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Overcoming Rejection
Are you too shy regarding the first step? Are you afraid of failures? Then the dating tips
below can help.

Overcome Shyness Recommendation#1

Practice
If you suffer from being alone, then ANY practice is better than no practice. Go
and speak with old Grandmas in trams. Any practice is better than none. If you go shopping then go to the female cashier instead of the male and say "Hello" to her. Ask 20 women in a row "Where is the next Coca Cola factory?" or "What time is it?". Just random girls who pass by. After a little practice you can even start to say "Hello" to beautiful women on the street.
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Dating Rejection Tip#2

Make rejection your Goal

How can you survive a "turn-down" and a "failure of dating"?
Since a woman sitting alone in a bar is asked probably 10 times per night for a date she can (and will) turn you down easily (without further thought) while it may be very bitter FOR YOU.

Now there IS a strategy to work around this devastating experience: You should
WANT to be rejected. This may sound strange but is one of the most effective strategies: Make it your goal to be turned down at least 10 times per night. Laugh at rejections. Treat them as sport (you can not always win, can you?). You can even continue to keep this "goal to fail" during advanced stages of a dating (= when already talking, when going home with her, etc).

Let me make this clear for you: You WILL get rejected in about 90%-95% of the cases.
But it's not because of YOU it's simply because how things work. After you are more experienced that figure may drop.

You could even "start a night" with the prettiest girls around. Get rejected. Try with
less pretty girls. And so on.
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Getting Rejected Proposal#3

Double Rejection
You can even refine Make rejection your goal: Go out with another single male and
as each one of you gets rejected you have a lot to talk and laugh about. And, boy, can rejections be fun! And they surely are experiences.

After all, if you think about it, whether something is good or bad it's all a Point of
View.
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Overcome Shyness Suggestion#4

No date, no rejection
You can overcome dating failures by NOT TRYING TO PICK UP a girl. Why don't you
just start a small talk for the sake of a small talk? Just say "Hello, do you like cats?" or anything similar "unrelated to dating". Talk to her about... stuff. Don't be romantic. Just talk as if to a boy. This is an advice related to An offer a woman cannot refuse. And by the way: Women love to flirt in a non-sexual way. Just smalltalkin'.
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Dating Rejection Rule#5

Practice with a no-go partner

This is a side idea to No date, no rejection: You can approach a girl with whom you
would never start a dating usually. Just to train how to talk to a woman.
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Overcomimg Shyness Recommendation#6

Fear of failure
All rejection fears come down to the Fear of Failure. But how in the world can you be
self-confident and able and have less fear of failure if you refuse to practice? Imagine you were afraid to go to the kitchen and to open the fridge and to get a Pepsi. Imagine instead of just doing that you would sit and think and think and think about the horror of failure. There is no sense in that is it? After all it is you who decides whether you want to look back on "a life full of chances not taken" or "a life with many used opportunities and a few failures".
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Overcome Shyness Rule#7

Women you should avoid

To lower the chances of a rejection you should NOT try to contact these women:
Women Women Women Women Women Women Women who who who who who who who are in a hurry looked stressed are upset are too young for you obviously have a boy-friend fold their arms are known to fool men

Don't get me wrong: You can always TRY, because this is merely an advice to reduce
the failure rate. If you don't mind about rejections then go ahead and talk to those stressed business women running to catch a taxi...

Please also read Legitimate Reasons for a Rejection.

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Getting Rejected Rule#8

You can not be liked by everyone

This is a side note to Make Rejection your Goal: It is practically impossible to be
liked by 100% of people. Just visit the site AmIAnnoying.com . Compare the most disliked and the most liked celebrities: The most liked celebs are at 40% (= only 40% dislike them). The least liked celebs get 70% (= 70% dislike them, 30% like them)

Here are a few examples:

Usama Bin Ladin: 70% think he is annoying (= 30% think he is not annoying) Adolf Hitler: 70% think he is annoying Claudia Schiffer: 70% think she is annoying Stalin: 70% think he is annoying Britney Spears: 70% think she is annoying Jack the Ripper: 70% think he is annoying Michael Jackson: 70% think he is annoying George W. Bush: 60% think he is annoying Paul McCartney: 50% think he is annoying Led Zeppelin: 40% think the group is annoying Jesus: 40% think he is annoying These are just examples, but as you see, WHATEVER YOU DO you don't get below 40% or above 70%.
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Getting Rejected Tip#9

Legitimate Reasons for a Rejection

Please also accept that THERE ARE legitimate reasons why a girl may reject you:
The girl just married The girl has a boy-friend with whom she is happy The girl has several lovers and doesn't need more The girl has an incurable infectious disease The girl has current body pains The girl is a lesbian The girl has religious reasons (e.g. she's a Jehova's witness and marries only other Jehovah's witnesses) The girl has ethnical reasons (e.g. her parents are Turkish and only allow Turkish boy-friends) The girl doesn't like you (yes, it's her right to like or dislike people at her own request) You remind her of somebody she deeply dislikes. Ok, this is probably not a legitimate reason per se, but understandable. ...

Thus if she rejects you IT DOES NOT mean that it's YOUR fault. Yes, she might be a bit
unfriendly (or maybe she is very friendly in rejecting you), but the above reasons are legitimate for a rejection.

In other words #1:

Every guy (no matter how good looking) gets rejected from time to time. In other words #2: It's a number's game. The more girls you ask the more you can date. In other words #3: Move on. When she's not interested then it means..... she's not interested. No more than that. In other words #4: If you don't move on but instead try and try to convince her, then you not only break some of the rules of this site, but you also run straight into a rejection... and you're the only one to blame.

Please also read Women you should avoid.

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Being Rejected Advice#10

Reasons for shyness

Please read You can not be liked by everyone and Make Rejection your Goal and
No date, no rejection first. There are 2 main reasons for shyness/ lack of self-confidence: 1) You are afraid what others think of you 2) You are afraid of a failure Reasons 1 & 2 can be "trained away". 1) Don't give a damn what others think of you. As long as you don't behave like the last Neanderthal jerk you shouldn't be afraid of anything. You won't see most of the women you fail to pick up ever again anyway (unless you live in a small village). So why worrying? Moreover if you are friendly and well behaving then there is no reason why she should scare you off. She will be friendly, too. If she is unfriendly for no reason then you learned enough about her to not date her anyway.

2) Imagine the worst failure there can be and realize that it isn't that bad even if it
became true. You can train with another male single to reject you. You play the game of "Asking and Rejecting". You try to pick him up and he rejects you. Once you get used to get rejected it feels less painful. If you don't have anybody to train, then write down "rejection quotes" (see Rejection Quotes) and realize they are just words.

Think of that too: Most men are shy but they took action nevertheless. So what was
the difference between you (shy) and them (shy)? The action! What is the difference between you (shy) and the jerk (who has a girlfriend)? The action!

Stop thinking about having a girl-friend and get one!

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Overcomimg Shyness Rule#11

Beauty causes Trust causes Pain

There seems to be an interesting thing about beauty: We tend to believe what
beautiful people say. We tend to trust beautiful people. That means that we lower our "defense system" to what beautiful people say. Since generally in our opinion beautiful people can't be bad they obviously are good and always tell the truth. In other words: Being rejected by beautiful people is more than a rejection. It's a rejection with an exclamation mark, because the rejection is "more believable, more true, more direct and more valid".

It's triple bad: 1) Because a person rejected you 2) Because a beautiful person rejected you 3) Because you invalidate yourself by accepting easily what the beautiful person says Thus you could state that beauty hypnotizes, and although my words won't protect you completely, you may now be less prone to this kind of emphasized self-hypnosis.
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Getting Rejected Suggestion#12

Rejection Quotes
Read the following female rejection quotes and realize they are just words. These
quotes are about anything that can happen to you. Be prepared to hear them and prepare yourself not to become the effect of them. "No thank you" "Sorry, you're not my type" "I have a boy-friend" "Get off" "Get off, you moron" "You? Never!!" "Shut up" "Don't waste your time" "Don't waste my time" "No thanks, you are ugly!" "No way" "Phew!" "Everybody has wishes" "Fuck you" "No, not with you" "You can ask my dog. Maybe he will take you" "Don't even dare!" "Grow a bit more and come back later" "If you were the last man on earth I wouldn't date you" "Sorry, but I am concentrating on my career" "Don't even try" "You stink" "Fuck off" "Are you a man or a woman?" "Get me a beer and get off" "Sorry, I am not in the right mood for this" "Sorry, I am not THAT kind of girl" "Hey, girls, look at him" "Oh, god, not again" "Do I look like I would hang out with guys like you?" "Go to Jerry Springer, you freak" "With you? Why should I?" "I don't date co-workers" "Yeah, but I don't like YOU" "It's not you. It's me" "Would you please leave me alone" "Where did they let YOU out?" "I don't date neighbors" "No, I just want to have friendly relationship. I need a friend not a lover" "You're too old" "You're 20 years too old" "You're too young" "You're not my age" "With you? Look at you!" "You are too fat" "YOU come to a girl like ME? Don't you have eyes in your head?" "Sorry, I just talk to pretty men" "My life is too complicated right now." "Is here any nest where jerks like you come out?" "You are too skinny" "I just split up. I need some time out"

"I am a lesbian" "Sorry, mate, I am gay" "You men suck" "You wish" "I don't date idiots" "I don't date guys like you" "You're so ugly" "One more word and I call security" "I hate men" "I can't stand men like you" ... All the above statements can be accompanied by gestures and facial expressions and emotional flows. Realize they are just gestures/emotional flows. Be prepared to see/feel them and prepare yourself not to become the effect of them. Judging you disgusted from head to toe Shaking her head Making a disgusted face Making a funny face (= you are an idiot) Sending you away with a hand movement Showing her palm (= stop) Showing you her middle finger "Sending" you a "being disgusted" flow "Sending" you a "don't want you near" flow "Sending" you a "bad luck wish" flow Tipping her head with her forefinger (= you are an idiot) Blowing cigarette smoke into your face Wetting you with her drink on purpose Showing you her tongue disgustingly Making invalidating/devaluing noises Running off to her friends and telling what an idiot you are and laughing at you ... Please also read You can not be liked by everyone.
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