Self-management

Self-management, also referred to as ‘self-control,’ is the ability to control one’s emotions,

thoughts and behaviour effectively in different situations. This also includes motivating oneself,
and setting goals.
the skills you must master to succeed in life:

Self-awareness: Ask for honest feedback. Gather insights on your personality and work-specific
proficiencies. Think about your daily interactions and how you handled situations well or could have
handled them differently.

Responsibility: Taking responsibility for your tasks is very important. Taking ownership is the step towards
self-development. For example, if you have been assigned a task by a teacher; ensure you take complete
ownership. Even if you are unable to complete the task on time, you must report it and then correct it.

Time Management: Prioritise the things you have to do. Remove waste and redundancy from work. Make
a time table and follow it diligently.

Adaptability: Stay current with best practices and read up on new information always. Prepare yourself for
new changes, so that you can transition seamlessly.
What is Stress?

Stress can be defined as our emotional, mental, physical and social reaction to
any perceived demands or threats. These demands or threats are called
stressors. Stressors are the reason for stress.
For example,
• you are too close to the exams but feel unprepared.
• you are experiencing a loss of someone close in the family.
• you are worried about what people would think of you if you don’t dress well
or cannot speak confidently.
• you are stressed due to lack of sleep
Stress Management
Managing stress is about making a plan to be able to cope effectively with daily
pressures. The ultimate goal is to strike a balance between life, work,
relationships, relaxation and fun. By doing this, you are able to deal with daily
stress triggers and meet these challenges head on.

Always keep in mind the ABC of stress management

A: Adversity or the stressful event

B: Beliefs or the way you respond to the event

C: Consequences of actions and outcomes of the event

Stress management can help you to

• have a joyful life.

• focus and complete tasks on time.

• be a happy person as you are stress free.

• be more energetic and spend quality time with your friends and family.
Stress Management Techniques

Here are a few simple stress management techniques.

• Time management: Proper time management is one of the most effective stress-relieving techniques.

• Physical exercise and fresh air: A healthy lifestyle is essential for students. Stress is generally lower in people who maintain
a healthy routine. Doing yoga, meditation and deep breathing exercises help in proper blood circulation and relaxes the body. Even
taking a walk or playing in the park will help you get a lot of fresh oxygen, which will help you become more active.

• Healthy diet: Having a healthy diet will also help you reduce stress. Eating a balanced diet, such as Dal, Roti, vegetables
and fruits will give you the strength to do your daily work efficiently.

• Positivity: Focussing on negative aspects of life will add more stress. Instead, learn to look at the good things and stay
positive. For example, instead of feeling upset over a scoring less in a test, try to maintain a positive attitude and look at ways to
improve the next time

Sleep: We should get a good night’s sleep for at least 7 hours so that your brain and body gets recharged to function better
the next day.

• Holidays with family and friends: Going to a relative’s place, such as your grandparents’ house or a new place during your
summer vacations can help you break from the normal routine and come back afresh.
Ability to Work Independently

If you can become a calm and relaxed person, you will be have the ability to work
independently, which means.

1. becoming self-aware, self-monitoring and self-correcting.

2. knowing what you need to do.

3. taking the initiative rather than being told what to do.

4. recognising your mistakes and not blaming others.

5. having the ability and the will to learn continuously.

Self-regulation— Time Management

Time management is the ability to plan and control how you spend the hours of your day well and
do all that you want to do. An example of good time management skills would be when you
decide to finish your homework immediately after school so you have time to watch TV later in
the evening.
Time management is the thinking skill that helps you to
• complete tasks on time.
• make a daily timetable.
• make a good guess at how long it will take you to do something.
• submit homework and assignments on time.
• not waste time during the day.
Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage one’s own emotions, as
well as the emotions of others. It is generally said to include at least three skills:

• Emotional awareness: the ability to identify and name one’s own emotions.

• Harnessing emotions: the ability to harness and apply emotions to tasks like
thinking and problem solving.

• Managing emotions: the ability to regulate one’s own emotions when

necessary and help others to do the same.
Some steps to manage emotional intelligence are as given below.

• Understand your emotions: Observe your behaviour and note the things you
need to work on. You can then work on the things you need to improve.

• Rationalise: Do not take decisions abruptly; be rational in your thinking.

• Practise: Do meditation and yoga to keep yourself calm

Self-awareness— Strength and Weakness Analysis

Being self-aware means that you can identify your strengths and weaknesses.
Self-awareness, therefore, will help you in converting your weakness into strength
and strength into an exceptional talent. Analysing your strengths and weaknesses
helps you to attain success in life. However, strength and weakness analysis
begins with knowing yourself first.
Knowing Yourself

Understanding who you are, what you like or dislike, what are your beliefs, what
are your opinions, what is your background, what you do well and what you do not
do well is important because only then can you actually measure your strengths
and weaknesses

In other words, being self aware actually means knowing your inner strengths,
hidden talents, skills and even weaknesses.
Self-motivation

Self-motivation is simply the force within you that drives you to do things.
Self-motivation is what pushes us to achieve our goals, feel happy and improve
our quality of life. In other words, it is our ability to do the things that need to be
done without someone or something influencing us.
Self-regulation— Goal Setting Goals and Setting SMART Goals

Goal setting is a very essential factor in your personal life. The process of goal
setting in your life helps you decide on how to live your life, where you want to be,
and how you want to be in the future.
We can use SMART method to set goals. SMART stands for:

Specific: A specific and clear goal answers six questions. Who is involved in the goal? What do I want to
do? Where do I start? When do I start and finish? Which means do I use? Why am I doing this?

Measureable: A measurable goal answers the questions “How much?”, “How many?” and “How do I
know that I have achieved results?”

Achievable : Breaking down big goals into smaller parts will make the goal achievable

Realistic: A realistic goal would be something that we want to achieve and can work towards.

Time bound: A SMART goal should have a timeframe by when the goal needs to be achieved. This
encourages us to take actions to completely fulfill the goals.