HW Cún3
HW Cún3
HW Cún3
(A) There’s no denying that women around the world have made great
strides toward equality in the past century. One hundred years ago, women
in the United States still didn’t have the right to vote, and very few were
allowed to pursue higher education or a meaningful career outside of their
household duties. Fast forward to today, and more than 70 percent of
women between the ages of 20 and 54 are active members of the national
workforce. On top of this, 2015 marked the first year when women were, on
average, more likely to have a bachelor’s degree than men, and this trend is
on the rise.
(B) But despite all this newfound opportunity, the prevailing societal
attitudes about what women are historically supposed to value still have a
long way to go. That’s why we’ve partnered with SK-II to learn more about
all of the ways women are still pressured to stick to outdated gender norms.
“Women have won unprecedented rights thanks to the feminist movement,
but as a society, we still expect women to prioritize family over career, or
even over their own needs,” says Silvia Dutchevici, president and founder of
the Critical Therapy Center in New York City. Dutchevici says many women
feel pressure to “have it all,” meaning both a thriving career and the perfect
family, but that can be very difficult to achieve.
(C) “Most women try to balance work and family,” Dutchevici says, “but that
balance is seldom equal.” In fact, she says working mothers ― even those
with partners ― often find themselves essentially working two full-time
jobs: keeping their career together while doing the brunt of housework,
cooking and child-rearing. This happens for a variety of reasons, but societal
expectations about the roles of women and men at home are still very much
to blame, says Tamra Lashchyk, a Wall Street executive, business coach and
author of the book “Lose the Gum: A Survival Guide to Women on Wall
Street.”
(D) “No matter how successful she is, the burden of running a household
still falls on the woman’s shoulders,” Lashchyk says. “Men get more of a pass
when it comes to these duties, especially those that involve children.”
Lashchyk says much of this pressure on women to conform to a more
domestic lifestyle comes from friends and family.
(E) “In many people’s minds, a woman’s career success pales in comparison
to having a family,” she says. “Especially if the woman is single, no matter
how great her professional achievements, almost every single one of her
conversations with her family will include questions about her romantic life
or lack thereof. I could literally tell my family I’d cured cancer and the
conversation would still end with, ‘But are you dating anyone?’” While
covert societal expectations might contribute to some of this inequality,
workplace policies on maternity and paternity leave can hold a lot of the
blame.
(G) Another less visible way the modern workplace forces women to choose
family over career has to do with the fact that women are pushing back
pregnancy, says Jeni Mayorskaya, a fertility expert and CEO of Stork Club, an
online community for women dedicated to fertility issues. “Compared to our
parents, our generation is having children a decade later,” Mayorskaya says.
“Unfortunately, when we hit our mid-30s and we’re finally ready for that
managing position or that title of a partner at a firm we fought so hard for,
we have to think about putting our career on pause and becoming a mom.”