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Codependency

Codependency involves becoming numb to loneliness from childhood attachment wounds, usually from a narcissistic parent, and doing anything to eliminate that loneliness. Both codependents and empaths struggle to set boundaries and identify their own needs. Codependents feel they must always be in a relationship and end up with narcissists, who use relationships to manage others but do not want real intimacy. Codependents try to give all of themselves to fill the void in narcissists from their own childhood wounds, but narcissists ultimately see codependents as inauthentic and weak. To develop independence, codependents must discover their own preferences through isolation and learn that their worth is not in giving to others but in living life through self

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Codependency

Codependency involves becoming numb to loneliness from childhood attachment wounds, usually from a narcissistic parent, and doing anything to eliminate that loneliness. Both codependents and empaths struggle to set boundaries and identify their own needs. Codependents feel they must always be in a relationship and end up with narcissists, who use relationships to manage others but do not want real intimacy. Codependents try to give all of themselves to fill the void in narcissists from their own childhood wounds, but narcissists ultimately see codependents as inauthentic and weak. To develop independence, codependents must discover their own preferences through isolation and learn that their worth is not in giving to others but in living life through self

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Codependency is the addiction of being numb to the sense of loneliness we feel so we

will do anything to eradicate that sense of loneliness that was created by what we could
call an attachment wound in childhood… normally by a narcissistic parent.

The empath is the healer, the codependent is the fixer…

Both struggle to create boundaries and what their own needs are.

Codependents HAVE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP – hence they need the co to be


dependent on and is always with a narcissist – which a narcissist uses a relationship.. they
manage it but is not something they want to be in. a narcissist started out as a
codependent who didn’t have a “co”.. meaning they didnt get their needs meet by a parent
or someone close to them as a child… who didn’t “co” create with them. So a
codependent treats a narassist as ohhhh I know what you went through so im going to
give you ALL of me and the narsassit loves this cause they don’t have any of their own,
The codependent essentially becomes void of themselves and the narsassist hates them
because they are trying to infiltrate something that actually isn’t them in the first place so
they will always see them as incongruent, inauthentic and weak.

The codependent does what they do cause they understand the narcissit is void of
themselves because it represents a parent that they had that they never were able to save
themselves. So they seek to pour all of themselves into the narscissit but the narscissit
ultimately lives in their own shadows and the codependent will give all of her
substanance to her shadowself. She will become void of herself for the sake of someone
else.

Codepents seek to give to seek their worth and the narsist seeks to take to seek their
worth.

So a codependent to get back into herself is to discover what you actually like and what
your preferences are and this might take some isolation. An empath goes through 3
phases of development in their empathy.. I live for others and then I live for myself…
You have to discover what you like and what works for you and now everyone else is
going to hate it cause now your selfish and an asshole … then once we figure this out we
can live for everyone else, but now IM included in that with everyone else… doing this
is going to shove you into loneliness WHICH WE HATE, but its ok cause only YOU can
fix YOU!
Your worth is not by giving… cause then you always have to produce and it gets tiring …
your worth is established by how you live your life based on your ability to create
boundaries that you say yes to more than you say no. doing stuff out of guilt (the empathy
way) the codepent thiks she is absolutely worthless if shes not serving someone else… I
do not exist without your validation ( narcissist thinks the same way)

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