Adopting A Child

Adopting a child
Adopting felt like the right choice for my husband and I. It wasn’t because we
couldn’t have a baby by ourselves. I didn’t get pregnant naturally, but we could
have tried IVF. But I was worried that doing so would affect our relationship.
We had always aimed to do things together and share responsibility. But that’s
not possible when it comes to pregnancy and IVF. Plus, my husband’s mother
was adopted, so it didn’t seem an unusual thing to do. Since then, I’ve realised
just how many kids are in care, looking for homes and families, and I know it
was the right choice.
Parents interested in adoption have to go through an in-depth training course.

They not only learn about the experiences of kids in care, but also they study
their own lives in detail. It’s an emotional process because you remember all
sorts of issues from your past that you’d rather not think about. But it teaches
you a lot about yourself and your partner. Afterwards, you are far more
prepared to deal with family issues than people who become parents naturally.
The adoption agency encouraged us to specify what sort of child we wanted to

adopt regarding their sex, age, appearance, health, educational ability,
hobbies and so on. We didn’t feel comfortable about that because we would
have been happy to provide a home for any child who needed it. But their
reasoning was clear. The better the child meets the parents’ expectations, the
more likely it’ll succeed. Our training had taught us that we had certain
expectations of family life, so we followed their advice and came up with a list.
We had to have an interview in front of a large panel of social workers to be

accepted as potential parents. We did everything we could to prepare for that.
We even volunteered with a local youth group to get experience with children,
as we didn’t have any nieces, nephews or friends with kids. As soon as they’d
come to a decision –a positive one, our social worker brought out a file with
information about kids currently in care. We started to put documents into
piles: “yes”, “no” and “maybe”.
We got further information about three of those kids, and one stood out for us
both. He was six years old, which is quite old among children who are up for
adoption. Many parents prefer to adopt toddlers because they want to
experience teaching them to walk, talk, read and write. That wasn’t important
to us. It does seem a shame, though, that 6-year-olds already face
discrimination for their age.
Things happened very fast after that. We met the boy’s foster carers and
teachers, and his social worker visited us at home. However, parents only
meet the child they’re going to adopt once the adoption has been finalised.
That way, the kid doesn’t get stressed or given false hopes. After a second
interview, we were accepted. A week was put in the diary when we would first
spend time with the boy at his carer’s home, taking him out on trips or just
hanging out playing games and reading stories. A few days later, they stayed
at a hotel near our house, and he gradually spent more time with us. Finally,
the carers left, and the boy stayed – we now had a son!
Reading comprehension test
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1Why did the writer choose to adopt a child?
a.She hadn't been able to have a baby with IVF.
b.Her mother-in-law persuaded her to adopt.
c.She didn't want her relationship to change.
d.She was concerned about the number of kids in care.
What does the writer most likely think about the pre-adoption training?
a.Talking about emotional past issues was unnecessary.
b.She learned a lot about the life of the child she adopted.
c.She benefited more from the training than her partner.
d.All parents would benefit from doing a course like that.
How did the couple select a child to adopt?
a.They made a list of criteria that they wanted.
b.They accepted any child who needed a home.
c.They chose a child whose earlier adoption had failed.
d.They let the agency choose a suitable child for them.
What happened after the couple's first interview?

a.They volunteered with a local youth group.
b.They shortlisted potential children to adopt.
c.They spent time with several different kids in care.
d.They got parenting advice from their social worker.
The boy the couple adopted was…
a.older than they originally intended to adopt.
b.older than most children chosen by adopters.
c.younger than they originally intended to adopt.
d.younger than most children chosen by adopters.
Which of these events was the last to occur?
a.The couple met the boy.
b.The couple had a second interview.
c.The couple met the boy's teacher.
d.The adoption was finalised.

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Parents interested in adoption have to go through an in-depth training course.

The adoption agency encouraged us to specify what sort of child we wanted to

We had to have an interview in front of a large panel of social workers to be

Reading comprehension test

What happened after the couple's first interview?

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