PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT 1

UNIT 1: SELF-
DEVELOPMENT

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Week Most Essential Learning Compretencies
Number

1 Explain that knowing oneself can make a person accept his/ her strengths and limitations and
dealing with others better

Share your unique characteristics, habits and experiences

2 Discuss the relationship among physiological, cognitive, psychological, spiritual and social
development

Evaluate his/her own thoughts, feelings and behaviors

Show the connections between thoughts, feelings and behaviors in actual life situations

3 Discuss developmental tasks and challenges being experiences during adolescence

Evaluate one’s development through the help of significant people around him/ her (parents,
siblings, friends, teachers, community leaders)

Identify ways that help one become capable and responsible adolescent prepared for adult life

WEEK 1: KNOWING ONESELF

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At the end of this module, you should be able to:
1. explain that knowing one’s self can make persons accept their strengths and limitations
and deal with others better; and
2. share your unique characteristics, habits, and experiences

EXPLORE
WORKSHEET 1
SELF- CONCEPT INVENTORY

Name of Learner: Danica Rafols Section: 12-Rutherford

Instructions: Read each statements carefully. Reflect and rate yourself from 1 to 4. With
4 being the highest and 1 being the lowest.
NO. SELF- CONCEPT INVENTORY 1 2 3 4

1 I have strong sex appeal ✔

2 I am proud of my physical figure. ✔

3 I am physically attractive and beautiful/ handsome. ✔

4 I exude with charm and poise. ✔

5 I can easily get along with. ✔

6 I can adjust to different people and different situations. ✔

7 I am approachable; other people are at ease and comfortable ✔

with me.

8 I am lovable and easy to love. ✔

9 I am a fast learner, can understand instruction easily. ✔

10 I am intelligent. ✔

11 I have special talents and abilities. ✔

12 I can easily analyze situations and make right judgements. ✔

13 I can be trusted in any transaction. ✔

14 I have a clean conscience and carry no guilt feeling. ✔

15 I have integrity and good reputation. ✔

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16 My friends and classmates can look up to me as a model worth ✔
emulating.

17 I can express my ideas without difficulty. ✔

18 I talk in a persuasive manner that I can easily get people to ✔

accept what I say.

19 I can express my ideas in writing without difficulty. ✔

20 I am a good listener. ✔

21 I am emotionally stable and not easily rattled when faced with ✔

trouble.

22 I am logical and rational in my outlook and decisions. ✔

23 I feel and act with confidence. ✔

24 I am a mature person. ✔

Summary: Write your score opposite each number and get the subtotal.
Physical Appeal Human Relations Intelligence
1 1 5 3 9 3
2 2 6 3 10 3
3 1 7 1 11 2
4 2 8 2 12 3
Subtotal: Subtotal: 9 Subtotal: 11
6
Character Communications Maturity
13 4 17 3 21 3
14 3 18 3 22 4
15 3 19 3 23 3
16 3 20 4 24 3
Subtotal: Subtotal: 16 Subtotal: 16
16

1. In what areas do you consider yourself:

Score between 14-16 Strong : Character, Communications and Maturity
Score between 10-13 Somewhat Weak : Intelligence
Score below 10 Weak :Physical Appeal, Human Relations
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2. Are there qualities you consider as your weakness but other people consider as your
strength? What are these?

Based on the evaluation the area in my human relations fall into the weak category however, I
often receive feedbacks that I am good at dealing with people and that they find that as one of
my potentials or advantages as a person. There were also times that people perceive me as an
intelligent one, and yes I do think about myself as a thinker but I cant compare myself to those
who are effortlessly smart because my intelligence and knowledge is a product of my constant
pursuit of learning and being hard working.
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KEEP THIS IN MIND

SELF-CONCEPT


Imagine yourself looking into a mirror. What do you see? Do you see your ideal self or
your actual self? Your ideal self is the self that you aspire to be. It is the one that you
hope will possess characteristics similar to that of a mentor or some other worldly figure.
Your actual self, however, is the one that you actually see. It is the self that has
characteristics that you were nurtured or, in some cases, born to have.

The actual self and the ideal self are two broad categories of self-concept. Selfconcept
refers to your awareness of yourself. It is the construct that negotiates these two selves.
In other words, it connotes first the identification of the ideal self as separate from others,
and second, it encompasses all the behaviors evaluated in the actual self that you engage
in to reach the ideal self.

The actual self is built on self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is derived from social

interactions that provide insight into how others react to you. The actual self is who we
actually are. It is how we think, how we feel, look, and act. The actual self can be seen by
others, but because we have no way of truly knowing how others view us, the actual self
is our self-image.

The ideal self, on the other hand, is how we want to be. It is an idealized image that we
have developed over time, based on what we have learned and experienced. The ideal
self could include components of what our parents have taught us, what we admire in
others, what our society promotes, and what we think is in our best interest.

There is negotiation that exists between the two selves which is complex because there
are numerous exchanges between the ideal and actual self. These exchanges are
exemplified in social roles that are adjusted and re-adjusted, and are derived from
outcomes of social interactions from infant to adult development. Alignment is important.
If the way that I am (the actual self) is aligned with the way that I want to be (the ideal
self), then I will feel a sense of mental well-being or peace of mind. If the way that I am is
not aligned with how I want to be, the incongruence, or lack of alignment, will result in
mental distress or anxiety. The greater the level of incongruence between the ideal self
and real self, the greater the level of resulting distress. Personal development modules
ultimate aim is greater self-knowledge that will lead to higher alignment between these
two personality domains.
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APPLICATION
WORKSHEET 2
ACTUAL SELF VERSUS IDEAL SELF

Name of Learner: Danica Rafols Section: 12-Rutherford

PART 1: iDENTIFY

Actual Self Ideal Self

A. Describe how you feel about yourself in as B. Describe your ideal self in as much detail as
much detail as you can. possible.

My actual self is in a good shape, she eat healthy I picture my ideal self as someone who has finally
foods, exercise thrice a week and is constantly found herself and is helping others in doing the
learning. She is currently enrolled at a school she once same. She is confident and is truly happy with
dreamed of, and while she has lost interest in other
what she is doing. She is doing an excellent job of
hobbies such as dancing, she has discovered a new
accepting her body and serving the community. I
interest in finance and law. She is a STEM student who
also works as a trainee at a real estate firm. She’s also picture her as a woman who wears suits and
working on her confidence and embrace that she’s a doesn't mind looking strong.
lifelong learner.

PART 2: RE-EVALUATE
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Actual Self Ideal Self

C. Describe what you can do to make the most of D. How would you adjust your ideal self to make
yourself as it is now, include things you already do achievable?

I invest in things I know will help me broaden my To become my ideal self, I must first improve my
knowledge, such as self-improvement books and
mentality, because the truth is people spend most
practicing what I preach. I also take advantage of
my age to not rush towards obtaining a career or
of their time in their head or in their thoughts and
stability, but rather to lay the groundwork, such as I am no exception, so it is important that it is a
being literate and having experience. I also make healthy place to be. I must also cultivate a
the most of my teenage years by having wonderful positive relationship with myself and be conscious
friends and connecting with others. of my strengths rather than being consumed by
my flaws, as I must be both a critic and a fan of
myself. I should also spend my time carefully and
efficiently. I also remind myself that in order for
me to achieve my ideal self I must show up as her
day by day.

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ENRICHMENT
WORKSHEET 3 WHAT IS
YOUR TALENT?

NameofLearner: Danica Rafols Section: 12-Rutherford

Everyone has a talent! We are all unique and very special, some people are great singers,
others are good art. Some of us are fantastic listeners and leaders. Perhaps you are cool
cook or an amazing athlete!

I am talented at:
Art whether its dancing, acting, drawing or writing poems.

I developed my talent:
At 4th grade, actually I didn’t know someone would appreciate my talent with regards to
dancing and acting because I just do them as my hobbies then a teacher approached
me after our play and told me if I was interested to the monologue. Then she also
pushed me to be engaged in the schools dance troupe, since then every year during
school programs I would be assign to perform a piece of drama or a group dance
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whether folk or hip-hop. Although, not so many people know but I really do love to draw
even if I am not good at it.
I could become even better by:

I can enhance my talent by constant practice and asking some people to look at
what I am doing and ask for some critics because in that way I can see what area I
need to focus more and improve.

ENRICHMENT
Make a collage or collection of drawings, that shows your special talent.
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Source: https://www.tes.com/teaching-resource/my-talents-6076101
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KEEP THIS IN MIND

PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
Personal effectiveness means making use of all the personal resources – talents, skills, energy
and time, to enable you to achieve life goals.

Your knowledge of yourself and how you manage yourself impacts directly on your personal
effectiveness. Being self-aware, making the most of your strengths, learning new skills and
techniques and behavioral flexibility are all keys to improving your personal performance.

Our personal effectiveness depends on our innate characteristics – talent and experience
accumulated in the process of personal development. Talents first are needed to be identified
and then developed to be used in a particular subject area (science, literature, sports, politics,
etc.).
Experience includes knowledge and skills that we acquire in the process of cognitive and
practical activities. Knowledge is required for setting goals, defining an action plan to achieve
them and risk assessment. Skills also determine whether real actions are performed in
accordance with the plan. If the same ability is used many times in the same situation, then it
becomes a habit that runs automatically, subconsciously. Here are some skills that will greatly
increase the efficiency of any person who owns them:

1. Determination. It allows you to focus only on achieving a specific goal without being
distracted by less important things or spontaneous desires. It may be developed with the
help of self-discipline exercise.
2. Self-confidence. It appears in the process of personal development, as a result of getting
aware of yourself, your actions and their consequences. Self- confidence is manifested in
speech, appearance, dressing, gait, and physical condition. To develop it, you need to
learn yourself and your capabilities, gain positive attitude and believe that by performing
right actions and achieving right goals you will certainly reach success.
3. Persistence. It makes you keep moving forward regardless of emerging obstacles –
problems, laziness, bad emotional state, etc. It reduces the costs of overcoming obstacles.
It can also be developed with the help of self- discipline exercise.
4. Managing stress. It helps combat stress that arises in daily life from the environment and
other people. Stress arises from the uncertainty in an unknown situation when a lack of
information creates the risk of negative consequences of your actions. It increases
efficiency in the actively changing environment.
5. Problem-solving skills. They help cope with the problems encountered with a lack of
experience. It increases efficiency by adopting new ways of achieving goals when
obtaining a new experience.
6. Creativity. It allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry out a specific action that no
one has tried to use. It can lead to a decrease or an increase of costs, but usually the
speed of action is greatly increased when using creative tools.
7. Generating ideas. It helps you achieve goals using new, original, unconventional ideas.
Idea is a mental image of an object formed by the human mind, which can be changed
before being implemented in the real world. For generating ideas you can use a method
of mental maps, which allows you to materialize, visualize and scrutinize all your ideas,
which in turn contributes to the emergence of new ideas. These are just some, but the
most important personal effectiveness skills which make the achievement of any goal
easier and less costly. 

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REFLECT
WORKSHEET 4
MY BANNER- THE TREASURE WITHIN ME

Name of Learner:_Danica Rafols Section:12-Rutherford

7. My friends often say that I am considerate and thoughtful.

8.Being an active advocate of Christian belief

➢ My family
➢ Bullying in first grade
➢ My friends
➢ Dropping out of
➢ Brave ➢ My education
school
➢ Illness like UTI ➢ Optimistic
➢ Negative body image ➢ Thinker

Being part of a
Dancing My strong
real-estate
characteristic firm
Writing Continuing to
attend school
6. My 18th Birthday because that time I realized after dropping
how much my friends and family love me. out the first
7. They use to say I am a great leader and a very responsible year due to
kid. bullying

8.Getting into the school I once dreamed of.

In the spaces indicated by the numbers, write down the following:

1 and 2 two things I do very well
3 and 4 my two greatest achievements in life
5 what in myself am I proudest of
6 my happiest moment
7 positive words that my friends use to describe me
8 a personal goal that I have already achieved
9 three blessings for which I am most thankful to God
10 three of my positive qualities
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11 difficulties, challenges and problems that I was able to

overcome
REFLECT
1. What do you consider as your weaknesses, abilities and talents?

One of my greatest weaknesses, I believe, is that I have a negative habit of overthinking every scenario,
which causes me to have a poor response or even panic. My abilities and talents, on the other hand, are
something in my life that I am extremely proud of, even if I am not as good as others. However, I am not
fond of comparing myself to others because, for me, as long as I am better than who I was yesterday or
the previous year, I can guarantee to myself that I am improving and doing perfectly fine.

2. What are the remedies you will take to improve or compensate for your weakness?

A poor mentality is difficult to overcome since it is a battle between you and your own self, thus in order
for me to have a healthy mind, I must first stop sabotaging myself and stop playing scenarios in my head
that can only hurt me. I have to be conscious when I am being too hard on myself and treat myself with
the same warmth and compassion that I do to the people I love.

3. How can you further enrich your assets and strengths?Where and how do you use it to your
best advantage?

To further enhance my strengths, such as my talents and abilities, I must find ways to keep growing, which
might include taking more dance/writing lessons, working with a wonderful mentor, and practicing on a
daily basis. By doing so, I am not only training my body to grow stronger, but I am also improving my mind
by pushing myself further. My talents and abilities help not only me, but also my community, because my
story may inspire a child who, like me, was once doubtful and unmotivated.
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“ Seek to be whole, not perfect” ~ Oprah

REMEMBER!
BUILD ON YOUR STRENGTHS AND WORK ON YOUR WEAKNESSES

Most failures emanate from weaknesses that are not recognized or probably recognized
but not given appropriate attention or remedy. This could be a weakness in
communications, personality or ability. Instead of giving up or indulging in self-pity, take
action. Go for speech lessons, get skills upgrading, attend personality development
sessions or whatever appropriate remedies to your perceived weakness. Instead of
simply focusing on your weaknesses, recognize your own talents and abilities, build on
them, utilize them to your greatest advantage.



Source: Roldan, Amelia S. 2003. On Becoming A Winner: A Workbook on Personality Development and Character
Building. AR Skills Development and Management Services (SDMS), Paranaque City, Metro Manila.

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