Emotional Inhibition Schema

Emotional Inhibition Schema
The emotional inhibition schema is defined as the excessive inhibition of

spontaneous action, feeling or communication-usually to avoid disapproval by
others, feelings of shame, or losing control of one’s impulses. The most common
areas of inhibition involve:
• inhibition of anger and aggression
• inhibition of positive impulses (e.g., joy, affection, sexual excitement, play)
• difficulty expressing vulnerability or communicating freely about one’s
feeling and needs
• or excessive emphasis on rationality while disregarding emotions
As Rune Moelbak discusses “In the book “Meeting the Shadow”, poet Robert Bly
speaks of life as a process of hiding ever more things in a bag we drag behind us.
Over time the bag grows larger and larger. From having an initial 360-degree
personality, we gradually discover that not all aspects of ourselves invite positive
reactions. To keep our sense of being loved and liked, we therefore start stuffing our
bag with all the parts that aren’t acceptable. Sadly, after we have gone through our
childhood and adolescence, we end up with only a slice of
ourselves out in the open. As Bly states, “We spend our life until
we’re twenty deciding what parts of ourselves to put in the bag, and
we spend the rest of our lives trying to get them out again”
Why We Lose Touch with Our Emotions:
Diana Fosha, in her book “The Transforming Power of Affect” gives
a good overview of some the events that can happen in a person’s
life to make them lose touch with the full scope of their emotions.
Generally speaking, our comfort with our own emotions stem from our experiences
of others being able to handle them, or not. If others either fail to acknowledge our
emotions, disapprove of them, or jump in to provide solutions prematurely, our
emotions can become scary. Without the support of another who can help us
express and process our emotions, our emotions can feel unwieldy and
overwhelming. They can also be felt as shameful or as weak. In either case our “bag”
of unwanted emotions begins to grow as a result of;
• A mother who is overly anxious about our desire to explore the world, can
unwittingly convey the message that exploration is dangerous.
• A father who becomes sullen when we express criticism, can convey the message
that criticism is hurtful and should be avoided at all cost.
• A peer who laughs at us for confiding in them, can make us feel weak or ashamed
about sharing our vulnerabilities.”
These experiences lead to an Emotional Inhibition Schema that often drives the
Detached Protector – the mode that you flip into when being asked to be vulnerable,
to let out emotions or express yourself. Rune Moelbak describes how this can look. I
would say our Detached Protector can be like
• “a self-reliance so strong that we will never get hurt again by anyone, but
may find ourselves lonely and unfulfilled
• disowning our rightful indignation and anger and allow ourselves to be
abused or mistreated
• an inability to become excited because our fear of loss outweighs our courage
to risk.”
• a flat and unresponsive way of being in
relationships – a wall that our partner can’t
get over and a wall that traps us in
An emotional inhibition schema often edits out one
whole emotion, so life can only be experienced with
mixes of sadness and joy, but perhaps not anger. Or
anger and fear, but not joy. Like trying to create a
range of colours using only 2 basic colours, our life
can get very limited
Each time we shrink from life or disavow a basic
human emotion, we act against ourselves. The result of cutting off access to part of
who we are will often lead to depression, or permanent numbness.
As you understand your schema, the origins and the way it impacts you, you can
start to develop your Healthy Adult; who can
• give permission to feel and express a range of experiences
• make sure you have safe people to express yourself to
• see the impact of “bagging” all the parts you were told are not OK and can
start to let them out, showing compassion, rather than judgment
• write a letter to the person (or culture) who taught you it wasn’t OK to
express yourself and tell them the impact that has had on you
You will also need to find the Happy Child part of you that has been squashed or
shamed. You might like to
• try watching funny youtube clips and let yourself laugh out loud
• try a dancing /drama/drawing class
• get close to nature and allow yourself to be
curious
• play with children and let their spontaneity
rub off
• play a game from childhood with friends;
Twister, charades, jumping in puddles
• put some music on and dance
The goal is being able to paint with all of the
emotional colours you were born with and even make a mess sometimes
Quotations are taken from a blog post by Rune Moelbak
http://www.bettertherapy.com/blog/emotional-inhibition/
Ruth Holt, 2019

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