Sociolinguistics Reflection
Sociolinguistics Reflection
Sociolinguistics Reflection
Not until recently, did I find out the scope of language on how it affects an individual
and how we interact with others at large. By doing this report on Chapter six in our
Sociolinguistic class, I discovered the reasons why we use different languages, the
differences in the rules and structure of the language between different cultures and within
the society. I will further discuss these topics below and narrate my own experiences and
epiphanies.
3. Differences of rules within the society. Wars and conflict do not only happen
between different countries and cultures but, also it exists within the same society.
American Sociolinguist, Deborah Tannen, explains that men and women have
cross-cultural communication because of the use of directness and indirectness.
She explains that direct people are usually on the top of the social hierarchy and
those who belong on the lower level use indirectness. A famous speaker, Emily
Fletcher, explains that women use “qualifying language” when they speak. For
instance, men say, “Just do it.” Women on the other hand say, “If it’s possible, just
do it. Only if you are comfortable.” I can relate and attest to this! I have been using
qualifying language in my daily conversations. I have two reasons why I don’t use
directness: because I don’t want to sound too intrusive and low self-esteem.
This reporting activity on language and social interaction helped me understand that
mastering the universal language is not the only key to communicate effectively with
others and avoid conflict. I also need to consider how different people interpret my
language. As the famous psychologist, Carl Jung, says, the first key to change is
awareness. By having awareness, I now realize that I have a choice because prior to my
knowledge, I was living a life on auto-pilot. I can choose if I want to continue using
language the same way as before, or I could try using language in a way to bridge the
gap between cultures and the people around me. And, I choose the latter one.