Becoming Sherlock - The Power of Observation and Deduction
Becoming Sherlock - The Power of Observation and Deduction
Becoming Sherlock - The Power of Observation and Deduction
Sherlock:
The Power of Observation & Deduction
STEFAN CAIN
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DEDICATION
To all those who strive to see that which others cannot, in an effort to become
happier and more successful in life.
"The world is full of obvious things which nobody by any chance ever observes."
Sherlock Holmes Quote
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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
As you read this book, you’ll want to remember the fictional character, Sherlock
Holmes, and recognize the impact this character played on future generations of
all ages.
INTRODUCTION
Wouldn’t you love to have “superhuman” observation abilities like Sherlock
Holmes? Well, contrary to popular belief, the capability to observe and deduce
is not a natural ability. Professional detectives actually take years of practicing
to cultivate good habits associated with mindfulness.
The truth is that most of us usually don’t notice the world around us. And, it
seems that the younger we are, the more we are into “multitasking”. I put that in
quotes because recent studies have shown that there’s actually no such thing as
multitasking. In actuality, your brain is really simply switching from one task to
another, and alternating. These days, we’re even likely to see children on
skateboards with cell phones!
There’s so much “noise” around us and with constant interruptions, the result is
that we want to “prioritize” and work much faster to get everything done.
But, oh, the price we pay.
If you’re like most people, you’re a victim of the multitask society that has
trained your brain to become less efficient by trying to do the impossible. And,
if you’re like most people, that issue is exactly why you’re reading this book.
You tell yourself that you’re prioritizing to get things done more quickly, but in
doing so, you’re missing out on a lot of details and keeping yourself in the bad
habit rat race.
You might think that you’re just not an observant person or you just don’t have
that ability. But the truth is that you have subconsciously chosen not to see the
details in the world around you. So, all you have to do is make that choice to
want to become more aware… and watch how it will change your life!
Here is where you’re going to learn how to slow down and become more
efficient in everything you do.
“Slow down and become more efficient?” Sounds like an oxymoron, I know….
However, it’s true… the more you can learn to slow down, the more you will
allow your subconscious mind to “really see” more – taking in and remembering
everything. Studies have shown that slowing down and focusing more attention
on detail will actually train your brain to assimilate the good habit of becoming
more observant and productive.
And that’s what this book will teach you…
What will you get out of it? That depends on how you might answer these
questions…
Do you know what your bad habits are and what you want to
change?
Do you know how to replace those bad habits with the new habit of
being observant?
Do you practice daily mind exercises to improve your observation
and deduction capabilities?
Do you know how to stimulate your imagination and creativity?
Do you know the difference between seeing and observing?
Do you know how to tune into the body language of others?
Do you wonder how new information connects with what you
already know?
Do you constantly ask yourself a lot of questions?
If you answered “no” to any of the above questions… then perhaps you
need to ask yourself one really important question…
Do you really want to train your brain to have the superhuman
observation and deduction abilities like Sherlock Holmes?
Experts tell us that we make an unconscious choice to not see things around us…
some things that could really benefit us in so many ways.
Learning how to become observant won’t happen overnight, but the idea is to
accumulate the right habits in your lifestyle – things that you actually find
pleasure in – to stimulate your ability to observe, deduce, and make the right
choices.
And, it really is all about the choices we make in life.
If you look at a homeless man on the street, and compare him with a successful
happy person, what makes the difference? When it comes right down to it, the
difference between success and failure is the choices we make along the way.
While the homeless man may have fallen into substance abuse or allowed his
temper to put him in substandard place, the successful individual has made better
choices in his life. Perhaps he made a decision to marry a good woman or to
work his way up to a better paying position….
… Or perhaps he has made the choice early in life to read all the books he can
and fill his brain with more details around him so he is able to made better
choices.
This book will teach you exercises that will take no more than a few minutes
each day to improve the choices you make with the power of observation and
deduction. Like most of us, perhaps you have allowed your brain to be “trained”
not to look at the world around you. This book will teach you how to retrain
you brain to notice the small – but important – things in life.
Deduction is all about looking at the entire situation, and then taking a few paces
back to logically review by applying critical thinking. The “right choice” is the
conclusion you will come up with based on the true facts found through critical
thinking. The chapter about critical thinking will go into details about how to do
this.
Most of us can’t remember small details about any given situation. The fact that
Holmes can logically come to a conclusion based on remembering detail seems
like a trait that isn’t even human. However, it really has to do with building a
knowledge network by connecting new information with what you already
know. There is also a chapter in this book devoted to increasing your memory
by building your knowledge network.
With a little practice, becoming aware and perceptive to make the right choices
will become second nature.
As you read this book, you’ll see mention to the fictional character, Sherlock
Holms as a model for being able to observe and deduce with perfection.
Sherlock Holmes appeared first in print in the late 19th century, with stories
taking place in the period of 1880 to 1914. Recognizing that this was long time
ago and many of us might not be familiar with the character, you may want to
instead think of the character “Gregory House” from the more modern TV
series, “House”, where House is modeled after Sherlock Holms, and Wilson is
modeled after Watson.
With these characters in mind, this book is designed to help you retrain your
brain towards that kind of perfection by cultivating your awareness, leading to a
successful, happier life.
CHAPTER 1
THE PROBLEM WITH MULTITASKING
You’re looking at your emails and notice that someone has sent you a funny
video. Then, as you open, you figure it’s taking time to download, so now
you’re checking out Facebook. The video has now opened, but you’re not
paying attention anymore because now you just noticed it’s your cousin’s
birthday and you never sent a message. You daughter is calling from the other
room, “Mom, where did you put my clean socks?”… You answer, and try to get
back to your email… then your husband comes in and asks when dinner will be
ready. At this point you’re just ready to explode, and you haven’t even
gotten anything accomplished.
Sound familiar?
Most of us like to take pride in being able to multitask with several plates in the
air… what’s one more, right?
Unfortunately, the current research shows that, not only is multitasking a drain
on your psychological and emotional wellbeing, it’s also dangerous to your
health! “So I’ll just take blood pressure pills to get everything done at once”,
you’re thinking. But ah... you’re really not getting as much done as you think.
As much as you might want to believe that multitasking is the way to success in
the 21st century, it’s actually the very thing that’ s holding most of us back.
This is the first thing we need to address when you’re thinking about building
your brain to work like Sherlock Holmes’ brain, because he wasn’t even faced
with that problem. So naturally, we need to get this bad habit out of the way
before progressing forward.
By the way, since the stories of Holmes were in print so long ago, and many of
us may not familiar with the character. You may instead want to think of the
character “Gregory House” from the more modern TV series, “House”, where
the character of House is modeled after Sherlock Holms, and Wilson is modeled
after Watson.
Remember how House was so perceptive that he seemed to have a “mind
reading” power”? That kind of brain power, without the cocky attitude, is what
most of us desire today. Training your brain to advance towards this kind of
perfection is totally possible, and it’s what this book is designed to help you do.
The effect of multitasking on your brain…
With the 21st century, the power of the internet has emerged. As useful as this
tool might be, it has created a generation of multitaskers who believe that adding
one more thing to your plate is as easy as opening another window on your
computer screen.
When you think you’re doing “two things at once”, the reality is that your brain
is forced to switch between thinking one way, and then thinking another.
Psychologists call this “serial tasking” rather than multitasking, because your
brain is switching from one activity to the next, and back again.
Since our brains are not built for “snapping back” into place like a rubber band,
the result is that it takes a little time to focus whenever you get back to your task
at hand.
Studies have found that…
Multitasking stunts emotional wellbeing.
We all know someone who brings their cell phone to the dinner table. And,
instead of carrying on the dinner conversation with the person you’re with (like
everyone used to do), they begin texting the person on their phone who just sent
them a message. This harms your emotional intelligence. Your brain is
focusing on someone else rather than the person you’re with, displaying rude
behavior. When left unharnessed, this can snowball into more emotional
problems. Furthermore, your brain can’t handle everything. When you have 20
tabs open on your computer, with lunch on your desk, and you’re chatting on
skype with your best friend, this can ultimately have a pull on your emotional
wellbeing, creating a difficult personality.
Multitasking hinders our ability to manage affairs.
Contrary to popular belief, those who are “experienced multitaskers” are actually
worse at multitasking than those who usually take their time with one task before
engaging the next.
Clifford Nass, a communications professor at Stanford, conducted a study about
this phenomenon. The “experienced multitasker” actually will tend to use much
larger parts of the brain for a task that could be done more effectively when
using an isolated portion of the brain. His study concluded that, the more you
multitask, the less your brain is able to filter out unimportant information.
Our brains naturally do this, by the way. You might have five acts in front of
you at the circus, but your focus is primarily on only one thing. We have a
natural tendency to “filter out” that which our brain deems unimportant. When
you glance at a menu, your attention is mostly on one section where your interest
lays – Either the diet section, the low cost section, or the seafood. You get the
idea.
This is an important discovery, because, if your everyday habits include jumping
from one task to another, constant “serial tasking” as they call it, you’re actually
creating mental havoc on yourself.
Multitasking hinders creativity…
The ability to be creative stems from focusing your attention and remembering
things that might happen during the day to spark your creativity. You might
have had an extraordinary experience happen to you – one might even call a
miracle. However, when you get to work, you’re distracted, and begin focusing
on several other things at once. After work, it’s time to begin that book you
wanted to write, and all you have is a mental block.
People who are highly focused on what they’re reading tend to be more efficient
at completing tasks.
I used to think that becoming so engrossed in a book that you don’t hear your
friend talking is a fault. However, that was before I was aware of a recent
study. It appears that the ability to “tune in” to distractions will slow you down!
When computers first came out with the window function that enables the users
to “work on several things at once”, many people believed it was more
productive. And, it does make sense. You’d think that if you’re working on
several things at once, you could accomplish more.
However, our brains are designed to prioritize to do whatever task is most
important at the time, and then switch to the next task. The brain performs two
functions here: “goal shifting” (the decision to prioritize the task), and “role
activation” (changing the gears in your brain to adjust to the task you’re working
on). In the case of serial tasking, David Meyer’s study from 2001 concluded that
overall productivity can be reduced by as much as 40%, since every time your
brain “switches gears”, it’s costing you time.
If you don’t believe me, try this self-test…
Take a piece of paper and draw two lines horizontally.
Let a friend time you as you conduct the following tasks:
On line one, write “I know how to multitask.”
On line two, write the numbers 1-20 in sequence.
Those two tasks, when done first one, then the other, usually will take about 20
seconds.
Now, try again by using your super-duper multitasking ability.
Write one letter on one line, then one number on the next line. i.e., “I” on one,
“1” on line two; “k” on line one, “2” on line two, and so on.
You will find that the result not only shows that the time will be at least double
the initial 20 seconds, but you will also most likely find mistakes or sloppy
writing.
What can you do about it?
Ten “stop multitasking” tips to help you…
Quickly assess everything you need to do, and determine priority.
Eliminate distractions.
Organize your tasks on a “to do” list and determine which to do
first.
Decide to complete one task first, and give yourself a time limit.
Pay attention to how much more efficiently you have completed
that task.
Keep a note pad handy to write down interruptions – things to be
done later, to make sure you’re not switching gears unnecessarily.
Have only one inbox for your paperwork, and one for your email.
This will keep you from having to look in several different places
to see what needs to be done.
Break up the plan of what you will be doing within the day, with a
“block” for urgent stuff, and smaller blocks of time for
miscellaneous tasks.
Do what’s most important first. Try to get the two or three most
important tasks on your list done before noon. This will give you
less stress in the afternoon, with more free time for what you
really want to do.
When you feel that distraction and want to check your email
because you just heard your phone go off, stop yourself. Take a
deep breath and continue the task at hand.
In between tasks, monitor your email and task list. I find it
helpful to color code incoming emails to give me an immediate
flag that “I’m awaiting a response”, or “I’m awaiting approval”. I
delete spam immediately so as not to be distracted more than
necessary.
You might find it difficult at first, but once you realize how much more
productive you are, you’ll have the incentive to try harder on making sure your
focus is only on one thing at a time. The next few chapters will go into more
depth about how to become more aware and observant.
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MEDITATION TO IMPROVE
AWARENESS
Whether you’re trying to focus on rote learning, understanding learning or the
mind palace concept, the underlying common denominator is that nothing will
work unless you’re completely relaxed and focused. This is where medication
comes in.
If you’ve never tried it before, you might be a little skeptical at first. Don’t be
swayed by this. If done correctly, it can be an extremely powerful tool for your
mind and body.
How does meditation affect your brain?
Scientists have recently made some phenomenal discoveries using fMRI scans.
In a nutshell, our brains don’t process information in the same way as when not
meditating. Scans reflect a decrease in beta waves in the brain. What does that
mean? “Beta waves” reflect being alert to external stimuli, and “alpha waves”
primarily reflect being awake but with eyes closed and relaxed.
During meditation, the frontal lobe, the part of the brain responsible for
reasoning and self-conscience awareness, goes “offline”.
“Embrace silence since meditation is the only way to truly come to know your Source.” …
Wayne Dyer
Perhaps you’ve tried it once or twice, and you’re thinking, “yeah, right… never
did anything for me – my mind is always racing.” If this is you, then just be
aware that it’s like that for everyone who just starts out. In fact, if your mind is
racing, then you need this more than ever.
Just like you can’t build muscles on your body by going to the gym once in your
life… by the same token, you can never expect to get the point where you notice
the benefits of meditation without a lot of practice.
Of course, the technique of medication is an ancient therapy adopted by the
Indians centuries ago, but only recently have we been able to apply physical
proof to what it’s actually doing.
When meditation is practiced religiously, just like exercise for the body, the
results become more evident with more practice. This is because meditation
causes the neural pathways in your brain to loosen. And no, that doesn’t mean
you’re losing your marbles.
The medial prefrontal cortex (let’s just call it the “me center”) is the part of the
brain that relates to our experiences. It’s the “me center” that’s responsible for
all that worry and self-doubt.
Meditation loosens the connection to the “me center” which also, at the same
time, strengthens the “assessment center” (the center for reasoning). Therefore,
it keeps us from letting our worry emotions run away with us and allows us to
apply rational thinking instead.
One example might be that you’re overwhelmed with bills and your emotions
have stressed you out so much that you’ve stopped thinking rationally. You’re
frantically grasping for straws and becoming more stressed by the minute. With
regular meditation, your assessment center becomes strong enough to offer your
mind valuable solutions, allowing you to see the positive points in your life to
overcome your problems.
Meditation for compassion…
Furthermore, research has shown that meditation helps people become more
compassionate. One experiment conducted by Harvard University reports that
the amygdala (the part of the brain responsible for emotion) shows a decrease in
activity during meditation. Subjects in the experiment were presented with
images of good, bad or neutral response relating to compassion for others. The
result was that they found the emotional responses were repressed, and they
showed more compassion when confronted with troublesome images.
But how can meditation help you in becoming observant?
As you know, being observant has a lot to do with memory. And, yes,
meditation also helps memory. A study was done by Catherine Kerr, Researcher
at Martinos Center for Biomedial Imaging. Results reported that subjects in the
study were able to screen out distractions and increase productivity. And, the
ability to ignore distractions helps with memory and learning new information.
This, in turn, helps improve memory greatly.
Additionally, meditation helps creativity, something your brain needs when
taking the facts you observe, remembering and deducing results. Here, however,
it’s the kind of meditation that makes a difference. Scientists found that people
who practiced open-minded meditation demonstrated greater creative abilities
than those who practiced focused-attention meditation.
Open-minded (OM) Meditation…
“Observation without judgement is the highest form of intelligence” -
J. Krishnamurit, philosopher and spiritual teacher
The idea behind “open-minded” meditation is that you’re practicing awareness
of thinking. Here, you are aware of your thoughts and feelings, and you become
“the observer” behind the one with the thoughts. During meditation, you might
be faced with two kinds of thought…
Stream of consciousness (the voice in your head with self-doubt)
Awareness (the voice in the mind)
“Huh? What’s the difference?” you say. Relax, it comes with practice. During
meditation, you’re taking a step back and just “letting it be”, as the Beatles say.
Can you tell the difference between the voice in your head and the voice in your
mind? No, probably not at first. But open-minded awareness is something that
can be practiced even when you’re not meditating. It’s simply being aware of
how your body is feeling at any point in time.
Focused-attention (FA) Meditation…
Focused-attention is also extremely beneficial in achieving goals. It’s similar to
self-hypnosis, and some find this easier to do. This is because it’s easier to force
your brain to think of something rather than nothing. I would suggest beginning
with this kind of meditation if you’ve never done it before.
Similar to OM meditation, your focus is on your body, but you can imagine
yourself living in the moment where you want yourself to be. In your state, you
are that successful businessperson, writer or athlete. Make sure that what you’re
focusing on involves the tactile sensations, visual sensations, sounds, smells and
tastes.
You can spend as little as five minutes in a day to practice meditation, and it’s a
great stress relief in the middle of a busy day.
How do you do it?
Just follow these five easy steps…
1) Sit in a position where you are comfortable, but not so comfortable
that it’s easy to go to sleep. While the traditional martial arts position is
the “seiza”, sitting on your legs with your knees in front, most people
are likely to find this uncomfortable. Don’t sweat it. You can also just
sit with your legs crossed as we did as children. Or, if you have back
trouble or any ailment that might get the way of feeling comfortable
sitting upright, then feel free to sit in a comfortable chair resting slightly
back, but upright enough to stay awake. Now focus on one point,
straight ahead.
2) Now start taking deep breaths. Be aware of your breathing deeply,
in through your nose, out through your mouth. Be aware of how your
belly expands with every inhale. Be aware of how your anxiety is
leaving your body with every exhale. Try to make the first couple of
breaths take the longest, perhaps counting to five before you exhale.
Then start breathing normally, but staying aware of how relaxed and
stress free your body feels with every exhale.
3) Aim your thoughts towards your body, focusing on how relaxed
your toes feel, how relaxed your legs and thighs fee, working your way
up your body. I like to “envision” my anxiety actually leaving my body
in a cloud of dust. If you start to think about the stresses of the day,
don’t worry. It happens to everyone. Just try your best to refocus your
attention to your breathing and your body.
4) Watch the image of yourself in your happiest state, focusing on a
single word. It could be love, forgiveness, awareness, calm, peace.
You can also focus on an object – something that feels good. The
sound of trickling water, or the feeling of the sea breeze are suggestions
of things to focus on. Even though this is called focused meditation,
don’t try too hard to force thoughts. Simply focus on what you love,
and allow happy thoughts to come your way.
5) Use the object you’re focusing on to keep you anchored in the
present moment, enjoying the peace and relaxation. When thoughts
come to you, notice the patterns in your thoughts. If negative thoughts
or judgement arises, say to yourself, “I forgive”, and envision the
thought being taken away in a cloud of dust. Then, stay focused on how
relaxed and grateful you feel for your newfound peace. Allow yourself
to come back to reality, and continue sitting quietly for another couple
of minutes before opening your eyes.
As you become more accustomed to experiencing meditation, you’ll want to
increase the time spent. Initially, only five minutes will take the edge off, and
you’ll want to work up to 20 minutes a day.
The more you practice this technique, the more you’ll be aware of how you’re
able to release negative thoughts and judgements.
And now, with judgments, stress and negative thoughts out of the way, you’re
making the way to become more creative.
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People tend to only see and take note of the information given to them. It
takes a little creativity to notice beneath the surface.
Being able to allow your brain to come to creative conclusions takes thinking
outside the box, and allowing yourself to think creatively.
There was actually a study done about the effect that Google has on our
memories. And, as you may have guessed, people do not tend to memorize
facts like they used to before the internet. However, the interesting
phenomenon is that people, instead, were likely to memorize where they
found the information. This, in the long run, can actually be even more
useful, because we can extend that which is in our mind with that which is in
the cloud.
As you recall your memories in your mind attic, you will probably notice a lot
of incidences where the fragrance or order of a particular memory persists.
This is because the sense of smell, being tied the most with human emotion, is
the strongest link to memory.
Now that you have all your facts – the pieces of the puzzle drawn together
from proper observation, it’s time to begin deducing to make the right
decision.
The hypothesis isn’t simply drawn out of thin air, but a proper “educated
guess” comes from a mind clear of clutter.
This is why Holmes will take a step back before starting his hypothesis.
Have you ever noticed that when you’re distracted with several things and not
living in the present moment, you’re not as happy as you might be just
enjoying where you are?
This is a lesson that Holmes has taught me. I remember how I was as a child,
watching an ant climb on my hand and wondering what it would be like to be
that ant… or picking the pedals of a flower and examining every detail. I
remember how happy I was when the thoughts in my head were so simple.
Conversely, as children, our minds are curious, always asking questions. This
sense of constant curiosity is what we need to get back. It’s the very essence
of what keeps us sincerely motivated and happy.
Believing that you can get what you want is extremely powerful! Children
are believers that they can accomplish whatever they set out to do. We need
to take a page from their book. In fact, the power of belief was proven in a
recent study. People were asked to wear white coats, and comparisons were
drawn on their cognitive ability to solve problems. Surprisingly, the people
who wore white coats actually came up with conclusions easier and faster
than those who didn’t. The white coat simply made them feel smarter like
doctors. And the results were astounding!
In fact, the first step that Holmes would take is to sit and smoke…. “This is
the 3-pipe problem”, he’d say to Watson. And, at the end of smoking the
third pipe, the answer would come to him.
Some people decide to “sleep on it”, which has also proven to be effective in
allowing your brain to come up with the right answer.
Make sure you have all the data necessary before drawing
conclusions. Also, steer clear of allowing your emotions to sway
how you interpret your data. Collect only facts.
Eliminate nonessential data and focus on vital information.
This takes practice. Making sure your mind is clear before tackling a
problem is the first step in being able to notice what is important and
weed out the trivial noise.
Get in the habit of observing everything around you, not just
seeing.
Did you ever take a walk from your hotel and have trouble finding
your way back? If so, then you’re one of millions who is in the habit
of seeing and not observing. Take mental notes of your surroundings
– what color is the building and what landmarks are near? Once
you’re in the habit of observing, and not just seeing, it’s easier to
make deductions.
As Holmes says, “Once you eliminate the impossible, whatever
remains, no matter how improbable, must be the truth.”
Once clues are confirmed, it’s time to establish the root cause of the problem.
There are several deduction tools discussed in the next chapters to help fine
tune your ability to notice consistent differences to establish your clues.
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“The expected value of any of our actions the goodness that we can
count on getting is the product of two things: the odds that this action will allow
us to gain something, and the value of that gain to us.” … Daniel Bernoulli
Sounds simple on the surface; if we can estimate and multiply these two items,
we can always anticipate the outcome.
The problem is that rational decisions do not always aim to gain maximum
health and happiness. The more we reject, the more loss we feel. Unfortunately,
there’s always human error involved. People make errors in estimating the gain
that they will feel, and they also make errors in estimating the value of the
success.
Calculating odds for estimating gain…
We tend to calculate in general by scanning our memory of past situations to
come up with a quick conclusion. If you were asked if it’s more common to see
dogs on leashes or cats on leashes, you would very quickly reply “dogs, of
course”. So this is a really useful rule of thumb.
Except it doesn’t always work…
Suppose you were asked if there are more 4-letter words in English language
with the first letter R or the third letter R. The mind recalls words that begin
with R first, even though, in reality, there are more words with the letter R in the
third place. This is an example of how the mind can lead you astray.
We tend to make decisions on things because we make a quick scan in our
brain. We think about situations to which we have been exposed and make that
“quick brain scan” decision.
This can be dangerous, if you’re not aware of why you’re making that decision.
For example, why do people play the lottery?
Statistics tell us that we’re more likely to get struck by lightning than win the
lottery, so why do we play?
Marketing has a lot to do with why we make stupid choices. We scan our brains
and think about that nice couple we hear on the radio who won five million
bucks. We remember the winners we’ve seen on TV. And, in the short time that
we’re buying that ticket, as we think about the possibilities of becoming rich,
serotonin is released in the brain and we feel happy. That feeling outweighs the
feeling we get when we discover we didn’t win, because we never really
expected to win in the first place.
Errors in Value…
Additionally, we tend to make those “quick brain scan” comparisons when
estimating value.
Would you pay $20 for a bottle of water? Of course not. Your brain compares
to what you know and tells you that water isn’t worth that much. But what if
you were crossing the desert on foot and there was no way you could buy any
other water? Suddenly the water becomes more valuable. Rather than
comparing the investment to other possible investments, we made the choice
“it’s not worth that much” based on our past experience.
Making decisions based on past experience can befuddle the decisions we make,
because we fail to see the entire context.
Additionally, we make choices based on comparison…
Marketers love this! You see all the time things that are “marked down” in the
market – and are you more likely to buy? Of course!
You might see a wine from $20 to $15 and you believe at the time you’re buying
that it’s a great deal. However, once you get home, you really can’t tell the
difference between that new bottle and the $10 bottle in your refrigerator.
You have just been duped by a marketing scam that made you believe you were
getting a good deal when you weren’t. This is because you didn’t look at the
entire situation in context.
Another value judgement error…
You need a new car stereo, and the cost at the dealer in your neighborhood is
$200. But you have an offer to get the same stereo for only $100 on the other
side of town. Do you drive across town to save $100? Most people would.
But suppose you were buying a new car with a stereo and the cost was $40,000,
but if you drove across town, you would get the car for $39,900. Would you
drive across town to another dealership to save that $100? Most people would
not.
We tend to not take things into the proper context.
Errors in judgement with time….
The problem with decision making when making comparisons is even more
difficult when the choices are arrayed over time.
Basically, there are two reasons why we make bad decisions over time: We tend
to rationalize…
1) More is always better than less.
2) Now is always better than later.
We find ourselves paying high interest rates to have our cake NOW, rather than
later.
What’s interesting is that we can make the impatience go away by simply
changing the expected time of gratification.
Would you rather get $50 in a year or $60 in 13 months? Most people tell
themselves, “I’m already waiting a year, what’s one more month?” And they
elect the latter. Yet if you were given the same opportunity to get $50 now or
$60 next month, you’re probably want to take $50 NOW.
When we look into the distance, our perception is more correct than when we
look at something with the expectation of receiving now.
“What space is to size, time is to value” … Plato
When people get into the future, they change their mind.
This is why we underestimate the odds of our future pain and overestimate the
value of our future pleasure.
Perhaps the formula given to us by Daniel Bernoulli would have worked if our
brains didn’t have to combat the issues given to us in today’s world. Our brains
were evolved for a world in which the highest priority is to eat and mate and
little contact with anyone outside of our own culture. Bernoulli’s formula tells
us how we should think in a world in which nature never designed us.
This punctuates the issue of how important it is for us to start re-training our
brains to think more critically and start looking at the decisions we make in full
context of the situation at hand.
The only thing that can destroy is making bad decisions.
CHAPTER 10:
MAKKING DEDUCTIONS FROM INTUITION
Have you ever had a “gut feeling” that turned out to be right? We all have been
bestowed with the power of intuition. Unfortunately, the human animal is taught
from the very beginning not to trust his intuition, while every other species on
the planet grows to sharpen their intuition.
As humans, we’re taught from an early age to follow directions and not trust our
own instincts. We’re taught that asking questions from our colleagues is
“cheating”, and we need to get our own information without the help of others.
Unfortunately, this has served to our detriment.
What decisions have you made based on outside sources?
We all need each other to help us make the decisions we construct. Every time
we’re listening to a friend or reading a book, our brains are being fed with
outside information. Our brains collect that data to assist in making up our own
psyche. Our friends, relatives and loved ones sometimes can play a major part in
our decision making process.
As for me, I remember a time when I had gone back to college to finish my
psychology degree with the hopes and inspiration to take my career to a new
level of enjoyment.
But that’s not what I found. Instead, my decision was swayed by my husband
and colleague where I was coerced to start working for a colleague with a new
business – in the same field as that which I had been working and had been so
frustrated. He had hired my husband already, so this really skewed my
decision. “It’ll be fun” said my husband with anticipation of working together as
a family.
Bottom line… my husband was let go three months in, and I was left holding the
bag. I didn’t trust my inner voice and the churning in my stomach because I was
taught to listen to outside data only. Consequently, I was a victim of having
been used by outside sources to make a major life decision.
Have you made a similar mistake with any major life choice?
Where did I go wrong?
I really can’t blame those who swayed my decision because there were several
things I could have achieved, had I known about the power of intuition… the
power that you’ll learn in this chapter.
Clarity of decision…
First of all, I didn’t have any idea what I would like to do “when I grew up”.
Intuitive thoughts come from having a clear decision on what you want to do.
Many of us don’t even allow those “wishful thoughts” to enter our head. We’re
taught to pursue careers that have “integrity”, careers that are “secure”.
Getting clarity of decision means allowing yourself to pursue your innermost
desires. It helps to write down exactly what you want and where you want to
go. You need to stay aware of your feelings.
The two minute rule….
Have you ever thought of something inspiring, but then you were interrupted
because of your daily work schedule? And then, later in the day, you couldn’t
remember that awesome miraculous idea? That’s because of the two-minute
rule. The very moment you have an impulse, act on it. Of course, we all live in a
world surrounded by responsibilities of daily life, and sometimes you just can’t
drop everything. Just be aware that it’s your inner voice and write it down!
Intuition works only if you have a strong intention to put to use. Then, once you
do, opportunities seem to come to you from everywhere out of the woodwork.
It’s the intention that brings the intuition to life. It changes from thought to
reality at this point. Once you’ve set the intention in action, more intuitive
thoughts come your way.
The “good enough” decision…
People who are known for making proper deductions for a lifetime decision
seem to have the ability to make rush decisions. That actually comes from
skilled and practiced intuition. Due to lack of time in our busy world, this is
sometimes the only way. Doctors, while in the middle of surgery, don’t have the
time to say, “wait a second; hold on a minute. I need to check all my
resources”… they simply rely on their best intuition at the time. These people
have one thing in common – they have confidence. One thing they are NOT is
ambivalent about any decision.
How can you gain confidence to know you’re making the right decision at the
right time?
Just take the leap and go with your gut instinct. Whenever it’s right, you gain a
little confidence and you’re able to trust your instincts a little more the next
time.
Of course, for doctors and people like Sherlock Holmes, it’s an “educated
intuition”… doing that quick scan on the brain to come up with the best answer.
Often times, it’s the answer that’s good enough that makes the best decision.
Quick deductions that bring forth the “good enough” answer fast is often be
much better than a decision that’s “excellent” but too late.
A good rule of thumb to go by here is that we really only need to know two
things before making that rushed decision:
“Where am I going?”
“What do I need to do next?”
I couldn’t make a decent or even a “good enough” life choice because I didn’t
have a clear picture first of what I even wanted. If you don’t know where you’re
going, you’ll never know how to get there.
Even though Sherlock Holmes was known for remembering facts and drawing
conclusions, his actions very often would show evidence that he was actually
relying on his intuition combined with remembering facts to solve problems.
Allowing logic and intuition to work together will give you the greatest
advantage.
“My brain is only a receiver, in the universe there is a core from which we
obtain knowledge, strength, and inspiration. I have not penetrated into the
secrets of this core, but I know that it exists.”… Nikola Tesla, Serbian
American inventor
OK, so you know it works, but how can you know you can trust it?
You might have acted out on an “intuitive thought” and then later you regretted
taking that action. My own thoughts come to mind here of those stupid
snakeskin leather pants I bought and never wore. How can you tell it’s it
a constructive message sent to help you?
The answer lies in being aware of how you’re feeling.
Intuitive “tricks” to help you develop your intuition for making deductions…
Trust your intuition.
All too many of us tend to dismiss intuition as unreliable – something
out of the supernatural. How do you know the difference between
being aware of a message that can help you out and just doing
something on a whim that you will later regret? You need to stay in
touch with your feelings. When you get that initial whirlwind
thought, the first thing to do is to act on it. Then, as you’re beginning
to act, be aware of how it makes you feel. Are you a little nervous
that those leather pants won’t look good on you for long and your
bank account will show $50 less? Do you feel a strong sense of
excitement since making this new decision? It might help to write
down you decision first and read it to yourself. As you read about the
decision that you just made, how does it make you feel?
As you become more aware of your feelings, you’ll develop a habit
for making good decisions. Sometimes you’ll know the right answer
without even knowing why.
“From long habit the train of thoughts ran so swiftly through my
mind that I arrived at the conclusion without being conscious of
intermediate step.” …..
Sherlock Holmes
And, like Holmes, it’s always a good idea to sound out your
newfound conclusion on a trusted level-headed friend.
Develop a knack for studying people.
Once you begin to stay aware of body language to surmise the
character of others, you will start to sharpen your intuitive skills.
The former body language chapter has given you pointers to know
whether a person is deceitful or honest. You can begin by just
watching people in general at the mall or a park and notice
mannerisms and body language gestures. Try to imagine what
they’re thinking or how they’re feeling.
Enhance your observation potential.
Everyone has the ability to be just as observant as Sherlock Holmes.
But most people don’t work at it.
We tend to take our senses for granted. If, instead, we concentrate
daily on the three most used senses, sight, smell and sound, we
develop a tool of perception to notice and observe things that others
don’t see. Beware of making quick assumptions of what you see and
begin to really observe using the skills taught in this book. Use your
judgement to focus on relevant details.
"It is the highest importance in the art of detection to be able to
recognize out of a number of facts, which are incidental and which
are vital.” …. Sherlock Holmes
You can practice this skill by simply playing crossword puzzles.
Also, works of art where there are hidden images help to sharpen
your observation skills.
If you’re not sure how observant you are – just ask yourself. “What
do I remember about my sister’s home? What color is it? What’s her
bedroom color scheme?” You might be amazed at how much you
don’t know.
Avoid becoming overconfident.
Other people can be extremely complex, and it’s dangerous to
underestimate the variegated minds of others. Pay attention to simple
things like gossip, politics and social media to understand how other
people think.
Trim down observations by deducting all factors that are not
pertinent.
And, that which remains is the truth. Be careful not to skew your
facts to fit your original theory. Instead, the theory must fit the facts.
Any piece of factual data that disproves your theory means that you
need to do away with that part of your theory and move forward with
that which remains.
Lay down your foundation for a motive when formulating your
conclusive theory. Considering all options using your new habits of
recognizing body language can help here. For example, being aware
of jealousy or the need to save face can help you recognize the truth
in a situation.
Consider facts: who, what, where, when and why.
Learn how to ask yourself the right questions to gain a true perspective on any
situation.
CHAPTER 11:
HOW TO ASK YOURSELF THE RIGHT QUESTIONS
Whether we’re aware of it or not, we ask ourselves hundreds of questions as we
go throughout the day. The purpose of this chapter is to help increase your
awareness of the kinds of questions you’re asking yourself. Why? Because the
quality of questions we ask ourselves is in direct proportion to the quality of our
life!
“Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions,
and as a result, they get better answers.”…. Tony Robbins
If you’re trudging through your day thinking (or asking yourself), “Why does
this always happen to me?” Bingo! That’s why – because you’re inviting those
negative thoughts into your brain with your questions. Fat people are always
asking, “Why is it so hard to lose weight?” And poor people are always asking
“When is the economy going to get better so I can find a job?” And sick people
are always asking, “Why can’t I shake this on-going cold?”
Do yourself a favor – learn to ask yourself better questions.
Especially when it comes to serious deductions to make life-changing decisions,
the quality of your question is imperative.
Outline for how to phase your life-changing questions….
In most cases, the choices we make are not so important. It’s best not to be
ambivalent but go with your gut instinct as we make small decisions during the
day. This forces us to “course correct” when we make the wrong choice. The
more decisions you make, the more answers you come up with. And, the more
answers you come up, the faster your learning and growing process. But
sometimes we have hard, possibly life-changing choices to make.
Here are a few pointers to help guide you when making those life-changing
decisions…
“Do I have a clear vision as to what I really want?”
If you don’t know where you’re going, you’ll never get there. This
really makes so much sense when you think about it. Yet most
people, when asked, don’t really know what they want. In fact, most
of us won’t evenallow ourselves to think we deserve everything we
want.
So take out a piece of paper and write down what it is you really
want. (The act of writing down manually on paper is more powerful
than typing, because the motor memory in your hand helps trigger the
impulse to put into action.)
Having a vision is nothing more than a dream until you decide
to make the intention to put your dream into action.
“It doesn’t matter where you are. You are nowhere compared to
where you can go.”… Bob Proctor
“Does this choice of mine take me closer to my vision?”
Once you have a clear picture of what you want, it becomes easier to
see if the choice you’re about to make will draw you closer to your
dream. Will it keep you from having the time to pursue your dream?
Or will it be that one step that you need to take you closer to your
ultimate goal? If your goal is to become a concert pianist, perhaps
playing nightclubs is a way to work your way up.
“Does it feel right?”
As pointed out in the last chapter, being aware of your feelings is an
extremely useful guide when making decisions. Are you excited
about your new venture or does it make your stomach churn? Does it
feel like you can’t wait to get started? Or does it feel like you wish
you didn’t have to do it? Be aware of whether you’re reacting or
responding.
“When you react, you’re giving away your power; when you respond,
you are staying in control of yourself.” …. Bob Proctor
“Does my decision have an impact on anyone else?”
It’s good to consider all angles when making life changing decisions.
For example, if you’re considering marriage to a new partner, one
key question you might ask yourself is “How will this decision affect
my daughter’s life?”
The people around you where your connections are strongest can
have a substantial effect on whether or not a decision is best for you.
For this question, try to take note of the facts while leaving your
emotions out of the picture.
“Is this scaring me?”
A certain amount of nervousness is normal when venturing past your
comfort zone, but you should also be sensing excitement and
anticipation.
Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel
awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new…. Brian Tracy
So how can you tell the difference between a good scare and a bad
scare? Again, turn to your feelings. Try to picture yourself already having
achieved your desire. Can you see yourself carrying through with the decision
you’ve made? If so, then the choice is simple. The next step is to simply act as
though you already have it.
“Begin to live as though your prayers are already answered.”… Tony
Robbins
“If I make this choice, how can I achieve it?”
The experts tell us not to worry about the how. Edison didn’t know
how he would create the light bulb; he only knew that he would.
Ford didn’t know how he would create the first car; he only knew that
that would. Alexander Graham Bell didn’t know how he would
create the first phone; he only knew that he would.
“How” you can accomplish your entire mission should not be your
concern. Once you made a decision to act on your impulse, the way
will be made for you, taking one step at a time.
“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole
staircase. Just take the first step”…
Martin Luther King, Jr.
While asking yourself “how” as you go along the way is good, be
more specific with open-ended questions, and just take one step at
time.
Empowering questions attract empowering decisions. The decisions you make
on a daily basis form your life. It’s important to note here that we all make
decisions on a daily basis throughout the day, and they’re not all good. It’s the
bad decisions that help us learn and become better at what we do.
“Decisiveness is a characteristic of high-performing men and women. Almost
any decision is better than no decision at all…. Brian Tracy
Questions to NOT ask yourself…
Most of us tend to ask ourselves the wrong questions as we go through our daily
lives. Surprisingly, our brains always will form answers to questions we ask. If
you ask a disempowering question, you’ll get a disempowering answer. These
are some of the most popular questions asked, and how to turn them into
productive questions…
“Why do bad things like this always happen to me?”
This is an invitation to the universe to send everything bad your way. An
alternate question might be “What can I learn from this experience?”
“Why can’t I ever lose weight?”
Be careful on this one… your brain is likely to answer “Because you’re a
pig”! This would lead to feelings of insecurity, and that leads to more
eating the wrong stuff. A more empowering question would be “How can I
lose weight in a way where I’m having fun and enjoying life?” Your brain
now might come up with fun activities that will keep you away from food
and having fun.
“Why doesn’t anyone ever want to hire someone like me?”
This question leaves the door wide up for yet another insult from your
brain, leading to more feelings of inadequacy. A more empowering
question might be “What can I do to stand out so potential employers can
see me as a good candidate?”
Ask your brain a better question, and you’ll get a better answer.
Exercise for learning to ask the best questions…
Brain stimulation games can be fun and a good way to help you develop
your question asking abilities.
“I am thinking of” game:
This can be played a parties or even with children.
You simply state part of what you’re thinking about…
“I am thinking about something green”.
Each person has 3 chances to formulate a good question that can lead to
more information. For example, “Does it have a picture of George
Washington?”
The person who guesses gets the reward of being the next “it” who gets to
think up something for people to guess.
“Coffee Pot” game:
In this game, one person who’s “it” goes out and the rest of the people
decide on an action that the person will have to guess. When the person
comes back, they formulate questions to each person, with the words
“coffee pot” instead of the action word.
For example, the action to guess might be “brush your teeth”. And the
person might ask “Do you coffee pot often?” The answer, of course,
reveals how often that person brushes. The next person would (or should)
have a different question.
Conventional vs open-ended questions…
When you continue to ask yourself a series of open-ended questions, it’s
different from factual data where you can gather information and deduce
answers. When a question is open-ended, i.e., “How do you feel about…?” then
there is more room to gather additional information. This is why psychologists
are always asking their clients, “How do you feel about that?”
An example of a conventional question might be “What are you doing to live a
healthier lifestyle?”
The open-ended version of that question would be “How would you feel once
you’re living a healthier life?”
An open-ended question allows the person to think of other alternatives, hence,
giving you more information to draw your conclusion.
When we ask ourselves open-ended questions, more thoughts and inspiration
comes our way.
“Questions focus our thinking. Ask empowering questions like: What’s good
about this? What’s not perfect about it yet? What am I going to do next time?
How can I do this and still have fun doing it?”… Charles Connolly
CHAPTER 12:
HOW TO USE YOUR NEW MINDFUL HABITS
TO MAKE GOOD LIFE DECISIONS
By now you’re starting to realize that acquiring habits of mindfulness is much
more than learning to be a detective. Let’s summarize by recapping the ways
that your new mindful habits can make a difference in your life.
Now you have an awareness that arises from “paying attention on purpose”.
You’re enjoying life by noticing what there is to enjoy in the present, and you
find yourself less judgmental. Hopefully, the chapters in this book have helped
you notice exactly how much you’ve been missing by not being aware.
There are basically four ways that mindfulness habits can improve your life…
Mindfulness habits improve your health.
If you’ve been practicing mindfulness medication, than no doubt you’ve already
discovered that you feel healthier. Suddenly that car that cut you off doesn’t
seem to bother you. You’re free from stress and anxiety. And, that’s a major
thing, because stress is connected with all parts of the body. Whatever your
ailment, whether blood pressure, pain or even a simple rash, when you’re
stressed, everything is worse.
Therefore, you’ll be enjoying health benefits of strengthened immune system,
lowered blood pressure, reduced pain, and alleviated gastrointestinal problems.
Mindfulness has been proven to benefit health for so many years that it’s
actually a therapy used to treat all kinds of illness.
One study at Northern Arizona University shed light on startling information
regarding the physical and mental health of people who practice mindfulness
habits such as meditation. The study was conducted by Dr. Heidi Wayment, a
psychologist, Drs. Bill Wilst and Meghan Warren, health scientists, and Dr.
Bruce Sullivan, a doctor of religion.
They assessed 866 Buddhist practitioners worldwide to determine the impact
that meditation has on the body. The results revealed astonishing improvement
on both physical and mental health for those who have learned to focus mind and
stay calm.
Mindfulness habits improve feelings.
Mindful habits support the feeling of being satisfied with your life. Personally, I
can testify that, since practicing the habits taught in this book, I actually feel
more satisfied with my life and grateful for everything around me. It wasn’t
long ago when I thought that all my friends had deserted me. But now I’m
finding that I have more social engagements on my calendar than I ever did
before.
This really makes sense from a scientific point of view. Did you ever notice that
when you’re about to buy a new car, suddenly you see that model everywhere?
It seems that when you’re really focused and interested in something, you start to
see similar stuff all around you.
Scientists call this phenomenon “meta-perceptual vigilance”. It’s a known fact
that when you’re focused on something, you see more of it. It’s not because
things appear that were not there before. My friends were always there. But I
didn’tfeel like anyone liked me. Once my focus was turned to compassion and
love, it appeared to me that friends just came out of the woodwork.
“Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change”…. Dr.
Wayne Dyer
Once you train yourself to be aware of simple pleasures in life, it feels as though
more pleasures come your way.
Mindfulness habits improve mental health.
Mindfulness meditation has been used to treat substance abuse, depression,
bulimia problems, marriage trouble, anxiety and OCD (obsessive compulsive
disorder). It gives you freedom from thoughts, feelings and emotions that, when
left to their own, could cause damage to your mental health.
Have you ever noticed that when you’re angry, your thoughts are focused so
much on the issue that made you angry that you’re soon just ready to explode?
Ironically, thoughts alone have a very short lifespan. It’s only when we continue
to feed our minds with negative thoughts that our anger can result in any one of
the above mental health problems. Habits of mindfulness are the antidote to
anger. They help break down our negative thoughts, bringing peace and better
mental health.
Many psychologists believe that mindfulness is effective because it encourages
people to accept their own situation of where they are in life. So your mother-in-
law has Alzheimer’s and asks the same question dozens of times. This used to
drive you crazy, but now you just accept that this is where she is on her journey.
Acceptance brings peace in any situation.
Habits of mindfulness increase conscious awareness.
Once you’re in the habit of practicing becoming more aware, you start noticing
that you’re making mistakes less and you more conscious of everything. You’re
not always losing your keys. You’re not telling your kids “sure” when you
really mean “no”. Those episodes in your life were a product of multi-tasking.
Your new note-taking habit is helping you recall important things throughout the
day that need your attention. Now you’re not breaking your focus by trying to
do too many things at once. Instead, you simply write down another task as it
comes to mind, and then release it, enabling you to focus more on the task at
hand.
If something comes to mind that’s inspirational, there’s no need to let it trample
through your mind only to forget minutes later. Now you’re writing it down in
your handy notepad, allowing that moment of inspiration to come to you when
you need it.
The memory tricks you’ve learned in the mind palace chapter have enabled you
to remember things in a more orderly fashion. You are no longer scatterbrained,
but now able to focus with less error and better memory.
Now you’re better equipped to notice characteristics about people that you once
would never see. Knowing what body language gestures insinuate gives you an
edge when participating in an interview or making that sale. You’re able to
make better judgements on political candidates. You now see where your
emotions might get in the way of making major decisions, and you’re thinking
more rationally to make better choices.
Now you’re aware of stupid errors in judgement that you used to have, and your
new critical thinking tool has helped you to make new life choices that affect
you and the ones you love in a positive way.
And your new positive life decision?
Now you’re aware that simply knowing what you want and deciding to go after
it is everything. You’re cognizant of the fact that writing down your decision
brings forth desire to take action. And it’s action that turns your dream into
reality.
You’re now aware of whenever you’re asking yourself a stupid question.
Instead, you give yourself a better question to get a better answer. Now you
know that better answers can always be provided for you when you ask with
positive expectations.
You trust your intuition now, because you’re more confident that whatever
happens is fine with you.
It might take a little time and effort to acquire better mindful habits, but it’s well
worth the effort.
Now that you’ve acquired habits of mindfulness, these are some things you’ll
be enjoying…
You’re enjoying nature walks.
You’re aware of how daily tasks can turn into moments that
appear miraculous.
You’re not distracted with a thousand things a day at once.
You’re excited to seek out new experiences.
You’re aware of your feelings and conscious of your own body.
You’re aware of others’ feelings and appear to be more
compassionate.
Stefan Cain has spent the majority of his working career in numerous academic research positions, working
on a wealth of psychological, societal and cultural topics. His research work and adept studies have been
used to form the backbone of many popular titles available today, providing him with the experience and
hunger to delve deeper into some avenues of thought.
Alongside his serious academic work, Stefan has been published in a number of prominent publications;
filing news reports, features and insightful opinion pieces on myriad topics throughout his career. It was
here, in this capacity as a journalist, that he first began to start writing about human behavior.