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OBJECTIVES
A t t h e e n d of this chapter, y o u should b e able t o :
* develop understanding of the working definition of social literacy;
* explain t h e roles o f parents a n d teachers in t e a c h i n g social skills to
children; a n d
. discuss a n d e x a m i n e issues i n social literacy.
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turns and prob e for missinginformation. Being a good conversational
requires turn-taking and reciprocity. Children have to listen as well as
talk. If they d o not show a n interest in what the other person has to say,
they probably will not b e interested in talking. Impulsive children often
have trouble knowing when to talk and when fo listen.
_ Understanding the listener - Once a conversation is initiate d, it has
to b e maintained. In-order to d o that, it is importa nt to underst and
~ the audience one is talking to. A socially adept child quickly a n d
unconsciously identifies and categorizes his listener, measures what
he/she has planned to say against the anticipated response of t h e
listener, a n d then proceeds, alters, or avoids w h a t she has planned
to say. He/She knows that talking to authority figures is not done In
t h e same way when talking to peers. A misread of t h e listener o f t e n
leads to a misunderstood message and potential social rejection. To
converse in a socially appropriate manner, children must b e able to
take t h e perspective or point of view of the other person, i.e., think
t h e way they think. To d o this a child must pretend t h a t he/she is t h e
listener a n d think a b o u t what he/she n e e d s t o h e a r t o u n d e r s t a n d
what is being said.
Empathizing - Empathy is more t h a n perspective taking; it m e a n s
t h a t o n e is a b l e to feel what the other person feels. Empathy allows
o n e to really connect with other people. Other children often think o f
children who lack empathy as m e a n , unkind, or self-centered.
Reading Social Cues ~ It is very important to read social cues in a
conversation. Cues are the hints and signals that guide us to the next
thing to say or do. Social cues can.be verbal or nonverbal. Verbal
cues are the words that the other person is saying. Tone of voice is
a n important part. of verbal cues. Good detectives p a y very close
attention to nonverbal cues. :
Previewing or Planning - Conversations also require that one previews
~ or thinks about what effect the words or actions may have on the
listener before she says or does them. If the impact will b e negative,
one can adjust what she might say or do.
Problem-Solving ~ Problems a n d conflict are often a part of social
interactions. Someone may not agree, get angry, insult, or become
aggressive a t something that one says. How one reacts to these
conflicts depends on how good her problem solving skills are. Conflicts
cannot be avoided and are often necessary to “clear the air.” Turning
a conflict from a "win-lose” situation t o a “win-win” situation is the best
way to resolve conflict. This requires negotiation and compromise,
give a n d take that results in a situation where all parties c a n live with +
a n d help maintain friendships.
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Apologizing - Everyone makes social mistakes a t o n e time or another,
A person with good social skills is confident enough to make a sincera
apology for her error. This is a courageous a c t a n d is the quickest ang
easiest way t o correct a social blunder. In reality, o t h e r p e o p l e Usually
h a v e a higher opinion o f someone who apologizes for making q
m i s t a k e , Apologizing is a sign e f humble a n d m a t u r e c h a r a c t e r when
o n e com mits mistakes.
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children are disposed fo be
activity befo re they are taught it; in other words,
t.
social befo re they learn what sociability is all abou
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ren
There are two distinct ways of answering the question on how child
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learn to live socially with each other and with adults. The first view is norm
a n d communal. From their cultu re, c h i l d r e n l e a r n c u s t o m s t h a t provi de them
pragmatic
with a guide to act in ways that minimize conflict. The seco nd view is
and
and individualistic. The social order of children is creat ed by explicit
the worst
implicit agreements enter ed into by self-seeking individuals to avert
consequences of their selfish instincts (Arthur, Davison, & Stow, 2000). In this last
view, social order is dependent o n sanctio ns a n d formal agreements. Rules are
obeye d becau se they confer person al advan tage o n a child. In t h e normative
view, children are persua ded of the moral force of acting socially through their
voluntary associations with others, both in their immediate circle, such as the
family, a n d in the wider community, for example, through membership of a
church or club. The child in this normative view will not only know the correct
behavior b u t will perform the role without a n y need for regular, Conscious
reference to the rules governing it.
Teaching social literacy in schools is n o t a s easy a s i t appears t o b e due to
subjective standards of morality a n d inherent human capacity to judge and
make excuses. ’
- Human Nature
While we would all like to believe that people are inherently good,
experience has taught us that the-inherent goodness of humanity is, at best.
unreliable: Sometimes it is there, often it is not. We are quick to champion the
cause of moral uprightness, justice, a n d equity, but balk when our words and
actions come under their scrutiny.In other words, we insist that others be judged
according to a fixed moral standard, b u t invoke a subjective o n e when our
While casual office attire has become the norm in many offices, job
interviews typically require more formal dress a n d behavior t o demonstrate
‘ a level of respect. Stories prevail of young adults showing u p t o interviews
in casual clothing, texting, or using phones during job interviews or even
bringing their parents with them. Such behavior demonstrates a lack of
situational awareness about what is approp riate to d o in different social
circumstances. While colleg e classrooms or the actual office atmosphere
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Wrap Up
» Social literacy concerns itself with t h e d e v e l o p m e n t o f social skis.
knowledge, a n d positive human values that enable h u m a n beings to act
positively a n d responsibly in range o f complex social settings. |
e Social skills range from the ability to initiate, maintain, a n d end @
conversation to r e a d i n g social signals to more complex skills s u c h a s solving
problems and resolving conflict.