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 Table of Contents
Introduction ____________________________________________________11

Introduction: Getting Contact Details in Person vs

Matching on a Dating App ____________________________________11

Introduction: 6 Attractive Traits to Display When Texting

Women __________________________________________________________12

Confidence ______________________________________________________13

Confidence: Common Signs of Low Confidence Via Text __15

Confidence: The Best Mindset For Confidence When

Texting Women _________________________________________________20

Confidence: How to Remain Confident if She Doesn't Reply

to Some of Your Texts _________________________________________23

Confidence: Always Back Yourself ___________________________24

Social Intelligence ______________________________________________25

Social Intelligence: Text as Though You and Her Are Cool

With Each Other Already ______________________________________27

Social Intelligence: Getting to Know Her Prior to a Date vs

on the Date______________________________________________________40

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Social Intelligence: When She Replies in a Seemingly
Negative Tone __________________________________________________43

Social Intelligence: Adapting Your Texting Style to Her

Personality Type ________________________________________________48

Social Intelligence: Handling Challenging Questions

Women Ask Via Text ___________________________________________54

Social Intelligence: When She Messes With You, Rather

Than Being Reassuring or Supportive _______________________72

Social Intelligence: Outwitting Her Via Text ________________75

Masculinity ______________________________________________________75

Masculinity: Using Emojis _____________________________________76

Masculinity: Examples of a Guy Texting in a Feminine Way

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Masculinity: Make Her Feel Girly in Comparison to You __97

Masculinity: Unapologetically Go After What You Want

With Women __________________________________________________ 106

Charm __________________________________________________________ 107

Charm: Common Mistakes Guys Make When Attempting

to Be Charming Via Text _____________________________________ 113

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Charm: The Charming Power of Photos ___________________ 116

Charm: Referring to Her as Beautiful or Sexy ____________ 118

Emotional Independence____________________________________ 121

Emotional Independence: Ways to Be Emotionally

Independent When Texting _________________________________ 122

Emotional Independence: Common Texting Mistakes That

Suggest a Guy is Emotionally Dependent (Needy) _______ 128

Emotional Independence: The Worrying Wait ____________ 143

Emotional Independence: Letting Her Text Be the End of

the Conversation _____________________________________________ 144

Emotional Independence: Allowing Her to Feel Like an

Onlooker to Your Life ________________________________________ 146

Emotional Independence: Allowing Her to Appreciate

Getting Some of Your Time or Attention __________________ 150

Humor _________________________________________________________ 151

Humor: Humor That Happens Naturally __________________ 152

Humor: Playful Teasing or Messing With Her Via Text __ 165

Humor: Personalized Humor _______________________________ 176

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Humor: Creating Humor Based on Her Questions _______ 181

Humor: Avoid the Boring Question Trap __________________ 183

High, Medium and Low Interest Women __________________ 187

High Interest Women ________________________________________ 188

Medium Interest Women____________________________________ 194

Low Interest Women_________________________________________ 198

Following Through on Low Interest Women ______________ 199

Not Getting Too Invested in a Low Interest Woman ____ 217

Attractive First Texts After Getting Her Number in Person

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Attractive First Text Examples _____________________________ 217

First Texts Mistakes to Avoid After Getting Her Number in

Person _________________________________________________________ 238

Attractive First Texts Via Dating Apps _____________________ 249

Reality Check About Dating Apps __________________________ 249

Photo or Bio Openers ________________________________________ 252

Attractive Opening Lines to Use With Your Matches ____ 261

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If She Texts You First on the App ___________________________ 289

Questions to Ask if the Conversation Dries Up __________ 302

Getting Her Phone Number via a Dating App ____________ 306

What to Say to Transition to a Phone Number ___________ 308

What if She Doesn't Want to Give Her Number Out? ____ 313

What if She Doesn't Use WhatsApp or Other Chat Apps?315

Texting Styles to Avoid on Dating Apps ___________________ 316

Arranging a Meetup __________________________________________ 327

Ideas For Meetups____________________________________________ 327

Common Mistakes to Avoid When Arranging a Meetup 330

Connecting By Choice ________________________________________ 358

First Dates at Your Place ____________________________________ 361

First Dates at Cafes or Restaurants ________________________ 365

Female Friend Into Lover____________________________________ 368

Arranging Meetups With Busy, Difficult or Flakey Women

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When She Doesn't Make it Easy ____________________________ 375

If She Cancels the First Date ________________________________ 378

If She Stops Replying When You Suggest a Meetup ______ 384

If She Says "I'll Let You Know When I'm Free" ____________ 388

If You Are Worried She'll Say No to a Meetup Request __ 393

When She Regularly Can't Make it to Meetups___________ 404

When You Should Just Call Her or Send a Voice Text ____ 407

If She Doesn't Answer the Call______________________________ 410

Attractive Texts After a First Date _________________________ 416

Common Mistakes Guys Make When Texting After a First

Date ____________________________________________________________ 423

Attractive Texts For Women Who've Gone Cold _________ 425

Refuel Texts For a Woman Gone Cold _____________________ 425

Refuel Voice Texts For a Woman Gone Cold ______________ 439

If She Doesn't Respond to Refuels _________________________ 446

If She Texts Something Basic After Not Texting You For

Months_________________________________________________________ 448
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Pursuing Her in a Non Needy Way _________________________ 459

Sexual Texts ___________________________________________________ 459

Signs That She’s Enjoying the Sexual Texts _______________ 460

When She Texts You Late at Night _________________________ 472

Sexual Texts That Happen Naturally ______________________ 481

Common Mistakes Guys Make With Sexual Texts _______ 494

Sexual Photos _________________________________________________ 504

The Texting Sweet Spot ______________________________________ 508

7 Ways to Create the Texting Sweet Spot _________________ 508

Attractive Texts When She is One of Your Women ______ 520

Closing Points _________________________________________________ 534

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Introduction

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Introduction: Getting Contact
Details in Person vs Matching on a
Dating App
No texts.

Introduction: 6 Attractive Traits to

Display When Texting Women

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Confidence

*Explanation about why text is more about how things ‘seem’

rather than how they actually are.

With the example above, the guy could be feeling down, but
he is using emojis that make him seem upbeat.

It’s important to keep that in mind when reading a woman’s

text.

She might seem disinterested, but secretly be excited to be

texting with you and vice versa.

This is why you should always focus on being attractive and

moving things forward, rather than spending too much time

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texting and trying to develop a relationship with her via text.

*The guy sending this might be a cool, confident and positive

guy, but he comes across as a bit of a downer via text.

Texting is how things seem.

Always important to remember that, so you only focus on

being attractive and therefore, make the woman quickly
develop more interest and want to see you in person.

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Confidence: Common Signs of Low
Confidence Via Text

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Confidence: The Best Mindset For
Confidence When Texting Women

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Confidence: How to Remain
Confident if She Doesn't Reply to
Some of Your Texts

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Confidence: Always Back Yourself

“Alright, good chatting with you. I’ve got to head off now - I’m
going to the gym. Chat to you later beautiful.”

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Social Intelligence

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*Not using an emoji when being playfully challenging like that,
changes the feeling of a conversation and can make her
assume you are being rude, irritable or angry.

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*Too many emojis being used.

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Social Intelligence: Text as Though
You and Her Are Cool With Each
Other Already

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Social Intelligence: Getting to
Know Her Prior to a Date vs on the
Date

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Social Intelligence: When She
Replies in a Seemingly Negative
Tone

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Social Intelligence: Adapting Your
Texting Style to Her Personality
Type

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Social Intelligence: Handling
Challenging Questions Women Ask
Via Text

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*Second example is without an emoji.

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*Numbers 4, 5 and 6 are best.

*Saying way too much and not being attractive.

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*Numbers 3 and 4 are best.

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5 is also good if you want use humor first, instead of
immediately answering in a serious way.

Social Intelligence: When She

Messes With You, Rather Than
Being Reassuring or Supportive

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Social Intelligence: Outwitting Her
Via Text

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Masculinity
No texts.

Explanation of how to have strong, inner masculinity that will

come through via your text and in-person interactions with
women.

Masculinity: Using Emojis

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Masculinity: Examples of a Guy
Texting in a Feminine Way

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*If you know she likes and can handle a bad boy approach, or
has a sense of humor and will know that you are just playfully
messing with her.

*If you want to make sure she knows you are joking.

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*As explained in the program, cute, animated stickers can be
used in a joking way.

However, if a guy uses them to try to ‘get along’ with a woman

and be cute like her, he will end up seeming feminine and
therefore, unattractive to the majority of women.

Some women will put up with it, but will secretly wish the guy
was more masculine.

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Masculinity: Make Her Feel Girly in
Comparison to You

*It’s fine to day something like that in person, on a phone call

or even if you’re having a voice text exchange, but it’s not

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are attempting to attract and get to meet up with you.

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*Text her name.

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Masculinity: Unapologetically Go
After What You Want With Women
No texts.

The style of texts from the Text Attraction program are about
unapologetically going after what you want with women,
which is what women like and prefer in men.

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Charm

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*The word gorgeous is usually used by older women who are
talking about a younger woman.

It can be used by a very masculine guy, or a very confident guy

who confidently uses that word in his everyday life, but it’s not
a word I recommend a guy use if he come across as a
feminine, soft or too sweet in his behavior in person.

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Charm: Common Mistakes Guys
Make When Attempting to Be
Charming Via Text

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Charm: The Charming Power of
Photos

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Charm: Referring to Her as
Beautiful or Sexy

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*Saying “Want to join?”, rather than “Wanna join?” to be more
mature or formal depending on the woman.

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Emotional Independence
No texts.

Introduction to the following sections on emotional

independence, with examples.

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Emotional Independence: Ways to
Be Emotionally Independent When
Texting

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Emotional Independence:
Common Texting Mistakes That
Suggest a Guy is Emotionally
Dependent (Needy)

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*Calling her ‘babe’ and using xxx before they’ve even had sex.

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Emotional Independence: The
Worrying Wait

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Emotional Independence: Letting
Her Text Be the End of the
Conversation

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Emotional Independence: Allowing
Her to Feel Like an Onlooker to
Your Life

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*Okay to ask that question, as long as it doesn’t lead a long,
connecting type of conversation.

Many guys ask questions like those to attempt to have a long

conversation and 'keep her texting.'

The goal is to attract her and arrange a meetup, rather than to

waste a lot of time typing and attempting to develop a
connection.

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*Once again, it’s okay to ask a quesiton like that, as long as
you don’t try to get into a long, connecting conversation about
it.
Focus on attraction and arranging a meetup, while also adding
in a bit of connecting if and where necessary.

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Emotional Independence: Allowing
Her to Appreciate Getting Some of
Your Time or Attention

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Humor

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Humor: Humor That Happens
Naturally

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*Last image is an example of how to reply if she doesn’t agree
to meet at your place.

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Humor: Playful Teasing or Messing
With Her Via Text

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Humor: Creating Humor Based on
Her Questions

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Humor: Avoid the Boring Question
Trap

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High, Medium and Low Interest
Women

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High Interest Women

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Low Interest Women

“Hey Jenny. Just sitting here relaxing with a coffee and realized, we
never did to get to meet up. We should catch up for a coffee
sometime soon and say hi. Text me back and let’s chat.”

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“Hey Jenny. How are ya? I’m relaxing here with a coffee and
thought I’d reach out and say hi. You know, you and I never got to
catch up, but I think it’d be great to meet up and say hi in person.
So, let’s try to arrange something. Let’s have a coffee. Text me back
soon.”

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“Hey Jenny. What’s going on? Enjoying a BBQ with today with
some friends and thought I’d reach out and say hi. You know, we
should catch up and have a coffee sometime soon. Send me a
text back to say hi, or a video reply if you’re not too shy.”

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“Hey Jenny. How are ya? Relaxing here with some friends at a
BBQ and thought I’d reach out and say hi. You know, you and I
never got to catch up. So, let’s arrange something. Let’s have a
coffee. Text me back with a video reply if you’re not too shy, or
otherwise, just text me back to say hi. Talk to you soon.”

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[Acting too aloof, alpha or disinterested in the video text] “Hey,
what’s up Jenny. You and I matched on an app (or met in person)
and we haven’t caught up. So, ah, let’s catch up sometime soon.
Hit me up.”

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“Hey Jenny. What’s going on? Good meeting you the other week.
We haven’t been able to catch up yet, so let’s arrange something.
Talk to you soon girl.”

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“Yo Jenny, what’s up. You and I matched recently and haven’t
caught up yet. What’s going on girl? Get in touch me and say hi.
Let’s catch up and have a drink or something. Talk soon girl.”

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*Can add that to the end of the text if she is high interest.

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Following Through on Low Interest
Women

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“Hey Jenny. What’s going on girl. How you doin?”

She senses your confidence and masculinity and warms

up/begins to open up a bit more due to realizing/remembering that
you are an attractive guy.

Tell her something you’ve been up to/doing lately and ask, “So,
what have you been up to lately?” And look for opportunities to
use humor or flirting.
• Man: So, what have you been up to lately?
• Woman: Oh, not much. Just been going to work and the gym
• Man: Ah, right…keepin’ that booty in shape huh?
• Woman: [laughs because you have the confidence to say
something daring like that. You’re talking to her as though
you are cool with each other already, rather than hoping to
get her to like you].
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Not Getting Too Invested in a Low
Interest Woman
No texts.

Attractive First Texts After Getting

Her Number in Person
No texts.

Attractive First Text Examples

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*Simple text that you can send to any woman after getting her
number.

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*If she really liked you and you possibly kissed her.

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*If she’s still at the bar, party or place after you get her
number and you notice that she keeps checking you out.

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*What he said to her in person.

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Getting Her Number in Person

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*Adding an x on the end of a text like that makes it more
charming.

It’s also more exciting for the woman because the guy she is
feeling attracted to is confident, masculine and is also being
assertive in a loving way.

She then gets to be his girl and try harder to win him over,
while being treated well at the same time.

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*Not including an x can make the text seem rude, unloving
and selfish.

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Attractive First Texts Via Dating
Apps
No texts.

Introduction to the following sections about dating apps, with

examples.

Reality Check About Dating Apps

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Photo or Bio Openers

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Attractive Opening Lines to Use
With Your Matches

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*Notice how not including the emojis may cause the woman to
be unsure if he is joking or being serious.

The emojis are optional, but it’s important to be aware that

sometimes a woman may not know that you’re joking.

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If She Texts You First on the App

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Questions to Ask if the
Conversation Dries Up

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Getting Her Phone Number via a
Dating App

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What to Say to Transition to a
Phone Number

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What if She Doesn't Want to Give
Her Number Out?

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“No problem. Let’s just have a chat here first then, but let me know
when you’re comfortable to exchange numbers.”

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What if She Doesn't Use WhatsApp
or Other Chat Apps?

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Texting Styles to Avoid on Dating
Apps

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*I don’t recommend using the word gorgeous like that.

However, this is an example of how to still be attractive (i.e. by

reading between the lines of what she is actually saying.

That being, she dates bad boys and players and is therefore,
not attracted to typical, sweet nice guys).

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Arranging a Meetup
No texts.

An introduction to the following sections about arranging

meetups.

Ideas For Meetups

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*If a guy takes the risk to suggest an activity-based date and

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she says no to it, he hasn’t stuffed up.

He can still turn the situation around and get her to meet up
with him.

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Common Mistakes to Avoid When
Arranging a Meetup

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*If she flirts back by calling you handsome because you called
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*If she’s high interest or you know she won’t pretend to be
busy tomorrow.

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* Sometimes women will pretend to be busy on days they
aren’t when you ask, “What is your schedule like this week?”

Sometimes it works, but sometimes it backfires because she

suggests days that you are busy, so you then don’t get to see
her that week.

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*It’s a bit of a backwards way of arranging a meetup, but it still
can work in some cases.

It’s always better to offer her two days to choose from, so she
can pretend to busy on one day, even if she is free the entire
week.

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*If you don’t confirm, some women will confirm with you.

*If you want to confirm, say it in a confident, assertive, postive

manner, rather than asking if the meetup is still happening.

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*Some will cancel if you don’t confirm the meetup on the day
and other will cancel if you do confirm it.

So, you just have to risk either sending it or not, depending on

the woman.

Trust your gut instinct on what you should do with each

woman, because each situation will be different.
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confirming.

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*He’s hoping she will reply and suggest they go together, so he
doesn’t have to risk asking her out and potentially getting
rejected.

*He’s hoping she will reply and suggest they go together, so he

doesn’t have to risk asking her out and potentially getting
rejected.

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*Since she said she’s not usually up for going out, it’s usually
better to invite her over to your place instead.

That’s sometimes a woman’s way of saying that she just wants

to come over and hookup in private, rather than going
through a date in an external venue that may or may not lead
to sex at the end of the night.

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prefer.

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First Dates at Your Place

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*If you don’t think a particular woman would be okay about
coming over to your place for a first date, then invite her out
somewhere instead, or give her the option of a meeting in a
public place, or at your place (see below).

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First Dates at Cafes or Restaurants

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Female Friend Into Lover

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*A woman you’re in the friend zone will rarely, if ever, risk
expressing her feelings, asking you out and then potentially
being rejected.

She will usually just wait for you to have the confidence and
courage to make something happen.

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Arranging Meetups With Busy,
Difficult or Flakey Women

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*Since you weren’t able to meetup with her that week, send
her an attractive text to keep the attraction and interest alive.

In this case, you messaged her on a Monday and tried to

arrange a meetup for the Tuesday or Thursday (the days you
were available), but she was busy and she didn’t suggest any
other days.

So, you say “Okay, cool. We’ll catch up another time then. Have a
great week!” and then messaged her again on the Wednesday
to keep the spark and interest alive.

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*I don’t recommend adding an x (or other sign of love interest)
at the end of a text to a woman who is being difficult, vague or
flakey.

Remain confident and give her opportunities to enter your life,

but don’t show love interest.

When She Doesn't Make it Easy

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*Many women won’t suggest another day because they don’t
want to seem too keen or easy.

It doesn’t mean you’ve been rejected if she cancels and doesn’t

suggest another day.

If you want her, you have to remain confident and give you
and her another chance by accepting the cancelation and then
getting in touch with her again.

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If She Stops Replying When You
Suggest a Meetup

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If She Says "I'll Let You Know
When I'm Free"

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*Wait a week and if she doesn’t get back to you, reach out to
her again in a confident manner with the assumption that
everything is still cool between you and her.

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*A man should show interest by following up with another
text, but not by declaring his feelings for her, or seeming too
serious about a relationship upfront.

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If You Are Worried She'll Say No to
a Meetup Request

*If you are worried she will say no to something direct like the
above example, you can use a more indirect approach, where
you first get her to agree to the ‘idea’ of meeting up for a
coffee.

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*Optional: Don’t reply and just wait for her to stop acting
unsure and say yes to talking in person sometime.

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If she doesn’t text anything else, leave it a few days and text
her in a confident, attractive way where you assume
everything is still cool between you and her.

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*Asking a woman out in a direct way like that way can work.

However, if you want to ensure she doesn’t say no, you can
choose to preface it by talking about brunches first and then
inviting her to out to one with you.

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When She Regularly Can't Make it
to Meetups

“Hey little miss busy. At this rate, I think you and I will probably
meet up when we’re in our 50s or something. If you’d like to meet
up with me for a coffee and a laugh before then, let’s do it. It’ll be
fun. You in?”

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“Man, you are impossible to get out for a coffee, girl. I’ve changed
your number in my phone from Anna to Impossible. Anyway, we
should catch up for a coffee and say hi sometime soon. I promise I
won’t bite…too hard anyway. Let’s catch up. Hit me back.”

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“Anna…you are one busy girl, that’s for sure. Anyway, if you have a
day free soon, let me know and I’ll check my schedule as well. Let’s
try to catch up for a coffee sometime this week or next.”

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When You Should Just Call Her or
Send a Voice Text

“Hey Anna. How are ya? Just thought I’d send you a voice text. You
know, sometimes it’s a bit hard to get a sense of another person
just by texting back and forth, so I thought I’d send you a quick
voice text to say hi. I think you’re very pretty and I’d like to catch
up and have a coffee with you, or a drink. If you’re not
comfortable catching up for a coffee and you want to continue
texting, no problem - let’s text a little bit more, but I just want you
to know that hey - I’m a normal guy, I’d like to catch up with you
for a coffee, I think we’d have a great chat together and if you’re
cool with that, let’s do it. If not, let’s chat a little bit more first and
get to know each other.”

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“Hey Emilia. Was just giving you a call to say hi. I guess you’re busy
at the moment, or maybe you’re a bit too shy to answer my call - I
don’t know, but just thought I’d leave a voice mail and say - all
good, chat to you another time, hope you enjoy the rest of your
day.”

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“Oh, right. I didn’t realize you were a shy girl and too scared to
answer the phone.”

“Oh, I forgot - you’re a shy girl. A phone call too much for you?”

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“Answer the phone girl. Don’t be so shy.”

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*If she is a work colleague/coworker and you want to keep the
text exchange professional.

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*If she is a work colleague/coworker and you want to keep the
text exchange professional.

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“Hey Jenny. Tonight was fun. We should catch up again sometime
soon. Say, drinks Thursday night at 7? Let me know.”

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*If you want to friendzone her after the date, rather than
continuing to date her.

Sending her something like the above allows you to then invite
her and her single girlfriends to parties or get-togethers that
you have with friends, which then leads to you and your
friends meeting more single women.

Some of those women then invite you to parties and get-

togethers, which then leads to you meeting even more single
women.

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Common Mistakes Guys Make
When Texting After a First Date

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“Hey Jenny. Just got back from the gym and thought I’d reach out
and say hi. How are you today beautiful?”

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Attractive Texts For Women
Who've Gone Cold
No texts.

Explanation of why women go cold.

Need to text her something that refuels her interest in you.

Examples in following sections.

Refuel Texts For a Woman Gone

Cold

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*If she says no to coming over to your place, you haven’t
stuffed up and been rejected forever.

Simply suggest catching up for something more low key, or

casual like a coffee or drink.

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“Hey, how you doin’ Michelle. What’s going on girl? I haven’t heard
from you in ages. We should arrange to catch up for a coffee or a
drink. Text me back and we’ll chat a little and see if we can
arrange something.”

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“Hey pizza lover. What’s up? I’ve been busy with work lately, but I’ll
be going out to party this Friday. So, if you want to come out and
party, it would be great to see you. Otherwise, just text me back.
What’s been happening for you? How are you?”

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“Hey stranger. How you doing? You know…we should really
arrange a time to catch up sometime soon. It’d be fun. Get in
touch. Hope to hear from you soon.”

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“Hey beautiful. Sorry, I’ve been busy with work lately and haven’t
been in touch, but we should catch up for a coffee or have drink
sometime soon. It’d be fun.”

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“Made it to Mars yet girl? If not let’s grab a drink before you leave.”

“Flown to Mars yet Jenny? If not, let’s grab a drink this week.”

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Not Texting You For Months

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*If you’re confident that she will get the joke, or can take a
joke, then you can just leave it at that and she will likely reply

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If you’re unsure whether she’ll get it, you can choose to add in
a “just kidding” like the example below.

*Some guys make the mistake of apologizing if a woman

replies in a ‘seemingly’ negative way.

He doesn’t need to apologize for a joke.

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fun, excited way with a huge smile on her face, not in a
negative, angry way.

Texting is how things seem, not how they actually are, which is
why you always need to remain confident and assume positive
things.

If you become insecure and assume negative things, it will

naturally lead to insecure and therefore, unattractive texts,
which will then turn the woman off.

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Sexual Texts
No texts.

Explanation of when to send sexual texts and how it differs

depending on the woman’s level of interest, or personality
type.

Signs That She’s Enjoying the

Sexual Texts

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*Taking her question too seriously and thinking that he has
truly passed her test of his masculinity, by stating that he will
be the big spoon.

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*Including an x on the end of the text is best for women you’ve
already kissed or had sex with.

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*He was still able to arrange a hookup, but she would have
been disappointed by the fact that he got too excited about
her saying she was horny and then asked if she wanted to
meetup, rather than telling her to come over.

She also had to say that she was horny because he didn’t
understand that if a woman texts late at night, it’s usually a
booty call.

After she said, “Not sure, “ he then likely said, “Come over, or I
can go to your place” in an eager way.

As a result, she likely agreed in a somewhat reluctant way for

him to come over to her place.

It would have been a better experience if he simply assumed

that she was texting him that late at night because she wanted
to see him and most likely have sex with him that night.

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*Inviting her over without making it sexual.

The guy reads her message of, “At home alone” as meaning she
wants company, or wants to come over for sex, so he takes the
lead and makes it happen.

Women prefer it when men confidently make decisions and

lead the way, rather than being wishy-washy, afraid to make
decisions and then unnecessarily dragging out text
conversations.

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*In most cases, it’s best not to directly tell her to come over for
‘sex.’

If you have had sex with her and she’s a very sexual woman,
then it can be okay.

In other cases, it’s best to either just say, “Come over and hang
out 😉” and she will understand what you mean.

Alternatively, make it a little more playful and discreet by using

emojis (see previous example).
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*If the woman gets the joke, then it can be okay to ask her if
she rides bareback.

However, she might not get the joke and may feel turned off
by him joking about having unprotected sex (i.e. the term
bareback can be used to describe riding a horse without a
saddle, or having unprotected sex/having sex without a
condom).

*A woman can read, “Do you bareback?” as meaning the guy is

asking her, “Do you have unprotected sex?” or, “Do you have sex
without a condom?” which, in most cases, will then result in her
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conversation (i.e. she doesn’t want to seem slutty, or dirty).

*A small percentage of women will be okay about saying yes

to that, but the majority will say no.

She essentially has to say yes or no to sex, which most women

don’t like to do.

*The same applies to directly asking for a hook up.

Some women are totally fine with it, but because she
essentially has to say yes or no to sex, most women will say
no.

*Asking her if she is cool with the ‘idea’ of a hook up, means
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Instead, it can also feel like she is saying, “Yes, hook ups are
okay depending on the circumstances. I am not saying yes to sex,
but the idea of hooking up is okay with me if that’s what naturally
happens between us.”

*He assumes she is replying in a negative way when she texts,

“That’s a weird question to ask. Lol” and then begins to apologize
and continue to attempt to take back what he said, even
though she is saying, “No that’s fine.”

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enjoying it when she said, “That’s a weird question to ask. Lol.”

*Since he wasn’t 100% sure if she was saying, “That’s a weird

question to ask. Lol” in a positive or negative way, he backs
away from that type of conversation in a confident way,
without apologizing and then focuses on arranging a meetup.

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*He had an opportunity to create a more flirtatious, playful
conversation by seeing her ‘banana’ text as sexual inuendo (i.e.
she likes penises). Yet, he just played it safe and continued
discussing fruits.

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*He had an opportunity to take the conversation in a sexual
direction when she said was good with her hands, but he
decided to play it safe and have a neutral conversation about
playing guitar and making things (e.g. crafts) with her hands.

As a result, the woman can feel disappointed that he doesn’t

know how to flirt, that there isn’t a natural spark between
them and that it feels more like a friendly conversation that
she’d have with a stranger, co-worker, or platonic friend.

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hands? Play guitar?”

So, he is subtly communicating that he knows she was initially

referring to being good with her hands in terms of handling a
penis and now he wants to know what else she can do with
her hands.

It’s very subtle flirting using sexual innuendo.

At no point, does he say words like penis, dick or hand job, so

it’s a much more discreet conversation.

Everything is being subtly implied by the sexual innuendo of

her being ‘good with her hands.’

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*Most women want to feel some anticipation and be able to
imagine your penis, rather than seeing everything right away.

*Make sure the physhical appearance of the guy is not the

same as you, so she knows you’re joking.

You can find photos like that by searching ‘miniature dick’ or

‘tiny dick’ in a search engine.

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No texts.

An explanation of what the Texting Sweet Spot is.

7 Ways to Create the Texting

Sweet Spot

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*It’s okay to reply in that kind of way, but it’s not attractive.

You never know how many more time a woman is going to

text you, so you should always be ready to be attractive.

Likewise, if you’re dating a woman and she only gets neutral,

friendly vibes from you, then she may start to believe that
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therefore, a long-term relationship probably wouldn’t work
out.

As a result, she may want to keep her options open by dating

other men, or by leaving the relationship to date new men and
try to find a more attractive match that she will hopefully
remain attracted and interested in for life.

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*A high interest woman will be okay about texts like that
initially, but if that’s all a guy can do (i.e. show interest back, be
reassuring, be a nice, sweet guy), then he will become too
predictable and boring.

A guy doesn’t need to put in loads of work to entertain a

woman via text.

He simply needs to be attractive.

If he’s too nice, too neutral or too friendly, the woman can end
up feeling like there’s not much of a spark between them and
therefore, he might not be the right guy for her in the long
run.

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*It’s ‘okay’ to reply with, “Good morning” once, but don’t get
into the habit of it.

You don’t have to be sweet like her (i.e. sweet like a girl who
wants to send a good morning text to the guy she’s falling for).

You can be masculine, confident, funny, charming, emotionally

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ways.

*Sometimes you shouldn’t reply to her good morning text.

You don’t have to reply to everything she sends.

Sometimes a woman wants to be able to worry and think

about you all day, rather than always being reassured of your
interest.

*No need to apologize for not replying to something as

unimportant as a good morning text.

Just get on with texting her in an attractive way, like in the

example below.

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*If you didn’t reply in the morning and replied later that day.

*Just text her name, rather than asking how she is doing, or
what she is up to.

It’s a very masculine thing to do, which then makes her feel
girly and put on the spot.

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*It’s not the worst in the world, but he’s just texting in a
neutral way.

He’s chatting to her like a friend.

He’s not using what she is saying to flirt, create sexual tension,

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He’s just being a nice, neutral guy.

Women will put up with those kinds of texts if they are really
attracted to a guy in person, but if he always behaves like that
via text, he’ll never create the Texting Sweet Spot (i.e. where
she pretty much always texts him first, feels excited to text
him, tries to impress him via text, etc).

*Sent to a girl you are dating and have already had sex with.

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Closing Points

*When you are being attractive via text, all it usually then takes
is a, “Hey, let’s catch up for a coffee” and the woman will say yes.

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From now on, be sure to avoid the unattractive mistakes
pointed out in the program and always focus on being
attractive via text.

When you do that, you will easily get dates, sex and
relationships with women you are texting from now on.

Enjoy the great times ahead with women!

Cheers,

Dan Bacon
Founder, TheModernMan.com

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