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    Pop Quiz: Your Assumptions About Change

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    The document presents a pop quiz to help identify assumptions about change. It asks the reader to think of a recent situation where someone came to them for help and answer questions about why they came, what value was provided, and where solutions came from. It then contrasts the "Telling Paradigm" of providing answers and advice versus the "Coaching Paradigm" of listening, asking questions, and supporting the other person to find their own solutions. The document suggests that while the telling paradigm is ingrained in most leaders, the coaching paradigm that values listening provides greater benefit both to the other person and in emulating how God listens to us more than he speaks.

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    The document presents a pop quiz to help identify assumptions about change. It asks the reader to think of a recent situation where someone came to them for help and answer questions about why they came, what value was provided, and where solutions came from. It then contrasts the "Telling Paradigm" of providing answers and advice versus the "Coaching Paradigm" of listening, asking questions, and supporting the other person to find their own solutions. The document suggests that while the telling paradigm is ingrained in most leaders, the coaching paradigm that values listening provides greater benefit both to the other person and in emulating how God listens to us more than he speaks.

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    The document presents a pop quiz to help identify assumptions about change. It asks the reader to think of a recent situation where someone came to them for help and answer questions about why they came, what value was provided, and where solutions came from. It then contrasts the "Telling Paradigm" of providing answers and advice versus the "Coaching Paradigm" of listening, asking questions, and supporting the other person to find their own solutions. The document suggests that while the telling paradigm is ingrained in most leaders, the coaching paradigm that values listening provides greater benefit both to the other person and in emulating how God listens to us more than he speaks.

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    Pop Quiz: Your Assumptions About Change

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    The document presents a pop quiz to help identify assumptions about change. It asks the reader to think of a recent situation where someone came to them for help and answer questions about why they came, what value was provided, and where solutions came from. It then contrasts the "Telling Paradigm" of providing answers and advice versus the "Coaching Paradigm" of listening, asking questions, and supporting the other person to find their own solutions. The document suggests that while the telling paradigm is ingrained in most leaders, the coaching paradigm that values listening provides greater benefit both to the other person and in emulating how God listens to us more than he speaks.

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    Pop Quiz: Your Assumptions About Change

    Here’s a little pop-quiz to help you identify your assumptions about change. Take a few minutes
    and jot down your answers to the questions below before you go on and look at the answers.

    Think back to the most recent time that another individual that came to you for help. You’ll need
    to come up with a particular, recent, real situation to evaluate yourself – just using your general
    impressions of how you function won’t work. Once you have a situation in mind, jot down an
    answer to each of the following questions:

    1. Why did this person come to me? ____________________________________________


    _______________________________________________________________________
    2. What of value did I provide to them? _________________________________________
    _______________________________________________________________________
    3. If a problem was solved in the conver-
    sation, from whom did the solution come? _____________________________________
    4. What kind of follow-up support are you
    providing for implementing the solution? ______________________________________
    _______________________________________________________________________

    Now, look critically at what you actually did in light of the two sets of understandings about
    change listed below:. Which of these assumptions fits how you acted best?

    The “Telling” Paradigm


    ƒ When you come to me for help, what you need is answers and advice.
    ƒ My value to you is in the knowledge, life experience, ideas, and wisdom I can convey to
    you in words.
    ƒ You can’t solve this without my help.
    ƒ I can quickly diagnose and solve your problem with minimal information.
    ƒ If you get the right answers, you’ll be able to change successfully.

    The Coaching Paradigm


    ƒ When you come to me for help, what you need is someone to walk with you.
    ƒ My value to you is in listening and asking questions that help you draw from your own
    knowledge, life experience, ideas and wisdom.
    ƒ You have the resources to steward the life God has given you.
    ƒ If I help you think this through, you can come up with a better solution than I can.
    ƒ Successful change is more a function of support and motivation than information.

    How’d you do? For most leaders, the telling paradigm is what we’ve been taught, and it
    is deeply ingrained is us. To coach well, you must believe in the power of listening – that simply
    to listen is to give a person something of great value. But there’s an even better reason to listen.
    Think for a minute about your own prayer life. What percentage of the time that you spend with

    Tony Stoltzfus | Coaching Pastors | 3101 Barberry Lane | Virginia Beach, VA 23453
    www.CoachingPastors.com | 757-427-1645 | Tony@CoachingPastors.com
    the Lord is he speaking, and what percentage of the time is he listening? What would happen if
    you changed your conversational habits so that you were imitating God?

    From the book, “Leadership Coaching” by Tony Stoltzfus


    Tony@CoachingPastors.com

    Tony Stoltzfus | Coaching Pastors | 3101 Barberry Lane | Virginia Beach, VA 23453
    www.CoachingPastors.com | 757-427-1645 | Tony@CoachingPastors.com

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