The Johari Window

1. What is the purpose of the Johari Window?

to help people better understand their relationships both with themselves, and with others; the things they
know/ dont know about themselves and the things others know/ dont know about me

2. What is the difference between a healthy and an unhealthy Johari Window?

Healthy: the public self (integrity) is the largest, the blind self is the next largest (humility), then the private
self (prudence) and the unknown self (love) are the smaller sections

Unhealthy: The unknown self (fear) is the largest, the private self is the next largest (foolishness and
ignorance), then the public self (deceit) and blind self (pride) are the smaller sections

3. What influences each of the parts to become healthy or unhealthy?

Healthy- integrity, humility, prudence, love
Unhealthy- fear, foolishness/ignorance, deceit, pride

Unhealthy Behaviors and their Motivating Fears

What are the potential fears which drive the following behaviors:

Laziness- fear of failure and conflict/confrontation

Overachieving- fear of failure and losing control
Lying- fear of the truth and their consequences
meanness & bullying- fear of being hurt again
playing the victim- fear of not getting attention and being found out and not being seen innovently in the way
you want people to think that you are
Arrogance-fear of facing imperfections and weaknesses
Jealousy- fear of rejection and being alone
Envy- fear of not being good enough and defining values by possessions
being judgmental and gossiping- fear of being inferior to others
Drinking and doing drugs- fear of missing out and not fitting in, not being accepted, not being able to handle
stress, anxiety, emotional pain, and reality
Anger- fear of being irrelevant, not mattering, not being validated and others not caring
Negativity- fear of being disappointed again

Love Notes
1. Memorize the 2-part definition of love. You will have to write it out on the quiz.
To extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one’s own and another's spiritual growth. To seek and foster
the good of another in context of his or her concrete situation

2. What are the 3 levels of love called and how are they defined?
1. Eros- the ultimate love relationship between man and woman in marriage
2. Philia- “friendship” or “brotherly love” with friends and family
3. Agape- univeral level of love for all individuals

3. Be able to identify what it means when I say, “I Love You?”

To oneself- (agape) taking care of oneself, respecting rights, trusting myself

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To a friend- (philia) I appreciate you, I am glad you are in my life, here for u and got ur back
To bf/gf- (philia) ty for your presence, i like you a lot and want to protect you
To gf/bf (philia) ty for your care and presence, I've given you my heart don't break it.
Husband- (eros) ty for your underlying commitment, being there through bad and good, what's mine is Urs
and what's Urs is mine
Parent to kid- (agape/philia)- i will protect you and take care of you and do you right
Kid to parent- (agape/philia)- i need you and want you, ty for another day
Siblings- (philia) i appreciate you for always having my back, i get to bully u but no one else gets to bully you
Nature- (agape) i appreciate what you give to me and i will take care of you
Things- (agape) i appreciate your convenience and purpose
God- (all 3) i appreciate your actual unconditional love, forgiveness, and sacrifice

Virtues
1. What is a virtue?
Special graces given by God to the soul for the accomplishment of objectives; habitual and firm disposition
to do good

2. What are the Cardinal Virtues, Capital Virtues, and Theological Virtues?
Cardinal-prudence, justice, fortitude, temperance
Capital-faith, hope, charity (love)
Theological- meekness, generosity, diligence, humility, chastity, brotherly love, temperance

3. You will be expected to match each of the 7 Deadly Sins with the corresponding Capital (remedial)
Virtue.
Meekness- Wrath
Generosity- Avarice (greed)
Diligence- sloth
Humility- pride
Chastity- lust
Brotherly love- envy
Temperance- gluttony

Paradigms
1. What is a paradigm? (Know the paradigms associated with a half glass of water.)
A belief, a perspective, the way we see things, POV, reference
“My perception of the world determines how i understand my experiences in the world”
½ empty+ toxic- cynic
½ empty- pessimist
½- realist
½ full- optimist
½ full and enough for all- idealist

2. What does a paradigm look like when it is driven by fear?

Cynic- a fear-driven paradigm tends to prioritize security and stability at the expense of individual freedoms,
social cohesion, and ethical considerations. It can lead to a society characterized by mistrust, division, and a
stifling of creativity and progress.

3. What does a paradigm look like when it is driven by love?

“idealist”- a love-driven paradigm fosters a culture of connection, care, and collaboration, aiming to create a

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world where all beings can thrive and flourish together.

4. What is a paradigm shift?

a fundamental change in approach or underlying assumptions.

Principles
1. What are principles?
Comprehensive and fundamental laws, rules or codes of conduct

Personality
1. What is the purpose for learning personality temperament?
serves the overarching purpose of enhancing self-awareness, improving relationships, fostering personal and
professional growth, and promoting understanding and acceptance of individual differences.

2. What are the 4 main personality temperaments (the 4 quadrants)?

1. From where do i get my energy- i/e
2. How do i understand the world- s/n
3. How do i decide- t/f
4.How do i deal with a pending decision- j/p

3. Know the typical characteristics of the 4 types, including their strengths, weaknesses, and their general
approach to life.
SJ- Like to be in control: well rounded, organized, get the job done, observant/ don't miss details, good
planners, strong work ethic but also... don't always understand/ relate 2 others, controlling, get frustrated
with complicated situations

SP- like to play fun, exciting, energetic, courageous but also...impulsive, rebellious, in rouble, easily angered,
“irresponsible”

NF- like to connect emotionally: smart, powerful, trouble shooters, problem solvers but also... cold, stubborn,
ego driven, miss details and important facts

NT- like to analyze: loving, romantic, supportive, loyal, compassionate but also...overly sensitive and easily
taken advantage of

4. What factors tend to influence changes in one’s personality over time?

Age, events, needs, experiences, relationships, education, training, work, parenting, awareness

5. Which is the best personality of the four? Hint: It’s not yours.
None or rather all

Christian Call Mid-Term Written Responses

Do not “wing” this part of the exam. Prepare your responses: think, plan, and write ahead of time.

1. Write the 2-part definition for LOVE presented in class.

To extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one’s own and another's spiritual growth. To seek and foster
the good of another in context of his ot her concrete situation
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 2. Identify and discuss the most useful Christian Call lesson which has been most helpful for you so
far. Be specific about the topic, what you have learned and how it has been helpful for you.
The main topics include: The Johari Window, Fear, Fear-Driven Behaviors, Love, Paradigms, Love,
Paradigm, Virtues, Principles, and Personality Temperaments.
When you discuss your lesson, introduce the lesson by providing context. As you describe what
you have gained from the lesson, present your discussion in the spirit in which it was presented and
taught. (125 words)
• Personality
• We took a 75-question quiz of a or b questions and when we tallied up our responses we were left
with 8 letters i,e,s,n,j,p,t,f and 4 categories, sj, sp, nf, nt. Based off the letters, whether we are intro
or extrovert, sensing, intuitive, feeler, thinker, juger or perceiver, we got to understand more of
our strengths and weaknesses
• This has really helped in the hard time i had been going through to understand more of the other
person and why he had been acting the way he was, as well as validate my feelings for feeling a
certain way and such
• It has allowed me to graceful on myself

3. Circle back to the obstacle(s) to faith in God you shared with me at the beginning of the semester.
* Identify and briefly describe your obstacle.
* Write a thoughtful reflection on 2 valuable and specific insights any of the first 10 Screwtape Letters
have offered you about the spiritual battle all humans are facing.
* As part of your discussion, touch on how this has changed your perspective, approach, and actions
towards your obstacle (remember, you are using the Screwtape Letters lessons to explain this). (150-200 words)

• My obstacles being weakness, anger, and always being afraid of something when it came to other
people all caused me to overthink and consume myself because they weren't giving me the same
energy as they had been for weeks, and it gave me anxiety and made me question my own self-
worth and still question my self-worth
• Screwtape has taught me that rn i am in a through and the devil is going to try to work rn to get
me to fall because i am at my lowest
• Screwtape has also taught me that parties and temptations will be in my face to truly throw me
off track into the demise of self-hatred
• I am currently fighting the battle with all that i know to prevent myself from being in any
situation where the tempters have the upper hand. I am utterly heartbroken right now but i know
if i let the tempters use me in my thorugh to get what they want, i would be doing all that ive
learnt a complete injustice