52 Ways to Tell if Your

Parent is a Narcissist
CHECKLIST
There’s a difference between a narcissistic parent and a narcissist. Many people
are narcissistic, but narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a different issue. This
disorder has fixed and unchangeable personality traits. This checklist helps you see
if your parent may be a narcissist.

If your parent is a narcissist (has NPD), you will have work to do on yourself to
uncover your true self. It is a very serious matter that needs your attention to heal
the damage it does to your self-esteem, your personal value, your relationships,
your beliefs, your physical health, your personal self-expression, and even your life
purpose. A parent with NPD cannot be helped (they won’t seek help anyway) but
you can!

If you resonate with this entire list, there is help for you! Healing will need to be
done on your entire holistic system – mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual.
Following a holistic approach helps you to quantum leap your results. You may
have already done work on yourself but if you’re reading this list, it is time to go
deeper to heal the damage.

As the daughter of a narcissistic father, I suffered over a dozen illnesses from the
stress of abuse and have healed them all (including Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue
Syndrome & depression). I can honestly say I have blazed a trail for you to heal
that won’t take multiple decades and a gazillion dollars (like it did for me!). The
sooner you set about this healing pathway, the better. Don’t wait. I can help you
begin to get well now!

Thank you for trusting me to help you. Identifying what this parent has done to
you is the first step. You have likely been doing that already but because there’s so
much confusion when you are the target of a narcissistic parent, seeing the truth
in different forms helps to reinforce what has really been happening your whole
life.

I hope this list helps you to move forward from wherever you are on your healing
pathway from parental narcissistic abuse. Thanks for downloading this list!
 Place a Check By All That Apply to Your Parent

1. ☐ You were regularly shamed by your narcissistic parent and made to feel
insignificant.
2. ☐ You or someone else were always blamed for everything that went
wrong and anything this parent did wrong.
3. ☐ You were criticized and/or belittled on a regular and continuing basis.
4. ☐ Your parent had an overinflated sense of self.
5. ☐ Your parent was always right and knew something about everything.
6. ☐ You never felt emotionally supported by this parent.
7. ☐ You regularly felt misunderstood, unseen, and unheard.
8. ☐ You knew you could never go to this parent for emotional support or
comfort.
9. ☐ You were blamed for things that happened to you like accidents or other
things that were out of your control.
10. ☐ You were regularly confused about what the truth was.
11. ☐ You were routinely lied to by this parent and when you called them out,
they told you they never said it.
12. ☐ You were pit against another sibling, family friend, or your other parent
with conflicting stories told by your parent to each party.
13. ☐ You caught your parent (or highly suspected) in a romantic involvement
with an outside person or multiple people.
14. ☐ You felt that no matter what you did, you could never get it right.
15. ☐ You were never apologized to for anything that was done to hurt you. If
any apology came, it felt empty, without true remorse and/or
manipulative.
16. ☐ Your emotional hurt and pain always went unacknowledged.
17. ☐ Your parent gave you what they wanted you to have and not necessarily
what you needed.
18. ☐ Your parent gave things to you or was nice to you to get things from you.
19. ☐ You felt used on a regular basis.
20. ☐ You never had any discussion of depth about anything that was
important to you.
21. ☐ You felt regularly manipulated into doing things that you did not want to
do or didn’t have the skills to do.
22. ☐ You were isolated from others and felt as though you were imprisoned
by this parent.
 23. ☐ You had a limited number of specific activities that were approved and
many more that you were not allowed to participate in.
24. ☐ You were given the silent treatment and met with passive aggression for
the slightest provocation.
25. ☐ You never knew what your parent was going to be like when they came
home.
26. ☐ You were screamed at for the slightest thing that may have made no sense
to you or for things that you didn’t do.
27. ☐ You were often tired and felt ill with headaches, stomach issues, infections,
and/or other strange bodily symptoms.
28. ☐ You felt anxious, afraid, depressed, or down much of the time.
29. ☐ You had to walk on eggshells every single day, afraid to upset this parent.
30. ☐ You were often bullied by this parent.
31. ☐ You were routinely interrupted and dismissed when you tried to speak.
32. ☐ You were not allowed to express your own opinion without being criticized
and you felt like you could never really be yourself.
33. ☐ You often received the message that your narcissistic parent really did not
care about you.
34. ☐ You were often ignored and neglected, yet you were monitored and
scrutinized simultaneously.
35. ☐ You felt invisible much of the time and your parent often treated you like
you were not there.
36. ☐ Your parent would be super nice to you and then suddenly turn on you
without warning.
37. ☐ Your interests and hobbies didn’t matter to this parent unless it’s
something they approved of or something that made them look good.
38. ☐ Your parent would brag about you (or about anything) to make him or
herself look good.
39. ☐ You were compared to other kids as inferior to them with phrases like,
“Why can’t you be more like them” or they praised someone outside of your
immediate family but not you.
40. ☐ You escaped to your room to get away from this parent as often as you
could.
41. ☐ You felt nervous, anxious, or afraid to ask for help or for something you
needed.
 42. ☐ You never (or very rarely) felt as though you were approved of by this
parent.
43. ☐ You were teased by this parent in mean and spiteful ways that hurt.
44. ☐ You felt guilty and responsible for caring for this parent and meeting their
needs and demands.
45. ☐ You constantly tried to please this parent, but it was never enough so you
may have rebelled.
46. ☐ You were afraid to speak up and share what was important to you because
it would get criticized, ignored, or dismissed.
47. ☐ You were often mocked, scoffed at, called names, and made fun of by this
parent.
48. ☐ You were silenced and disallowed from sharing the truth about how this
parent treated you and your family behind closed doors.
49. ☐ You were aware that if you told people outside what was happening in your
home that no one would believe you and you were afraid of the severe
consequences.
50. ☐ Your parent regularly exaggerated the truth or flat out lied.
51. ☐ You may have felt happy when your narcissistic parent was in a good mood
and really down when they weren’t, often riding a roller coaster of emotions.
52. ☐ Your narcissistic parent was not introspective and had a disdain for
therapists while believing themselves to be stable, reliable, and a good person
who was not in need of help.

WHAT WERE YOUR RESULTS?

If you checked all 50 of these ways to tell if your parent is a narcissist, then he or
she was. If you checked most of them, then they most likely have the personality
disorder. If you checked off less than 20, your parent is likely narcissistic but may
not have the disorder. A person with the disorder will be unable to change the
fixed traits. Moreover, they won’t have any desire to because the false self that
they have created will disallow them from seeing and admitting the truth.

If you have been subject to this type of parent (or both parents in some cases),
and you are sensitive and empathic, you will need help to recover. Recovery is not
an accurate word. It suggests you were once unscathed, got hurt and now we are
going to get you back as good as new. If your parent is a narcissist, you need to
uncover your true self, raise your self-worth, find your true purpose, and probably
recover your physical health as well.
As an expert in the field of holistic healing, energy medicine, intuitive
development, holistic psychology, and as a holistic chef, I have an approach that
heals the whole person naturally. You have everything you need within you to
heal in mind, body, and heart. You just need the best recipe for you to do that. We
are all different and we all become damaged differently and will heal in our own
specific ways.

If you would like to book a free consultation with me to discuss a holistic healing
pathway tailored just for you, follow this link https://meghaworth.as.me/free-talk
Or, head over to www.meghaworth.com to learn more about the work that I do
and get updates on the self-study online courses coming out to help you heal the
whole person.

If one or both of your parents were/are a narcissist, it is very serious. The patterns
they programmed you with will be the very ones you perpetuate without meaning
to or wanting to.

The good news is that you can become the person you were meant to be. You can
heal. You can finally become you.

Authored by Dr. Meg Haworth, Ph.D. – www.meghaworth.com