4 Gestalt Therapy 08112022 012937pm
4 Gestalt Therapy 08112022 012937pm
4 Gestalt Therapy 08112022 012937pm
• The therapist’s skills and expertise remain crucial, but that expertise
consists not in providing the right answers to the meaning of the client’s
experience but in facilitating a particular type of encounter in which the
client discovers and creates those meanings for him- or herself in a
collaborative process of contact
• In the process, the therapist often urges the client to slow down, relax
unexamined and fear-based patterns of rigidity, and notice features of
his or her process, pointing out contradictions as the therapist
experiences them (between affect and content, for example, or
observations/events and interpretations/conclusions drawn from it by
the client) and offering challenges to the client’s understanding,
especially in areas in which the client is reporting dissatisfaction,
dysfunction, or distress.
Techniques and tools included first
• By making more of his or her experience transparent, the therapist makes the
co-constructed relational situation much more available as material for the
client to process with more awareness.
• In this way the therapeutic relationship becomes a living lab for the same issues
the client is likely dealing with in other relationships and other situations of life.
• This then enables the transfer of skills and insights experienced in therapy to
other less protected and thus more challenging situations in “real life” (i.e., life
outside the protection and special support of the therapy situation).
• Therapist authenticity never means sharing things that are not
relevant to the client’s goals and issues; rather, it most often means
noticing when an issue or difficulty in the client’s life is being enacted
in the therapeutic relationship and then opening that up for
exploration (as opposed to interpreting it as being about some other
relationship, most often with a parent, as would have been a standard
analytic practice of the times).
“I’m feeling frustrated now because I want to be here in a way that is potentially
helpful, and if you only tell me you disagree with what I say, I don’t learn much about
what you think and feel.
It leaves me to figure out on my own by trial and error what you mean and what might
be helpful to you.”
This kind of sharing can readily become the basis for an experiment
for example,
• In this way the therapist is being true to her or his experience but not
just for its own sake; rather, this kind of self-report places more
information (the reaction of the other person) at the service of the
client, opening up new possibilities rather than closing the door in the
face of the client’s problematic contact.
THE FOCUS ON EMOTIONAL
EXPERIENCE
• A second tool for unlocking and opening up the client’s contact process is to slow
down and simply focus longer and with greater intensity and support on the feelings
that come up when not engaging in habitual behavior or “contact style” (Wheeler,
1991).
• The immediate goal, after all, is to support the client in opening up areas that are
too rigidly integrated into pre-constructed whole sequences of thought, emotion,
and behavior, blocking open experimentation and new learning in that area of living.
• If the therapist quickly moves to offer an explanation for everything that comes up,
it would only serve, to leave the client’s habitual contact patterns in place.
• The therapy could then quickly become only a discussion about the issues
• Gestalt therapy says “Just stay with that feeling, breathe into it, and
let’s see together where it leads,” moving into the structure of the
present moment rather than away from it into what probably is a
safer, more distanced discussion of a kind the client has likely already
had, perhaps again and again.
• One of the main techniques in using this tool is support for slowing
down, noticing, and pointing out body tensions or habits (especially
ones that contradict the client’s verbal sharing or self-awareness)
• For example,
• the therapist might say, “You’re telling me something terribly sad (or angry or
embarrassing, etc.), yet you have a big smile (or a clenched fist or perhaps a
frozen jaw; perhaps the client’s breathing has stopped or the voice has become
small, and so on).
• What would happen if we stop and you just stay with that smile (or fist or jaw or
breathing)?” Tears can be the first result of this kind of supported pause in an
automated contact sequence; the buried frustration and pain of carrying the
underlying issue and feelings so long and so alone come to the surface.
• This may then lead into the kind of dialogue or empty-chair work Gestalt therapy
is often known for, which entails the client shifting from one chair or stance to
another to give voice to the person or message imagined as the source of that
particular message.
• Thus, the client can experience an unintegrated point of view within
him- or herself directly and often resolve it.
• For example, the therapist might propose, “What would your smile
(or fist or breath-holding) be saying to us, if it had its own voice?” The
client might respond, “My smile says, ‘I can take this, I can’t let this
get me down’ or ‘I mustn’t let you see how sad I’m really feeling . . .
don’t let the world really see you.’ ” The habituated or stuck contact
pattern begins to open to the possibility of a new, more open-ended
response pattern to similar situations and feelings.
AWARENESS, CONSCIOUSNESS, AND THE UNCONSCIOUS
• In Gestalt therapy, the comprehensive term awareness refers, as in Gestalt
psychology, to all those selected features of our situation (internal as well as
external) that we register, integrate, and respond to in some way, with and/or
without consciousness.
• This is the integrated background out of which our behavior emerges at any
present moment; it is how our organizing process works, enabling us to deal with
ever-changing situations in relation to our ongoing and ever-changing needs.
• Thus, the term awareness includes both conscious and unconscious
domains; the Gestalt model does not view these two domains as
sharply or rigidly distinct, as in the classical Freudian model.
• On the one hand, for example, the client may want to tell her or his boss (or
parent or spouse or other important person) where and why she or he needs
more appreciation, more money, or more freedom to develop a project, to drop
a too-burdensome, unfair role or responsibility, or to have better treatment in
some other way; on the other hand, a paralyzing cloud of apprehension and
anxiety may lead to thinking, “Don’t do it. Don’t risk it.
• Don’t provoke the negative consequences that will follow,” more loudly
and sternly the closer the client comes to taking the prohibited step. This
is a familiar kind of issue in therapy: a desire (a self-assertion, a creative
idea, an unexpressed resentment) in conflict with a set of fears
(e.g., people will not like you, you will be punished,
you will lose the marginal acceptance you have now
—the kinds of feelings that can lead to even harder-to-contact
depths of guilt, shame, and doubt about self-worth).
• The client can give fuller voice to each of these positions in turn—the
desire, the warning voice, the feelings and longings and fears behind each
of them—and there can be dialogue back and forth between the
positions, all still in the voice of the client, who may move back and forth
between the chairs.
• The client may often be able to identify the sources of the voices (e.g., “That’s
my grandmother’s voice, most of all, telling me I can do it, that I’m special and
wonderful and can have all those things” or “That stern voice is my father,
always telling me not to stick my neck out, not to take a risk”).
• By spending more time within the voices, the client might also be surprised to
discover, for example, that the father’s voice is more afraid than judging,
more protective than punitive.