Building self confidence Introduction some people have naturally high levels of confidence but everybody can learn

to be more confident. Firstly, its important to get a clear idea of what self confidence really means, otherwise you wont know when youve got it. In literary terms it can be defined as a State of being certain either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective. Selfconfidence is having confidence in oneself. Brian Tracy said Whatever we expect with confidence becomes our own self-fulfilling prophecy.Meaning of self fulfilling prophecy is hypothesis directly or indirectly turns itself to be true. Self-confidence is the knowledge that you can do something and do it well. Self-confidence comes from firsthand knowledge of the task at hand, knowing your strengths and weaknesses, applying your skills to any situation.Self-confidence are extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives.There are certain characteristics that ensure that particular person is confident. i.e 1) Being calm. For every situation in life you need to run on the appropriate level of emotion. Too much emotional leakage into a experience can spoil the experience. You make great strides towards confidence when you begin to relax in a greater range of situations. 2) Being cool. The second part of self confidence is about being able to relax with uncertainty. To be cool in a situation really means relaxing with not knowing how things will pan out. If you truly tolerate uncertainty, you can do pretty much anything. 3) Not being too concerned with what others think of you. You know when you imagine what some place is going to be like before you go there but when you get there it is totally different to your imagination? Thats how reliable your imagination is! Stop trusting your imagination so much. Ive long since stopped bothering to imagine what others think of me because so often Ive turned out to be wrong.

4) Being specific where do you want confidence? Confidenceis meaningless until you tie it to something specific. You are already confident that you can read these words or can switch a light on and off. So you dont need more confidence everywhere. To get what you want in life you have to establish exactly what you do want. Where do you want confidence in your life? Think about the specific situations now and write them down. You are beginning to steer your brain towards confidence. 5) Understanding that what you expect is what you get. Your brain is an organ that needs clear goals to work towards. When a task has been set in your brain it will do everything it can do to bring about the completion of that task. If youve tried to recall someones name but cant, hours later youll often find their name pops into your head. The trying to recall experience set the task or blueprint for your brains future subconscious behavior which eventually produced the name for you when you werent thinking about it consciously. You can use this natural mechanism to start feeling more confident. But, to ensure you set the right task for your subconscious mind, the next point is vital. 6) Dont ask your mind with negatives. Instead of: I dont want to screw up (which sets the task of screwing up for your brain), set the blueprint for what you do want! Your brain doesnt work towards what to do by being told what not to do. And nature has given you a wonderful natural tool to set the right task blueprints with. 7) Use natures goal-setter: Now you understand how vital it is to set the right task for you brain, you need to know how to do this reliably. Good hypnosis will strongly program the right blueprint in your mind through the use of your imagination. If you powerfully imagine feeling confident and relaxed while in a relaxed hypnotic state it will be hard for your unconscious mind to do anything else. The blueprint for relaxation has been set firmly into your subconscious mind.

3 simple strategies to get you feeling confident quickly: 1) Think specifically of the time/place/situation you want to feel confident in. Remember confidence doesnt mean anything until you attach it to something specific. 2) Focus on words in your mind right now that describe how you do want to be in that time and place. Remember your brain works on clear positive instructions. 3) Close your eyes for as long as you like and think about how those words feel. Then, imagine the situation itself and rehearse it in your mind feeling confident and relaxed. Types of self confidence There are three types of confidence

Low self confidence Optimal self confidence Over confidence

Low self confidence and overconfidence are extreme situations we should avoid both of them and strive for achieving optimal self confidence.

Self-Confident Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize you for it. Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile to achieve better things.

Low Confidence

Self-

Governing your behavior based on what other people think. Staying in your comfort zone, fearing failure and so avoid taking risks.

Admitting your Working hard to mistakes, and cover up mistakes learning from them. and hoping that you can fix the problem before anyone notices. Waiting for others to congratulate you on your accomplishments. Extolling your own virtues as often as possible to as many people as possible.

Accepting Dismissing compliments compliments graciously. Thanks, I offhandedly. Oh really worked hard that prospectus was on that prospectus. nothing really, Im pleased you anyone could have recognize my done it. efforts. As you can see from these examples, low self-confidence can be selfdestructive, and it often manifests itself as negativity. Self-confident people are generally more positive they believe in themselves and their abilities, and they also believe in living life to the full. Self confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of life, yet so many people struggle to find it. People who lack self confidence find it difficult to become successful. Self confident people inspire confidence in others. Often we come across people who are overconfident, i.e. egotistic and stubborn. Generally, these people have the so called superiority complex. It is important to be confident but not overconfident. It makes you egoistic and irritating. Steps to Build Self-Confidence So how do you build this sense of balanced self-confidence, founded on a firm appreciation of reality? The bad news is that theres no quick fix, or 5-minute solution. The good news is that building self-confidence is readily achievable, just as long as you have the focus and determination to carry things through. And whats even better is that the things youll do to build self-confidence will also build success after all, your confidence will come from real, solid achievement. No-one can take this away from you! So here are our three steps to self-confidence, for which well use the metaphor of a journey: preparing for your journey; setting out; and accelerating towards success. Step 1: Preparing for Your Journey The first step involves getting yourself ready for your journey to selfconfidence. You need to take stock of where you are, think about where you

want to go, get yourself in the right mindset for your journey, and commit yourself to starting it and staying with it. In preparing for your journey, do these five things: Look at what you've already achieved: Think about your life so far, and list the ten best things you've achieved in an "Achievement Log." Perhaps you came top in an important test or exam, played a key role in an important team, produced the best sales figures in a period, did something that made a key difference in someone elses life, or delivered a project that meant a lot for your business.Put these into a smartly formatted document, which you can look at often. And then spend a few minutes each week enjoying the success youve already had! Think about your strengths: Next, use a technique like SWOT Analysis to take a look at who and where you are. Looking at your Achievement Log, and reflecting on your recent life, think about what your friends would consider to be your strengths and weaknesses. From these, think about the opportunities and threats you face. Make sure that you enjoy a few minutes reflecting on your strengths! Think about what's important to you, and where you want to go: Next, think about the things that are really important to you, and what you want to achieve with your life. Setting and achieving goals is a key part of this, and real self-confidence comes from this. Goal setting is the process you use to set yourself targets, and measure your successful hitting of those targets. Inform your goal setting with your SWOT Analysis. Set goals that exploit your strengths, minimize your weaknesses, realize your opportunities, and control the threats you face. And having set the major goals in your life, identify the first step in each. A tip: Make sure its a very small step, perhaps taking no more than an hour to complete! Start managing your mind: At this stage, you need to start managing your mind. Learn to pick up and defeat the negative self-talks which can destroy your confidence. Use and create strong mental images of what youll feel and experience as you achieve your major goals theres something about doing this that makes even major goals seem achievable! And then commit yourself to success! The final part of preparing for the journey is to make a clear and unequivocal promise to yourself that you are absolutely committed to your journey, and that you will do all in your power to achieve it.If as youre doing it, you find doubts starting to surface, write them down and challenge them calmly and rationally. If they dissolve under scrutiny, thats great. However if they are

based on genuine risks, make sure you set additional goals to manage these appropriately. Either way, make that promise! Tip: Balanced Self-Confidence Self-confidence is about balance. At one extreme, we have people with low self-confidence. At the other end, we have people who may be over-confident. If you are under-confident, youll avoid taking risks and stretching yourself; and you might not try at all. And if youre over-confident, you may take on too much risk, stretch yourself beyond your capabilities, and crash badly. You may also find that youre so optimistic that you dont try hard enough to truly succeed. Getting this right is a matter of having the right amount of confidence, founded in reality and on your true ability. With the right amount of self-confidence, you will take informed risks, stretch yourself (but not beyond your abilities) and try hard. Step 2: Setting Out This is where you start, ever so slowly, moving towards your goal. By doing the right things, and starting with small, easy wins, youll put yourself on the path to success and start building the self-confidence that comes with this. Build the knowledge you need to succeed: Looking at your goals, identify the skills youll need to achieve them. And then look at how you can acquire these skills confidently and well. Dont just accept a sketchy, just-good-enough solution look for a solution, a program or a course that fully equips you to achieve what you want to achieve and, ideally, gives you a certificate or qualification you can be proud of. Focus on the basics: When youre starting, dont try to do anything clever or elaborate. And dont reach for perfection just enjoy doing simple things successfully and well. Set small goals, and achieve them: Starting with the very small goals you identified in step 1, get in the habit of setting them, achieving them, and celebrating that achievement. Dont make goals particularly challenging at this stage, just get into the habit of achieving them and celebrating them. And, little by little, start piling up the successes! Keep managing your mind: Stay on top of that positive thinking, keep celebrating and enjoying success, and keep those mental images strong. And on the other side, learn to handle failure. Accept that mistakes happen when youre trying something new. In fact, if you get into the habit of treating mistakes as learning experiences, you can (almost) start to see them in a positive light. After all, theres a lot to be said for the saying if it doesnt kill you, it makes you stronger! Step 3: Accelerating Towards Success

By this stage, youll feel your self-confidence building. Youll have completed some of the courses you started in step 2, and youll have plenty of success to celebrate!This is the time to start stretching yourself. Make the goals a bit bigger and the challenges a bit tougher. Increase the size of your commitment. And extend the skills youve proven into new, but closely related arenas. Tip: Keep yourself grounded this is where people tend to get over-confident and over-stretch themselves. And make sure you dont start enjoying cleverness for its own sake As long as you keep on stretching yourself enough, but not too much, you'll find your self-confidence building apace. What's more, you'll have earned your self-confidence because youll have put in the hard graft necessary to be successful! 10 Ways to Instantly Build Self Confidence Self confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable and feeling scared out of your wits. Your perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you. Perception is reality the more self confidence you have, the more likely it is youll succeed. Although many of the factors affecting self confidence are beyond your control, there are a number of things you can consciously do to build self confidence. By using these 10 strategies you can get the mental edge you need to reach your potential. 1. Dress Sharp Although clothes dont make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you dont look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. Use this to your advantage by taking care of your personal appearance. In most cases, significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving frequently, wearing clean clothes, and being cognizant of the latest styles. This doesnt mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great rule to follow is spend twice as much, buy half as much. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this

decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes. Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet. 2. Walk Faster One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you arent in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important. 3. Good Posture Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. They arent enthusiastic about what theyre doing and they dont consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, youll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. Youll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered. 4. Personal Commercial One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Write a 3060 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost. 5. Gratitude When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you cant have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. Youll

be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success. 6. Compliment other people When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, youll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself. 7. Sit in the front row In schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because theyre afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. Youll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room. 8. Speak up During group discussions many people never speak up because theyre afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isnt really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, youll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers. 9. Work out Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. If youre out of shape, youll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improve your physical appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish something positive. Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.

10. Focus on contribution Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution youre making to the rest of the world, you wont worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more youll be rewarded with personal success and recognition. SELF TEST: Self test has been taken in the class to judge how many of them has low confidence. To find this some questions were asked these questions include: Do you fear or fail to mistake? Do you compare yourself with others? Do you feel yourself inferior then others? etc and if answers of above questions were yes than respondents would have low self confidence. Action plan for boosting self-confidence: Here presents some quick plan to boost up confidence. Everyone should love and accept itself. Be what you are! Have a can-do attitude. Say yes to what is offered to you, what is challenging for you, what seems to be impossible, It will help you to accomplish tasks confidently. Start your day with a smile,it is the most easiest way to make your life beautiful. it will not only help you to enjoy your life but it also be fruitful for the people around you. Make mistakes but do correct them. Remember we are not angels so we are not perfect. So do mistakes but learn from experiences and correct them. Give a pat on your back. As life goes on so we should also move on! Count your blessings. we have family to share our burdens, have friends to laugh with, have partners to stand with us. we have eyes to see this beautiful world, ears to hear the birds chirping, hands to feel the warmth of our loved ones. in short we have countless blessings around us just we have to realize them. The most important thing is to think positive, feel positive and act positive. And the last one is to spend time with more confident people, they will help you in boosting up your confidence.

AND AFTER THESE IF SOME ONE IS STILL FEELING IT CANT GET GOING IN ITS LIFE THEN REMEMBER: Once a child was said that he would not become anybody in his life. and that child was ALBERT EINSTEIN who measured the speed of light and became a star on this earth. Once a gentleman invented a machine but no one was acknowledging him and that gentleman was ALEXANDER GRAHAM BELL, just because of him this world is a global village now. So, there are two different people in this world. one that says i wish i had and the one that says i am glad i did. Remember one thing, you can have anything in this world if you just believe in yourself. At the end i would like to say the winner is not the one who never fails. But the one who never give up.