Build Dont Talk - Raj Shamani
Build Dont Talk - Raj Shamani
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RAJ SHAMANI
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35. Growth
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BUILD, DON’T TALK
If you love reading books, read away. If you hate reading, then go watch my
videos or listen to my podcast because there’s no one way of learning.
There is only one way of growing though, and that is through little
accomplishments.
Life is all about little accomplishments. I don’t want you to read the
whole book right away; I want you to read this one chapter, that’s it. Put
this book down if you want to finish reading this book in one go. Frankly, I
don’t want you to complete this book. I don’t want you to take away
anything from it apart from the fact that you have to finish one chapter a
day. That’s it.
It’s hard to form good habits, even harder to stick to them. When we look
at a project as a whole, we see how much we have to do, and it becomes
burdensome. Take this book for instance. Writing 50,000 words? Oh, God!
I’m panicking even at the idea.
I don’t know how to fill so many pages! I’m legit staring at my laptop
screen, typing these sentences and trying to figure out if it makes any sense.
But then again, I’m doing it one sentence at a time, one paragraph at a time,
one chapter at a time. And soon enough this book will be in your hands and
I’d have done my job.
Writing a book is uncomfortable. Getting out of our beds in the morning
is uncomfortable. Attending that online class where you have no idea what
the tutor is teaching is uncomfortable. Going to that job that you absolutely
hate is uncomfortable. Executing all those plans that you have been making,
or let’s say daydreaming about, is uncomfortable. They are all
uncomfortable. But just because something is uncomfortable doesn’t mean
you stop doing it. Growth is uncomfortable, but being uncomfortable is the
only way you grow.
If you’re thinking, ‘But Raj, I just don’t think I can do it today. I want to
give my best’, then you need to accept that there are going to be days when
you won’t be able to give your best, and that’s completely okay. Sometimes
trying is all you need to do. Sometimes, showing up is the most you can do.
This is the reason I don’t want you to finish this book in a day, because I
didn’t write it in a day. Ever heard that phrase, ‘Rome wasn’t built in a
day’? One brick at a time, one sentence at a time, and one chapter at a time,
that is how we are going to do this.
If you do that, that’s a win for me. Complete one chapter a day so that
you are building small habits and you’re achieving small things every day.
That’s a good habit to inculcate in your life: little accomplishments every
day, consistently.
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Our Education System Sucks!
Imagination and emotion are the only two blessings human beings have, which the
education system is killing from day one.
There are three types of learners: auditory, visual and kinaesthetic. Auditory
learners learn through talking and listening, visual people learn through
looking at things and reading things, and kinaesthetic people learn through
experience. Every single person is partially kinaesthetic, because everyone
learns best through experience. I’ve given more speeches after getting
inspired by a music album than I have by reading books.
The problem with traditional education is that we are taught ‘what to
learn’, but we are not taught ‘how to apply’.
We are taught to read and study a subject, but the first step of an
education system should be to help people discover themselves and the way
they learn best. Nobody teaches us how to learn, though, and what is the
best way we can learn.
Since day one, each one of us is a different human being. We are brought
up differently, we have different senses, the way we perceive the world is
different, we are born and brought up in a different kind of environment, we
have different talents, skills and abilities.
You might learn from watching videos, I might learn by reading a book,
somebody else might learn through experience, by actually doing things.
An education system should be focused on helping us to explore what the
right way to learn is for us, so that we know from the very beginning that
this is the way I, as an individual, learn the best. But, currently, everybody
is taught to learn the same thing in the same way. What if I’m a video
person? What if I’m a kinaesthetic person? You are telling me to read, cram
and then write what I remember. Reading is amazing, but what if somebody
is not a reading person? The education system should be designed to help us
explore our best learning form because only then can we accelerate our
learning process and thrive. If you know you learn through reading books,
then you can order twenty books, read them and get ahead. If I know I learn
through watching videos, I can watch a hundred videos in a year and get
ahead of the current 10+2 education system. If I know I learn best after
talking to people, I can arrange meetings across the world and get ahead of
the 10+2 system in just six months.
By the time we go to college and enter the brutal real world, a dynamic
world where everything happens in a second, we would want to learn
anything and everything in our lives and get ahead. But that is the time
when we actually start to learn what our medium is.
Another issue I have with education in school is not the content—it is
that we are not taught how to use that content. We are not taught to think,
we are taught to memorize and write. Whatever we are taking in, without
ever processing it, we have to take it out. They have made human beings a
simple printer, not even an intelligent printer. We should be machines who
can think and perceive things emotionally. Imagination and emotion are the
only two blessings human beings have, which the education system is
killing from day one. We are not taught to imagine, be curious, ask
questions, think. We are not encouraged to challenge the status quo. If we
are not taught and encouraged to do this, how will we ever learn how to
challenge and take the human race forward? That’s why most people who
are high achievers or high performers are not very well educated. They are
obsessed with one thing, they are the best at the one thing that they do, but
they are not well educated.
There is one thing which I say a lot: ‘People who study a lot often study
about people who do not study at all.’
If I open a school, I would like to make it the exact replica of reality. In
the real world, everyone tries to sell everything to everyone. If you’re a
doctor, you’re selling drugs. If you’re a content creator, you’re selling your
content. If you’re a writer, you’re selling your articles. Everyone is selling
themselves or their services or their products. What I would do is, at the
start of every year in school, all the children would be given a business and
told to make it grow. We would help kids monetize it in their break, and
they would be taught how to negotiate, how to talk, how to sell, how to not
sell. This way, they will learn that people sell and do everything possible to
make their business grow to get ahead in life; it’s not only about marks. In
my school, everybody would get a platform to learn communication, learn
negotiation, learn selling, learn how to source things, to sell things, how to
identify the target audience. They would learn whom to hang out with,
whom not to hang out with. They would learn to identify who is a potential
paying customer and who is going to turn into a bad debt. They will
basically understand people, understand themselves, understand their
business model, understand sourcing and selling—all of it just in a small
short break.
Most schools organize annual functions, for which students are supposed
to make projects; they create and showcase a product. Life mein ek bar har
cheez ko event jaisa bana diya—that is not going to work in real life.
Exhibitions are nonsense. Real life is not an exhibition, real life is real-time
hardcore selling. It’s not like you are going to think of something for one
month and exhibit it in front of people and everyone is going to applaud.
Let’s give kids an understanding of money transactions. Let’s give them an
understanding of give-and-take relationships. Let’s give them an
understanding of people. In reality, it’s not about exhibiting one time a year;
in real life it’s about making decisions and changing constantly on a daily
basis so that you adapt and win in life. If you start establishing that in ten-
minute short breaks, everyone can do their business, and based on that they
are going to get assessed in life. Boom—a daily business can literally take
the entire country forward. Because everybody would have a deep
understanding of what they like, what kind of customers they want to target,
what is their product and how they can improve that product; how they can
source, how they can tax, how they can do everything possible on a daily
basis in ten minutes. These ten minutes over a long time compound into one
big useful thing—instead of doing one project for one day for an exhibition,
and then just forgetting about it.
The pace at which Israel is growing and the way its people have taken
their country forward is phenomenal. No other country is growing at this
pace. One of the major reasons is that Israelis are taught to think and ask
questions. Indians are taught to stay dumb. When we ask stupid questions,
people ask us to shut up and laugh at us. In Israel, when a kid comes back
from school, their mother asks them which was the best question that they
asked today. Children, having the tendency to please their mothers, make it
a point to ask questions in school. Now, every day, the kid is thinking about
asking one question to somebody, so the mother is impressed. The kid is
taught to ask questions every day. How beautiful is that? This simple task
fuels curiosity in kids and makes them ask more and more questions. This is
something which I think every parent should adopt. It creates better
individuals for the future. That’s how the human race moves forward.
Our education system sucks! We should focus on questions, curiosity and
appreciation. In my head, in the perfect school, every time someone asks a
question, they will be told ‘you are curious’, not ‘you are stupid’. No
question is stupid, it’s just a way of seeing things. Something which is
stupid to me is not stupid to you, and vice versa. Why do some people in
school have the right to decide whether or not my questions are stupid?
How can they dismiss me and my curiosity?
In our current education system, when a kid scores ninety out of 100 in
English and forty in maths, they are asked to take extra classes and focus on
maths, instead of being told they are doing great in English, and that they
could have an amazing career in writing or something similar. We
discriminate between subjects, saying one is more important than the other,
and on the basis of that we decide whether a student is intelligent or not. A
kid scores well in maths? They are very bright. A kid scores well in English
and not in maths, they are regarded as useless. Our school system doesn’t
focus on our strengths; instead, it ridicules us for our weaknesses.
No two students are alike, and we need to mould our education system in
a way that embraces each student’s individuality. In an ideal school, if a
student is good at something, they would be encouraged to do more of that
thing, meet more people from that field, explore the things they can do in
that area, and be motivated to pursue what they like, instead of following
the herd and doing engineering.
Schools give us a certificate of participation, but life mein ghanta milta
hai participation ka. In life, you either win or you lose. Nobody is going to
hand you a candy in the real world, saying, ‘Oh, my God! You participated!
Here, take a part of the profits too.’ No! You either get the business deal or
you don’t. Investors won’t put money in your business just because you
were present in a room full of start-ups.
I don’t understand equality. Life is not equal. Life is brutal. I think if, as
kids, everybody was made to understand that the world is an unfair place,
the way we live and the way we think would be so much better. Because of
two things: number one, you know the world will trample you the first
chance it gets, so you will always be prepared and work harder. Number
two, you will always try to make this world a better place because it is a
brutal world. But no, we are taught the opposite. We are taught that this
world is a fairyland. That’s why we never try to make the world a better
place. We think, ‘Oh, maybe there is something wrong with me or the
people around me are stupid.’ We think that if only we could get out of this
current place and be around different people, things would be better. So you
move to a bigger city, only to realize that people here are worse. And then
you never settle because you are trying to find somebody better somewhere,
some place that is the fairyland that we have been told about.
Now, imagine if we were taught that the world is a brutal place, and we
were put together with five people that we know. Now, all of us know that
life is tough, and everybody is going to live for themselves. You and your
group of five would come together and try to create something beautiful.
Instead of finding that peace with somebody else, we will try to correct the
person who is with us. And that’s how you build a better human network.
My perfect school would be an immersive learning experience. One
month of studying in the mountains, and the next month we would be on the
road. The month after that we would be on a beach. We learn so much more
through experiences than we would ever do from textbooks. And that is
what we need to promote.
But until I build the school of my dreams, I am going to try to teach
everything I believe in, everything that I have learnt, through this book. So,
until that school is created, read away.
Key Takeaways
Until we admit that we suck at things, we won’t be able to work on the part that sucks,
and our ego won’t let us grow.
Before actually getting into the book, let me tell you this one thing—you
suck. You suck more if you think you don’t suck. That’s the harsh reality.
And the harsher reality? The person who will tell you to admit you suck
won’t accept that they suck too. But I’m admitting it—I suck!
I suck at so many things. But how do I know I suck at them? Because
I’ve tried them. I realized I suck at sports because I tried. I realized I’m
musically challenged because I tried. You can’t just do nothing on the
excuse that you suck. Because in that case, it will be just that—an excuse.
There are people in this world who don’t try anything with the excuse
that they are bad at it. Others start something, know they suck at it, but
don’t let go of it because of some false sense of superiority. Being in either
one of these groups is stupid. You wouldn’t want to suck and be stupid at
the same time, would you? If you belong to the first category, you’re self-
criticising without even giving yourself a fair chance. If you are so critical
of yourself, what will other people do? You have heard that song, Kuchh toh
log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna, right? So, let the log say, no?
And if you belong to the second category, that is, remaining stuck at
something when you know you are bad at it and yet not ready to let go, let
me tell you, you’re even more stupid. Be it a course, a relationship, or a job,
when it’s not working, it’s just not working. You need to admit the fact
instead of trying to fight the obvious.
Do you remember a time in school when you went on stage and
completely forgot what you were about to say? I remember it happening to
me. I was supposed to read the generic thought of the day on stage. I went
up on stage and started, ‘My name is Raj Shamani and this is the thought of
the day . . .’ And then . . . blank! I completely forgot what I had to say.
We all have a similar story from our lives that we remember and laugh at.
But what we did after that situation, whether we left it at that or worked
hard to improve it, is what makes the actual difference. I realized I sucked
at public speaking. Considering I am a public speaker now, you can imagine
the hustle that would have gone into it.
The world is so, so big and so are the opportunities. You can only avail
the opportunities if you know your capabilities along with your weaknesses.
Acknowledge your weakness and overcome it with the help of your
capabilities. It’s basic SWOT analysis.
For me, I know I suck at writing and how did I get to know that? By
trying it first. And I absolutely sucked! Then how am I writing this book,
you ask? Simple: I hired a ghostwriter to write this book for me. Because, at
the end of the day, I just want my thoughts to reach you—I don’t care who
is writing them down. And you’re not going to bother about who wrote the
book; you are just going to care how this book helped you. So, I am
admitting that I suck at writing, which is why I hired professional help.
And that’s your solution right there. If you suck at something, admit it.
But don’t just stop at that. Because what you do about it is what makes the
real difference.
Most people feel bad about admitting that they suck at a particular thing.
In fact, the first step towards growth is to understand that we suck at certain
things and that it is completely okay.
I have sucked at a lot of things all through my life and you will get to
know about them as you read the book. Sucking at things has always been a
constant. But the second constant has been how I overcome it.
I try something, I realize I suck at it, I analyse how crucial that thing is
for my growth. If it’s important, I try to get better at it. If I get better at it,
then great! I can go ahead with my life and find the next thing that I suck at
and try to improve on that.
But if it is something important and I can’t get better at it even after
trying, then I do what I did for this book: get a professional to do it for me.
Now coming to the second part of this whole scenario, being stuck at
something even when you know you are bad at it. It is important to
improve, but the other thing as important as improving is knowing when to
quit.
Again, we will talk about ‘quitting’ in more detail later in this book, but
for now, if something is not working out for you, quit. Life is too short and
there are too many other opportunities to be stuck at a thing that is not
working out.
So, how is this whole admitting-that-you-suck-thing going to work out
for you? Let me explain.
You admitted you suck, and you left it at that. Are you ever going to
grow with that approach?
NO.
On the other hand, you realized you suck at something and asked
yourself whether you can get better at it. And how you can get better at it.
Now that will make the difference.
If you think you can get better at it, research and learn and get better. If
you think you can’t do it, take professional help and find someone who can
do it for you. But don’t let it stop you from growing.
This is the lesson we need to learn. We realize and accept that we’re bad
at something. And we either work on that aspect ourselves, or we find
someone else to do it for us.
If there is only one lesson that you take from this book, then let it be this:
admitting that you suck.
Key Takeaways
Life is like a buffet; get up and pick what you want. Try looking at, smelling and eating
different things, and then take more of what you like. Don’t treat it like an à la carte,
because no one is going to serve you your favourite dish on the table.
Key Takeaway
Try as many things as you can to figure out what you are good at.
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Like for Raj, Comment for Dubai
The people who are made fun of aren’t stupid, it’s the people who make fun of them that
are.
High school, especially eleventh and twelfth standards, is when you want
girls to be interested in you and have people look up to you. You want that
social validation, you want to be in that social circle that is fancy and rich.
So, I was like, ‘Bro! I have to become cool.’ I told my classmates I went to
Dubai in the summer vacations when I hadn’t even been to Delhi. I told
them the beaches were lit, the girls were hot, the buildings were so
amazing. I had an uncle who lived in Dubai, so I knew a lot about it. I
described Dubai to them with such conviction that they believed me. I made
it sound like it wasn’t even a big deal for me, that I visited Dubai whenever
I felt like it. And my social status in school skyrocketed.
Now that my classmates were interested in me, they wanted to befriend
my cousins. They went to one of my cousins and asked her, ‘Raj went to
Dubai, didn’t you go?’ My cousin looked at him and said, ‘Do one thing,
ask Raj if he has ever seen a passport in his life.’
So, from being the ‘cool’ guy, I became the school meme. Posts were put
up on Facebook: ‘Like for Raj, comment for Dubai.’ I used to enter school
and everybody would go, ‘Oh! Look, look, look, it’s Dubai.’ I became
famous as ‘Dubai’ in my entire school. Even my juniors would mock me
with that name. You’re in twelfth standard, you’re the senior, and these kids
in ninth standard, even they are making fun of you. Imagine the
embarrassment.
As if that was not enough, the joke escalated and even the teachers
started calling me Dubai. And if that was not enough, it went further and
reached the coaching centres. And if even that wasn’t enough, the joke
reached my home. We are a joint family and when everyone was sitting at
the dining table, my cousins would call me Dubai and everyone would have
a good laugh. It was horrible. It was one of the saddest phases of my life.
There came a point when I didn’t want to get out of my room. I was
frustrated that I had become a joke. I locked myself in my room for a whole
day and kept on crying. I wanted to end my life.
While I was sitting in my room, thinking about ending my life, I heard
my mom shouting from outside, ‘Raj, Raj, come here.’ I went to where she
was and I saw that my dad was shivering in bed and wasn’t responding. As
we rushed to the hospital, my dad said to me, ‘Even if I’m not here, I know
you will take care of your mom and brother.’ And then, he lost
consciousness.
Dad was taken into the emergency ward. After some time, a doctor’s
assistant came out and told us that he was unresponsive and that they were
doing their best. I saw my entire life flash in front of me. Those few
minutes still feel longer than the twenty-five years of my life.
Later on, we got to know that it was a diabetic attack and not a heart
attack. My dad recovered and thankfully he’s still with us. But that moment
made me realize that I have to do something with my life.
Key Takeaway
The harshest realities of your life teach you the most important lessons.
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Useless Kid with BIG Dreams
Just because others don’t question the choices society has made for them doesn’t mean
you shouldn’t. Stop restricting yourself from doing something that sounds crazy just
because other people your age are not doing it.
Key Takeaways
Guess what’s the best thing about getting rich? You only have to be right once. You can
fail 999 times but if you get it right just once, boom! You are going to the moon.
Key Takeaways
When you feel like you have nothing, no experience, no connections, no money, you still
have the biggest power of them all—the power to ask! Again and again till you get a yes.
Key Takeaways
The only thing that is stopping you from growing is your fear of looking stupid in front of
people.
One bad experience at school made me avoid public speaking altogether for
years. I only started when I didn’t have any option but to give a presentation
in order to pass my internal examination in college. Even then I was scared
that I would come off as stupid in front of everyone. Some people stop
putting out their artwork because some random person on the internet made
fun of them. Remember, people can only make fun of things you yourself
are conscious about. Once you join them in the laughter and start taking the
jokes, the laughter will stop.
We are always taught to seek validation from outside. When we are kids,
our mothers tell us to go ask our fathers how we look. Right from that
moment we start seeking external validation. That’s the reason we take
criticism from outside so much to heart.
Looking stupid is not just about your appearance; I am talking about the
way you feel about yourself when you put your thoughts out there, bare and
naked. Situations where you just wanted to be yourself and do your thing
your own way. I’m talking about all the times you wanted to do what your
heart wanted but you held back because of the fear of being judged.
All of us have felt that way at least one point of time in our lives. Even I
did. But then I just stopped caring and started living a glorious life. How
simple! Except it wasn’t simple. It took a lot of effort and time. Before I
started giving TEDx Talks and finally let myself come to terms with what I
want to do with my life, I was scared to look dumb in public.
At first, I didn’t want to look like an idiot in front of my family; later I
was scared of making an utter fool of myself in front of a whole bunch of
people who were going to hear me talk for the first time. But you know
what? People are always going to have an opinion and I learnt that the hard
way. You do something, they’ll have an opinion. You don’t do something,
they’ll have an opinion. Unsolicited, unwanted, never-asked-for opinions—
way too many opinions.
But can we do something about this? Other than rolling our eyes 98,278
times? Yes! We can ask them to get out of our lives and live in peace. The
only thing we need is to be self-aware. We need to be ready to look stupid.
I mean, how do you think people who invented great things like
aeroplanes and mobile phones felt when they came up with these life-
changing ideas? Those great personalities weren’t sure what the outcome
was going to be, but they were ready to risk their public image; they didn’t
care about the aftermath if their plans didn’t work out. Their hard-earned
respect was on the line, but they chose to do it still, even if it made them
look like an idiot. That’s exactly how great things are born—because of
people brave enough to take risks.
I know that since childhood you’ve been conditioned to be conscious, to
believe in yourself only when others do. You are allowed to feel that morale
boost only after ten other people come and say great things to you. I’ve
been in that place too. The saddest part is that no one has ever told me why
we need this. Why do we need someone else to tell us about ourselves. Why
are we giving someone else so much power over us? Screw what others
have to say about you, VALIDATE YOUR OWN SELF because the fear of
looking stupid is what holds you back.
This personal insecurity is screwing you in ways that you never dreamt
of—it is pulling you away from being the next greatest personality. It’s like
that person who always rains on your parade. Don’t give in to this. Just lift
your middle finger to these insecurities and choose your own happy path.
(Simple? Simple.)
‘Just try new things. Don’t be afraid. Step out of your comfort zones and
soar, all right?’ said the mighty Michelle Obama. So, listen to one of the
most badass women of all time and soar, soar high in the sky. Decide your
own limits and see the world open up for you.
Don’t let the fear of looking stupid deprive you of all the heights that you
could possibly touch. Accept yourself, because if you don’t, then who else
will?
And I know that everybody around you will say ‘No! Take this slow’ or
even ‘Who do you think you are?’ These are the negative people around
you.
Don’t walk away from negative people, RUN.
You know exactly what you have to do. You just have to defeat your fear,
stop caring about what others think and win at life.
Key Takeaways
You won’t be able to achieve your goals if you only focus on them; instead, focus on your
daily habits—that will dictate whether or not you will achieve your goals.
‘Where do you see yourself in five years?’ ‘You have done your graduation,
what’s next?’ ‘What is your ten-year plan?’ Be it a job interview, a prying
relative or a concerned friend, everyone keeps asking you, ‘What next?’,
‘What are your goals?’ I say, to hell with your goals.
Why, you ask? Um, because I’m asking you to. Just kidding! Basically,
I’m asking you to not lose your sanity over your goals because, trust me,
that’s exactly how you’ll royally screw up your own life.
I’ll tell you how things went down with me when I was trying to learn
something as basic as driving a car. Of course I was taught well by my
instructor (my dad), who advised me to not just take his car and hit the road,
but that I needed practice to perfect my driving skills.
Now, when we talk about driving, all we think about is pressing that
accelerator or the brakes at the right time. But think again, is driving a car
that easy? Do you really just need to focus on steering and those brakes
while driving? No!
To drive a car, without practically landing in jail, you need to know more
than just traffic rules, how to park, etc. Similarly, to achieve life’s goals you
need to do more than just identify what they are.
You need to have a path that’ll take you to your destination.
You know, for the longest time in my life, even I just focused on what my
goals were. I would obsess over scoring a good percentage in twelfth
standard. I would literally wake up and go to sleep every day with that one
thought stuck in my head. The young me thought that if I kept on feeding
my brain with that idea, then maybe I would kick my own ass and do the
needful. But the young me never sat down to map out how to get that good
percentage. The naïve me never thought about what it is that I’m doing
wrong. It took me all these years to finally figure out the importance of the
process. I just never knew what the barrier between me and my grand
success was. I just kept wondering what was pulling me down.
Now, finally, I know that the department I need to first take care of is my
habits.
I need to keep track of what I’m doing, other things can go to hell. I need
to be street smart and, at the same time, I need to plot my own success
because—let’s accept this fact—success won’t be served to us on a silver
platter, we’ll have to earn it. I mean, I’m sure that, unlike Phoebe Buffay,
we can have both—a pla and a plan.
Strive towards your goals, they say.
Strive towards your journey, I say.
Don’t let your mind wander from your goals, they say.
Keep your mind off your goals, I say.
It doesn’t matter how you reach your destination, what matters is that
you’ve arrived, they say.
Your journey makes you the person you are, your destination is just the
last stop, I say.
And this ideology works with every damn thing in life. Let’s take another
basic example, and I have a feeling that it is going to be very relatable to
many of you.
Ever tried losing weight or gaining some? Well, I for one have tried
losing it and, trust me, it didn’t happen by just saying, ‘My goal is to lose
weight’. If it worked that way, then many of us would’ve literally said, ‘I
want to get six-pack abs’ and lived happily ever after.
But do you know what worked for me and works for all those who have a
fit (even chiselled) body? A fitness regime, a regime that makes them
follow a certain diet and workout plan every bloody day.
They are the people who, instead of blindly obsessing over their goal,
worked on their habits. Honestly, habits are something that we control, that
we can train our brain to adjust to. Otherwise, usually, our pretty little
human brain likes to overthink the overthinking and then we meet our old
friend Demotivation, along with his 57,687 friends, Negative Thoughts.
What I am basically asking you to do is that yes, set goals, but focus far
more on the process that’ll get you there. Simply put in a system and follow
it to reach your ultimate destination. You need to push yourself in the right
direction, in the direction that takes you one step closer to your aim, one
that doesn’t mess with it. Also, beware of the fact that your goal is affected
by factors beyond your control.
I realized what I really wanted to do in life without seeing that the hack
to get what I wanted had been right there the whole time. All I needed to do
was focus, focus on my daily routine, because that’s where my secret
ingredient to success is.
So, get your mind off that obsession and let this be the game-changer.
Key Takeaway
If you waste all your time thinking, when will you get the time to live?
Think before you speak, think before you wish for something, think before
you go, think before you take any goddamn decision. Think, think, think.
Aargh! Thankfully, no one ever said ‘think before you breathe’, or else,
most of us would be dead by now.
By all means, think. But when you are constantly thinking about one
thing and worrying about it, it becomes overthinking and that leads you
nowhere in life except backwards.
I’m sure most of you can recall your childhood when your elders taught
you to think before making a decision, because decisions have
consequences that you might not be prepared for, ones that will affect your
life in ways that you cannot imagine.
But amidst so much thinking—overthinking, actually—have you ever
thought about what life would be without all this contemplation? The only
answer is that it would be much simpler.
Without overthinking, life gets ten times better. Honestly, thinking has
caused me more harm than not thinking has ever done. It has burned more
bridges than I was able to build in the first place.
This is how it works: imagine you have bought a new car and you have to
drive eight hours from one city to another. But you keep focusing on things
that could go wrong on the way, to a point where you think, what if there’s
a puncture, what if I am not able to find someone to fix that puncture, and
then overthink a bit more, and before you know it, in your mind your car is
on fire. But guys, it was an imaginary journey. If you ask me, overthinking
messes with your brain in ways that you cannot even imagine.
I still remember when I was in high school. I wanted to get into my dad’s
business and take it to greater heights, but I made the mistake of
overthinking. I found myself choosing computer science as a subject when I
should’ve chosen entrepreneurship. And I chose computer science because I
overthought all the other options I had. As a commerce student, I didn’t
want to take maths because I didn’t want to go through the same torture of
trigonometry in Class XI after my dreadful experience with it in Class X. I
didn’t want to take physical education because ‘there’s no scope’, and how
will this subject help me in the future? Then I started overthinking that if
after school I am not able to do anything, I should have a backup, maybe
build things through C++ and JAVA. Yes! Computers seem to have a great
future, so let me take computer science.
Now this decision was not because I was good at computers, or I knew
something about them, but only because of overthinking that if everything
goes wrong, I will still be able to do something. Because, according to
society, if you don’t take maths with commerce, you won’t have any option
in the future to do something good with your life, and that made me
overthink and take a decision. Now I regret putting a little too much thought
into one of the most important decisions of my life. (Important because,
instead of going to two other tutors to learn something that I still didn’t
understand, I could have learnt something interesting or at least had fun
with my friends as out of my class of sixty, only three people took computer
science. Everyone else was having fun with other subjects.)
I’m sure most of you will relate to this because, as teenagers, each of us
went through a phase where we just sat and thought about every damn
thing. Why? Because we’d been told by everyone around us that every
decision you make at this age will decide the kind of life you will lead in
the future. Um, really? Think about it, is it really a logical approach towards
living?
Imagine what would happen to your favourite athletes if they started
thinking like crazies too. What happens when they lose and their fans are
disappointed in them? Fandom can drive them crazy, you know? Nothing is
worse than angry fans who just cannot accept that, like them, their favourite
athlete can sometimes fail. If they sit and analyse the whole situation too
much, then they are screwed for life. In fact, a lot of our favourite athletes
actually suffer from depression at some point in their lives. Such is the
power of overthinking. Which is why sometimes you need to not care and
move on. Like Joey does. Yes, Joey from Friends. Yes, he would have fun;
yes, he would not share his food—but care? I don’t think so.
You need to shrug off all your worries and just do what needs to be done.
You know, worrying about the consequences of anything and everything
is like crying over a breakup that hasn’t even happened. And I don’t think
anyone needs that kind of negativity in our lives!
So, basically, my friends, you all need to just stop overthinking and
worrying about the consequences of every action that you take because
thinking is like a prison and your success is the prisoner. Once you set
yourself free, once you stop giving things a second, third, fourth thought,
you break free. You will stop thinking and start doing.
Do all that you can because you’ve got just one lifetime to prove your
worth. This is your only chance to build the lifestyle that you’ve always
wanted. Do it, live it.
Key Takeaways
Key Takeaway
Take inspiration from different places and create something of your own.
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The ‘vs’ Game
The easiest way to get rich is to become the producer of the thing you consume the most.
Key Takeaways
If you learn how to have leverage over people, success becomes easy for you.
Anyone who is making money has some kind of advantage or leverage over
other people. That is the reason they are making money. It may be because
of the money they already have, or the way they speak, or their creativity;
maybe their skills. One way or the other, they have some kind of advantage
over other people. That is why they are higher on the ladder of creating
wealth and branding.
Let’s go back a few decades. Around the 1970s–1990s, when
industrialization happened, the people who were making a lot of money
were the ones who already had a lot of money. They had the leverage of
wealth. We all have heard in our families, ‘If you have money, you can do
anything’, haven’t we?
Then came the 1990s–2000s. Those who were creating wealth were the
ones who had the leverage of people. They were of the notion that I have a
hundred people with me, which others don’t, and I will form a union and
my factory will produce the cheapest products. That is how China became
wealthier.
Now, from the 2000s till around 2018, if you didn’t have money, you
needed people; if you didn’t have people then you needed IP, that is,
intellectual property, like coding or a very particular knowledge about
something. For example, someone learns how to code and decides to build a
useful app. Once the app is created, they sell it for a large amount of money.
That is leveraging knowledge to create wealth.
Today, most people think, ‘I don’t have enough money to use as leverage.
I am not inspiring hundreds of people to come and join me to have the
leverage of people. I don’t know how to code, or else I wouldn’t be here
reading this book.’ So, what is the next big thing?
We have entered an era which works on specific knowledge and
distribution. This is the era of media. The money is there, the people are
there, the technology is there, so how do you get leverage? Through your
specific knowledge. Some people are good speakers, that’s why their videos
are popular. Some people are good at acting, and that’s what they are using
to bring traction to their content. They are using their one specific
knowledge or talent as leverage, and there’s nothing more to it than that.
Let’s take the example of video production. The only way you can make
a lot of money through video production is when you have more knowledge
and skills than the remaining 99 per cent of the people who are already in
the market. You need to figure out that one thing that the 99 per cent don’t
know about but you do. That is the easiest way to make money in today’s
world.
Everything is already out there for you to be able to become better at
what you do. If you learn about one thing for just six months—complete
one course, read two books, read twenty blogs—you would be at least 10
per cent better than the rest of the people around you. All you need to do is
follow one person who is already there, learn everything from them and
when you think you have learnt everything, start following someone else.
Once you have acquired the knowledge, build a business around that,
launch your own products, start consulting, or start your own course, and
that is how you make money. Every skill is in demand in today’s world—
the only thing is how good you are at it.
You don’t have to learn and become an expert at everything. All you
need to do is become at least 1 per cent better than the 99 per cent of the
people around you. That is how you start. It’s that simple.
For example, you become a better communicator than ten of your friends,
and you start telling them: ‘Hey, you know what? I’ll tell you how to write
your essays, I’ll tell you how to write social media content, I will even talk
on your behalf on your Tinder account (it’s going to be in high demand,
trust me), you just give me Rs 1000 a month as a retainer.’ Then you work
on becoming better than 100 people out there, then 1000, then 10,000, then
10,00,000—keep climbing the ladder.
Now, some people will ask, how do I find the one thing to get better at?
I’m not going to decide what that one thing is for you; someone else is not
going to decide what that one thing is for you, it’s YOU who is going to
decide. Pick anything. Take the most basic thing—talking, for example—I
picked that up. I used to talk a lot at school and I thought to myself, ‘I talk
so much, how can I monetize that? How can I learn more about this?’ I then
started learning more about it, and started talking more. After a period of
doing that, I began making money by teaching others how to talk. After
that, I took it to social media. All I do on social media is talk. There are
approximately a million people following me now, and they want to hear
me talk.
I will give you another example. There is a friend of mine who works at
Dell. He earns Rs 2.5 lakh a month. That is an amazing job to have, right?
When he was asked about his strength—that one thing that he could do
better than everyone else—do you know what he answered? He said, ‘I can
stalk people on Instagram better than anyone else. I can go on someone’s
profile, stalk them for seven days, and tell you about their mother, father,
what they do, the brand of food their sister’s dog eats, the cities their friends
belong to, how much they earn—I can tell you everything. I’m a
gossipmonger and I love stalking people.’ I’m sure most people love to do
that, some do that with their exes, some with their crush, some with
someone they’re just interested in, but everyone is a good social media
stalker. My friend’s answer got him a job in the trend analysis department,
where he has to look at influencers, see what they are doing and pick up
patterns on social media so that Dell can come up with better campaigns
and products.
If you are better than anyone else in one thing, you can land a job that
pays Rs 2.5 lakh a month because the skill is not stalking—the skill is
researching, keeping an eye on trends, finding out why everyone is doing
some random dance steps on social media—that is the skill.
Directly or indirectly, consciously or subconsciously, we all have that one
thing that we waste most of our time on. We think it’s a waste of time but,
technically, we are investing our time in getting better at that thing. The best
way to identify it is to take a piece of paper, write down five things that you
did today, things you felt you spent most of your time doing. It can be
sleeping, talking, attending courses—anything. Even if it’s your work that
you think you wasted your time at, write that down as well—write down, I
wasted my time talking to my colleagues, or whatever it is. Now, add a plus
next to everything you enjoyed doing and a minus next to those things that
you didn’t enjoy. Do this for one week and by the end of it, pick up all the
things you marked with a plus and figure out what is at the core of it.
Let’s say you confessed to being an overthinker and wasted your time
overthinking. ‘Ye kya koi skill hai? Can I monetize it?’ Yes! You can
become a very good strategic thinker. A strategic thinker is only paid to
think, they are not paid to execute. If you are an overthinker, you already
have a strategy because you are constantly thinking—what if this
happened? What if that didn’t happen? All you need to do is tell this to a
business person. ‘You know what? If you take this decision your business
can really suffer.’ Your job is to think. So even if you’re wasting your time
overthinking, you can monetize it.
What do you have to do? First, identify that you overthink a lot. Second,
figure out a course that is related to thinking. Third, find a person who is
already a strategic thinker. Don’t believe me? No problem. Have you heard
of Deloitte? Ernst & Young? PriceWaterCoopers? KPMG? You’ve heard of
these companies, right? These are some of the biggest companies in the
world, and they get paid to think. What are consultants and strategic
coaches? Those who overthink a lot for you. You literally pay people to
overthink for you. That’s a goddamn skill.
So, you did that plus/minus thing for seven days, realized where you
spent most of your time, and once you get to know that this is the place I’m
spending most of my time, you realize that it comes naturally to you.
Nobody does something for a whole week if it irritates them. If you are
doing something continuously, it means you are enjoying it and it comes
naturally to you. You are doing it not because you’re wasting time, you’re
doing it because you have a tendency to do that thing. All you need to do is
to shift your perspective. Keep doing this for a month and, by the end of it,
you’ll find out your niche—the one thing that you really love doing.
Once you have figured that out, find the right person in that field, follow
them, and do what they are doing. If they’re selling a course, buy it; if
they’re doing a live event, watch it; whatever that person is doing, do that
for the next thirty days and you will find out how they are able to sell a skill
you also possess. That is the fastest way to make money in today’s world.
Find out the one thing that is very easy for you to do and that is difficult
for other people. Ask yourself, how can I monetize this? And then think of
a way to do it better than a hundred people, a thousand people, a million
people. The more people you can do it better than, the better the leverage
you have and the more chances of you being successful or making money.
Tell me one thing you think you can’t make money at, and I will prove
you wrong.
Key Takeaways
1. Learn and become at least 1 per cent better than the 99 per cent of
people around you.
2. You have to decide what is the one thing you are good at; no one
else can decide it for you.
3. Figure out how to monetize the thing you are good at.
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How to Come Up with a Business Idea
You can build a business in every field, it’s all about how good you are in that field.
Step 1:
Choose the industry that you are passionate about, because it’s a lie that
some industries have big money and some don’t. Each and every industry in
the goddamn world has some money. Trust me on this. I have looked up so
many cases and I’m still trying to find an industry that doesn’t have money
and/or successful people in it.
So, no matter which industry you choose, you can be successful in it—
but you have to choose only one industry. Choose the industry you are
obsessed with, about which you read the most, and watch videos of. Do you
find yourself watching fashion reels all day? Or do you read about every
car’s top speed, features, launch date? What do you spend the maximum
time on—Bollywood gossip, business news, creator economy? What?
Analyse that.
In my case, I chose FMCG because I loved reading about every product,
their manufacturer, their marketing ads. I loved learning about how Amul
became Amul, how Brooke Bond Tea became famous, or why Bisleri is the
only bottled water brand we know of. That’s why I chose FMCG. In your
case, it might be automobiles or automation or technology, or you might
want to get into mobiles or software or metals or infrastructure or sports or
entertainment. WHATEVER. Choose one industry. You need to be crystal
clear and you need to be very focused on this part. It all starts with that one
thing, with that one industry.
It could be a mix of reasons why you choose an industry. With me,
maybe I was interested in FMCG because my father was already in that
industry and he is my hero. And then, I also wanted to get into it because I
thought that serving many people at large on a lesser margin was going to
be a better strategy for me, since I love selling. I worked on this model
called high volume, low margin. Maybe for you it will be different. You
might want to go into real estate, where it will be low volume and high
margin.
Once you have chosen your industry, then comes the second step.
Step 2:
Step 3:
Now that you’ve zeroed in on your industry, try to find out the problems in
this industry which can be solved through your strengths. In my case, a new
category—liquids—was developing, but it was expensive. So, I made a
cheaper alternative and used my storytelling strength to come up with a new
story about fruit pulp in dishwashing gels, which soon enough the entire
city started talking about. It was not a revolutionary product, but the story
was new for the city, which helped me grow.
Bonus Step 1:
Choose your product
As I mentioned earlier, there are two ways to get into business. You either
come up with an idea that doesn’t exist in the market, like Uber, Paytm,
Zomato or Amazon, or you come up with the cheaper, better version of a
product that is already there in the market. I chose to go the second way. I
came up with a cheaper alternative of an existing product but offered better
quality. One way of going about this is, you can get a job in the industry
that you are interested in. Once you are there, try to figure out how the
entire system works, try to find out the problems in that particular industry.
And once you figure out what these particular issues are, you can build your
business trying to eliminate those problems in the product.
After you have picked your product, the last thing would be:
Bonus Step 2:
Observe
No matter who your buyers are, no matter where your market is, just start
spending time with them, go to that market and observe. In my case, back in
2013, when I started my FMCG business, the best place I could find to do
market research and observe was a really small grocery store near my
house. I went and stood there for two–three hours. Then I went to another
one, and another one, and another one. I would observe sales patterns and
the customers. That’s how I found out that the entire market was shifting to
liquids: shower gels, liquid hand wash, liquid detergent. I couldn’t have
found this out any other way.
Coming up with a business idea is the easiest thing; all you need to do is
follow these steps and be observant. After doing these three things, all you
need to do is launch your product. And then, trial and error and customer
feedback are going to help you out. I kept on making errors, I kept on
getting customer feedback and I kept on improving, and that is how I built a
business empire from Rs 10,000. And you can do the same.
So, that was when you didn’t know what you wanted to do. Once you
have an idea that you want to work on, try to figure out who your target
audience is. How to sell is never a problem if you know who you are selling
to. If you know who to sell the product to and the person who needs your
product, then the sale will automatically happen.
A while back, my team and I were brainstorming on how to scale up my
digital marketing business and how to get a few clients in order to make it
sustainable. We realized that how to sell is not even a problem. All we need
to do is find people who want to build their personal brand, who don’t have
the time to focus on it, but have the money to afford the kind of services we
are offering. Find the audience. That’s it!
Key Takeaways
India is price-sensitive first, so if you are building something here, make sure you get this
right, because bad price and good product leads to failed businesses in this country.
No matter which category you belong to, there’s this one common question:
How to decide a price for your product or services. You might be an
entrepreneur venturing into the business world for the first time in your life,
wondering how much you should charge for your product. You might be
someone entering the freelance world, confused how to decide the charges
for your services. Or, you might be someone starting a new job, trying to
figure out your salary.
Let’s say you are a writer. You decide to charge Rs 100 to write a book of
50,000 words, and twenty people are interested in hiring you. When there
are twenty people, you know you can increase the price. Now you decide
you can charge Rs 1000 for a book. If there are twenty people ready to pay
you for your work, you realize you can charge Rs 10,000. If there are ten
people ready to pay you, you know you can charge Rs 10,00,000. Then
you’ll be like okay, I have only one client now. Great! Even if only one
client comes, it doesn’t matter, I can do it and it will still be worth it. You
increase your price based on how many people are ready to pay you for
your product.
How do you calculate the price of your service? You calculate it on the
basis of your time. If you have eight hours in a day and you’re making Rs
1,00,000 a month and the other person cannot offer you that, then to hell
with him. But if you’re working for Rs 50,000 and someone is ready to pay
you Rs 1,00,000, then you would be more than willing to do that. Bingo!
You have increased the price of your product and services. You just decide a
price and try to increase it bit by bit. You try to price your time.
First of all, everybody needs to have an hourly rate. Make sure you
communicate to your client that you are ready to give x hours for the work;
if it takes more than that, then you are going to charge for every extra hour.
Make sure the other person understands that there’s a code of conduct that
needs to be followed.
You should compare your hourly rate with how much you would be
getting if you were doing a regular job. Suppose you could get a job for Rs
30,000 a month and you’re working ten hours a day, then your hourly rate
becomes Rs 100. Now if you have to provide a service to someone, make
sure you’re charging at least Rs 110 per hour. Because if you are spending
your hours on stuff that’s not work, then you need to make more than you
do while working in your office.
If you have no job and you’re earning zero rupees, then just start doing it
for free so that you build a name for yourself. The faster you make a name
for yourself, the faster you can start charging money, and then keep
increasing your fee.
What do you do on social media? You tell them this is a trailer; if you
want more, then pay for it.
Suppose you come to me and tell me, ‘Raj, I want you to write me a
speech. How much do you charge?’ I will tell you, ‘You know what? The
average person with these many years of experience charges x amount, the
person who has given fifty speeches and has 100k followers on social
media charges x amount. What do you think, given my time and my calibre,
I should charge? I have given you the power. How much do you think I am
worth?’
You might try to joke around and say, ‘If it’s up to me, I want you to do it
for free, yaar, take Rs 50.’ And my reply will be, ‘Okay bro, you know
people who would do it for Rs 50, go and get them to do it. If you came to
me then you must think there is some merit.’
The same power shift rule applies here. You have given the power to
someone else to decide. If you agree with the amount they come up with,
then cool, go ahead with the work. If you don’t and think there’s scope for
negotiation, negotiate. But if you think this person is not valuing your time
and effort and you’d get more with your job or through other projects, then
simply tell them, ‘Thanks for the offer, I see you don’t have the budget right
now. I look forward to working with you when you do have the right
budget.’ That’s it. If the person recognizes your value, they’ll try to retain
you. If they can’t, move on.
Key Takeaways
You sell better when you focus more on ‘what am I giving’ and less on ‘what am I
gaining’.
Selling is basically the use of information available in order to get what you
want. There are three kinds of information availability: information
disparity, information parity and information overload. Sellers adapt to each
to sell their products.
Information disparity
This is when the salesperson knows more about the product than the buyer.
Let’s say, when our parents or grandparents went to buy a car, the
salesperson in the showroom knew much more about the car than them. So,
they could effortlessly convince or manipulate the buyer and easily sell the
car. The ball was in their court.
Information parity
Then came the era of information parity, where everybody had access to
information on everything. The buyers were as knowledgeable as the seller.
If they wanted to buy a hatchback, they could research what each brand
offered, and at what price point. The seller couldn’t fool them.
Information overload
Now, we live in an era of information overload. In this era, the buyer knows
much more than the seller because of the internet. Everything is just one
Google search away. You want to know what other people thought of a
product, just go on Amazon; want the best price—that’s available too. It’s
hard to fool buyers now. That’s what information overload means.
You cannot sell to somebody who already knows everything about a
product. They will only buy if they trust you. The market is full of people
selling the same thing, so who you trust is what matters. Now, the person
you trust is the person you buy from. And that is why personal branding is
very important. From the selling era, you have to move to the personal
branding era if you want to go up a level or accelerate sales.
You have to make people trust you and your brand.
How do you build that trust?
By generating awareness, keeping your promises and over-delivering,
every time.
It’s simple logic. It’s caring.
The number one rule for marketing is caring.
Once you start caring about other people, then everybody in the entire
value chain is going to trust you. And once people start trusting you, you
can command the kind of premium you were looking forward to.
Key Takeaways
Prepare the product, package it with emotion and make it feel like it’s urgent—that’s it;
that’s how you can sell anything. I call it the P+E+U method (preparation, emotion,
urgency).
Why would somebody buy from you? If you want to sell, you need to
understand your buyer. People buy things because they need them. Why
would they want to buy from you? Because you have something they need.
The first part of selling is preparation. Why did you buy this book?
Because you thought I knew something that you need right now. In the
same way, you need to have a specific product or knowledge in a specific
domain that the other person doesn’t have.
Once you have knowledge about something—for example, I know how
to create wealth, and I know how to build a personal brand and capitalize on
it. I know the formula to it; Raj Shamani ne figure out kar liya hai. I have a
specific knowledge and I know that people need what I know.
Now, we come to the million-dollar question. Why will somebody buy
from you? They will only buy because of either of two emotions: fear or
aspiration.
Nobody will ever do anything in their lives if there is no fear or
aspiration. Every decision we make, every product that we buy, either
improves our lifestyle or makes us feel secure. Why would you get out of
your bed and start working? Because you’re scared you’ll be kicked out of
your house if you can’t pay rent. Most people probably have a drive to work
because of their fear of the future, of going hungry or being unable to
provide for their family. Or it could be aspirational—you don’t like your
current reality and you want to change it and go one level up. You aspire to
be something you are not today.
So, how do you target one of these two emotions as a seller? First, you
need to become better than the average person, or else the average person
won’t buy what you’re selling. Second, you need to figure out what emotion
is driving the person you are selling to. Either you create an aspirational
scenario, like, you know what, if you buy my book today then your life can
also get better, like mine has. You read the book and follow the principles in
the book and you will be at the same place that I am. That could be one way
of selling. Or, it can be forceful. You buy my book or else, considering the
fast pace that the world is moving at, you will be left behind and won’t be
able to get anywhere in life. Universities are not teaching you what you
need to know. So, there’s a fear of not having a job tomorrow if you don’t
learn something today.
Now comes the third part. Objection handling. Suppose I tell you that
you need this book because, if you don’t read it right away, you’re not
going to be able to get ahead and win. So, I told you this and you
understand the need for it as well, but you want to buy it tomorrow, not
today. Procrastination. Humans are procrastinators. Our brain tells us,
‘Bhai! Take it easy today. We’ll see what happens tomorrow.’ You think, ‘If
I buy the book, I will have to read it at night. Why should I read the book
tonight when I can watch Friends on Netflix instead?’ This is where the
third part of selling, that is, objection handling, comes in. You have to
create a sense of urgency. ‘Bro! You need to buy this book today!
Otherwise, the moment we see a recession, your job will be gone and then
no one will hire you. You need to equip yourself with knowledge that can
help you stand out. All those people who read this book will know how to
sell, but you won’t. So, buy and read this book today!’
Let’s take the example of crypto. The crypto companies are not saying
you should use their wallets because they’re the best. They’re saying you
should use their wallet to buy today because tomorrow it will go up. You
become part of that 1 per cent of people today who will not regret
tomorrow. The rest will regret tomorrow that they did not buy it today. Do
you want to be part of that 1 per cent or the 99 per cent? That is what crypto
companies are trying to advertise, FOMO.
Let’s take another example. Suppose you call a client to sell a SaaS
product. Let’s see how a conversation with objection handling will go.
You say, ‘Sir, we had a meeting, you know the details of the product, you
liked it, then what is the reason you are not buying it?’
The other person says, ‘Yaar, I’ll take a look next week; I don’t have time
right now.’
(Then you handle the objection.)
‘Sir, exactly! I know you don’t have time, that’s why I want you to finish
it right here, right now. Because even I don’t have time. We both have better
things to do with our lives. Why extend it to next week when we can
finalize it in two minutes. You tell me and we will get it done. Is there any
other issue I can resolve?’
(You handled the objection of time. You said, I understand, and that’s
why I’m calling you today, because I know you’re going to be busy
tomorrow. Every day your company is growing, and your time is becoming
more and more valuable. That’s why I don’t want to waste your time
tomorrow on something that you can do today.)
‘Yaar, my company is in deep losses. I don’t have the money right now to
buy your product. That is the actual reason. I was just giving you excuses.
Next month, when money comes in, I’ll buy it.’
‘Sir, I know. I know that your company is not making enough money
because you are losing it on other SaaS products which are not working
efficiently for you. I want you to save money from day one—from today
itself. I know it’s a leap of faith, that’s how all of it happens. You have faith
that tomorrow things will be better, I am telling you there is a way to do it
today. I want you to save money. That’s why I am telling you that my
product is the most cost-efficient product right now. It will help you in
tracking, it will help you earn more money in the long term.’
(You handled another objection.)
Now the person starts opening up to you.
‘Yaar, my boss won’t agree. If someone else tells him about it, he’ll
agree, but if I tell him, he won’t. You should try the other person.’
‘That is the reason I am reaching out to you. Because I know this is way
more important for your credibility than mine. If you, rather than any other
colleague, go to your boss with a product that helps him out, your
reputation is going to go up and you will be remembered at promotion time
because you saved them millions of rupees this quarter.’
Sold!
This is what objection handling is. You handle all the objections and
create an urgency till the other person is convinced and decides to buy the
product. That is how you sell.
Preparation, driving emotion and objection handling.
Key Takeaway
Find the driving emotion and learn how to tackle objections that come your
way, and you’ll sell anything.
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How to Negotiate
If you want someone’s money, show them how you can make their money work for them.
How do you negotiate with someone? Negotiation is a game with just one
rule—managing the power shift. What does it mean and how does it work,
you ask? Simple. Make the other person feel like they’re winning. And
when do people feel like they’re winning? When they feel powerful.
Negotiation is nothing but a psychological ego game. While negotiating,
people want to feel that they are smarter than you. So, all you have to do is
stroke the other person’s ego. Make them feel they’ve got the better of you.
How do you do that? By shifting the power dynamic. This means that you
make the other person feel more powerful than you. You do it by first
talking about the deal, then shifting the conversation to hype up the other
person.
Ask them questions. What do you think my worth is? What kind of
premium should I command? Should I charge 10x other people because I
have 10x the followers? You start putting things in perspective. You make
them feel valued. Once you start doing that, you can sell them a tree.
For me, it’s not about money, it’s about time. If I take out time for
someone else, I make sure the reward is higher than what I’d get if I spent it
on what I love doing.
One thing to always keep in mind is to never state your price first—let
the other person quote something.
Why is that, you ask? Because if you are the one to state a price first,
then you have to stick to it. Then you will have to negotiate on the basis of
the perks, and not the price.
Let’s say I charge Rs 1 lakh to work on a speech. Some people would
say, bro, that’s too much. I’ll tell them to find someone else. But I know that
I have ten people ready to pay me Rs 90,000 for a speech, that’s why I have
increased it to Rs 1 lakh. Let’s say the other person says that I really want to
work with you but I don’t have that budget. So you say, okay, instead of
three revisions I will do four revisions for you. Instead of giving you two
hours of my time, I’ll give you two hours twenty minutes of my time and in
those twenty minutes, I’ll help you prepare to deliver that speech as well.
You keep on adding benefits, but you do not reduce the price.
Focus on how you’re making that person feel: if they feel like you’re
doing something extra for them, like the power is in their hands, they’ll
think, this guy’s bringing so much value, let’s give him what he’s asked for.
He’s the best, that’s why he is charging this much. Tell them, I’m charging x
amount not just because I’m the best and have done so many things, but
because my time is limited. Give the other person the power to decide
whether or not to hire you, but never make them feel like you’re open to
negotiating your fee. You have to make the other person feel like that would
be an absolute no from your side.
You tell them, if they think someone else can do it, then great, let them
do it. It’s called comparison analysis. You compare yourself with the other
people in the market. Apart from disclosing your price first, you tell them
everything else. If you do a price comparison, then people will always
consider the one who is cheaper. Then there is no value in you, right? You
have to make them see the value you are generating instead of the price you
are charging.
Back in 2014, I wanted to advise Jaguar Land Rover on their social
media campaign on Facebook and Google. When I went to their office as a
college student, I told them, ‘I love this car, and that’s why I want you to be
on top of your game when you launch it. That’s why I want you to be the
first in central India to get on the digital platform.’ Back then, nobody was
actually doing much on digital media.
Jaguar asked me why I was telling them all this. I said I wasn’t doing it to
sign them on as my clients. I was giving them advice because I had a dream
that, one day, I would have this car. That’s what made me tell them to do
something no other car company was doing back then—because I wanted to
help them.
They asked me what exactly I was offering them. I said, I can tell you
who exactly are the high net-worth individuals living in a specific upmarket
neighbourhood. I can directly tag these people and show them ads, get their
responses and their numbers and email ids and give you the details in the
next seven days.
I told Jaguar that for the reach this marketing will have, you would have
to get a billboard in a posh locality for Rs 5 lakh a month. Even then,
there’s no guarantee that your target audience would notice the ad. Or you
would have to post an ad in a newspaper, which would be Rs 2 lakh per day.
So, what do you think? If I can give you that data in seven days instead of a
month, how much would that be worth to you? Because even if you spend
Rs 5 lakh in a week, that would be better for you because you’d save three
weeks, during which time you could take other important decisions.
So, you tell me how much that is worth to you. I’m not doing this
because I want Rs 2000 from you. I’m doing this because I genuinely love
this car and one day dream of having this car, and I would like it if I’m able
to make this brand a leader in the market. That is why I am doing it.
With this, I’ve shifted the power to their hands. I’ve told them two
things: you decide the price, and that I’m not doing this because I want their
money, I’m doing this because I genuinely love this car.
They came up with a price and said we think we can take this on a trial
basis and give you Rs 1 lakh for it. At that time, I needed Rs 23,000.
Most people lose at negotiation because they come directly to the price.
They straightaway say I’ll give you a 15 per cent discount. Why on earth
would you give a discount? There should be a reason. Give them the reason.
First off, if you can’t decide your price, that means you’ve done your
homework wrong, you don’t know your price, you don’t know what your
worth is. If you’re not earning anything and you are getting Rs 100, it is
favourable for you, right? The problem with people is they have no money,
they have no clients, but think clients who will pay Rs 50,000 are cheap.
They only want those who can pay Rs 1 lakh. Bro! You don’t even have
500 bucks, at least you’re getting Rs 50,000, take it.
One more thing to keep in mind is that you never negotiate in a hurry.
Negotiation is always done with time, selling is done quickly. If you don’t
have time, that means you are selling, and if you don’t get time, that means
you are a bad salesman.
Key Takeaways
The biggest superpower you have is the ability to observe; the more observant you are,
the better your chances of winning in life.
A lot of people ask me what is the one skill they need to learn to get ahead
in life. What should they do to get better in their business or job, or just
how to get better in life in general?
Understand human behaviour.
That is the three-word answer. You just need to understand how humans
behave.
I’m dead serious about this. You need to learn why people talk a certain
way; why people buy what they buy; what is the decision they are making
in the moment they’re buying something? Why do they like some videos
and not others? Why do they leave good reviews, or why are they not
giving good reviews?
You need to understand all of this. It’s the one skill that is going to take
you far ahead in life.
Now, the question is, how do I learn human behaviour?
It’s very easy. By observing.
Or you can read books on psychology, talk to psychologists, go through
the profile of your competitor and read all the comments and reviews.
It’ll help you understand what people want, what they appreciate and
what they dislike.
And once you begin to understand all of this, you are going to make
better decisions in life.
Everybody who is at the peak of their career is an observer. Everyone
who is an observer and backs up their observation with the right execution
becomes an achiever. The point is, how do they decide where to focus their
observation skills? By not letting someone else dictate their curiosity.
There are three kinds of observers. Number one: those who have always
been forced to do something. Since the beginning, they have their target set
for them—Mummy said it has to be IIT and only IIT. Even if they are
interested in playing the guitar, they won’t be able to. They’ve been
conditioned so much by their family that they start to believe that getting
into IIT is their only possible option. They’ve always been dictated to.
They do reach the top because they have been told since the beginning
the specific things that they have to do and not do. But they lack one thing,
and that is mental peace, because they are always under constant pressure.
They are excellent achievers, they’ll come first in class, they’ll crack IIT,
lead companies, become CEOs, they’ll achieve everything, but they will
always be physically and mentally exhausted.
Their entire life someone else has set their finish line, which they must
reach at any cost. The only way they know how to survive in life is to cross
that line, one dictated by someone else. They don’t think about anything, all
they know is to do what they are told by their parents or mentors. Let’s call
this the Asian Parent Syndrome.
When you are not thinking about anything, you observe patterns based on
the realities that are forced on you. So, if your parents tell you that students
going to IIT and Harvard have the best life, you go to Google, you search
Harvard alumni or IIT alumni, you look at their lives and you are like,
‘Wow! People who go to Harvard are like Barack Obama.’ They think the
pattern is that people who went to Harvard have become presidents. It is set
in their minds that if they want to achieve something in life, Harvard is their
only option, or that their career is over without IIT. They observe the
pattern and make that forced reality their own reality. They start working
for it, but they are always exhausted.
The second kind of people are those whose achievements are driven by
emotions. Feelings of inferiority or rage are what drives them. If you look
closely, most people who achieve big things in their lives have an inferiority
complex. They feel they don’t belong where they want to belong. They
think, ‘This is my reality, I am not rich, I want to change this inferiority
complex into something else,’ and they start working towards it.
That was an extreme example, let’s take a very basic example. Let’s say
you have four classmates, but why does this guy get to talk to the one girl I
like? And then you start hating that one person and you want to be better
than him, because he gets the limelight everywhere.
You will find these people in offices as well. There’s this one guy who
always gets the promotion, who always gets a better appraisal than
everyone else, who is always the boss’s favourite. You think to yourself, ‘I
do all the work, then why is he getting a promotion?’ Then you start to do
everything you can just to prove that you are better than this guy. You
eventually do become better and get the things you wanted—except the girl,
maybe. (Remember Suniel Shetty’s character in Dhadkan?)
It can be as simple as some people deciding to show their parents what
they can achieve, like Ranbir Kapoor in Wake Up Sid. Some people might
want to get rich to win their parents’ hearts, like Ranbir Kapoor in Bombay
Velvet. Or the famous formula—heartbreak makes you a better singer, like
Ranbir Kapoor in Rockstar. Basically, all Ranbir Kapoor movies are based
on the second category of people.
The people in this category generally land up in creative fields. They start
observing the patterns and think, Oh! a life of hardship can bring success.
They think that this is something that happens a lot, and as a creative person
they’re always trying to find this negative emotion in their lives. They
think: Just wait and see how I rise after suffering this terrible thing.
While those in the previous category of people had someone else’s reality
forced on them, in this category, you wilfully start adapting to the common
narrative. You are influenced by your emotions, or you are influenced by
someone’s story, which raises a kind of emotion, and then you start
observing the patterns in your own life to become someone like them.
Eventually, because of these things, you start working on yourself and
achieve what you want in your life.
Even though you become an observer, your observation is driven by your
emotions, or from someone else’s reality, which you feel, because of certain
situations, is your own reality as well. You start finding patterns to belong
to the narrative.
The people who belong to the second category feel empty. It’s because
they are always chasing something that is not their own reality. They end up
wondering why they worked so hard for their achievements. They often
ask: What now? I’ve become a singer, now what? They are also good
observers but have a constant feeling of emptiness.
Then there’s the third kind of people, those I call the rational optimist.
These people are optimistic about everything in their lives. They have a
very strong sense of self-belief. Because their parents never told them that
they must do a particular thing, they are naturally curious and open to
exploration. Their parents gave them the liberty to do what they wanted.
They aren’t driven by false emotions and are emotionally strong people.
They are very rational and logical. Going to IIT doesn’t matter to them.
They believe if they learn something they are interested in, if they invest
time in that and keep doing that thing again and again and again, they’ll
become the number one person in that category. They think, even if I’m an
expert on bottles, I’ll be the best at it. So, one day Bisleri will come to me
with an offer. ‘Bro! You are the expert in bottles in the country, come and
join us. We will give you Rs 5 lakh a month.’
These kinds of curious people generally end up with jobs that require
them to be innovative or entrepreneurial or scientific. They get obsessed
about one thing and they observe only that one thing because they feel the
outside environment or emotions is not enough to inspire or influence them.
Their inner desires dictate their lives. They observe something that they are
drawn to, they come to a conclusion which dictates their lives, and they
achieve something.
They do not get distracted by whatever is the next new thing in the world,
or look around for someone whose heart has been broken and follow that
story, or say, ‘My mummy and papa told me to study at this university
only.’ They get obsessed with one thing and do it, like Steve Jobs.
The drawback that this category of people have is the obsession. Such
people stop looking at the world around them. They don’t have healthy
relationships and they don’t have friends. They are obsessed with this one
goal, and they are fired up by the idea of changing the world with it,
because they know they have that potential in them. They feel everything
they are learning is taking them one step closer to their one big vision.
The most successful of these entrepreneurs are rational optimists. They
are optimistic that one day they will shake up the world, but they are also
rational in their approach. They won’t leap off a building expecting to turn
into Shaktimaan. They’ll be like, humans can fly, so they’ll make some
gravity-defying thing and then they will fly.
I feel like, earlier, I belonged to the second category, but now I’m shifting
towards the third category. I’d like to believe that being successful is
moving from the second category towards the third category. Most people
start their journey with an inferiority complex, because if you feel you are
the best in the world, why would you ever want to get out of your bed and
start working on yourself? If you feel you are not enough, that your lifestyle
is not enough, that forces you to do certain things. The only thing is your
life shouldn’t become a constant chase. Shift from the second category to
the third category. When you reach the third category and you know you are
a rational optimist, you understand the factors in the market. When you
understand that every action you take has an equal reaction out there, and
you can change the course of your own reality, it doesn’t matter whether
some people understand your status or not, whether your parents force their
reality on you or not, all of these things stop mattering. You can change the
course of your own reality without having any emotion, without having any
guidelines from your parents or your elders or anyone else. That is a very
sweet spot to be at.
All three categories of people are good observers. That’s why they are
successful and have reached their goals. Everybody is an observer; what
you focus on, what you do with your observation is what defines where you
are going to reach in your life. I would say: be a curious observer. As I said
earlier, no question is stupid. You just need to be curious about stuff, and
you’ll find out which questions you’re most interested in. You start finding
answers for your questions. You will find a pattern, you will connect those
patterns one day, and that will help you with your own innovation. And if
not innovation, it will help you become self-aware, and then you’ll know
what to do with your life and how to live it.
Key Takeaway
You don’t need to be intelligent; you just need to be average, again and again.
I believe there are two parts to creating good, relatable content. One is the
kind of person you are, and the other is data.
I have a knack for figuring out what kind of content will work. I read the
data, I see people’s reactions, so I know what kind of content can make me
go viral overnight. But I’m not comfortable doing that because I wouldn’t
be proud of the content I came up with. I only make the kind of content that
would have improved my own life substantially if I’d watched or read it.
The whole objective of my content, whether it’s a podcast, whether it’s a
reel, blog, LinkedIn post, Twitter, or even this book, is I want you to
become 1 per cent better than who you were before watching/reading my
content.
How can I decide whether you will become better or not? I can only
decide whether I became better after reading and understanding those
things. So, I create content that I feel makes my life better and, in turn, will
most likely better yours. This only comes when you are genuine with
yourself. If I face a block and you ask me a question and I don’t have an
answer, then I won’t talk nonsense. I won’t fake an answer by reading it
from somewhere and then tell you that this is my view. That is why I feel
like when you are completely honest with yourself and you do something
from that place, then there is contentment.
Obviously, you have your lows, you have your ups, and you get
frustrated. ‘What the hell, man, why is this not happening? I’m putting in so
much effort, why am I not seeing growth? Why is my content not going
viral? Why am I not able to earn more money?’ That’s where data comes in.
You need to make rational decisions based on data points (like views,
engagement percentages, shares, saves, etc.). Those data points will help
you because your perception of yourself is a very different thing from the
way the market sees you. The moment you feel that you are above the
market, the moment you are away from the market, the moment you isolate
yourself, things get problematic—and that is the time you need to look at
the data and figure out what you need to do to grow.
But when things are not working out, you have two options. One, you
start giving people what they want and become a people-pleaser. The other
option is you realize you are one among seven billion people; the phase that
you are going through, putting in effort and not getting results—there are
hundreds of people like you who are going through a similar situation. If
you’re going through the same reality that most people are going through,
then you are a part of the macroeconomics of the industry, you are a part of
the market, you are a part of people.
How would you do something different, something that will help this
entire class of people, so that all of you can improve and get through this
bottleneck you’re facing? When you ask yourself that question, when you
choose option two, you start changing things very quickly because you are
not isolating yourself, you’re accepting that you’re not alone, there are
millions of others who are facing the same problem, and you start solving
those problems. This is when you become a real leader, and you start
growing as well because then you are not just accountable to yourself, you
are also accountable to your people, your team, your organization. You need
to become selfless rather than selfish, and the moment you start thinking
that way is when you get mass acceptance and start feeling good about
yourself because you’ll be making an impact.
Basically, people who isolate themselves from the world get sidelined
very quickly. Those who accept themselves and the world around them are
the ones who reach the masses. And that’s what I do.
You don’t need to be intelligent. You just need to be average. Because
only intelligent people understand intelligent content; the masses prefer
relatability.
So, think in terms of how relatable-y average you can be. The reason why
I got to the point that I am at today is because I am the most average and
basic young adult you’re going to find in India. My story resonates with the
maximum number of people because I was born in an average middle-class
family, I was born in an average city, and I had dreams to stand out just like
an average teenager.
In order to reach the masses, you need to start thinking about how
relatable you can be and stop thinking about how you can be intelligent.
You don’t need to be intelligent to be successful, you just need to start
doing things in the most authentic and average way possible. And you need
to stay true to yourself.
Key Takeaways
Now you’ll be like, okay Raj, I IDed my skill, I zeroed in on the expert,
now how do I become the best? How do I make tonnes of money off it?
Let’s say you love talking and want to become a good communicator.
You want to create your own content, build your own podcast, all through
content creation and communication. You’ve identified your skill, the top
five people in that field, and you religiously follow them, and now you want
to know how to become successful in that field.
You need to understand that there are only two types of people who
become successful in today’s world. Those who are excellent builders and
those who are excellent sellers. You could have a skill that is related to
building things. Building teams, building people, building products,
building content—you have such talent that no matter what you’re given,
you’ll turn it into something beautiful. Even if you’re given the worst team
in the world, you’ll inspire them and transform them into a unit that works
smoothly and efficiently.
Or you’re a brilliant seller. No matter what the product, you’ll market it
in a way that you will sell—and sell loads of it. We’ve all seen such people
—around us or on social media—whose product might be absolute crap, but
they sell it in a way that you buy it willingly, because they are great sellers.
So, you are either a builder or a seller, there’s no third thing that’s going
to make you succeed. They’re both great skills to have. If you’re good at
either, you are going to succeed.
Now, you need to learn the core of whatever skill you want to monetize.
You need to identify whether you like writing content for other people to
deliver or you prefer to deliver something that is written by other people.
Decide whether you love building or selling. This is purely based on
aspiration. Let’s say that you like to speak or deliver content and it doesn’t
matter to you who has written it, then focus on improving your selling
skills. Don’t focus on building, or in this case, writing your own piece. Just
focus on improving your delivery skills or your selling skills. When it
comes to me, I’m a horrible writer, I can’t write, so I only focus on my
selling and public speaking skills. I’m better than 1 per cent of people at
delivery, and that is what has helped me grow.
If you become better than just 1 per cent of others in the same field,
you’ll make a lot of money. The better you get, the more money you’ll
make. It starts with being better than 1 per cent, then 10 per cent, then you
become better than 99 per cent of others in the field. If you become better
than 99 per cent, you become Warren Buffett.
Once you’ve done this, you only need one thing—distribution. Distribute
on all the content creation platforms, distribute everywhere. And if you’re
good, you will go viral. Don’t let anyone tell you that Instagram is dead or
Facebook is dead or YouTube is dead or LinkedIn is dead. You will go viral
because people are consuming. Do you go on Instagram? Yes. Do you scroll
through Facebook sometimes? Yes. Do you check out LinkedIn at least
once a day? Yes. Do you watch videos on YouTube? Yes! If you are going
on these platforms and consuming content, that means the world is going
there as well, and if the world is going there, how can you say any of it is
dead? The only thing is that the product evolves.
How do you distribute in a way that gets recognized the most? The one
question everybody wants an answer to is how to gain followers quickly.
Respect the platform if you want the platform to respect you. So, if you
want the platform to recognize you and feature you so that your followers
increase, you need to respect the platform.
That means, whenever the platform launches something new, help them
build that product by doing that thing more often. The platform will
organically push you. Most people grew on Instagram when it launched the
videos feature. Others got recognition when Instagram launched stories.
People like me got recognition when reels came into the picture. Every time
the platform launches something new, respect it by using that feature more
than anything or anyone else. The platform will push you. Then, when that
thing becomes passé, go with the next new thing. There will always be
something new because all the platforms are competing with each other to
increase their consumer base. As long as there is competition, there will be
innovation. And you’ll keep growing as long as you’re tapping into every
new thing.
As an entrepreneur and as a creator, I ask myself this every single day—
what do people want? The answer is happiness. You’ll never meet a person
who doesn’t want to be happy.
Where does happiness come from? Freedom. You’re only happy when
you have freedom. And there are two types of freedom—financial freedom
and emotional freedom. Financial freedom is, ‘I’ll be happy when I get to
do anything I want to do and buy whatever I want to’. It’s when you have
enough money that you can afford everything you’ve dreamt about. The
second is emotional freedom, which is very, very important, especially in
Indian society, because we don’t have it. Emotional freedom means, ‘I’ll be
able to make decisions on my own’. I don’t need to ask Dad or convince
Mom for anything I want to do, be it going to a party or setting up a
business. Doing something you want to do without having to ask others is
emotional freedom. Now, everything that we buy or do or work on or
consume is based on freedom.
That’s why we believe in democracy. Democracy is the freedom to
choose what we want. And that is why content creation is accepted at large
by audiences, as it gives them options and the freedom to choose what they
want to consume at different times. Content creation platforms have
democratized content and that is why distribution has grown so, so much,
and why it will always be in demand. People, when they have choices, will
look for creators they relate with.
How is democracy going to help you? Everything you do should help
people achieve freedom, make them happy. If you can show people that
what you’re making is going to give them freedom, they’ll fall in love with
you and buy more things from you.
Now, the final level is how to persuade people they need your product or
service. We are all excellent procrastinators. I can tell you that you need
financial freedom and emotional freedom and that I’m going to help you
achieve that through my series ‘Figuring Out’, through my courses on
Growth School, through my content on social media, through my book, and
you agree that they will help you achieve these freedoms. But why do it
now, I’ll take a look at it tomorrow, I want to sleep now. This is where the
OG level comes. This is what every influencer, every content creator, every
businessperson uses to their advantage, and that is urgency.
You need to make people believe that they need your product now. How
can you do that? By using the two most important emotions. These
emotions get you out of bed and make you take action—aspiration or fear.
Target these emotions, and you can sell anything to people.
Key Takeaways
When you shift focus from getting views to giving value, you win.
Key Takeaways
People are not scared of failure; people are scared of being ‘embarrassed’ in front of
others.
How to get over failure? The short answer is: there is no other way to get
over failure than to get up and get back to work.
It’s actually a stupid question: How to get over failure? Do you want to
win in life or not? If yes, then get up and start working. If no, then go ahead
and sit there, continuing to live the life that you hate and want to change.
The ONLY thing that can change your life is action. If you’re not going to
act, and instead just sit there and think about it, then keep thinking and keep
sitting there forever. There is no other way, there are no other strategies or
tools or tips to overcome failure. Bro! You want it, you take it. You take
action and you do it.
Some people say: I failed because I burnt all my money. Or, I failed
because I didn’t have it in me. Or, I failed because other people were better
than me. I failed because I didn’t put in enough effort. So, you KNOW the
goddamn answer. Why did you fail? You zero in on that, improve it and
start again. You didn’t fail because of some XYZ reason, you failed because
you didn’t know how to win. You failed because you didn’t know how to
make that thing work. People didn’t buy from you because you didn’t know
how to become better so that people would want you. You are not getting
followers on social media because you don’t know how to create better
content. You are not able to get the right job because you are not prepared
enough to get the right job. Learn the skills. You failed in your business
because you didn’t know how to make the kind of product that people
would need or want. So, the question isn’t how to get over failure. The
question is, why did you fail? Figure that out, get better at it and then move
forward.
If you think you did everything right and yet you failed because of some
external factors, then you need a reality check. ‘Life happens for you and
not to you’—that’s a line by author and speaker Tony Robbins, and it’s one
I completely believe in. You can’t change an external factor, you can’t say
the government changed, that’s why your business failed. Your business
failed because your business is so unstable that one political party can
decide its future. You say, my entire crypto wallet got trashed because Elon
Musk tweeted about it. Yeah! You deserved it. If one tweet from one person
is actually decreasing your net worth, then you deserve it. The point is not
the external factor, the point is that you didn’t prepare yourself. External
factors can maybe slow down your process, maybe they can slow you down
for a while, but they can’t be a reason for your failure. The reason for your
failure is you and your lack of preparation.
How to get over failure? This is an extremely stupid question. I hate
people who ask me how to overcome failure. You tell me, is there really any
other way to overcome failure than to just prepare yourself and do it? I can
tell you: No, don’t think about it, you’re better than this, and fill you up
with toxic positivity. But NO! You failed to accept that you were not
prepared to get the one thing that you wanted and that’s why you failed.
You failed in an exam because you didn’t prepare, not because you’re
stupid. Everyone is stupid. The only difference is the rest of them study and
pass the exam because of their preparation. You could not clear that
entrance exam because some people prepared more than you did. Does that
mean life ends there? No! Does that mean you need to go again and do the
same thing? No! What it means is that you need to look at life this way:
Okay! Listen! Fail ho gaya toh ho gaya. But do I really want this thing? If
yes, then I’d better prepare for it well and get it. But if not, then I should go
and prepare for something else and get that.
You need to realize that if you want something, you have to go ahead and
work for it. There’s no other way. No matter how many times you fail. The
point is—how badly do you want it? A lot of people question whether they
should keep doing the same thing again and again even after failing. It’s up
to you. There’s no right or wrong answer. Smart people are those who
realize that maybe they don’t have the potential for something so they quit
and move on to something else. You can do that too. There’s no right or
wrong in doing the same thing over and over and over again. But next time,
when you attempt the same thing, do it having learnt from your past
failures; accept that you were not prepared enough for it the last time. And
if you decide to move on to a new thing, make sure that you don’t make the
same mistakes you made earlier, which was a lack of preparation. That’s it.
Decide what you want badly enough, and work for it.
Your failed attempt will only be celebrated when you become successful.
Key Takeaways
The one thing you shouldn’t do is ask for advice. Stop seeking advice.
People keep asking me for advice. They ask me: What is the one biggest
piece of advice you would give me; how can I become like you? They ask
for career advice and advice on speaking, and I just want to say—Stop!
Because that’s the worst thing that you can ask. It wastes your time and that
of the person you’re talking to.
What is this person going to tell you that you don’t already know?
Nothing. Because when you ask for ‘advice’, it’s a vague question. What is
the best advice you can give me? The best advice I can give you is stop
asking for advice. Do you know why? Because there’s nothing I will say
that would be different from what your parents, your neighbour, or that
uncle from that gully who shares his gyaan with every passer-by would say.
The point is, if you want to be better, ask better problem-solving
questions. If you want me to guide you, ask me specific questions: ‘Raj, I
started creating content, I have been doing it for the last three months. I’m
making reels after reels, I’m on YouTube as well, but even after doing that,
even after creating a good community, I’m not able to increase my
audience’s engagement.’ Or, ‘I’m not able to reach a point where my
audience—who is engaging with me—shares my content so that I can reach
more people.’ Now, that’s a problem, and that’s a powerful question that I
would be able to answer better than anyone else. You have asked a good
question.
You need to have a detailed, specific problem statement so that I have
context to what you are asking, what you are doing and where you are
stuck. Because until you give me a background and unless you tell me what
is stopping you from your goal, I won’t be able to help you. Not just me,
nobody will ever be able to help you.
Key Takeaway
If there is one skill you need to learn, it is how to talk to someone. This is
what can make or break any relation in your life, be it personal or
professional. You might be someone who loves talking or someone who
dreads it, either way you can’t deny that it is the most important skill to
have. I have got so many opportunities just by approaching someone and
talking to them.
So, how do you break the ice? You might say, sure, I can reply to
someone when they come talk to me, but even that is scary; or, I don’t know
how to start a conversation, I don’t know what questions to ask; what if I’m
bothering that person and s/he is not willing to talk to me? Or I don’t know
which person to talk to in a room full of people, so on and so forth.
Let me tell you something. If you’re scared and are waiting for someone
to come and talk to you, that’s a losing strategy. You’re already scared, you
don’t know anyone there or if anyone knows you. You have no clue what
you are going to do and then somebody comes and asks you something that
makes you uncomfortable and you end up stuttering out even the simplest
of answers.
That’s why I believe you should always take the active approach. You go
up to someone and lead the conversation, because that way you get to ask
the questions you want to ask and get the information you are interested in.
When you are in a room full of people, the very first thing you need to do
is to scan the space. See how many people are busy on their phone or are
talking to someone, who are the people who seem rude or annoyed. How
many people are shying away from conversations? Which of them don’t
seem to know who to talk to or what to do? Who is laughing? Who is
happy? Who is sad? How many people are selling their products or services
and how many people, just like you, are scanning the room? The last kind
of people are the best ones to initiate a conversation with. They, just like
you, are trying to pick up cues for a better understanding of the room.
Once you have scanned the room and know which people you want to
talk to, think about your intent. Why are you interested in talking to them?
Are they offering something you want to buy? Are you targeting them so
you can sell them something? Do you want them to invest in your business
plan? Or is there something peculiar about them which makes you
interested in talking to them? Once you know your intent, go ahead and
start a conversation.
Two things you need to make sure of before approaching someone: you
need to be comfortable, and you need to make the other person feel
comfortable as well.
Now that we know who, we go on to how. How am I supposed to start a
conversation? I don’t even know that person! Great! Go ahead and ask them
about themselves. After all, who doesn’t love talking about themselves,
right? You could try two approaches: open-ended questions or close-ended
questions. Close-ended questions have a straight answer. It could be a one-
word answer or a binary answer like yes or no. Like, what is your name? Or
who do you know here? Open-ended questions do not have a specific
answer. These questions give people room to talk.
Now, some people say you should initiate a conversation with open-
ended questions. But no! You need to make the other person comfortable
first. How do you do that? By asking close-ended questions. Ask them
something they don’t have to think a lot about before answering. Like,
which company do you work for, or what do you do. These questions have
a very specific answer.
Your initial question should always make you seem interested in the
person. Once a person knows you are interested in them, they become
comfortable. And depending on how the person is answering your close-
ended questions, you get an idea of whether the person is interested in
talking to you.
Once you’ve made the person comfortable, then you should go ahead
with the open-ended question to carry on the conversation. They mentioned
what they do or that they work at a particular company? Ask them what
they enjoy most about their work or what they find is best about their
company. By asking these questions, you have given them room to talk
about something that they do and that they are interested in.
But I already asked the basic questions, what else should I ask if I want
to continue the conversation? Just observe. What are they talking about?
What is something that you need from them? What makes you so curious
that you want to talk to them? Or is there something that this person has or
can help you with? Based on these questions, you can form your open-
ended and close-ended questions. Just observe and ask.
The second thing to pay attention to is your body language. When you
show interest in someone, your expressions are animated, your face lights
up and the other person can actually see your interest through this. So, talk
to someone only if you are actually interested in doing so. There is no point
in going up to someone when you are not interested and boring them as
well as yourself.
If you want to stand out in the crowd, all you need to do is be positive.
Most people are negative: they crib and complain about something or the
other and it is ANNOYING. What you should do is to go up to a person and
make a positive statement about the current situation. Let’s say you’re in a
Mumbai local and it’s crowded and then it starts raining. Most people will
start complaining about being late to work, or the roads being flooded. All
you need to do is pause, look around, find someone who seems open to
talking, go to them and say, ‘Hey! I just love rain. I know it’s destroying our
schedule and we’re running late, but it takes me back to the time when I
was a kid and I would run out of my house and play in the rain. I used to
love that . . . did you do that too?’
By doing this, you are instantly breaking the monotony. You are putting a
positive spin on something that the other person is viewing negatively.
Now, you’ve made a positive statement, and if the other person is interested
in talking to you, they’ll reply, and if they don’t seem interested, then you
simply walk away. But if they reply with something like, ‘Yes man, I used
to do that’, go ahead with a follow-up question. ‘Oh! In Mumbai? It seems
to be a little difficult to do that here. I come from a small town, are you
from a small town as well?’
BOOM! You started a conversation.
What you are doing here is you’re leading the conversation. The positive
statement is followed by a close-ended question followed by an open-ended
question. You made the first move, broke the ice and led a conversation.
Now you might say, ‘Raj, you can so easily make a positive statement.
How can we do that?’
Just follow the rule of 4Ws. What are these 4Ws?
Where and what.
You make a positive statement about your particular situation—where
you are and what’s going on. The rain conversation is an example.
World around us.
This is about the general situation in the world and what’s going on
around us. Is there something interesting? Let’s say you are at a conference
and there’s a really boring speaker there. Say something like, ‘I’m glad they
have boring speakers as well because if they weren’t here, we wouldn’t
know the worth of the interesting speakers. Don’t you think so?’
Weather.
This is a simple one. Just talk about the weather or anything related to it.
Wit.
I’ll tell you a little story. I was once at a conference and saw a girl who
was embarrassed and trying to hide because she had spilt Coke on her white
dress. I saw that she was very uncomfortable, so I went to her and said,
‘You know what? I think you should spill coke seven, eight times more,
then it will look like a tie-dye dress.’ It is simple wit at an abnormal place
about a normal everyday situation which can make the other person
comfortable and light. You don’t want to make fun of them—they are
already embarrassed—instead, you need to try and lighten the situation with
a positive statement.
Use a combination of these four Ws and you will never be short of
positive statements to break the ice.
The third way to break the ice is with honest and genuine appreciation.
When you give someone a compliment that you truly mean, the other
person feels really, really good. If you want to make someone like you, you
don’t have to be a bootlicker or someone who is faking it and trying to
butter someone up. That’s where you need to focus on the ‘honest’ and
‘genuine’ part. You need to figure out what is attracting you towards them
and making you want to talk to them. Maybe it’s the way they speak, maybe
it’s their personality, or how they carry themselves and treat others. It could
be anything. Be genuine and honest with your compliment and then follow
it up with a question.
Now, this giving a compliment can make you come off as a creep as well.
When does that happen? When it’s about something overly personal. Avoid
doing that.
Also, if you want the compliment to lead to a conversation, don’t just
stick to vague statements. For instance, if you come to me and say, ‘Hey
Raj, I love the way you speak.’ That is a compliment that doesn’t move the
conversation forward. But if you come to me and tell me, ‘Hey Raj, I loved
the way you were using voice modulation to make your point. I loved how
you used a low pitch and then came to life with a high pitch. How do you
do that? Do you think I can do that too?’ Now that is an honest and genuine
compliment followed by an open-ended question.
Key Takeaways
The problem with people’s mindsets is that they will trust ‘old and poor’ rather than
‘young and rich’, because young and rich must have gotten lucky, and old and poor have
lived through cycles of rich and poor, so the assumption is that they understand life and
money.
Key Takeaways
The way your words make people feel decides whether you will end up being a leader or
a follower.
From not being able to speak a sentence in English to delivering over two
hundred speeches across the world. From being denied a chance to host an
event in school to being the youngest Indian to speak at the United Nations
Assembly in Vienna, and having my own course on public speaking. I
really have come a long way.
Everybody is a learner and then they become a teacher.
So how did it happen? How did a useless kid get to do all these things?
Well, just like Zuckerberg, it happened in college.
My experience of being ridiculed in school left me with no self-worth
whatsoever. I dreaded speaking in front of people. So, when I got to know
that I needed to do a college presentation in order to pass a subject, it felt
like my worst nightmare coming true. I could hear myself stuttering and my
classmates laughing. But I still had one thing. I had thirty days to prepare
myself. So, for the next month, I turned on my phone camera and recorded
myself giving that presentation. I did that for one hour, every day for the
next thirty days. I prepared for thirty hours for a five-minute presentation.
And on D-Day, when I went on stage to deliver that presentation, the
entire class, along with my professor, applauded me. I could say that was
my Eureka moment, because I loved every bit of it. I loved giving that
presentation on stage, I loved the reaction I received, I loved the confidence
boost it gave me. And I knew this was what I really wanted to do. My
professor even took me around to different classes and asked me to give
that presentation in order to show them how a presentation needed to be
made. Later, she asked the dean to permit me to speak on stage. I did, and
the whole college applauded.
I was so happy that I told myself, now this is exactly what I want to do,
and I acted on that. I reached out to all the colleges in my city, requesting
them to let me give a presentation on ‘How to give amazing presentations’
at their institute. Some of them replied, most didn’t. Meanwhile, I knew that
I wanted to take this to the next level, and for that, I had to get better at
public speaking.
So what I did was, I picked up the speeches of speakers I admire(d) the
most—Martin Luther King, Les Brown, Gary Vaynerchuk—and started
copying them, the exact same pauses, exact same voice modulations, the
exact way of speaking. When I did this with speeches by ten different
people, I started to understand how I should speak, where to use a high
pitch, where to lower my pitch, everything.
I’ve put a lot of time and practice to reach the level I am at as a public
speaker. There are two rules if you want to become a good public speaker.
But before that, you should understand who a public speaker is. If you’re
talking in front of four people, be it your friends, your relatives, anyone,
you’re a public speaker. People confuse public speaking with stage
performance. Going on a stage and talking or giving a speech is not public
speaking, it is a performance.
Public speaking is about how you talk to people in order to influence
them and then handle all the objections and questions that they throw at
you.
What I am talking about here is public speaking and not stage
performance. You won’t fail at a performance if you are well prepared.
Once you become a good public speaker and prepare well, you will succeed
at stage performance as well.
Now, as I said, there are two rules for public speaking.
Rule 1: Never use words that people don’t understand.
Rule 1: Ask questions to engage with the audience.
Now, did you see I wrote ‘Rule 1’ twice? It wasn’t a mistake. I never say
Rule 2, I always say Rule 1, because all my rules are Rule 1.
So, the first point: did you notice in what you’ve read so far that I’ve kept
this book simple? That’s the same thing I do with my speeches. If you use
difficult words, you won’t be able to communicate your message to your
audience. And for me, it is more important to deliver my message than to
use words that are extremely hard to pronounce or understand.
A person who has learnt how to communicate can be a really good public
speaker. All of us have to communicate, irrespective of which field we are
in. If you are a businessperson, you need to be a good communicator to
connect with your customers, inspire your employees and even convince
your investors. If you are an influencer, you need to communicate with your
audience in order to build a deeper connection with them.
The reason people are unable to talk to someone or tremble at the thought
of speaking in front of people is because they are scared of judgement. But
what we forget is that everyone is scared. Every single one of us. And one
way to lessen your fear is preparation. Prepare to put yourself out there,
prepare yourself to handle rejections, and work on improving yourself.
Yes, no matter how much you prepare, you’re going to falter at some
point or the other. Learn from your mistake and convert your goof-up into a
story that you can tell an audience.
I follow a framework in order to be a better communicator and a better
public speaker. It has everything that I’ve learnt in these past seven years.
How to get noticed
The first step is to pause. Shhh! You need to stand in front of your
audience and just say nothing for a few seconds. The main reason for this is
to command attention. Every single human being has an auto-response
system embedded in themselves. Let’s say I go to a bar, I see a pretty girl
and suddenly say, ‘Hey! I’m Raj.’ The girl will be like, ‘Nope!’ We see
Instagram ads, we scroll past, we see YouTube ads, we skip them. That’s
our auto-responder working for us. That’s why you need to pause and put
the ball in the ‘Arey, what happened, why isn’t he saying anything’ mode.
You create anticipation. That’s how you break the pattern.
So you step out in front of the audience, pause and command their
attention. You indicate that you’re not going to say a word unless you have
their full attention, that they’re not doing you a favour by listening to you,
you are doing them a favour by speaking to them.
Start with a bang
After you have paused for about ten seconds, start with a bang. If you
don’t catch your audience’s attention in the first few seconds, the men will
be daydreaming about women and beer, and the women will be worrying
about their loved ones’ WhatsApp messages. If you haven’t captured their
attention in the first ten seconds, then you’ve lost them for good. So, start
with a BOOM! Once, I started a Tedx Talk by playing a guitar and I’m not
even good at playing the guitar. Why did I do it? Well, everyone was
expecting me to start my talk with a thought-provoking message, but I
chose a way that would grab their attention and that they wouldn’t quickly
forget. Even if they didn’t take anything from my talk, they’d still
remember me because I broke the pattern and did something that they
hadn’t expected.
There are four ways to start with a bang.
Signature appearance
What do I mean by this? Sometimes there are situations where you get only
one minute to impress people. Elevator pitch, conferences, you want to
impress an employee, you want to impress your boss, you want to impress
people on social media, but you just have one minute. This one minute, or
even just the first thirty seconds, are going to decide whether you’re going
to get the next five minutes or not. So how do you prepare for your one
minute of fame? The first thing you need to do is understand where you are
and what your objective is. And then you start with your strength. You tell
people what you have done or what you have achieved. So, I’ll start, ‘I’m
Raj Shamani and I’ve given speeches in more than twenty-six countries,
and I’ve taught college students as well as the president of Coca Cola, and I
have a following of one million people to back this up. Do you want to
know how I did that?’
This will either impress them or make them wonder, ‘Why is he so cocky,
what makes him so full of himself?’ In either case, I have their attention
now and I have the five minutes that I wanted to get.
It might seem arrogant, but the truth is, I believe in my achievements,
and I am bold about it. This gives me the attention that I want. Now I am
not asking you to be arrogant always, but to believe in your pitch and in
yourself and then, once you have their attention, you can be humble, kind
and a nice person who is willing to help.
Now that you have their attention, leave them with a question. Never end
a conversation with a statement. Always end with a question and keep
people curious so that when they go home, they look you up.
Kiss
Your speech should be like a kiss. A kiss is good when it is short and sweet.
If it is really long, it could get suffocating. That’s how the message of your
speech should be—sweet and simple. The more you try experimenting with
it, the worse it will get. The longer you try to stay there, the more your
message will get lost. So, how can you make your speech like a kiss? By
following the ‘less is more’ concept. Do not try to add loads of examples;
the shorter it is, the better.
The next thing is you need to tell a story, not give a speech. How do you
write a speech? You go on Google and copy a few things from here and
there and it becomes your speech. If you’re going to tell a story, people will
connect. If you write a speech, people will get bored.
Now there’s a rule that I follow—it’s called the 50 per cent rule. No
matter what you do, cut it down by 50 per cent. If you have written one
page, cut it down to half. If you wrote a ten-minute speech, cut it down to
five. I’ll give you an example. I can say, ‘If I don’t evolve on a day-to-day
basis, I won’t be able to win in life.’ Or, ‘I need to change myself today.’
Most people think the longer the speech and the tougher the words, the
better. No bro, nobody has the time. Everyone is busy. So, keep it concise,
and you’re good to go.
Key Takeaways
You want to get fit? Start with doing a plank for thirty seconds every day. If you do this
for thirty days straight, you will automatically be able to do more than that.
You start figuring out where you want to go on day 1 and keep at it till your
last day. You should be very okay with, ‘I don’t know what I want to do but
I’m going to do something in my life’. If you have a vision and mission
statement for yourself, that’s great. A clear vision helps you accelerate the
process. But even if you don’t, it is completely okay. You should just focus
on the next step—what do you need to do right now, right at this moment—
rather than obsessing about getting a vision or mission. Don’t overwhelm
yourself by overthinking; don’t stop your progress or stop acting because
you don’t have that clear idea of what you want to achieve in life.
Think about what you need to do right now, and you take that action and
then you keep doing that over a very long period of time. When you are
doing it, you realize, okay, this is the one thing for me, and that’s when you
start accelerating the process. Of course, once you have a clear idea in your
mind that this is where you want to be, you can reach it much faster. But in
order to reach anywhere, you need to make that start. You need to take
some steps. Until you get on the road, how will you start walking? Until
you start walking, how will you start running?
In the same way, if you have a mission and vision but don’t put in the
required work, that would be, well, stupid. What’s the point of planning so
much if you’re not going to actually do anything about it? For those who
belong to this category, I have a magical rule for you. A rule that has helped
me so, so many times in my life. I call it the thirty-second rule.
Anything that you want to do, anything that you want in your life is just
thirty seconds away from you. You just have to embrace thirty seconds of
embarrassment.
Thirty-second reels every day grew my following to another level.
Thirty seconds of courage in front of strangers helped me connect with
the who’s who of the world.
Thirty seconds of reading finance news every day helped grow my
money.
Thirty seconds of morning planks strengthened my back.
The hardest thing to do is not the actual work, but to start. And all it takes
is thirty seconds. Unable to bring yourself to finish that assignment? Just sit
down and work for thirty seconds. Thinking about reaching out to
someone? Just accept the thirty seconds of discomfort and send that mail.
Scared to go and talk to someone at a conference? Decide to give it a shot
for thirty seconds and go up and introduce yourself. I’ve met so many
amazing people just by gathering thirty seconds of courage in front of
strangers.
Apply this rule in your life. The initial thirty seconds are the hardest, but
if you can get past it, your life will get thirty times better. All your goals
will be reached, just through these thirty beautifully embarrassing seconds.
And once you start, keep figuring it out on a daily basis. Goals keep
evolving, visions keep evolving, and so do you.
Key Takeaways
You give your time and work to make money, and you create wealth by making that money
work for you.
How much money you make in life is directly proportional to the hours you
put in at work. But that is not wealth. Wealth is when you are able to make
enough money to sustain your lifestyle without putting in any effort, time or
skill. It means even if you want to sleep for the next thirty days, your rent is
getting paid. Your bills are getting paid. All your wishes are fulfilled.
Everything’s happening automatically, even if you’re not actively making a
single penny right now.
When you don’t have to worry about earning money and you are able to
do whatever you want, that is when you know you have wealth. You have
become financially free, which means you have money in excess of your
expenses. How can you do that? You have to understand that you’re not
going to achieve wealth unless you can get other people to do everything
you’ve learnt. If you have to put in effort every single day to make money,
there will be a day when you won’t be able to make money. You need to
make money, then you need to start investing this significant amount of
money into something that grows automatically, without you putting in any
effort. That is why wealth creation is important, that is why investing is
important.
Think about it. All of us on an average start working in our early
twenties. We work till about sixty with full energy, but after that we won’t
be able to make as much money as we were making when we were younger.
For forty years we make money, and how long do we have to live? Till
ninety? So, from twenty to ninety, we only earn for forty years, but have to
sustain ourselves for seventy years. After sixty, when we aren’t able to
make money for ourselves, we’ll need to have someone who can make
money for us, right? In India, it’s called having babies. What you should do
is start investing in mutual funds, or set up your own company, or invest in
other companies and hold equities. Then start putting away a significant
chunk of the money you’re making through your skills into these
investments, so that after sixty, when you stop making money, that creates
money for you. This is the absolute gold level of wealth creation.
Think about it this way: if you have to live for seventy years on forty
years of income, then how would you live your life differently? Over the
years, as your knowledge grows, your money also grows. Learn
compounding and use it, or find someone to do it for you. Whatever money
you are making, invest at least 20 per cent to 30 per cent of it.
Key Takeaways
Key Takeaway
Take time to understand the market before investing; don’t follow trends
blindly.
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How to Invest, for Those Who Don’t
You will have to give it time to grow your money, either in finding the right investment
product or in finding the right person who can do it for you.
Now the question comes, how should you invest? That depends on what
kind of investor you are and what your risk-taking capacity is. There are
two kinds of people who don’t invest—those with decision paralysis and
those with loss aversion. The first type of people are those who keep
reading and researching and don’t end up making a decision. The other type
are scared of losing money. They will not invest because of the fear of
incurring a loss. Usually, these people have been told not to invest money in
stocks. But I know you guys genuinely wish to learn. So, let’s talk about
how you can come up with an investment strategy.
Analyse your situation and risk-taking appetite. There are three
categories—low-risk, medium-risk and high-risk.
Low-risk
A person who has no knowledge about the stock market and cannot risk
losing their money should ideally postpone investing till they learn more.
Do your research. Watch YouTube videos, listen to podcasts, or better, enrol
yourself in a course that teaches investing in the stock market. Meanwhile,
Nifty ETFs are a safe choice. Add a small amount monthly and it will give
you profits in the long run. Be consistent.
Medium-risk
High-risk
High risk-taking investors can pick individual stocks. It is risky, and if you
want to avoid huge losses, then I would suggest you diversify your
portfolio. Invest in different sectors. Invest in a systematic manner and you
will surely get good profits in the long term.
Aside from this, if you are in your early twenties and don’t have enough
knowledge on how to invest, then you should let people with the relevant
expertise do it for you. Nowadays, there are several apps that you can use to
invest. If you don’t like to read about investing then just read about these
apps and what they do and how they can help you.
Everyone tells you where you should invest your money, but nobody tells
you where you shouldn’t invest. When we invest for the first time, we do it
because someone told us to do so. Be it a bank agent or an individual agent,
they try to sell you those products where they get the most commission. It is
very important to know what products we shouldn’t invest our money in.
I’ll tell you five financial investments that financially smart people never
invest their money in.
2: Product
Product is physical gold. Now you might say that gold is a good and safe
investment. Yes, it absolutely is. But if you’re buying gold just for
investment, then please don’t buy physical gold—which means jewellery or
brick form. Because, first of all, if you have physical gold, then the fear of it
getting stolen will be there. And secondly, it’s difficult to know what quality
of gold you’ve been given. Also, when you buy physical gold, there are
making charges, melting charges and several other charges which lead to
depreciation.
If you have to invest in gold, then do it the smart way—invest in digital
gold, or gold mutual funds, gold bonds or buy a gold smallcase, which is
the smartest investment in my view. If you compare the returns on physical
vs digital gold after ten years, you’ll see that smallcase will have given
higher returns. Your money is safe, and it appreciates too.
3: ULIP
Bankers will try to sell Unit-Linked Insurance Plan, or ULIP, saying it’s a
smart investment, but I would suggest you steer clear of it. ULIP is a
combination of life insurance and investment. It means that some money
will go into insurance and some in assets like equity or debt. On hearing
this, you will probably feel like it’s a great product, two hits with one arrow.
You’ll think you will invest in one place and that will cover your investment
and insurance too. Amazing! But that’s the problem. Let me explain.
When you invest in ULIP, you can’t withdraw your money for three to
five years; with mutual funds you can do it any time. Sure, you would have
to pay some minimal charges, but it can be done. Overall, ULIP charges can
be around 5 to 10 per cent, which is very high. In mutual funds, the charges
are around 0.5 to 2 per cent. There is very little transparency in ULIP—you
won’t know every detail about how your account is being handled or where
your money is being used. But in a mutual fund, your portfolio is clear, you
are aware of every change. That’s why I think mutual funds are much better
than ULIP.
Now let’s compare ULIP with a term life insurance plan. Premium
charges for ULIPs fall between Rs 25,000 and Rs 60,000, which are high.
Premiums for term insurance plans, on the other hand, fall between Rs 4000
and Rs 20,000 which are affordable. When it comes to life coverage, you
will see that it is generally ten to fifteen times your annual premium
amount. That means you will get only Rs 10 lakh to Rs 15 lakh, whereas
life coverage amounts in term insurance plans can go up to Rs 1 crore,
meaning that if you take an affordable term life insurance plan, then that
gives Rs 1 crore life coverage. That’s why, rather than investing in ULIP,
invest your money in mutual funds and term life insurance plans separately.
4: Penny Stocks
Penny stocks means those stocks for which prices are very low, for
example, from Rs 1 to 10. People think, ‘The price is very low, I can buy
one stock for Rs 10, which means 100 stocks for Rs 1000; it’s very low and
it will increase drastically tomorrow, so let’s buy it today for cheap,
tomorrow I will be able to earn a lot.’ NO. Not every small stock becomes
big. You need to remember that if a stock is cheap, there must be some
reason why it is so. There must be some reason why the stocks of HDFC,
Reliance, Tata are so high, and penny stocks are available for Rs 2 to Rs 5.
Why? Because their performance is not good or there is some problem,
that’s why they are cheap. Try to figure out what that problem is and stay
away from such products. Buy the right thing, at the right place and at the
right time. Especially stay away from stocks that are less than Rs 10 if you
don’t know the stock market properly.
Key Takeaways
1. Analyse your situation and risk-taking appetite and figure out what
category you belong to: low-risk, medium-risk or high-risk. Invest
accordingly.
2. It’s important to know what products not to invest in.
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Seven Ways I Make Money
People say you need to learn multiple things to build more income streams, but I believe
that you should become an expert in one thing and then build multiple income streams out
of that one thing.
You must have heard that if you want to earn a lot of money or create
wealth, then you would need to earn through multiple sources. Because one
income stream is just not enough to help you earn a fortune. But has anyone
told you what these five to seven different streams of income can be? How
do you build these sources? How do you earn through these many methods?
Well, I can’t tell you this either, because it varies from one person to
another. But what I can tell you is today I’m twenty-five and I have seven
different sources of income. I can tell you what I did to reach where I am
today. I focused on only one thing to create these seven sources of income.
1: Consultancy
2: Public Speaking
I had learnt social media marketing and how to scale small businesses
through social media at cheap prices. So, I started talking about these things
in public. In the beginning, I spoke in front of four people, then five people,
then ten people, then delivered speeches in many small colleges for free. I
used to mail or call them myself, and say, ‘I want you to let me speak on
stage to your students and I will do it for free. I want to talk to them about
how they can earn money through social media marketing in future.’ Out of
the hundred colleges I contacted, two or three got back saying, ‘Okay, since
it’s free, you can do it.’
I went to those places, and they liked what I said, and through their
connections was able to get more such gigs. It kept on growing like this,
and I delivered so many free speeches. In fact, the first 100 or so were for
free. I went from college to college and said the same thing for free. After
100 speeches, finally everyone started recognizing my value and I got a call
saying, ‘We will pay you for it, will you speak to our students?’
So, my second stream of income started.
Now, when I started giving these talks, I observed that, after I would give
a speech, the people from there would follow me on social media. At that
time, I was not making any content online. I would just post photographs
and say where I had been speaking—today I gave a speech in Mumbai,
today I gave a speech in Pune, today I gave a speech in Indore, etc.
Instagram was new, and I was interested in it. Since I talked about social
media, I was obviously on it.
When I noticed people were following me, I saw it as a good sign. I
thought, why don’t I start speaking on this platform? Because if I go to
some place, only a hundred people are watching me. But if I make a video
and post it on Instagram, then all the people who are following me can
watch this speech and eventually the numbers will grow. I started putting up
my talks on social media. I kept on uploading speech after speech after
speech for two years. Then I started uploading my content as well, which
was not just clips from speeches but specifically made for social media, and
after two years, I reached 1,50,000 followers. When I hit that number, I
knew that now was the time for a third source of income, that is, brand
deals.
3: Brand Deals
If 1,50,000 people are listening to me, then brands are going to be ready to
give me money to talk about them and promote their products. I’m still
giving a speech, still talking about the same things, but I’m doing it while
wearing branded suits, so that brand would pay me. If I am talking about
some bank, they would pay me. Say I am talking about some stock broking
company, they would pay me. That’s how my third income source started.
Meanwhile, my followers increased, till I had 1 million followers. That’s
when my fourth income source started, and that is, affiliate marketing.
4: Affiliate Marketing
5: Courses
I developed a course and priced the ticket for it at Rs 500. So, whoever
wants to learn how to speak online and offline and start earning through
public speaking can buy my course for Rs 500. People who trust me, people
who like my work, people who think that I can teach them something, they
can go and buy it, and out of the Rs 500 they pay for it, I give some to my
team and my partners, and the money left becomes my income. So, this
became my fifth income source. Then people who attended the course said,
‘Raj, your course is very good. All the things that you have done and learnt
in the last five to six years you have provided in a nutshell in this three-hour
workshop. You compressed five years in three hours, you must not have
revealed everything, you must have something more.’ So, I said, ‘All right’,
and I started writing a book.
6: Book
I signed a deal with Penguin Random House, and now they are paying me
to write a book, and this has become my sixth income source. My
consulting is going on, my speeches are going on, my brand deals are going
on, my affiliate marketing is going on, my courses are going on, and now
I’ve written a book, which will be my sixth income source. I got an advance
from the publisher, and how this works is, with every copy sold, I’ll get a
percentage as royalty. The more the books sell, the more money I will get.
And it is not just a short-term thing; whenever a copy is sold, I’ll get the
royalty.
These were six things. Now, along with doing this, I did one more thing. I
started a business.
7: Business
People like the content I make and the way it’s presented. There is a whole
process involved in creating content. I have to decide what I want to say in
the video, write everything down, record it, then it gets edited, and I decide
when it will be uploaded. Now, whoever wants to become a content creator
and wants to tell stories online and make it a lifestyle, they don’t need to
learn all of it from scratch. They can come to me, and I will give them a
video editor, I will give them a script writer, I will give them ideas and I
will tell them what works and what does not. I will give them a team that
will upload for them too. The team will tell them which videos worked and
which didn’t and why something didn’t work, and to do all of this I take
money from them, and the money that I earn from that business becomes
my seventh source of income.
So, from one thing, which was social media marketing and how you can
grow your personal brand on social media, I created all my current sources
of income. I started studying about it in 2014–15, and since then there
hasn’t been one day, not even one day, where I haven’t learnt something
new. I research and learn more about this topic every day, and due to that, I
have been able to build seven income sources.
Some people come to me and say, ‘Raj you did it, great, but nowadays
everyone is doing it, so how can we do it?’
Right, everyone is doing it, but there is still a lot of scope left in the field.
In today’s world, thanks to the internet, tell me one thing through which you
cannot make money? Let’s say there isn’t scope in this area, then pick any
other field. The only condition is, whatever it is, you should become an
expert in it, because if you’re an expert, you can also earn through ten
income sources, let alone seven. And you only need to learn one thing, you
don’t need to learn seven different things for this.
Look at the future, what is the future made of? Technology, Artificial
Intelligence. You don’t want to learn about that? Learn about finance,
stocks. If you don’t like that, and you think what I spoke about is really
easy, then learn about marketing and social media. Let’s say you don’t even
like that and you only want to speak and earn money through it, you enjoy
speaking, then do what I did. First of all, learn about how to speak, how to
deliver a speech, how you should do it so that people will want to listen to
you. What can you offer so that, after listening to you, people will share
your content and follow you too?
Learn about the art of storytelling, the art of social media, anything in
which you have interest. It could be coding, it could be politics, music,
photography, it could be any damn thing. You grab that one thing and
become the best at it, and to become the best you don’t need years, you just
need the first day. Focus on one thing for one whole day from morning to
evening and, at the end of the day, you will know more about that thing than
the people you live with.
That’s how it begins. On day 1, you will know more than the four people
around you. Then you keep learning and you’ll know more than the forty
people around you. And that forty people will eventually become 4000,
then 40,000, then 40,00,000 then 4,00,00,000 and then the whole country.
It all starts from day one. So, pick one skill and start learning and in a
few years, you will have seven sources of income and when you have seven
to eight income sources, you will be secure. Today, at twenty-five, I don’t
have any fear of what will happen tomorrow. You, too, won’t have the fear
of what will happen tomorrow.
Key Takeaways
People like people who are like them, or people who like them; genuinely do both and you
will see millions liking you.
Your life is your niche. You would have heard me say this so many times.
But it is true to its bones. People who tell you that this is how you can find
your niche, this is the formula to find your niche, I really don’t like such
people. My own friends, when they sit with me for podcasts, they say this is
the model to find your niche and I’m like what model, bro? Why are you
telling someone to be what they are not?
People think personal branding is about packaging. People think they
need to package themselves into something that is in demand out there and
others will want to follow them for it.
For me, personal branding is about revealing yourself, it’s about
unpackaging yourself. I will only be able to connect with my audience on a
deeper level when I expose myself completely. This is how Raj wakes up,
how he eats, how he sings. Then people will think, ‘Oh! Raj is just like me.
He also wakes up at four in the evening and then works. If he can make his
life like that, so can I. The important thing is to build your life around that.
Raj is figuring things out on a daily basis and building his life, I can too.’
This is how you connect with your audience. This is how you create a
personal brand. When you think about branding, it is about packaging your
product. But when you think about personal branding, it is about
unpackaging yourself. Exposing yourself is how you scale. Because then
you don’t need to think about how you have to speak in front of different
people or how you have to present yourself differently around different
people. You don’t have to think about any of it because you will just be who
you truly are.
I don’t have to talk just in English or Hindi, I don’t have to wear fancy
clothes, I don’t have to stick to my niche, because I am my niche. If you
look closely, even the biggest brands, whether in India or the world, are
their truest self in front of the camera, that’s why they have the biggest
audience.
To get something from your personal brand, you need authority. How do
you build authority? By adding value to people’s lives. How do you add
value? By either entertaining, inspiring or educating someone. How do you
do that? By just putting out what you are doing and helping other people
find the answers that you are trying to find out for yourself. Because you
are your own niche.
For example, you want to be the greatest writer in the world and you are
trying to figure out how to get there. Whatever you learn, you try to
experiment with in your life, whatever works, you share it with other people
as entertainment, inspiration or education. Once you start doing that, other
people will start applying your learnings in their lives, and once they apply
those learnings and see results, they will consider you an authority, and
when you have that authority, you’ve built your personal brand in front of
them.
Branding is about trust. At the end of the day, I am doing something that
ten other people are also doing. But I’m providing it in a much better way
so that people now see that they’re getting more value out of me. When
they see that, they’re going to differentiate me from the other speakers: Raj
is much more brutal and real than the others. So, everyone is a speaker, but
how do you identify someone who speaks honestly? You tag them as Raj.
There are hundreds of Rajs as well. How do you differentiate between
them? Then Raj becomes Raj Shamani. That’s what a personal brand is for
me. That’s the tag of trust. You build trust by continuously providing value
in people’s lives. When you do that, people consider you an authority—and
until and unless you are an authority, they won’t trust you.
Key Takeaways
Nothing happens with talent; the game is only about consistency. Consistent effort =
Consistent growth.
All through my school, all through my life, I tried so, so many things. One
thing I got to know about myself is that I’m not creative at all. I’m the least
creative person around. The only thing I know, the only thing I am a master
of is discipline. When I’m making content, I rarely go, ‘Oh! I have got this
amazing idea and I am going to make a new product around it.’ No. All I
know is, today, at 6 p.m., a reel has to go up. If I don’t have it ready yet,
then I have to make it. It doesn’t matter what I’m going to make, but I know
I’m going to make something. I force myself to create, I’m not a creative
person.
When it comes to business, I apply the same discipline. When the
pandemic hit, my usual products were put to a halt, and I knew I had to
make new products in order to sustain my business. I didn’t have any
amazing ideas that I knew for sure were going to work. So, how was I
creative about building a product that would actually work?
I started with sanitizers, because that was the need of the hour. Now, I
had to decide between premium and low-priced. I decided to make it
premium and launched a disinfectant spray. Soon, I realized I would have to
make a low-cost product as well because the premium range only had a
limited market. So, I launched a toilet cleaner. Once I launched the toilet
cleaner, I realized homes need floor cleaners as well, so I launched that as
well, because most people buy toilet cleaners and floor cleaners at the same
time. And then I thought, let’s launch a handwash too.
So, in six months I launched five new products. Out of these, I stopped
three, and the other two products are still working well. If I had just sat
around thinking how I should creatively make a product which has a nice
bottle, smells good, and can beat the existing brands, I would never have
been able to launch any product.
I don’t have creativity, I have discipline. If I have to launch a new
product this month, I will. I don’t know what product I it is, but I will make
it. I don’t know what reel I have to post today, but I will post a reel. I have
discipline that forces me to keep on creating. And as I keep creating, my bar
keeps getting set higher—I want to create something better than what I
created yesterday. I keep on doing that every single day, so at the end of the
tenth day, whatever I create is going to be better or more ‘creative’ than
what was done on the first day. It is going to be an improved version of my
original idea. This is how you can be creative too—by creating on a
consistent basis.
Do you have a basic sketch of an idea? Go ahead with it. Start creating,
start posting, take people’s feedback, see how you can improve, post the
improved content the next day and keep repeating the same steps. As you
keep creating, you’ll keep improving. You just need to be better than who
you were yesterday. That’s it. Do that, and it will be a game-changer.
Key Takeaways
1. Build systems to keep you consistent and that will force you to get
better.
2. There is no one talented enough who can’t be beaten by consistency.
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Growth
You know how to achieve 50x growth in a year? By growing 1x every week.
Think of growing 1 per cent every day, instead of 100 per cent in one day.
When you start hustling early in life, you don’t have to worry about whether
you’ll be able to pay rent tomorrow, and it gives you a certain peace of
mind. Sure, some things take more effort, some take less effort, but once
your business is set up, the struggling period is over, and then you just
enjoy it.
Most people don’t do anything in their life because they are comfortable.
The biggest step they have to take is leaving that comfort zone. Sure, that is
a big step, but the life you live after is worth everything.
I’ve always been a pampered child. Growing up, I didn’t have to do
anything on my own, I never had to make my own bed, never had to clean
or anything. Then I chose a career in public speaking and with that too I
was very comfortable. I stayed in luxurious hotels and that meant I didn’t
have to do anything myself.
In early 2021, I decided to move to Mumbai, and then I had to do all the
little things on my own. These little things keep you organized and give you
a sense of responsibility; you know that there are things that need to be
taken care of on an everyday basis because, if they aren’t, you’re going to
have cockroaches in your home. And this is something you need to apply to
all aspects of your life. If you don’t put in effort every day, things will rot.
So I learnt a lot after coming out of that comfortable bubble I was living in.
The only reason I did it was because I knew I wouldn’t be able grow as
much if I stayed in my comfort zone.
Earlier, I was someone who wouldn’t share another person’s content
when I thought it was good. I would wonder why I didn’t think about this
first? And I’d hope that others wouldn’t watch that content. This was
because I felt inferior. When he realized that I felt inferior, my dad tried to
help me overcome it, not by buying me things but by making me more
confident. Now, this new Raj shares every good thing he comes across.
Now, I take inspiration instead of getting intimidated.
See, I still think ‘why didn’t I make this’ when I see someone posting
something good. But now I also think, ‘This is great, and I’ll be inspired by
you. Your good content will push me to do better myself. I don’t care
whether you have 300 followers or 300k followers, I’ll still post you. I
don’t care whether you are a small creator or a larger-than-life brand. I like
your content, I’ll share it.’ It gives me a reality check—Raj, there are others
who are making better content than you and if you don’t up your game,
you’ll cease to exist. If I need to move forward, I need to make great
content like this.
There’s no space for jealousy in my life anymore, there’s just inspiration
and growth.
Let me tell you a secret tip to grow: whomever you’re jealous of, start
promoting them. Now, there are two things: one, it takes A LOT OF effort
to promote someone, and two, you feel better about yourself when you do
it. You feel that you are becoming a part of this person’s journey; it may be
small, but you are a part of it. Once you start doing this, you automatically
get into the give, give, give mindset, and that’s a game-changer.
Give, give, give so much that the other person feels guilty and will give
you something in return.
Key Takeaway
Since childhood we have been taught, if you have taken something, give
something back; use this to your advantage. Give to people up front, so they
always feel like giving something back.
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Why I’m Unbeatable
Your audience will move on if you don’t give them new reasons to stay every day.
When you work hard on something you’re passionate about, money is a byproduct that
will show up at your door sooner or later.
Key Takeaways
If you want to make money, work on the things that are trending today; but if you want to
become filthy rich, work on things that will be trending ten years from now.
Everyone who has become a billionaire has done so by playing a game that will be
relevant ten years on. Mark Zuckerberg started building a social media platform years
ago, Jeff Bezos started building an e-marketplace years ago, that’s why they are rich
today. They invested in the future and played a long game, a very long game.
Key Takeaway
Decide on your short-term and long-term goals and start working on them
immediately.
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Things I Wish I Was Taught in School
1. Asset Allocation
The stock market has historically been the best-performing asset class
beating gold and debt by a huge margin. So, for long-term goals (>seven
years), logic would dictate that we should invest all our money in equity
instruments such as stocks and equity mutual funds.
Over the past thirty years, 100 per cent equity investment was only 0.4
per cent better than an equal allocation strategy across equity, debt and
gold, but at the same time it was twice as risky.
Research conducted by Capitalmind found that a simple equal
allocation strategy, i.e., 25 per cent Indian stocks, 25 per cent US stocks,
25 per cent gold and 25 per cent debt, showed 14 per cent compound
annual growth rate (CAGR) over the past thirty years but with half the
risk. Meaning for only a 0.4 per cent reduction in CAGR compared to the
100 per cent investment in Indian stocks mentioned above, the risk
reduced by half.
Thus, asset diversification is paramount to improve our risk-adjusted
returns and quality of sleep at night. The research further goes on to say
that the best asset allocation for long-term investing, such as retirement
or financial independence, is 50 per cent Indian stocks, 25 per cent US
stocks, 15 per cent debt and 10 per cent gold.
2. Life Insurance
Before investing even a single rupee on mutual funds or stocks, it is
important to take care of two things—health insurance and life insurance.
Out of the two, the amount required for life insurance can be a little
tricky to calculate because, unlike health insurance which only takes care
of medical expenditure, life insurance needs to account for our entire
lifetime value which would incorporate our lifestyle, future plans,
dependents, liabilities, etc.
Purchasing a simple term insurance policy is the most economical and
smartest way to purchase life insurance. Avoid money-back policies such
as endowment and ULIPs since they have very high premiums.
Having said that, it might also be a good idea to purchase ‘riders’ or
add-ons to our term insurance policy to cover exceptional circumstances.
The most popular riders are explained below:
Accidental death: If you pass away due to an accident, your family
gets an additional amount over and above the basic policy. This rider is
usually taken by people who work in hazardous environments like
factories or by people who travel frequently.
Accidental disability: If you are partially or completely disabled due to
an accident then you get paid a certain percentage of the sum assured
over five to ten years.
Critical illness: If you are diagnosed with a critical illness like cancer,
or have had a heart attack or are paralysed, you get paid a certain amount
of the sum assured.
3. Health Insurance
Get an insurance policy with restoration benefits especially if it’s
group insurance with your family.
• Avoid policies which have a limit on room rent.
• Avoid policies which have a co-payment clause in it.
• Prefer policies which do not have disease-wise sub limits.
• Prefer policies which have day-care treatments covered.
• Purchase policies with less waiting period, such as one or maximum
two years.
4. Investing in Gold
From an investment perspective, purchasing physical gold jewellery is
the worst way to go because you lose 12 per cent of its value as soon as
you walk out of the store due to ‘making charges’.
The best option is Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGB) issued by the RBI.
We can purchase up to 4 kg of gold bonds per year. They are issued in
denominations of 1 gram, and hence are affordable to most middle-class
investors. Gold appreciates at 6–7 per cent every year. SGB also gives a
2.5 per cent interest rate on top of this. This way, the effective returns
turn out to be 9–10 per cent.
The tax treaties of SGBs are very investor-friendly. The capital gains
component (i.e., tax on the normal 6–7 per cent appreciation of gold) is
completely tax-free and is held until maturity of eight years. The 2.5 per
cent interest rate is disbursed semi-annually and is taxable as per income
slab. The post-tax returns overall are still lucrative enough to make it an
essential requirement of our portfolio.
5. What Is Money?
The world revolves around money. But have you ever stopped to think
and ask yourself what exactly is money? The most common definition is
that money is a medium of exchange. But what exactly is being
exchanged?
The answer: TIME.
The only valuable asset that every person on this planet has is the
twenty-four hours we get every single day. It’s like businessman and
author Kevin O’Leary says, ‘Salary is the drug they give to make you
forget your dreams.’ To test this, simply ask yourself if you would go to
work every day if you had all the money in the world. Most likely the
answer would be ‘no’. All of us have other unconventional goals and
aspirations which we would like to explore before our time is done on
earth. That’s why financial independence is so important. Otherwise, you
will work for the rest of your life for people and companies who have
achieved financial independence.
6. Education Loans
The interest rate parity concept states that the interest rates in different
countries cannot be compared on an apple-to-apple basis.
Let’s take an example to understand this better. Let’s say you take a
$100k loan at a 10 per cent interest rate from both a US and an Indian
bank. This is roughly around Rs 80 lakh (assuming $1 = Rs 80). Let’s
assume that the repayment period is three years. In those three years, the
rupee would have depreciated against the dollar to an average of Rs 86
(Rs 80 to Rs 92). Also, the loan amount accumulated including interest
would be $132k or Rs 1.05 crore. Now, when you repay the US bank,
you have to repay the entire $132k. But when you repay the Indian bank,
you have to repay Rs 1.05 crore/Rs 86 = $122k. See the magic? You save
$8,000, which is about Rs 6.4 lakh. If you consider a longer repayment
period, the savings are even more.
So, that’s why a 10 per cent interest rate US loan is not equal to a 10
per cent interest Indian loan. It’s actually equivalent to a 15 per cent
interest rate Indian loan. Opt for a US loan only if the difference in
interest is greater than 5 per cent.
7. Psychology of Money
MRI studies have shown that the act of paying stimulates the same part
of the brain involved in processing physical pain. Hence, the time
duration of paying for an item plays a significant role in determining our
spending habits. When we pay for something in advance, we are far more
likely to enjoy the item as opposed to paying for it while consuming it.
This psychological bias is what brands leverage upon to alter our
purchasing behaviour. Amazon and Uber gift cards are prime examples
of this tactic, where we are asked to pay a certain amount in advance with
the lure of ‘CASHBACK’.
When the time comes to actually purchase the product or consume the
service, we do it guilt-free since the pain of paying has already occurred
in advance, thereby reducing ‘checkout friction’, which happens to be the
biggest friction point in the purchasing cycle.
In the process, we are also likely to spend more than we are
accustomed to, since the pain of paying has been eliminated altogether.
8. Tax-Saving Strategies
A home loan is most likely going to be the biggest loan of your life,
which would last for twenty to thirty years. During that period, the
government gives us multiple avenues to reduce the cost of home
ownership through tax breaks.
The law states that you can utilize up to Rs 2 lakh of the interest
payment in a year to reduce your taxable income. Also, you can utilize up
to Rs 1.5 lakh of the principal component in a year to reduce your taxable
income. Thus, the total reduction becomes Rs 3.5 lakh.
If you’re in the Rs 10 lakh+ income bracket, then that implies a
savings of 30 per cent of 3.5 lakh = Rs 1.05 lakh every year. You can
double this tax savings if you co-borrow the home loan with your spouse
or family members. Hence, it becomes very tax efficient to take a joint
home loan, especially when there are multiple working members in the
family.
• Caveat for interest deduction: Cannot be used when home is under
construction.
• Caveat for principal deduction: Home cannot be sold within five
years, else tax savings will be reversed.
9. Credit Card
A lot of us are clueless about the mechanics of a credit card when we
first get one. It may seem like a simple tool that enables us to spend
money and pay later but there are certain nuances which we need to be
aware of to avoid hefty interest expenses.
One of the jargons which deceive a lot of us newbies is the ‘minimum
amount due’. This amount is usually 5 per cent of the credit outstanding.
If you pay only the minimum amount due, you avoid getting tagged as a
defaulter and maintain your credit score, but it leads you into a spiralling
path of credit debt. No other lending product comes close to the sky-high
interest rates charged by credit card companies—they charge 2–3 per
cent per month (~40 per cent annualized).
Also, if you’re paying only the minimum amount due, the interest gets
calculated on a daily basis from the day of transaction. Meaning, even if
the payment was due five days back but the purchase was made twenty
days back, the interest would be calculated for the entire twenty days,
and not five days. However, if you had paid the entire amount due, the
interest would be zero.
If you’re unable to pay off the entire amount due, it would be better to
convert it into a low-cost EMI, balance transfer or personal loan.
Another thing about credit cards is the CIBIL score. It is a score that
represents your credit worthiness. It ranges between 300 to 900, the
higher the score the better. A higher CIBIL score gives you benefits like
low interest loans, better car insurance, etc., whereas a lower score may
result in rejection of credit card or loan application.
How can you increase your CIBIL score? Here are some tips:
• Ensure you spend only 30 per cent of your credit limit per month.
• Ask your bank to increase your credit limit. You need to show that
despite having a lot more credit, you keep your utilization low, thus
improving your score.
• Get a secured card against a fixed deposit and repay the balance on
the due date.
• Avoid being a guarantor of loans or having a joint account because
any default from the other party will reduce your score.
• Have a good credit mix of secured and unsecured loans.
• Pay on time.
4. How to Make New Friends and the Art of Networking with People
Something I was never taught was how to make friends and network
with people. It is one of the most important and fundamental skills that
everybody needs to possess, but only a few are born with it. Students
should be taught how to approach people, help them get in touch, how to
start a conversation, or talk in a room where no one is talking. All these
skills can be taught, and schools should be focusing on this because it’s
what helps you evolve as a person going forward.
5. Copywriting
Copywriting is the ability to write content that makes people act.
Putting your ideas into words and pushing it out in a way that it creates
an impact. Copywriting is basic psychology—how a change in wording
can change everything for you. And it is a skill that must be taught in
school very early on.
8. Brand Building
People don’t buy ‘anything’, people buy a ‘brand’. To build a
successful business, you have to build a brand. Why do people want to
buy an iPhone instead of a Micromax? How a brand name impacts its
business is something that must be taught in school.
9. Basics of Economics
Teaching kids how numbers work, how economics work, basics of
economics, savings, investment, etc., is very crucial. Inflation as a topic
is something that schools need to teach kids very early on. The biggest
problem I have with the education system is that they don’t teach kids
how money works, and that needs to change.
Eight Things I Wish I Was Taught in School about Social Media and Beyond
By Ranveer Allahbadia (social media entrepreneur)
Instagram: @beerbiceps
1. Education Degree
When I was starting out, people told me I should focus on getting a
degree rather than wasting my time on social media. But we live in a
modern world and, in this world, we don’t necessarily need a higher
education to earn a living. Sure, in certain corporate jobs you need formal
education, but you can bridge even that gap by self-educating through
courses or the internet. Your knowledge is always going to be more
valuable than the degree you hold.
3. Wellness
It is important to focus on your health and wellness. Eating right,
exercising, meditating, etc., increases your mental endurance in the long
run. The higher the level of your mental endurance, the more you will be
able to push forward in life. Your mental endurance is as important as the
skills you need to get ahead. You need to inculcate wellness habits from
when you are in college itself, and follow them for the rest of your life.
6. Video Skills
Video skills are something people take for granted. Some people think
that, since the future is virtual reality, video skills won’t be required
much, but the truth is all this is an extension of one skill only, i.e., video
editing. The deeper you go into video editing, the more you will grow on
social media. Video skills are much more than just editing; it includes
storytelling as well. It is something that is both an inherited skill and
something you can learn. The inherited part of it is the way you look at
your life and your experiences, whereas you can also learn through
improving your communication skills.
If I was to start from zero, if everything that I have is gone, then how would
I start an investment journey to become a millionaire? Read and start taking
notes because I’m sure that you will have your investment plan ready by the
end of this section.
Whether you are a college-going kid, a person in your thirties or a person
starting their investment journey post retirement, you can follow these
seven steps to become a millionaire. Those who have thought, ‘I want to
invest but don’t know how to’, or those who listened to their friends or
somebody on the internet and started investing, but don’t know what to do
next—this is for you too.
1. Know Your Money
First of all, find out how much money you have. If you get a salary
every month then how much is it, or if you have an income then how
much is that, or even if you get pocket money then how much is it?
Whatever money you get on a monthly basis, note that down and then
add your old savings or investments that you have made earlier.
Once you have done that, make a list of necessary monthly expenses—
food, electricity, travel, car, etc. Once you know how much is your
income and how much you need to spend, only then will you be able to
decide what you want to do next, or how you can start investing.
2. Set Goals
You know how much money you have; now you must be confused
about where you should invest. Mutual funds are there, stocks, equity,
gold, crypto, so many things . . . WAIT. First of all, figure out why do you
want to invest?
You won’t be able to reach your destination if you don’t know where
to go and what is the destination. So, what are your goals? Why do you
want to invest? Goals can be anything like to buy a big house, a luxury
car, international vacations, education, kids, anything. Write down all
your goals and assign a period to each one. Everything must have a time
period. For example, I want to retire by the age of forty-five, I want a
new car in the next five years, I want to be able to buy a house in the next
ten years and go on a vacation to Europe next year. Now, what did I do
for every goal? I attached it to a particular timeline. Once you have your
goals and a clear vision about timelines, you will be able to choose the
right investment options to achieve them. Different plans are suitable for
different goals. One type of investment won’t achieve all your goals.
5. Investment Strategy
This is the most important part. Now that you know your goals and
your risk appetite, it is time to decide on an investment strategy that will
help you earn the highest returns possible.
Now, write your long-term goals, medium-term goals and short-term
goals on one side of a paper. In the long-term column, write ‘high risk’,
write ‘medium risk’ in the medium-term goals column, and write ‘low
risk’ in the short-term goals column. Do this right now, on a piece of
paper. Your investment strategy should be decided according to this. Your
money grows the quickest in high-risk investments, but it also has the
highest risk of tanking too. So only invest in high-risk investments when
you don’t need that money for the next five to ten years. Only then will
you be a fruitful investor. High risk, high returns mean US stocks, crypto,
and small equity funds.
Now, your medium-risk investments are for when you need money in
three to five years. Like blue chip companies, large cap companies, and
large cap mutual funds. Your low-risk investments are for when you want
the money in a year or two years, like debt funds, government bonds,
digital gold, these are comparatively safe and they have less returns too.
So, formulate your investment strategy as per the basis of your goals and
what you want and your risk analysis. That will also help you stay on
track with your investment strategy.
6. Insurance
Life is unpredictable; we don’t know which problem will arise when,
particularly when it comes to issues related to your health, the life of
someone in the family or accidents. I know many people who made great
investment plans but had to remove their money because of urgent
medical needs, and because of that they were not able to achieve their
goals even though they were on the right track. That’s why the best way
to keep yourself and your family and the money that you have invested
safe is to get insurance. And the best age to get insurance is right now.
Because the younger you are, the lesser the premium you will have to
pay.
Generally, one should have at least two types of insurance: life
insurance and health insurance.
4. Cryptocurrency
Cryptocurrencies are all the hype right now. You can start small and, as
you keep learning about it, you can keep increasing your investment.
6. Others
You can invest a small portion of your investment in things which are
new or a craze in the West, because by the time they reach India, they’d
have grown many times over already. A few such things are NFTs,
sneakers, art, wine, etc. I invest a small portion in these fast-growing
technologies or ideas, and highly valuable items.
Five Things I Wish I Was Taught in School about Money and Investing
By Rachna Ranade (chartered accountant)
Instagram: @ca_rachanaranade
1. Savings
I think the first thing that should be taught in schools is saving—what
is saving, why is it important to save, etc. A lot of kids in school think it’s
very easy to access money, they don’t even understand where money
comes from or how much effort is required to earn money. They need to
be taught that their parents work every day, day in and day out, and after
putting in a lot of effort they get paid for whatever work they do; and that
they have to spend from that money and whatever amount is left after
that is their savings. If kids are taught at this basic level in school, they
will have an understanding of why saving is important and its benefits for
a household as a whole. And it is something which can very easily be
taught in schools through stories as well.
2. Insurance
Just saving isn’t enough. Kids need to be taught how they can protect
the money they have saved as well. Even this can be easily taught in a
story format. Suppose you have something which is very valuable to you,
let’s say, an iPhone. Someone comes to you and tells you that if you pay
Rs 2000 to them now, they are going to protect your iPhone for the next
two years. That is, if anything happens to your phone—it breaks or gets
stolen—they’ll give you another iPhone. Now, if nothing happens, he’ll
still keep that Rs 2000. That person is the insurer, the amount you paid is
called premium, and the service you’re getting is insurance.
3. Taxes
Students should be introduced to the basics of taxes, like what are
direct taxes, indirect taxes and GST. They should be taught the
importance of taxes and why people have to pay taxes. Once we grow up,
it’s all about how to save taxes, but it should be taught why the country
needs tax collection, how we are contributing to a bigger cause by paying
these taxes, how the government needs money to spend on infrastructure
and how it in turns help us as citizens. We should feel happy while
paying taxes—we are contributing towards the success of the economy.
4. Investment
The first thing that needs to be taught about investment is the risk-
return pyramid. Imagine a pyramid. The base of the pyramid is where the
risk is the lowest and also the return is the lowest; the more we move
towards the tip of the pyramid, the more the risk and the return on the
investment increases. Fixed deposits with nationalized banks, post office
schemes, etc., come at the bottom of the pyramid. Above it would be
mutual funds, then above that would be equity, above that would be
crypto, above that would be collectibles or NFTs. If this pyramid is
taught in school, people will know which asset class has the highest risk
and which has the lowest. Everyone should do their risk profiling
according to their risk appetite. People who can’t take risks should invest
in fixed deposits; people who have a high-risk appetite can go for NFTs,
etc.
3. Time Management
Time management is the most important life skill that one can have. If
you know how to manage your time better, you can have a four-hour
working day and achieve as much as you would in a ten-hour working
day. Time management is a skill which should be taught in school like
algebra, because it is the solution to living a balanced and fulfilling life.
4. Networking
Networking is a skill which you need in your day-to-day life. Schools
don’t teach us how to network. People complicate networking as well.
You know someone, who knows someone, who knows someone else—
this chain is basically called networking. Now, how can you do that?
More often than not, networking is done with the intention of getting to
know someone instead of having an end goal in mind. You need to
identify people you would be interested in knowing. After that, all you
need to do is know how to make conversation. And how can you make
conversation? By talking about something that the other person would
want to engage in. Find common ground—it could be anything that
interests both of you—and ask questions that the other person would
want to answer. By the end of the conversation, you would know
someone who would know twenty other people who would know fifty
other people who could help you in the future.
Three Things I Wish I Was Taught In School about Making Money
By Nikhil Kamath (entrepreneur)
Instagram: @nikhilkamathcio
They don’t teach you anything about making money in school—that is the
whole problem.
1. Timing Is Everything
The first thing school fails to teach us is that timing is everything.
What you do when determines how well you do it—for example, what
business you should start and when. If you’re graduating from college
today, are you going to start a business which is working now or a
business which will be relevant in the next decade? Choosing the right
industry and right job at the right time is very important. How can you do
that? When you are out of school, what do you do to find the right course
or college for yourself? You research. And that’s what you need to do
here too.
2. How to Be Disciplined
You don’t have to wait for some major event to happen in your life in
order to do the right things. Discipline comes from doing the right things.
And you do the right things when you have bigger goals in mind.
Discipline comes from having good habits. Having a good set of people
around you also helps you to be more disciplined.
One Thing I Wish I Was Taught in School
By Raj Shamani
Instagram: @rajshamani
One thing school doesn’t teach us is how to figure out things. They tell us a
set path to follow, and a way to learn and do things. Schools never teach us
how to get stuff done either; we should be taught how to make things
happen. Schools should become more practical and less theoretical. Instead
of making us repeat what we crammed from a sheet of paper, schools need
to help us figure out things for ourselves.
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