Steven Friedman - Lesson 19.1
Steven Friedman - Lesson 19.1
Steven Friedman - Lesson 19.1
Lesson 19.1
Resolving Conflict
conflict is a normal part of everyday life, and it is not always bad. Engaging in conflict can have positive
outcomes for yourself and your relationships. Understanding conflict—including what causes conflict and how
best to prevent and resolve conflict—is important in developing and maintaining healthy relationships with
others. For each scenario described below, explain how a resolution might be achieved.
1. Vincent's friend Jamey is having a party at his house on Saturday. Vincent knows, however, that his
parents think Jamey is a negative influence and will not let him go. Jamey drinks alcohol, smokes
marijuana, and occasionally skips classes at school. When Vincent approaches his parents about
attending the party, theytell him that they will not discuss the matter and that they don't want Vincent to
interact with Jamey outside of school. Vincent gets angry, leaves the room, and goes to his bedroom,
slamming the door. What can Vincent and his parents do to resolve this conflict?
They can have a civil discussion, and try to come to a compromise that will satisfy both sides,
as well as keeping calm, and trying to listen to each other.
2. Mariska and George have been dating for a year. Mariska is involved in several extracurricular
organizations and activities, and she
hard to spend quality time with George as well as her friends
finds it
amid her hectic schedule. One afternoon, George tells Mariska that he is not happy with the way their
relationship has been going. He irritably delivers an ultimatum: "You will reevaluate your priorities, or will I
break up with you." What can George and Mariska do to resolve this conflict?
George can try to understand her side, and approach the situation more considerately.
3. Steve and Jack are in the same trigonometry class. While Jack is doing exceptionally well in trigonometry,
Steve is exasperated because he has been struggling to understand the material. Because Steve sits
next to Jack in class, he asks Jack to let him copy his answers to the test questions. Jack replies, "Are you
serious? I'm not jeopardizing my college
scholarship so you can cheat, loser." Steve angrily tells his friend,
"Thanks a lot. I'd help you out if you needed it." He gathers his books before issuing a sullen good-bye and
leaves. What could Steve and Jack have done to resolve this conflict?
Jack could have responded more calmly and understandingly, while Steve could have also stayed
calm, and both sides could have reasoned more and understood each others stance.
4. Marguerite's parents have asked her to babysit her 12-year-old sister on Saturday night so they can go out
for a movie and dinner. Because of their busy work schedules, Marguerite's parents have not gone on a
"date" or otherwise spent much time together for the past five months. Marguerite explains that the boy she
likes at school has finally asked her for a date—on Saturday night. She is concerned that if she cancels
the date, she will not be asked out again. "l always get stuck babysitting," Marguerite complains. What can
Marguerite and her parents do to resolve this conflict?
Again, they can both attempt to understand each others conflicts and views on the issue,
and possibly make a compromise by getting a different babysitter, or rescheduling if
possible.