep it concise. Restrict each missal to one topic. Unless there is an
ongoing exchange, restrict the number of messages.
If more than one topic needs to be discussed or the topic needs to be
addressed in substantial detail, write a more formal letter. The letter
can be dispatched via electronics, preferably as an attachment. It
should be recognizable as a letter and not a long note. I use
letterhead when creating this communications.
The Subject line should clearly state the topic. Make it specific to
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The note should be a sandwich of three paragraphs. First, like other

communications, give thanks or positive affirmation. The next
paragraph should present your request or case. The final paragraph
should be appreciation for an act.

Grammar
Communication is critical to success. Proper writing will determine
whether you are regarded as educated or a buffoon. Entire texts are
written on the topic. It is discussed for many years in school.
Therefore, this will just be points to consider. It addresses common
areas of less than proper writing.
Style is the first thing to identify.
1. Formal tends to be stilted, but is proper in every way. It is
seldom used in professional communications.
2. Standard is proper but may have an occasional transgression
such as ending a sentence with an infinitive. It is the preferred
style.
3. Technical includes jargon and other nuances. It is not
comprehensible by non-techs or even many of the tech types.
Avoid jargon. The first time an acronym is used, describe it.
Reduce the technical jazz to standard style for better
communication.
4. Casual is conversational and may contain dialect specific and
colloquialisms. It is appropriate for familiar correspondence, but
never for professional. Because electronic mail is quick and
personal, many adopt this style. That reduces the effectiveness
of the message in a professional environment.
5. Event style is specific for the circumstance. It is inappropriate
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Punctuation is used to clarify the association between phrases and

ideas. Other than the normal end of sentences, two items are
common areas of discussion.
1. Commas separate a list. The last item in the list is typically
preceded by and or other terms. A comma before the and is
frequently regarded as redundant. If and is used to associate
other terms in the sequence, a comma must be used before the
last term. In addition, with the broad cultural communication,
the comma is preferred to absolutely identify the association.
2. Punctuation is typically applied inside quotes. An exception is
when quotation marks are used to identify a written article.
Grammar is the structure of the sentence. There are many practices
and rules in this area. The following items will be simply listed as
things to check.
Grammar
Capitalization

Possessives and plurals

Commonly confused words

Punctuation

Hyphenated & compound words Relative clauses

Misused words

Sentence structure

Negation

Subject-verb agreement

Passive

Verb and noun phrases

Complete sentences

Expressions vary with style, region, and education. The following

challenges should be avoided.
1. Clich is a trite or overused expression or idea. So it is casual.
2. Colloquialism is a local or regional dialect intended to duplicate
informal speech. So, it is casual.
3. Contraction is shortening of a word by eliminating a letter or
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4. Jargon is specialized or technical language of a trade,

profession, or similar group. It is technical or casual.
5. Sentence length should be restricted to less than 50 words for
clarity and brevity.
6. Sentences should not begin with conjunctions such as and, but
or hopefully.
7. Contrasting terms such as however and nevertheless in formal
language are used after a semicolon and before a comma.
However, in standard communication the terms may begin the
sentence, but it is still followed by a comma.
8. More than three successive nouns are confusing.
9. More than three successive prepositional phrases are also
confusing.
10. Unclear phrases and association can be corrected by
rearrangement and punctuation.
11. Use of the first person is highly conflicting. Formal
conversation does not permit it. The alternative is the royal we.
We is simply substituted for I.
12. One alternative used in standard style is to rearrange the
sentence and use the passive voice. However, clear
communication avoids passive voice in favor of active. That
brings back the first person.
13. The best alternative is to craft the sentence in active voice while
reducing the use of first person.
14. Wordiness clutters the message. Say what you mean. Keep the
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15. A split infinitive has a modifier between the to and the verbal.
An example is to really start. More than one modifier muddles
the message.

Parlor games ____________________

The parlor game gossip is an excellent illustration of
communication noise and loss of information. A message is
whispered in the ear of one person. She then whispers the
message to the next person. The process continues around the
group. The final person announces the message aloud.
Each person in the group contemplates how it compared to what
they heard. The initiator then declares the original message.
The result is not just garbled information. It is also influenced since
people try to make sense from what they heard. The translation
results in new data.
Assume that 80 percent of the information is transferred accurately.
Then the result of 10 people is (0.8) to the power of 10.
Data = (0.8)10 = 0.107
The final result is only about 10% of the original information.
The process was tested with two different groups. The original
message was The airplane loses it power and glides to a rest. One
result was The airplane lost its engine and crashed. Although part
of the idea was correct, the results were totally different.
The same message was given to another group. The result was an
astounding There is no pants in business. There is not a single
word or concept that is transferred.
The importance of the illustration is that communication is distorted
if it is not direct. That is a very important principle for
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What did you say ________________

Another demonstration reveals the value of asking questions. Two
people are selected from the class. A simple geometric diagram is
given to the spokesman. The illustrator draws the figure as it is
described.
The first time, the spokesman gives direction. The illustrator makes
the drawing. There can be no questions and no feedback. In other
words the spokesman cannot see what is happening.

For the second phase use a different diagram. This time, the
spokesman watches the drawing, can make suggestions for
corrections, and the illustrator can ask questions. Which is more
effective?
A very similar demonstration can be done with something as simple
as putting on a coat. First the spokesman cannot see what is
happening. In the second trial, he can see and questions can be
asked.
The spokesman tells the actor each step in the process. The actor
can do only what is stated. Each step must be described in detail.
Begin with picking up the coat from the chair. Continue with how to
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If the actor is listening properly, he will likely never get the coat on
his back in a reasonable time.
Communication is a key to successful relationships.

Review _________________________
Communication is presenting your idea in the most effective way
and getting feedback. It is more about listening than about speaking.
The words expressed are about 7% of the message. Vocalization is
about 38%, while the visual component is about 55%. Therefore,
written communication loses some of the impact over voice or face
to face. Use the sandwich technique with communications,
particularly those that are not face to face. All messages must be
stated in a positive way. Negative statements do not translate in the
brain. In all else, maintain a genteel manner.

Application _____________________
1. What is communication?
2. What is the sandwich technique?
3. Why is communication more important than technical
information?
4. In an organization, why is direct communication better than
indirect?
5. When you have a guest in your office and the phone rings, what
do you do?

Bibliography ____________________

Menninger, Dr. Karl, www.brainyquotes.com.

Longfellow, Dr. Layne A., Body Talk: The Game of Feeling and
Expression, Psychology Today, 1970.
Mehrabian, Dr. Albert, Silent Message, Wadsworth, Belmont, CA, 1981.
Dr. Seuss, If I Ran the Zoo, Random House Childrens Books, NewYork, 1996.
Dale, Edgar, Audio-Visual Methods in Teaching (3rd Edition), Holt, Rinehard,
and Winston, 1969.

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Szuprowicz, B.,"Future technology: a huge boom ahead for interactive multimedia," Computer World. pp. 32-34, July 20, 1990.

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Thought
Worries seldom are realized.
Expectations are.
MOD

What is it _______________________
What is a presentation? What is the major obstacle to a successful
presentation? Is there a pattern to successful presentations?
A presentation is a planned sharing of ideas in a one-way exchange
that may be followed by questions.

Apprehension ___________________
What is the first thing that must be tackled when preparing for a
presentation? Fear is the greatest obstacle to a successful
presentation.
A survey of 3000 people reported that the most prevalent anxiety
was speaking before a group. The Book of Lists enumerates the
following worst human fears [Wallechinsky]. The percentage
reflects how many of the survey group had experienced
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%

Speaking before a group 41%

Heights

32%

Insects and Bugs

22%

Financial Problems

22%

Deep Water

22%

Sickness

19%

Death

19%

Flying

18%

Loneliness

14%

10

Dogs

11%

It is interesting to note that, to the observer, the apprehensions are

unlikely to harm you, but to the actor, the fear is real. The basis of
fear is discussed in the chapter on personality.
To illustrate the illogic of apprehensions, consider my actions. One
of my fears has been height. I enjoy the view, but do not trust the
builders of the protective barriers. Nevertheless, I am a commercial
pilot and enjoy flying several miles above the ground. Is that
rational? It appears to be an issue of being in control.
Why is there such consistent anxiety about speaking before a group?
Herman Golder reports a survey by Motivational Systems [Golder].
Rank

Fear of

Embarrassing mistakes 81%

Damaging ones career 77%

Freezing up

Being dull or boring

58%

Appearing nervous

52%

63%

That list just about covers the waterfront. All these ultimately relate
to a persons perception of who they are, and how they perceive
their value. It is all about confidence. Recognizing what makes up a
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Confidence is the mental assurance that something is true.

Confidence is one of the character traits of a leader. Several factors
enter into developing confidence. As a character trait, it is built on a
system of values. The values have their basis in religious teaching.
The affirmation of a higher power gives recognition that there is a
source of support for you. This is not a crutch, but a filling of a
logical need.
Since fear is such a strong emotion, it must be overcome with
equally strong positive feedback. The feedback in this case is
obtained simply by doing something over and over until the desired
results happen routinely and automatically. The more you practice
something, the easier it becomes, and the less fear there is in the
doing of it.
Simply telling yourself that the fear is not valid is not the solution.
This is negative feedback and is counter productive. On the positive
side, it is necessary to affirm to yourself that you can do it.
In addition to addressing the fear, there are other things that you can
do, and some that you should eschew, that help to create comfort
with doing a presentation. We have used these procedures with a
broad spectrum of students over the years, including professionals
in business, engineering, psychology, ministry, and the arts. They
have worked with high school students through retirees. The process
has been proven with persons from both US and international
cultures.

Kinesis demonstration ____________

Frequently, the fear emotion is so strong that a mental, logical
process of rejecting the fear is not adequate. In these cases, it is
beneficial to have an illustration for the student to experience. For
many, experience has a stronger value than mental logic or
emotional feeling.
Responses of the body to stimuli can be measured with tools such as
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electrocardiogram (EKG) for heart patterns, an electromyogram

(EMG) for muscular effects, and a galvanometer for skin resistance.
Physicians can also use other techniques that do not depend on
electronic instruments. For my flying physical, the doctor tests a
variety of things, including reflexes, balance, hand-eye
coordination, and muscle control. Each of these is measured by the
physician gauging the response visually or through touch, without
the aid of electronics.
Bio-kinesis is the process of using muscle strength and control as a
measurement vehicle. It is a well-established science in the medical
community.
A particularly interesting demonstration of the feedback process
involves the change in muscular strength of an arm. In order to test
the bio-kinesitic response of an individual to stimuli, place the
subject either standing or sitting erect. Place either arm of the
subject horizontal with the floor at shoulder height. It is easier to use
the arm opposite to the one used for writing. The observer will
attempt to push the arm down while the subject tries to hold the arm
up. Only small forces are necessary. Therefore, the observer may
use no more than two fingers placed on the wrist of the subject.
This is a three input process to establish the effect of the feedback.
First, check the control or baseline strength with no other input or
feedback. Next, have the subject continually say aloud, Yes, I can
and evaluate the effect on the arm strength. Then, have the subject
repeatedly say, No, I cannot and check the effect on arm control.
What is the result of the feedback test on muscular strength and
control? If properly performed, there will be an increase in strength
with the positive affirmation and a decrease in strength with the
negative declaration. This is an excellent demonstration that you can
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Ten steps for overcoming _________

In addition to the feedback technique and relationship aspects, it
helps most people to initially have a checklist. These ten steps assist
you in overcoming an obstacle. This is an excellent format for lists.
1. You must believe you can do it. People no more intelligent or
knowledgeable than you speak to groups routinely. If they can
do it, so can you. Get the butterflies in your stomach to fly in
formation. Then you will all be going in the same direction.
2. Begin with humor if possible. It relaxes you and your audience.
They perceive that you are a good guy. Note that humor is a
twist on an event. Other cultures may not grasp the subtlety.
Also, be careful that the comments are not offensive in todays
overly cautious, politically correct environment.
3. Know your topic. Perfection is neither required, nor expected.
Regardless of the audience, you are the most knowledgeable
person on your presentation. No one will know if you made a
mistake.
4. Have only three points. Limit your number of points.
Professionals typically have three. You cannot educate the
audience about everything you know in a single presentation.
5. What is the purpose of your talk? Tell the audience what you
are going to tell them in the introduction. Tell them in detail in
the body. Tell them what you told them in the conclusion.
6. You can control yourself. You cannot control the audience and
their reaction. Humor and humility can go a long way to
bringing them around.
7. Be prepared. But do not have the material memorized or all
written out. Few people can deliver a memorable written talk.
Use notes or your visuals as cues. Other than in some legal and
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8. The audience wants to hear what you have to say. Otherwise

they would not be there.
9. Be yourself. Do not try to be a public speaker. Speak loud
enough to hear, but otherwise use natural speech and actions.
10. What is the best thing that can happen from your presentation?
Think on that.
Worries seldom are realized. Expectations are.
- MOD

No one ever died from giving a talk, but if you happen to be the
first, think about the results. You would no longer be afraid of
speaking, and your dramatic exodus sure would give everyone
something to talk about.

Your topics _____________________

Perhaps one of the biggest obstacles to a successful presentation is
determining your subject. This is closely followed by determining
the area of your focus. Finally, you must decide what you have to
contribute. Is it original work? Is it a report? Is it a different take on
a well-known topic?
The ancient wise man, Solomon, declared that there is nothing new
under the sun. Perhaps that is a little pessimistic, but it does
illustrate that what we do is built on those that came before us. Now
is your place and your time to make your contribution or
interpretation.
There are shortcuts that are occasionally used in the development of
a paper or presentation. If you have apprehension, however, it is
often helpful to go through the entire process in a detailed manner.
This will give you the best opportunity of expressing yourself the
way you desire. The following steps have been used extensively
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1. Write down the key item. This is what you want the audience to
remember or what you want to communicate.
2. Expand the idea to three main points that broadly address the
topic.
3. Prepare a rough outline. Include the additional things you want
to say under each point. This is often just idea fragments.
4. Write a paper. It should cover these points. It should use proper
grammar and sentence structure. The process of writing forces
you to think through your ideas.
5. Reduce the paper to an outline for visuals. One visual for each
topic or point. Add supporting details as required.
6. Prepare the visuals. In addition to data, use illustrations and
figures.
7. Use the visuals for your notes during the presentation. If it is
important it is on the visual. Otherwise leave it out.
8. Practice with the visuals seven times or so. If it is your first time
to use the presentation it is toward the upper end. Too much
practice makes you stale. Too little weakens your confidence.
9. Get your timing down. Know where you can cut or expand to fit
the clock. Remember, some of your time is used for
introductions. Leave time for questions and discussion. Nothing
frustrates an audience like hearing a one-way lecture. Seldom
does anyone complain if you are short. The same cannot be said
if you are long.
10. The day before the presentation, run over the outline or the
visuals three times or so. If it is a presentation you have made
before, or if you have prepared, one time is adequate to keep
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11. Go look at the room set-up. Doing this ahead of time will give
you additional confidence. If possible go sit or stand in the place
from where you will present.
12. Relax until your time. Do not procrastinate. Leave time to
switch gears. Listen to someone else.

The paper _______________________

This section will address the structure of writing a paper. If you are
preparing the paper for a particular organization, use their format.
Otherwise, find one that looks good to you. Make it look
professional.
Remember the comment of the scientist and religious writer Blaise
Pascal. His life was extremely short (1623-1662) but his
contributions to logic and understanding are immeasurable.
I have made this letter longer than usual, because I lack the time to
make it short.
- Blaise Pascal, Lettres provinciales", letter 16, 1657

Clarity, brevity, and simplicity should be your tools of the trade.

Nothing is free. The trade-off is more time. My grandfather
frequently quoted the following.
Anything worth doing, is worth doing right.
- adage

The list below can guide you in the process of creating a successful
paper. It is not a set of rules, but information to use as a reference. It
is a proven formula.
1. Prepare your outline using items 1, 2 & 3 of Your topics.
2. There are seven sections to a proper paper. Each will be
addressed.
a. Title
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Body
Conclusion
References / Bibliography
Appendix or Additions

3. The Title should be concise, fully describe the topic, and be an

attention grabber.
4. The Abstract is what you are going to tell them. It should be a
complete overview of what is discussed in the paper. It is one
paragraph.
5. If an Executive Summary is used, it can be simply the abstract
and conclusions combined.
5. The Introduction gives the background including what others
have done on the topic. It is an overview of the significant
contributions that you have built on. It is short, representing less
than 5% of the paper.
6. The Body is what you tell them. It is separated into the three
points. Information is added to each point based on your earlier
idea fragments. Expand and develop these to create a coherent
message. As you write, more ideas will come. Continue to
enhance your topics with these new ideas.
6. Be careful to use proper grammar. It forces you to think through
the topic. Keep sentences short, with a simple structure and
perhaps one or at most two clauses. Active voice is preferred.
7. The Conclusion is what you told them. It is a concise summary
of what you covered and the results. It is often numbered. It
should be only a paragraph or two.
8. The References lists the sources where you gathered ideas.
Make it complete enough that someone can find the
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would want the same thing. Plagiarism is unethical and may

violate some copyrights.
9. The Appendix includes more detail for further study. It is not a
part of the main theme.
10. Control the length. Keep it just long enough to convey your
message. You are not trying to write an encyclopedia. Shorter is
better. Seldom does anyone ever complain about a paper being
too short, but if it too long, they may not read or finish it.

Visuals _________________________
Visuals are a necessary part of any presentation. In all my years of
research, I have only met one person who was good enough to keep
the audience interest for an extended time without visuals. He was
able to create word pictures and hang them on the wall to look at. I
am not he. He is no longer around.
Many professional speakers start to believe their own press releases.
They think they are special or their position is such that they do not
need visuals. Unfortunately, they are mistaken. They would be
much more effective speakers with backup support material.
Remember the percentage of information that is provided with
words, only 7%. More information, 55%, is transmitted by visuals.
The reason most people do not use visuals is they are unprepared.
That is not tongue in cheek. They will get up and speak expecting
their experience and the spirit to move them. That kind of spirit
does not show up, and they are left winging it. The audience may
stay, but it is out of respect, not based on the quality of information
or that their interest had been grabbed.
It takes a substantial amount of time to prepare all the steps for an
effective presentation. Most people just do not think it is worth all
this time. If a presenter has this attitude, the audience tends to think
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What are the ingredients of successful visuals? For a small group of

less than 7, mock-ups and demonstrations are very effective.
However, a larger group cannot see these and will be distracted
from the message.
Visuals are items that can be projected in larger than life on a
display or screen. The following information can be adapted to any
medium.
1. Follow Your topic items 1, 2, 3, 4, & 5 for developing your
paper.
2. Reduce the paper to an outline for visuals. One visual for each
item you want to express.
3. Although it may seem desirable, avoid obvious commercialism
such as logos on every slide. This keeps the presentation more
professional and credible.
4. The title should be dramatic. It will have the same basic color
scheme and theme, but may be very different. Include the title in
a large font. Include your name and affiliation in a smaller font.
5. The background for the visuals should be interesting.
a. White is too bright in most rooms that are darkened. It is
difficult to read dark letters on a white background in a
lighted room. It can be used as an occasional interest to
break up monotony.
b. Black is a dramatic background. It can become mundane if
used without interesting figures.
c. Dark blue projects well and it is the best all around base
color. Texture and shades improve its interest.
d. Photographs can also make excellent, dramatic
backgrounds.
6. The lettering on the visuals should be compatible with the
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a. Use contrasting or compatible colors. Avoid colors that

fight. Colors with blue undertones are called cool. Those
with red are called warm. Do not mix cool and warm on the
same slide.
b. Blue backgrounds work exceptionally well with the right
shade of yellow.
7. Each slide should include a title at the top. It can be centered or
off to one side for dramatic effect. The font should typically be
three or four sizes larger than the text. All titles on the same
topic should look similar.
8. A subtitle is often used on the second line. Its font size is one
size smaller than the title. It is often the same color as the title.
A contrasting color can be used for occasional interest.
9. The text section of the slide should be in a different color from
the title.
a. With a blue or black background and yellow title, white text
is exceptional. Alternately, the title may be white and the
text yellow.
b. A white or light background works well with a blue shade
text.
c. If text is overlaid on a photograph, arrange a color that can
be read across all the shades on the photograph. It is often a
shade of gray. The next popular choice is almost iridescent.
d. A maximum of seven lines of text should be used, to keep
down the clutter.
e. Each line should be a short phrase. Typically about seven
words should be adequate. Complete sentences are not
required.
10. In addition to text, use illustrations and figures.
a. These may be on separate slides.
b. A very effective tool is to add the illustration on the slide
with the text. It can be in the background, at the bottom, or
in one corner.
c. Like the text, the figures should be simple. Detailed
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11. Determine the number of visuals needed. A visual should

remain on the screen from at least 30 seconds to less than 2
minutes.
Slides and overhead projectors are older technology that is still used
by some. It is not nearly as effective as electronic forms. Presently,
PowerPoint , part of the Microsoft Office package, is the most
prevalent tool. In many circles, if you are not using the latest
technology, your presentation will be somewhat discredited.

Presentation ____________________
The actual presentation before the group is the culmination of a lot
of work. The presentation requires the least time and effort, but it is
the climax. If you have effectively prepared the other items, the
presentation will be a piece of cake.
1. Dress appropriately for the position you want to project. Dress
one level better than the audience. In most cases, it will involve
at least a jacket, and often a tie, or the equivalent for female
speakers. Be well groomed. This will be covered in detail in
another chapter.
2. Arrive at the location in plenty of time. Visit the restroom,
adjust your attire, and get a drink of water.
3. When you are introduced, approach your place sprightly, with
energy and a smile. Maintain the gentlemanly (or ladylike)
demeanor at all times.
4. Have your visuals as prepared to project as possible. Fumbling
to get things up to speed can be disconcerting for you and the
audience. If you are one of a series of speakers, calm the
audience with pleasant conversation while you get the visuals
prepared. This can often take a couple of minutes. Otherwise,
you may lose the entire presentation in the slack period. Have
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5. When you are at your place of starting, turn to the introducer

and thank him or her. Say it like you mean it, because you do.
6. Stand erectly. Use your hands for gestures. Look predominantly
at the audience.
a. A comfortable position is to place the unused hand in front
of your belt buckle. Cup your fingers in a loose number 1
similar to pointing.
b. Minimize placing hands in you pockets. If it is necessary to
do something use one hand only in a pocket. Insert it so that
the thumb remains outside and pointing up.
c. Look around the audience in a normal pattern. Only glance
at visuals for cues.
7. Begin your presentation with humor, wit, and a smile. It does
not have to be a joke. It is very effective, if it is a twist on the
topic or play on words. This helps you to relax. It also gets the
audience on your side.
8. After the first two minutes, you will be on a roll. Relax and do
your stuff.
9. When you get to your conclusion visual, change the pace
slightly. This is an additional cue that you are concluding in the
next 1 to 2 minutes. Make it so.
10. Give sincere appreciation to the audience. Say it like you mean
it.
11. Ask if there are any questions. It may be something as simple as
I appreciate your time and attention. Are there any questions?
a. If there are no questions, that is time for humor to relieve
the pregnant pause. It may be something like, Well, now
that everyone understands that topic.
b. If there are questions, look at the questioner. Respond
directly to him. If you did not understand clearly, ask him to
repeat. Smile when beginning your answer. Be careful to
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c. Be sure to end on time.

12. Stay around for a short time afterward. Allow people to come to
you and discuss more personal issues. Often they are
intimidated to get up before the group. Go figure.
It is now anti-climatic. Relax. Contemplate on what you did well.

Presentation humor ______________

Humor is often one of the best tools to gain a rapport with the
audience. Since the topic is leadership and management, that is a
reasonable subject for wit.
A parable is a story with a meaning. The following are common
stories that have been around for some time. These are twisted, but
who has not experienced someone like this?
An effective speaker will not use more than three quips at a time. If
the quip is a story as long as these stories, use only one at a time.
So, I just eliminated parable 1.
After telling the quip, have one line that relates it to the topic. The
lesson in these provides an excellent transition. Everything you say
should have a relatable purpose.

Parable Number 1:
A crow was sitting on a tree, doing nothing all day. A small rabbit
saw the crow, and asked him, "Can I also sit like you and do nothing
all day long? The crow answered: "Sure, why not. So, the rabbit sat
on the ground below the crow, and rested. All of a sudden, a fox
appeared, jumped on the rabbit and ate it.
Lesson: To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very,
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Parable Number 2:
A turkey was chatting with a bull. "I would love to be able to get to
the top of that tree" sighed the turkey, "but I haven't got the energy."
"Well, why don't you nibble on some of my droppings?" replied the
bull. "They're packed with nutrients."
The turkey pecked at a lump of fertilizer and found that it actually
gave him enough strength to reach the first branch of the tree. The
next day, after eating some more droppings, he reached the second
branch. Finally after a fourth night, there he was proudly perched at
the top of the tree. Soon, he was spotted by a farmer, who promptly
shot the turkey out of the tree.
Lesson: BS might get you up the tree, but it won't keep you there.

Parable Number 3:
A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold, that the
bird froze and fell to the ground in a large field. While it was lying
there, a cow came by and dropped some fertilizer on it. As the
frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow droppings, it began to realize
how warm it was. The leavings were actually thawing him out! He
lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy. A
passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate.
Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of
cow droppings, and promptly dug him out and ate him!
Lesson:
1. Not everyone who drops stuff on you is your enemy.
2. Not everyone who gets you out of the stuff is your friend.
3. And when you're in deep stuff, keep your mouth shut!

Parable Number 4:

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The boy rode on the donkey and the old man walked. As they went
along, they passed some people who remarked, "it was a shame the
old man was walking and the boy was riding". The man and boy
thought maybe the critics were right, so they changed positions.
Later, they passed some people that remarked, "What a shame, he
makes that little boy walk." They decided they both would walk!
Soon they passed some more people who thought they were stupid
to walk when they had a decent donkey to ride. So they both rode
the donkey! Now they passed some people that shamed them by
saying "how awful to put such a load on a poor donkey".
The boy and man said they were probably right so they decided to
carry the donkey. As they crossed a bridge, they lost their grip on
the animal and he fell into the river and drowned.
Lesson: If you try to please everyone, you will eventually lose your
donkey.

Practice presentation _____________

A skit can be used to illustrate the power of non-verbal
communication.
1. Ask one member of the audience to volunteer as the first
presenter.
2. Direct the presenter to select a strong feeling, but do not tell the
audience. In the interest of time, it may be beneficial to have a
list of emotions for the presenter and audience to choose.
3. Direct the audience to quietly watch the presenters body and
facial expression to determine the feeling or emotion.
4. Do not call out the observation.
5. The presenter is to pantomime. Put that feeling into his body
and walk across the room. Continue until there is enough time
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6. Ask several of the audience what was their impression of the

emotion. It should not be about the story, as in Charades, but
about the feeling.
7. Several different answers should be expected. But most should
be a variation on the emotion that was being conveyed.
8. Ask the presenter what feeling he was trying to project.
9. Discuss what was observed and what could be different.

Assessment ______________________
To this point, we have been addressing stress and being comfortable
when you present, as well as the details of preparing and giving an
effective presentation. Consider the following assessment. It will
provide you with the expectations for a good oration.
Use this with students who are presenting. Both their peers and the
instructor fill out a form. There is one requirement for the
evaluators. There can be no negative comments. Everyone gets
enough of that, elsewhere. This is intended to help the individual in
his presentations.
Everyone looks forward to the written comments more than the
checks. That is the personal touch.
If there is a particular challenge, word your observation positively.
The point is demonstrated by absurdity. For example, if the person
you are evaluating happens to pick his nose, how do you tell him
that positively? Simply state, you pick you nose with a certain flair.
After these training sessions, I have often gotten feedback years
later. Many of the students changed the direction of their profession
because of their confidence gained from comments on the
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became a talented motivational speaker. That is rewarding, dont

you think?

EVALUATION PRESENTATION
MATERIAL
1. Did you understand the topic? Y( ) Could Improve ( )
2. Material quality? Y( ) Could Improve ( )
3. Material length? Outstanding ( ) Too short ( ) Too Long ( )
4. Was it interesting? Y( ) Could Improve ( )
POISE
1. Stand erect on both feet? Y( ) Could Improve ( )
2. Use adequate hand gestures? Y( ) Could Improve ( )
3. Speak loudly and clearly? Y( ) Could Improve ( )
4. Look at audience? Y( ) Could Improve ( )
5. Smile? Y( ) Could Improve ( )
6. Attire professional? Y( ) Could Improve ( )
TOOLS
1. Use visuals or equipment? Y( ) Could Improve ( )
2. Visuals good quality? Y( ) Could Improve ( )
3. Rank the presentation: 1( ) 2( ) 3( ) 4( ) 5( )
1=go back to freshman 5= graduate
4. Comments for improvement must be stated positively _____________
___________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________
Team or individual name being evaluated _________________________
Your name _____________________________

Review _________________________
A presentation is a planned sharing of ideas in a one-way exchange.
Fear is the greatest obstacle. This can be overcome by proper
planning and preparation. Clarity, brevity, and simplicity should be
the tools of the trade for presentations. Visuals are an important
component of a successful presentation, since they project a major
part of the communication cues. The right medium improves the

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message.

Application _____________________
Assume you are using one of the chapters of this book for a
presentation.
1. Prepare an outline for the titles of each visual.
2. How many visuals will be required?
3. Prepare one slide in detail.
4. Prepare a title slide.
5. What is humor or a joke, other than those in the chapter, that
can be used at the beginning of the presentation?
6. Now prepare your own topic for a very brief paper.
7. Complete items 1 3 under the Your topics section.
8. Write a one-half page paper using your topic.
9. This will be a complete presentation.
10. Prepare a complete presentation on a topic. Choose the topic.
Write the paper. Make the slides. Make the presentation at the
scheduled time. The time should be a minimum of 3 to a
maximum of 5 minutes.

Bibliography ____________________

Golder, Herman, Executives Digest from The Management of Engineering,

John Wiley, New York, 1996.
Pascal, Blaise, Lettres provinciales", letter 16, 1657.
PowerPoint, Microsoft, Redmond, WA.
Wallechinsky, David, Irving Wallace, and Amy Wallace, The Book Of Lists,
Morrow, NY, 1977.

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Thought
Clothes make the man
Naked people have little
or no influence on society.
Mark Twain

What you see ____________________

What is non-verbal communication? Why is it important? If my
information is so good, who cares how I dress? Isnt being
comfortable more important than dress? I want to be laid back, why
do I have to stand a certain way?
Have you ever heard or thought these type questions? That is
typical. It goes back to the 80/20 rule. Is your objective to have
influence, be believable, or be a leader? If so, you are part of the
20% and will do the things necessary to achieve and maintain that
status.
Non-verbal communication is the major component of the first
impression you make. Your first impression is often made even
before you open your mouth.
A first impression is established in the first 20 seconds of meeting.
It is changed or reaffirmed in the next four minutes.
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This information is somewhat non-traditional in a leadership book

and it is totally foreign to a technical audience. Some technical
students over the years have questioned the necessity or validity of
information in this chapter. That in itself shows the need.
Lack of information or experience often causes us to get in an
embarrassing situation. The information in this chapter can mitigate
some of that risk.

First impression _________________

First impressions are decided quickly. When meeting someone,
develop eye contact and smile. Your mother told you to have good
posture. Stand tall and erect. Hold your center.
Your impression and credibility fits in with the same cues that we
observed in communications. Therefore your words are less than
7% of the message about who you are. What is the one word that
describes an excellent impression? Gentleman or Lady.
You never have a second chance for a first impression.
You need a strong introduction to establish who you are.

It is amazing what a smile will do. It is a switch that causes a reflex

action in other people. If you catch their eye and smile, the large
majority of people will automatically return a smile. They cannot
help it. It is part of the wiring. It is the best way to meet people. In
the few cases they do not smile, avoid any further contact if
possible. That is not the type of person you want to be around.
The topics in this section will include appropriate dress,
photography, facial care, grooming, and handshake. Facial
expressions, eye expressions, body language, and handwriting are
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Attire __________________________
Would you wear a business suit to a swimming party? Neither
should you wear play clothes in a professional setting. There are
traditions and styles that are generally acceptable. Fads and latest
styles normally are inappropriate.
Clothes make the man. Naked people have little or no influence on
society.
- Mark Twain

Business is the process of developing relationships with people.

This process should be conducted in a communicative environment
rather than a lecture situation. The attire and demeanor for all
meetings should be friendly, but professional.
You only have one chance to make a first impression. Make it a
good one. Knowing that you are correctly dressed lets you get your
focus off yourself and on to business and the other person.
In addition to making a good impression, proper attire also has the
effect of making you more comfortable and confident. Knowing that
you are dressed at least as well as your audience or coworkers
allows you to feel as if you belong, and that you occupy a position
of power.
Each organization and workplace has its own corporate culture. In
today's marketplace there are a wide variety of attitudes about
appropriate business practices. One thing is universal. Good taste is
always respected. It is preferred to be dressed one step better than
the client or colleague. Styles and acceptable practices change with
time. The following information tends to be enduring.
1. Attire for interviews and unknown or formal business meetings
is dressy suit and tie.
2. Attire for presentations in the work place is often business dress
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Professional consultants are available to assist in achieving

maximum effectiveness. The very small investment is well worth
the knowledge to move you to your level of success.
Dressy attire is typically the upscale professional look.
1. For gentlemen, dressy means a suit, dress shirt, and tie.
2. The preferred colors of suit are appropriate shades of navy blue
or medium to dark gray.
3. The shirt should be pressed cotton or cotton blend.
4. The dressiest shirt is white.
5. Medium blue is generally acceptable and is friendlier. Other
muted, professional colors can work.
6. The tie should have some red for most influence.
7. Shoes should be shiny leather and polished. Soles of shoes
should be leather or leather with inserts.
Dressy attire for ladies is very similar.
1. For ladies, a dress or skirt with matching jacket is most
appropriate. An appropriate pant suit is a good second choice.
2. The preferred colors of suit are appropriate darker shades of
blue or gray.
3. The dressiest blouse is white.
4. Blue is generally acceptable and is friendlier. Other muted
colors can work.
5. Hose should be a color to blend the skirt and shoes.
6. Shoes should be a medium heels in a color darker than your
skirt or pants.
7. Use discreet earrings with a necklace and/or a pin.
8. Discreet make-up is imperative.
Business dress casual is upscale casual. In simplest terms it is
basically a sport coat without a tie.
1. For gentlemen that means wool blend dress slacks with a crease
and a sport coat or blazer.
2. The shirt is closed collar golf or sport shirt or a dress shirt with
an open collar.
3. If you only have one blazer, make it an appropriate shade of
navy and have metal buttons. Gold or silver are selected to
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4. That blazer fabric should be wrinkle and crush resistant. Avoid

linens.
5. Shoes are dress or dress casual. Sports, sneakers, and play shoes
are inappropriate.
Business dress casual is upscale casual for ladies and is influenced
by the blouse.
1. For ladies that translates to skirt or slacks and nice blouse.
Jackets are optional.
2. Alternately, a pantsuit is very acceptable.
3. If you are limited to one, the skirt or pants should be a blue
toward a navy.
4. The skirt, jacket or pantsuit fabric should be wrinkle and crush
resistant. Avoid linens.
5. No denim is acceptable.
6. Shoes are dress or dress casual. Sports, sneakers, and play shoes
are inappropriate.
7. For slacks, the heel should be low to medium, and the top
should be higher on the foot. Pumps are out with slacks.
Business casual is the most common attire outside of downtown
offices, at this time. It is comfortable, but still has class.
1. For gentlemen, this is slacks or twill pants.
2. The shirt may be golf or sport with an open collar. Buttons may
be lighter color.
3. Shoes can be more casual such as deck shoes. Sports shoes are
inappropriate.
Business casual for ladies is softer.
1. For ladies this translates to skirts, slacks, or more casual
pantsuits.
2. The top may be softer, like golf, and more fun.
3. Shoes can be more casual. Sports shoes are inappropriate.
Outdoor, field, & labor is the work clothes for outside the office. It
looks more like labor, so it is less professional.
1. For gentlemen, business casual is still preferred, but perhaps a
less expensive version.
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Jeans and flannel shirts are only for manual labor or play.
Shirts can be denim or twill in addition to the golf or sport.
Jackets should be appropriate for the environment.
Shoes should be appropriate foot protection for the activity
involved.

Outdoor, field, & labor is the work clothes for ladies outside the
office.
1. For ladies the look is very similar to business casual but heavier
materials.
2. If the environment is dirty, a smock or lab coat can be used.
3. Jeans and flannel shirts are only for manual labor or play.
4. Jackets should be appropriate for the environment.
5. Shoes should be appropriate foot protection for the activity
involved.
Color is a very significant part of non-verbal communications.
There are four color palettes used to select shades or hues
[Crowning].
The cool colors are winter and summer. These have blue
undertones. Winter is the strong, deeper, true colors. Summer is
softer and muted.
The warm colors are fall and spring. These have yellow undertones.
Fall is the deeper shades. Spring is brighter and lighter.
Most people fit in the cool color spectrum. In general, people in the
warm spectrum naturally have a henna or gold tint to their hair. A
brief professional analysis will determine your natural color
direction.
There is an appropriate shade of red, blue, and white in both warm
and cool varieties. If you wear the correct shade near your face, you
will appear vibrant and sharp. If you use a shade from the other
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Photography ____________________
In the business, professional, and personal world there are times and
opportunity for photographs or television interviews. Photography
captures images and items of dress that often are not issues in
person. Therefore, it is appropriate to be aware of guidelines that
will yield the best look for you. Although these are more
conservative than normal dress, they will always be appropriate.
The goal of any interview or photo is to direct the attention to the
face. Your clothing, accessories, and hairstyle should complement
that goal.

Color takes on a little different emphasis for photography.

Darker shades of color are more flattering and slimming. Medium to
darker tones of blue, green, burgundy, and brown rust photograph
well against a dark background. Medium shades work best in an
outdoor setting.
Bright colors overpower the face. So, skip red and orange.
Light colors are distracting. Avoid colors similar to skin tones, such
as beige, tan, peach, pink, white, and yellow.
Stripes, plaids, checkered, and floral patterns do not work well since
they will not align and will cause interference.

Style also has different considerations for photography. Very simple

is the best. Have proper fit, without being too tight or baggy.
Wrinkles will show, so have fabrics that minimize wrinkles and
have other materials pressed.
Long sleeves are more elegant. Because of the quantity of skin, bare
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Turtlenecks and V-necks draw attention toward the face. Be careful

that extremes do not distract because too bulky neck sweaters cover
the neck and too deep V show too much.
Be careful with styles that are fads or that are out of date. Classy,
traditional styles last a long time. Remember that your children may
see these pictures in twenty years and question your choice of attire.

Women have unique needs. Long skirts, pants, and stockings that
match the skirt are most appropriate. These styles keep focus toward
the face and away from the legs. If legs are emphasized, you will be
regarded less as a professional and more as a sexual object to be
pursued.
Discrete jewelry is preferred. Large jewelry can overwhelm many
women.
Hair should be trimmed, and maintained.
Nail polish works best in light to medium shades. Bright and dark
draw attention to the hands and away from the face.
Makeup should be simple and natural. Medium shades of lipstick
works best. Lip gloss should be minimal since it can reflect the
lights of the camera.

Men have different needs. Ties and handkerchiefs should

complement the suit. Socks should not be lighter than the pants.
Shirt, jacket, and pant length makes a great visual impact. Have the
appropriate length without too short or too long.
Belts, shoes, and all leather should be of the same color.
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Group coordination is critical. Select the same tonal range so that no

one stands out compared to the rest of the group.

Basic wardrobe __________________

There are myriad variations on your look and style. With training
and assistance, you can have the style most appropriate for you.
This includes your shape, color, tendencies, and status. The
following basic guides provide a beginning to your basic wardrobe.
You do not have to spend a fortune to look like a million. Have
quality over quantity.
A female professional or entrepreneur should have the basics.
1. a jacket
2. pants
3. one short skirt
4. one long skirt
5. a sweater
6. a shirt
7. one elegant evening accessory such as a beaded scarf or top.
A male professional or entrepreneur currently primarily dresses in
business dress casual. This obviously changes during different
periods of time. The basic wardrobe includes the following
1. a sport coat
2. dress slacks
3. sport shirt or golf shirt
4. twill pants for more casual time.
5. a soft suit without excessive shoulder pads for more dressy
occasions
6. a dress shirt
7. a classy silk tie for special occasions.
8. Accessories include a great belt and tie with other items of
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Have three color combinations that can mix and match. Navy blue,
gray, and tan are a good basic combination. Remember the actual
hue depends on your skin undertones.
Separate your suits, sports jackets, slacks, pants, shirts, and ties in
your closet. This will help identify good combinations and will
allow you to choose with a minimum of effort.
Comfort with class should be the primary focus of your wardrobe. It
is the total person that walks into a room.
Stand out but fit in. Leave novelty ties and accessories in the closet.
Business cards should clearly state your name, title, and focus of
your company. Keep it self-explanatory without political or
religious slogans or symbols.
Your personal style should be affordable, appropriate, assured, and
attractive.

Facial care and grooming __________

If your skin and hair look weathered or older than your age, then
your credibility is reduced. The impression is that you do not take
care of yourself, so how can you lead in anything else.
Men have skin as well as women. Therefore, both should follow the
same basic process.
1. Wash your face in the morning and before going to bed.
Regardless of what commercials tell you, do not use soap. Use a
quality cleanser specifically for the face.
2. After cleansing, treat your face with a toner. This is an
astringent specifically designed for the purpose. Most shaving
lotions do not fit this need since they are primarily alcohol
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3. Treat special needs areas with the appropriate cream. This is

typically laugh lines, crows feet, and other places the skin has
stretched.
4. Apply a finishing solution to protect the pores.
5. If you will be out of doors for a substantial part of the day,
apply a moisturizer. It can have a sun protectant, if you are not
allergic.
There are different types of skin, such as dry, normal, or oily. Select
the appropriate chemical design for the items discussed above.

Shave. That is an instruction for both men and women.

For women, any hair other than on your head is a turn-off.
For men, facial hair carries the general impression that you are
hiding something. Although the impression is you are hiding
secrets, you are hiding your face. The face is one of the cues used to
give a positive impression.
A very few successful people can be effective with facial hair. They
are generally more mature. In most situations, it will hold you from
reaching your potential. It may not be fair, but that is reality.
Although at various times, I have had a beard or mustache, I now
realize the limitations.
Keep your beard from showing. For some of you, that may mean
removing the 5 oclock shadow before late afternoon or evening
activities.

Hair styles can be virtually anything at this time, except unnatural

shapes and colors. Hairstyle is a fad and is subject to change before
you even read this. In general, shorter hair is more acceptable in
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For men, long hair is very negative. It may have some acceptability
in the arts, but not in a professional position. Longer hair is
generally associated with women. If men have it, culture tends to
infer feminine traits. That is not helpful and not worth the costs to
your success.

Handshake ______________________
Communication uses three inputs to the body the eye gate, the ear
gate, and the touch sensors. Touch stimulates very powerful
emotions. Therefore, touch should be used with discretion.
The first impression often involves a handshake. Use the whole
hand with a solid grip. Firm and businesslike is the key. If a woman
offers her hand, shake it the same way [Pease].

There is nothing worse than the noncommittal dead fish. At the

other extreme is the rearrangement of your fingers that can actually
hurt. If your grip is half-hearted or overly aggressive, your
impression will be damaged.
Since many people do not know how their shake feels, practice with
a close, honest friend or relative. Practice different strengths until
the feedback is excellent.
In an introduction, the handshake typically goes with the first words
you will exchange. Smile and address the other person by title, Mr.,
or Ms. and their last name. Continue to use the formal name until
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exchange may be something like, Hello, Mr. Jones. My name is

Marcus Durham. Maybe you should substitute your name.

Exercise ________________________
Exercise is the lubrication for your body. It is crucial for the
continued performance of your machine. Many aches and pains are
resolved simply by activity. Just staying physically active will
preclude the need for a separate exercise time.
If your physical activity is limited a specific program for exercising
you body is wise. Select a qualified trainer, if possible. The
instructor should be certified with a nationally recognized
organization.
Plan a workout schedule according to your needs and limits. Three
to four times a week will free your mind and heal your body. Get 20
minutes of aerobic exercise in each session. Make no excuses. Do
not skip a workout because of limited time. If you can spare only 15
minutes, exercise 15 minutes.
Warm up before exercise to help you burn calories efficiently and
prevent injuries by increasing the elasticity of your muscles.
When jumping, don't hunch over. Jump only a few inches from the
ground to minimize impact on your knees and ankles.
All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. You can increase
routine physical activity by minor changes.
1.
2.
3.
4.

Take the stairs instead of the elevator.

Walk instead of riding.
While sitting at your desk, do calf raises to tone your legs.
Do ab tuck-ins to suck in your stomach for 30 seconds to cinch
your waist.

Universal toning is something everyone can benefit from daily.

Simply use squats and upper shoulder push.

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1. From a standing position, bend your knees and squat. While

going down, completely exhale all breath through your mouth.
When rising, inhale through your nose. Repeat the squats 20
times.
2. Stand erect in a corner or doorway. Feet should be about 18 24" from the wall. Place palm of hands against wall at shoulder
height. Lean forward until your head is past your hands. This
stretches upper shoulders, back, and legs. Hold position for 30
seconds. Repeat 2 times.

Review _________________________
Non-verbal communication is the major component of your first
impression. The first impression is conveyed even before you open
your mouth. As we saw in communications, non-verbal is the major
component. It is amazing what a smile will do. It is a switch that
causes a reflex action in other people Topics discussed in this
chapter include appropriate dress, photography, facial care,
grooming, and handshake. There are traditions and styles of attire
that are generally acceptable for different circumstances. The basic
circumstances are dressy, business dress casual, business casual, and
outdoor or field. Facial care and grooming are the necessary
extension of attire for the body surfaces that are not covered. A firm,
positive handshake establishes that you are not a fish or brute. Basic
exercise lubricates the body.

Application _____________________
1. What is the one thing you can do that always helps with the first
impression?
2. As you go about, make eye contact and smile at 10 people. No
other words are necessary. How many returned the smile?
3. Do you have a second chance to make a first impression?
4. What are 3 communications inputs into the body?

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5. What are four words, each starting with the letter A, that relate
to your personality and communications type.
6. What can you do that always helps with the first impression?
7. How would you describe a good first impression?
8. On what occasions is dressy attire appropriate?
9. When is business casual appropriate?
10. What is the basic difference in the look of business dress casual
and business casual?
11. When dressing for photographs or business, the purpose is to
direct attention where?

Bibliography ____________________

Crowning Touch, Internet Services Corporation, Charlotte, NC.

Pease, Allan, Questions Are the Answer, Pease International Pty Ltd, Buderim
QLD Australia.

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Thought
Just because you do not know
Does not mean it is not true.
Mom

What do you know _______________

Does your body involuntarily show your emotions? Can you
consciously control your body action, and use that to control your
emotions? What is the significance of the eyes in terms of feelings?
Does your writing reflect anything about you?
Just because you do not know, does not mean it is not true.
- Mom

Body language ___________________

People have many indicators of who they are and what they are
thinking. Facial expressions, body language, speech patterns, and
handwriting all reveal insights into an individual's emotions and
personality.
How we communicate is much more important than the words we
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studies and reports have shown that communication is

approximately 7% verbal, 38% vocal, and 55% visual. [Mehrabian]
It has been shown that you have 20 seconds to make a good first
impression. You then have 4 minutes to prove yourself. After that
you may be tuned out and lose an opportunity.
Kinesics is the science of body language. By careful observation of
how someone presents herself, you can understand whether your
communication is being effective.
By controlling your body actions, you can exercise control over the
conversation. Although body language is generally an autonomic
response to a situation, you can determine to change your language
and as a result change your message and acceptability.
As we have seen, the brain operates as a feedback control system.
The brain controls neuromuscular action based first on an
individuals temperament tendencies and second on their
perceptions of a situation. Temperament tendencies include specific
personality traits such as optimism, goal setting, and tenacity.
There is a one to one correspondence between body language and
personality traits. In addition, perceptions modify the body
language. When a perception is changed, then the body language
will adjust.
Conversely, you can decide to change your body language. If you
adjust your body language, then the trait associated with that
language will be modified. The mental paths are drawn whether the
traits are a reaction or are a trained, conscious decision. For
example, joy causes a smile to be displayed. Conversely, if someone
decides to smile, then joy will follow.
The practice of kinesics is as old as mankind. We have all used it,
even if not trained in its nuances. Who cannot recognize when
another person raises an eyebrow or shrugs a shoulder indicating a
question of a speakers credibility?

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This science of kinesics is important in personal relationships as

well as in professional ventures. We are all selling something - an
idea, a product, or ourselves. An understanding of how your client
or relation perceives you is then crucial to your success.

Body temperament profile _________

Since there are many indicators that can reflect who a person is and
what they are thinking, we have developed a systematic approach to
identification and analysis. The procedures and structures that are
commonly taught are primarily based on correlations to a
personality trait. The trait is identified, and then the appropriate
language is described. Although this is an effective way to describe
the trait, it is inconvenient for a structured, mechanical examination
of the expression.
Because of my background and frequent research into mathematical
structure of physical sciences, it became apparent there is a very
consistent arrangement of all psychological and physiological
symbols. These characteristics are three-dimensional.
However, for simplification in only one plane of analysis, consider a
circle. Then, the discussion breaks the study into the quadrants of a
circle. If the circle includes all possible body language points, then
the language can reasonably be segregated into sections. As would
be expected, this is very similar to the analysis of personality
tendencies.
The two basic indicators of body language are leaning forward or
leaning backward and having an open or closed position. Leaning
forward is active or expressive involvement. Leaning back is
passive or controlled participation. An open posture is sensitive or
feeling. A closed posture portrays a methodical logic.
There are numerous muscles and attitudes that can be reflected in
infinite number of points within the circle of body language
expressions. Nevertheless, the basic expressions can be identified by
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Understanding, perception, feeling

Outgoing
Expressive
Controlled
Reserved

The figure correlates directly with the DISC personality traits and
the corresponding ACTS leadership styles in relation to their
functional ability within a group or organization. The symbols A-CT-S with D-I-S-C represent the Authoritative Determined,
Communicative Involved, Supportive and Task oriented
Constrained. Discussion of the significance and physical
characteristics of each term are listed below in a table of traits.
At its base level, body language is a physical expression of an
emotional response. Therefore, every person will express all these
positions depending on the situation, external stimulus, and
individual comfort level.
At the second level, the mental process can make a decision to
express a certain attitude that results in a physical expression.
At the third level, the body language can represent a mechanical
response to an environmental or physical situation. This is a circular
process that is illustrated in the control model.

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mental

stimulus

+/-

physical

emotional

A simple example illustrates the three levels. When a person is

caught off guard, the first emotional reaction is to pull back and
close up. Because of a previous unpleasant experience, a person
may not like someone or the way the person looks, and makes a
mental choice to pull back and close up. When the temperature in a
room is physically cold, a person will pull back and close up.
Whether the body position is a result of emotional, mental, or
physical circumstances, the expression is similar and the mental
responsiveness is the same. A person that is cold from the
temperature will be cold to your ideas and discussions.
Each of the body language quadrants is also the home response for
one of the personality temperaments. It is the expression that the
personality will go to without further stimulus. Regardless, every
person can control his or her body language & style to achieve a
particular response.
By observing body language when you are talking to someone, you
can improve the influence of your message. Ask the right questions
to move them from the negative side to the 'S' and finally to the 'I'
language. Attempt to close the transaction only after they are moved
to the involved quadrant.
Similarly, by controlling your body language when talking, you will
present a particular image. A person that is Involved during his
discussion is much more believable than a person that is
constrained.
A Table of Traits defines in more detail how anatomy is used to
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Facial expressions ________________

Facial expressions in women and to a lesser extent in men, reveal
emotions, attitudes, and anticipated action. In English speaking
societies, it is generally unprofessional and considered unacceptable
for a man to show emotions and feelings during business
negotiations and dealings. As a result men may not notice the small
subtle nuances of expression. For this reason, women often think
men are insensitive.
Facial expressions are derived from the eyes, mouth, and tilt of the
head. Since it is such an important issue, eyes will be dealt with in a
separate section. [Pease]
There are numerous nuances. The following figures dramatize the
expressions in cartoon form. These illustrations are from a cartoon
which does not bear an indication of the author. Although these are
taken to an extreme, they do present an accurate overview of facial
motions.

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Eye expressions __________________

The eyes have been called the window to the soul. Through this
opening, you can look into the very essence of a persons feeling.
The eyes reveal more about the emotions than any other physical
expression.
Facial expressions are derived from the eyes, mouth, and tilt of the
head. The three elements of eye expressions are brows, lids, and
gaze.
Each eye element has separate, independent motion that is
controlled by specific muscles. Muscles are the linkage that operates
the physical response. Emotions can cause an involuntary muscle
action. In contrast, mental faculties can voluntarily determine to
create a particular attitude and expression.
The mouth and head tilt are more easily controlled by mental
attitude. However, the eyes will tend to subtly reveal the emotions,
even when control is attempted.
The eyes are such a major part of who a person is that our language
has common expressions that relate to this feature. The eyes observe
and can be observed to reveal the emotions and attitudes of an
individual.
Each of the observing elements is separately identified with the
common vernacular and the psychological representation. The
positive and negative signs illustrate whether the person is receptive
to you. The eye images illustrate the expression in a visual format.
These show only the eye changes.
BROWS

Appearance

Vernacular

Expression

Up

raised

raise a question

question?

Mid

neutral

Down

furrowed

cutting deep

exclamation!

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Neutral

Brows down

As an interesting observation, the shoulders generally move the

same as the eyelids. If the lids are predominantly up, then the
shoulders tend to be raised. Conversely, if the lids are
predominantly down, then the shoulders droop. It is as if the same
control signal goes to two different sets of muscles.
LIDS

Appearance

Vernacular

Expression

Up

lifting

top of world

confident

Mid

neutral

Down

droopy

down in dumps

not confidant

Lids up

Lids down

LIDS OPEN

Appearance

Vernacular

Expression

Wide

whites

wide eyed & bushy tail

alert

Mid

neutral

Squint

half

dim view

restrained

Closed

shut

nobody home

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Closed

The position of the gaze corresponds directly to the quadrants of the

body language diagram. Up is positive, down is negative, left is
active (I am right of you), right is passive. Hence, the personality
tendencies can be identified by the eye patterns: I = up-left, S = upright, D = down-left, and C = down-right.
When the left and right eyes have different expressions, this
indicates a mixed signal between both sides: it shows doubt.
GAZE

Appearance

Vernacular

Expression

Up

pleading

look up to

positive

Mid

neutral

Down

digging in

look down on

negative

Eyes up

Eyes down

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SIDE

Appearance

Vernacular

Expression

Left

slice

I am right

active

Right

salute

you may be right

passive

Up-Left

mooning

desire

Up-Right

in outer space

thinking

Down-Left

down & dirty

disbelief

Down-Right

down right hard

critical

Roll

in circles

here we go again

not again

Eyes up-right

Eyes left

Eyes down-left

Combinations of the eye expressions explain a great variety of

intense emotions. For example brows up, lids up, and wide open
indicates surprise.

Hand expression _________________

Hand motions among men are the strongest indicator of attitude and
emotions. Women use these to a lesser extent in deference to facial
expression. Although hand action is very descriptive, it should not
be used as a lone indicator of body language. [IMSI]
Consideration must be given to the other indicators such as leaning,
face, arms, legs, and feet. It is the combination that describes the
kinesis. However, for men, hand expression remains the
predominant clue.
Hands are presented in 3 ways - a single hand, two hands, and a
serving hand. A serving hand is presented toward the listener in the
form of a handshake, pointer, or exclamation. The description will
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Single Hand Motions

Action

Meaning

Type

up and open

here it is

pointer at temple

put in mind

stroke chin

wait for whiskers

Hand folded under

support you

Suck on pen, glasses

pacified

Over mouth

say no evil

rubbing eye

see no evil

pulling ear

hear no evil

touching nose

Pinocchio (sensitive)

finger under collar

hot under collar

rub back of neck

pain in the neck

fingers through hair

pulling hair out

scratching neck

itching to talk

tapping finger

beating the drum

pointer up, thumb under, middle near mouth

critical evaluation

fiddling with gadgets

other more important

doodling

going around in circles

supporting head

head rest

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Other figures are illustrated below as body images.

Two Hand Motions

Action

Meaning

Type

steeple

authority of God

protruding thumbs from pocket

I am thumbs up

fast hand rub

get warm together S

behind head

passive comfort

behind back

attention

on hip

barricade

slow hand rubbing

greedy

handshake

pick pocket

in fig leaf

embarrassed

behind neck

passive indifferent C

Presented Hand Motions

Action

Meaning

Type

up

submissive

vertical

equality

down

dominant

point

club to beat you D

clenched

holding anger

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Body images ____________________

The body images are grouped by sitting and standing. The seated is
more likely to be encountered in traditional negotiations.
The first set of images illustrates someone who is involved. They
are ready to close the deal. Do it before they change their mind.

Intent

Intent

Interested

Interested

These images show someone who is gathering information. They

are supportive, but are not quite ready. You must answer their need
for additional information before they are convinced.

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Supportive

Soaking up

Supportive

Soaking up

This image wants to take control. Be cautious to avoid conflict.

Address his needs to get him to move to a supportive position.

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The images below are analytical. They are not going to do anything,
but procrastinate.

Cavalier

Cavalier

Critical

Critical

Critical

Critical

Standing images may also be encountered. The first images are

intent or curious about what is going on. They can be brought to
close the deal.

Intent

Soaking up

Soaking up

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The first image below is in control. The second cannot believe the
events or he has prevaricated.

Dominant

Disbelief

These images are totally reserved and are isolated.

Cavalier

Cavalier

Critical

What do you do __________________

Each language position reflects what a person is feeling. To address
those emotions, there are specific directions you should head. In
conjunction, there are questions that may move the emotions and
affect the attitude to the direction you desire.
Type

Name

What next

Questions

involved

complete
presentation

Does that make sense? Do you agree?

intent

close the deal

Let's run your name across here.

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supporting

I can see you know something about

give more facts /
this, would you care to share your
listen
opinion?

searching
soaking up

incentives / keep
quiet

determined avoid contradiction

How do you feel about this? (very

carefully)

disbelief

I see you have a question, would you

mind telling me what it is?

move to evaluating

constrained spark interest even I can see you have a question. What do
cavalier
irrelevant
you think?
critical

What's your opinion?

Review _________________________
People have many indicators of whom and what they are. Facial
expressions, body language, speech patterns, and handwriting all
reveal insights into an individual's emotions and personality. This is
93% of communications. Body language is the science called
kinesics. By controlling your body actions, you can control the
conversation.
The brain operates as a feedback control system. It controls
neuromuscular action based on an individuals personality
characteristics and perceptions. A person can express outgoing or
reserved and open or closed simply by their body language. Facial
expressions in women and to a lesser extent in men, reveal
emotions, attitudes, and anticipated action. The eyes have been
called the window to the soul. The body images are grouped by
sitting and standing. Each language position reflects what a person
is feeling.

Application _____________________
1. What is the one thing you can do that always helps with the first
impression?
2. What is kinesics?

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3. What are the two basic indicators of body language?

4. How do these indicators relate to personality temperaments?
5. How can a person control his body language to achieve a
particular response?
6. What mechanism causes facial expressions?
7. What is the strongest attitude indicator for men? Women?
8. Why do women think men are insensitive?
9. What is the window to the soul? What does that mean?
10. When should you try to close a contract or deal?
11. Look in a mirror and see how you feel with the following body
language.
a. Hands on hips and shoulders straight.
b. Cross arms in resting position on your chest.
c. Place one hand in pocket.
d. Place hand in pocket, but leave thumb outside.
12. In your normal routine, smile at 10 people. How many smile
back?

Bibliography ____________________

IMSI MasterClips/MasterPhotos Collection, 1895 Francisco Blvd., San

Rafael, CA 94901, 1997.
Mehrabian, Dr. Albert, Silent Message, Wadsworth, Belmont, CA, 1981.
Pease, Allan, Questions Are the Answer, Pease International Pty Ltd, Buderim
QLD Australia.

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Thought
Writing reflects emotions.
Understand writing,
understand emotions.
MOD

Handwriting ____________________
Have you noticed that some handwriting is easy to read and others
are illegible? Is there a reason that some people are precise and
some seem to be in a hurry? Does a person who has a very quick
thought process tend to write very precisely or more sloppy?
Each person has many indicators of who they are, and what they are
thinking. Facial expressions, body language, speech patterns, and
handwriting all reveal insights into an individual's emotions and
personality. Handwriting analysis, or graphology, is the science of
examining the neuromuscular response of the hands. Each action in
handwriting is controlled by a particular segment of the brain.
Hence the physical responses tend to be consistent with an
individuals emotional and mental traits.
Graphology is the study of handwriting to reveal the character or
personality traits of the writer. As we saw in earlier chapters, people
share certain character and personality traits. They also exhibit
similar shapes and forms in their handwriting.

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Since writing reflects emotions that are present at the time of the
writing, a persons script will change somewhat between samples.
The basic trends and tendencies, however, will still be evident.
As observed previously, the brain operates as a feedback control
system. The brain controls neuromuscular action based first on an
individuals temperament tendencies and second on their
perceptions of a situation. Temperament tendencies include specific
personality traits such as optimism, goal setting, and tenacity.
Each personality trait causes a neuromuscular action which
determines the characteristics of handwriting. Conversely, if a
characteristic of a persons handwriting is changed, then the
associated personality trait will be modified. The mental paths are
drawn whether the traits are a reaction or are a trained, conscious
decision.

History _________________________
The practice of graphology has been around for millennia. It has
been a common university course in Europe for centuries. Many
major corporations use this technique for researching candidates for
senior management and sensitive positions. Despite this widespread
use, graphology has only recently become a readily available tool
for personal evaluation.
A variation is used in forensic analysis. The forensic technique
compares an unknown writing to an exemplar. The objective is to
determine if the two samples were written by the same author.
Jacques Derrida provides a record of the first analysis of writing in
Of Grammatology Corrected Edition, translated by Gayatri
Chakrovorty Spivak [Derrida]. Derrida states that Aristotle believed
"Spoken words are the symbols of mental experience, and written
words are the symbols of spoken words. Just as men have not the
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Another ancient record of application of graphology involved the

Roman Emperor Nero. He reportedly judged the abilities of his
associates by a study of their handwriting.
The Italian scholar Camillo Baldi authored the first known work on
graphology in 1625. The approximate translated title was "How to
know the nature and qualities of a person by looking at a letter he
has written."
A French monk, Abby Michon, wrote about the relationship
between handwriting and personality. He was the first to use the
term "graphologie."
In 1910, Milton Bunker, a shorthand teacher, noted stroke
differences in handwriting that he correlated with personality traits
[Backman]. Bunker theorized that handwriting was directed by
brain impulses, which reflected personality. He and his colleagues
began research into the associations between impulsive brain
activity and handwriting. As with any scientific research, he
accumulated and analyzed thousands of specimens. Bunker then
developed the basis of the modern standardized procedures for
examining the character traits reflected in handwriting. These
procedures are based on scientific analysis and do not rely on
intuition or the personal beliefs of the analyst.

Procedure ______________________
The procedures and structures of graphology that are commonly
taught are primarily based on correlations to a personality trait. The
trait is identified, then the appropriate script is described. Although
this is an effective method to describe the trait, it is inconvenient for
a structured, mechanical examination of the writing.
Because of my background and frequent research into mathematical
structure of physical sciences, it became apparent there is a very
systematic arrangement of all handwriting symbols. The discussion
that follows breaks the analysis into seven unique shapes. Each
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orientation is the middle of the road that is typical or average. Each

orientation will have several unique personality indicators.
In any sample, the indicators may change. It is also expected that
some of the indicators will be different at the beginning, in the
middle, or at the end of a word. In these cases, look at the
prevalence of indicators of a particular letter. Correlate the
information of the prevalent pattern with the indications of other
letters.
The information on graphology is provided as an introduction into
the insights provided by the technique. Before making major
corrections in writing to compensate for a perceived problem, be
sure to verify the effect of the proposed changes. Serious challenges
can arise with arbitrary modifications to your emotional process.
Graphology is a very valid, credible, scientific tool. Like most
sciences, advanced training and skill is necessary for a
comprehensive analysis. Before making critical judgments, always
refer to a certified expert.

Three zones _____________________

Writing is segregated into three zones, the upper, middle, and lower
regions. These zones correlate directly to the model of human
behavior.
upper
middle
lower

hdacpy

The upper zone is the portion of the letter that extends above the
line. The upper zone contains the mental aspect. It represents our
imagination, our rationale for the spirit world, our capacity to think,
our daydreams, and where we solve problems.
The middle zone is the region that contains the predominant portion
of all letters. The middle zone is the emotional aspect. It illustrates
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The lower zone is the region that extends below the line. The lower
zone is the physical aspect. It demonstrates our material world, our
need for physical activity, our sexual world and the measurement of
internal strength "to get the job done."
The differences in shapes of the portion of the letters in each of the
three zones demonstrate which aspect is dominant or controlling.

An exaggeration in one area is often compensation, denial, or

a perceived lack of something in another area of the writer's
life.
Three figures ____________________
A quick analysis is determined by the three figures sharp angles,
curves, and straight lines. These are easiest to see at the beginning
and end of words.
Writing with sharp angles indicates a sharp, penetrating mind and
may be quite brilliant in some area. However, the negative side is
cool, severe, ambitious, critical, fault finding, makes unfavorable
comparisons, and is hard to please. These tend to isolate from
sensitive relationships. As the angle becomes tighter, the
characteristics become more severe. The temperament tendency is
to be more task-oriented.
Writing with a single curve indicates a warm, compassionate,
agreeable, pleasant, feeling, and sensitive person. These
personalities will work toward the greater good of others even at the
expense of what others may think of them. The negative side is they
may not be as creative. As the curve becomes longer, the
characteristics become more emphasized. The temperament
tendency is to be more people-oriented.
A style with straighter lines and no angles strikes a balance. This is
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Seven shapes ____________________

The seven shapes are size, angle, terminus, stem, crossing, hump,
and circle. The segregation of these shapes illustrates the contrasting
orientations. Each orientation is further separated by indicators,
which are described later.
Shape, orientation, and indicator identify each trait. A series of
tables give a description of what to look for. The table is followed
by illustrations. The tables and categorization by shapes are original
items for this book. These are correlated to the extensive sample
illustrations developed by Bart Baggett [Baggett].
SHAPE
SIZE
ANGLE
TERMINAL
STEM
CROSSING
HUMP
CIRCLE

ORIENTATION
height
space
slant
slope
start
end
up
down
dot
horizontal
top
base
sharp
extras

Size ____________________________
Size is affiliated with the height of the letters. It also includes any
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SIZE

Height

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concentration

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proportional to ego size

large lower case

defiance

ostentatious

extravagant

between letters

intuition

Concentration
Ego

Defiant

Extravagant

Intuition

Angle __________________________
The angle has two aspects. The slant is the pitch of individual
letters. The slope is the change in position of the last letter
compared to the first.

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Letter Trait

hard right

emotional

forward

balanced emotion & logic

slightly forward

logic w/ some sympathy

vertical

logical

backward

emotionally withdrawn

both back & forward -

dual personality

straight, even bottom -

perfectionist

up right

optimism

down right

pessimism

Emotional

Emotionally withdrawn

Perfectionist

Termination _____________________
Termination identifies the characteristic of the starting stroke of the
first letter and the ending stroke of the last letter. The starting letters
are W, M, and S. The end is the final stroke of any letter.

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End

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large round

W,M,S desire responsibility

tight circle

jealousy

hook middle

acquire material

hook upper

acquire ideas

inflexible upstroke

resentment

wavy

humor

long final or dash

cautious

hook upper

tenacity ideas

hook middle

tenacity material

long 45 angle, spacing -

generosity

high in air

desire attention

underline signature

leadership

Jealousy

Acquisition of material things

Tenacity

Humps _________________________
Humps are associated with the letters that are rounded on the top.
The analysis is how the direction changes. Only one perspective
correlates to the base of the letters. The remainder are linked to the
top of the rounded portion. The letters are h, m, n, and r.

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Letter Trait

V shape

m,n

analytical thinker

round

m,n

cumulative think, slower

needle point

m,n,h,i comprehensive think, fast

sharp into upper zone m,n,h,r curious & investigative

wedge shape

m,n

surface thinker

downslope to right

diplomacy

increasing height

self-conscious

square

h,r

manual dexterity

Analytical thinker

Cumulative thinker

Diplomacy

Circular ________________________
Circular letters are those that are predominantly round. The analysis
looks at the change of direction and how the letters are closed. The
letters are a, c, d, e, and o.
Shape

Orientation Indicator

CIRCULAR sharp
loop

Letter Trait

middle hook

a,c,d

needs challenge

wide

a,o

frankness

narrow, retraced

e,a,o

selective listener

open

a,o

talkative

extra before

a,o

self-deceit

extra after

a,o

secretive

extra before & after a,o

Needs challenge

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Selective listener

Lying

Stems __________________________
Stems are the part of the letter that extends above or below the line.
Since all these involve a direction change, that is the crucial part of
the analysis. The space between the return paths is the key element.
The letters with above the line stems are d, f, h, t, and capital E. The
letters with below the line extensions are g, j, p, and y.

Sensitive to criticism

Directness

Live for moment

Physical

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Shape

Orientation Indicator

Letter Trait

STEMS

Up

large loop

philosophical
imagination

large loop

d,t

sensitive to criticism

Down

retraced & taller

d,t

pride & dignity

tepee

d,t

stubborn

short, no loop

d,t

independent thinker

no height

d,t

live for moment

down stroke & to

t
right

directness

unclosed, sigma

d, E

desire culture

balance w/ lower

organizational ability

average loop

p,y

physical desire

large, wide

g,j,y

physical imagination

very long, big

p,g,y

physical experimental

deep in next row,

g,y
wide

physical variety

long, narrow low

g,y

socially selective

long in next row

g,y

too many irons in fire

incomplete

g,y

physical frustration

downward turn

g,y

fear of success

figure eight

fluid thought

retraced

g,j,y

anti-social

breakaway top

argumentative

hard right up

g,j,y

aggressiveness

not normal shape

g,y

perversion

Crossing ________________________
Crossing involves letters that have separate strokes above the line.
The stroke can be the dot above the i and j. Perhaps one of the
easiest to analyze is the bar across the t. It is very distinguishable
from all other strokes and therefore tells more than perhaps any
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Letter Trait

close

i,j

detailed

perfect

i,j

loyalty

circle

individualistic, artistic

slash

irritability

height level

goal level

high w/ large I

self esteem hi

very low

self esteem lo

above

goals unrealistic

double back

persistent

unusually long

enthusiasm

wavy

humor

concave

self-control

crossed backward

self-castigation

heavy

will power

blunt

definite, positiveness

sharp

sarcasm

up

optimism

down, blunt

dominant

down, sharp

domineering

mostly right

temper

mostly left

procrastination

Detailed

Self control

Esteem

Review _________________________
Writing reflects emotions. Understanding writing will unlock
emotions. The brain operates as a feedback control system. It

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controls the neuromuscular action based on a personality

characteristic. If the handwriting is changed, then that trait will be
modified. The mental paths are drawn whether the traits are trained
or untrained. As far back as Aristotle, there has been the study of
writing.
Letters consists of three zones- the upper relates to the mental, the
middle illustrates the emotional, and lower shows physical aspects.
The beginning and end of words have three figures- sharp for task
orientation, round for people orientation, and the infrequent straight.
Graphology contains seven shapes called size, angle, terminus,
stem, crossing, hump, and circle. Perhaps one of the easiest to
analyze is the bar across the t. It is very distinguishable from all
other strokes and therefore tells more than perhaps any other
component.

Application _____________________
1. Check your signature. Are the letters open or closed? Are letters
crossed high or low? When letters change direction, are they
pointed or rounded?
2. What are the seven basic shapes of graphology?
3. What does crossing a t tell you about a person?
4. What does the termination tell about a person?
5. How do shape, orientation, and indicator identify each trait?
6. Explain how a change in handwriting can lead to a modification
of personality style.

Bibliography ____________________

Backman,
Bob,
Graphology
in
America,
www.wmin.ac.uk/
marketingresearch/2169backeng.htm 2001.
Baggett, Bart, Trait Dictionary, http://www.myhandwriting.com.
Derrida, Jacques, Of Grammatology Corrected Edition, translated by Gayatri
Chakrovorty Spivak, The Johns Hopkins University Press, Baltimore.
Originally published in France under the title De la Grammatologie, 1967.
First American edition, 1976. Corrected edition, 1998.

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Thought
There is nothing new
under the sun.
Solomon

A pithy saying ___________________

Numerous topics, ideas, and precepts have been covered in this first
volume. A summary of these principles is accomplished by a review
of the aphorisms in the chapters. An aphorism is a tersely phrased
statement about a truth or opinion. It is from the Latin by way of
Old French and means to define. Leaders often use these brief
sayings as quick reminders of principles.
The aphorism list is sayings the authors have used. Since everything
we know is built on others work, it is sometimes difficult to know
if these are original, modifications of others, or are old adages.
Credit has been given for those which we are aware. If there has
been an oversight, we apologize and please let us know.
Leadership and success is about relationships.
You can be all you want to be. It simply takes an appetite to
develop an attitude that controls the action.
People are where they are because of the choices they make.

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Attitude is what keeps you going when the competition quits.

If one plan does not work, chuck it. Get another one. Just keep your
focus on where you want to go.
Are you more oriented to make decisions based on rationale, logic
and structure or on understanding, perception and feeling?
Are you more expressive or more controlled?
You will change, if you want to succeed.
Leadership is helping people believe they can do it, and giving them
the tools to do it, then using feedback to reinforce their confidence.
A leader is someone who can inspire others to achieve.
If you want anything, you must ask for it. Ask?
Leaders create leaders. Leave a legacy, not an inheritance.
Leaders must carefully guard their vision, attitude, and time.
Delegation is the transfer of responsibility with the authority to do a
task, but not the accountability for the performance.
Confidence is the mental assurance that something is true.
Genteelness is modesty with class.
Motivation is not telling, but selling.
Motivation is helping people to reach their potential.
The essence of all the character traits is to be calm, in control, with
class. That describes a gentleman or lady.
People do business with people they like and respect.
I understand you are the person that knows everything about the
topic.
Worries seldom are realized. Expectations are.

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Faith is what you believe will happen. Fear is what you believe will
happen. Only one is positive.
Stand out but fit in.
Writing reflects emotions.
Understand writing, understand emotions.

Principles _______________________
Control is the mental function that keeps the emotional and physical
in check. Control is one of those fascinating concepts that cross all
boundaries. It is used to describe personal actions, relationships,
financial situations, and mechanical devices. Whether in
psychology, philosophy, or physics, control is crucial.
In every circumstance, control simply means to apply feedback or
constraint to a stimulus or input so that a desired response or output
is obtained. The success machine model defined in the first chapter
demonstrates this control.
feedback

stimulus

response

+/-

forward

Since leadership development is a process, there is a straightforward

method you can undertake to see how you are doing. Ask yourself a
series of questions based on these standards. If the answer to any of
these questions is no, consider looking at that area in more detail.
1.
2.
3.
4.

Is my vision of where I am going well defined?

Is my dealing with ethical & moral issues appropriate?
Is my relationship with people issues adequate?
Is my allocation of time issues appropriate?

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5.
6.
7.
8.
9.

Is my application of money issues adequate?

Is my understanding of technology issues adequate?
Is my implementation of quality issues adequate?
Is my performance of safety issues adequate?
Is my appreciation of environment & natural resources issues
adequate?
10. Is my response to legal issues sufficient?

These questions apply to relationships, organizations, government,

society, or the home.

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Thought
The end or top of one phase
is simply the beginning or bottom of the next.
Valedictorian speech by K. D. Durham

ABOUT THE AUTHORS

Thought
Confidence
The mental assurance that something is correct.
MOD

Personal - MOD _________________

As a business owner and a university professor, I am often asked
how did you do it? The answer is easy, with many mistakes that cost
me substantial time and money. First, I tried to do it myself without
a mentoring process. Second, I originally bought the traditional idea
of get a good education, get a good job, and you will make it.
There is no such thing as a good job. In the dynamic world of the
information age, everything changes quickly. Therefore, it is
unlikely a job will last for more than five years. The other aspect is
someone will make money from any venture. It is either your boss
and the business owner or you the business owner.
My first degree was as an electrical engineer. Then I went to work
for a big company. The firm became one of the top twenty-five
largest companies in the country. The company does not exist today.
You are the only sure thing that relates to you.
While there, I had the dream of working a few years. Then I would
start a small electrical construction company and teach at a junior

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college. That idea was fine-tuned to where I am now an

international consultant and teach at a prestigious university.
While working, I went back to graduate school for a masters degree
in technical management. Then my first business was started.
Without a mentor, I thought I needed more education, so I started on
a Ph.D. program. At the age of 39, with a wife and four children in
private school, I quit the company and began consulting. At the
same time I completed my Ph.D. program. Talk about mid-life
crises.
Our income went from six digits to less than $17,000 a year. Was it
worth it? You decide. The next year an old professor called and
offered an adjunct professor position. In time and with persistence,
that has turned into a tenured full professorship. Within three years
of the plunge, we had started another business in aviation, bought an
airplane, and paid cash for a new car.
We then started an internet-based enterprise and began purchasing
real estate. A few years ago, we realized we needed to do a little
financial planning and protection for our assets and children. While
visiting with our attorney, he congratulated us on having a net worth
that necessitated establishing trusts. With that bit of information, we
went to dinner, then back to work.
The next milestone revelation came while driving one of our pieces
of heavy equipment building a road on our property. My son and
colleague simply asked, Dad have you calculated the net worth of
this property? Enough said.
Has it all been easy? Are you kidding? Every successful
entrepreneur I know has lost it all at least twice and has had to start
over. We have lost it in natural resources ventures. We have had to
change our businesses and seek new opportunities. We have
wondered where the next dollar was coming. As you will find,
reasonably intelligent persistence pays dividends.

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Marcus O. Durham _______________

Dr. Marcus O. Durham brings very diverse experience to his
writing and lectures. He is an engineer, who owns THEWAY Corp.,
an international consulting practice. He is a Professor at The
University of Tulsa. He is an Associate Professor at Trinity
Southwest University and formerly Dean of Graduate Studies and
Professor at Southwest Biblical Seminary.
He is a commercial pilot who flies his own plane, is a ham radio
Extra Class operator, and has a commercial radiotelephone license.
He is a registered Professional Engineer and a state licensed
electrical contractor. He enjoys the family ranch and operating the
heavy equipment.
Professional recognition includes Fellow of Institute of Electrical
and Electronic Engineers, Diplomate of American College of
Forensic Examiners, Certified Homeland Security by ACFE, and
Kaufmann Medal by IEEE.
Dr. Durham is acclaimed in Whos Who of American Teachers
(multiple editions), National Registry of Who's Who, Whos Who of
the Petroleum and Chemical Industry, Whos Who in Executives
and Professionals, Whos Who Registry of Business Leaders,
Congressional Businessman of the Year, and Presidential
Committee Medal of Honor. Honorary recognition includes Phi
Kappa Phi, Tau Beta Pi, and Eta Kappa Nu.
He has published over 100 papers and articles and has authored
eight books. He has developed a broad spectrum of projects for both
U.S. and international companies. He has traveled in over 22
countries and has mentoring relationships with students in 15
additional nations.
Dr. Durham received the B.S. from Louisiana Tech University, the
M.E. from The University of Tulsa, and the Ph.D. from Oklahoma
State University. He has other studies with numerous educational
and scholarly organizations.

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Robert A. Durham _______________

Dr. Robert A Durham, and his wife, have two children. Dr. Durham
is the Principal Engineer of D2 Tech Solutions, an engineering and
technology related firm concentrating on mechanical and electrical
systems and conversions He is also Chief Engineer of THEWAY
Corp, an engineering, management and operations group that
conducts training, develops computer systems, and provides design
and failure analysis of facilities and electrical installations. He
specializes in power systems, utility competition, controls, and
technology integration.
Dr. Durham is registered as a Professional Engineer in four states.
His work experience is broad, and encompasses all areas of the
energy industry. Dr. Durhams extensive client list includes the
development of a broad spectrum of forensic, electrical and facilities
projects for many companies. He also is involved with the audit of
market participants in competitive utility markets to ensure that
these facilities are adhering to the rules of the market. He has
published three books, five magazine articles and over 30 other
technical papers and articles.
Dr. Durham received the B.S. in electrical engineering from The
University of Tulsa, the M.E. in Technology Management from The
University of Tulsa, and a PhD in Engineering Management from
Kennedy Western University.

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Rosemary Durham________________
Rosemary Durham has equally intriguing credentials. She is a life
mate who has been very involved in the family businesses. She is
past President of THEWAY Corp. and is a partner in the internet
based Advanced Business Technology, Inc. She is the principal for
FIT, First Impression Techniques, an image consulting and analysis
enterprise.
She has been active in traveling to over 15 countries on business
and development. She has assisted in developing numerous papers.
Her insight has been immeasurable in evaluating technical
presentations and reducing them to non-technical applications. She
is a ham radio Tech-Plus class operator and a photographer. She
enjoys the family ranch and operates the heavy equipment. She is
acclaimed in the National Registry of Whos Who.
Her service includes founder and president of Women for Missions,
teacher, and leader of children ministries.
She is the mother of four adult children. Her nurturing shows in
their success. Robert is an engineer and businessman, Christopher is
a veterinarian, Karen is an engineer, and Sarah majored in
marketing and language.
Mrs. Durham received the AB from Ayers Business College. She
has additional studies at Imperial Valley College, Tulsa Community
College, Oral Roberts University, Southwest Biblical Seminary and
Trinity Southwest University.
She has extensive training from The Crowning Touch Institute. Her
credentials are Certified Advanced Color Analyst: Introduction,
Intermediate, and Advanced Color analysis and Image analysis.
She has co-authored five books.

The authors can be contacted at the publisher.

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Cover __________________________
Dr. Marcus O. Durham is an author, lecturer, researcher, scientist,
entrepreneur, university professor, seminary dean, international
consultant, commercial pilot, amateur radio operator, professional
engineer, and forensic investigator. He has published over 100
professional papers and articles and has published eight books. He is
honored as a Fellow, Institute of Electrical/Electronic Engineers
IEEE; Diplomate, American College of Forensics Examiners,
Certified in Homeland Security; IEEE Kaufmann Medal, numerous
Whos Who, and many of other professional awards.
Dr. Robert A. Durham is an author, entrepreneur, energy consultant,
project manager, corporate executive, instrument pilot, professional
engineer, and forensic investigator. He has published numerous
professional papers and articles, many of which have received
international recognition. He has published three books.
Rosemary Durham is an author, image consultant, administrator,
executive, business owner, and international traveler. She is an
amateur Tech-Plus and a photographer. She is a founder of womens
outreach and teacher for ladies personal development. She is
honored in Whos Who. She is a life mate and Mom.
The authors have written several books in the technical, philosophy,
and development genres.

Who Is This God? Marcus O. and Rosemary Durham

An Intellectuals Argument About God, Marcus O. and
Rosemary Durham
Micro-Controllers in Systems Design, Marcus O. Durham
Systems Design and the 8051, Marcus O. Durham
Systems Design and the 8051, Second Edition, Marcus O.
Durham
Leadership & Success in Relationships & Communication,
Marcus O. Durham, Robert A. Durham, Rosemary Durham
Leadership & Success in Organizations, Culture, & Ethics
Culture, Marcus O. Durham, Robert A. Durham, Rosemary
Durham

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Leadership & Success in Economics, Law, & Technology,

Marcus O. Durham, Robert A. Durham, and Rosemary Durham