Self-Development notes

How to stop negative thoughts?” The key here is changing your focus”
1. Think of something you are really proud of by focusing on it. Example: Something you
accomplished
2. Do the wonder woman pose

Close your eyes and focus on something that could excite you and feel that that thing is
currently happening

1. Do three minutes of gratitude where you think about three things you are grateful for
today and feel those feeling of gratitude. (when you’re grateful you can’t be worried or
fearful)
2. Think of the top three things you want to accomplish and see them done and feel those
feelings as if you already have what you desire.

**If we don’t really take control of our environment our environment will take control of us

Don’t allow yourself to be controlled by these 5 things:

Leave the pain of your past behind so it can’t ruin your future or block the light of your
bright future. Your past is gone whatever happened reliving the events will do you no
good .

If someone did you wrong, the only way you can WIN is if you let go and move on 😊

If you want to win you must focus on building your future and start right now.

Release that weight from your back so you can be free

Don’t allow events in the past which are now gone to ruin this moment-which is
perfect-

2) Other people’s opinions and judgements

The need to fit in and feel wanted can cause you to travel don paths you don’t want to
travel.

People pleasing is a curse that should be avoided at all costs

Do things because you want to and not in order to please others due to the fear of
judgement

You are born unique for a reason.

You are born to stand out, to be appreciated and loved for who you are

Don’t dim your lights so you can fit into the dull background of other people’s lives

Those who care for you will see the light you’ve got and shine with you
 3) LIMITED BEIEFS you project on your self

Those beliefs are most likely to be unconscious limitations that where conditioned in
you from a young age and throughout your entire life by listening to people around
you who never reached for their own dream

There is NOTHING you can’t do ..NOTHING you cant have and no one you can’t
BECOME if you BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

When there is no enemy within the enemy outside can do you no harm

When you have nothing inside holding you back there is nothing outside that can hold
you back either

Your entire life will change the moment you decide to change your mindset

You have to see every circumstance a blessing

4) Relationships with people around you

If you are always needing significant other to feel happy and complete then you are
always one moment away from a breakdown

You have to develop a mental strength where you don’t need others to make you
happy

5) Money

Always feel that abundance is coming in your way and don’t feel that you can’t buy a
certain thing because you’ll start attracting lack into your life.

How to be motivated?
 Accomplishing something is the only way to make you motivated.
 We need to have small successes which are going to help us to continue
 You can do TO DO lists in order to keep track of your goals
 Break up your tasks into smaller ones (example: If you have chapters break them into
pages or paragraphs at the start to stay on top of your work this keep your stamina
going on
 Be Realistic and make your tasks manageable
 Use timetables: make the timetable very strict to regulate your study session and make
sure that you don’t procrastinate
 Don’t give yourself empty minutes of going on your phone without it being scheduled

More time in flow means feeling great and creating great things

Explanation: Flow is a state where you are content in what you are doing, completely
focused and invested. How? By feeling Relaxed and not thinking of the future through
focusing on your current situation and what is in you hand

 Switch between activities to prevent yourself from getting bored:

The whole premise of enjoying studying comes down to something called “The
lawyer effect” which states that we can turn anything into play
You are a badass:
 It’s not that the things and opportunities that we want in life don’t exist yet. It’s that
we’re not yet aware of their existence
 The more practiced you become at being present the more available you are to
download ideas and seize opportunities that you might miss out on if you’re
wrapped up in the endless chapter in your head
 To be more present shut off the thoughts in your head and use your 5 senses to feel
everything around you which in fact raises your frequency and attracts things with
like frequency to you
 The big snooze operates according to limiting false beliefs engrained into our
subconscious as a kid, as well as the decisions you’ve made about yourself that are
less than flattering or empowering

These thoughts gained validation from outside sources

ex: People’s opinion of me is more important than my opinion of me

 Watching someone else totally go for it can be incredibly upsetting to the person
who spent a lifetime solid case for why themselves can’t
 Your desires often appear far-fetched but remember you create your reality and
you’ve spent a lifetime creating the one you presently have largely based on your
limiting beliefs
 We are very powerful creatures that create our realities through focused energy
 Your ego will do everything to stop you from changing and growing (by setting
emotional or physical blocks), especially since you’re attempting to obliterate the
very identity that you and everyone has come to know as “you”
 You have to stop at nothing, have faith and trust that your new life is already here
and is far better than the old.
 Try seeing yourself in the eyes of someone who admires you, believes in you leaps
and bounds
 If we really love ourselves, everything in our life works
 We are born knowing how to trust our instincts and how to not care about what
someone thinks of us but as we grow, we learn from people around us and replace
many of these understandings with limiting false beliefs
 We tend to invest everything we’ve got in believing that we’re not good enough
 In order to train your brain to think differently, figure out which affirmation you
need to hear the most and repeat it all day in your head, out loud, while you’re
walking, write them on post-it notes and stick them around your house

Write down your favourite affirmations ten times in the morning and ten times
before you go to bed and repeat them out loud

The more emotion you feel around what you’re saying, the more power it will have
to bring more positive change

 Take care of your self as if you are the most important person you’ve ever met
 Start paying attention to what runs through your mind and the feelings you tend to
feel at different times
 Don’t compare yourself to others “Comparison is the fastest way to take all the fun
out of your life”
 It’s none of your business what other people are doing. All that matters is that
you’re enjoying yourself and pleased with what you’re creating
 You are more than enough so avoid comparison
 Change the way you treat yourself or even the thought patterns that you constantly
repeat in your brain. Instead of screwing yourself over some stupid situation just ask
yourself one question which is “What can I learn from this?”
 Free yourself from the drama and conviction that your current version of yourself is
the truth and make a conscious choice to replace old thought patterns into new and
improved ones
 What you tell yourself on daily basis Is more powerful than you know
 Our thoughts become our words, our words become our beliefs, our beliefs become
our actions, our actions become our habits and our habits become our realities
 Every human is born with the ability to make mistakes so get over it. Dragging
around guilt and self-criticism is unhealthy and utterly pointless.
 Guilt, Shame are the most destructive forces in your life and forgiving yourself is the
most powerful decision.
 “Holding on bad feeling does nothing but harms myself and prevents me from
enjoying my life so I let go of all that no longer serves me” -Repeat until you feel
freedom and lightness

Vocab sheet:
1. Hurtles:
2. Stumbling around
3. Inconsolable state
4. Sobbing awe
5. Appalling
6. Partake
7. Profound and Life changing experiences:
8. Cosmically
9. Imprisonment
10. Usher
11. Conceited
12. Arrogance
13. Conceit
14. Sabotage
15. Uppity
16. Lame
17. Bafflement
18. Snorting
19. Brow furrowing
20. Constant remarks
21. Corporate
22. Confide
23. Hacking
24. Ridding
25. Staggering proportions
26. Self-sabotage
27. Chaos
28. Desperately
29. Far-Fetched
30. Overhaul
31. Re-wire
32. Ho-hum: used to express boredom or resignation
33. Closing the shades: Stopping everything and forgetting about your dream
34. Scone: A person’s head
35. Stay the course: keep going strongly till the end of a race or a contest
36. Articulate
37. Captivating
38. Plunked herself down
39. Demanded
40. Hideous
41. Talked off the ledge:
42. Self-proclaimed
43. Ineptitude
44. Entrepreneurial
45. Incessantly
46. Phenomenal sth/sb:
47. Ferociously
48. Unconditionally
49. Rejoice
50. Waddle around
51. Dignity
52. Straining
53. Dwindle
54. Rampant
55. Devastating
56. Conceit
57. Narcissism
58. Self-loathing
59. Perpetuating
60. Proactive
61. Meekly
62. Grouchy
63. Verbiage
64. Heinous
65. Sawed off
66. Conviction
67. Clinging
68. Sojourn
69. Succumbed
70. Perils