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Personal
Development
Quarter 1 – Module 7:
Personal Relationships

SELF-LEARNING MODULE

DIVISION OF GENERAL SANTOS CITY

Personal Development- Grade 11
Self-Learning Module (SLM)
Quarter 1 – Module 7: Personal Relationships
First Edition, 2020

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Personal
Development
Quarter 1 – Module 7:
Personal Relationships
Introductory Message
For the facilitator:

Welcome to the Personal Development Self-Learning Module (SLM) on Personal Relationships!

This module was collaboratively designed, developed and reviewed by educators both from
public and private institutions to assist you, the teacher or facilitator in helping the learners
meet the standards set by the K to 12 Curriculum while overcoming their personal, social, and
economic constraints in schooling.

This learning resource hopes to engage the learners into guided and independent learning
activities at their own pace and time. Furthermore, this also aims to help learners acquire the
needed 21st century skills while taking into consideration their needs and circumstances.

In addition to the material in the main text, you will also see this box in the body of the
module:

Notes to the Teacher

This module contains helpful tips or
strategies that will help you in guiding the
learners in understanding themselves and
the significant people around them as they
make important career decisions as
adolescents. Using the experiential learning
approach, each module invites students to
explore specific themes in their
development. Personal reflections, sharing,
and lectures help reveal and articulate
relevant concepts, theories, and tools in
different areas in psychology.
Specifically, the use of 5E’s and 4 A’s as a
teaching and learning strategies are highly
emphasized in this module. Logically
sequenced activities, divergent type of
questions that aims to promote critical
thinking skills, numerical and literacy skills
are also integrated in this module.

As a facilitator you are expected to orient the learners on how to use this module. You also
need to keep track of the learners' progress while allowing them to manage their own
learning. Furthermore, you are expected to encourage and assist the learners as they do the
tasks included in the module.
For the learner:

Welcome to the Personal Development Self-Learning Module (SLM) on Personal Relationships!

The hand is one of the most symbolized parts of the human body. It is often used to depict
skill, action and purpose. Through our hands we may learn, create and accomplish. Hence,
the hand in this learning resource signifies that you as a learner is capable and empowered to
successfully achieve the relevant competencies and skills at your own pace and time. Your
academic success lies in your own hands!

This module was designed to provide you with fun and meaningful opportunities for guided
and independent learning at your own pace and time. You will be enabled to process the
contents of the learning resource while being an active learner.

This module has the following parts and corresponding icons:

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Know competencies you are expected to learn in
the module.

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check what you already know about the
lesson to take. If you get all the answers
correct (100%), you may decide to skip
this module.

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link the current lesson with the previous
one.

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an activity or a situation.

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the lesson. This aims to help you discover
and understand new concepts and skills.

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practice to solidify your understanding and
skills of the topic. You may check the
answers to the exercises using the Answer
Key at the end of the module.
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Learned sentence/paragraph to be filled in to
process what you learned from the lesson.

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help you transfer your new knowledge or
 skill into real life situations or concerns.

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level of mastery in achieving the learning
competency.
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Activities given to you to enrich your knowledge or
skill of the lesson learned. This also tends
retention of learned concepts.

Answer Key This contains answers to all activities in

the module.

At the end of this module you will also find:

References This is a list of all sources used in

developing this module.

The following are some reminders in using this module:

1. Use the module with care. Do not put unnecessary mark/s on any part of the module.
Use a separate sheet of paper in answering the exercises.
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the module.
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4. Observe honesty and integrity in doing the tasks and checking your answers.
5. Finish the task at hand before proceeding to the next.
6. Return this module to your teacher/facilitator once you are through with it.
If you encounter any difficulty in answering the tasks in this module, do not hesitate to
consult your teacher or facilitator. Always bear in mind that you are not alone.

We hope that through this material, you will experience meaningful learning and gain
deep understanding of the relevant competencies. You can do it!

What I Need to Know

This module was designed and written with you in mind. It is here to help you master the
topic on Personal Relationships. The scope of this module permits it to be used in many
different learning situations. The module consists of activities and exercises that address key
concern in personal development and for senior high students to better understand them and
the significant people around them as they make important career decisions as adolescents.
Using the experiential learning approach, each activity invites students to explore specific
themes in their development. Personal reflections, sharing, and lectures help reveal and
articulate relevant concepts, theories, and tools in different areas in psychology.

After going through this module, you are expected to:

 discuss an understanding of teenage relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable

expressions of attractions, EsP-PD11/12PR-lla-9.1
 express their ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment; and EsP-PD11/12PR-lla-9.2

Specifically, you are to:

1. discuss an understanding of teenage relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of
attractions,
2. express their ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment; and
3. identify ways to become responsible in a relationship

What I Know

Choose the letter of the best answer. Write the chosen letter on a separate sheet of paper.

1. What do you call the state of connectedness between people (especially an emotional
connection)?

a. commitment
b. love
c. relationship
d. attraction
2. The following are the statements on relationships; EXCEPT____________?

a. To fully enjoy and benefit from relationships we need skills, information,

inspiration, practice, and social support
b. Relationships are static; they are unchangeable.
c. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us maintain
good relationships
d.

3. Which of the following refers to a person or thing that draws, attracts, allures, or entices?
a. commitment
b. love
c. relationship
d. attraction
4. The following are the most common problems in a relationship; EXCEPT?
a. a supportive partner during pregnancy and / or significant problems after the
birth your baby
b. long term depression or other mental health issues suffered by one partner or
both
c. unrealistic Expectations- still thinking your partner / spouse is the princess /
knight and not seeing the 'real' human being
d. significant personal disappointments and traumas that lead to a change in
relationship dynamics
5. Which of the following is NOT an element of a healthy relationship?
a. Trust one another
b. One person makes all the decisions
c. Respect one another
d. Open and honest communication
6. What skills do you need to make healthy decisions in a relationship?
a. Intelligence, memory, ability to do public speaking
b. Assertive communication, active listening, and negotiation skills
c. Ability to persuade others, love,
d. passive communication e. None of the above

7. What should you consider when making decisions around sex and sexual limits?
a. Your values
b. Your friends
c. Your family
d. All of the above

8. What is the best style of communication to use when making decisions about sexual limits
and boundaries?
a. Assertive
b. Passive
c. Aggressive

9. Which of the following are signs that you may be in an abusive relationship?
a. Bruises, scratches and other signs of injuries
 b. Avoiding friends
c. Apologizing for your partner`s behavior
d. All of the above

10. Which of the following is NOT a sign of a healthy relationship?

a. You can express your opinion without fear or dread
b. Your partner tries to control how you spend money
c. You respect and encourage each other
d. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions
11. Which of the following does not belong to the rules for finding love and creating long-
lasting, authentic relationships?
a. creating love is a process
b. partnering is a choice
c. you must love others first
d. renewal is a key to longevity
12. Which of these is NOT true about having a good relationship?
a. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in relationships.
b. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us maintain
good relationships.
c. Expressing gratitude to our friends and family help us maintain good
relationships
d. a good relationship does not contribute anything to us having good health.
13. What do you call the trait of being answerable to someone for something or being
responsible for one’s conduct?
a. attraction
b. commitment
c. love
d. responsibility
14. What do you call the relationships between people, especially those between friends,
lovers and family members?
a. relationship
b. commitment
c. personal relationship
d. responsibility
15. The following are the benefits of having personal relationships; EXCEPT____________?
a. live longer
b. increased immune system
c. feel richer
d. be healthier
Lesso
n
Personal
Development:
5 Personal Relationships

Good relationships are fun and make you feel good about yourself. The relationships that you
make in your youth years will be a special part of your life and will teach you some of the
most important lessons about who you are. Truly good relationships take time and energy to
develop. All relationships should be based on respect and honesty, and this is especially
important when you decide to date someone

Personal relationships refer to close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds
and interactions. These bonds often grow from and are strengthened by mutual experiences.
Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully enjoy and benefit from
them we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social support. I

What’s In

Activity 1. STATEMENTS ON RELATIONSHIPS

Instruction: State whether these statements are True or False.

1. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in relationships.

2. To love someone, we must love our self first.

3. Trying to understand where other people are coming from rather than judging them helps us build and maintain
relationships.

4. Having a good relationship does not contribute anything to us having good health.

5. When people listen deeply and let us know that they recognize the feeling behind our words, more likely than
not, our relationship is doing good.

6. In our relationships, it is vital that we practice forgiveness when a loved one has hurt us.

7. Our loved ones cannot help us when we deal with stress.

8. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us maintain good relationships.

9. Expressing gratitude to our friends and family help us maintain good relationships.

10. Significant differences in core values and beliefs never create a problem in relationships.

11. We are happy in our relationships when our loved ones stay connected by spending time with us and letting us
know that they love us.

12. Excessive reliance on social media can be a cause of tension in relationships.

13. Relationships are static; they are unchangeable.

14. Being compassionate, forgiving and grateful contribute to healthy relationships.

15. To fully enjoy and benefit from relationships we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social support.

Processing questions:

Instruction: Please answer the questions on the space provided.

1. Why are relationships important to us humans?

_______________________________________________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________.

2. What is the difference between family, friends/friendship, and partnership/romantic relationships?

_______________________________________________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________.
 What’s New

Activity 2. Abtash cipher

Abtash cipher is a mono-alphabetic substitution cipher used for the Hebrew alphabet.
The Atbash Cipher simply reverses the plaintext alphabet to create the ciphertext alphabet.
Decipher the following terms that are associated with genetic engineering. Write your answer
on the blank and corresponding to your answer, write anything you know about the word.

Example: SRPANTSE= PARENTS

1. LORISEATNHPI = ________________________= ___________________________
2. ICTMEMTMNO = ________________________= ___________________________
3. ATOITRCTNA = _______________________ = ___________________________
4. EIRISPSBLTYION = _______________________ = ___________________________
5. ELVO =_________________________= ___________________________

The activity above allows you to exercise your brain! Now, it’s time to learn more about
personal relationships.

What is It

Reading: WHAT DO WE MEAN BY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS?

The concept of relationship is very broad and complex. In our model, personal relationships
refer to close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions.
These bonds often grow from and are strengthened by mutual experiences. Relationships are
not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully enjoy and benefit from them we need
skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social support. In our model there are three kinds
of personal relationships:

Family
The concept of "family" is an essential component in any discussion of relationships, but this
varies greatly from person to person. The Bureau of the Census defines family as "two or
more persons who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption and who live together as one
household." But many people have family they don't live with or to whom they are not
bonded by love, and the roles of family vary across cultures as well as throughout your own
lifetime. Some typical characteristics of a family are support, mutual trust, regular
interactions, shared beliefs and values, security, and a sense of community. Although the
concept of "family" is one of the oldest in human nature, its definition has evolved
considerably in the past three decades. Non-traditional family structures and roles can
provide as much comfort and support as traditional forms.

Friends
A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people that is often built upon
mutual experiences, shared interests, proximity, and emotional bonding. Friends are able to
turn to each other in times of need. Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler, social-network
researchers and authors of the book Connected, find that the average person has about six
close ties—though some have more, and many have only one or none. Note that online
friends don’t count toward close ties—research indicates that a large online network isn’t
nearly as powerful as having a few close, real-life friends.

Partnerships
Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed between two
people that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love. We usually experience
this kind of relationship with only one person at a time. Source:
http://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/enhance-your-wellbeing/relationships/whatdo-we-
mean-personal-relationships
Lecturette: BASIC DEFINITIONS
1. Relationship - a relation between people - a state of connectedness between people
(especially an emotional connection)
2. Personal relationships - relationships between people, especially those between friends,
lovers and family members
3. Love - strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personalities <maternal love
for a child> - attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers -
affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests <love for his old
schoolmates>
4. Commitment - the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of
action - a message that makes a pledge
5. Attraction - the act, power, or property of attracting - attractive quality; magnetic charm;
fascination; allurement; enticement - a person or thing that draws, attracts, allures, or entices
6. Responsibility - the social force that binds you to the courses of action demanded by that
force - a form of trustworthiness; the trait of being answerable to someone for something or
being responsible for one’s conduct
Reading: A RESEARCH STUDY ON RELATIONSHIPS
A sample of 1,110 adolescents assessed nine aspects of their relationships with their mother,
their father, their best same-sex friend, their most important sibling, and their most important
teacher. These aspects were admiration, affection, companionship, conflict, instrumental aid,
intimacy, nurturance, reliable alliance, and satisfaction with the relationship. Early
adolescents (11 through 13 years of age) gave higher ratings than did middle (14 through
16years of age) and late (17 through 19years of age) adolescents for all relationships on most
attributes. Except for intimacy and nurturance, middle adolescents' ratings were higher than
those of late adolescents but only for some relationships. The observed trends are interpreted
with respect to several social, social cognitive, and cognitive changes taking place over the
span of adolescence. Source: Clark-Lempers, D., J.D. Lempers & C. Ho. (1991). Early, Middle,
and Late Adolescents' Perceptions of Their Relationships with Significant Others . Journal of
Adolescent Research.

Reading: 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

Here is a list of the most common relationship problems most often encountered by couples:
1. Affairs / infidelity / cheating. This includes emotional infidelity, one-night stands, internet
relationships (including ‘sexting’), long- and short-term affairs and financial infidelity
2. Sexual Issues, particularly loss of libido and including questions around your gender, or
your partner's gender
3. Significant differences in core values and beliefs
4. Life stages – you have ‘outgrown’ each other or have ‘changed’ significantly for whatever
reason
5. Traumatic and/or Life-Changing Events
6. Responses to prolonged periods of Stress, such as Work-Related Stress, longterm illness,
mental health issues, Financial Problems, problems with the children, infertility and many
more
7. Bored in or with Your Relationship
8. Dealing with a jealous partner
9. Having 'blended' family issues
10. Domestic violence, which includes verbal as well as physical abuse: THE most serious
relationship problem.
11. Knowing you should not have got married in the first place!
12. Lack of responsibility regarding finances, children, health and many other issues
13. Unrealistic Expectations- still thinking your partner / spouse is the princess / knight and
not seeing the 'real' human being
14. Addictions - substance abuse
15. Excessive reliance on social media, at the cost of the relationship
16. Lack of support during particularly difficult times from people that matter to you
17. Manipulation or over-involvement in your relationships with family or friends
18. Lack of communication about important matters
19. Poor division of and / or one-sided lack of responsibility for chores and tasks. It is not
always women who complain about this relationship problem!
20. Perceived lack of concern, care and consideration / attentiveness: feeling the relationship
is one-sided is a big one!
21. Significant personal disappointments and traumas that lead to a change in relationship
dynamics
22. Long term depression or other mental health issues suffered by one partner or both
23. Significant differences in opinion on how to discipline / deal with the children
24. Long-term stress, particularly when not taking responsibility for doing something positive
to address the cause, or about learning to handle it if it cannot be changed
25. An unsupportive partner during pregnancy and / or significant problems after the birth
your baby.

Processing Questions
Instruction: Now that you have already knowledge about the basic terms and definitions in a
relationship, let us appreciate our lesson by answering the following questions below.
Questions:
1. Do all relationships have issues?
______________________________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________.
2. How do you address a problem in a relationship?
______________________________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________.
Activity 3. Reflections on Personal Relationships

Instruction: Write a reflection paper on your relationships, why they are important, and how you intend to keep
the good relationships strong and healthy.

REFLECTION ON PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

What’s More

Reading: NURTURE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

Connect with your family

One of the biggest challenges for families to stay connected is the busy pace of life. But Blue Zones research
states that the healthiest, longest-living people in the world all have something in common: they put their
families first. Family support can provide comfort, support, and even influence better health outcomes while
you are sick. Relationships and family author Mimi Doe recommends connecting with family by letting little
grievances go, spending time together, and expressing love and compassion to one another. Of course, the
same practices apply to close friends as well. This is especially important if you don’t have living family, or have
experienced difficult circumstances, such as abuse, that would make it difficult for you to connect with your
relatives.

Practice gratitude

Gratitude is one of the most accessible positive emotions, and its effects can strengthen friendships and
intimate relationships. One 2010 study found that expressing gratitude toward a partner can strengthen the
relationship, and this positive boost is felt by both parties—the one who expresses gratitude and the one who
receives it. Remembering to say “thank you” when a friend listens or your spouse brings you a cup of coffee
can set off an upward spiral of trust, closeness, and affection.

Learn to forgive

It’s normal for disagreements or betrayal to arise in relationships, but your choice about how to handle the
hurt can have a powerful effect on the healing process. Choosing to forgive can bring about a variety of
benefits, both physical and emotional. Fred Luskin, head of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, says it’s easier to
let go of the anger or hurt feelings associated with a circumstance if you remind yourself that much of your
distress is really coming from the thoughts and feelings you are having right now while remembering the event
—not the event itself. Don’t be afraid to clearly articulate why you are upset, but once the other party has
listened, be willing to lay down your anger and move on.

Be compassionate

Compassion is the willingness to be open to yourself and others, even in painful times, with a gentle,
nonjudgmental attitude. When you feel compassionate toward another person—whether a romantic partner,
friend, relative, or colleague—you open the gates for better communication and a stronger bond.

This doesn’t mean taking on the suffering of others, or absorbing their emotions. Rather, compassion is the
practice of recognizing when someone else is unhappy or whose needs aren’t being met and feeling motivated
to help them. We are an imitative species: when compassion is shown to us, we return it.

Accept others

It is also important to be accepting of the other person in the relationship. Obviously, this does not apply in
situations of abuse or unhealthy control, where you need foremost to protect yourself. But otherwise, try to
understand where the person is coming from rather than judge them. As you do for yourself, have a realistic
 What I Have Learned

Activity: I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Instruction: Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a healthy relationship; put an X on each
statement that you think is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

1. You can express your opinion without fear or dread.

2. You and your partner can make decisions together and fairly.

3. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions.

4. Your partner respects your feelings about sex.

5. Your partner supports you and your choices—even when they disagree with you.

6. You respect and encourage each other.

7. You give each other space to study or hang out with friends or family.

8. You are able to make your own decisions about spending your money without worrying about your partner’s
reaction.

9. You can discuss pregnancy and parenting decisions and your view is respected.

10. You feel isolated from friends and family.

11. Your partner tries to control how you spend time and who you hang out with.
12. Your partner tries to control how you spend money.

13. Your partner doesn’t support your decisions.

14. You are sometimes forced to do something that you’re not comfortable with.

15. Your partner threatens, insults, or humiliates you.

16. Your partner hurts you physically or emotionally.

17. Your partner doesn’t keep your secrets safe.

18. Your partner undermines your decisions about pregnancy and parenting.

Source: http://washingteenhelp.org/your-relationships/your-love-life has these signs to know if you are in a healthy

relationships

Processing Questions:

1. What were your thoughts and feelings while answering the activity?
_______________________________________________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________.

2. In what ways do you express your feelings, whether positive or negative?

_______________________________________________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________.

What I Can Do

Reading: BASIC RIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP

• The right to emotional support
• The right to be heard by the other and to respond
• The right to have your own point of view, even if this differs from your partner's
• The right to have your feelings and experiences acknowledged as real
• The right to live free from accusation and blame
• The right to live free from criticism and judgment
• The right to live free from emotional and physical threat
• The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage
• The right to be respectfully asked, rather than ordered
In addition to these basic relationships rights, consider how you can develop patience,
honesty, kindness, and respect.

Patience: Patience is essential to a healthy relationship. There are times when others will
respond to us in a way that is disappointing. When this occurs, it important to communicate
our disappointment, but also to give the other person space. Be willing to give the person
some time to reflect, indicating that you are ready to talk when they are ready. If the person
is never ready to discuss the situation, you may need professional help to resolve the issue,
or ask yourself whether or not you want to continue the relationship.

Honesty: Honesty is another essential quality in healthy relationships. To build honesty in a

relationship, you should communicate your feelings openly, and expect the other person to
do the same. Over time, this builds trust.

Kindness: Kindness is extremely important to maintaining healthy relationships. You need to

be considerate of others' feelings and other people need to be considerate of yours. Be kind
when you communicate. Kindness will nurture your relationships. Note that being kind does
not necessarily mean being nice.

Respect: Respect is a cornerstone of all healthy relationships. If you don't have respect for
another person, it will have a negative impact on all of your interactions. Think of a time when
you encountered someone who didn't respect you. How did it feel? What are some ways that
you show respect to others? Source: http://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/activities/basic-
rights-relationship

Instruction: On a piece of ¼ illustration board, sketch, draw, or design a poster which shows one’s basic rights in
a relationship.

POSTER
Please refer to this rubric.
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from the class they relate to they relate to this topic.
discussion as this topic. this topic.
they relate to
this topic.
 Assessment

Choose the letter of the best answer. Write the chosen letter on a separate sheet of paper.

1. What do you call the state of connectedness between people (especially an emotional
connection)?

a. commitment
b. love
c. relationship
d. attraction

2. The following are the statements on relationships; EXCEPT____________?

a. To fully enjoy and benefit from relationships we need skills, information,

inspiration, practice, and social support
b. Relationships are static; they are unchangeable.
c. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us maintain
good relationships
d.

3. Which of the following refers to a person or thing that draws, attracts, allures, or entices?
a. commitment
 b. love
c. relationship
d. attraction
4. The following are the most common problem in a relationship; EXCEPT?
a. a supportive partner during pregnancy and / or significant problems after the
birth your baby
b. long term depression or other mental health issues suffered by one partner or
both
c. unrealistic Expectations- still thinking your partner / spouse is the princess /
knight and not seeing the 'real' human being
d. significant personal disappointments and traumas that lead to a change in
relationship dynamics
5. Which of the following is NOT an element of a healthy relationship?
a. Trust one another
b. One person makes all the decisions
c. Respect one another
d. Open and honest communication
6. What skills do you need to make healthy decisions in a relationship?
a. Intelligence, memory, ability to do public speaking
b. Assertive communication, active listening, and negotiation skills
c. Ability to persuade others, love,
d. passive communication e. None of the above

7. What should you consider when making decisions around sex and sexual limits?
a. Your values
b. Your friends
c. Your family
d. All of the above

8. What is the best style of communication to use when making decisions about sexual limits
and boundaries?
a. Assertive
b. Passive
c. Aggressive

9. Which of the following are signs that you may be in an abusive relationship?
a. Bruises, scratches and other signs of injuries
b. Avoiding friends
c. Apologizing for your partner`s behavior
d. All of the above

10. Which of the following is NOT a sign of a healthy relationship?

a. You can express your opinion without fear or dread
b. Your partner tries to control how you spend money
d. Having c. You respect and encourage each other
d. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions
11. Which of the following does not belong to the rules for finding love and creating long-
lasting, authentic relationships?
a. creating love is a process
b. partnering is a choice
c. you must love others first
d. renewal is a key to longevity
12. Which of these is NOT true about having a good relationship?
a. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in relationships.
b. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us maintain
good relationships.
c. Expressing gratitude to our friends and family help us maintain good
relationships
d. a good relationship does not contribute anything to us having good health.
13. What do you call the trait of being answerable to someone for something or being
responsible for one’s conduct?
a. attraction
b. commitment
c. love
d. responsibility
14. What do you call the relationships between people, especially those between friends,
lovers and family members?
a. relationship
b. commitment
c. personal relationship
d. responsibility
15. The following are the benefits of having personal relationships; EXCEPT____________?
a. live longer
b. increased immune system
c. feel richer
d. be healthier
 Additional Activities

job well done! You were able to complete answering different activities in personal
relationships. For your additional activity, follow the instruction below.
Instruction: Have an interview with your parents/guardians/relatives/friends about the
common problems in their relationship that they have encountered, and how did they deal
with it. Use a separate sheet of paper.

Interview
 Answer
Key

What I Know Assessment

1.C 12. D
2. B 13. D
1.C 12. D 3. D 14. C
2. B 13. D 4. A 15. B
3. D 14. C 5. B
4. A 15. B 6. B
5. B 7. D
6. B 8. A
7. D 9. D
8. A 10. B
9. D 11. C
10. B
11. C

What’s In

1.TRUE

2. TRUE

3. TRUE

4. FALSE

5. TRUE

6. TRUE

7. FALSE

8. TRUE

9. TRUE

10. FALSE

11. TRUE

12. TRUE
 13. FALSE

14. TRUE

15. TRUE

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