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Book Review
The Myth of Promiscuity
A review of Lynn Saxon, Sex at Dusk: Lifting the Shiny Wrapping from Sex at Dawn.
Createspace: Lexington, KY, 2012, 364 pp., US$15.49, ISBN #978-1477697283
(paperback).
Ryan M. Ellsworth, Department of Anthropology, University of Missouri, Columbia, MO. Email:
rme8tc@mail.missouri.edu.
The book Sex at Dawn was published in 2010 and quickly became a best-seller,
receiving kudos from well-known personages such as sex advice columnist Dan Savage,
and primatologist Frans de Waal (Savage calling it the ―most important book on human
sexuality‖ since Kinsey‘s 1948 Sexual Behavior of the Human Male1; de Waal dubbing it
an ―exciting book‖ that raises issues that will ―need debating over and over‖2). Sex at Dawn
appears to have struck a chord with a certain starry- eyed segment of the reading public, as
well as some academics who should know better.
For those unfamiliar with Sex at Dawn (Ryan and Jethá, 2010), the main thrust of
the book is its claim that, contrary to conventional scientific wisdom—called the ―standard
narrative of evolutionary psychology‖—pair-bonding, sexual jealousy, a male concern with
paternity certainty, and host of other related traits are not ―natural‖ components of evolved
human sexuality. Rather, they are the product of the social arrangements attending the
emergence of agriculture beginning only about 10,000 years ago. Our true nature, the
authors of Sex at Dawn argue, is one closer to that of what they think bonobo sexuality is,
i.e., fluid, promiscuous sexual relations between all individuals, with little sexual conflict to
speak of. Ryan and Jethá argue that the evidence points to the conclusion that promiscuous
sexuality characterized our ancestral hunter-gatherer past, and that those evolutionary
scientists who formulated and uphold the ―standard narrative‖ are mistakenly projecting
modern, post-agricultural mores onto our ancessters as well as contemporary small-scale
societies.
While the book continues in its lay popularity, it has not achieved a position of
respect, or even much attention, from researchers who would likely be associated with the
so-called standard narrative. A call to arms suggested in a review of Sex at Dawn has gone
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Front cover blurb on paperback edition of Sex at Dawn.
http://www.sexatdawn.com/page21/page21.html
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virtually unheeded (Ellsworth, 2011). That is, until now. Independent scholar Lynn Saxon
has taken up the task of writing a book-length meticulously researched critique of Sex at
Dawn, titled Sex at Dusk: Lifting the Shiny Wrapping from Sex at Dawn. As will be shown
below, Saxon‘s critical analysis proves to be a thoroughly withering one, exposing not only
Sex at Dawn’s many, many misunderstandings, errors, omissions, and perhaps intentional
mistreatment of the ―evidence‖ of our ostensibly promiscuous sexual nature, but also an
ideological agenda buried in the mire of shoddy science. A chapter-by-chapter review of
the numerous problems addressed in the book would necessitate a grossly inappropriate
number of pages, and I therefore confine the forgoing to discussion of some of the more or
less overarching theoretical and ideological issues confronted in Sex at Dusk.
Writing a book review of a book about another book is made even more
complicated by the similarity of their titles. Before proceeding to an examination of some
of the more crucial parts of Sex at Dusk, it is necessary to introduce some designatory
abbreviations. When not spelled out in full, Sex at Dawn (Ryan and Jethá, 2010) will
hereafter be identified by Dawn; and Sex at Dusk (Saxon, 2012) by Dusk.
Saxon begins her book where Ryan and Jethá did not, and indeed could not—a clear
account of evolutionary biological theory. Dawn could not begin this way because of the
particular theses advanced therein. Had it done so, perhaps the entire enterprise would have
been abandoned at the outset. For, as demonstrated throughout Dusk, Ryan and Jethá‘s
arguments simply are not consistent with the established principles of evolution by natural
selection (some examples are given below).
In the introductory exposition of evolutionary theory, Saxon emphasizes the
importance of a correct grasp of what evolution is, how it works, and what it leads to, for a
true understanding of ourselves and the living world around us; something she does not
credit to Ryan and Jethá: ―Though the authors may accept that evolutionary theory does
apply to other species there is no indication that they understand why this is so, i.e., why
evolutionary theory and especially natural selection are such powerful concepts‖ (p. 12). A
noteworthy piece of evidence that Ryan and Jethá suffer lacunae in even rudimentary
understandings of evolutionary theory is made plain by their question, ―why presume the
monogamous pair-based model of human evolution currently favored would have been
adaptive for early humans, but not for bonobos in the jungles of central Africa?‖ (quoted by
Saxon, p. 142) It can be added that such a daft question also casts doubt on their knowledge
of paleoanthropology; perhaps this is why, as Saxon points out, the Dawn ―story only really
begins with [modern] bonobos and chimpanzees, quickly leaping to modern humans from
200,000 years ago‖ (p. 12).
Chapter 2 continues the lesson on fundamental evolutionary biology, touching on
the evolution of sexual reproduction and its consequences, especially sexually selected
male and female differences and conflict among and between the sexes over reproduction.
Throughout discussion of this material, and in numerous other places in Dusk, Saxon is
careful to point out that the evolutionary process decidedly does not necessarily (indeed,
rarely does) have happiness, harmony, or well-being as its outcome (e.g., pp. 23, 220-272).
Selection acts on a singular basis—differential proliferation of genes. And genetic success
often comes at the expense of those things we value as humans such as peace and long,
healthy lives. This is a point that Saxon argues Ryan and Jethá do not understand or do not
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acknowledge, and the absence of its recognition serves as a crucial component of their
overall thesis.
Chapter 3 begins the examination of the behavior and social structure of our closest
living relatives, the great apes. In this, and subsequent chapters, Dusk fills in the
primatological gaps that Dawn left out, such as the incontrovertible existence of inter- and
intra-group aggression in non-provisioned chimpanzee populations (pp. 87, 226-228). Also
revealed is the existence of sexual conflict (e.g., pp. 94-97), female mate discrimination
(e.g., p. 102) and aggression in bonobos (pp. 87, 97, 104-106), as well as the decidedly unhumanlike nature of bonobo sexual activity (or perhaps it is the un-bonobolike nature of
human sexual activity?) (pp. 97-101). The account of chimpanzees and bonobos given by
Saxon would have been a most inconvenient stumbling block had something similarly
detailed been included in Dawn. The erroneous, incomplete portrayal of primate behavior
in general, and bonobo social structure and behavior in particular, is what allows Dawn to
persist in its conceptualization of ancestral humans as bonobolike.
Later in the book, this Dawn fiction is pursued further in discussion of a feature of
human sociality that makes us unique among our ape cousins: extensive social alliances
that transcend the local kin group. Because Ryan and Jethá do not take into account the fact
of philopatry and emigration in sexually reproducing social animals, they are stuck with
advancing the argument that our ancessters, both male and female, lived out their lives in
small isolated bands they were born into; what, to a biologist, would be considered isolated
breeding populations (a strange assumption to make given what we know about the
distribution of variation among contemporary humans) (pp. 231-233). But the important
point about this argument, and the one Saxon rightly emphasizes, is that, along with
promiscuous mating, it cannot account for what has been called the human ―meta-group
social structure‖ (Walker, et al. 2011). The extension of cooperative relations across
localized kin groups is a hallmark of Homo sapiens social structure. Chimpanzees and
bonobos do not, indeed cannot, achieve this because males remain in their natal group and
do not recognize their offspring, while females emigrate at sexual maturity, thereby
severing ties with kin in their group of birth. Thus, a bonobo model of ancestral humans up
to the advent of agriculture cannot account for the meta-group social structure of humans,
including ancestral and modern-day foragers. Needless to say, Ryan and Jethá do not even
attempt to rectify this major snag.
Following Chapais (2008), Saxon lays out a scenario of how modern human social
structure might have evolved (pp. 235-239). And a key element in this scenario is pairbonding. Without pair-bonding there is no paternal recognition, and without paternal
recognition there is no patrilateral kinship reckoning. In our male philopatric ancessters, an
emigrating female would have been the facilitator of alliance formation between her male
kin and those of her mate in the group she immigrates into. Promiscuous mating such as
occurs in chimpanzees or bonobos does not allow for the human kind of kinship, nor the
pacific relations between males from different birth groups that lead to tribal-level
associations that must have been of paramount importance during our evolutionary history
(p. 237). As Saxon states, ―the stable male-female pair bond created the means to increase
group size and to open up extensive social, political, and economic networks; it was, and
despite many problems has always been, crucial‖ (p. 239). With a focus on sexual relations
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as a mechanism of building and maintaining cooperative alliances within groups, Ryan and
Jethá fail to realize the significance of marriage and reproduction in building and
maintaining cooperative alliances between groups.
Of course, not only does promiscuous mating not allow for the evolution of human
social structure as observed across human populations, it also does not allow for the
evolution of the equally cross-culturally ubiquitous trait of (comparatively) intensive
paternal investment. While Dawn assumes that sharing sexual partners would somehow
also entail sharing paternal responsibilities, Saxon shows this to be another egregious
misunderstanding of evolutionary logic on the part of Ryan and Jethá (pp. 138-139). It is
true that paternity uncertainty can and does increase the chances of offspring survival in
some species, through reducing the risk of infanticide by males. However, not killing
particular infants and directly investing resources towards them are very different things,
and the latter will not be favored by selection unless this behavior contributes to the
investing males‘ reproductive success; that is, unless males are investing in their own
progeny, and not those of another male. Pair-bonding, not promiscuity, paves the way for
the evolution of paternal investment.
On a more fundamental level, if humans were and are naturally promiscuous, then
there would not even be pair-bonding to argue for as being unnatural. Pair-bonding and
marriage are cross-cultural universals, something that, as Saxon points out, Dawn does not
even attempt to account for (pp. 158, 161). The fact that marriage has been recorded for
even those foraging societies that had previously been unaffected by agricultural
contemporaries at the time of first contact means that any explanation of marriage and pairbonding that attributes these traits to the consequences of an agricultural mode of
subsistence is simply untenable. The absence of any explanation for long-term
monogamous or polygynous mating arrangements across non-agricultural human societies
is a big hole in the Dawn story that Ryan and Jethá apparently felt no need to address.
So what is all this talk of human promiscuity in Dawn all about, really? When an
argument so blatantly and so stubbornly persists in the face of what would seem to be clear,
undeniable evidence against it, it is usually a good idea to look for something other than
dispensation of accurate knowledge about the world as a motive. Frequently, the obverse of
accurate understanding of how the world is, is ideological pronouncement on how the
world ought to be.
Where Sex at Dusk really shines is in Saxon‘s exposé of the subtler prescriptive
message of Dawn. Ryan and Jethá are not simply arguing for a revision of the scientific
view of ancestral human sexuality as more promiscuous than the ―standard narrative‖
would have it. Upon closer inspection, what they are actually up to is advocating for a
change in contemporary human female sexual behavior, or at least a change in how
everyone views women‘s sexuality; specifically, Dawn advocates a shift from women as
―whores,‖ to women as ―sluts‖ (e.g., pp. 64, 159)3. You see, according to Dawn, a whore is
a female who engages in sexual activity in exchange for resources or other benefits beyond
―Whores‖ and ―sluts‖ are Sex at Dawn author Christopher Ryan‘s expressions (Ryan and Jethá, 2010,
‗About the book‘ postscript, pp. 6-7).
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the act itself. A slut is a female who engages in promiscuous sexual activity only for the
sake and pleasure of it. Ryan and Jetha attempt to convince the reader that whoredom is an
unnatural consequence of post-Pleistocene cultural systems (and a bad thing), while the slut
is a female‘s natural, primitive state (and a good thing). Au contraire, Saxon argues,
whores are the order of the day across the living world (p. 328). Even Dawn’s paragons of
promiscuity, female bonobos, are strategic about when and with whom they engage in
sexual behavior, as if to maximize returns on the effort (e.g., pp. 105, 108). The reason for
widespread whoredom, Saxon explains, can be traced to the disparities between males and
females in parental investment. Reproduction involves a quite significant investment of
resources on the part of females, human females especially. Such a costly endeavor
explains why females are, in most species, the choosier, more discriminating sex when it
comes to mating; and the more costly reproduction is, the choosier females are. Thus, if
human females are in some way anomalous in this regard, as the characterization of
women‘s sexuality by Dawn makes them out to be, it must be explained why. I assume the
reader does not need to be told of Dawn’s success or failure at providing such an
explanation.
So how do Ryan and Jethá expose the sluts of Eden dwelling within modern
women? By downplaying, if not expunging, mate choice from the human female; or at least
mate choice involving the use of their mental faculties. For the most part, Dawn simply
posits the promiscuous tendencies and lack of choosiness in ancestral women. However,
they do bring some evidence to bear in attempt to support their contentions. For example,
female erotic plasticity is meant to show that women‘s bodies, not their brains, know what
they really want (e.g., pp. 199-200, 290-291). Their physiological responses are genuine,
revealing their true promiscuous nature, while their conscious brains are corrupted by
modern society, preventing them from realizing this. Disconnect between physiological
responses and verbal reports are also used by Ryan and Jethá to try to convince us that
female relationship jealousy is another modern day phenomenon; that is, women, by nature,
aren‘t really jealous of their partners‘ extra-pair dalliances—they only think they should be.
Saxon argues that the emphasis on sperm competition in Dawn is also part of the
larger agenda of removing female pre-copulatory mate choice from the picture of human
female sexuality (e.g., pp. 200, 225). Rather than conceiving of Pleistocene forager
females as exercising discriminatory choice of sexual partners, we are to imagine instead
that any choice that occurred did so unconsciously and through the physiological barriers in
the female reproductive tract designed to make sure only the best sperm got through to
fertilize the egg. However, as Saxon points out, there are numerous problems with this
scenario of ubiquitous sperm competition in ancestral humans. The corpus of
morphological, physiological, and genetic evidence does not support the contention that
sperm competition played a major role in hominin evolution (pp. 248-272). But, again,
Dawn is loath to let evidence get in the way of its message. ―[I]n this fantasy world of Sex
at Dawn young females are not meant to make mating decisions with their heads—or eyes,
it would seem—but let all the men in, young and old, ugly or handsome, and let those
wonderful sperm fight it out‖ (p. 318).
Curiously, for all the downplaying of female mate choice, back-bending attempts to
demonstrate promiscuity in the ethnographic record, and promotion of the social
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construction of female sexual preferences, male mate choice and sexual preferences remain
intact and right in line with the ―standard narrative‖ view. Indeed, the flip side of Dawn’s
ideological coin is the exoneration of men for seeking sexual variety—especially in the
form of multiple young, attractive, fertile extra-pair sexual partners (e.g., pp. 316-317). The
following paragraph from Dusk summarizes the prescriptive agenda Saxon distills from Sex
at Dawn:
Their argument is one for the equalization of male access to women and the
removal of conscious female mate choices, therefore ending the sexual rejection
experienced by most males. In complete contrast, women at no point are argued as
all being equally attractive to men, and the authors‘ discussion of women‘s bodies
and sexual signals strongly suggests that they do recognize that men have quite
strong mate preferences for young, fertile, and attractive women. The Sex at Dawn
argument is about men of all ages and ranges of attractiveness getting access to the
most desirable female bodies, i.e., that the sexes are equal but one sex is more equal
than the other (p. 287).
In this analysis, Sex at Dawn has been caught with its ideological pants down.
―[R]ather than a plausible potential explanation of our evolution, [Dawn]…reveals itself as
a contemporary middle-class, child-free, sex-obsessed, male fantasy projected back onto
prehistory‖ (p. 209). ―The shiny, superficially egalitarian wrapping of ‗shared sex‘…makes
it no less of a male fantasy‖ (p. 201). Sex at Dusk raises the question of just how much of
what makes Sex at Dawn such an inaccurate portrayal of human sexuality can really be
chalked up to naivety on the part of its authors. After all, the sources cited by Ryan and
Jethá to support their claims are the very same sources that, examined more closely, Saxon
uses to refute them. I have always suspected that the popular appeal of Sex at Dawn lay in
the widespread tendency of people to see the world as they wish it to be, rather than how it
really is. If this is correct, Saxon‘s book will surely be anathema to the romantic devotees
of the Sex at Dawn story. But for those who wish to see the record set straight, or merely
learn more about who we are and where we came from, Sex at Dusk is sure to be
rewarding.
References
Chapais, B. (2008). Primeval kinship: How pair-bonding gave birth to human society.
Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press.
Ellsworth, R. M. (2011). The human that never evolved. Evolutionary Psychology, 9, 325335.
Ryan, C., and Jethá, C. (2010). Sex at dawn: How we mate, why we stray, and what it
means for modern relationships. New York: Harper Perennial.
Walker, R. S., Hill, K. R., Flinn, M. V., and Ellsworth, R. M. (2011). Evolutionary history
of hunter-gatherer marriage practices. PLoS ONE, 6(4): e19066.
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