Personal Development

Knowing Oneself

Selfconcept

 Way people things about

themselves
 Shapes and defines who we are

SELF-CONCEPT is our individual

perception of ourselves. A mental Lao Tsu - Knowing other is
picture of who you are as a person. intelligence, knowing yourself is true
wisdom. Mastering other is strength,
Rene Descartes – The mind is the seat
knowing yourself is true power.
of consciousness.
Carl Rogers – The degree to which a
person’s self-concept matches up to
reality is known as congruence and
incongruence.

KNOWING AND UNDERSTANDING

ONESELF DURING MIDDLE AND
LATE ADOLESCENCE
Self-image Our personal effectiveness depends
o How you see yourself on our innate characteristics’ talent
and experience.
Self-esteem
Talents first are needed to be
o How much you value yourself identified and then developed to be
o The evaluation of your own used in a particular subject area
worth, may be postive or Experience includes knowledge and
negative skills that we acquire in the process
Positive self esteem of cognitive and practical activities.

o Pleasing and acceptable Knowledge – required for setting goals

according to your standards Skills – determine whether real
Rosenburg – Most common self report actions are performed in accordance
measures of self esteem with plan.

Idea self Determination – allows you to focus

only on achieving a specific goal
o How you wish you could be without being distracted by less
important things.

Self- Confidence - a result of getting

aware of yourself
Persistence – makes you keep moving 3. Scriptwriter
forward regardless of emerging This person does not only watch, and
obstacles. she doesn’t only act, but she actually
creates the entire movie from her
Managing Stress – helps combat
mind. She determines what she will
stress that arises in daily life.
say, what she will do, and how the
Problem-solving skills – help cope with movie will end. She realizes she has
the problems encountered with a lack enormous control over her life, and
of experience. sees to it that the movie of her life

Creativity – allows you to find will turn out beautiful.

extraordinary ways to carry out a Producer

specific task. The Producer of the movie is God.

He tells you, “Make the movie
Generating Ideas – helps you achieve beautiful, and I will give you all
goals using new, original, that you need for success.”
unconventional ideas.

three kinds of people in this world:

1. Moviegoer Developmental Stages

This person watches the movie of 1. Prenatal (Conception to birth)

their lives, admires some parts and Age when hereditary
criticizes others. Aside from endowments and sex are fixed
that, they do nothing else. All she and all body features, both
says the whole day is, “I like this external and internal are
thing and but I don’t like that thing.” developed.
The Moviegoer feels she has 2. Infancy ( Birth to 2 years)
absolutely no control of their lives --- Foundation age when basic
except to comment about it. behavior is organized, and many
Moviegoers are the most pathetic, onto-genetic maturation skills
miserable people in the world. are developed
2. Actor 3. Early Childhood (2-6 years)
This person does not only watch the Pre-gang age, exploratory, and
movie of her life. She actually realizes questioning. Language and
she’s the Actor – and can control a big Elementary reasoning are
part of her life. She can actually make acquired and initial
or break the movie – by how well she socialization is experienced.
delivers her lines and how she 4. Late Childhood (6-12 years)
portrays her character. Actors are a Gang and creativity age when
happy bunch, realizing they’re the selfhelp skills, social skills,
start of the show and enjoy some school skills, and play are
level of control. But many times, they developed.
wish the movie would end in another 5. Adolescence (puberty to 18
way – but realize that they have no years)
say in such things.
 Transition age from childhood
to adulthood when sex
maturation and rapid physical
development occur resulting to
changes in ways of feeling,
thinking and acting.
6. Early Adulthood (18-40 years)
Age of adjustment to new
patterns of life and roles
such as spouse, parent and
bread winner. Middle Age (40
years to retirement)
Transition age when
adjustments to initial physical
and mental decline are
experienced.
7. Old Age (Retirement to Death)
Retirement age when
increasingly rapid physical and
mental decline are experienced

Robert James Havighurst –

developmental tasks theory is
continuous throughout the entire
lifespan.

THE POWER TRIAD: THOUGHTS,

FEELINGS AND ACTION

Behavior is sometimes described

as a result of a cyclical process.
Situations - We all receive messages Managing Stress
about a given situation – both
o Learning how to prioritize tasks
messages from others and messages
and breaking them into
we send ourselves. The more clearly
manageable steps
we can label these messages, the less
likely they are to drive the cycle in an Stress Response
unhealthy direction.
o is the collection of physiological
Thoughts - We can retrain our brains changes
to identify automatic thoughts which
can be negative or unhelpful, interrupt
them and replace them with more ADULTING 101
constructive coping thoughts. 8 Ways to Become a Responsible
Feelings -Learning to name and rate Adolescent Prepared for Adult Life
our moods and cultivating mindfulness 1. Focus on your studies and do
can help us to connect to our well in all of your endeavors.
emotions, rather than being dictated There is time for everything.
to by them. Relaxation techniques can 2. Take care of your helath and
help ease the feelings of stress and hygiene
anxiety that can keep us stuck in 3. Establish good communication
unhealthy behaviors. and relation with your parents
4. Think a lot before doing
something
COPING WITH STRESS
5. Choose to do the right thing
What is stress? 6. Do your best to resist
temptations
o Anything that makes us feel
7. Respect yourself
threatened or pressured.
8. Be prepared to be answerable
o Emotional factor that causes
or accountable for your actions
bodily or mental tension.
and behaviors
Eustress
Physical Development
o Positive and beneficial, provide
 Most girls have completed
us with energy and motivation.
physical changes by age 15.
Stressor  Boys are still maturing and
are completing the
o Any event, experience or
development of sexual
environmental stimulus that
traits.
causes stress.
o Perceived as threats or Emotional Development
challenges and can be either
 Your emotions and feelings
physical or psychological
towards a specific situation
 Living a life consistent with your
values leads to improved well-
Social Development
being. Be aware of your own values
 Includes shifts in – of how you would like to lead your
relationship with parents life, behave towards others, and
from dependency treat yourself.
 Is more aware of social
5. Be kind to yourself
behavior of friends that
share same beliefs or Treat yourself with the same
interest, who become more kindness, concern and support
important you’d show a good friend facing
 Starts to have more struggles.
intellectual interest
6. Improve your work-life balance
Mental Development
We all have many roles in life. It is
 Becomes better to be able easy to feel pulled between
to set goals and think in responsibilities and it can be
terms of the future tempting to sacrifice important
 Has a better understanding parts of your life.
of complex problems
Taking time to wind down and enjoy
relaxing activities is an important
part of a balanced life and helps to
10 WAYS TO ENHANCE YOUR
reduce stress.
MENTAL HEALTH
7. Laugh loud, laugh often
1. Connect with others
Laughter really is good medicine.
Having deep, meaningful
Humor that expresses positive
relationships helps mental health.
emotion and messages (rather than
2. Keep your perspective humor that puts yourself or other

Avoiding difficult emotions or people down), is good for your

keeping feelings to yourself mental health.

reduces well-being. 8. Look after your body

3. Develop positive habits A good lifestyle supports mental

Positive psychology has introduced health. Research suggests that a

the concept of ‘flourishing’. This is diet rich in fruit and vegetables,

when you enjoy positive emotions, and regular moderate exercise,

healthy relationships, meaning and boosts your well-being.

purpose in life, and a sense of 9. Get enough sleep

accomplishment.
Getting quality sleep, and enough
4. Live up to your values of it, is essential for physical and
mental health.
10. Seek help when needed

There are many effective

treatments available for people
experiencing mental health
difficulties. Psychologists have a
range of approaches that can help
you with difficulties you may face
– and they are backed by evidence.

Padayon! :)