SDB From Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Packet

Common Self-Defeating Beliefs*
Achievement
1. Perfectionism. I must never fail or make a
mistake.
2. Perceived Perfectionism. People will not love
and accept me as a flawed and vulnerable
human being.
3. Achievement Addiction. My worthiness
depends on my achievements, intelligence,
talent, status, income, or looks.
Love
Depression
13. Hopelessness. My problems could never be
solved. I could never feel truly happy or
fulfilled.
14. Worthlessness / Inferiority. I'm basically
worthless, defective, and inferior to others.
Anxiety
15. Emotional Perfectionism. I should always
feel happy, confident, and in control.
4. Approval Addiction. I need everyone's

approval to be worthwhile.
16. Anger Phobia. Anger is dangerous and should

be avoided at all costs.
5. Love Addiction. I can't feel happy and fulfilled

without being loved.
17. Emotophobia. I should never feel sad,

anxious, inadequate, jealous or vulnerable. I
should sweep my feelings under the rug and
not upset anyone.
6. Fear of Rejection. If you reject me, it proves

that there's something wrong with me. If I'm
alone, I'm bound to feel miserable and
worthless.
Submissiveness
7. Pleasing Others. I should always try to please
others, even if I make myself miserable in the
process.
8. Conflict Phobia. People who love each other
shouldn't fight.
9. Self-Blame. The problems in my relationships
are bound to be my fault.
Demandingness
10. Other-Blame. The problems in my
relationships are the other person's fault.
18. Perceived Narcissism. The people I care

about are demanding, manipulative, and
powerful.
19. Brushfire Fallacy. People are clones who all
think alike. If one person looks down on me,
the word will spread like brushfire and soon
everyone will look down on me.
20. Spotlight Fallacy. Talking to people feels like
having to perform under a bright spotlight on a
stage. If I don't impress people by being
sophisticated, witty, or interesting, they won't
like me.
21. Magical Thinking. If I worry enough,
everything will turn out okay.
Other
11. Entitlement. You should always treat me in the

way I expect.
22. Low Frustration Tolerance. I should never be

frustrated. Life should be easy.
12. Truth. I'm right and you're wrong.
23. Superman / Superwoman. I should always be

strong and never be weak.
Copyright 2001, by David D. Burns, M.D.
Cognitive Distortions
From Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D. Burns, MD
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Distortion
All or Nothing Thinking
Overgeneralization
Mental Filter
Disqualifying the Positive
Jumping to Conclusions
Description
You see things in black and white categories. If your
performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total
failure.
You see a single negative event as a never ending pattern of
defeat.
You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively
so that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the
drop of ink that discolors the entire beaker of water.
You reject positive experiences by insisting they dont count
for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a
negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday
experiences.
You make a negative interpretation even though there are no
definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion.
Mind
Reading
The Fortune
Teller Error
Magnification
(Catastrophizing) or
Minimization
Emotional Reasoning
Should Statements
Labeling and Mislabeling
Personalization and Blame
You arbitrarily conclude that someone is

reacting negatively to you and you dont
bother to check this out.
You anticipate that things will turn out
badly, and you feel convinced that your
prediction is an already established fact.
You exaggerate the importance of things (such as your goof up

or someone elses achievement), or you inappropriately shrink
things until they appear tiny (your own desirable qualities or
the other fellows imperfections). This is also called the
binocular trick.
You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the
way things really are: I feel it; therefore, it must be true.
You try to motivate yourself with should and shouldnts, as if
you had to be whipped and punished before you could be
expected to do anything. Musts and oughts are also
offenders. The emotional consequence is guilt. When you
direct should statements toward others, you feel anger,
frustration and resentment.
This is an extreme form of over generalization. Instead of
describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself:
Im a loser. When someone elses behavior rubs you the
wrong way, you attach a negative label to him: Hes a jerk.
Mislabeling involves describing an event with language that is
highly colored and emotionally loaded.
With personalization, you see yourself as the cause of some
negative external event which in fact you were not primarily
responsible. With blame, you blame other people or your
circumstances for problems, and overlook ways that you might
be contributing to the problem.
Handout compiled by Teresa Kleffner, MSW, LCSW. St. Louis Counseling and Wellness. www.stlcw.com
The Ladder of Emotions

Our emotions are neither good nor bad. They are only an indicator of where we are on any given
subject. Imagine that each emotion below is a rung on a ladder. We understand that it is not
possible for us to stand at the bottom of a 22 foot ladder and reach the top rung in one step. The
same is true for the emotional scale. We have to climb the ladder rung by rung. Sometimes we can
skip a rung or two but we usually cant skip ten. So if you were jealous and now feel anger,
acknowledge that you are moving in the right direction.
One more note about the emotional scale. You may notice that there are more negative emotions
than positives. When we feel good, we dont really need the exact word to describe how we feel.
But, when we dont feel so good, there is a big difference between our emotions and we sometimes
need just the right word to explain it.
Ways to use this emotional scale:
At first, just become familiar with what you are feeling. Identify any thoughts or beliefs that may
have led up to the feeling.
Once you get skilled at identifying your self defeating beliefs and your cognitive distortions then you
can begin to reach for a better feeling thought. First, identify where you are then identify where
you want to be. Next, reach for a better feeling thought by changing the story you are telling
yourself. If the thought makes sense to you, keep going. When you feel like the thought doesnt
make sense, or isnt realistic, pause at that feeling for a bit. Once you feel ready, keep reaching for
a better feeling thought. Remember: beliefs contribute to thoughts and thoughts result in feelings
and feelings shape experiences.
Beliefs Thoughts Feelings Experiences
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Emotional Scale
Joy -- Knowledge -- Freedom -- Love -- Appreciation

Passion
Enthusiasm -- Eagerness -- Happiness
Positive Expectation -- Belief
Optimism
Hopefulness
Contentment
Boredom
Pessimism
Frustration -- Irritation -- Impatience
Overwhelment
Disappointment
Doubt
Worry
Blame
Discouragement
Anger
Revenge
Hatred -- Rage
Jealousy
Insecurity -- Guilt -- Unworthiness
Fear -- Grief -- Depression -- Despair -- Powerlessness
The list is from Ask and It is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks
Handout compiled by Teresa Kleffner, MSW, LCSW. St. Louis Counseling and Wellness. www.stlcw.com
Identifying New Beliefs and Thoughts

For each situation that comes up, fill out a chart with the following information:
What I told myself:
What did I feel?
Identify Self Defeating

Beliefs and/or Cognitive
Distortion
What I could have told

myself instead:

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What are some common self-defeating beliefs?

What are some common self-defeating beliefs?

What cognitive distortions are described?

What cognitive distortions are described?

Common Self-Defeating Beliefs*

4. Approval Addiction. I need everyone's

16. Anger Phobia. Anger is dangerous and should

5. Love Addiction. I can't feel happy and fulfilled

17. Emotophobia. I should never feel sad,

6. Fear of Rejection. If you reject me, it proves

18. Perceived Narcissism. The people I care

11. Entitlement. You should always treat me in the

22. Low Frustration Tolerance. I should never be

12. Truth. I'm right and you're wrong.

23. Superman / Superwoman. I should always be

Copyright 2001, by David D. Burns, M.D.

Disqualifying the Positive

Labeling and Mislabeling

Personalization and Blame

You arbitrarily conclude that someone is

You exaggerate the importance of things (such as your goof up

The Ladder of Emotions

Beliefs Thoughts Feelings Experiences

Joy -- Knowledge -- Freedom -- Love -- Appreciation

Identifying New Beliefs and Thoughts

What I told myself:

What did I feel?

Identify Self Defeating

What I could have told

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