“We have two alternatives: either we question our beliefs - or we don't. Either we accept our fixed versions of reality- or we begin to challenge them. In Buddha's opinion, to train in staying open and curious - to train in dissolving our assumptions and beliefs - is the best use of our human lives.”
― Pema Chodron, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“Don’t let life harden your heart.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“LIFE’S work is to wake up, to let the things that enter into your life wake you up rather than put you to sleep. The only way to do this is to open, be curious, and develop some sense of sympathy for everything that comes along, to get to know its nature and let it teach you what it will.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“In a nutshell, when life is pleasant, think of others. When life is a burden, think of others.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“The more we make friends with ourselves, the more we can see that our ways of shutting down and closing off are rooted in the mistaken thinking that the way to get happy is to blame somebody else.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“What causes misery is always trying to get away from the facts of life, always trying to avoid pain and seek happiness—this sense of ours that there could be lasting security and happiness available to us if we could only do the right thing.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“It helps to remember that our spiritual practice is not about accomplishing anything—not about winning or losing—but about ceasing to struggle and relaxing as it is.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“LIFE is a good teacher and a good friend.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“If you can live with the sadness of human life (what Rinpoche often called the tender heart or the genuine heart of sadness), if you can be willing to feel fully and acknowledge continually your own sadness and the sadness of life, but at the same time not be drowned in it, because you also remember the vision and power of the Great Eastern Sun, you experience balance and completeness, joining heaven and earth, joining vision and practicality.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“The way to dissolve our resistance to life is to meet it face-to-face.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“Meditation practice is not about later, when you get it all together and you’re this person you really respect.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“The essence of life is that it’s challenging.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“What we call obstacles are really the way the world and our entire experience teach us where we’re stuck.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“A much more interesting, kind, adventurous, and joyful approach to life is to begin to develop our curiosity, not caring whether the object of our inquisitiveness is bitter or sweet. To lead a life that goes beyond pettiness and prejudice and always wanting to make sure that everything turns out on our own terms, to lead a more passionate, full, and delightful life than that, we must realize that we can endure a lot of pain and pleasure for the sake of finding out who we are and what this world is, how we tick and how our world ticks, how the whole thing just is.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“The more you just try to get it your way, the less you feel at home.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“WE can learn to rejoice in even the smallest blessings our life holds. It is easy to miss our own good fortune; often happiness comes in ways we don’t even notice.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“PATIENCE is the antidote to anger, a way to learn to love and care for whatever we meet on the path.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“Meditation takes us just as we are, with our confusion and our sanity. This complete acceptance of ourselves as we are is called maitri, or unconditional friendliness, a simple, direct relationship with the way we are.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“If you stay in bed all day with the covers over your head, if you overeat for the millionth time in your life, if you get drunk, if you get stoned, if it’s just this habitual thing that you think is going to make you feel better, you know that’s going to depress you and make you more discouraged.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“The essence of this practice is that when we encounter pain in our life we breathe into our heart with the recognition that others also feel this. It’s a way of acknowledging when we are closing down and of training to open up. When we encounter any pleasure or tenderness in our life, we cherish that and rejoice.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“You want it your own way. You’d just like to have a little peace; you’d like to have a little happiness, you know, just “gimme a break!” But the more you think that way, the more you try to get life to come out so that it will always suit you, the more your fear of other people and what’s outside your room grows.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“IMPERMANENCE means that the essence of life is fleeting. Some people are so skillful at their mindfulness practice that they can actually see each and every little movement of mind—changing, changing, changing.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“Meditation is a totally nonviolent, nonaggressive occupation.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“MY teacher Trungpa Rinpoche encouraged us to lead our lives as an experiment, a suggestion that has been very important to me.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“The opposite of patience is aggression—the desire to jump and move, to push against our lives, to try to fill up space.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“The calligraphy reads, “Pointing directly at your own heart, you find Buddha.” Listening to talks about the dharma, or the teachings of Buddha, or practicing meditation is nothing other than studying ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“IN practicing meditation, we’re not trying to live up to some kind of ideal—quite the opposite.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“There is something aggressive about that approach to life, trying to flatten out all the rough spots and imperfections into a nice smooth ride.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“HOW are we going to spend this brief lifetime? Are we going to strengthen our well-perfected ability to struggle against uncertainty, or are we going to train in letting go? Are we going to hold on stubbornly to “I’m like this and you’re like that”? Or are we going to move beyond that narrow mind? Could we start to train as a warrior, aspiring to reconnect with the natural flexibility of our being and to help others do the same? If we start to move in this direction, limitless possibilities will begin to open up.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

“We can learn to act and think in ways that sow seeds of our future well-being, gradually becoming more aware of what causes happiness as well as what causes distress.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron