Peacemaking Principles Pamphlet-1
Peacemaking Principles Pamphlet-1
Peacemaking Principles Pamphlet-1
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ADDRESS everyone involved
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Instead of focusing on our own desires or dwelling on what AVOID if, but, and maybe
others may do, we will rejoice in the Lord and bring him ADMIT specifically
praise by depending on his forgiveness, wisdom, power, ACKNOWLEDGE the hurt
and love, as we seek to faithfully obey his commands and ACCEPT the consequences
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maintain a loving, merciful, and forgiving attitude (Ps. 37:1-6; ALTER your behavior
Mark 11:25; John 14:15; Rom. 12:17-21; 1 Cor. 10:31; Phil. 4:2-9; ASK for forgiveness
Col. 3:1-4; James 3:17-18; 4:1-3; 1 Peter 2:12).
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Instead of blaming others for a conflict or resisting
Matt. 6:12; 1 Cor. 13:5; Eph. 4:32
I will not dwell on this incident.
correction, we will trust in God’s mercy and take I will not bring this incident up and use it against you.
responsibility for our own contribution to conflicts— I will not talk to others about this incident.
confessing our sins to those we have wronged, asking I will not allow this incident to stand between us or
God to help us change any attitudes and habits that lead hinder our personal relationship.
to conflict, and seeking to repair any harm we have caused
(Prov. 28:13; Matt. 7:3-5; Luke 19:8; Col. 3:5-14; 1 John 1:8-9). J^[F7KI;Fh_dY_fb[e\D[]ej_Wj_d]
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Phil. 2:3-4; Matt. 7:12
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Instead of pretending that conflict doesn’t exist or talking Understand interests
about others behind their backs, we will overlook minor Search for creative solutions
offenses or we will talk personally and graciously with Evaluate options objectively and reasonably
those whose offenses seem too serious to overlook,
seeking to restore them rather than condemn them.
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Acts 2:42-47; Phil. 1:27; 1 Pet. 5:2-3; Deut. 1:9-18
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Christ to help us settle the matter in a biblical manner
Passion for the gospel
Pastoral leadership
As people reconciled to God by the death and (Prov. 19:11; Matt. 18:15- 20; 1 Cor. 6:1-8; Gal. 6:1-2; Eph.
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resurrection of Jesus Christ, we believe that we 4:29; 2 Tim. 2:24-26; James 5:9). Practical assistance
are called to respond to conflict in a way that is
remarkably different from the way the world deals
with conflict (Matt. 5:9; Luke 6:27-36; Gal. 5:19-26). We
also believe that conflict provides opportunities to
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Instead of accepting premature compromise or
Our mission is to equip and assist
Christians and their churches to respond
to conflict biblically. Throughout the
world, we provide educational resources,
seminars, and training to help churches,
glorify God, serve other people, and grow to be like allowing relationships to wither, we will actively pursue seminaries, and parachurch ministries to
transform the way their people deal with
Christ (Rom. 8:28-29; 1 Cor. 10:31-11:1; James 1:2-4). genuine peace and reconciliation—forgiving others as conflict and build a “culture of peace.”
We also train and certify conciliators to
Therefore, in response to God’s love and in reliance God, for Christ’s sake, has forgiven us, and seeking just provide conflict coaching, mediation,
and mutually beneficial solutions to our differences and arbitration services to help resolve
on his grace, we commit ourselves to responding to family conflicts, business disputes, church
conflict according to the following principles. (Matt. 5:23-24; 6:12; 7:12; Eph. 4:1-3, 32; Phil. 2:3-4). P.O. Box 81130 divisions, and lawsuits in a way that
restores relationships and brings glory
Billings, MT 59108 to God.
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infinite love (Matt. 25:14-21; John 13:34-35; Rom. 12:18; 1 Peter 2:19; 4:19).
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IB?FF;HOIBEF;E<9edÓ_Yj Peacemakers are people who breathe grace. Inspired by the gospel, they draw continually on the goodness and
power of Jesus Christ, and then breathe out his love, mercy, forgiveness, and wisdom to dissipate anger, improve
The key to changing the way we deal with conflict
is the gospel, the good news that God made peace
Harmful conflict is usually triggered by unmet understanding, promote justice, and model repentance and reconciliation. with us and between us by sending his Son to
desires. “What causes fights and quarrels among die for our sins and give us new life through his
you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle PERSONAL PEACEMAKING ASSISTED PEACEMAKING resurrection (Col. 1:19-20; Eph. 2:14-16). When we
within you? You want something but don’t get it” There are three biblical ways to resolve conflicts personally When a dispute cannot be resolved personally, God calls believe in Jesus, we receive forgiveness and are
(James 4:1-2). Even good desires can evolve into and privately, just between you and the other party. us to seek assistance from other believers. united with Christ and one another (Acts 10:43; Phil.
controlling demands or idols that lead us to judge OVERLOOK AN OFFENSE—Many disputes are so MEDIATION—If two people cannot reach an 2:1-2). God then begins to transform us into the
others and then avoid or punish them until we get insignificant that they should be resolved by quietly agreement in private, they should ask one or more likeness of his Son, enabling us to break free from
what we want (see Luke 10:38-42). This progression overlooking an offense. “A man’s wisdom gives him objective outside people to meet with them to help sinful escaping and attacking habits and mature
often starts with minor differences, but before patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense” (Prov. 19:11). them communicate more effectively and explore into peacemakers who reflect the glory of God’s
we know it we’re sliding down a slippery slope of Overlooking an offense is a form of forgiveness, and possible solutions. “If he will not listen [to you], take one reconciling love in the midst of conflict (2 Cor. 3:17-
conflict that can drop off in two directions. involves a deliberate decision not to talk about it, dwell or two others along” (Matt. 18:16). The mediators may ask 18; Col. 3:12-15).
on it, or let it grow into pent-up bitterness or anger. questions and give advice, but the parties retain the
responsibility of making the final decision on how to
RECONCILIATION—If an offense is too serious to
resolve their differences.
overlook or has damaged our relationship, we need to
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resolve personal or relational issues through confession, ARBITRATION—When you and an opponent cannot
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loving correction, and forgiveness. “[If] your brother has come to a voluntary agreement on a material issue, you
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something against you…go and be reconciled” (Matt. may appoint one or more arbitrators to listen to your
5:23-24). “Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who arguments and render a binding decision to settle the
are spiritual should restore him gently” (Gal. 6:1; see Matt. issue. “If you have disputes about such matters, appoint as People tend to use attack responses when they
People tend to use escape responses 18:15). “Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (Col. 3:13). judges even men of little account in the church” (1 Cor. 6:4). are more interested in controlling others and
when they are more interested in avoiding getting their way than in preserving a relationship.
NEGOTIATION—Even if we successfully resolve ACCOUNTABILITY—If a person who professes to
unpleasant people or situations than in relational issues, we may still need to work through be a Christian wanders from the Lord by refusing to ASSAULT—Some people try to overcome an op-
resolving differences. material issues related to money, property, or other be reconciled and do what is right, Jesus commands ponent by using various forms of force or intimida-
DENIAL—One way to escape from a conflict rights. This should be done through a cooperative church leaders to lovingly intervene to hold him or her tion, such as verbal attacks (including gossip and
is to pretend that a problem does not exist. bargaining process in which you and the other accountable to Scripture and to promote repentance, slander), physical violence, or efforts to damage a
Another way is to refuse to do what should person seek to reach a settlement that satisfies the justice, and forgiveness. “If a man owns a hundred sheep, and person financially or professionally (see Acts 6:8-15).
be done to resolve a conflict properly. These legitimate needs of each side. “Each of one of them wanders away, will he not ... go Such conduct always makes conflict worse.
responses bring only temporary relief and usu- you should look not only to your TI AT I ON M E D I ATI ON to look for the one that wandered
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LITIGATION—Although some conflicts may
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toward others (see 1 John 3:15; Matt. 5:21-22).
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