Body Language
Body Language
It's the relaxed facial expression that breaks out into a genuine smile – with
mouth upturned and eyes wrinkled. It can be a tilt of the head that shows you're
listening, sitting or standing upright to convey interest, or directing attention with
hand gestures. It can also be taking care to avoid a defensive, arms-crossed
posture, or restlessly tapping your feet.
When you can "read" signs like these, you can understand
the complete message of what someone is telling you. You'll be more aware of
people's reactions to what you say and do. And you'll be able to adjust your
body language to appear more positive, engaging, and approachable.
Body movement and posture. Consider how your perceptions of people are
affected by the way they sit, walk, stand, or hold their head. The way you
move and carry yourself communicates a wealth of information to the world.
This type of nonverbal communication includes your posture, bearing, stance,
and the subtle movements you make.
Gestures. Gestures are woven into the fabric of our daily lives. You may
wave, point, beckon, or use your hands when arguing or speaking animatedly,
often expressing yourself with gestures without thinking. However, the
meaning of some gestures can be very different across cultures. While the
“OK” sign made with the hand, for example, usually conveys a positive
message in English-speaking countries, it’s considered offensive in countries
such as Germany, Russia, and Brazil. So, it’s important to be careful of how
you use gestures to avoid misinterpretation.
Eye contact. Since the visual sense is dominant for most people, eye contact
is an especially important type of nonverbal communication. The way you look
at someone can communicate many things, including interest, affection,
hostility, or attraction. Eye contact is also important in maintaining the flow of
conversation and for gauging the other person’s interest and response.
Touch. We communicate a great deal through touch. Think about the very
different messages given by a weak handshake, a warm bear hug, a
patronizing pat on the head, or a controlling grip on the arm, for example.
Space. Have you ever felt uncomfortable during a conversation because the
other person was standing too close and invading your space? We all have a
need for physical space, although that need differs depending on the culture,
the situation, and the closeness of the relationship. You can use physical
space to communicate many different nonverbal messages, including signals
of intimacy and affection, aggression or dominance.
Voice. It’s not just what you say, it’s how you say it. When you speak, other
people “read” your voice in addition to listening to your words. Things they pay
attention to include your timing and pace, how loud you speak, your tone and
inflection, and sounds that convey understanding, such as “ahh” and “uh-huh.”
Think about how your tone of voice can indicate sarcasm, anger, affection, or
confidence.
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