“The best moments in our lives, are not the passive, receptive, relaxing times—although such experiences can also be enjoyable, if we have worked hard to attain them. The best moments usually occur when a person’s body or mind is stretched to its limits in a voluntary effort to accomplish something difficult and worthwhile.

Optimal experience is thus something that we make happen. For a child, it could be placing with trembling fingers the last block on a tower she has built, higher than any she has built so far; for a swimmer, it could be trying to beat his own record; for a violinist, mastering an intricate musical passage. For each person there are thousands of opportunities, challenges to expand ourselves.”
― Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience

“I want to learn how to speak to anyone at any time and make us both feel a little bit better, lighter, richer, with no commitments of ever meeting again. I want to learn how to stand wherever with whoever and still feel stable. I want to learn how to unlock the locks to our minds, my mind, so that when I hear opinions or views that don’t match up with mine, I can still listen and understand. I want to burn up lifeless habits of following maps and to-do lists, concentrated liquids to burn my mind and throat
and I want to go back to the way nature shaped me. I want to learn to go on well with whatever I have in my hands at the moment
in a natural state of mind,
certain like the sea.

I will find comfort in the rhythm of the sea.”
― Charlotte Eriksson

“The problem with thinking that you are the absolute best, is that it leaves no room for you to become any better and while you live life thinking that you're the best, truth is a lot of people around you are already better and becoming even more better.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“The 7 Steps to Transformation:
1. Dream it.
2. Envision it.
3. Think it.
4. Grow it.
5. Become it.
6. Live it.
7. OWN it.”
― Germany Kent

“Who we are is who we ACTUALLY are. It's never who we create in order for people to see. You might really hate who you actually are, so then you create a sub-genus type of yourself for other people to see. But that never changes who you are. The sub-genus type won't change your genus. The only way we change who we are is by looking at ourselves in the mirror long enough to make us vomit over our disgusting waywardness and long enough to fall in love with our strengths. But you can't just fall in love with your strengths. You also need to vomit over your hypocrisies and all of your other bullshit. And you can't just vomit, either. You also have to clean it up and embrace yourself afterwards. This is how you change your genus.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“I really feel sorry for the many men who are surrounded by people who flatter them all the time. In Chinese we have a golden proverb: "The true friend is the one who shows you how to bow down. Because you cannot enter the cave of treasures without bowing at the opening. And the true enemy is the one who flatters you. Because you cannot enter the cave of treasures standing tall with pride." At the end of the day, it is those that flatter you who keep you away from the true treasures in your life. In the culture we all live in today, we are taught to surround ourselves by people "who believe in us". That is true to some extent. But in reality, there are many times when the people around us ought to slap us in the face because we are being idiots. This seems to be particularly prevalent amongst men. In their quest to build a kingdom, they surround themselves with peasants. But this is not how to build a kingdom. In order to build a kingdom, surround yourself with knights. True friends who will protect you, even if it means protecting you from your own wayward self.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“We keep becoming better & better versions of ourselves without end, though there may be some glitches, we recover & go on.”
― Jay Woodman

“If you haven’t learned something
From periods of suffering,
If you haven’t wrung the juices
Of your own pain and drank them
For your own nourishment,
You have wasted your experience
And missed the chance
To expand the capacity
For being stronger the next time
That these seasons arrive at your door.”
― Eric Overby, Legacy

“What you’re thinking about can be what you become.”
― Mitch Albom, The Magic Strings of Frankie Presto

“Eager to see the colours of life
The darkness giving away to light
I set my soul ablaze
By books at candlelight
And my heart on fire
By decisions under sunlight.”
― Tania Ferguson, Transcend and Love

“There is only one purpose for all of life, and that is for you and all that lives to experience fullest glory. [...] The wonder of this purpose is that it is never-ending. [...] Should there come a moment in which you experience yourself in your fullest glory, you will in that instant imagine an ever greater glory to fulfill. The more you are, the more you can become, and the more you can become, the more you can yet be.”
― Neale Donald Walsch, Conversations with God: An Uncommon Dialogue, Book 1

“If, instead of seeking approval, you ask, ‘What’s wrong with it? How can I make it better?’, you are more likely to get a truthful critical answer. These answers will help you in improving and becoming a better version of yourself. Constant critical evaluation is key to constant improvement.”
― Abhishek Ratna

“Only you can decide what you become.”
― Seth Adam Smith, Rip Van Winkle and the Pumpkin Lantern

“There is an untapped beauty which lies just below the surface of the face of the ability to strip oneself of all of the veils that one covers himself/herself in before looking into the mirror. I wrote something many years ago, which has to do with the mermaid speaking to the white witch: "I am a mermaid and I know what I am but you are a white witch draped in silver robes"... it was about how people lie to themselves about who they are. They cover themselves in silver linings, in silver veils, in silver robes, while the cauldron they stir comes from hell! This piece that I wrote has since become exceedingly popular and exaggeratedly quoted. But even when we are mermaids, we still need to stop and look into the mirror and remove the silver lining we outline ourselves in, so that we can see who we really are, practice what we really are, thus becoming authentic through-and-through. Because this is the only way that we can reach our full capacities to enliven what we are capable of becoming and being. We often believe that silver linings are what enables us; nevertheless, silver linings often hold us down. Silver is heavy metal. Imagine all you could be, if you could be YOUR ACTUAL SELF. Who are you without your silver paint and paintbrush? It is a very liberating practice, a practice I am most eager to continue cultivating within me. Who are you without all of the adjectives you add to your existence? How do you move? What is that look in your eyes? Does your heartbeat match the pulses of the Sun? You'll never know until you put down your paintbrush.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“Make it a habit to get a bit more top notch than yesterday.”
― Hiral Nagda

“You can see it as a mid-life crisis or you can see it as a mid-life awakening.”
― Dan Pearce

“There are three persons I must know; the man I was, the man I am, and the man I am to be.”
― Paul Bamikole

“You were thinking about how suburbs are perfect cradles for dreaming: they practically beg you to imagine another life, one lived at a burning voltage. The dreaming hidden in this place — murmuring beneath the comfort of the uniform gardens in their perfect rows, the mowed lawns, each driveway that bit too small for the two large cars — you couldn't have become what you are if you hadn't always been from this.”
― Colin Walsh, Kala

“All men are equal but their graces and abilities separates them and makes certain things possible for them than for others.”
― Kingsley Opuwari Manuel

“People who don't respect your growth have no place in your life.”
― Sofia Nova

“While a crossroads is an event with external distinctions, internally, crossroads are defining moments that shape who we're becoming.”
― Emily Grabatin, Dare to Decide: Discovering Peace, Clarity and Courage at Life's Crossroads

“The world keeps changing, creating new possibilities. Therefore I can keep changing and become even more than I thought possible.”
― The Thoughtful Beast

“Start becoming the person you want to be and eventually you'll look back at the person you were.”
― Germany Kent

“You are brilliantly capable to be the most outstanding version of yourself. The strength is already inside you.”
― Hiral Nagda

“Sometimes we need to think from a different perspective in order to reach the next level of our lives. In other words, an opportunity we view as pointless might actually be what we need to help us move forward.”
― Torron-Lee Dewar

“When I was choosing between things I wanted to do myself instead of accepting things that people would like me to do for them or being forced to in a role, job, or department. A lot of my friends, colleagues and so many people above me drove me towards fear.

Fear of What if, if things won't work out your way, if you don't make money what you are making now then how or you will be sidelined or you have challenges in front of you which are impossible to address when you choose your own path your way and whatnot.

But I was telling myself what if things work out my way because I choose for myself the path I am creating for myself. and If I am able to make it myself with all my dedication, hard work, knowledge, and abilities then what if things work out and result in creating your own career that you like and love from your inside.

There was silence in the room among the people because no one has ever chosen for themselves anything but rather they have taken what others have given them. So there was no answer for these questions arising out of myself to take a leap of faith.

Now writing these things here have a purpose, a purpose for the people who dream, people who want to become real, and people who want to control their lives and outcomes.

Fear creates an illusion in the minds which has no reality or existence, If fear would have existed in reality then why didn't it show up when I was holding the mic in front of the audience I was speaking to and until I wasn't on stage speaking to the people out there it was there but once I took charge of myself to deliver something to the people there was no fear.

It was me and the people with the message.

"CONQUER YOURSELF”
― Aiyaz Uddin, Science Behind A Perfect Life

“There's nothing I've learnt so useful than to always live to become better than I was yesterday.”
― Femi Oladosu

“Consistency must become your lifestyle if you want to become successful.”
― Olawale Daniel

“And I thought perhaps I was starting to like who I was becoming.”
― Lyla V. Mornny, Delicate Circles

“It’s like watching a horizon disappear behind you,
the version of yourself you once clung to
fading into the distance—
and ahead, a sea of possibilities
so vast, it drowns you
in the thrill of becoming.”
― Sean DeLaney