Lunenburg, Fred C Louder Than Words
Lunenburg, Fred C Louder Than Words
Lunenburg, Fred C Louder Than Words
Fred C. Lunenburg
Sam Houston State University
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ABSTRACT
Kinesics
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gestures, such as frequent movements to express approval and palms spread outward to
indicate perplexity, provide meaningful hints to communication.
Facial expressions convey a wealth of information. The particular look on a
person’s face and movements of the person’s head provide reliable cues as to approval,
disapproval, or disbelief. When people begin to experience an emotion, their facial
muscles are triggered. The six universal expressions that most cultures recognize are
happiness, sadness, anger, fear, surprise, and disgust. Smiling, for example, typically
represents warmth, happiness, or friendship, whereas frowning conveys dissatisfaction or
anger. However, smiling can be real or false, interpreted by differences in the strength
and length of the smile, the openness of the eyes, and the symmetry of expression.
Eye contact is a strong nonverbal cue that serves four functions in communication
(Hickson, 2010). First, eye contact regulates the flow of communication by signaling the
beginning and end of conversation. Second, eye contact facilitates and monitors
feedback, because it reflects interest and attention. Third, eye contact conveys emotion.
Fourth, eye contact relates to the type of relationship between communicators. One can
gauge liking and interest by the frequency and duration of time spent looking. Eye and
face contact displays ones willingness to listen and acknowledgement of the other
person’s worth. Eye contact does not indicate truthfulness, as some people believe. It
does show interest in the other person’s point of view. Prolonged and intense eye contact
usually indicate feelings of hostility, defensiveness, or romantic interest. Lack of interest
may be indicated through contractions of the pupils or wandering eyes.
Touching is a powerful vehicle for conveying such emotions as warmth, comfort,
agreement, approval, reassurance, and physical attraction. Generally, the amount and
frequency of touching demonstrate closeness, familiarity, and degree of liking. A lot of
touching usually indicates strong liking for another person. It should be noted that men
and women interpret touching differently. Concerns about sexual harassment and sexism
have greatly limited the use of touching in the workplace (Greenwood, 2010).
Posture is another widely used cue as to a person’s attitude. Leaning toward
another person suggests a favorable attitude toward the message one is trying to
communicate. Leaning backward communicates the opposite. Standing erect is generally
interpreted as an indicator of self-confidence, while slouching conveys the opposite.
Posture and other nonverbal cues can also affect the impressions we make on others.
Interviewers, for example, tend to respond more favorably to job applicants whose
nonverbal cues, such as eye contact and erect posture, are positive than to those who
display negative nonverbal cues, such as looking down or slouching (Davis, 2011).
Another nonverbal cue is mode of dress. Much of what we say about ourselves to
others comes from the way we dress. Despite the general trend toward casual clothing in
the workplace, higher-status people tend to dress more formally than lower-ranking
organization members. For example, suppose you joined a new organization and on your
first day, you entered a room full of employees. How would you know which person was
the leader? Increasingly, people who specialize in recruiting top executives are coming to
the conclusion that the old adage “clothes make the man or woman” is a particularly good
nonverbal cue as to who is in charge. Somehow, the leader is the person who always
seems to wear the best tailored suit that flatters his or her physique, or the nicest shirt or
blouse, or the shiniest shoes, and the best-looking briefcase. Top executives, such as
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Donald Trump (2011), admits that he learned the hard way the importance of wearing the
right clothes. The payoff is that when you look like a leader, people will often treat you
like one and so over time this increases your chances of promotion and success (Navarro,
2011).
Proxemics
Proxemics is the way people perceive and use space, including seating
arrangements, physical space, and conversational distance (personal space) (Hall, 1983;
Harrigan, 2009). For example, how close do you stand to someone in normal
conversation?
Edward Hall (1992), an anthropologist, suggests that in the United States there are
definable personal space zones.
1. Intimate Zone (0 to 2 Feet). To be this close, we must have an intimate association
with the other person or be socially domineering.
2. Personal Zone (2 to 4 Feet). Within this zone, we should be fairly well acquainted
with the other individual.
3. Social Zone (4 to 12 Feet). In this zone, we are at least minimally acquainted with the
other person and have a definite purpose for seeking to communicate. Most behavior in
the business world occurs in this zone.
4. Public Zone (Beyond 12 Feet). When people are more than 12 feet away, we treat
them as if they did not exist. We may look at others from this distance, provided our gaze
does not develop into a stare.
Related to the notion of personal space zones is the concept of physical space. For
example, employees of higher status have better offices (more spacious, finer carpets and
furniture, and more windows) than do employees of lower status. Furthermore, the
offices of higher-status employees are better protected than those of lower-status
employees. Top executive areas are typically sealed off from intruders by several doors,
assistants, and secretaries. Moreover, the higher the employee’s status, the easier they
find it to invade the physical space of lower-status employees. A superior typically feels
free to walk right in on subordinates, whereas subordinates are more cautious and ask
permission or make an appointment before visiting a superior.
Seating arrangements is another aspect of proxemics. You can seat people in
certain positions according to your purpose in communication. To encourage cooperation,
you should seat the other person beside you, facing the same direction. To facilitate direct
and open communication, seat the other person at right angles from you. This allows for
more honest disclosure. When taking a competitive position with someone, seat the
person directly across from you. Furthermore, high-ranking people assert their higher
status by sitting at the head of rectangular tables, a position that has become associated
with importance. It also enables high-ranking organization members to maintain eye
contact with those over whom they are responsible.
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Paralanguage
Chronemics
Chronemics is concerned with the use of time, such as being late or early, keeping
others waiting, and other relationships between time and status (Hickson, 2010). For
example, being late for a meeting may convey any number of different messages
including carelessness, lack of involvement, and lack of ambition. Yet, at the same time,
the late arrival of high-status persons reaffirms their superiority relative to subordinates.
Their tardiness symbolizes power or having a busy schedule.
Conclusion
Table 1
Maintain eye contact and smile at those with whom you speak.
Nod your head to indicate that you are listening when someone is speaking to you.
Use hand gestures in a relaxed, nonmechanical manner.
Stand and sit erect. Do not slouch.
Do not cower when confronted. Stand up straight.
Be neat, well groomed, and wear clean, well-tailored clothes.
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