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English
Quarter 1 – Lesson 3 Module 2

#INTI-Style
(Using Intimate Communicative Style)
English – Grade 9
Quarter 1 – Module 3 Lesson 2: Employ the appropriate communicative styles for
various situations (Formal, Frozen, Intimate, Consultative, Casual)

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MODULE 3 Lesson 2
I. Introduction

Effective communication is an important characteristic of strong and healthy

relationships. Young as you are, you need to develop your skills in communicating
appropriately and effectively in various situations. With the help of the tasks you will
explore in this lesson, it is expected that you will be able to build lasting relationships
through mastery of communicative styles particularly the intimate style.

II. Objectives:
Competency: Employ the appropriate communicative styles for
various situations
(Formal, Frozen, Intimate, Consultative, Casual)

a. Identify situations that require intimate communicative style

b. Employ appropriate verbal and non-verbal strategies for an
intimate situation
c. Create dialogues that show intimate communicative style

III. Vocabulary List:

Below is a list of unfamiliar words you will encounter in this module. Their
definitions are provided for you to better understand the lesson.

1. forge – verb: to form or bring into being especially by an

expenditure of effort
2. intimate – verb: to communicate delicately and indirectly
3. articulation – noun: the formation of clear and distinct sounds
in speech.
4. utterance– noun: a spoken word, statement, or vocal sound
5. jargon –noun: a technical terminology or characteristic idiom
of a special activity or group

*Definitions are taken from Merriam-Webster

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IV. Pre-Test

Every day, we are placed in various situations where we have to communicate

appropriately and effectively. Put a happy face before situations that call for an

intimate communicative style and a poker face before those that don’t.

____________1. talking to a friend while playing computer games

____________2. reading a court order
____________3. talking to a stranger
____________4. delivering a campaign speech
____________5. having a one-on-one conversation with a loved one

V. Learning Activities

You sure have heard this saying before: communication is the key 🔑 to any
relationship. It sounds cliché but it’s true. But how do you communicate with people
you are very close with, people you know extremely well? Do you need to observe
some protocol? Is there a specific language you use when you open up with a friend,
ask for your parents’ advice, or when you gossip with your best friend?

Take a look at this dialogue taken from the movie The Lion King.

Young Simba : Dad?

Mufasa : Hmm?
Young Simba : We're pals, right?
Mufasa : Right.
Young Simba : And we'll always be together, right?
Mufasa : Simba, let me tell you something my father told me. Look at the stars.
The great kings of the past look down on us from those stars.
Young Simba : Really?
Mufasa : Yes. So whenever you feel alone, just remember that those kings will
always be there to guide you. And so will I.

“The Lion King.” IMDb, IMDb.com, 12 July 2019, www.imdb.com/title/tt6105098/.

Questions to answer:

1. Who are involved in the dialogue?

2. What is the degree of formality in the conversation? High or Low?

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 3. Is there a private language used?
4. What communication style is required in this type of situation?

The dialogue you have just read is an example of a situation that calls for an
intimate communicative style. This style occurs often among people who have very
close relationship. Those who have known each other for so long that:
 they don’t need complete language with clear utterance to
understand each other;
 they can share intimate or “deep” topics among themselves;
 they have shared experiences

Remember:
Other Characteristics of Intimate Speech Style

1. It is non-public.
The language used in this style may not be shared in public.
Example:
Rory: "My god, I hate her."
Lorelai: "Me too."
Rory: "You've no idea who I'm talking about."
Lorelai: "Solidarity, sister."
From Gilmore Girls (2006)

2. It uses private vocabulary.

In this style, people use words where meaning can vary. These
words with private meanings are shared only by a small group- usually
in pair or in family situation. People have their own way to convey
something to their close friends or family. In this case, the topic is usually
an informal thing like love, life and sometimes about a secret that is
known only to the speakers.
Nicknames and terms of endearment like Honey, Mom, Dad, and other
special nicknames are used.
Example:
Bae: I love you, Honeybunny!
Honeybunny: I love you, too, Bae!

3. There is no “correct linguistic form.”

Speakers can freely say what they are feeling without minding the
grammar. In this style, intonation is more important than wording or
grammar.

Sometimes, people use incomplete sentence in their conversation, but

the hearer still can get the purpose of the speaker’s utterance.

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Examples:
Girl: 'Mumma…
Mother: Yes, Baby?
Girl: Are you comfy? Hmmmm…or maybe I should exchange with you?'
Mother: Don't worry beta, I am comfortable and safe here.

Alex : Yeah, yeah...

Rossie : Oh, my God, is...
Alex : Is that? Bethany ?
Love Rosie Movie ( 2014)

VI. Practice Task 1

Spot the Speech
Now that you know the characteristics of intimate communicative style, you
can already identify utterances in an intimate situation.

Below are dialogue extracts from various situations. Box the quotations that are
most representative of a communication that occurs in an intimate context.

1. “Hello, Honey, how was your day?”

“Great! We got a lot done, Hon! And yours?”
2. “Operator? I’ve been dialing Comia Family Clinic now for the last three-
quarters of an hour, and the line is always busy. Will you try it for me?”
3. “How’s my little snuggy wuggy?”
4. “Stop feeling guilty. It isn’t a bad thing to want girl time with your best friend.
Try telling her exactly what you told me. You want her to be happy, you think
her boyfriend is a good guy, but you miss spending time with her.”
5. “So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s gonna be really hard. We are gonna have to
work at this every day but I want to do that because I want you, forever, you
and me, every day.”
6. “She loved me at my worst, you had me at the best… and you chose to break
my heart.”
7. “We liked the food, and the service was prompt. Convey our appreciation to
your chefs as well.”
8. “I wish I had known that earlier. I am sorry.”
9. “I’m sick and tired of your crap!”

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 10. “Sure, I can help you with that. Here you are. Here’s a receipt for your
deposit… and ummm… I’ve cashed your check. Let me count your money.”

Practice Task 2
I Know What You Said But What Do You Mean?
In intimate conversations, people tend to use words that can have varied
interpretations.
The aim of this activity is to help you become more sensitive to the underlying
meanings of spoken intimate phrases.

Decide on the intended meaning of the highlighted parts of the utterances made
by famous characters in movies. Put a check mark on the blank before the correct
answer. If you think the interpretation is not in the options, use the space provided to
write what the character wants to say or imply in each case.

1. Gramma Tala: Whatever just happened, blame it on the pig.

Moana: Grandma... Are you gonna tell dad?
Gramma Tala: I'm his mom. I don't have to tell him anything.
Moana: He was right. About going out there.
Gramma Tala: Okay. Well, then head on back. Put that stone up there.
Moana: Why aren't you trying to talk me out of it?
Gramma Tala: You said that's what you wanted.
Moana: It is.
Moana (2017)
___________ Please don’t tell Dad.
___________ If you tell Dad, I am not going to do it.
___________Go ahead, tell your son.

Other interpretations:
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________

2. Elinor: You look absolutely beautiful.

Merida: I can’t breathe!
Elinor: Give us a twirl.
(Stiffly Merida twirls).
Elinor: It’s perfect!
(Elinor looks at Merida in compassion.)
Merida: Mom?

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 Elinor: Just remember to smile.
Brave (2012)

____________ Mom, why are you pushing me to wear this?

____________ Mom, I don’t want to wear this.
____________ Mom, I am not confident wearing such outfit.

Other interpretations:
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________

3. Anna: Okay, can I just say something crazy?

Hans: I love crazy!
Anna: All my life has been a series of doors in my face and then
suddenly I bump into you.
Hans: I was thinking the same thing! 'Cause like…
I've been searching my whole life to find my own place
And maybe it's the party talking or the chocolate fondue

Frozen (2013)

_____________ I already know you are crazy, spill it out!

_____________We are both crazy, that’s okay!
______________You can say whatever you want, I will listen.

Other interpretations:
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________

4. Shoshanna to her friend: “I’ve likely been here for two hours and I haven’t
spoken to anybody. I’m so happy to see you I could murder you. I’ve likely
been here for two hours and I haven’t spoken to anybody. I’m so happy to
see you I could murder you.”
_____________ Being stuck here alone is terrifying and the moment you
finally show up feels life changing.
_____________I am ready to kill anyone if you have not arrived in 10
minutes.
_____________ What took you so long? I’m beginning to rot in here.
Gilmore Girls (2006)
Other interpretations:
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________

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 5. Ferris: If you are not over here in 15 mins, you can find yourself a
new best friend!
Cameron: Hah, you’ve been saying that since fifth grade.

____________ I really need you to come up here.

____________ I’ve been wanting to dump you.
____________ I’m leaving, find a new best friend.
Ferris Bueller’s Day Off (1986)
Other interpretations:
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________

Practice Task 3
Hear Me Up
Consider this situation: A student committed a misdemeanor in school. She was
asked to bring her parents to a scheduled dialogue with the Principal and Guidance
Counselor. How do you think would the student tell his parents about it and how would
the parents talk to their child. Create possible dialogues between the following:
student-father, student-mother, student-elder brother. Write your dialogue in the space
provided.

(photo of mother and daughter talking) n.d. https://www.scanva.org/from-the-parent-

education-desk-positive-communication-is-possible/
Father Mother Elder Brother

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VII. Post Test
How often do you sit down with your Mom and Dad and talk about things that
bother you or questions that confuse you. Teens like you talk to your parents all the
time but sharing with them sensitive and personal topics can be hard and
embarrassing.

In this activity, you will complete a dialogue between a daughter and a mother.
The daughter in this scenario is experiencing anxiety brought by the news about
COVID-19. To express her concern, she may start her lines with Lately I’ve been
thinking about…, Sometimes I’ve been worried about… Lately, I’ve been confused
about…

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VIII. Assignment/s

Listen to Me
Consider this situation: A student went to a class out of town field trip or joined
a regional competition. After being away from home for three days, he/she would
communicate to his/her parents and tell them stories about the trip. Create an intimate
dialogue of a child and her father or mother. Make sure that the student will be able to
tell
 where he or she is
 how he or she feels
 what he or she wants to do
 what he or she misses most
 what he or she likes.
You may include other things that the student might want to say. Write your script.
Record the conversation with a partner. Submit the audio file to your teacher. Limit the
conversation to 5 minutes.

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 Simple Dialogue Rubric
Criteria 5 4 3 2 1
The The The The The
dialogue dialogue dialogue dialogue dialogue
contains all contains 2 contains 1 does not does not
the characteristi characteristi show employ
characteris cs of c of intimate characteristi intimate
tics of intimate communicat cs of communicat
intimate communicat ive style. intimate ive style.
communic ive style. communicat
Content
ative style. ive style.

The The The The No

message message of message of message is message is
of the the dialogue the dialogue unclear. given
dialogue is is clear. is somehow
clear and clear.
strong.
The The The The The
dialogue dialogue dialogue dialogue dialogue
shows a shows 1-2 shows 3-4 shows 5 has more
Organizati logical sentences sentences sentences than 5
on of ideas arrangeme which are which are which are sentences
nt of ideas. not properly not properly not properly which are
organized. organized. organized. not properly
organized.
All rules on Any 1-2 Any 3-4 Any 5 rules More than 5
capitalizati rules are rules are are not rules are
on, not properly not properly properly not properly
Mechanics spelling, observed. observed. observed. observed.
of Writing grammar,
etc. are
perfectly
observed.

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Buck, C., Lee, J. (., Morris, S., Del Vecho, P., Bell, K., Gad, J., Menzel, I., Groff, J.,
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Draheim, J., Beck, C., Anderson-Lopez, K., Lopez, R., & Andersen, H. C. 1.
(2013). Frozen. Collector's edition. Burbank, Calif.: Walt Disney Pictures.

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Dorothy Parker Drank Here Productions; Warner Bros. Television ; produced by

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(photo of mother and daughter talking) n.d. https://www.scanva.org/from-the-parent-

education-desk-positive-communication-is-possible/
Graphics by: Loyd William F. Rosalin
https://app.pixton.com/

Answer Key:
Pre Test

1. 2. 3. 4. 5.
Practice Task 1
Box utterances number 1, 3,4,5,6,8,9
Practice Task 2

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 _____√______ Please don’t tell Dad.
___________ If you tell Dad, I am not going to do it.
___________Go ahead, tell your son.

____________ Mom, why are you pushing me to wear this?

____________ Mom, I don’t want to wear this.
______√_____Mom, I am not confident wearing such outfit.

_____________ I already know you are crazy, spill it out!

_____________We are both crazy, that’s okay!
_______√_____You can say whatever you want, I will listen.

_______√______ Being stuck here alone is terrifying and the moment you
finally show up feels life changing.
_____________I am ready to kill anyone if you have not arrived in 10
minutes.
_____________ What took you so long? I’m beginning to rot in here.

_______√_____ I really need you to come up here.

____________ I’ve been wanting to dump you.
____________ I’m leaving, find a new bestfriend.

Practice Task 3
Answers may vary.

Post Test
Answers may vary.

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