Tbesmalltalkpresentation 120830072708 Phpapp02 PDF
Tbesmalltalkpresentation 120830072708 Phpapp02 PDF
Tbesmalltalkpresentation 120830072708 Phpapp02 PDF
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Try to find something that you are both interested in, or something that
you have in common.
I see you’re reading the rugby results, did you catch last game on TV?
Inappropriate subjects for small talk.
Keep things light, avoid discussing religion or politics or making people feel
like you know better or more than they do.
For example: Nice to meet you Mike. Tell me, Mike, do you ….
It’s interesting you should say that Mike …..
Make sure that you share some
information about yourself.
Find a good balance between conversation about you and
your interests and the other person and their interests. That
way both parties will enjoy the conversation.
Body Language & Position
Don’t stand too close to people when engaging in small talk. Being
insomeone’s‘personal space’ will likelymake them feel uncomfortable.
Don’t stand too far away or they may think that you are scared of them. Generally
about an arms length away is a good distance.
Also be aware of your body language, standing with your arms crossed may make you
seem unfriendly, as if you disagree with what the other person is saying.
Your ears are important!
Listen carefully to what the other person is saying, then see if
you can use something they’ve said to carry on the
conversation. This will help the conversation to flow nicely.
You like to travel, you say? So, where would you recommend for a great holiday
destination? I went to the coast last year, have you ever been there?
Don’t be afraid of change!
Let the conversation flow from one subject to another naturally, new topics are not a
bad thing.
Nice weather we’re having. Yes, much better than Central America, that storm looks like it’s going to hit them
hard. That’s no good, I hope it blows itself out before it gets there. Speaking of Central America I had a great
holiday in Venezuela a few years back, have you ever been there?
Laying the foundation for your next chat!
Sometimes we’re so nervous about making small talk that we don’t pay much
attention to what they other person is saying.
But remembering a few important details from your converstation will make small
talkmuch easier next time. It’s well worth the effort.
Eg. Make a mental note (or even a written one) at the end of your conversation: Mike grew up in
America, speaks Chinese fluently, has three kids, holidays in the Carribbean and loves golf.
How to finish ‘small talk’.
End the conversation with something nice. Make good eye contact to show
your sincerity and give the person a friendly smile.
‘It was lovely to meet you’, ‘it was nice talking to you today’, ‘have a great day’,
or ‘let’s catch up another time’.
Relax!
Now all you need to do is ‘relax’ and enjoy becoming skilful at making small talk.
It’s a fantastic way to make friends and have great relationships with others
whether at work or socially – so what are you waiting for?