Lecturrette in Personal Development Module 1

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
Unit 1: Self Development
Module 1 : Knowing and Understanding Oneself during Middle and Late Adolescence
SELF- CONCEPT
Your ideal self is the self that you aspire to be, It is the the one that you hope will
posses characteristics similar to that of a mentor or some other worldly figure.
Your actual self is the one that you actually see. It is the self that has characteristics
that you were nurtured or in some cases, born to have.
The actual self and the ideal self are two broad categories of self-concept.
Self-concept refers to your awareness of yourself. It is the construct that negotiates
these two selves. In other words, it connotes first identification of the ideal self as separate
from others and second, it encompasses all the behaviors evaluated in the actual self that you
engage in to reach the ideal self.
The actual self is built on self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is derived from social
interactions that provide insights into how others react to you. The actual self is who we
actually are. It is how we think, how we feel, look and act. The actual self can be seen by
others, but because we have no way of truly knowing how others view us, the actual self is
our self-image.
The ideal self, on the other hand, is how we want to be. It is an idealized image that
we have developed over time, based on what we have learned and experienced. The ideal self
could include components of what our parents have taught us, what we admire in others, what
our society promotes and what we think is in our best interest.
There is negotiation that exist between the two selves which complex because there
are numerous exchanges between the ideal and actual self. These exchanges are exemplified
in social roles that are adjusted and re-adjusted and are derived from outcomes of social
interactions from infant to adult development. Alignment is important. If the way that I am
( the actual self) is aligned with the way that I want to be ( the ideal self), then we feel a sense
of mental well-being or peace of mind. If the way I am is not aligned with how I want to be,
the incongruence or lack of alignment, will result in mental distress or anxiety. The greater
the level of incongruence between the ideal self and real self, the greater the level of resulting
distress. Personal development modules ultimate aim is greater self-knowledge that will lead
to higher alignment between these two personality domains.
PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
Personal effectiveness means making use of all the personal resources- talents, skills,
energy and time to enable you to achieve life goals.
Your knowledge of yourself and how you manage yourself impacts directly on your
personal effectiveness. Being aware, making the most of your strength, learning new skills
and techniques and behavioral flexibility are all keys to improving your personal
performance.
Our personal effectiveness depends on our innate characteristics- talent and
experience accumulated in the process of personal development. Talents first are needed to
be identified and then developed to be used in a particular subject are (science, literature,
sports, politics etc.)
Experience includes knowledge and skills that we acquire in the process of cognitive and
practical activities.
Knowledge is required for setting goals, defining action plan to achieve them and risk
assessment.
Skills also determine whether real actions are performed in accordance with the plan.
If the same ability is used many times in the same situation, then it becomes a habit that runs
automatically, subconsciously.
Here are some skills that will greatly increase the efficiency of any person who
owns them.
1. Determination. It allows you to focus only on achieving a specific goal without being
distracted by less important things or spontaneous desires. It may be developed with the help
of self-discipline exercise.
2. Self-confidence. It appears in the process of personal development, as a result of getting
aware of yourself, your actions and their consequences. Self-confidence is manifested in
speech, appearance, dressing, gait, and physical condition. To develop it, you need to learn
yourself and your capabilities, gain positive attitude and believe that by performing right
actions and achieving right goals you will certainly reach success.
3. Persistence. It makes you keep moving forward regardless of emerging obstacles –
problems, laziness, bad emotional etc. It reduces the costs of overcoming obstacles. It can
also be developed with the help of self-discipline exercise.
4. Managing Stress. It helps combat stress that arises in daily life from the environment and
other people. Stress arises from the uncertainty in an unknown situation when a lack of
information creates the risk of negative consequences of your actions. It increases efficiency
in the actively changing environment.
5. Problem solving skills. They help cope with the problems encountered with a lack of
experience. It increases efficiency by adopting new ways of achieving goals when obtaining a
new experience.
6. Creativity. It allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry out a specific action that no
one has tried to use. It can lead to a decrease or an increase of costs, but usually the speed of
action is greatly increased when using creative tools.
7. Generating ideas. It helps you achieve goals using new, original, unconventional ideas.
Idea is a mental image of an object formed by the human mind, which can be changed before
being implemented in the real world. For generating ideas you can use a method of mental
maps, which allows you to materialize, visualize, and scrutinize all your ideas, which in turn
contributes to the emergence of new ideas. These are just some, but the most important
personal effectiveness skills which make the achievement of any goal easier and less costly.
BUILD ON YOUR STRENGTHS AND WORK ON YOUR WEAKNESSES

Most failures emanate from weaknesses that are not recognized or probably
recognized but not given appropriate attention or remedy. This could be a weakness in
communications, personality, or ability. Instead of giving up or indulging in self-pity, take
action. Go for speech lessons, get skills upgrading, attend personality development sessions
or whatever appropriate remedies to you perceived weakness.
Instead of simply focusing on your weaknesses, recognize your own talents and
abilities, build on them, utilize them to your greatest advantage. This is where you can build
your name and popularity. Handicapped people like Jose Feliciano and other blind singers
did not brood over their physical handicap. They recognized that they have a golden voice so
they search for ways to enrich that talent and now they have won international fame in the
field of music.
YOU NEED TO TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR FUTURE

There are three kinds of people in this world:
The first is the Moviegoer. This person watches the movie of their lives, admires
some parts and criticizes others. Aside from that, they do nothing else. All she says the whole
day is, “I like this thing but I don’t like that thing.” The Moviegoer feels she has absolutely
no control of their lives --- except to comment about it. Moviegoers are the most pathetic,
miserable people in this world.
The second is the Actor. This person does not only watch the movie of her life. She
actually realizes she’s the Actor – and can control a big part of her life. She can actually
make or break the movie – by how well she delivers her lines and how she portrays her
character. Actors are a happy bunch, realizing they’re the start of the show and enjoy some
level of control. But many times, they wish the movie would end in another way – but realize
that they have no say in such things.
The third is the Scriptwriter. This person does not only watch, and she doesn’t only
act, but she actually creates the entire movie from her mind. She determines what she will
say, what she will do, and how the movie will end. She realizes she has enormous control
over her life, and see to it that the movie of her life will turn out beautiful.
THE POWER OF JOURNAL WRITING: UNFOLDING YOUR PERSONAL

JOURNEY
The purpose of journal writing is to help you become the Scriptwriter of your life.
There are (4) practical reasons to maintain a journal:
1. It is cost-efficient and available. Emotional stress can be dealt in many ways like talking to
a friend over a cup of coffee, eating, travelling, shopping, painting and many more but
writing the most inexpensive. Notebook and pens are easy to find, available and do not cost
so much.
2. It is preventive and pro-active. Writing yields self- awareness. When you write, you can
discover your strengths and limitations. You will know what your reactions are in different
situations and what better ways to prevent, avoid, or face your fears.
3. It is creative and productive. Journal writing expounds your imagination. You can see
various dimensions of your problem, different point of view and better solutions.
4. Lastly, it is personal and private. Unless you want to share your stories, you have the
choice to keep them to yourself. Writing is your time alone. It is your way of loving yourself.
You will not be judged by your writing.
You just need one (1) notebook to maintain a personal journal. You may use these
questions as you write in your journal:
1. How do you find this day? What are the positive things that happened? What are
those things that made you irritated or upset?
2. As you reflect the ups and downs of your day, what may be the greatest lesson you
can learn from them? What actions have you done well and what actions you can do
better?
3. What do you really want in life? What do you want to achieve for yourself, your
family, your community, and your country?
4. As you close the day, what are the small and big things you are thankful of? Who are
the people that made your day extra special?

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PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

Unit 1: Self Development

BUILD ON YOUR STRENGTHS AND WORK ON YOUR WEAKNESSES

YOU NEED TO TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR FUTURE

THE POWER OF JOURNAL WRITING: UNFOLDING YOUR PERSONAL

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