Of course youve heard that people handle their grief in different ways.

For
example it is normal to grieve the loss of a loved one. However, any change in
life (positive or negative) will, at times, bring the emotion of grief to your heart.
Have you noticed yet that some people suffer grief after they have achieved a
major goal in life? What about ending a part of their life and beginning a new
one? The following are some of the symptoms of grief that a person might
experience.
The Grieving Process

Denial

Anger

Bargaining

Depression

Acceptance

Some people experience initial shock, disbelief, emotional paralysis or

guilt. Feel free to add your own emotional experience to the list.
Some of the stress factors that might contribute to grief and depression are:

Death of a spouse

Death of an immediate family member

Marriage

Divorce or separation

Divorce or separation of your parents

Moving to a different city

A new family member

A child who leaves the nest

Graduation

Loss of job

New job

Money problems

Buying or selling a house, etc. etc.

This is not a complete list, other stress factors might contribute to grief and
depression.
While grieving about our losses and disappointments is a part of life there are
times, when a person can get stuck in emotional overwhelm. This is the time,
when you need to ask for help. You could join a support group to share your
loss.
Here is a fact for you, EFT is effective to help you acknowledge the pain of what
has happened to you and identify the current stress factors in your life. EFT is an
amazing tool that you can use to eliminate the unresolved negative emotions
caused by your loss so you can move forward with life.

SETTING THE INTENTION TO HEAL:

Tap 7 to 10 times on your karate chop point (side of hand) or on your favorite
point and say:
I have the intention to release the sadness and grief from my heart.
When you think about your loss, what emotion do you feel? Where do you feel
that emotion in your body?
EFT Tip: Even though I feel this sadness in my heart, I Accept that I am feeling
this way (Tap on all the energy points) * Remember that your own case with
grief is different and unique to you. If you need professional EFT Support, we
are here to work with you and help you identify, address and eliminate the
multiple aspects and issues that could be contributing to your problem with grief.
Rate the intensity of your emotion on a scale of 0-10 (SUDS Rating-Subjective
Units of Distress)
10 meaning your highest intensity (I feel terrible)

0 meaning no intensity at all (I feel happy)

* Remember to drink water

before and during tapping

While rubbing the sore spot on your chest or tapping the karate chop point of
either hand (7-10 times) Repeat the following EFT Phrases aloud:
EFT SET UP PHRASES
Even though there is no way out for me, I feel completely lost, I dont know
where to turn to. I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself
Even though I have lost so much and my mind feels numb, I cannot have a clear
thought. I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself anyway
Even though I really feel this pain in my heart, I have lost so much, I just dont
know how I am going to be able to keep moving forward. I deeply and profoundly
love and accept myself anyway
Even though this pain in my heart is so deep and there is no way that I can feel
better. I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself anyway
Now tap on the following energy points while repeating your negative reminder
phrases: If possible tap on both sides of the face and body. (Use 3 or 4 fingers
of one hand to tap on the energy points)
Crown of head: I feel this tremendous pain in my heart
Beginning of eyebrow: I have lost so much
Side of eye: I feel NUMB
Under eye: My mind is paralyzed
Under nose: I cannot have a clear thought

Under mouth: I dont feel like doing anything

Collarbone: I cannot keep going on like this
Under arm: This pain is so deep and it is overwhelming me
Crown of head: I cannot keep going on like this
Beginning of eyebrow: I cry and cry all day long
Side of eye: I dont even want to get up from bed
Under eye: I dont want to get out of this house
Under nose: I dont want to talk to anybody
Under mouth: This pain in my heart is overwhelming me!
Collarbone: This pain in my heart is overwhelming me!
Under arm: I have lost so much!
Crown of head: I feel numb, I dont think that I can get out of this one
Take a deep breath and release all this pain from your heart. Release it from
your mind and body.
How do you feel?
Rate your emotional intensity level on a scale of 0-10, do several rounds until
your intensity is down to ZERO.
Now tap REFRAMING AND POSITIVE CHOICES on each of the following
energy points:
Crown of head: What if I could relax just a little bit?

Beginning of eyebrow: What if I am able to engage in new activities?

Side of eye: Maybe I can talk to somebody
Under eye: There is somebody else that also understands my pain
Under nose: Maybe I can talk to a friend, I can tell him what I am going through
Under mouth: I know that it is going to take some time for me to feel better
Collarbone: But maybe I can let go of some of this pain
Under arm: What if I can begin to feel more energetic?
Crown of head: What if I can start doing something new? I am open to the
possibility that I can let go of some of this pain
Beginning of eyebrow: What if I could let go of some of this numbness that I feel
every single day?
Side of eye: I am open to becoming free
Under eye: I deserve to begin having some joy in my heart
Under nose: I deserve to wake up in the morning being energetic
Under mouth: I have all the memories left
Collarbone: I can think of all the good times we spent together
Under arm: I can talk to others about the wonderful moments that we spent
together

Crown of head: I am open to talking to other people more

Take a deep breath and let the pain from your heart go. Let it go, You dont need
to keep it anymore!

Gratitude Process
Put your hand on the middle of your chest (your heart center) and tap while
repeating aloud:
I am grateful because I know that I can get better
I am grateful because I have wonderful friends that support me
I am grateful because I know that my heart is healing!
I am grateful because I can look forward to tomorrow
I am grateful because I know that things are getting better and better for me
I am grateful because I can remember the wonderful times we spent together
You know that it is not healthy for you to be stuck in this emotional pain, so be
kind to yourself and talk to your friends.
Talk to someone who can help you and keep doing this EFT Exercise to help you
deal with grief. I really hope that this can help you.

AFFIRMATION TO HELP YOU GRIEVE

To start, it is best to take a few deep breaths to help you
relax and be receptive to the benefit of the affirmations.
Start by taking a good deep breath through your nose nice and deep - deeper than that - and gently blow the air
out your pursed lips - very slowly - long and drawn out almost like whistling.
Then do it again - take a deep long breath through your
nose - deeper - feel your lower abdomen swell up with
oxygen - and slowly let the air out your pursed lips...

And do it one more time - a good deep breath - and let it

out slowly through your lips.
Now, with your eyes closed, speak each statement - out
loud - as you read it:
I am helping myself now....
I am helping myself now by acknowledging my grief....
I am acknowledging the full extent of my grief....
My grief is very great....
My grief is bottomless...
My grief is endless...
My grief is so deep and endless I cannot express it
adequately....
I am holding nothing back....
I have many tears within me...
I cry when I feel the urge...
I cry fully....
I hold nothing back....
I am grieving fully.....
When I feel the urge to cry, I let the tears flow....
I let the tears within me flow freely...

I let all the grief within me flow out of my system....

Although I feel wounded, I know I am whole inside....
I feel my wholeness, despite my loss....
Grieving fully is a natural part of my wholeness as a
human being...
When I grieve, I am being my whole self....
I give myself permission to cry and grieve fully...
I recognize the importance of fully grieving....
I recognize my right to fully grieve....
I have sustained an unbearable loss....
I have a right to fully grieve my loss....
I hold nothing back....
I have a right to cry my tears to the fullest...
I am helping myself to heal by grieving fully...
It is good to help myself by grieving fully....
I am helping myself to heal by crying and weeping and
grieving....
As my tears flow out, I am feeling more and more sleepy...
As my grief flows out of my system, I feel myself getting
sleepy....

I have a right to feel sleepy....

I have a right to fully grieve and to feel sleepy....
I am feeling more and more sleepy....
I am feeling very sleepy....
I am going to sleep now.
Set Up Tapping Continuously on the Karate Chop Point

Even though Ive just lost the love of my life and I cant imagine how Im going to go on
without him, I accept myself and the grief that Im feeling.
Even though I cant imagine how Im going to continue living without this person who was
so dear to me, I suspect that deep down Im OK.
Even though Im afraid to feel the fullness of this grief, because Im afraid that its so
enormous that it would swallow me up and I wouldnt survive feeling it, I accept and
embrace this fear and this grief.
Tapping Three Rounds

Eyebrow: Im so sad.
Side of Eye: How will I ever live without him.
Under Eye: This grief is so enormous.
Under Nose: He was my life.
Chin: How will I live without him?
Collarbone: How will I ever live without him?
Under Arm: Im scared I cant live without him.
Top of Head: For all these years, my life has been devoted to him. I dont know how Ill live
alone.
Eyebrow: He was my best friend.
Side of Eye: He was my lover.
Under Eye: He was my support.
Under Nose: He supported me and I supported him.
Chin: We were best friends.
Collarbone: I already feel so alone without him.
Under Arm: I just cant imagine living without him.
Top of Head: How will I do it?
Eyebrow: I loved him so dearly.

Side of Eye: I still do.

Under Eye: I feel like my heart is breaking.
Under Nose: Can I die from this broken heart?
Chin: I feel like I could die from a broken heart.
Collarbone: I know hes still here with me.
Under Arm: I feel his presence still here with me.
Top of Head: But I cant see him or touch him and thats whats so hard.
New Set Up Tapping continuously on the karate chop point

Even though I miss him so terribly already, I want to remember the good times. I want to
remember how wonderful our life was together.
Even though I dont know how Im going to live without him, I cant imagine this life alone,
Im so grateful for the years we had together.
Even though its still almost impossible for me to admit that hes gone, I would like to
know that I will have the strength to carry on as he would want me to. And take care of
myself and continue to be of service to others. And I want my love for him and his love for
me to sustain me for this next phase of my life.
Tapping Two Rounds

Eyebrow: I miss him so much.

Side of Eye: I keep thinking of those last days of his life.
Under Eye: It was such a difficult time.
Under Nose: And I didnt want him to suffer.
Chin: I knew it was his time to go.
Collarbone: But that doesnt make it easy to be without him.
Under Arm: Part of me wants him back so badly Id do anything to get him back.
Top of Head: And part of me knows that his time was over and Im happy that hes made
this transition.
Eyebrow: I want to be strong for him.
Side of Eye: I want our love to sustain me now.
Under Eye: I want him to feel my love.
Under Nose: Ill remember and love him every minute of my life.
Chin: Hes so much a part of me and he always will be.
Collarbone: This grief Im feeling this sadness, mixed with love, mixed with joy, mixed
with gratitude.
Under Arm: Can I survive this enormous sadness and grief?
Top of Head: Its huge, but I think I can survive it.
Set Up

Even though Ill miss him every day of my remaining life, I choose to focus on the love we
shared.

Even though I wish he was still here with me, I choose to remember all the great years we
spent together.
Even though I dont know how Ill live without him, I know he wants me to be strong and
happy, so Ill do my best for him.
Tapping
Eyebrow: Ill miss him forever.
Side of Eye: I still dont know how Ill live without him.
Under Eye: I choose to focus on the love.
Under Nose: I choose to remember the decades of love we shared.
Chin: I know hes still with me.
Collarbone: I know hell always be with me.
Under Arm: Ive decided to be strong and happy, because I know thats what hed want for
me.
Top of Head: I choose to allow my emotions of sadness and grief to flow through me. And
to allow our love to fill me up.