Positive Thinking PDF

Positive thinking
Positive Thinking
Train Your Mind For
Success And
Happiness
Francisco Bujan
www.vitalcoaching.com
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Contents
Intro ____________________________________________ 12
Part 1 - Mind dynamics ______________________________ 13
What is self talk and how to make it work for you?____________ 14

Mind sets ____________________________________________ 15
How inspiration and influences reach you ___________________ 17
What are your core beliefs ______________________________ 19
Thoughts, emotions and feelings__________________________ 20
What is a feeling? _____________________________________ 22
What is your mindscape ________________________________ 24
Your empowering networks ______________________________ 25
I’ll be direct, okay? ____________________________________ 26
The secret of success and happiness_______________________ 30
Every action generates a result ___________________________ 32
Your quest ___________________________________________ 34
What is a negative emotion? _____________________________ 36
This is a battle ________________________________________ 37
How to embrace change and renewal ______________________ 39
What to do if you feel lack of support ______________________ 41
Happiness is a choice! __________________________________ 43
Happiness is your new territory___________________________ 46
Your spirit is connected _________________________________ 48
What is your Universal Identity ___________________________ 49
How to stand between your past and your future _____________ 50
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Part 2 – Powerful strategies to shift your mind set ________ 51
Connect with positive streams____________________________ 52

Wake up your mind power_______________________________ 55
Protect your mind space ________________________________ 56
Energize your being____________________________________ 57
Love, respect and positive outlook on life ___________________ 58
Get rid of what holds you back ___________________________ 60
What to do first when you are trapped in a negative mind set ___ 66
Tackle the real challenge ________________________________ 68
Part 3 – Negative thoughts? – Why? ___________________ 69
What is negative thinking? ______________________________ 70

Negative thinking as positive force ________________________ 71
The "positive power" behind negative thinking _______________ 74
Why it happens _______________________________________ 79
Why it hurts you ______________________________________ 80
Solving your real challenge ______________________________ 81
Part 4 – Power dynamics ____________________________ 84
How to strengthen your emotional foundation _______________ 85

Power kick ___________________________________________ 88
What is your emotional foundation? _______________________ 89
Find your power_______________________________________ 92
How to build up conquering power ________________________ 94
11 steps to find your conquering power ____________________ 96
What is the challenge? _________________________________ 98
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Wake up your personal power ___________________________ 102

You are the master of your mind_________________________ 105
Master your nature link ________________________________ 109
Gaining back control over what is yours ___________________ 112
Where to start _______________________________________ 114
Are you resisting power? _______________________________ 115
Unleash your power___________________________________ 118
Clear your mind channels ______________________________ 120
Let your instincts do the work ___________________________ 122
Find your destiny _____________________________________ 125
5 key mind powers ___________________________________ 126
Types of power ______________________________________ 129
Types of personal power _______________________________ 132
Freedom of thought ___________________________________ 135
Values and ethics ____________________________________ 138
Power definition ______________________________________ 140
Part 5 – Power building ____________________________ 143
Gaining back control over what is yours ___________________ 144

Personal power areas _________________________________ 145
"Agreed" transfers of power ____________________________ 146
Power transfer _______________________________________ 147
What is your balance of power? _________________________ 148
A basic human right __________________________________ 149
Where to start? ______________________________________ 150
Power of thoughts and emotions _________________________ 151
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Part 6 – Mind performance dynamics __________________ 152
How to increase your mind power ________________________ 153

Respond to challenges_________________________________ 155
Wake up your conquering power _________________________ 156
Dare to fight ________________________________________ 157
Unleash your will power _______________________________ 158
Focus ______________________________________________ 159
Total synergy________________________________________ 160
Remove resistances___________________________________ 161
Peripheral vision _____________________________________ 162
Focus on what thrills you_______________________________ 163
Body power _________________________________________ 164
Your training ground __________________________________ 165
Part 7 – Your performance power weapons _____________ 166
Emotional fuel _______________________________________ 167

Will power __________________________________________ 170
Conquering power ____________________________________ 171
Survival drive _______________________________________ 172
Focus only on what thrills you ___________________________ 173
Best way to prepare yourself____________________________ 175
The secret door to your mind ___________________________ 176
Give rhythm to your day _______________________________ 177
Making the right choices _______________________________ 178
Action is life! ________________________________________ 179
Part 8 - 10 powerful mind training techniques ___________ 180
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Active self talk – technique _____________________________ 181

Will power concentration – technique _____________________ 184
Victory drill – technique________________________________ 187
Assertive determination – technique ______________________ 191
Total emotional freedom – technique _____________________ 193
Power vision – technique _______________________________ 196
Instant effective strategy – technique_____________________ 198
Dynamic synergy building – technique ____________________ 200
Synchronized action - technique _________________________ 202
Part 9 – Key strategies to get what you want ___________ 204
How to get exactly what you want _______________________ 205

How to use challenges to project yourself forward ___________ 207
If you bang your head against a wall, stop right now! ________ 208
Synergize! __________________________________________ 209
Trust and go with the flow______________________________ 210
Integrating new skills _________________________________ 211
Jumping without a safety net ___________________________ 212
No training! Just life! __________________________________ 213
Master your control weapon ____________________________ 214
Be aware of side tracks ________________________________ 215
Don’t miss your reality check! ___________________________ 216
Unhook yourself from the past __________________________ 217
Use your power ______________________________________ 218
Part 10 – Use your mind power to create happiness ______ 219
The secret of happiness________________________________ 220
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Your quest __________________________________________ 222

This is a battle _______________________________________ 223
How to be happy on the long term _______________________ 225
High expectations ____________________________________ 226
Competition between friends ____________________________ 228
Competing for success and happiness _____________________ 231
What are negative projections? __________________________ 233
Part 11 – Real life examples with best strategies ________ 235
Negative thinking triggers ______________________________ 236

How to shift your power level ___________________________ 240
Life vision __________________________________________ 244
Social life ___________________________________________ 245
Business and professional success _______________________ 247
Love life ____________________________________________ 249
Family expectations___________________________________ 251
Body ______________________________________________ 253
Foreign country ______________________________________ 255
Confidence gap ______________________________________ 257
Sense of connectedness _______________________________ 258
I want to be more positive _____________________________ 260
Enjoy life more ______________________________________ 262
You want a solution? __________________________________ 263
How do you find inner security and inner peace? ____________ 264
If you are afraid______________________________________ 265
If you feel angry with everything ________________________ 266
If you feel empty inside________________________________ 267
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If you feel isolated____________________________________ 269

I had difficult experiences in the past _____________________ 270
I have lots of negativity in me___________________________ 271
I hesitate too much ___________________________________ 272
I wish I had a partner _________________________________ 273
I lack energy ________________________________________ 274
What am I doing with my life? __________________________ 275
Feel stacked! ________________________________________ 277
How do I make this broken record stop?___________________ 279
Part 12 – Your happiness tools_______________________ 281
It is time for change __________________________________ 282

Remove obstacles ____________________________________ 283
Master your life power_________________________________ 285
Quest for beauty and harmony __________________________ 287
Conquering power ____________________________________ 289
What are the sponsors of your happiness? _________________ 292
Here is an example: music creates joy ____________________ 293
Where to start? ______________________________________ 296
Nothing can stop you__________________________________ 297
Wake up you happiness skills ___________________________ 299
Emotional freedom ___________________________________ 300
6 easy steps to establish a new positive habit in your life______ 302
Part 13 – Key tactics to wake up your happiness _________ 307
Get rid of the victim role _______________________________ 308

Connect with positive sources of inspiration ________________ 309
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Connect with positive streams___________________________ 314

Wake up your mind power______________________________ 317
Protect your mind space _______________________________ 319
Energize your being___________________________________ 321
Love, respect and positive outlook on life __________________ 322
Search for meaning ___________________________________ 324
Get rid of what holds you back __________________________ 325
Connect with your destiny ______________________________ 326
Positive mind sets and values ___________________________ 327
Master your connection with others_______________________ 329
Stay awake and alert! _________________________________ 330
What to do first when you are trapped in a negative mind set __ 331
How to influence your thoughts__________________________ 332
Tackle the real challenge _______________________________ 333
Part 14 – Change dynamics _________________________ 334
Change dynamics ____________________________________ 335

How to shift mind sets_________________________________ 337
Every action generates a result __________________________ 339
Mind conditioning ____________________________________ 341
3 life powers ________________________________________ 343
Renewal power ______________________________________ 346
Reconditioning your environment ________________________ 347
The dangers of negative attention________________________ 350
How to educate your environment _______________________ 352
Where to go next_____________________________________ 354
What is the challenge? ________________________________ 356
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Who should decide?___________________________________ 358

What is your source of inspiration? _______________________ 360
Why invest in yourself? ________________________________ 362
Part 15 – How to change your life in these situations _____ 365
I am not happy right now but I don’t know where to start _____ 366
Change job _________________________________________ 369
Change my life ______________________________________ 370
Change my life – I don’t know where to start _______________ 371
Change my life style __________________________________ 372
Change something in me_______________________________ 373
Change the way I act _________________________________ 375
Change the way I act – I need to free myself first ___________ 376
Change my diet – I don’t know where to start ______________ 378
Clear clutter_________________________________________ 380
Clear the past _______________________________________ 383
Find a new career ____________________________________ 385
Find answers ________________________________________ 386
Get fit – I don’t have time ______________________________ 387
Get rid of an addiction – I can’t take action ________________ 388
I need to free myself first ______________________________ 389
I would like to move __________________________________ 390
Change house – I am not sure of my next move ____________ 391
Renewal power ______________________________________ 392
Something has to change ______________________________ 396
Something is resisting in me ____________________________ 397
Take an important decision _____________________________ 398
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Part 16 - 7 key steps to change your life _______________ 399
Free your energy _____________________________________ 400

Identify and eliminate top resistances_____________________ 402
Identify and focus on priority number one _________________ 405
Build up your confidence and emotional fuel________________ 407
Take action _________________________________________ 409
Choose an exciting context _____________________________ 411
Conclusion ______________________________________ 412
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Intro
The goal of this e-book is to give you effective strategies to empower
your mind and build up positive mind sets. It is as well to help you
connect with your natural inner sources of happiness.
You can't protect your mind space without power.
This e-book will give you key strategies and energy to take steps.
I cover as well:
• The dynamics of change and how to invite renewal in your life.
• Positive thinking and how you can manifest it.
• Personal power dynamics and hot to tap into your natural

sources of power.
• Mind performance.
Take a minute to print this book.
Having is in front of your eyes will help you stay focused!
Good luck and stay in touch
vitalcoach
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Part 1 - Mind
dynamics
The first step is to understand some basic dynamics about your mind.
Your mind is a complex architecture of thoughts, feelings, emotions

and so much more.
Before you even design a strategy or take action, you must see the
underlying dynamics of your mind so that you can measure and
perceive exactly the impact of your actions, attitudes and behaviors.
The goal is to find out where and how you can impact over what
happens in this inner space.
In the next few pages I will describe some of the key mechanisms
which direct the way you think and the way you feel.
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What is self talk and how to make

it work for you?
Self talk is the story you tell yourself.
When you are trapped in negative thinking loops, your self talk is a
cycle of thoughts which pulls you down into spirals of limiting beliefs.
If you are in a positive mind set, self talk is empowering.
Self talk is a stream of inner activity you can consciously influence and
shift if you want to.
The way you think has a massive impact on the way you perform in
life.
Self talk is the result of a conditioning.
Every time you are confronted with a given situation in life, you will
create a mind set which is your “response” to that situation.
Now, your mind stores memories, feelings, thoughts and emotions.
When you are confronted with the same situation again, you “call
back” the corresponding mind set.
For instance, you have a given mind set for when you wake up in the
morning.
You have another mind set when you have a chat with a friend.
You have another mind set for sports and another one for romance.
Self talk is more than a thought.
It is a whole succession of thoughts.
It is a story you tell yourself.
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Mind sets
You need to realize one thing: thoughts happen within a mind set.
A thought is never an “isolated event” in you.
It is part of a vaster stream you can call your mind set.
A mind set is an inner architecture.
It is the sum of your thinking and emotional habits.
When you are in a given life situation, you will tend to react to it in the
same way over and over again.
Why is that?
Because your mind architecture tends to stay the same.
You tend to create emotional and thinking habits and simply keep on
reproducing them.
This is conditioning.
When you are faced with a given life situation for the first time, you
will create a mind set associated with that situation.
Suppose you go one day for a walk in nature.
You climb to a hill.
It is misty and suddenly the sky clears up.
You get a fresh wind blowing in your face and you feel overwhelmed
by the beauty of the landscape.
Your thoughts and emotions at that moment will create a memory.
This memory is more than a "suspended picture" somewhere in your

past.
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It is a whole set of thoughts, emotions and feelings.
In fact, you will tend to associate hills with the positive mind set you
experienced that day.
This mind set will stay imprinted in you unless it is replaced by a new
one.
This is conditioning.
Conditioning happens through work and education as well.
It happens through the interaction you have with others.
In a life time, your mind builds up millions of mind patterns (thoughts,

feelings and emotions).
A conditioning is an open and well known path in the landscape of your

mind.
It is a path you traveled before.
It is a thinking and emotional habit.
This habit will stay the same unless you consciously reprogram
yourself or go through new experiences.
If you want to reprogram your mind, you need to understand how you
can shift a mind set and manifest a new one.
You want to create a new conditioning.
You need new thoughts and emotions.
The idea is to shift what you don't want or no longer need.
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How inspiration and influences

reach you
Your mind is not an isolated entity.
You are bombarded daily by millions of impressions.
Some of these impressions are visible.
They are what you read, what you hear and anything else you
perceive.
Impressions reach you through your physical senses or through your

subtle senses.
Your sense of feeling for instance is an inner sense of touch.
It is your ability to create an impression out of a combination of

energies impacting on your mind.
Your mind generates feelings and impressions all the time.
You are aware of some of these impressions.
Some other impressions simply impact on your mind without you even
being aware of it.
Inspiration is a subtle, invisible stream of energy.
When you are inspired you feel an inner drive or force which brings
you to take action.
The word “inspiration” is “in – spiration”.
Literally, it means “taking the spirit in”.
You are inspired all the time.
There is always some form of influence impacting on your mind.
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Take the example of a cloud of birds.
When they fly, you can always see the larger body they are in.
Now, every individual bird is in its own world as well.
The birds do not perceive the larger “entity” of their group but when
you look at them from the distance, you can see some form of
cohesion or connection between them.
Even when you are sitting and doing nothing, your mind is still
following a stream of inspiration.
There might be no action or desire involved, you are still being

permeated by a flow of life force, right?
You are alive!
This “being alive” means that there are whole streams of thoughts,
emotions and feelings naturally happening in your mind.
External sources of inspiration do impact on your mind.
Suppose you have an uplifting chat with someone you like, you will
naturally feel happy and energized.
Listening to the news, walking through a busy street, surfing the net,
having a drink in a café, playing with your children are all activities
which will leave an emotional blue print on your mind.
Anything which happens in your environment will influence you in one

way or another.
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What are your core beliefs

Your thinking is structured in various layers.
The surface thoughts are the ones you are not really attached to.
They come and go.
Core beliefs are deeper than that.
They are your inner values and the “inner knowledge” you are really
attached to.
Your core beliefs are what you want to tackle when you want to shift
from negative mind sets to positive mind sets.
Your core beliefs are the foundation thoughts of your mind.
In your self talk, your core beliefs are like miles stones.
They are the crossing points.
They are the decision making areas.
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Thoughts, emotions and feelings

Thoughts, emotions and feelings are waves on the surface of your
mind.
When you feel a certain emotion, what you perceive is only the visible
part of a deeper reality.
Thoughts, emotions and feelings are mind patterns.
Part of what happens in your mind is totally invisible to your

awareness.
The goal is to expand your awareness and see the underlying

dynamics behind your thoughts.
Once you understand how these thoughts work and how they are
generated, it is much easier to shift them or generate new ones.
Thoughts are not isolated.
They are combined with a set of emotions, feelings and beliefs.
Thoughts, beliefs, emotions, feelings and energy level create what we

call a mind set.
A mind set is an inner architecture.
A mind set will generate a given type of emotions and thoughts.
Suppose you wake up one Sunday morning and feel a sudden sense of
inner freedom.
You will smile and feel some joy.
These are emotions.
At the same time, you will start thinking about your day and decide to
call some friends.
These are thoughts.
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You might feel as well energized in this early morning.
You take a fresh shower and feel high on an energy level.
All these elements are your Sunday morning's mind set.
Any moment in your life has a mind set.
Sometimes you perceive emotions.
Sometimes you are aware of a feeling.
Another time you catch yourself making plans for the future.
These are all “visible aspects” of your mind set.
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What is a feeling?
Feelings are impressions on the surface of your mind.
Your sense of feeling is your ability to perceive invisible impressions.
A feeling is the result of an energy impacting on the surface of your

mind.
You are bombarded by millions of impressions daily.
Some of these impressions touch you through your physical senses.
Some other impressions touch you through your psychic senses.
Your sense of feeling is your sense of inner touch.
If you touch an object, your sense of touch will transmit information

about this object.
Your sense of touch will interpret matter and think elements like:
wood, metal, flesh, cold, warm, etc.
This is your sense of touch.
Feelings work in the same way: a feeling is an impression which

appears in the surface of your mind.
Suppose you go downtown and listen to some street musicians.
The music and the atmosphere will impact on your mind and generate
a series of feelings.
When you hear the music, this might wake up a sense of joy for
instance.
This feeling is the result of a "message" impacting on the surface of

your mind.
This feeling happens because there is an interaction: you and a

musician.
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You can get a feeling without having any visible message impacting
through your physical senses.
You can for instance wake up in the morning with a strange

impression.
Your psyche perceives millions of informations a day.
A large portion of this information comes from your environment.
Other feelings can wake up through different channels and only a

portion of these channels are visible.
Any state of mind has a set of feelings associated with it.
Even when you are quiet, you are still feeling something.
You simply are unaware of it.
The term impression is defined as:
“What stays in somebody’s mind: a lasting effect, opinion, or

mental image.”
This definition invokes this idea of impact or inner touch.
Some impressions can truly come from outside of your mind while
others are the result of your inner "processing".
Your mind is processing millions of perceptions daily.
You are only aware of a small fraction of them.
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What is your mindscape

Your mindscape is your mind set.
If someone asks you "What do you feel?", you will look inwards and
come with a series of impressions.
Your mindscape is your inner territory.
It is all these emotions and thoughts you are used to.
You tend to identify yourself with your mind space.
You will have a system of core beliefs about who you are and what you
do on this planet.
You have as well memories, records of what happened in the past.
These memories are like pictures on the surface of your mind.
Every memory is associated with a specific set of emotions and

thoughts.
Everyone has a different mindscape.
Yours is unique and you go on designing it daily.
You are the one who has the greatest influence over the inner territory
of your mind.
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Your empowering networks

One of the elements which give you a strong sense of power and
support is any network you belong to.
For instance if you work within an organization, this network will

impact on your mind and life.
Your family is a network.
Your friends represent a network.
When you feel isolated, you usually miss a connection with a network.
A network is a community as well.
You can feel attuned with a “musical style” for instance.
You can be a “Hip Hop” fan for instance.
This will connect you with a given network and inspire your actions,
thoughts and beliefs.
In fact, it will give you a mind set you can identify yourself to.
If you work within an organization, the culture of this organization will

as well have a similar type of input.
Networks can be empowering.
They can as well be limiting depending on the way you stand in them
and the role they play in your life.
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I’ll be direct, okay?

What I am about to say is radical. It is different than anything you
heard before:
When you are unhappy, you become your worst enemy!
Why is that?
Because you go into the "nurturing" mode.
You accept yourself the way you are and project your problems
outwardly.
When you are unhappy, you often end up complaining about your
situation endlessly.
You talk about your problems day after day and by doing so, you
reinforce negative mind sets.
When you keep on feeding these negative thoughts, you stimulate the
cycle of limiting beliefs and strengthen the "victim role" in you.
If you are in this situation, stop!!!
Stop right now!
I won’t take steps for you.
Why?
Because it is your job.
It is your battle!!!
What I can do though, is first send you this wake up call and second,
give you effective and powerful strategies to deal with this.
If you could see what I see right now, you would kick yourself in the
but!
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Life is short!
If you wait one more day, there are good chances that you won’t ever
reach what you are looking for.
You present mind set pulls you down.
There are a series of mistakes you are doing right now.
Here is what I know you might be doing wrong:
• Accepting yourself and where you are at right now
Simple! Don’t. The moment you hate your life enough, that’s the
moment you decide to do something about it. Your greatest
mistake would be to accept a state of depression or
unhappiness as your identity.
• Believing someone else can do it for you!
That’s another big lie. Nobody can do it for you. The moment
you realize this, you stop waiting and start taking action.
• “It’s because of my past”.
It’s not!!! Your mind is your mind. You can shift the way you see
yourself. Use your past as a platform to project yourself into
your future, no matter what you past is. You have no excuse!
• Hiding yourself behind self destructive beliefs!
It’s safe, aye? When you tell everyone you are worth nothing,
this is playing safe. You make sure no one will challenge you,
right? Self limiting beliefs are self destructive patterns. Every
time you use one, you destroy your life.
• Enjoying negative attention!
What do you think you are doing? I know you feel nurtured by
other’s negative attention. The truth is that taking the victim role
puts you down over and over again.
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• Embracing the esthetic of darkness.
You believe that being "dark" is cool? It’s not. Darkness is not
your identity.
I know that what I am saying is tough.
The truth is that I don’t see anything which needs to be fed or

nurtured in your unhappiness.
You are tolerating and allowing piles of negative emotions to invade

your life and your mind.
Why?
Because part of you is still on the “loser’s path”.
I see you as a winner!
The moment you take the decision to be one, you start moving
towards the place you would like to be in.
The only thing I will feed in you is your inner strength and power.
What I want to do is destroy any negative present mind set right now.
If you are unhappy right now, I believe you have been making a big
mistake and those around you have been comforting you with that.
If you are on a path to self destruction, you are the one who decides
what happens next.
I am here to challenge you and help you shift your present mind set.
This is the task of this e-book.
If you live in a landscape of negative feelings and believe that this is

all there is, I’ll keep bombarding you until you do something about it
and realize that another story can be written right now.
It is easy for me!
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Believe me, unless you take a step, I won’t stop.
Right now, you are my "victim".
I will challenge and pursue you until you wake up.
I will be relentless and merciless.
The only thing I am here to nurture is your inner power.
This is easy for me, right?
I heard enough complaints from people claiming they had no control

over their lives.
I heard enough self pity discourses.
It’s either you wake up right now and take a step or I’ll come after
you!
You won’t escape, no matter how much you hide.
I know your real potential and so do you!
It is time to shift!
Don't wait one more day!
Wake up to your true identity!
I know it takes focus and courage.
Your new way starts right here, right now!
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The secret of success and

happiness
Life is a battle.
When you are unhappy, you are losing this battle.
What makes you happy is energy.
It is the energy which flows in your mind and life.
When you feel unhappy, you are low on energy.
You are low on energy because you did not master yet effective way of
protecting your mind space and finding key sources of power and
energy in and around you.
If you stay low on energy for a long period of time, you go into states
of depression.
The idea is to reconquer your mind territory.
I know this might surprise you but the only way to be happy is to get
your full power back.
Your life is under attack.
If you feel depleted, it is because life force is not circulating in you or

is running out of you.
The architecture of your mind is incomplete and you want to ad pillars

of power and strength.
You want to conquer the territory of your existence.
This is a fight.
It is a fight for power.
You are in charge!
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Do you realize this?
You are the master of your existence.
You are supposed to own your life.
The goal is simple: get your full power back.
Power is what protects your mind.
It is your emotional foundation.
The more power you have, the stronger you feel.
If you feel strong and still unhappy, this means that the next quality
you need is bliss, pleasure, love or happiness.
These are energies!
They are mind sets.
The way to go is to master these energies and know how to manifest

them in your life.
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Every action generates a result

Suppose you stay at home a whole day.
You will naturally miss fresh air.
The moment you open the windows and take a couple of deep breaths,
you invite life force in your body.
This sounds simple, right?
So, why aren't you doing it?
Yes! Right now.
You can stand up.
Open the windows and breathe deeply a few times.
Close your eyes and observe your reaction.
This step can sound like an insignificant step.
It is only one drop, right?
One step is a first step.
This is how a journey starts.
If you want to travel somewhere, you always need to start with a first
step.
No one but you can take that step.
Right now, I could describe a series of actions which would make you
very unhappy within 48 hours.
It is easy:
• Just pick up the phone and start swearing at someone.

• Next step? Eat only junk food for two days.
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• After that, no body care. Don't wash your hands or your face for
two days.
The list can go on!
In the same way I could describe you a series of actions which would
make you happy:
• Eating quality food.

• Exciting goals for your day.
• Meaningful contact with some good friends.
• Entertainment.
• Some exercise.
• Etc.
Your key to happiness is about thoughts, emotions, actions and

attitudes.
What makes you truly happy is when you live within an exciting
stream of inspiration which gives you power, vision and action lines.
Happiness is about the spirit your live in.
You can decide right now to embrace the values of happiness: love,
passion, excitement, power, etc.
What would stop you from embracing these values?
What is the force which can keep you from wanting more of these
qualities and manifesting them in your life?
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Your quest
Happiness is a life long quest.
If you have been in a state of low energy or inspiration, semi

depression or easily touched by negative emotions, you must wonder
how to come out of it.
What exactly is missing?
What I have to say is radical.
I will be direct.
My goal is not to nurture negative emotions.
My goal is to give you a power kick.
I would like to shake you and give you some essential tools to
understand what is happening in you.
Happiness happens in the mind, right?
It has to do with what goes on in your thoughts and emotions.
Your mind is a territory.
When you are happy, life flows.
It is balanced.
You feel good.
When you are unhappy, your mind is invaded by negative emotions

and feelings.
Yes! It is an invasion.
Your mind is a territory and something happens in it you can't really

control.
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The goal is to gain back control of what happens in it.
Your mind is your territory.
If it's your territory, how come you seem to have so little influence
over it?
Do you realize that happiness is a path of life mastery?
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What is a negative emotion?

A negative emotion is a pattern.
It is a channel for a type of energy.
It is a pattern or a frame.
In other words, it is and inner architecture.
Why did you choose this pattern?
You really didn't.
It is a conditioning.
What you want is a different conditioning.
You want another story in your mind.
You want to wake up to a new reality and an approach which frees you
from negative states of mind.
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This is a battle
Happiness is your territory.
This is why happiness building is a battle.
I am not here to help you nurture your past or even your wounds.
Sure you can look at them.
Sure you can accept the way things are.
Now, what I see are only emotions.
These emotions are not your identity.
They are waves on the surface of your mind.
Thoughts and emotions are only waves on the surface of your mind.
There is a deeper identity in your which is formless.
It is a source of power and life force.
This is your fire.
This is the place from where new inspiration wakes up now.
When you are born, your mind is virgin.
You start picking up patterns from your environment.
If your mother tongue is English, English words will create the frames
of your mind.
If you first spoke Spanish, it's Spanish which will be the core of your
being.
Words are frames.
Any emotion you encounter in your childhood leaves a pattern.
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It leaves a blue print.
An emotion is like a path.
You travel it once.
Then you travel it again.
You become familiar with it.
Soon, your mind becomes familiar with this path.
It becomes an established pattern in your mind.
You are programmed, conditioned to respond to a given situation in a

very specific way.
If you tend to be unhappy, you will get familiar with emotions like
loneliness or sadness.
After a while, you identify yourself with them.
They become the key frames in your mind.
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How to embrace change and

renewal
I'll be direct, okay?
If you are unhappy right now, and want to be happy in the future, you
need to invite change and renewal in your life.
You need to create space in your mind so that a new story can be
built.
How do you do that?
By using what we call renewal power.
Renewal power is your ability to change.
The mind is not a fixed set.
It has the ability to be in constant evolution.
There is a force in you whose aim is to refresh and change your mind.
It is an agent of change.
If you no longer want your mind set, what you need to do is connect
with your renewal power.
Power?
Yes! Power!
The time of comforting yourself within your known limits is over.
It's time to show your face to the sun.
To tell you the truth, I don't know what force put you in a challenging
situation but there but its reign is over.
Your mind is your territory and a new force is waking up in you.
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It is your renewal power.
No need to be scared.
Relax and enjoy.
This is what you will do now for the rest of your life.
You deserve happiness.
You deserve joy and pleasure in your existence.
Your being has a basic human right to feel blessed by every day you
will live from now on.
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What to do if you feel lack of

support
Human connections are magical.
You talk to someone.
It makes you happy. Right?
What makes you happy is exchange of life force.
When you communicate with someone (in whatever form), there is a

flow of energy which is activated in you.
Love, speech, joy, emotions.
Whatever that is, it simply flows through your system and brings a
refreshing stream of life in you.
When you are isolated.
This exchange tends to stop.
If you did not get enough love during your childhood, you simply
missed on this flow of life force and love.
This creates an inner emotional gap where you simply feel invaded and
unprotected.
The same happens if you never had a relationship, or if you went

through a heavy break up.
There are all sorts of triggers in life which create energy gaps in your
mind.
These negative states of mind are nothing but a lack of energy

exchange.
If this is where you are at now, I know exactly how you feel.
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I am sorry if you did suffer in the past.
This time of suffering is over.
New doors are opening right now in your life.
What you did not get from life, friends, family or partner is still an
invisible potential in you.
Your resources are still in you ready to burst any time.
Wake up your happiness channels again.
Your mind is a subtle architecture and you want a get a boost of power
and fresh energy.
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Happiness is a choice!
It is true!
Happiness is a choice!
Trust this force and master it.
When you decide to move on, you literally die to your past.
Your past was this comfort zone you did build for many years.
It became a landscape of emotions that your recognize very well.
If you come out of a cave, what do you see? Sunlight!
The contact with sunlight can actually scare you off.
The sun hitting your eyes can be a traumatic experience if you have
been living in the dark for a long time.
You can either retreat in fear or move forward and take the step.
The moment you take the step, you do face a new environment.
It is like changing home.
You need to get familiar with it.
You leave behind what you used to call your identity
New emotions.
A new mind set.
A new home!
Change is stressful.
No matter how you look at it.
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Change requires investment and energy.
You can destroy negative memories by invoking and using this inner
sense of renewal which connects you with your future and destiny line.
You annihilate the power that negative memories or experiences used

to have over you.
Right now, you are taking charge of your emotions and building up a
new energy support system in your being.
You wake up to a new set of emotions which are the emotions of joy,
power, happiness love and success.
Do any of these terms hurt your ears?
Even if they do, realize that right now, you have no choice.
This book you bought is a contract with yourself.
It is a commitment.
It is a decision.
It is an initiation into a new era of your existence.
You are no longer alone.
What you thought was an isolated being is now connected with a

larger vaster reality.
Any form of change creates stress on your being.
Why is that?
Because you shift your mind set.
Old frames are destroyed or dissolved and new ones are being built.
This is a movement into your future.
Can you see that?
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You own your happiness.
It is not something any one can take away from you because it is
embedded in power and strong frames in your mind.
Happiness channels open new lines of energy in your being.
In fact you dare to take these tools in your hands.
The art of happiness is the art of manipulating energies.
It is the art of making conscious choices about what you want to have
in your mind.
To make these choices, you are given extra power.
It is a power kick.
It is this extra resource of energy which wakes up in you and can't be

stopped.
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Happiness is your new territory

You want to get familiar with this new inner landscape.
What you do with it does no matter.
What shifts is the way you feel inside.
Life power is precious.
You remove anything which stops life force from flowing: fears, doubts
and hesitations are gone.
Your new values are trust and confidence.
Why?
Because you just woke up to the realization that you know exactly how
to do it.
What's the difference?
You dare!
You dare to be yourself.
What is yourself?
It is not your car, your job, your house or even your thoughts.
These are all temporary vehicles.
You could shift one for the other.
“Yourself” is what you find if you travel to a new country.
“Yourself” is your essence.
It is your spirit.
It is your life force and life power.
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You could take off right now and live in the forest for the rest of your
life, your spirit would not die.
You would stay alive.
Almost a miracle!
You would wake up your survival instincts and find ways of feeding
yourself.
You would rediscover your link to nature.
In other terms, you would build a new mind set.
Your mind set is not your essence.
It is only a temporary vehicle.
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Your spirit is connected

This is really good news.
Sure, getting validation from others can help but it is no longer needed
for happiness.
You can be perfectly happy with or without others.
Why is that?
Because you live in a sea of consciousness you are connected to all the
time.
Your life force is not an isolated stream of energy.
Your life force is a stream of energy within a much vaster reality.
You are connected.
Your joy is part of a vaster joy.
Your life is always connected.
No matter how far you think you are.
As a human being, you might sometimes feel isolated from others,

from your family or friends.
However, the truth is that you are never alone.
Even when you think you are.
Life is an active stream of energy and power.
This stream is active since the beginning of creation.
Humankind is part of that stream and you are part of humankind.
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What is your Universal Identity

This is where you go to.
The moment you see yourself as a human being on this blue planet,
you realize your universal identity.
This is literally your place in the cosmos.
We are a solar system.
We are within a galaxy amongst millions of other galaxies.
Even when you are busy dealing with the details of your daily life, a
part of you is still aware of this vaster reality.
A spark of pleasure in you impacts on your environment.
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How to stand between your past

and your future
Your mind is packed with memories.
Memories are minute mind patterns.
They are accumulated emotions which stay in your mind.
When you try to move into your future and connect with power and
happiness you need an extra energy to free yourself from past
patterns you no longer need.
The only way to do that is to use your renewal power.
You need to delete the negative patterns in you and recreate new
ones.
This happens naturally.
The way to do it is simple: connect with a new stream of energy inside

yourself.
There are two roles you can play:
• One is the victim.

• The other is the warrior and winner.
If you want to win, you need to connect with a new stream of

inspiration and wake up the warrior and winner in you.
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Part 2 – Powerful
strategies to shift
your mind set
You want to perform at your best.
You want you mind to be your ally and help you achieve whatever you
want in life.
Your mind is your tool. It is your vehicle.
In the next few pages, we will analyze exactly what to do to maximize

the full potential of your mind.
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Connect with positive streams

This is probably the most important strategy.
A thought is a mind object.
A thought is like a wave on the surface of your mind.
It is an event.
It is the visible part of the iceberg.
If you swim in a river, what matters is not the waves, it is the river
itself.
Where does it take you?
Why do you swim in it?
What is its temperature?
How does it impact on your life?
A river gives you a direction.
A river is a source of inspiration.
When you wake up in the morning and read a paper, the news
becomes a source of inspiration.
Choose your stream!
What are the sources of influence in your life right now?
You can choose!
Targeting the thought means only targeting the surface wave.
If you really want to have an impact on your mind, connect with

empowering sources of inspiration.
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This is why you sometimes buy an empowering book.
Now, the people around you are sources of inspiration.
Which ones are positive?
Which ones are negative?
This vast architecture of connections is the architecture of your

streams of inspiration.
To develop positive mind sets, you need to connect with empowering

sources of inspiration.
Do you realize that you are the architect of all that?
You choose for your daily and weekly activities.
You are the active creator of these connections.
You can choose what you connect to.
• The first step is to identify the sources which do empower you.
• The second step is to consciously organize these sources of

inspiration in your life, time frame and mind.
The books your read, the music your listen to, the people you connect
to, your community, your work, family, friends, inner growth and
spiritual life are all streams of inspiration.
Now, for your mind development, you need to connect with a stream
of inspiration which does empower you.
You want to connect with a system or a source of inspiration which

opens new doors in your life.
If you have a book in your hands, what matters most?
Is it the book itself or a single word you just read?
Find streams of inspiration you can connect and relate to.
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Positive thinking, empowerment, inner and spiritual growth are all

directions which help you use your mind in the best possible way.
Now, if you want to train your body, you go to the gym, right?
You connect with an environment whose aim is to empower your

physical body.
The same works for your mind.
If you want to empower your mind, you need to connect with inner
and outer sources of inspiration which support you or give you the
energy and mind sets to develop your mind.
The modern streams of mind power, self growth as well as spiritual

development directions are all systems which help you maximize the
potential of your mind.
On top of that, you do have inner sources of inspiration which do help

you take the right steps.
Trust your instinct and consciously choose your sources of inspiration.
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Wake up your mind power

Your mind is your greatest ally.
If you get the feeling that your mind works against you, it is the sign
that something is missing.
What is missing? It is power! Mind power!
Mind power is a natural resource of energy you have in you.
Mind power is the ability to be in charge of your life.
It is a space.
You own that space.
It is yours!
It was given to you at birth!
Your thoughts, emotions and beliefs happen within your mind.
They happen within your territory!
You are the person who has the greatest influence over what happens
in your mind.
You are in charge!
The moment you realize this, you already wake up your mind power.
You wake up to the realization that you do have resources of energy

inside yourself to protect and preserve your mind space.
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Protect your mind space

When you have negative thoughts, images or feelings popping up into
your mind, you can literally see it as an attack on your mind.
It is form of battle and you want to develop new skills to make sure
that you are the winner of this battle.
Your mind is yours!
You have the power to protect it.
Observe how it functions and do what it takes to protect your mind

space.
Suppose for instance that someone judges you in a negative way.
You can either let this judgment take root in your mind and let it grow
and expand, or you can reject this judgment, fight back and not let
anyone put you down.
The moment you react and fight back, you use your power.
You instantly realize that your self confidence is under attack and you
do something to tackle this threat.
In a day, you can have many situations where you let someone else’s
negative thoughts impact on you.
It can be an aggressive look you get from another driver. It can be a

word your partner tells you just before you take off.
If you recognize a negative attack on your mind, do something about it

straight away.
Identify the attack as an energy which puts you down and do

something about it straight away: respond to the person, consciously
drop it but reject the thought, stay alert, etc.
In other terms, you need to sometimes see your day as a battle in

which you need defend your inner territory.
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Energize your being

The way you feel in your body directly impacts on the way you feel in
your mind.
If your body is low on energy, you will naturally feel low in happiness
and satisfaction.
There are two main ways of influencing the way you feel in your body:
exercise and diet.
If you don’t move your body enough, you miss energy.
If you over eat or eat unhealthy, you will naturally lower your energy
level.
Don’t underestimate the impact this has on your mind.
A full stomach stops you from performing well or keeping a clear mind.
Modern lifestyles are challenging for the body. Sitting on a chair or

driving a car are not “natural” activities.
However, there are dozens of ways to maintain a high level of energy

in your body.
Make sure you give your body what it needs.
Your body and your mind are your greatest assets.
Respect them and give them what they need.
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Love, respect and positive outlook

on life
Love nurtures your life.
Now, love is giving and receiving.
When you give, you encourage the flow of it in your life.
It works both ways.
As long as it streams in your existence, you tend to stay more happy,

healthy and in harmony.
Love is about the way you relate to yourself and your environment.
Love is a quality you consciously invite in your existence.
How do you invite it?
Through action!
Watering a plant is something which sounds simple but it does have an

impact on your mind and personal environment.
It sends a clear message: “I care”.
Try saying “I love you” more often.
Love, respect and care are your ways of nurturing yourself and those
around you.
It builds up harmony and invites peace in your being.
You can express both love and power in your life.
These two qualities complement each other harmoniously.
Dare to take the step when you see an opportunity to express your
love, care or respect.
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Search for meaning

Your life is a mystery.
I mean, when you realize that you are a living entity somewhere on a
blue planet suspended in space in the Milky Way, you can drop
everything and search for answers.
You touch here on your spiritual identity.
Life beyond the limits of rationality.
Some form of spiritual connection or belief usually gives you an energy

base in life.
It gives you a mind set which answers some of these profound

questions.
A way to empower your mind is to invite some form of spiritual reality

in your life.
If you are religious, this might mean exploring deeper levels of your
spiritual life through prayer, meditation, rituals or other practices.
There are dozens of ways you can connect with your spiritual identity.
Many spiritual streams focus on the idea of happiness, inner peace and
even success and satisfaction.
This is truly a different topic.
I will need another e-book to fully cover that one.
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Get rid of what holds you back

What holds you back is in the past.
It can be anything: old memories, objects, negative experiences,

draining connections, etc.
If you want to move forward in your life, you need to create space!
If your mind and life are full, your future can’t open up.
Drop it!
Let go of what you no longer need!
Identify what drains you and make sure that you remove it from your
existence.
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Connect with your destiny

Your destiny is an intelligent entity.
It is not a fixed set of actions and events in your future.
It is more like a river you swim in.
Along the way, the details of your life travel are not yet fixed.
However, you do have a vision of where this takes you.
Goals, life vision and destiny are all aspects of your future.
This is your perspective.
This is what you look forward to.
Part of the energy of your mind is aimed at opening doors into your
future.
The moment you take a good decision or make the right choice, you
get this empowering feeling of inner freedom.
Connecting with your destiny is an art!
It is at the very core of positive thinking and positive mind sets.
If your line of action takes you in the wrong direction, you feel
systematically drained and unhappy. You know something is wrong!
The negative thoughts are simply a surface reflection of an

unattractive destiny line.
Don’t try to shift your thoughts!
Shift your destiny line instead!
This is the true empowering step.
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Positive mind sets and values

Values are your core beliefs.
They are the foundation blocs of your mind.
Love and respect are values.
Ambition and expression of your needs and wants are other values and
mind sets.
Some negative values and mind sets disempower you.
In fact they don’t solidify your mind. They make you vulnerable and
pessimistic about life.
See yourself as an architect!
You can choose right now positive mind sets and values.
What does it take to shift a mind set?
One to three months of focus!
You need to make it your priority number one!
Why is that?
Because your mind has been conditioned over a period of 10, 20 or 30

years.
A conditioning is a mind set.
It is the result of experiences.
When you want to shift your mind set, you need to repolarize and
recondition your mind to respond differently in given life situations.
This means that you need to repeat the right message to yourself until
your get it.
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You will see that your mind progressively adopts a new empowering
mind set.
It simply takes focus, time, repetition and will power to develop a new
mind set.
Will power is fire!
Will power is your desire to change and shift things around.
Your will power is your emotional fuel!
It is your ambition.
This is the number one quality you need to shift mind sets.
It is your driving force and what you will invest into your actions.
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Master your connection with

others
Relationships!
It can be your connection with your partner, friends, colleagues,

community or family.
A connection with another human being can be empowering.
The best way to empower your connections is to focus on synergy and

win-win always.
It is never about dominating or controlling someone else’s life.
Mastering your connection with others means mastering the way you
stand in it.
When you build harmonious relationships with others, you empower

your existence and manifest a fresh flow of life in your being.
Life responds to life!
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Stay awake and alert!

Your mind can be under attack any time.
Have a strategy for any situation.
Behave like a martial artist ready to defend your territory any time.
You will notice that the moment you have the tools, skills and weapons
to defend yourself, you feel secure and you perform at your best.
A day can be seen as a series of challenges.
The goal is to conquer!
You have a series of situations to master.
Stay awake and aware of what happens in such day.
Observe the flow of your thoughts and emotions and if you notice that
something wrong is happening, do something about it straight away.
Don’t let negative situations impact on you.
If you feel that something takes you down, take action and shift the
dynamics.
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What to do first when you are

trapped in a negative mind set
Find a new source of inspiration.
There is always an open door somewhere.
Find out what this door is.
Use your instinct.
A part of you always knows the best next move.
It is all about identifying a possible next step.
Your instincts are one of your top mind power weapons.
Once you see an open door, you need to take action and walk through
it.
To take action you need to trust yourself and use your will power and
determination.
Don’t let anything or anyone stop you from taking action when you
feel it is right.
Another excellent way to shift a negative mind set is to shift gear or

activity.
Speed is another key weapon in your mind.
You need to respond to opportunities and open doors when you see
one.
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How to influence your thoughts

Again, a thought is simply a surface wave.
The best way to influence your thoughts is to connect with the right
source of inspiration in you.
Instead of focusing on the details of your thoughts, focus on the larger

picture.
Come to the details once your larger life stream is set up.
If you feel that you can’t connect with a positive stream of thoughts, it
is time to go and look beyond the limits of what you already know.
Connect with a new spiritual or personal development stream.
Open a new door in your being and consciousness.
Obviously, if the solution was present within the limits of your comfort
zone, you would be expressing already the full dimension of your life.
If something is missing, start searching for it and step beyond what

you already know.
You will need to open new doors and invite new streams of inspiration
in your life.
Once you connect with a new stream of inspiration, the shift does not
happen overnight.
It does not go from left to right in one day.
A stream of inspiration is a stream of renewal.
You feel it having a progressive impact on your mind over a period of

time.
Give yourself 1 to 3 months to see the results.
Stay focused on your target and be consistent with your action.
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Tackle the real challenge

If you feel dissatisfied with your love life, do something about it.
If you are unhappy with your body, sign in to the gym.
If you don’t like your job, make a career shift.
All these examples show you one thing:
Very often your negative thoughts or feeling of dissatisfaction are not

the problem, they are the symptoms; they are the warning signs which
tell you that something is not quite right.
The moment you take action and do something about the real issue or
challenge you face, you realize that life starts flowing again.
Action invites life force into your being.
It energizes you, opens new channels of expression in your being and

basically takes you from where you are to where you want to be.
Hiding yourself behind doubts, fears and hesitations does not work.
In these situations, your negative thoughts are an inner call!
Your life is calling!
The only way to break the negative pattern is to take action and do
something about the real challenge.
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Part 3 – Negative
thoughts? – Why?
Simply trying to suppress negative thoughts is usually not very useful.
Why is that?
Because your mind is trying to tell you something.
A negative thought is often a warning sign.
It is an inner call!
It tells you that something is not quite right.
In the next few pages, you will discover exactly what is the nature of
“this negative thinking call” and how to use it to empower your mind.
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What is negative thinking?

Negative thinking are endless loops of thoughts which keep on going in
circles in your mind.
These loops are usually self destructive. They generate negativism for
yourself and for others.
They are more than thoughts. They have whole sets of emotions and
feelings associated with them as well.
They can be the result of negative past experiences or simply related

with lack of trust in yourself.
Negative thinking can destroy your life. It puts you down, creates
endless doubts and hesitations in your mind.
It is a cycle of energy which drains you on the long term.
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Negative thinking as positive force

Okay,
What I am about to say might surprise you:
Negative thinking can be seen as a positive force.
You believe that because you are trapped in self limiting thinking loops
there is something wrong with you?
There isn’t!
Your mind is fine and perfectly functional.
In fact, negative thinking is the sign that you are perfectly healthy.
Negative thinking is not a bad thing!
It is your best shot at defending your life territory.
Your mind is bombarded by millions of impressions daily.
These impressions come from within you or from your environment,

the people you talk to, the place you live in, your memories, past
impressions, conditionings, etc.
Negative thinking is the emotional response which matches all these

impressions.
It is like the summary blue print of what is going on in your mind.
Negative thinking is a mind set. A mind set is an inner architecture.
The reason you create mind sets is to protect your mind space.
A thought, whether positive or negative is always an expression of

your power of thinking.
Negative thinking is not bad in itself.
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It is a battle strategy. It is a fighting tool.
Sometimes, these thoughts burn you or seem to be trapped in your

mind without finding a way of expression.
This is the moment negative thinking turns against you. It becomes

alienating.
When you are consumed by negative thinking, you are not truly
master of your mind any more.
What you want at that moment is an extra power kick which gives you
the possibility to decide what you want to have in your mind.
To summarize, here are the key ideas:
There is nothing wrong with you. Negative thinking is okay as long as

you choose for it.
Negative thinking is a weapon. Anyone uses it. The moment it hurts

you is the moment this weapon turns against you.
Protect your territory. Your territory is your life and your mind. It is
okay to do whatever it takes to stay master of your life. Negative
thoughts play a role in this. They are aggressive and protective moves
to defend your mind territory.
Wake up your fighting power. You want to master your fighting skills.
This is the real challenge. Have fighting skills which are effective at
helping you reach your goals.
Express! Don’t suppress. If you feel negative thoughts about

something or someone, dare to express it. Don’t suppress. Look at
these emotions straight in the eye. Negative thinking is fighting fire.
This is what is behind it. It wakes up because there is competition. Life
is full of it. If you suppress it, you loose your power. Don’t suppress.
Dare to express. It is a direct reflection of your inner power and
emotions.
Your taming power. This is the quality your need to deal with a
negative emotional response you no longer want.
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As you can see, there is nothing wrong with you. All you need is an
extra “taming” quality which gives you the power to direct your
thoughts more effectively.
The force behind negative thinking is a positive force. It is the same

force which can help you reach goals and conquer whatever you want
in life.
It is like fire, though. All you need is this extra power kick which helps
you master this natural inner resource of power.
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The "positive power" behind

negative thinking
Imagine yourself having a fiery political debate with an opponent. You
will generate thoughts and beliefs which can be sometimes aggressive
towards your opponent.
If you tell your opponent something like “You will never succeed!”, this
is a negative thought, right?
In the context of a verbal fight, you use this thought in a positive way:
you want to win.
There is competition. There is a battle for power. This thought does

not hurt you. It attacks your opponent. In fact, this thought is a
weapon.
Now, imagine what happens with negative thinking loops in your mind:
You take the same negative thought (“You will never succeed”) and
you project it on yourself. This thought is the same as before. It is
identical. It is the same "weapon". It is simply used in a different way.
You become a victim of this thought.
Why does this happen?
Why do negative thinking patterns arise in your mind and "self attack"
your own being?
It happens because of a very simple reason: your mind creates it.
It creates it in the same way as it creates another type of self

destructive behavior.
It creates an addiction.
You know that these negative thinking loops are self destructive, still
your mind keep generating them.
Why? Because a part of you enjoys it!
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I know this can sound crazy but a part of you actually enjoys creating
these negative loops.
Why? Because when you create this loop, you use your fighting power.
Creating negative thought patterns is your way of expressing your

power and free will.
How does it work? Suppose you are with a group of friends and
everyone is quite optimistic about the coming evening. A party is
about to start in a few hours and everyone gets ready. You jump in
there and say something like:
“You know what? These parties never work. Every time it is the same
story, the same old boring people! I don’t even know why we bother
trying…”
Now, there is a battle of energies. This battle is between positivism

and negativism.
You carry the flag of negativism. You generate fight, conflict and by
doing so, you express one of you most basic powers: The need to
conquer, the need to fight and win.
Your cause is: “It’s not going to work!”
It might look like a negative cause but behind this cause, there is only
one thing: a challenge, a desire to fight, an instinctual impulsion.
Can you see how it works?
You pick up a cause and simply defend it.
Now, if someone comes to you and says: “Why don’t you drop it?”
you’ll realize that a part of your does not want to let go of your
negative thought.
Why is that?
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Because this negative thought gives you power. This is not about
positivism or negativism. It is about how much power you have
compared with others.
A story is going on in your mind:
If you drop your negative thoughts, you end up in a no man’s land. It

is like loosing your identity.
Why? Because negativism has become your mind set. It is your inner
architecture and you got familiar with this inner mindscape.
You know how to relate to these thoughts.
A thought form is an “elemental form”. It is actually an intelligent

entity.
Suppose you have a dog. This dog is aggressive and keeps barking at
everyone you meet on the street.
You might think something like: “Well, this dog is not perfect, but it is
my dog”
If you give it away, you’ll end up with nothing.
This dog is a Doberman.
You could shift and get a gentle sweet puppy but somehow, you are
used to your Doberman.
Somehow it gives you power to have it. It defends your house. It

defends your territory.
The negative side of it is that because of this Doberman, people stop

talking to you. Police came few times to your house because the dog
was barking endlessly at night.
In other terms, your dog creates some trouble but gives you power.
Negative thinking can happen in the same way: negative thoughts give
you power.
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Being aggressive or negative is your way of challenging your

environment. It is a role you play.
If you go back to this “party” example, something in you might not

care at all about the party being nice or not: your real goal is to
challenge your friend’s optimism.
In fact you tease them with your negative mind set.
It is a battle between two energies: Optimism against negativism.
Why do you carry the flag of negativism?
Because this is what you are used to do. You know how to do it. When
you pick up the “energy” of it, this gives you a sense of control over
the event.
That’s your input. That’s your role. It is an identity.
You get something from it: The power to mess it up.
I know it can sound funny but this is the underlying power dynamic.
It justifies your negative thinking.
The downside of it?
Once you finish attacking the party’s positive mind set, you’ll still end
up with the negative thought form strengthened in your mind.
Suppose you go back home. You generated a mind set which needs to
keep on "feeding" itself.
This will turn into a self destructive loop and keep you trapped within a
negative mind set.
That’s unless you know how to drop it and truly master your negative
thoughts.
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Why it happens
Negative thinking is a natural defense mechanism.
It happens because your mind is under attack. You feel threatened or

under the pressure to perform and your mind responds by creating
these negative thoughts.
When you have negative thoughts rising in your mind, it is actually a

positive impulsion.
Your mind simply tries to survive.
Imagine, it is like being in the water and struggling to swim.
Any thought is a mind frame.
It is a mind set.
A mind set is an inner architecture which sustains your mind.
Can you see that?
A thought is a mind frame.
It is a pillar of life force which sustains and channels energy in you.
When you create a negative thought, you are still using your power.
This negative thought is your best shot at expressing your energy.
You struggle to keep on creating and this negative thought is what

arises.
Nature creates it. Your mind creates it. It is sponsored by your inner
survival drive.
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Why it hurts you

A negative thought hurts you because it burns you.
There is a conflict of energies.
There is a struggle for your energy to break through.
It is because of this break through that you feel burned.
Imagine, it is like trying to express yourself within a constricted space.
Your mind does not get enough power.
You feel under pressure.
This burning fire trying to break through is your own will power.
You have desires and ambitions.
You want to express them and struggle to break through.
You want to succeed.
You have expectations.
Negative thinking is your instinctual response to this battle of energies.
It is an expression of a fire trying to create space in your mind.
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Solving your real challenge

How to break though a negative thinking cycle.
A negative thinking cycle is very tricky to overcome unless you have a

solid strategy to deal with it.
• Step 1 : You need to understand exactly why and how negative

thinking works.
• Step 2 : You need a strategy and the power to take action and
break through this cycle.
The main challenge when dealing with a negative thinking loop is that
it happens in your mind.
The only tool you usually have to deal with it is an incomplete

emotional reaction.
You feel guilty about your negative thoughts.
You build up resentment and keep on reproducing the same

destructive pattern over and over again.
After that, you usually wait for the negative thoughts to go away and
hope that they will be replaced by better and more harmonious
emotions or thoughts.
Most strategies out there tell you to focus on positive thinking instead
of letting negative loops drain you.
You will try to reject negative thoughts by forcing yourself into a

positive mind set.
This is a valuable strategy.
However, there is a limitation with it:
What happens with the negative loop?
Where does it go?
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When you try to suppress negative thinking by overpowering it with

your will power, you try to control a volcano in you.
If the main force you use is control, suppression or discipline, you

might achieve good results.
You still need an extra source of will power and determination to do

this.
You usually miss that power.
Why is that?
Because your emotional resources are already engaged in creating the

negative thinking loop.
This is where your emotional energy goes to.
You are using your emotional resources to actually generate these

negative thoughts.
Emotional fuel is the energy behind negative thinking.
You want to use this energy! Not suppress it! You want to go with the
flow of your emotions rather than against them!
Your instincts are powerful! They generate the negative loops. A part
of you creates them.
If you want to succeed with breaking through heavy forms of negative

thinking, you want to work with the forces of your own nature rather
than against them.
This is fundamentally different.
It is a revolution in your mind set!
You use the existing power behind your negative thinking rather than
trying to suppress or delete it.
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In fact, you use exactly the same energy you use for negative thinking
but channel it in a different way in your mind.
I say it again:
You don't suppress, or try to block your "negative" thoughts.
You channel their energy within a new mind set.
You need and want the energy behind negative thinking.
If you suppress, you create a loose-loose situation where you are

required to put up lots of energy to block negative thoughts.
What I say is different: Let them flow.
Even further: dare to express them.
From the core of this fire or frustration, realize that your negative
thoughts are actually your way of reacting to something which is
hurting you.
When you create a negative thought, you use your fighting power.
When you transmute negative thinking, you still use your power of
thinking.
So, don't try to suppress or block.
Instead, ad a quality to your mind which will give a new direction and
vision to your fighting power.
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Part 4 – Power
dynamics
In the first part of this e-book, we will analyze various aspects of the
way power works and affects your life.
I will already give you many hints on where to start if you want to
increase your level of personal power.
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How to strengthen your emotional

foundation
In most cases of negative thinking and negative emotional patterns,
what is missing is a stronger emotional foundation.
Imagine your mind as an inner architecture of thought forms,

education, habits, instinctual reactions, etc.
Imagine now that it is this mind architecture which protects your mind
space.
Your life connections and the support you get from your environment
are as well strengthening elements.
When you have a negative emotion invading your mind space, it

simply means that you miss the power to defend your inner territory.
If you want to stop negative thinking and negative emotions, all you
need to do is to bring in a new power quality in your mind. This new
power quality will naturally strengthen your emotional base, give you
security and simply protect your mind.
With certain negative emotions, like doubts and fears, this increase of
power is combined with an increase of awareness. You identify why the
doubt is there in the first place: is it a real "warning" doubt or is it
simply an irrational useless instinctual reaction.
These are very powerful techniques. The reason why you have never
tapped into these resources naturally by yourself is simply because
society and normal education does not always put you in touch with
these resources.
This strengthening of your emotional foundation is related with your

instincts. For instance your survival instinct contains in itself a very
empowering emotional base. This means that if you are confronted to
survival in nature for instance, these powers naturally wake up.
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There are of course other ways to wake up these natural inner

resources, for instance any form of martial art training like aikido,
karate or kung fu trains your emotional foundation and naturally
wakes up your power.
When you find yourself in situations which are emotionally challenging,

you might feel a gap on that level. You might feel a gap as well when
you see yourself trapped in negative thinking patterns.
A negative thinking pattern related with irritation for instance is simply

an inability to get what you want. You can as well feel touched by a
negative emotion you can't truly identify. These types of emotions can
be correlated with an invasion of your mind space, the incapacity to
protect yourself and to use your power effectively.
If you spend an afternoon in a city, you are bombarded by thousands

of psychic impressions. These impressions can anchor themselves in
the core of your being or they can bounce on the surface of your mind.
The difference between those who enjoy a city and those who don't is
simply a difference in this level of inner power.
If you have the skills, you have a good time. On the other hand if you
feel permanently threatened by the judgment of others or simply feel
insecure, you'll have a terrible time and feel drained after a couple of
hours.
When you wake up your power, you wake up your natural ability to
protect yourself.
Your emotional foundation represents this inner architecture which

sustains your emotional body.
There are some simple steps to wake up this inner power. This is what
we do in a coaching session. It is a form of initiation, an awakening of
an inner potential which is already in you.
If you eat a peace of fruit, your respond to a natural instinct. You are
hungry and you eat.
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Now, if you feel threatened and want more power, what would you do?
where would you start? Is there a fountain of fresh power you can
wake up and simply drink from naturally? Yes there is.
All you need is to wake up this stream and know how to tap into it at
will. It's easy and it takes you only a few minutes to get initiated into
it. By phone or in person. Both work perfectly.
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Power kick
Sometimes, all you need is this extra power kick. It's a formless
energy. You can feel exactly when you need it. It's like an adrenalin
rush.
Coaching sessions are targeted to give you such a kick. It is about

getting the right support at the right time and adding a very special
and simple energy to your mind.
This energy comes from you. From within. In fact you already own all
the tools to fully empower your life. You simply might not know exactly
how to access it or where to look.
My role is to help you with that. I give you all the space and time you
need. What you get with coaching is a safe and respectful environment
where you can develop new abilities and tap fully into your inner
natural powers.
In that space you can trust, relax and simply take steps in your own
time. There is no rush. It is a simple and natural opening of your inner
potentials.
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What is your emotional

foundation?
Emotional foundation?
Have you heard that term before?
It is your core system of energies, your beliefs, what you have in

the middle of your mind and gives you an inner structure, an energy
base.
Part of this emotional foundation is formless. It can be your connection

with nature for instance.
It can be a connection with a property or a land. It can be a connection

with a person. It can be a diploma, a community.
Another aspect of your emotional foundation are your thoughts,

beliefs, ideas, thinking patterns, etc.
As you can see, many element can play a role, strengthen and
empower your emotional body.
Intuitively you can perceive what is behind that term.
You might realize as well that sometimes you feel emotionally very
sensitive or vulnerable.
Sometimes, you simply feel great, powerful, in harmony, balanced and

free.
What state do you prefer?
What are the key elements which create your emotional foundation?
A strong emotional foundation is of course more conductive to

happiness.
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The key question is: what can you do about it?

Suppose you feel too vulnerable, what can you do about it?
Do you feel that sometimes your thoughts and emotions are

sabotaging your chances of success?
Is a negative past experience keeping you from fully enjoying life?
Is your mind super conductive or is it slowed down by irrational fears

and invisible doubts?
Again what can be done about it? The solutions or techniques are
endless: Therapies and healing techniques, spiritual directions, mind
power, NLP, positive psychology, mind machines, yoga, personal
development, self growth, coaching... Did I forget anyone?
There is lots! In fact, it's simply overwhelming! It's a bit

like sitting at travel's agent's and having to decide on the spot for the
right destination.
In my opinion, everything works to a certain extent. Every one of

these techniques or approaches has something to offer which can
empower your emotional foundation.
Hang on a second... Empowering your emotional foundation is not

about stopping to cry or stepping out of depression. These are
"extreme cases" in a sense. Emotional foundation concerns anyone.
It's simply the art of establishing key and empowering forces
and frames in the core of your mind.
The truth is that your "mind vehicle" probably functions okay. It's
often only when you come in a situation of crisis that you decide to do
something about it. Crisis situations are often the moment you decide
to find out more about your mind and the way it functions.
Part of the goal of coaching is to empower your emotional

foundation and give you back strength and tools to simply have
greater life satisfaction.
The strengthening of your emotional foundation is a build up work

which is done consciously, identifying gaps and positive points.
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Imagine yourself going to the gym. What you do is building up your

fluidity, energizing your body and sometimes building up muscle and
power as well.
Where do you train your mind? Where do you train and empower your
emotional foundation?
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Find your power

Some years ago, I was in a situation where almost everything was
gone: job, friends, money, house, car. I ended up with nothing! I went
to live in nature for 6 months. I stayed in forests and simply tried to
find in me resources to go on.
After a couple of months, something started waking up in me: some

form of survival instinct. It's something we all have but somehow I
never felt it before.
I realized that even though everything was gone, there was something
in me which did not die or disappear. I would call this my life power.
I started "rebuilding" my mind and life around this new base. This was
almost 10 years ago and it is still my "energy" base today.
That's the base from which I coach. It's a very specific core of energy
which gives me trust and power in life.
It's so precious that I can't understand how I spend most of my life not
knowing about this resource of energy inside myself.
My role as your coach is to help you get in touch with this source of
natural power. It's a source of power you could find anytime which
gives you a stronger mind foundation.
After some years of coaching and developing ways of tapping into that,
I realized that there are actually very simple ways to wake up this
natural power.
It is in fact like getting in touch with something very basic in your

being. The moment it wakes up, you definitely feel the difference. It
gives you trust, confidence and the way you relate to others
fundamentally shifts.
It is a connection with a very basic source of inner energy.
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It is always in you but it simply gets covered by layers of education

and conditioning. The modern life style tends as well to limit the
expression of this natural stream of power.
This power gives you the ability to protect your personal space. It
strengthens your will power, energy level and life force.
It gives you as well this extra energy kick to breakthrough whatever is

limiting you.
At this stage, the only way I help you connect with your inner natural
power is within a coaching session.
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How to build up conquering power
1 Emotional fuel
This is the starting point. It is ambition and desire. It is the original

driving force connected with our instinctual nature
2 Valuable targets
It must be worth it and make a difference. Conquering power is a

universal force and it manifests itself when there is something to win
3 Build up techniques
Some attitudes, behaviors or practices slow you down. Other practices

stimulate your inner fire and help you build up a valuable reserve of
inner power.
4 Go with the flow
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Go with the flow. Be wise. If you hit a wall, figure out what it is. Is it
something you must breakthrough or is it a sign that you should
reorient your targets or strategies? Listen to the signs and learn from
it.
5 Prioritize
Conflicting interests can keep you from reaching your target. These
conflicting interests can be in you or can be related with your
surroundings, friends, profession, family, etc. If you want to hit the
target, you must decide what is priority number 1. You must as well be
able to recognize side tracks and possible distractions.
6 Structures versus free energy
Your conquering power can be multiplied if you use the right tools.
Deciding to face challenges with bare hands and no resources is very
honorable and thrilling. Realize however that you are in a highly
competitive environment. Building environments to support your goals
could be your key to success.
7 Focus
Some goals are reached overnight. For the targets which require more
attention, the key to succeed is to follow up. 1 step might not be
enough. There is more.
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11 steps to find your conquering

power
• Assume a leadership position
Act in the name of a larger reality. If thousands of people were

doing what you do, what would be the impact on your local
community, your country, the planet or humankind?
• See life as a battle
When you think battle, winning, you straight away shift your
mind from your daily mood to a high energy mood.
• Focus on win-win
You don't want to annihilate resistance, you want to join forces

whenever possible. Conquering can be diplomatic, no need to be
destructive.
• Build up trust
Every action has an impact on your environment. Be true to

yourself and those who believe in you. Be authentic.
• Gather your weapons
These are the tools you need to have an impact. It can be life
skills, for instance communication skills. It can be key habit
patterns, like healthy eating. It can as well be real tools like a
lap top or the latest cell phone.
• Join forces
Recognize those who are on the same stream and join forces
with them. Create strategic alliances. Get support and offer
support in return. This is the power of uniting people in the
name of a common cause.
• Challenge yourself!
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Systematically stepping beyond your comfort limits gives you a

kick of power and energy. It stimulates your survival instinct and
connects you with the forces of nature. You can do that with
challenging sports or immersing yourself in challenging nature
environments.
• Train yourself!
Make sure that the skills you need are effective and updated!
You must feel on top and ahead in many ways. This gives you as
well the competitive edge!
• Use your mind!
Make sure that your mind is your greatest ally. Replace self
defeating beliefs by self empowering ones. Be superconductive
to life. Empower your mind.
• Be awake! Be aware!
Listen to signs. Use your instinct and intuition. Synchronize your

actions. Be aware of perfect timing. Develop a sense of
peripheral vision and total awareness. Balance determination
with flow, wisdom and opportunities.
• Keep in mind the larger picture
No matter how good you perform, 99% of what you created on

the physical level will be gone within 100 years. What remains is
a memory of a behavior or energy pattern which you embedded
when you were alive. It is the sum of all the actions, thoughts
and emotions you performed over your whole life time.
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What is the challenge?

Here is a simple truth: when you use your conquering power, the
environment will react. People might try to stop you.
Why? Because there is competition.
When you set up yourself on a conquering course, your life shifts

because you are using your own will power. You transform yourself
and your environment.
Here is another truth: a part of your environment does not want

change. Your environment is sustained by what we call preserving
power or conservative power. It is a positive force which simply
maintains structures, in your life and in your mind.
The preserving force is what you challenge every time you use your
conquering power. Conquering means opening doors. It means
challenging people and making them readapt to a new "you" or a new
behavior.
This goes for big steps and as well for small steps.
The reason you sometimes don't breakthrough is because of these

"freezing" forces in and around you. They are the resistance.
To breakthrough, your conquering power has to be stronger than the

resistance.
Suppose you want to go for a career shift and start your own business.
This will impact on the company you are presently working for, your
family, friends and environment. It will as well create competition with
those who already are active in that field.
In other terms, when you take the decision to start your own business,
this will impact on maybe hundreds of lives. "Impact" means that
everyone has to slightly reshape their world because of your move.
Your present boss will have to find new staff, your family might need
to move, etc.
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This is why conservative forces test you. They are the underlying
power sustaining society. These forces are saying: "Are you for real?
Do you truly mean to start your own business or is this only a pipe
dream?". This is why they put you to the test.
You see, change takes energy. It stresses your environment by

asking it to readapt to a new equilibrium.
We live in a very subtle balance of forces. Preserving forces are like

a form of gravity. They keep society together and stop it from
splitting in all directions in incoherent ways.
So, what can you do to take action? Simple: build up your conquering
power.
If your conquering power is too weak, things won't move. Your boss,
family, company, city will freeze your moves before you even start.
What you do is build up momentum. Gather information, get ideas,

design a business plan, gather funds and sources of financing. All
these steps are telling your mind: "Change is coming. Something new
is happening"
Once your mind is ready, you start telling others who will hopefully
join and support you with your plans.
This moment of opening is the key. This is when things can shift into
change or get frozen by resistance.
To be able to breakthrough, you must understand what forces are

involved and why they exist in the first place. They are simply part of
nature (like gravity!), they are part of the human mind .
To overcome gravity, you concentrate your efforts and will power. You
gather knowledge, know how, and build a space shuttle able to
breakthrough resistance. That's one option.
Seagulls on the seashore found another way to stay in the air. They
master another force of nature, the wind blowing on the sand dunes,
and use that force to fly forever.
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Conquering power works in a similar way. We were born with it. It is

part of our mind, our inner engine. We used this force to survive in
primal times.
It is still in us today, organized, transformed, transmuted. It is this

same original instinct translated in modern time: stock markets, trade,
selling propositions. Today's economy is a reflection of the same
original conquering power. It is related with the desire to create,
the desire to earn more, the desire to conquer a new holiday get away
on a Pacific Island, etc.
Some years ago, I saw a fascinating program: the crocodile Hunter.

You are maybe familiar with it. This guy would catch a 3 meters long
crocodile on his net and then try to keep it immobile. As he was laying
on this massive powerful beast, he uttered: "She is building up! What
a beauty!"
Building up! Building up energy to overcome resistance. Then she (the

crocodile) exploded into this massive burst of energy giving the
crocodile hunter a solid first class Aussie rodeo.
Conquering power! That's what this female crocodile was building up.
Nature invented many strategies to breakthrough preserving forces.

There is a way as long as you collaborate with the forces of
nature. It's a matter of mastering your own resources and
understanding the underlying dynamics.
Now here are the good news: at least some aspect of your
environment wants to change. This is what we call the renewal
forces. Transformation. Change. These are part of nature as much as
the preserving forces. Look at the cycle of the planets around the sun.
This movement creates the cycle of the seasons which is the force
behind birth and renewal in nature. Organic growth is a permanent
changing process.
Then, you have the creative force. The creative power. 99.9% of
civilization and today's society was inexistent 2'000 years ago! Where
did it all come from? How did it rise? It wasn't the will of one single
man. It's not even a creative process humankind controls. Cities
simply rise. What we are doing as humans is responding to instincts.
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First you decide to put a roof on your head, then you go and get some
food. The rest is history.
Check an orangutan under a tropical shower. It takes big leaves from

the palms around it and puts them over his head. It's a reflex. Rain is
cold! It is uncomfortable. That's how everything started: protecting
ourselves from elemental forces.
A city is a simple expansion of the same original instinct. This is

creative power.
From a leaf on our head to a community of 12'000'000 people!
Now, the frames within the sky scrapers could be called the
conservative forces (nothing to do with a political party!). They are the
sustaining power.
The creative and conquering forces are there as well. Conquering more
space. Expanding technology. In Vitro Fertilization (!!!). It all comes
from a creative drive which moves civilization forward.
If you want more conquering power, simply connect a little bit more
with that part of nature which want to evolve and create. Use this
force in a creative and wise way. Conquering power is strong in and
around you. The only reason you would not breakthrough is because
the preserving forces are too strong for a reason or another.
In another article, we'll look at it from a very human and practical

point of view.
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Wake up your personal power

Have you ever felt like you are using only a small fraction of your
personal power?
Have you ever felt like there is much more potential than the one you
are using right now?
What is that potential? Is it magic powers? Is it new skills and

abilities? Is it a new life, belongings, money? Is it a new network,
friends, family connections?
All these are fine but there is another one. Something deeper and
direct you might not think off. This potential is an inner strength, and
inner power which is waiting to come out and be manifested.
What is it waiting for? Very simple: a sign from you.
You might not realize that, but you are sitting right now on a dormant
gold mine which is ready to boost your life, energy, career, and
whatever you can think of.
This force is an inner power. It is in the very core of your life simply
waiting to come out.
You were born with a powerful gift: the seed for a physical body, your
mind, a channel of life force.
Now, something strange happened in your childhood though: it's called

conditioning. It came through education, family, friends. It's not a bad
thing. It's simply needed to shape your life in a way which fits society:
good manners, speech, skills, etc.
All these integrated forms create a very special set of structures in

your life. This is your vehicle. It is your mind, a set of belief system,
habits, actions, behaviors, attitudes, emotional reactions. All these are
forms: mind patterns.
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Again, they are positive ones. This shaping of your mind. This
character building is what created your mind as you see it today.
Millions of life experiences, feelings and emotions.
Every single time you laughed in the past, there is a stream of life
force which crossed your mind. It created a channel of energy. It
created a frame which is still present in your mind today.
Imagine how many times you laughed in your life. Imagine how many
times you felt a giggle bursting in you. If you had the ability to do it,
you could recall hundreds of those moments.
The same goes for any emotion. The same goes for any thought. The
same goes for any action and any spoken word.
Now take a second to step back and compare your mind today with
your mind the way it was the day you were born. What do you see?
Do you recognize this virgin mind you had when you were a child? No
thoughts yet, only some instincts and emotions. Your character was
not yet built. There were no memories apart from what you felt in the
womb.
Many years later, there are layers of experiences and literally millions
of micro memories imprinted in your mind.
So, what is this power you are not using? You could call it your original
instinctual force. It is a clear channel of energy which activates your
mind and life.
Do you feel sometimes like you are carrying the world on your
shoulders? Do you feel sometimes these hundreds of life anchors
which stop you from moving forward? What are these anchors? They
are undigested memories, undigested emotions which haven't been
cleared.
Your mind is a powerful tool. Now, sometimes it needs a little help to

breakthrough and take the next step.
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Imagine for a second a powerful force which has the ability to give you
this extra power you need to move forward and activate the skills you
need.
Imagine again that this force is there, waiting for a signal from you.
It's simply waiting to be activated.
The question is: "How do you tap into this inner potential?", "How do
you wake up this inner natural resource which is waiting to come out?"
The answer is simple: by connecting with it!
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You are the master of your mind

There is a mystery in us called emotional freedom.
Most experiences leave a “mark” on our mind.
This mark can be deep and visible or invisible.
Your present limits are simply a series of mind frames that you
accept as your present limits.
Now, to breakthrough your present limits, you need a force strong

enough to break the existing patterns and open new doors.
This is what a meeting with someone special sometimes does for you.
A simple conversation about your goals with someone who is open
minded can have an amazing impact on your life.
It is like opening a new door in your mind landscape.
A mind frame can be a limitation or a protection depending on the

moment or how you look at it. Mind frames are structures which support
your mind.
A mind frame is like a roof above your head. It protects you from the
rain but stops you as well from seeing the stars at night.
The ideal: have flexible mind frames. When the sun

shines, you simply open the doors of your mind and take in the
warmth and the light.
When destructive winds are blowing, you are able to shut down those
doors and simply feel 100% safe.
It’s all about mastering your mind
This type of intelligence is priceless. Instead of riding a vehicle you

can’t control, decide to actually own all your tools.
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This ability to play with limits and boundaries, to be flexible and

aware, has a lot to do with emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence could be described as the ability to
shift mind patterns at will and recreate new ones when
needed.
A new mind pattern can be an open channel of creativity. It can be this

flow of inspiration which takes over your life and floods you with bliss.
When you build a new house, you can see the scaffolds. You can see
the walls rising, the windows being set up, etc. It is visible.
With your mind, it’s another story. Mind frames are invisible. A
positive emotion is not visible for the external eye. You might feel
someone else’s joy because of its external expression in the form of
speech and body language. You’ll see a smile on the face. You’ll hear it
in the tone of voice.
These signs are the visible part of the iceberg. Behind the surface,
there is a sea of emotions and thoughts.
If you could have a real blueprint of your mind frames, it would be

easy to actually find where joy or pain is created.
You could simply go there and replace an old, undigested emotion by a

new stream of life force.
So here is the challenge: awareness. To know where to start

with mastering your mind, you must first have a picture of your mind.
You need to wake up your awareness and explore the way you
function and are built.
This first step will give you this blueprint of a region of your mind. You
might be looking at your emotions, thoughts, feelings or desires.
You might be looking at the present, past or future.
The mind is multidimensional.
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There is a dimension of time in it.
There is as well a dimension of space in it. It can be a certain region of

your emotions for instance. The region associated with the way you
handle your professional life or your spiritual connection for instance.
Then there is another dimension: the type of mind frame we look at.
This could the materials. Is it an emotion or is it a thought? Is it a
feeling? Is it a formless inspiration? Is it a desire?
All these mind frames are like different materials composing your
mind.
You see, you miss something here: A map of your mind.
We have glimpses, perceptions, vague ideas or beliefs, but if right

now, I say: ”Where is your soul located? Where are you past thoughts
stored? What is the relationship between a thought and the emotion
associated with that thought?” we probably have no clear answers to
these questions, only glimpses and intuitive beliefs.
The mind might be such a complex vehicle that we still did not find a
way of “mapping” it successfully using a truly suitable model.
The three dimensional design of a house is easy to comprehend. Same

for a country’s road map.
If you take a time planner or agenda, what you see is a time frame
with various activities. Again, this is easy to comprehend. Now, the
mind might be so complex that at this stage, any attempt to
comprehend it with our logical skills will be too simplistic and miss the
point.
So, we use simple models. We write a diary of the day’s events and
feelings, We might as well take it one step further and engage into a
psychotherapy. A session with a hypnotherapist might unlock some
keys in the past or open new doors into the future.
These are still simple glimpses.
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Now, what would you do if you had more awareness and more power
to actually change things in your mind? Imagine for a second that you
can easily see where there is friction or energy wasted in your mind.
Imagine that you can actually do something about it and remove a
painful emotion or set up a new activity channel which will multiply
your sense of joy and pleasure.
Would you take that chance? Would you go with it and attempt to
understand your mind?
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Master your nature link

Nature is an essential part of your life. That's where you have your
real roots. That's where your body and part of your mind comes from.
When you go in nature, spend some time on a beach or in a forest,

you connect with that part of yourself.
Layers of thoughts and habits can stop you from seeing deep enough
and connecting with what is truly there: your instinctual nature.
You can't forget about this aspect of your life. In fact the life force in
your body is a reflection of the life force in nature. A tree contains the
same life force essence as a human being. On an energy or etheric
level, life flows in the same way in the whole of nature. It is basically
the same mechanism.
The moment you feel life disharmony, the best is to go back in nature
and let nature's harmony reflect on your being. This naturally
creates a frictionless flow of life force which harmonizes your being.
This flow of life force is the essence of wellness.
A sickness can be seen as a disharmony in the flow of this life force.
Nature impacts on all levels of your personality and spirit. It impacts

on your body and your mind.
Our mind is always using nature as an example for its own

evolution. Nature is our original model. If you cut yourself from
nature, you simply cut yourself from a precious source of inspiration.
Have you heard about bionics? Bionics is the development of new

technologies using nature's models. For instance engineers try to
imitate spider web when creating ultra resistant rope. That's bionics.
If we go beyond the physical body and technology, we enter into a

field we could call "mind bionics".
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Mind bionics is the art of using nature as a source of inspiration

for developing your mind. It simply means connecting with your
instinctual nature.
Nature is one of your key environments.
Would you feel comfortable when spending a week outdoor in nature

by yourself. What would you do? How would you relate to this
environment?
This is not a form of survival test. It's more than an experiment.
A house is a protective structure which simply stops elemental forces

from impacting on your being. Imagine you remove the protection of a
home and simply confront your being with the elemental forces of
nature. You might have experienced a couple of nights outdoor. How
did your feel?
What happens when you spend time in nature is very special and very
magical. You tap into new (or ancient) instinctual abilities and simply
create a new equilibrium with this environment.
You can take different "roles" when you go in nature:
• Personal development, team building - a week-end training with

your company
• Vitality, relaxation, free time - a relaxing holiday on a tropical

beach
• Scientific approach - Biology, Geology, bird watching
• Artistic expression - Photography, painting, music
• Mystical, spiritual - mediating under a tree

• Challenging sports - don't forget your mountain bike
• Family time, social time - Sunday outing
Now, when you master your relationship with nature, you tend to go
beyond the limits of these activities and see what happens when your
drop all that. You simply relate to nature and discover how it impacts
on your mind.
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When you master the nature environment, you simply feel at ease and
comfortable within that space.
There are hundreds of ways of "communicating" with nature and

waking up your instinctual mind.
If you want to try it out, simply go and spend a couple of day in nature
every now and then, this will automatically reconnect you with your
instincts.
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Gaining back control over what is

yours
If you want to build up mind power, all you have to do is apply your
natural power to areas of your life.
The first step is to gain back control over what is yours.
Controlling power is one of the most misunderstood forces. It is a very

positive force when channeled in the right direction.
When people think of power they often interpret it as the power you
have over others. This is one of the greatest misconceptions about
power.
The first step is to shift your attitude and use controlling power first for
what is yours.
Personal power areas
Here are the key life areas where you can first express your power:
• Your thoughts
• Your emotions
• Your belongings
• Your time frame
• Your personal space
• Your actions and behaviors
It's very simple. Your actions belong to you. When

someone tries to control your actions and tells you what to do, they
are stealing a basic right from you. There are some exceptions
discussed in other chapters of this e-book.
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If someone tells you what you should think and tries to force you, they
are again trying to control something which does not belong to them.
If someone takes the keys of your car without your permission, they
are trying to have some control over something which does not belong
to them.
You get the picture?
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Where to start
If you want more power in your life, the best it to take action. Here are
some simple steps you can take
If you feel you gave away your power and want it back, the best is to
take small steps. Start claiming back what is obvious. For instance
clean your room and personal space and get rid of what you don't
want there. No need to be aggressive with that. Remember: you are
backed up by a basic natural law.
Gaining back control over your life is a thrilling experience because

you start using tools which were always there.
When you do this, you set up new boundaries and simply strengthen
your personal foundation. You give power to your base and simply
establish a new equilibrium in your life.
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Are you resisting power?

I come from the "spiritual" world. In fact I spent more than 10 years
100% engaged in an inner quest.
When I was 16, one of my best friends argued that my opinions were
too "spacy". I remember his exact words: "Go back to your clouds".
The spiritual dimension focuses a lot on Love. It is the key of most

teachings and the top quality one tries to develop on the spiritual
development path.
After actively practicing a path single minded on love, something

strange happened: I did run out of energy.
True! I simply realized love was not enough. That's the moment I
searched for another quality to balance up my approach.
What came out? Power.
The first thing you might realize when you try to connect with your
own power is that you might have lots of misconceptions about it.
In fact deep inside, a part of you could be rejecting the very idea of
power.
You associate "power" with "abuse of power" and in your mind these
two become one single reality.
This is the greatest misconception about power. It is the number one

reason you might be running out of power: deep inside, something
simply rejects the idea of power.
The first step to empower your life is to get used again with the idea of
owning power.
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Take this simple test:
If right now I ask you: "how do you feel about power?" what would
you say?
1. I love it! I want more
2. I am okay with it
3. I am afraid I will need to look at it
4. I don't like power
5. I don't want power. I will stay out of it
I guess the conclusion is obvious. If you answered anywhere from 2 to

4, this means you are luke warm about power.
To get more power, the first step is to open up to it. In fact become
super conductive to power. If you don't like power, power won't like
you back. It's very simple: you can't get more of it if you reject it in
the first place.
The second step is to realize that with greater power comes

greater responsibility.
The moment you tap into your sources of power, you have to be very
clear about what you want to do with it. You need to be clear about
your values and ethics.
Why? Because power can be a very destructive force.
That's it! we are done.
Once you remove resistances and set up a course of action, all the rest
flows naturally.
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Power is a very natural essence in your life and you were born with all
the abilities to use and manifest it. You connect with it by waking up
some natural reflexes. All your "power moves" are already in you. All
you have to do is wake them back.
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Unleash your power

Yes! Set it free!
Your power is an instinct. It is a force which exists in you and can be

constricted by thousands of limiting thought forms.
It is called conditioning. It is permanent flow of doubts and limiting

disbeliefs.
On the other hand, the natural stream of power can keep on flowing
and create a mighty stream of life force.
You have the choice of what you want to feed. You can feed your
limiting thoughts or you can empower your life in an endless stream of
action and energy.
You have the power to tune into a wide set of energies. You can reflect
them inside and give them space to grow and expand.
Power is a choice. Don't listen when someone tells you power is a bad
thing. It comes from a misunderstanding. It is the confusion between
power and abuse of power.
Many people believe that power corrupts. This is why they stay away
from it. They associate power with abuse of power. When they see the
word "power", it brings in negative images of armies, battle fields and
fanatic dictators. This is very misleading.
Power has nothing to do with that. Power is an essence you can use
for anything. It's like atomic energy or the energy of the sun. It is a
freeing force which leads to immense life satisfaction.
There is competition for power. Sports and business are all geared
towards being the best. Politics is often a battle for power as well. This
competition for power is again a natural instinct.
When someone is trying to stop you from gaining more power, they
are simply expressing this competitive spirit. It's like being on a 100 m
sprint race and having next line's runner trying to stop you.
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In life, this happens all the time: it can be your next door neighbor
who tells you to shut up. It can be your family, coworkers, friends.
Some people simply don't want you to grow!
On the other hand, those who feel confident about themselves and in a
way "are already there" will have a reinforcing effect on your
convictions and desires to gain more power.
Power is great!
I love power!
Can you say it? can you write it down?
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Clear your mind channels

Your mind is the key to your success.
What drains energy is friction.
Negative beliefs and doubts simply create thousands of invisible

anchors which act like resistance when you try to take action.
On the other hand, if you are clear about your choices and simply
empower yourself by clearing doubts and self limiting beliefs, you are
in for an incredible life ride.
Unleash! Free! Liberate!
An action is supported by thoughts and beliefs. Before you take action

you usually create a mind set which will support your moves. You build
up skill and any sports person will tell you. It's all in the mind. In fact
it's not true: It's in the body as well. It is in the support structures and
the sponsors. Now, if you take two competitors and give them the
same tools, what will make a difference is their mind.
When you are in a race, you can be empowered by different forces.
The key to success is flow and maximum efficiency. This means

removing resistances in the form of limiting emotions, thoughts and
beliefs. What is the force which helps you do that? It is precisely
power.
To "clean your mind", you can use a force which is called renewal
power.
This is a natural instinct and it is there!
It is already part of the game.
Are you using it?
How do you access it?
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Inner doubts, your surrounding's limiting beliefs are this "leash" we

talk about.
This is what keeps you from flying 100% free in life.
To unleash, your need to tap into a stronger source of power which

removes resistances and sets you on a fresh action and energy
stream.
It is like an oceanic current of power and energy which moves you

forward. It is the thrill of connecting with an inner force which
connects you with your destiny line.
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Let your instincts do the work

Mind power is instinctual. You can set up yourself on a "reasoning
course" but what matters at the end is emotional fuel and the way you
use it.
You can discuss strategies, design techniques and practice the moves,
but what gives you the final win is stamina, life power, determination.
These are not thoughts forms. They are free energy.
Your mind is great and powerful but your ability to conceptualize can
slow you down. The goal is to hit the target, whatever that target
might be.
You can talk about it or go ahead and do it. If you have to jump in the
water, you can stand next to the waves and think about it, and reason
about or you can jump in the water and let your instincts guide you.
Thoughts can be limiting.
Ignorance can be bliss. Even if you practiced the moves and know the
recipes for success, what gives you the win is your instinctual power to
go for it.
This instinctual power is a conquering force. It is similar to survival

instinct and does not need thoughts to enter in action.
Your inner drives are your fuel. Focus and determination are dynamic
energies in your system. The moment they flow freely is the moment
you act and take decisions in a second. You are 100% in tune with
your destiny line and there is no separation between your action and
your thought. Mind and action are one.
You can make yourself life lists and keep on delaying success because
deep inside you hide in the security of your comfort zone. The moment
you connect with your action thrill, something else builds up. You
realize you love this flow of life force and can't live without it. Life
speed is your natural state.
Techniques become reflexes. You have hundreds of natural reflexes in

you. The art of running is simply the art of reconnecting with natural
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moves. Artificial modern life styles overlap and constrict these

instincts. When you unleash your instincts, you unleash a power which
was slightly dormant in you. You establish it back in the core of your
being and give it full power and trust.
Most of life power has nothing to do with reasoning and

conceptualizing your existence. It means going for it fearlessly and
destroying delay.
Inspiration, mind set and action are one. Synchronized. This is the
moment magic happens for you. What's on the way? The limits of your
comfort zone. Your instincts naturally wander beyond the limits of
what you already know. Fear and doubts call them back. They reason
an impulsion and take away its strength.
Your inspiration can be fragile in its original state. You can kill that
inspiration by building up a "resistance mind set", or you can build up
the inspiration by being super conductive to it.
The difference between super flow of life force and blocked energies is
simply a mind set. Change your pattern and what you feel is a slow
vehicle can become a high speed jet any time.
Sure, there is conditioning. 20-30 years of thought forms build up do

create a mind set. Now your own inner renewal power has the ability
to shift thoughts faster than you can imagine. It does not take long if
you set your mind into it.
It's like connecting with a cleaning force which gives you the tools to
move forward. The challenge? Gaining speed and simply removing
obstacles. 90% of obstacles are related with wrong conditioning.
Millions of seed of doubts projected and anchored in your mind.
Now you are the master of your mind. The power to get what you want
is yours. It is a high speed movement which can take you where you
want to be. This is a move of energies and instincts which are already
alive in you. All you have to do is use them and accept that your
present mind set can be shifted and evolved. Your present mind
landscape is only a temporary identity you did build over the years.
The only reason why this identity is there is because you accept it
there.
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There is a natural over glorification of your memory world. Memories

are simply mind frames which create an identity. It is this identification
which stops you from moving forward to another dimension. Let go of
this identification and you can truly shift your existence in no time.
Your instincts have the power to guide you with that. Your can
consciously replace what you no longer need by new tools and mind
sets.
It is very simple and it is always your choice. Gaining speed in life is

stepping beyond your comfort zone. After some time, your new life
speed becomes your new natural comfort zone. What is thrilling is the
acceleration, not the speed itself. You can be in an airplane traveling at
800 miles/hour and not even notice it.
What is thrilling is the acceleration. If you stay too long within your
comfort zone, it's the passion and excitement which are gone.
A daily dose of challenges on the other hand keeps you alive, fresh
and moving. That's the magic!
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Find your destiny

A destiny is a plan, a line of evolution.
You can see your destiny as a formless space of energies which create
an invisible architecture of opportunities actions and behaviors.
When you look into your past, you can see an architecture of events.
In fact its 'easy to recognize a pathway.
Now, imagine that there is a similar architecture for your future. It is

not static or crystallized. It is rather created by a myriad of infinite
options.
We could call these destiny lines.
When you choose between two careers for instance, you clearly see
two lines of evolution. It is the same when you choose for a place to
live, a city or even an outing for an evening.
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5 key mind powers
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• Creative power
Creative power is of course the first step. This is where

everything begins. It happens when you have an inspiring idea
you decide to put in action. It is expressed in nature all the time
via the force of fertility.
• Controlling power
Controlling power is what you express when you have a territory.

You naturally express some form of control over your personality
and being. You express control towards your belongings,
personal space, agenda. It means that you are in charge. You
are in command.
Most abuses of power are related with overuse of controlling

power. It happens in families, in business and society in general.
• Preserving or protective power
Imagine you have property with children playing on that

property. What you want is for them to feel free while still being
protected. Preserving means opening the space, setting free
while still offering protection. The love of a mother for a child, or
the facilitation role you can have in business are two classical
expressions of protective power.
• Conquering power
This power express the drive to expand your territory. You

express this power when you market or product or when you get
a new diploma. You express it as well in competitive
environments like sports. It usually means that you reach out
beyond the limits of your existing territory.
• Transformative and renewing
This power is a clearing one. It is expressed in the season's

cycle. It is expressed in any form of change or shift. Used in a
more negative light, it is called destructive power. It is death and
rebirth at the same time.
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It can be seen and felt as a shower of positive renewing forces.

It's this power that you use when you decide to let go or move
on.
Here are some more key ideas about these powers and how they
work:
• Natural powers
As you can see, these powers are already present in nature.

They are natural forces and our actions simply embody one or
the other aspect of them. They are streams of energy and
instincts. It means that these forces are already present in and
around you. All you have to do is use them wisely.
• This is only a model
Reality is of course much more complex than this simple model.

You could ad other powers depending on what you feel. I use
this model as a working tool to help clients understand the
dynamics of power and how they can shift it, wake it and use it
in their lives.
• It is not a "real" sequence
The model shows 5 powers in a cycle but in reality, these forces

are interconnected and expressed simultaneously all the time.
For instance, even when you reach out and establish a new
marketing plan within your company (conquering power), you
might still have children at school at the same time who do
benefit from your love (protective power). The keys of your car
are in your hands (controlling power) and you just got a new
idea for the coming summer holiday (creative power). You just
threw your soft drink's plastic bottle in the recycle bin (renewal
power).
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Types of power
11
Personal
Personal power
power
77 22
Personal
Personalfoundation
Coercion
Coercion foundation Skills
Skills
Emotional
Emotionalfoundation
foundation
Force
Force Education
Instinctual power Education
Violence Instinctual power
Violence Knowledge
Military Mind
Mindpower
power Knowledge
Military
66 Body 33
Bodypower
power
Political
Political Ownership
Ownership
Organization
Organization Money
Money
Delegated
Delegatedauthority
authority Belongings
Belongings
55 44
Networking
Networking Sponsorship
Sponsorship
Business Family
Family
Business
Groups
Groups
Influence
Influence Invisible
Invisible
Connections
Connections Nature
Nature
Support
Support
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Here is a detailed description of these 7 areas of power:
• Personal power
Most of what happens within coaching has to do with developing

personal power. Of course, there is support with gaining skills,
ownership, sponsorship, networking, etc.
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• Skills
These are your natural talents and what you did learn.
Obviously, your education and any training you received
represent valuables sources of power.
• Ownership
Includes money, property and belongings
• Sponsorship
This works both ways: you can be a sponsor or you can benefit
from sponsorship. These are power systems which dictate a
certain distribution of power.
This is not a financial sponsorship. It is a system of moral and

energy support.
Spiritual faith and empowerment, as an inner quality would be

classified here under the "invisible" sponsorship category.
These systems are usually agreed on an instinctual base. For

instance the way informal groups will distribute power (if there is
no formal organization) is very much an instinctual expression of
power rather than a rational organized decision.
• Networking
This is the power you get from being part of something. It is a

mutual system of forces which empowers all members. Synergy
for instance would be part of this type of empowering dynamics
• Political
This type of power is the one given to you by any form of

organizational structure.
A government for instance concentrates the power which has

been delegated to it by the members of a the country.
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If you are the CEO of an organization, you will receive authority

and power to lead this organization
• Coercion
This type of power is based on force, violence and military.
In the next chapter, we will go deeper into checking the various

aspects of your personal power for a model which leaves aside
organizational related sources of power (political, business,
organizational, coercive, etc.)
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Types of personal power
88
77 Invisible
Invisible 11
sponsorship
sponsorship Personal
Personal
Ownership
Ownership Invisible
Invisible foundation
foundation
Money Nature
Money Nature
Belongings
Belongings Life
Lifepower
power 22
66
Emotional
Emotional
Skills
Skills foundation
foundation
Education
Education
33
Knowledge
Knowledge 55
Mind
Mind power
power
Body
Body power
power 44 Unifying
Creative Unifying
Creative
Health
Health Will
Will power
power Controlling
Controlling
Vitality
Vitality Protective
Protective
Determination
Determination Conquering
Conquering
Renewal
Renewal
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I use the term personal power for any form of power which is not
related with organizations and politics.
Personal power is centered on the person rather than a system.
These models and definitions are purely intuitive.
You're welcome to design your own model if you feel this one does not
match with what you experience.
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• Personal foundation
Your personal foundation are all the elements which stabilize

your position in society. House, administrative body, etc.
• Emotional foundation
Your emotional foundation is the quality and strength of your

emotional base. If you feel over sensitive, or vulnerable, it is
often the sign of a weak emotional foundation. On the other
hand, if you are extremely confident and simply feel strong, this
is the sign of a powerful emotional foundation
• Mind power
The term of instinctual power could be used here as well. Mind

power tends to be associated with will power.
In my approach I use 5 key instinctual or mind powers: Creative,

controlling, preserving, conquering and renewing.
I defined these 5 key instinctual powers by simply observing

them at work in my own being and in other persons.
• Will power
Will power as in determination could be associated with mind

power. Will power is an inner strength. It could simply be totally
merged with one of the instinctual powers, conquering power,
which could itself be associated with survival instinct.
• Body power
Body power, heath and vitality are all related with the well
functioning of the physical body.
• Skills
Skills, education and knowledge are another essential sources of

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• Ownership
This the power of money, belonging and property. Ownership

expresses the size of your zone of material influence.
• Invisible sponsors
This area of personal power has not really been too much talked
about. The life force or life power which activates your body is
your first and most basic power. It is the power to be alive. your
connection with nature, its healing and harmonizing power for
instance are other aspect of universal empowering forces.
These powers are not designed in an organized system by

human beings.
We could talk about natural or supernatural forces.
This power is related as well with your universal identity.
Check as well the previous chapter for a model which includes as well
political, business, organizational power, etc.
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Freedom of thought
This aspect of your inner power is actually a human right expressly
described in the Universal Declaration of Human Rights.
Article 18 states:
"Everyone has the right to freedom of thought..."
Article 19 states:
"Everyone has the right to freedom of opinion and

expression..."
As you can see, being master of your thoughts and beliefs is a basic
human right.
No one has the right to force your thoughts or beliefs.
This declaration of human rights has of course a political connotation.
However deep inside, these laws are natural human laws which define
human power and dignity.
They do set up the ground for healthy relationships between human

beings.
Once you are assured of this freedom of thought, the next level of
mind power is to have greater influence over the thinking streams in
yourself.
Sometimes you feel trapped in a way of thinking which feels like

negative or self sabotaging.
In these situations, you often realize your own limitations in terms of

choosing your "mind set".
This is the moment you start looking for tools to maximize the way
your mind functions.
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Imagine being able to click on an empowering stream of refreshing

thoughts and beliefs. It's a bit like shifting TV channels.
Would you like to be able to choose your "mind channel" and

consciously decide about the color of your thoughts?
If you had the power to step out of a sudden negative thinking

pattern, would you do it?
There are many streams of wisdom and teachings which aim just at
that: having greater influence over what happens in your own mind.
The usual deviation is wanting to control someone else's thoughts. Big

mistake. Going that way is precisely like breaking these basic human
rights - article 18 and 19.
Remember: with greater power comes greater responsibility. The

question is: "what do you do with your mind power?".
Let's take another example and check ideas like manipulation and
influence. Check the world of sales. What about a political campaign.
It's all about influence, right? The question is: "when does influence
become unethical".
Some years ago, I heard that "advertising subliminal messages" were

banned from adverting in movie theaters.
Subliminal messages were very short flashes and images which were
projected on screen. The "image flash" was too short to be consciously
recorded by someone but was still recorded unconsciously by the
human mind. The result: if the image was for instance, a picture of a
fresh glass of Coke you could have people rushing to the bar at the
end of the movie and ordering a Coke without really knowing why.
Society decided: That's one step too far.
When you wake up your natural sources of power, you have to

consciously choose your ethical "territory". It is like a resource of
energy you can polarize in so many directions. Everyone is responsible
for their own actions in that territory.
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What about "positive influence"? Take this example: You see a street
fight starting in front of a night club. Would you like to have the power
to step in there and "positively influence" an aggressor so that the
fight stops on the spot?
Another example: One of your friends is on an alcohol related "self

destructive loop". Would you like to have the power to positively
influence them so that their state of mind shifts? Imagine what would
happen if after a short talk with you, your friend says something like:
"You know, I don't know what has been happening to me lately, but I
can see clearly now what I am doing to myself. No good!"
We could discuss this further but I feel that at this stage the best
solution is to use your intuition and common sense.
With greater power comes greater responsibility.
Be wise!
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Values and ethics

With greater power comes greater responsibility. When you step into
the field of empowering your life, a natural need for greater wisdom,
ethics and clear values rises as well.
An empowering step is to design and choose your own core set of

values.
Here are some examples of what these values (inner laws) can look
like when expressed:
• Universal Declaration of Human Rights
You heard about that one of course. Check it again to strengthen

key inner values
http://vitalcoaching.com/notes/universal_declaration_of_human_rights.htm
• Professional standards
This is my own set of values as a coach. They came to my mind

very intuitively over a period of couple of weeks.
http://vitalcoaching.com/prof.htm
• Samurai code of honor
These are the 7 principles of Bushido. The ancient samurai's

code of honor
http://vitalcoaching.com/lifeskills/respect/samurai.htm
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If you want to check further this topic, simply ask yourself these
simple questions:
• If you had to write down now five to ten key values in

your life, what would they be?
• How would you express them?
• What would be the impact of these values on your mind,

actions and attitudes?
• Who would benefit from it?
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Power definition
If you search for a definition of power you might be surprised to see
how power is defined (check Wikipeda’s page on this topic
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Power_(sociology) )
Why is it surprising?
Because in these pages, power is first defined as the ability to control

other people’s lives. This puts the idea of power in a very negative
context. This definition of power contains only a small fraction of what
power is truly about.
There is a great difference between the essence of power and what

you do with it.
Using power to control others is only one interpretation of power and it

is an abuse of power.
When taken one step further, this can lead to coercion which is
domination by creating fear.
Power and abuse of power are two very different things!
You can have power without abusing it.
Throughout history, power has been associated with political leaders,

armies and oppression.
This is why, nobody says "I love power".
They would be labeled as some form of political freak trying to own a

land and its people.
Huge misunderstanding here!
Power has many forms and political abuse of power is only one of
them.
The idea that power corrupts is simply wrong!
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It is not true!
Power does not corrupt.
You can grow in power and wisdom at the same time.
You can develop an inner sense of ethics and profound respect for life
and never even be tempted to abuse your power.
Personal power is associated with personal growth.
You can use your power to create, preserve, control what is yours
without ever going into any form of abuse or oppression.
Power is an energy you can master.
You can develop the skills to use it effectively.
It is an energy source and the way you channel it in your existence will
be directed by your skills and goals.
Power is like fire.
You can use to create, renew, destroy what you no longer need.
The moment you befriend with that energy you multiply your chances
of life satisfaction.
Personal power is an essential underestimated aspect of power.
It is only in the last decades that the awareness of personal power has
been brought to the surface.
If I had to define personal power, I would say that it is any form of

power which is not related with organizations and politics.
The idea is not to start a polemic about this topic; it is to offer

alternatives to common beliefs about power.
This is a coaching e-book and it is focused on human empowerment.
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I give naturally much more weight and importance to the idea of

personal power.
That's the main area I focus on within these pages.
Many people will reject the idea of power simply because they are
afraid of it or don't know how to use it.
Power is like fire.
It is an incredible source of energy which can be used to reach your

goals.
Gaining power goes together with gaining the skills to use it

effectively.
The moment you embrace the idea of power in your life, your remove
resistances and fears and allow a natural and spontaneous flow of it in
your life.
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Part 5 – Power
building
Here are some key aspects related with power building.
The next few pages will show you some pitfalls and key ideas which
will make power easily stream in your life.
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Gaining back control over what is

yours
If you want to build up mind power, all you have to do is apply your
power to areas of your life.
The first step is to gain back control over what is yours.
Controlling power is one of the most misunderstood forces. It is a very

positive force when channeled in the right direction.
When people think of power they often interpret it as the power you
have over others. This is one of the greatest misconceptions about
power.
The first step is to shift your attitude and use controlling power first for
what is yours.
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Personal power areas

Here are the key life areas where you can first express your power:
• Your thoughts
• Your emotions
• Your belongings
• Your time frame
• Your personal space
• Your actions and behaviors
It's very simple!
Your actions belong to you.
When someone tries to control your actions and tells you what to do,
they are stealing a basic right from you.
If someone tells you what you should think and tries to force you, they
are again trying to control something which does not belong to them.
If someone takes the keys of your car without your permission, they
are trying to have some control over something which does not belong
to them.
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"Agreed" transfers of power

There are some "exceptions" to these rules:
One example is the power given by an organization.
When you are a manager you are given an extra power. This is the
power to direct and have some form of control over other people's
actions, time frame etc. If you are an employee, you accept to transfer
part of your power to an authority in exchange of a financial reward.
When you sign a contract, what you agree is upon a specific set of
power dynamics.
Another example is the power given to a parent. Parents have some

authority over their children. This power transfer is a natural instinct
and is as well backed up or implemented by society. When the child
becomes a teenager, they usually rebel against the authority of their
parents. That's the moment they start recovering their power. This
transfer of power can mean struggle and tension until a new balance is
found.
These two examples (organizations and families) show situations

where part of your natural power is transferred to another source.
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Power transfer
Now, there are many situations where a transfer of power
happens without you noticing it. You can for instance take
someone's power without you having any right to do so. You can as
well loose or give up part of your power without realizing what you
give away and how this happens.
For instance, when the week end comes your agenda might be
filled with appointments, or tasks you really did not plan but were
forced upon you.
You end doing things you don't want to, and simply loose control
over your time frame.
Time is very precious. When you give away your natural right to
control your time, you give away some form of power.
If you repeat this over and over again without being aware of it, you
get frustrated and simply feel powerless.
Does this make sense?
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What is your balance of power?

Here are some simple questions to check up your personal situation:
• Are there any aspect of your personal life you don't

control?
• What are they?
• Who else is controlling them instead?
• What can you do to get your power back?
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A basic human right

Mind power building is simply about using what is yours.
There are ways you can build "reserves of power" but a more direct
way to build power is simply to recover what is already yours.
You realize that this often means taking it back from someone else
who has been "carrying" it for you.
Getting your power back means taking responsibility.
It means gaining back control over your time frame, personal space,
thoughts, emotions, actions and behaviors.
As you can see, basic forms of power have nothing to do with

controlling someone else's life. On the opposite.
Disinvest from what is not yours and can't influence, and focus on
gaining back control over what is yours.
The real magic of this is that: having power over what is yours is
one of your most basic human rights.
Sometimes you give away that power because you don't want to hurt
anyone or you don't dare to use it.
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Where to start?
If you feel you gave away your power and want it back, the best is to
take small steps.
Start claiming back what is obvious.
For instance clean your room and personal space and get rid of what
you don't want there.
No need to be aggressive with that. Remember: you are backed up by

a basic natural law.
Gaining back control over your life is a thrilling experience because

you start using tools which were always there.
When you do this, you set up new boundaries and simply strengthen
your personal foundation. You give power to your base and simply
establish a new equilibrium in your life.
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Power of thoughts and emotions

It is relatively easy to understand how controlling power over physical
elements like time frame and personal space works. You can see the
results. Now, what about your thoughts and emotions?
The ideas of mind power, personal development, self growth, etc. are
all aimed in that specific direction.
Some of these streams aim even at controlling or directing other

people's thoughts, feelings and emotions. As long as we stay in our
own mind, there is no ethical problem.
Now controlling someone else's thoughts is crossing the line.
There is a clear ethical boundary and the moment you are stepping
into someone else's "territory" you fundamentally shift your target.
As this is an ethical discussion, we won't go into it here.
We'll focus 100% simply on what belongs to you.
Gaining back control over your thoughts and emotions is a vast topic,
so, we'll need another article for that. There is a simple idea which
summarizes it: "You are the master of your mind"
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Part 6 – Mind
performance
dynamics
The best way to perform is to have the right mind set.
Every sport’s man will tell you that.
It is all in the way you stand in it.
In the next few pages, I give you key mind sets which empower your
life.
You can use some of these ideas as affirmations.
Remember that you are the designer of your inner architecture.
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How to increase your mind power

Your mind and the way you use it is the key to any success and
performance in life.
Your mind is your greatest ally!
Your mind is your tool!
It is your vehicle!
If you feel your mind is not 100% “with you” and underperforming, the
first step is to realize that you are the one in charge.
This is your territory!
From birth, you are given the right to have control and mastery over
what happens in you.
This includes your feelings, thoughts, emotions and beliefs.
Your mind sets are your inner architecture and you are the designer.
You are the one who builds these mind sets consciously.
Mind power is not some form of magic trick which gives you the right
to control other people’s lives.
Mind power is an energy which is in you and allows you to direct your
own life and mind in the way you want.
This is about your mind, not someone else’s
Your mind is your point of focus!
Mind power is your ability to conquer, create, control, protect and

renew what is yours.
All you have to do to wake up your mind power is realize that it is

there and use it when needed.
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Express your power!
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Respond to challenges
When you respond to a challenge, you stretch your limits.
You call upon deeper resources in you.
You create stress in your being and this stress wakes up your survival
and conquering drive.
This is the best and most direct way to invite new power in your life.
Right now, you can check your day and ask yourself:
“Where is the challenge?”
If there is no challenge, you will need to create one!
It can be sports, business, social life, dating or anything else which

breaks your habits.
If your day sounds boring to you, do something about it right now!
You are not allowed to let another day pass without waking up some
form of new challenge in your existence.
You know what a victory feels like, right?
You want more of that!
You want a lot of that!
Every time you win, you open new life channels in your being.
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Wake up your conquering power

Your conquering power is one of your key mind powers.
This instinct is awake in you!
It is an unstoppable force which can drive you to take steps you would
never dream off.
It is an ability which was given to you at birth.
It always starts with a first step.
The moment you set up yourself on a path of action and head for a
target, you wake up a natural instinct.
This instinct is the need to survive!
It is the need to conquer new territories!
It is a fire which empowers you with infinite passion and unleashes a

mighty stream of energy in your system.
An adrenaline rush is the breakthrough of such fire.
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Dare to fight
Accept to go to battle!
This means picking up the challenge.
The battle can be internal or external.
To win any battle, you want real skills and effective strategies.
Your strategy is your battle plan.
It is the vision of what you will do to win.
Your strategy is flexible and adaptable to any situation.
You can shift your strategy in no time.
You go with the flow and respond to unpredicted events.
Your fighting spirit is awake at all times.
You are ready to respond.
Your weapons are in your hands.
You own your sword!
You own your skills!
You are awake and ready any time!
Fearless!
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Unleash your will power

Your will power is your fire.
It is what fuels your action.
If you think too much, hesitate or doubt endlessly, you kill your fire
and destroy your motivation.
Will power is an energy you build up consciously.
You concentrate and project it towards valuable targets.
Your will power is a sense of energy autonomy.
It feeds your emotions with a powerful inner drive.
It is the raw force within every one of your actions.
It allows you to open doors and stretch the limits of your mind and
existence.
Will power is your sense of persistence, perseverance and focus.
This is the fire! It is the power to break through!
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Focus
Your mind stays clear and focused.
There are no distractions.
You recognize side tracks and keep heading for your target no matter
what.
This single minded inner state is your power of concentration.
You know exactly what you want and you will get it.
You give rhythm to your actions.
Concentration is the your ability to bring all your power in on single

spot at a time.
The moment you perform at your best, only one thing matters:
Here and now!
The past and future are gone.
All your energy is concentrated in this exact instant!
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Total synergy
Synergy is your ability to work with the forces around you.
Your being is not an isolated entity.
This is not about you against the others.
It is about the power of win-wins.
You tune into a flow of action.
Your spirit is connected.
Your mind is synchronized.
You are aware of a vaster stream of energy than yourself.
Your actions are vibrating together with a mighty stream of

manifestation.
This synchronization gives you support and energy.
It is like an unstoppable mountain stream which breaks through any

resistance.
You have a clear vision of the plan.
You know where you are going and you know why!
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Remove resistances
Resistances are useless!
Remove the anchors which could slow you down.
Get there faster!
Travel at full speed!
There is no need to put your success on hold.
Remove anything which could hold you back.
Be superconductive to your instinctual power.
Create clear channels of expression in your life.
You feel this almighty trust in yourself.
Trust is this pillar of energy in your being!
It is this massive foundation of life force in the core of your mind.
You trust your instincts!
Your trust your spirit!
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Peripheral vision
You see the larger picture.
You are aware and awake at all times!
Peripheral vision is your ability to see what is all around you.
It is all your senses combined in one synthetic image.
Perception, awareness.
You tap into the unseen.
You see what others can’t perceive.
Your mind is a clear screen on which impressions appear with total

precision.
All your senses are awake!
Inside! Outside! You perceive everything!
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Focus on what thrills you

Thrill is excitement!
Excitement is the awakening of your emotional drive.
Focus only on what thrills you.
Choose only exciting targets!
Passion is your driving force.
Thrill is what feeds your conquest!
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Body power
Your body is totally aligned with your mind.
You maintain a high energy life hygiene.
Your body is a clear channel of energy because you give it the care it
needs.
You train, exercise, eat healthy and maintain total inner vitality.
This is not about muscle, it is about how much life force flows through
your being.
Your body is a clear channel of power.
Together with your mind, they are your greatest assets.
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Your training ground

There is no safety net!
Your life is your training ground!
You are not creating a picture on a canvas to look at it from the

distance.
You are in the middle of the picture.
You are the center of your universe and any situation in life is an
opportunity to perform at your best.
You train your moves by practicing them in real life situations.
Any word and any action are the expression of your life force.
They are your unique occasion to perform at your best.
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Part 7 – Your
performance power
weapons
You are born with basic tools.
These tools are your instincts.
Now, years of life and conditioning tend to overlap these basic

resources.
The goal of the coming pages is to help you reconnect with your most
basic mind weapons.
These weapons are your mind tools.
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Emotional fuel
Emotional fuel is motivation.
It is fire!
This fire is the core of your being.
You embody this energy in any of your actions, thoughts and

emotions.
The more emotional fuel you have, the readiest you are for action.
Imagine trying to run your mind engine without this basic quality: you
could not even take the first step.
Emotional fuel is your desire.
It is your wants.
It is your ambitions.
This is the starting point of anything you do in life.
Your number one goal is to make sure that you own this fuel.
You are the one who controls it.
Why is that?
Because it is your birth right.
You are the owner of an infinite resource of energy inside yourself and
you are in the cockpit.
Every time you invest yourself in a project, you use some of this
emotional resources.
If you invest in someone else’s project, this is where your emotional

resources go.
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Emotional fuel is more precious than money.
It is the raw energy in the core of your being.
You want to make sure that this emotional fuel keeps flowing.
It flows through your mind channels.
A mind channel is an idea, emotion or mind set.
This means that you want to create mind sets which are super
conductive to life.
Blockages, fears, doubts, hesitations are all mind blockages. The more
you respond to them, the more you block your emotional fuel.
Another way of loosing your emotional resources is to let other people

take control over your life.
When this happens, you feel drained and systematically tired.
This is purely related with a psychic mind set.
You can be for instance in a professional situation where you feel

limited and unable to express your creativity.
You can feel trapped with a dominant partner in a relationship.
You can feel insecure within a circle of friends.
All these situations have something in common.
You feel overpowered.
Your emotional fuel stops flowing.
As soon as you start expressing your power, you break these patterns.
You reclaim ownership over your life and send out a clear statement:
“I own my life!”
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You are the one in charge. No one but you has the power of deciding
what happens and when.
It is your right to express this power!
The moment you express your power, you protect your energy
resources and invest them exactly the way you want.
Your emotional fuel wants to be freed!
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Will power
Will power is your ability to go for it and persevere!
You focus on your target and don’t let go until you hit it!
Will power is your own individual reserve of determination.
If you are in a battle, you can sometimes win easily, because you have
all the skills and tools you need and because you know how to break
through.
Now, if victory does not happen by itself and you face a high level of
resistance or competitiveness, will power is what makes the difference
and gives you the final victory.
Using your will power concentrates all your energy in a given place and
given time.
You invoke the totality of your resources in one spot and use this
energy to feed your action.
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Conquering power
Any time you head for a new territory, you use your conquering power.
You use this conquering power when you study, when you create a
business, when you make an income, when you expand your
knowledge or when you give yourself a set of goals.
Now, again, there is an infinite resource of conquering power in you.
When you become comfortable within a secured situation your

conquering power tends to slow down.
You achieved what you wanted to and now, you focus on securing
what you have.
You shift from “conquering mood” to “preserving mood”.
Suppose you created a business and it is running well.
You might feel the need to head for a new challenge and start a new
venture.
This happens precisely because your conquering drive wakes up.
You feel that your present territory is not challenging enough and you
need a new kick!
You love the adrenaline rush when you hit a target!
Conquering power is a natural instinct in any human being.
It is your ability to head for new territories!
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Survival drive
Survival drive wakes up when your life is in danger.
This original instinct forces you to look for food and shelter.
Now, this survival drive is a quality which wakes up when your life is in
danger.
It is an inner call which says: “ Life threat!”
Of course, most of the times your life is not really in danger.
When it comes to basic survival though, this is the number one source
of energy which wakes up and stimulates you to take action.
Anyone who might have been in danger has felt this inner rush of
energy.
It is a natural boost your own spirit or nature gives you.
It is like setting up the “turbo” in your car.
Your survival drive is not concerned with distant goals and complex
mechanisms.
It is a basic instinctual reaction to a threat on your life.
When you are taken by your survival drive, you can see yourself
tapping in resources you did not even know you had.
There is a dimension of magic and mystery to it.
It is your response to crisis situations.
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Focus only on what thrills you

I already mentioned this earlier but it is so important, I need to
explain it deeper.
Motivation and emotional fuel comes from excitement.
The way to invite more emotional fuel into your being is to focus first
on what is exciting.
You might think that you can force your mind to get motivated?
Usually, it won’t work!
Emotional fuel flows the moment you focus on exciting targets.
If your targets are boring or from the past, your own spirit says: “No
way!”
It has to do with your destiny lines and path of evolution.
The best way to kill your emotional fuel is to build walls of security so
thick that life and renewal simply no longer get through.
Part of your being needs challenge! Always!
You might recognize from your own life a moment when you felt
stacked because the flow of life force and motivation stopped.
You might have felt bored.
You might have felt trapped between what society thought you should
be doing and what you truly wanted.
Society and your environment tend to focus a lot on security.
You, on the other hand need passion and excitement as well.
These two interests sometimes enter in conflict and it is truly your

right to decide what comes next.
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Your goals are yours!
If you focus on targets which miss this profound level of thrill, you
won’t get anywhere.
Focus on what thrills you first!
Let go of “shoulds”.
This is your life and you own the right to decide for yourself what you
want.
It is okay to be selfish and think of yourself first.
When you focus on what thrills you, you invite a massive flow of life
force in your being.
You clear your mind space. You are 100% alive.
It impacts on your health and on the way you relate to others.
It is a win-win for everyone involved!
No need to make concessions!
If you are not thrilled by an idea, simple: drop it!
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Best way to prepare yourself

The best way to prepare yourself is to manifest the right mind set.
Your mind set is your vehicle and before you take action, it is wise to
identify exactly how to stand in it.
No need to think about it for weeks.
Simply take a minute to step back and observe what you truly expect
from the action you are about to take.
The right mind set creates the perfect alignment of forces in your
system.
It is one of the keys to any success in life.
Usually, you do have choices to make when you choose for the right
mind set.
You see your various options and consciously decide what role you
play.
It is like a shirt you put on.
Your mind set is your vehicle for the coming course of action.
If you are “aligned” inside, everything flows much easier.
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The secret door to your mind

The secret door to your mind is your inner listening ability.
You do have inner senses.
You do have intuitive senses which tell you exactly where you are at
and where you can be.
Your instincts are powerful.
The moment you start trusting them more deeply, you realize that you
can unleash a whole new wave of inner potential.
Instinctual power is your ability to respond instinctively to situations.
Your instincts synthesize a whole situation into a simple action path.
Your instincts see the best way in any given situation.
The best way to train this inner sense is use it and to trust yourself.
Your instincts are in direct connection with the deepest part of your
being.
They are a powerful force you can use to unleash your true mind
potential.
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Give rhythm to your day

Rhythm is what structures time.
If you have music without rhythm, you simply have a succession of

notes which merge into each other in an incoherent way.
Imagine a landscape on which you take away the lines between the
shapes: all you have left is a succession of colors which merge into
each other without definition.
Time gives form and power to your day.
It creates waves of energy with peaks and rests.
Now, you do have a natural rhythm.
Shift speeds and action lines.
Dare to let go and create highly concentrated sequences of energy

rather than a long monotonous one.
You will see that the moment you follow your natural rhythm and shift
activities frequently, you maintain a high level of excitement and
energy.
Give rhythm to your actions.
This is one of your top performance weapons!
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Making the right choices

Choices are your “crossroads”.
Depending on the path you take, this can bring your closer or further
away from your profound goals.
A choice can be this magic moment when a world of opportunities does

open up.
Some other choices can limit your own evolution.
To make the right choice, you need a couple of things:
Synthetic vision and clarity.
Imagine your mind as clear screen on which you can perceive the
direct consequences of your actions.
You see pathways.
This inner vision is an ability you train.
Now, making choices means that you are faced with various options.
Often, these options are the reflection of conflicting interests.
These different options can be the mirror of different views on life and
different mind sets.
You can expand your choice making space and gain immense clarity
over where you want to go.
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Action is life!
What brings you from where you are to where you want to be is
action.
A mind set is only a vehicle.
The real change and result happens when you take action and do
something which reflects the way you stand inside.
Action invites life force in your being.
It is the direct expression of your manifestation power.
When you take action, you express your right to create.
This is why action is the best and most direct way to open new doors
in your life.
Dare to take risks and go beyond your comfort zone.
When you do, you invite a refreshing stream of energy into your being
and wake up your survival or conquering instinct.
Action unleashes your profound potential.
Stop thinking about it and do it.
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Part 8 - 10 powerful
mind training
techniques
These 10 techniques are simple ways to get you moving.
They are 100% focused on you and your mind.
The goal is simple: train your “mind muscle”.
These are not fixed, rigid techniques: they are only guidelines.
Eventually, you can recreate these techniques in your own way.
They are series of “mind movements” which evolve with time and
practice.
Most of these techniques require some focus and practice.
I would say that it takes 1 to 3 months to fully master and own a

technique.
It is literally like training in the gym.
Give yourself a target of achieving significant shifts over a period of 1

to 3 months.
This means focus on these techniques and use them regularly.
You will feel your power and mind sets naturally getting clarified and
energized.
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Active self talk – technique

You are probably familiar with the idea of self talk, right?
Self talk is the story you tell yourself inwardly.
The goal of this technique is to express this self talk outwardly.
Literally, you talk to yourself.
The moment you speak the words, you hear them as well.
You observe your thoughts and you realize that you can actually direct
your self talk.
It is not anymore a conversation you can’t influence or goes on by

“itself”.
You direct your self talk and express the thoughts, beliefs and
emotions you truly want to have.
This is a creative way of programming your mind.
You program your mind by speaking out the words.
Here is an example. You are alone at home, early morning. Here is a

conversation you could be having with yourself:
• I feel like I should take action but I don’t know what direction to
go…
• Yes! You know
• True… I know but I have doubts…
• What are your options?
• I could directly go the office and speak with Jim about what we
discussed yesterday…
• What would you say?
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• That I like his idea, but that we should get a back up plan as
well, just in case we don’t get enough funds…
• What would be a backup plan?
• To simply maintain the business structure the way it is right

now.
• So, what you say is that you have two strategies and you want
to agree with Jim about them.
• Etc.
In these 2 minutes, something very special happened:
• You gained clarity

• You brought out a couple of constructive ideas
• You designed a solid strategy for your morning
• Etc.
You can have a conversation with yourself on any topic.
The difference when you speak the words out is that you become an
active creator of this conversation.
When you keep this self talk in your mind, you miss focus and
awareness. In fact, you tend to be passive and let your mind wander
in incoherent loops.
You can think many ideas without them manifesting to the surface of
your awareness.
This means that you might be building up negative self beliefs or

missing on some essential insights.
Expressing verbally your self talk empowers your mind. It gives you
focus and directs your energy in a creative way.
When you express your self talk, you coach yourself.
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Not only, you become aware of what happens in your mind but you
direct your thinking stream as well.
This practice is extremely empowering because it strengthens action

lines and vision in your mind. It simply empowers your mind channels.
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Will power concentration –

technique
This is a direct 1 minute technique.
You can stand to practice this.
Don’t lay down, it makes you too passive.
To break through most situations, you need extra power.
The goal of this technique is to build up extra power and

determination.
Here is what you do:
You stand still, eyes open and see yourself as a volume of energy.
Now, you want to get ready for battle.
You concentrate your power and energy.
Imagine that your goal is in front of you.
Right now, you are totally selfish.
Nothing but you matters.
You totally concentrate your energy.
Your mind is 100% single focused.
You stand still ready for battle.
This is the concentration before battle.
You are invincible.
You give only to one direction: your mind.
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This is where your energy is totally focused.
Concentration (Con-centration) means that all energies you have in

you evolve around one core: you and your mind.
This is a high speed, high intensity technique.
It is this moment of stillness before your jump.
You want to bring in a concentration of forces right here, right now.
It is your moment of focus before you take action.
The only thing which matters at this moment is you and the target you
want to reach.
Determination and will power are naturally in you.
This one minute concentration tells you one thing: total focus!
Total concentration of energy!
You are ready for battle!
Keep this practice very short and use it when you feel a challenge
coming.
It is an excellent technique as well to use when you feel lots of

external resistance.
Concentrate for one minute and go for action straight after that.
You can focus on the words “Focus”, “Action”, “Will power” or

“Determination” as well. You can repeat them aloud or to yourself.
You can as well use other words and even short empowering sentences
like: “Take action!” or “Win now!”
Concentration, focus, determination and will power are mind attitudes.
They are internal energies you learn to master.
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With this simple 1 minute focus, you connect with your inner source
and use this extra power to take action.
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Victory drill – technique

This technique is dynamic and combines body movement with voice.
You stand on a spot and start jumping.
Jump as if you were jogging or skipping on the spot.
Now, you ad the word “Win!” and speak it out (you can even do that
very loudly if you are by yourself in nature) rhythmically with your
jumps.
Win! Win! Win! Win! Win! …
This technique energizes you and establishes the “victory” mind set in
you.
Victory is a mind set!
The core of this mind set is the word “victory!”, “winning!” or “win!”
When you repeat this word rhythmically in that way you invoke the
victory mind set in you.
In fact, you remove anything which is not aligned with the idea of
victory in you.
This technique is a drill!
This means that you stretch your natural limit when you use it.
It is intelligent, powerful and effective.
I the beginning, use it for a couple of minutes.
When you feel more comfortable with it, you can stretch it in time.
Go for a run on the beach and use the word “win!” to give rhythm,
focus and power to your light jog.
This technique is very transformative.
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The moment you use it, you break open new lines of life force in your
mind. You energize aspects of your emotional body and create a new
pillar of energy in the core of it.
Again, if you use this technique over one to three months, you will
truly own it and master it.
Play with that force and make it 100% part of your being.
I guarantee you that it makes a massive difference.
Use it!
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Super confidence shield –

technique
The goal of this technique is very simple: create an extra layer of
protection around your being.
Imagine a sphere of energy around you. This is your auric field, energy
body or etheric body.
This envelope protects you.
Now, imagine that any judgment or attack on your being simply

bounces on the surface of your mind.
See attacks like arrows which are simply refracted on the surface of
your mind.
You are still. Simply observe that.
Now, you will strengthen this shield.
You will use a simple martial art technique which is the “Kiai!”
“Kiai!” is the sound you express as you give a kick or punch forward.
Sound is very powerful!
It strengthens your shield and protects you from attacks.
As you give a punch forward with your fist, you scream: “Kiai!”.
Take a step back and repeat this movement a few times.
You can shift arm or shift from punch to kick.
The moment you sound “Kiai”, you send out a clear statement:
“Defense”, “Shields up”.
If you feel that life is a battle field and that you miss the tools to
defend your territory, this is definitely the technique to use.
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You will empower your emotional foundation straight away when you
do so.
You will as well strengthen your natural mind shield and create a
greater sense of inner security.
Remember one thing though: a shield is a battle tool. You use it

dynamically and stay alert and awake.
You need to identify negative influences and not let attacks come in.
Beware of Trojan horses and other strategies which aim at breaking

through your shields.
Be wise!
Stay awake and experiment with these ways of protecting yourself and
defending your territory.
Your mind is a subtle ecosystem.
You are in charge of it!
This is your territory!
This “Kiai!” technique gives you the extra power kick to protect
yourself.
Smile and stay confident!
You are safe!
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Assertive determination –
technique
When you want to reach a target, you must always be aware of side
tracks and deviations.
This technique is a simple concentration technique which gives you the

ability to stay focused on your target.
Imagine your target and hold in your mind a picture or a word

expressing your target.
There is only one way to reach this target: it is to stay focused on it

and express your fighting and conquering power.
Imagine your target and increase your focus and concentration on it.
Anything which deviates you from it is wiped out instantly.
Your vision stays firmly focused on this target.
Assertiveness is a mind set you build in you.
The core of this force is your mind.
How does it work?
Your vision, need and desire is stronger than anyone else’s.
You know what you want and nothing can deviate your from it.
You focus on this goal and you don’t deviate from it.
You establish a visual connection with this target and this is the only
thing that matters.
It is your direction.
It is your unique purpose.
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Between now and the moment you reach your target, you will
encounter side tracks and deviations.
The vision of what you want to achieve and what you want to reach
will stay firmly embedded in your mind.
Your mind is 100% focused and no one and nothing will shift you from
your target.
Next step, take a white page and write down a word or short sentence
which summarizes your target.
Use capital letters. Use a black pen. Use big enough letters.
This is a statement of what you want to reach.
Under these words, write down the terms:
“Assertive”, “conquering power” or “fighting instinct”.
These are the key qualities you want to express.
Take this white page, fold it and keep it with you in your pocket or
with other papers.
This is the way you program your mind.
It is like a mind power “to do” list.
Every time you come across this paper or feel it in your pocket it acts
as a reminder of your target.
It “crystallizes” the assertive mind set in you and focuses your power.
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Total emotional freedom –

technique
When you want to take action, the less resistance you feel, the better,
right?
This technique is aimed at one goal: removing what could hold you
back. These are memories, thoughts, ideas, beliefs, emotions or
feelings from the past that you no longer need.
Here is how it works:
Identify an emotion, fear, doubt, or thought which could hold you

back.
For instance, if you had a negative experience a month ago, the

“trace” of this experience can still be present in your mind.
If you can’t identify any negative emotion, belief or thought in your

mind, then it’s perfect. Stop reading right now this chapter and jump
directly to the next one.
Now, if you feel that anything is bothering you or worrying you, you
want to increase your level of emotional freedom and remove the
source of tension you might identify.
Any tension, inner conflict or worry drains your energy.
Here is what you can do to shift a negative emotion or draining mind

set:
Suppose last week you got angry with your a colleague at work.
Now, you feel guilty.
Face it.
Face the events.
Look at them straight in the eyes.
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What do you see?
You see yourself overreacting and making a mistake?
The reason this bothers you is because you need to learn something
from it.
The “process” of what you experienced has not yet been solved.
A learning experience becomes a mistake only when you keep

repeating it without learning from it.
The first step is to identify what could be learned.
If you were confronted with the same situation again, is there another
possible reaction.
How would you deal with the same situation in a more diplomatic way.
Focus on it and come up with another line of action, even if you find it
emotionally challenging.
Now, recall exactly the steps you would take and what you would say
if this situation would happen again.
Once you have a new effective strategy, go to the next step: Let go
and forgive yourself.
How do you do that?
Simple, repeat to yourself: “I am not perfect. I can make mistakes. I

learned from my experience. I forgive myself”
You can remember these words or speak them aloud.
The key now is to let go and forgive yourself.
This is a very specific example but it works in a similar way with any
negative emotion, thought or belief.
There is a pillar of freeing power in your mind.
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This pillar is your power of renewal.
This is the force which flows through your being and clears your mind
for new experiences to take place.
This technique is about increasing your level of internal freedom.
Basically you free emotional space when doing so.
We are here in an area which can be quite challenging.
If you feel you can’t manage to clear a negative thought, experience or

emotion by yourself, I can help you further and join forces with you to
do that together.
Visit this link and sign in for a couple of sessions:
http://vitalcoaching.com/signin.htm
I would be looking forward to coach you further with that.
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Power vision – technique

Your vision is what you project into your future.
It is the ability to open space and create on a conceptual level.
First, bring your mind to a still point.
Take a moment to stay silent and start imagining your life 5 years
from now (This is only an example. You can focus on what will happen
next week, in the coming month or in the coming year for instance).
Now, let the flow of thoughts freely create a vision in your mind.
The next step is to take a white page.
You want to create a mind map of your vision.
Follow this example to see some mind maps styles I use myself:
http://vitalcoaching.com/allareas/coachingstrategy.htm
Take your white page and in the center of it, write:
Life Vision
5 years
Around this central image, start adding elements which you feel are
important for you in the future.
Start first with general areas like business or relationships.
You can refine and ad as many details as you want to express your life
vision.
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This simple mind map is your plan.
Imagine for a second an architect creating a new building without ever

putting things on paper.
Your plan is your vision.
It is not rigid.
However, writing it down empowers it and gives it new roots in your

mind.
Be ready to redesign it regularly if you have to.
Ad new ideas into it.
What matters is that you take a few minutes to focus on it regularly

and check where you are at.
Goal setting can work against you when you fix targets with too high
expectations.
Too high expectations can make you feel very frustrated and unhappy
when you realize you won’t reach them.
To avoid this, keep your plan flexible and focus on qualities you want
to manifest in your life rather than fixed material targets.
Keep your plan as open and flexible as you want to.
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Instant effective strategy –

technique
When you are in the middle of a challenge you want the ability to
respond fast and directly to any situation.
You can’t design in advance strategies for everything but you can stay
flexible, open minded, alert and ready to respond any time anywhere.
To do this, you need synthetic clarity and awareness.
The goal is simple: you want to train your strategic skills.
This means that you want to be able to design effective strategies

easily.
Take a present challenge in your life.
If you don’t have any, take someone else’s (a friend, partner,

colleague, a situation from the news, etc)
Now, it is very simple:
You want to increase your reaction and strategic speed.
No matter the situation, give yourself 1 minute to come up with an

effective strategy to solve this challenge.
You don’t have to succeed, you only have to focus on it and try.
No matter what you reached, after one minute, stop and drop it.
Take another example, eventually write it down in a few words and

give yourself 1 minute to solve that one.
You can repeat this technique a few times (max 5).
After that drop it.
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The goal is to increase your reaction speed. No need to stretch the

practice.
Focus rather on short, concentrated sessions where you try to solve 4

or 5 specific challenges in 5 minutes.
You will notice that if you practice this regularly, you are able to come
with effective solutions for almost anything.
When you find solutions, you use your emotional intelligence skills.
This is very much a “right brain” training practice.
Focus on trusting your instincts and intuition rather than rationalizing

too much.
When faced with challenges in life, your survival drive wakes up and
calls a new set of instinctual resources.
These are the new skills you want to open up.
Respond with your guts, first impression and complete the picture with
a reality and logical check.
Reason alone can definitely be too slow or limited when you are
trapped in a storm and need to act fast.
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Dynamic synergy building –

technique
How good you perform in life is intimately linked with how well you
relate to others.
How effective is your connection with those around you?
This technique aims at increasing synergy in any connection you

establish.
Synergy (Synchronized-energy) focuses on creating win-wins out of

any situation.
Here is a simple technique to multiply synergy in your life.
Imagine someone you interact with regularly.
The context does not matter.
Now, for a minute, put yourself in this other person’s position.
Imagine the world as they see it.
Take a white page and write down their name in the middle of it.
Under their name, write down what you believe are 5 main goals for
them.
Now, for any of these goals, ask yourself:
“What role do you play towards that person?”
Are you negative, neutral or positive towards that goal?
I suppose you know already what comes next, right?
The goal of this game is to shift 90% of your positions from negative
or neutral to positive.
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You want to become a positive force in that person’s life.
You don’t need to emotionally invest yourself.
All you have to do is remove the blockages in your mind which could
stop you from encouraging that person’s goals.
What you do is very simple: you shift from competitive to

collaborative.
Take 5 minutes to analyze this.
Next time you meet that person, make sure that what you say reflects
a positive attitude towards that person’s goals.
This is synergy.
It is a direct way of creating win-wins in life.
The more you have of it, the more energy flows through your system.
Of course, in some situations, your role is to be the challenger and

competition will be the mind set you use, but think of situations like
friends, social life, business meetings, family, relationships, etc.
There are dozens of situations in life where the competitive mind set is
immensely draining for both parties.
If you shift some of that to a synergic mind set, you will feel a
tremendous increase of life force flow and satisfaction.
You let go of competition and focus on win-wins.
You can repeat this practice regularly specially with persons you find
challenging to relate to.
You will notice that within a month, your relating base can totally shift.
It is direct and super effective!
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Synchronized action - technique

Timing and location!
To succeed with what you want to achieve, you need to be in the right
place at the right time.
Now, synchronicity has some quasi mystical dimension of magic to it.
Synchronicity is described as the alignment of universal forces with

one’s own experience. That’s the “big” definition.
In reality you can see synchronicity in the perfect alignment of your

actions, thoughts and emotions with a natural greater flow.
You cultivate synchronicity by developing your awareness of what goes

on around you.
Being synchronized means being frictionless.
Here is a technique which helps you empower this quality in your

system:
Before you start your day, take a white page and write down the lines
of action you can focus on today.
Once these lines are in front of you, ask yourself this simple question:
What is my top priority today?
Next, ask yourself:
What is really the best line of action I can focus on today?
When you ask yourself this question, you consider other elements like
timing, other people involved, circumstances, etc.
If you take only 5 minutes to reflect on the best line of action, you
could be totally shifting your day.
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Synchronicity is the art of bringing this extra sponsoring quality to

everyone of your actions.
It makes sure that you go with the flow rather than struggling to go
upstream.
Once the great lines of action for your day are set, check a bit more in
the details.
You have the power to foresee areas of struggle, challenge or friction.
Take these 5 minutes in the morning before you set up yourself on a

course of action.
It is your way of tuning in and synchronizing your actions with all the
forces involved.
If you want to ad a mind concept to this to help you throughout the

day, think of “synchronized” or “frictionless”, this will help you stay
focused.
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Part 9 – Key
strategies to get
what you want
We live in a time where no one needs to loose.
Getting what you want is about satisfying your own conquering drive.
This power is your driving force in conquering new territories.
The moment you unleash it, you release natural resources of energy
which start flowing in creative ways.
In the next few pages, I will show you direct and effective strategies to
reach your goals.
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How to get exactly what you want

The first step is to identify valuable targets.
Once you identify your targets, give yourself a time frame.
The third step is to identify the possible distractions, side tracks and
challenges you could face along the way.
Aiming for a target is like engaging in a new travel.
You want to have some form of road map and vision of where you are
going.
Before you engage yourself with your full power, you will do some test
drives. You will take some small steps to try out and see if anything is
still missing.
After that, it is all about going for it and staying focused.
This preparation time is a build up.
Timing! Don’t forget about that one!
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How to manifest synchronicity at

all times
Yes! Timing!
Synchronicity is your ability to synchronize your actions with a larger

flow of energy.
It has to be the right time for you and the right time for all forces
engaged in your project.
Being synchronized at all times is an art.
It is your ability to go with the flow and respond to opportunities and

open doors when you see them.
At the same time, you alternate your “go with the flow” ability with
stronger inputs of will power and determination.
Sometimes, it is wise to take a short cut and minimilize your effort.
Synchronicity is about giving fluidity to your actions and creating

frictionless enterprises.
The best and most direct way to wake up your full synchronicity power
is to use your instincts and intuition.
Using your will power only might require too much effort.
Partner with the natural “manifestation winds”.
The moment you synchronize your efforts with the right sources, you
realize that you can get a massive support of energy.
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How to use challenges to project

yourself forward
A challenge is always an opportunity to grow.
The best way to use challenges is to face them and learn from them.
If you feel you can’t get it right every single time, it simply means that
you miss some experience.
The best way to gain this extra experience is to experiment a bit.
Experience and experiment have the same root.
It is not a coincidence.
You experiment by trying.
If you don’t succeed the first time, forgive yourself and see this as a
learning experience.
The best way to learn to swim is to jump in the water.
You can perceive life as a series of challenges.
This is the way you build character, skills and develop the
effectiveness of your mind.
Effectiveness is not an abstraction or a thought. It is a mind set you

develop by immersing yourself in real life situations.
Trying is a victory in itself!
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If you bang your head against a

wall, stop right now!
In other words, learn from your experiences!
If you keep hurting yourself or missing your targets, take a moment to

analyze your strategy and see where you can shift key elements.
Shift actions paths and try new ways and new mind sets.
For any given situation there is always a best way to stand in it.
Best performance is not just any performance.
You want to aim for what gives you the greatest satisfaction and
result, right?
Learning form your experiences is the best way to evolve very fast.
Take a moment to step back and listen!
Stay silent for a while and identify exactly what you can shift in your
approach.
Sometimes, the best way to deal with a wall is to go around it.
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Synergize!
Join forces!
Focus on win-win!
Your mind is not an isolated entity.
You are connected with everything that surrounds you at all times.
You are connected with everything through invisible energy links.
The best way to open doors is to work with the forces of nature rather
than against them.
It sounds logical, isn’t it?
Creating conflicting forces is the best way to waste energy.
You live in a time where no one needs to loose.
Your human spirit has the ability to generate win-wins at all times.
After win-win comes third win.
Everyone can win.
The competition equation has shifted.
Synergy opens doors and space.
It is your most direct path to any deep success.
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Trust and go with the flow

Trust yourself!
Every time you sit back and hesitate, you feed your doubts.
Every time, you take action, you feed your trust.
Imagine swimming in a river.
The moment you go with the flow, everything becomes easy.
A river is a stream of manifestation. It happens right now.
The moment you resist the current and focus on your own
individualized will only you have to put up lots of effort.
Once you trust and let go, you notice that your river simply takes you
to the sea.
This river is symbolically your destiny line.
You can throw anchors and try to stop the movement or you can
consciously lift these anchors and allow evolution to do its natural
work.
You are part of a larger spirit.
You are part of a larger reality.
This river is your “sponsoring” force.
It is the energy which sustains your actions and empowers your goals.
Go with the flow!
Trust your instincts!
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Integrating new skills

If you miss some tools, you want to step out of the battle for a while
and get what you need.
Skills are mind sets and actions.
They are a reality you integrate in your being.
Identify exactly what is missing and get it!
It often takes courage and humility to step out of a situation and

realize that you miss some keys.
Realize that change and renewal can easily create pressure on your
being.
If your present mind set is not effective, you want to connect with and
integrate a new one.
This process of integration requires energy and focus.
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Jumping without a safety net

Your training ground is your life!
You minimilize risks by taking small steps.
Most life experiences truly have no safety net.
However, depending on the way you stand in these experiences, you

can make sure you won’t get hurt.
You have a “right way of falling”.
Falling in life can be exhilarating.
It can be this kind of sudden realization of what life is a about.
See it as a game and jump in it.
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No training! Just life!

There is no stage! There is no public!
You can step back and observe your life from the distance.
However, the best way to perform at your best is to jump in life rather
than checking it from far away.
It is direct and effective to try and experiment.
This is the best way to perform at your best!
Why?
Because real life is the context in which you will manifest all the
ingredients.
You can practice your moves on the side of the pool, or you can jump
in the water and use your survival drive.
You have resources in you which wake up the moment you are
confronted with real life situations.
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Master your control weapon

Control is a sword.
It is in your hand.
You are given the right to control your life.
This is the first area where you can effectively express your controlling
power.
Now, when it comes to influencing others you can easily cross the line.
You aim for greater freedom, not greater control.
If you are in a position of power, what you want is to provide just

enough control to stabilize the structures without limiting other
people’s natural space and freedom.
Life is precious!
With greater power comes greater responsibility.
Abuse of power means going against the forces of evolution.
Use your power to protect other’s freedom, not to limit them.
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Be aware of side tracks

Any time you aim for a target, you face the risk of getting side tracked
in one way or another.
Sometimes, this side track comes through a connection you have with
someone.
Other times this side track is simply the reflection of conflicting

interests in you or the lack of clear choices.
The response to a side track is focus.
You can of course take a rest and temporarily explore a side alley
leading to your goals.
It is fine as long as you don’t forget about your original target.
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Don’t miss your reality check!

Concepts and dreams are “suspended”.
On the path towards manifestation, they face the test of realism.
Out of thousands of possible dreams, only a few will manifest.
The ones which reach creation are the ones who have a solid level of
realism in them: they match with reality.
Before you set up on a course of action, do reality checks!
This will make give you greater chances to reach your targets.
This is another essential aspect of manifesting your best performance.
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Unhook yourself from the past

Get rid of what you no longer need!
Deal with unsolved issues.
The goal is simple: Emotional freedom!
Every aspect in it plays a role.
You are going towards the future, not towards your past.
If your vision is focused on recreating the past, this is where you will
go: towards your past.
Going back into the past simply goes against the natural flow of
creation.
It is literally like going upstream.
Your future is like a virgin screen.
All potentials are open.
The best way to see them is to remove whatever might be stopping

your from moving forward.
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Use your power

It is very simple: if you don’t use your power, someone else will do it
for you.
Your mind is a very subtle ecosystem of forces and energies.
For it to function and be stable, it needs some key ingredients.
Power is one of these ingredients.
You can delegate you power to other sources.
You can tell a friend something like:
“You know what? Decide for me…”
The moment you do that, you give away your power of self
determination.
If you do that one time, it is no problem, right?
Now, if delegating your power becomes systematic, you end up simply

feeling… Powerless!
This is the way it works.
If you want to feel empowered and manifest the full potential of your
mind, take responsibility and express the basic powers which are
yours.
If you delegated these powers to someone else in the past, it is your

right to claim them back any time.
The best way to perform at your best is to have a total sense of

control over what happens in your life.
Use your power to make sure that you are the one in charge of your
life.
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Part 10 – Use your

mind power to
create happiness
Happiness is intimately related with your level of personal power.
In the next few pages, you will discover some of the keys to secure
long term happiness in your existence.
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The secret of happiness

Life can be seen as a battle.
When you are unhappy, you are loosing this battle.
What makes you happy is energy.
It is the energy which flows in your mind and life.
When you feel unhappy, it is because you are low on energy.
If you stay low on energy for a long period of time, you go into states
of depression.
The idea is to reconquer your inner territory.
I know this might surprise you but the only way to be happy is to get
your full power back.
Your life is under attack.
If you feel depleted, it is because life force is not circulating in you.
You need to conquer the territory of your existence.
This is a fight. It is a fight for power. You are in charge!
Do you actually realize that?
You are the master of your existence. You are supposed to own your
life.
The goal is simple: get your full power back.
Power is what protects your mind.
It is your emotional foundation.
The more power you have, the stronger you feel.
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If you feel strong and still unhappy, this means that the next quality
you need is bliss, pleasure, happiness.
These are energies! They are mind sets.
The way to go is to master these energies and know how to manifest

them in your life.
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Your quest
Happiness is a life long quest.
If you have been in a state of semi depression, easily touched by

negative emotions, you must wonder how to come out of it.
What exactly is missing?
What I have to say is radical.
I will be direct.
My goal is not to nurture negative emotions; my goal is to give you a

kick.
I would like to shake you and give you some essential tools to
understand what is happening in you.
Happiness happens in the mind, right?
It has to do with something going on in your thoughts and emotions.
Your mind is a territory. When you are happy, life flows. It is balanced.
You feel good.
When you are unhappy your mind is invaded by negative emotions and
feelings.
Yes! It is an invasion. Your mind is a territory and something happens

in it you can't really control.
The goal is to gain back control of what happens in it.
Your mind is your territory. If it's your territory, how come you have
so little influence.
Do you realize that happiness is a path of life mastery?
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This is a battle
Happiness is your territory. This is why happiness building is a battle.
I am not here to help you nurture your past or even your wounds.
Sure you can look at them. Sure you can accept the way things are.
Now, what I see are only thoughts and emotions. These thoughts and
emotions are not your identity. They are waves on the surface of your
mind.
Thoughts and emotions are only waves on the surface of your

mind.
There is a deeper identity in you which is formless. It is a source of

power and life force.
This is your fire. This is the place from where you wake up now.
When you are born, your mind is virgin.
You start picking up patterns from your environment.
If your mother tongue is English, English words will create the frames
of your mind.
If you first spoke Spanish, it's Spanish which will be the core of your
being.
Words are frames.
Any emotion you encounter in your childhood leaves a pattern. It

leaves a blue print. An emotion is a pathway of energy in your mind.
You travel it once.
Then you travel it again.
You become familiar with it.
Soon, it becomes an established pattern in your mind.
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You are programmed, conditioned to respond to situations in a very

specific way.
If you get familiar with emotions like loneliness or sadness, you tend
to identify yourself with them.
They become the frames in your mind.
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How to be happy on the long term

Long term happiness has a lot to do with emotional freedom.
You are truly happy when you learn how to master your own renewal
power.
You need all 3 qualities of creating, preserving and renewing.
However, the renewing quality might be the most challenging to

master.
Your life success does depend on your ability to move on when it is

time.
It depends on your ability to create space in your life for new

opportunities to appear.
This renewal force is essential and when you befriend with it, it
refreshes your mind set on a daily base.
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High expectations
Suppose you have been living in this huge villa for ten years and
suddenly you have to sell it for financial reasons.
You end up in a 3 bedroom flat downtown.
The reason you feel bad is because of your level of expectations. You
are simply used to another standard of living.
Suppose for a minute that you have the power to stop comparing.
What happens then? How do you feel?
You feel happy when you are above your expectations.
You feel unhappy and generate negative thinking when you are under
your level of expectations.
As you can see, very high expectations can make you very unhappy.
Having expectations is usually a positive thing. It is similar to having

goals or targets in your life.
Goals wake up your desire. They fuel your life.
Now, if your goals are too high, you’ll systematically tend to "crash"
emotionally.
It is okay to have very high goals as a driving force and know from the
beginning that your expectations are unrealistic.
It still gives you an energy or power kick.
Some people play very well with those forces. They use high goals and
targets as a way of overcoming their limits.
Where do you stand in that?
• Are high expectations making you very unhappy?
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or
• Are you setting up unrealistic goals as a way of

overcoming your own limits?
Are you a victim or emotional slave of your expectations?
These are the key questions concerning expectations and goals.
If you feel trapped in negative thinking because your goals are

unrealistic, it’s time to understand the underlying dynamics of your
unhappiness.
It is okay to drop unrealistic goals and focus on new targets.
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Competition between friends

Here is another example:
Suppose you get results from an exam in your studies.
If you get 7/10 and everyone gets less, you will feel great, right?
Suppose now that you get 7/10 and everyone else gets a better result
than you, you will feel pretty bad.
The result is the same: 7/10
However, between these two situations, the hierarchy of power and

energy is totally shifted.
This is why happiness, satisfaction and the way you feel about yourself
depends immensely on how others are doing.
Your level of inner satisfaction is not an absolute measure of your

happiness. It is always partly relative to your environment.
In a way, you feel good or bad depending on how others are doing.
The way you feel is partly a relative measure of your level of energy
and success compared with your environment.
This means that your level of happiness expresses two things:
• An absolute level of your energy, power and satisfaction

(7/10)
• A relative measure of your happiness compared with others.

That’s your ranking position. You finish 3rd for instance.
Suppose every one of your friends is succeeding with their own

business and you feel stacked within an 8 to 5 day job. You will
naturally feel unhappy because you compare yourself with your
friends.
Your environment gets used to your energy level.
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When you decide to shift negative thinking patterns, you have to

reshape not only your thoughts but the way others look at you as well.
Everyone has a comfort zone.
Suppose you are a man and have a male good friend. You recently
went through a break up with your partner. This friend has been
helping you with that.
In the last 2 months, your break up has been your number one
conversation topic.
Your friend got used to your mind set. He knows your emotions and
knows how you feel.
With your friend, you do create a “comfort zone”. A comfort zone is a

mind set, activities, behaviors and attitudes which define your
connection with him.
The moment you truly get over your break up and maybe start dating
again, you need to shift the “old” comfort zone you created with this
friend.
As you can imagine in this situation, it might be a relief for him to be

able to shift conversation topics.
A good friend will encourage a positive life shift in you.
However, you will have to educate him so that he stops seeing you as
a victim.
The "renewal power" needs to be strong enough to shift not only your
mind, it is has to shift your friend's mind as well.
In fact, it is your whole social power base you are rebuilding.
Here is another example:
Imagine the same situation with much older mind sets.
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These much older mind sets are behaviors and attitudes which were
there from the very beginning.
Suppose you have a few good friends and you have been relating to
them in the same way for many years.
You play a certain role within this social circle.
Suppose you see yourself as a loser.
Suppose that’s the way your social circle sees you as well.
Suppose they tease you on that.
They might say things or behave in a way that puts you down.
Suppose you are male, 30 and single and did not have a girl friend in
ages.
One of your friends might systematically come and say things like:
“So, where is your date? Oh… that’s right… You have no date”
He might say this in a teasing way.
The truth is that it makes him feel good.
He does put you down by coming over and over again with the same
story.
Your lack of success comforts him.
Why is that?
Because he does not need to think of another joke and in comparison

to you, he feels pretty successful with women.
It’s easy. He knows the dynamics.
If you show up one day with a gorgeous date, it will challenge him.
He’ll need to shift his mind set and the way he relates to you.
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Competing for success and

happiness
Establishing a new mind set is a lot about competition.
This is a battle.
Why is that? Because some people can put you down simply to feel
great about themselves.
I know it might be tough to hear, but even your closest friend or

partner might put you down and not let you break through your own
limits.
Why would the person who loves you the most put you down?
Because it’s no only about love, it is about power as well.
You are competing with your environment all the time.
Your friends do measure their level of power according to where their

environment is at.
Suppose you could measure happiness in a scale of 0 to 10.
Suppose you are at 5/10 and your closest friend is at 8/10.
Suppose now, that you get yourself a book on positive thinking and
you start working on building a strong and empowering mind set.
Suppose your level of happiness goes to 9/10.
Is this a good thing for your best friend?
You get the point, right?
Your best friend can think something like:
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• “You know, I am really happy for you. Looks like you succeeded
in shifting things around. You are achieving everything you
wanted”
This is a positive outlook on your situation. Most people are able to do

that.
However, there is usually another “voice”, even in your best friend

which says something like:
• “He is now more successful than I am”
This last voice is the expression of the competitive spirit.
Competition is everywhere, even in the quest for happiness.
Best friends do estimate their level of satisfaction according to how

they are doing compared with their environment.
Sometimes this competitive underlying dynamic can be very strong.
Sometimes it is can hardly be felt.
Imagine now the same dynamic happening not only with best friends
but with everyone in your environment, family, colleagues, social
circle, etc.
Who says that everyone wants you to succeed?
There is competition even for happiness and success.
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What are negative projections?

A projection is a thought or an emotion. Any time you interact with
others, you are literally bombarded by psychic impressions.
These impressions impact on your mind and can leave “blue prints” in
the form of feelings.
Feelings are simply impressions on the surface of your mind.
Suppose you enter in a café with a couple of friends.
Within a few seconds, you pick up on looks, words, expressions,

temperature, atmosphere, etc.
All these impressions will impact on your mind and generate feelings,
thoughts and emotions.
Within a minute, you created a new mind set which is the reflection of
all these impressions.
This new mind set is an architecture of thoughts, feelings and

emotions.
You will interact with your environment through this mind set. You will
send all sorts of signals to your environment through expression and
body language.
This mind set is an inner equilibrium that reflects the mind projections
and energy in this café.
Some of these projections generate positive feelings in you.
You will get for instance a positive feeling from a smile or a kind tone
of voice from an acquaintance.
You will get a negative feeling through a judging look, or a loud

invasive friend spilling bear on your shoes.
Can you see how this works?
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These millions of projections impact on your mind.
If you feel strong and confident, and armed with a very positive mind
set, negative projections will simply bounce on the surface of your
mind.
A negative look won’t touch you.
What if you feel really sad because you just had a fight with an ex?
You’ll feel more vulnerable and extra pressure will impact on you,
right?
When you work on your thoughts and feelings, you develop new tools
to defend your mind territory.
This means that you must recognize negative projections and come
with an empowering mind set which protects your inner space.
This requires some “warrior” skills.
You must realize that this is a battle for power and energy.
This battle is going on all the time. Some people are very sensitive to
it and systematically feel the judgment of others.
Other people are strong and confident and feel nothing: no challenge!
No competition!
The moment you wake up new potentials in you, you must increase
your level of awareness and recognize sources of challenge.
You need to be able to shift from “relaxed” to “battle” mood in no time

and not let negative influences take root in your mind.
It is a battle! Defend your territory.
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Part 11 – Real life

examples with best
strategies
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Negative thinking triggers

What are the triggers which bring you to negative thinking loops?
You might see different external or internal causes but all these causes
can be summarized to one simple element:
Lack of power
This lack of power can be expressed in many forms:
• Lack of skills
• Lack of support
• Lack of resources
• Lack of energy
• Lack of love
• Lack of success or results
• Lack of money
• Lack of social life and friends
• Lack of recognition or validation
• Etc.
All these examples show one thing: when you enter into negative
thinking loops, it shows that there is a power gap somewhere.
When you are negative about your life or your environment, you are
simply in a state of energy depletion.
This is different than clinical depression.
Energy depletion is a more general term.
Energy depletion simply expresses the fact that you don’t have enough
energy or power.
The result is simple: your mind gets invaded by negative thoughts.
Negative thoughts are the result of a conflict between you and your
environment.
Negative thoughts happen because there is competition of energy.
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Negative thoughts and emotions are the result of an interaction. They

are the sign that you are struggling to defend your mind territory.
When you win your life “challenges”, you feel good about yourself.
Suppose you have a business and you achieve excellent sales results
during the year.
Business success is a form of validation of your activity. You get

rewarded financially and gain as well satisfaction in the form of
recognition from friends, family and business network.
This business success can make you very satisfied because you will
feel valued.
This financial and emotional validation gives you power.
It is free energy and positive attention coming into your life.
The reason you feel great is because your being gets rewarded.
It is a victory.
You did win a battle.
When you win a battle you have two possible reactions:
Be very happy and satisfied by your victory
Believe it is not good enough and maintain a dissatisfied attitude.
Can you see how the same result can lead to two very different
feelings depending on the way you stand in it?
When you are dissatisfied about a victory, you forget to celebrate and
stay in the "battle mood".
Winning a million is not enough. You want more, bigger or better.
Take a silver medalist in the 200 m. women Olympic Games.
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The silver medalist can be very happy and satisfied about his silver
medal. On the other hand she can as well believe it was not good
enough and be very angry and disappointed with her performance.
In this case disappointment has to do with a level of expectation.
She has very high expectations and a silver medal is not good enough.
She can actually decide before the race if she will be happy with silver
or not. She’ll tell the reporters:
“I’m going for the win!”
When she finishes second, she can say:
“I gave it my best shot! This was an incredible race and I’m very
happy with the result”
Too high expectations can kill the pleasure of a victory.
You might sometimes achieve victories in your life and then forget to
celebrate because your expectations are much higher.
If you are doing this consciously, it’s no problem.
You simply play with motivation forces and keep a much higher level of
focus and concentration.
You already focus on your next step or next challenge even when you
win a victory.
Here is the conclusion:
You have basically two types of mechanisms involved in negative

thinking loops:
The first mechanism is a real power gap. In other terms, it is related

with a real lack of success, energy, attention, validation, etc.
The second mechanism is related with your own perception of your

experience. In other terms, it is related with your level of expectations.
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The strategies you use to tackle negative thinking targets both of

these mechanisms.
If you really miss power and validation for instance, the goal is to
actually shift your level of power and ad extra qualities to your
existence.
If you simply have very high expectations and are systematically

dissatisfied, you will work on your mind set and the way you perceive
your successes and achievements.
So, to summarize, when you are in a situation of energy or power

depletion, you can work on two levels:
Shifting your personal situation.
Shifting the way you stand in it or see this situation.
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How to shift your power level

Your level of power is the result of your relationship with yourself and
your environment.
Suppose you live in a foreign country and feel quite isolated.
You go to expat events but after a couple of years, you still did not
make any real new friends.
You are a woman. You are married. You traveled with your partner and
don’t have your own profession.
This is a situation which tends to isolate you, right? You don’t get
enough validation from your actions. You miss real personal goals and
challenges.
You try new studies without really getting a kick from it. You keep
trying but don’t feel really happy.
You feel a growing dissatisfaction related with your situation.
The real alternative would be to have children now but your partner
wants to wait another couple of years.
Your social circle is very limited.
In this situation you miss power in many levels:
Lack of professional satisfaction
Isolation
Lack of goals
Lack of validation
Vulnerable emotional foundation because you are in a foreign country.
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As you can imagine, there are actually strategies to deal with these
challenges. The way to solve these challenges is to take action and
redesign your goals.
You can imagine that such situation could easily generate lots of
negative emotions and feelings simply by the fact that you miss a
close circle of friends for instance.
Now, you can share the way you feel. You can talk about it. You can
try to understand why you end up in this situation. You can dig in the
past. All these strategies are useful but won’t be enough to have a real
transforming effect.
What will shift the way you feel is actually taking action and gaining
more power.
Suppose you have a couple of therapy or coaching sessions.
This will nurture your being and eventually help you understand what
is going on.
You will share your experience and get some emotional support.
Once you do that, you want to shift your action plan and come with
new strategies to break through the cycle you are in.
Basically, you are dissatisfied with your life.
Negative thoughts are only the waves on the surface of your mind.
Deep inside, you want to tackle the real issue:
How to gain back you full power and express your total
potential.
This is the real strategy: you want to shift your course of action and
invest into activities which do validate you.
In such situations, the goals are truly to:
• Be more successful with your life.

• Wake up your life power.
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• Unleash your hidden resources.
How long does it take to shift your personal base?
It can take a few months.
This is a reasonable target. You will shift the way you spend your day
and the way you relate to others.
As you can see, you are not targeting your thoughts: you are targeting
your actions and doing something about your life and the way you
stand in it.
This is the real strategy: Action!
The goal is simple:
Step 1: Identify your area of dissatisfaction. What is the number cause

of dissatisfaction? Is it because of professional failure, weight issues,
lack of friends, a recent break up, etc.? What is your number one area
of dissatisfaction?
Step 2: Design a strategy. Simply reacting to your situation is not

enough. This is a battle. If you want to win, you need solid and
effective strategies!
Step 3: Take action. Invest in this area. Do something about it. Make
it your priority number one. Break through!
As you can see, negative thinking is only a trigger.
It is a form of alarm system which says:
“Look! Something is wrong. Let’s do something about it!”
This is what negative thinking tells you.
You can of course lower your expectations and learn to be satisfied

with what you have.
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However, when the power gap is real and you are truly
underperforming in your life, taking action will be more effective.
In the next few chapters, I have analyzed key life situations which
tend to generate negative thinking and negative emotions.
I’ll show you some key strategies to handle these challenges.
These are only a few key ideas. Most of these topics are whole life
coaching areas in themselves.
If you want extra resources on these topics, simply check

www.vitalcoaching.com .
You will find extra resources in the form of e-books and articles on
most of these topics.
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Life vision
Negative thinking can be generated by lack of life vision and purpose.
You have this key question: “What am I doing here?”
In other terms, you are looking for meaning.
The plans and projects you have for your life are not exciting enough.
You want more. You want to break through and simply achieve things.
Here is a simple strategy to handle this challenge:
Focus first on what thrills you
This can sound simple and it is! When you wake up in the morning,
you often end up doing only practical tasks. Your driving force is not
excitement. You simply do what needs to be done.
Your new goal is simple! Shift your mind set and focus first on what
thrills and excites you.
Emotional fuel and motivation are very precious. They are your fire.
Use this fire as your driving force and focus at 100% on your passions.
Before you start your day, ask yourself: “What is truly exciting for me
today?” And focus on that.
Everyone has at least some level of freedom. Use that freedom and
focus on what thrills you!
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Social life
Social isolation and lack of friends can be extremely draining. If you
feel isolated, you want to break the cycle.
This is tough and it is not easy to do, but it is within your range.
The goal is simple: Step beyond your comfort zone.
In other terms, take risks!
If you feel shy and insecure, it is often related with the way you see
yourself and your body.
Confidence is a quality you build by taking action and challenging

yourself.
Every time you step back within your comfort zone, you reinforce
hesitations, doubts and isolation. Don’t!
Move forward and develop new social skills. Make it your priority
number one for the coming month!
Invest in it!
Establish contacts online. Use forums or dating sites as a training

ground.
The number one quality people look for when going out is fun!
Dare to be fun!
Shift the way you dress, open up and do challenge yourself. Anything
your try is a success. Don’t worry about outcomes and don’t let
anyone or any rejection stop you.
Social life is challenging. People do confront you. They judge you. This
is a place to build character and wake up your full power.
Focus on fun and dare to take action!
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Give yourself what you want!
Take back control of your social life!!!
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Business and professional success

It’s a fact! Many people are dissatisfied with their jobs. Businesses and
organizations can be constricting and limiting for your own growth.
This can happen. You can spend the next few years of your life
complaining about a job you don’t like or sit down today and truly look
deeper into what can be done about it.
Make it your priority number for the coming month.
You might be surprised to discover new ways of standing in your

profession. Sometimes your actions simply don’t match your task.
We would of course need another e-book to treat this subject.
However, take simply the time to sit down and truly ask yourself:
“What can I do about it”
If you feel like you need extra power to break though, follow the links
at the end of this e-book and sign in for a few coaching sessions.
I’ll show you some powerful strategies to unleash your full power.
Same goes for business success. If you own a business and are not
getting the results you want, you can do something about it.
Again, doing business is a battle. It is competition.
To win, you need effective strategies.
To design strategies, you need at least to sit down and think about the
key challenges you face and how to solve them:
Is this a marketing challenge?
Is your product solid enough?
Are you facing organizational problems?
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Who could help you with that?
Is this a balance work/free time issue?
Are you simply bored with the present goals or products?
Etc.
As you can see, there are dozens of key challenges you can face with
your business. I believe that there is a solution for every challenge.
The answer can sometimes be that you can’t win with your present
action line.
However, your life is easier when you know about it than when you
don’t.
Do what it takes to gain clarity and design effective strategies to deal

with the challenge.
It might take you a month. It might take you six months!
The truth is that negative thinking loops do not help with that!
To break the cycle, use your mind in a different way: analyze the
situation, design effective strategies and take action.
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Love life
Another vast area in your life!
The key to love satisfaction is to stay master of your love, not a victim
of it.
What you want is simple: You want to own your love life.
Love is not something which happens to you. Love is a core source of

power and energy inside yourself.
You decide when you give it and to who. You are in charge.
The key challenging situations with your love life have to do with:
Finding someone: Is this your challenge? Do you get trapped in

negative beliefs because you are single and want to meet someone?
Mastering the dating environment: Once you start dating, the goal is
to thrive with your love experience without loosing yourself. You loose
yourself when you love someone who does not love you back enough.
Designing a harmonious relationship: How to deal with fights, jealousy

or other challenges. This is another area where new skills and
strategies are definitely welcome
Dealing with a break up or divorce: A break up is tough. If this is what

you are going through, I know exactly how you feel. A break up is a
battle situation. When it happens, the goal is simple: get your full
power back.
These are some of the key challenges you can face with love and
dating.
In this area, coming with the right strategy and mind set is essential if
you want to succeed.
The trick is that most of your dating skills are simply discovered and
learned on the spot. You tend to improvise and simply react to
situations.
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The goal is to step back and understand a bit more about love and
power dynamics.
Once you see really how dating and love works, it is much easier to
come with effective strategies and behaviors.
The greatest mistake you can do right now is believing that you have
no control over your love life.
100% wrong!
You do have great influence! In fact you are the person who has the
greatest influence over what your love life looks like.
Do you realize that you are actually the designer of your love life or
relationship?
Take steps and dig into it.
If this is your number one challenge, make it your priority number one
for the next month.
I am serious! Drop everything else and decide today to dig into it.
It’s your life! You are worth it!
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Family expectations
High family expectations and demands can be very draining for you
and make you very unhappy.
This can happen with teenagers and young adults in relation to

parent's expectations.
If you are in a relationship and have children, you can spend your life
doing things for your partner or your children without ever having a
minute for yourself.
This can be draining and make you loose contact with who you are.
The strategy?
Learn to be selfish.
Really?
Yes!!!
You are the most important person in your life!
Put it this way: your moods and emotions influence everyone! You are
an example for those around you.
If you fail to be happy and satisfied about your life, everyone looses.
Your time and energy are precious.
They were given to you!
They do belong to you!
No one but you owns your life!
You are priority number one.
Create space for yourself and focus first on what you want!
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You are master of your actions, attitudes, thoughts, emotions, time

frame and personal space.
You are in charge of your life. No one else is.
Gain back control over what is yours and give when you want to give,
not when you are forced to.
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Body
Your body is your temple!
It is your greatest asset together with your mind.
The number one challenge in today’s society is related with weight

issues.
Over eating can be a self destructive spiral.
It tends to be addictive and lead to health problems, lack of energy,

lack of mobility and life dissatisfaction.
It impacts negatively on your self esteem.
This is a big subject and again, I would need a new e-book to treat this
topic.
Here are two simple principles to feel great about your body:
Exercise
Healthy eating habits
The key is to combine both and establish long terms habits and
behaviors you can easily maintain.
Anything which is based on discipline only will fail.
Why is that?
Because you want to feel excited about your life.
Your first driving force is excitement.
Any new life style habit you establish in your day must be based on a
positive enjoyable flow rather than a restraining one.
The main mistake is to try to create habits which are too rigid and
based on discipline only.
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Any new step needs to be fun.
Moving your body and gaining back control over the way you eat are
the two essential steps in succeeding with weight related issues.
If you feel a lack of power on that level, do something about it.
I can help you design new life style and habits which will shift the way
you feel.
Get in touch. I’ll tell you more.
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Foreign country
Being in a foreign country can be tough! You can feel isolated and
pressured in a social environment you don’t master.
This is a well known phenomenon within the expat community.
It happens especially to wives who travel with their partners and miss
a sense of personal purpose.
How to handle this challenge?
Connect with a global community!
When you are in a foreign country, no matter how hard you try, you
might still feel and be considered like an outsider.
It’s true by the way! You are an outsider!
You were not born in this city. You came in only a couple of years ago.
You arrived in a community which has its own invisible rules and
accepted behaviors.
For the locals, you can be seen as a threat.
Why is that? Because you are different! You speak with a different
accent and simply come in with something new.
Something else is going on: power dynamics.
When you arrive in a new city, those who have been there for longer
have greater power than you have.
They "own" the place. They own the space.
You show up and actually "challenge" their space.
Observe the way you react to a couple of new neighbors.
You might welcome them, but your might as well “check them out”
and judge some aspects of their behavior.
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This happens naturally. It is your way of establishing a connection and

staying in control of your territory.
What do to do about all this?
Connect with the global community.
You have two types of “roots” in your life:
Your local roots which are related to where you were born and the
places you lived in.
Your global roots which are the connections you established with the
planet and the vaster human family.
When you travel and for instance, visit the pyramids of Egypt, you
connect with your global roots. You dive into deep layers of your past
and your consciousness and establish a connection with an ancient
civilization. This has nothing to do with this life time.
These “roots” you find in Egypt are about human consciousness.
They are a connection to something much vaster than the place you
were born in or your local community.
You can as well connect with the “global” community when you are
online.
If you log on to a dating site, you will meet people from all races and
countries.
This is a global community.
No one will say you are an outsider in this kind of community.

Everyone is on the same level, no matter where you are.
You can as well establish a circle of friends which stretches over the 8
continents.
This is what expats tend to, right?
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Confidence gap
Here are other ways of putting it:
• Lack of initiative
• Being shy or anxious
• Hesitating too much
All these challenges have something in common:
A power gap!
The goal is simple: Wake up your conquering power!
You build confidence by designing effective strategies and taking

action.
Every time you sit back and doubt, fear or hesitate, you reinforce your
negative beliefs.
Every time you take action (whether you succeed or not), you
reinforce your sense of initiative and risk taking.
It is okay to try and experiment. You don’t have to succeed every

time.
The best way to learn is to try.
That’s what you do when you are a child and that’s what you should be
doing as an adult.
Keep trying and experimenting.
Face your fears! Challenge yourself! Take risks!
This is the best way to wake up your full power
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Sense of connectedness
Sometimes, it is not friends you need.
You want something deeper like a sense of connection with the planet
and humankind.
In fact you don’t know exactly what you are looking for but you know
You can’t truly say "what" but you feel the urgency to start searching
or looking for deeper meaning to your life.
This is a spiritual quest.
Again, it is a vast topic and we’ll need another couple of e-books for
that one.
You want to connect with your sense of universality.
You have two identities in you:
• The first one is your personal identity. It is the person who

wakes up every morning, works, loves, laughs, etc.
• The second one is a universal identity. This is the aspect of

you which is connected with life, the planet, humankind and the
cosmos.
You can sometimes see yourself as this being on a blue planet and
realize how vast space is.
It suddenly strikes you that you are here on this blue sphere on a
galaxy and you simply realize the vastness and reality behind that.
If you feel like you want to explore and understand what is really
behind life, the goal is to start searching for answers and ways to
expand your awareness.
You want to expand your awareness and stay master of your

existence.
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You want to open new doors in your consciousness and simply tap in
you full human potential.
Again, I can't say more in this e-book.
Contact me for more.
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I want to be more positive

Here are some key ideas on how to be more positive:
• It is my choice!
Being positive is first a choice. What is going on in your mind is your

decision first. You take responsibility for your thoughts, actions and
emotions. You won't shift negativity in one day but the first step is to
decide to do something about it.
• What is negativity?
Negativity is a frustration. It is a fire, will power, life force which is

blocked, stacked and can't find a channel of expression. Negativity is a
natural instinctual response to a threat. It is a protective reflex of your
mind. It is aimed at defending your inner territory from outer
aggression.
• To be more positive, stay away from what is negative
People, thoughts, mind patterns, attitudes, activities, substances,

colors, terms, objects, music. The list is endless! Every time you
choose, you are actually selecting a state of mind. In what are you
investing your time and energy? Check your CD collection, your books,
the people you spend time with.
• Integrate what is positive in your life
Use terms like love, care, happiness, excitement, joy, pleasure, fun.
Use these terms more often. Take action which stimulate your life
force. Positivism has to do with flow and freedom, openness, feeling of
power. Take actions which reflect positivism. Positivism is a territory to
be conquered. Use your power to get where you want to be
Being positive is a choice.
When you let negativity flood you, you are simply being tolerant with
yourself, tolerant with something you know is destroying your life and
sending you where you don't want to be.
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You are in charge of your life. You are the architect of your existence.
You are the person who has the greatest power and influence over
your mind.
You have all the skills and power to be positive in life. All you have to
do is make a choice! Take a conscious decision about it and make this
the priority number one in your life.
It means investing at least time and energy in yourself.
Taking action means taking at least small risks. Your attitude towards
risk must radically shift. Risk is my friend! I love risk! Risk gives you
the power to take action.
Action is what takes you from where you are to where you want to be.
Trust and do it. Start feeding your goals!
Gaining clarity and focus towards your goal is accessible to you. All
you have to do is become superconductive to life.
Doubts, fears, hesitations are closed doors. They are what holds you
back. When you listen to your doubts and fears, you are holding back
from life. You are feeding inaction and passivity. To break that cycle
you have to take action. Start by small steps. The first thing that
comes to your mind.
You can be a renewed person within a couple of months. Action is what

takes you from where you are to where you want to be. Trust and do
it. Start feeding your goals!
Action is your friend! You love action!
Recognize an open door when you see one.
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Enjoy life more

Here are some key ideas to enjoy life more:
• Focus on what is fun, thrilling and exciting
You make hundreds of choice every day about your activities, what
you want to do, who you are going to see, etc. From now on choose
for what is fun and thrilling rather than what is practical and already
explored. If it's new, go for it!
• Become super conductive to life
Respond to occasions. Respond to what comes to you and let life flow
in those directions. Stop resisting life!
• Focus on the human side
Put humans first. Give and enjoy social contacts. Strengthen your
social skills. Give to people what they need.
• Give rhythm to your day
Same as music, rhythm is fun. It increases life. When you split your
days and shift activities, speed up, slow down, you intensify your day's
flow and life force.
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You want a solution?

Happiness is an energy you can create, a skill you can learn. It is
related with how you see your past. It is as well related with your life
vision or what you see in your future.
You are the architect of your happiness.
What is that life skill?
"How do you create happiness?" is the next question.
What is your opinion?
Here is what you can do:
Take a white page and write down 10 simple actions which could
create happiness for you. Write down the first things that come to
your mind.
Take a decision to give these actions priority in your life.
Take 5 steps a day which make you more happy!.
>>>>>>>>> Do first what makes you happy!
You are aware of it! Happiness is a choice! It is a decision you take!
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How do you find inner security

and inner peace?
Security is about being able to protect yourself and your mind space.
This means creating clear boundaries and expressing your natural

protective power.
You are bombarded daily by millions of psychic impressions which

impact on our mind and leave a form of blue print.
Digesting all this information, impressions, what we call feelings

creates stress and demands energy from you.
Gaining security means clarifying and freeing your mind and

maintaining your inner space free and open without feeling vulnerable.
How do you do that?
Creating a strong emotional foundation, both on the physical and mind

level.
Gaining inner peace means clarifying your mind and your life from
whatever is creating stress and developing a mind vehicle which is able
to deal with life's pressures without being flooded.
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If you are afraid

90% of fears in you are irrational. The best is to take steps to stretch
your comfort zone.
This is a simple training process. Suppose you are afraid of heights.
Go to the exact limit you can comfortably stand. Stay there for a while
without moving. After that take a minute step forward and stop. Step
back. And step forward again. Step back.
The second day, stretch it slightly further. and so on.
Taming your fear means taming an instinctual response. the key to

your success lies in repetition.
This means that you have to invest at least some time and focus to get
rid of whatever scares you. You can immensely stretch your confidence
by taking these small steps.
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If you feel angry with everything

Anger is simply a fire or energy which is trying to break through. There
is always a positive source of energy behind it and anger is the only
way your mind manages to express that energy.
Behind anger, there is a positive source of power.
Look at a volcano, what do you see?
On one hand a volcano is this formidable source of energy. Engineers

know now how to canalize that energy and use it to heat water in
villages. An active volcano is as well incredibly magnificent. One of the
great shows of nature.
On the other hand, a volcano can be powerfully destructive and

annihilate life all around it.
How does a volcano work on the first place? A simple process: excess
of pressure underground.
Your anger is the same: an excess of pressure inside. You can use this
excess of pressure to channel it in the most creative directions or you
can use it as a destructive force. It is energy wanting to break
through.
What you need to add are new skills to use your source of energy in a
creative way. Trying to suppress a volcano won't work. The energy is
there. You have to use it.
How do you use that energy?
Take a white page and write down what comes to your mind.
What is the best use for the extra energy you have in you?
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If you feel empty inside

Feeling empty is not usually a nice place to be in. May I give you some
ideas? You can of course use them as you wish...
The feeling of emptiness is related with a lack of spiritual connection.

There are good chances that when you hear the term spiritual, you
have many ideas and feelings coming to your mind. It could be that
these feelings are extremely negative. The thing is that it is precisely
in the spiritual dimension that you usually find the missing link.
Spiritual awareness has nothing to do with religion. When you hear the
term spiritual, you might think of someone trying to convert you to
some form of belief system. For your own sake, put this idea aside for
a while, and open just a little bit to another perspective.
Spiritual is about the spirit which is in everything. You can find it in

business, relationships, contact with nature, fun, free time, anything.
It is always there. Now when you want to make a living and earn some
money, you work and in exchange of your work, you receive a salary.
Spiritual oriented actions function with the same principle except that
the salary of your actions won't be money. It will be something else.
What is it?
It is a quality, an energy, life force, joy, happiness. When you get lots
of it at a time, we call that bliss. If there is even more it, you could call
it spiritual trance which is an ecstatic state of intense joy.
How do you reach these states? You reach them through action and
opening up. It can take time and practice. Depending on your mind
patterns, this "filling up" of your being can happen very fast or take
long years.
Here is the problem: while you are reading these words, something in
you might be rejecting them and rejecting the energy behind them.
Why? because of conditioning and ideas you did build up over the
years towards anything spiritual. You laughed at these ideas and
learned to reject them.
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The trick is that this is why you feel empty. You are rejecting the very
source of energy which can help you. It's okay. It is just a natural way
of protecting yourself and your mind space. You never know what you
will find there, beyond the limits of what you already know.
I am well intended and for me it won't make a difference if you do

something about it or not. Of course, I would enjoy seeing you happy.
What I mean is that it is your life and only you can do something
about it.
I can only tell you these words. What will make a difference is action.
Your action! It is really up to you.
Your life is in your hands.
PS: there is a chance that you are open and feel that your life is
actually quite "spiritual". If it is the case, it's only a matter of
persevering and going deeper into it. It's just a matter of time and
further action.
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If you feel isolated

Here are some key ideas about breaking the isolation cycle:
• Become super attractive to yourself
Let go of what is unattractive in you. Become super conductive to life.

Respond to opportunities.
• Take action
Breaking the cycle means stepping beyond your comfort zone. Take
steps every day to break that cycle. Respond to those who contact
you. Take small risks.
• Develop your social skills
Learn to listen. Smile. Be outgoing and fun to be with. Develop an

interesting life. Don't be self absorbed.
• Build up energy and vitality
Energy and vitality are super attractive. the more you have of it, the
more people want to be around you. Develop a healthy life style.
Exercise. Eat healthy and energizing food.
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I had difficult experiences in the

past
Negative past experiences can be extremely disturbing on a daily base.
Is this a deep burden in your life?
Clearing your past means taking back control over your life. A
Negative past experience might feel like an intrusion in your intimacy.
To clear that experience, the trick is to gain control over your life and
mind. This means retraining yourself and your emotional reactions. It
means as well developing new skills to protect your being.
The negative imprint in your mind can be strong and powerful. If you
want this print to be gone, you have to replace it by something which
is even stronger and more powerful.
This new imprint will come from your own mind and eventually as well
from external help. It means gaining trust, confidence and power. It
means reconquering your own mind space. In other terms becoming
master of your being.
How? Taking small steps and retraining your reaction in key

challenging life situations. Start by infinitely small non challenging
steps and then move to bigger steps.
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I have lots of negativity in me

Here are some key ideas to deal with negativity:
• Negativity is an excess of energy
It is a potential which is not used and saturates your emotional body.

Dealing with negativity means finding channels of expression. This
means taking at least some risks and exploring new territories.
• Use your conquering power
Negativity is a natural instinctual response aimed at protecting your

territory. You might feel invaded, frustrated by other people's actions.
In the moment you turn around that state of mind and start taking
action (no matter what), you transmute a blocked stream of life force
into a positive creative power.
• Don't feel guilty about negativity
It's not that bad. In its essence negativity has to do with your inner
power. So the source is a positive force. If you systematically withdraw
and avoid expressing what you feel, you suppress lots of emotions and
block all energy from streaming. Use that basic power and force. Do
something with it. Practice sports, exercise, energize your body.
• Take a decision to do something about it
You are the master of your mind. You are the one who has the power
to decide what goes on in it. Put it that way: if you don't do anything
about it, who will? Tolerating something you don't like in you takes lots
of energy. It drains your life! How long before you decide to do
something about it? What would it take to change a negative or
destructive mind frame?
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I hesitate too much

Every time you sit back and hesitate, you feed your doubts and
strengthen your present situation.
The key to take steps is to accept that your actions won't be perfect.
The best way to learn is to experiment. To clear your doubts, and get
answers, you test the waters with some small steps.
The key behavior here, is to take small non committed steps instead of
hesitating.
Another key behavior is to choose one time right, on time left:

alternate your choices and give some space to both options.
To stop hesitating, you have to train a new behavior in simple non

challenging life situations. It would take you just 1 week to ground this
new behavior in your life. Taking action is a life skill you can learn and
train.
When you stop hesitating and take action with trust and confidence,
your life will radically shift and flow with renewed freshness.
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I wish I had a partner

The key to find a partner is to go from passivity to action. Taking
action is the key.
If you feel like you can't move, the best is to take infinitely small
steps. there are endless daily occasions to connect and take it just one
step further.
To do that, you have to take a small risk, which means stepping

beyond your comfort zone. To find a partner, you have to do things
you never did before. Stretch you present limits.
Of course, this requires some form of decision on your side. Put it that
way: Nobody can do it for you. You are the only one who can get
moving and change the present situation.
Things can be different. Truly, it all starts with this key decision
you can take right now. Take a white page an instead of writing: "I
wish I had a partner" , write: "I want a partner".
Your desire is your emotional fuel. Your desire is what build up

motivation and gets things moving. This is the first step.
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I lack energy
Here are a few areas you can start with if you miss energy:
• Diet and exercise
Change your diet, get the input of vitamins you need: more fruit,
vegetables. Get rid of junk food. Exercise regularly, move your body,
get fit.
• Is something draining you?
Check your relationship with people in your life. Establish clearer

boundaries whenever needed to protect your personal and mind space.
Is anyone in your environment draining you? Work, family, friends?
• Emotional fuel, excitement, motivation
Check you daily activities? Are you excited about your day? Focus first
on what truly thrills you. What are the activities you find exciting?
Make them priority number one. Focus first on what is fun and
exciting.
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What am I doing with my life?

Things are really not going the way you want?
Can I ask you a direct question?
"Do you actually want to do something about it?"
In situations like these, you get actually used to your present mind
set. It takes determination, and will power to take action and actually
change something in your life.
I feel that right now, the main thing you want is recognition of where
you are at. You want validation. You are not saying something like:
"Gosh. I am sick of this! I will do whatever it takes to shift it!"
This is the real challenge.
Right now, you are still in the "nurturing" stage. You look at these
emotions and feelings. You don't like them but I believe you still did
not reach your "saturation point".
What is this "saturation point"? It is this exact moment you decide to

take action.
I believe that you are the master of your mind. You are the master of
your existence. You are the person who has the greatest influence
over what happens in your life.
It takes power and determination to "conquer" your life. You want to

own your life tools. You want to own your energy! You want to wake
up every morning and think: "Whaou! A new day!"
What gets you excited in life is valuable goals! It is values, causes and
actions your are ready to give your life for.
You can connect with a new mind set! You can aim for new refreshing
targets in your existence but to succeed, you want to make it your
number one priority.
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Doubts, passivity and hesitations are your enemy. What brings you
from where you are to where you want to be is action.
You don't know the right path? No problem. 90% of what you learn in
life is about trying and experimenting. If you want to shift your mind
set, you need to take action, try, experiment and see any step as a
learning experience.
I am not saying this is easy to do. What I can guarantee you is that
the moment you "wake up" and start taking steps (no matter what
they are) you tap into a new set of inner resources. Call these
resources your conquering power, your fighting skills.
It takes power and determination to break through an existing mind

set. Change is always stressful and challenging. Every time you try
new things in life, you always get in touch with a new set of thoughts,
emotions and energies you need to integrate. This is why any change
puts you under pressure. This is why many people will stay within a
comfort zone they don't like rather than taking risks and stepping in
unknown territories.
I admire you! I admire your move. You posted a question and got
some great answers.
You have a positive base in life. Now, you could have much more but I
believe, you'll need to fight for it.
Wake up your full power! You're worth it!
Does this make sense?
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Feel stacked!
It feels like your life wants to connect with something new and
refreshing but you don't really know where to find it or how to express
it.
It's quite normal and it is really good to sit down and ask yourself
these questions.
Staying socially active requires skills and determination. You need to

give it priority, stay open, respond to opportunities and widen your
horizons. Don't reject any opportunity. Go with the flow and be
spontaneous. Dare to open up and do things you never did before.
Every time you step beyond your comfort zone, it feels challenging.
This is why you usually tend to sit back and wait for things to come to
you.
If it's not happening it is time to conquer a new territory. This requires

power and determination. You can for instance go online and make
new contacts with girls in that way.
Realize that you can't expect your professional environment to provide

you with these opportunities. Right now, you seem to rely on that.
Mistake! Work place romances can be tricky anyway and the chances
that you meet the girl of your dreams at work are very slim.
You need to stretch yourself and make it your priority number one.
Learn more about flirting and seduction (there is loads of free tips
about this on the net). Merely thinking about it one day is not enough.
Immerse yourself in it.
This is about personal growth.
You'll learn a lot about yourself by taking steps. If people don't call
you, takes steps and call them. If they don't respond, establish new
contacts. It takes power and determination to break through.
Now is the time! Now is your time! Step forward and do whatever it
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takes to connect. You are 100% worth it!
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How do I make this broken record

stop?
A broken record is like a program. Something in you picked it up and
started playing it one day.
It is rooted in your mind because it was associated with strong

emotions.
Now, you want this record to stop, right?
You want to have another set of thoughts in your mind.
The reason the record keeps playing is because emotions are not
digested. These emotions try to find a way out but don't have the
space to be expressed.
If you want to release these thoughts, the best is to have a chat with
your friend. Say something like:
"You know what, I believe you and I have a strong friendship and I
don't want anything to stand on the way but somehow I am angry with
you for something which happened. As long as I don't tell you, it will
stay around, do you know what I am talking about?..."
To tell you the truth, these thoughts you have are a natural defense
mechanism. It is an instinctual response to an aggression or attack on
your life or your mind.
These thoughts happen because you have natural fighting skills. The
moment you dare to express what you feel, these thoughts will stop
because you give them space.
Don't feel guilty. Express what you feel and move on.
This is an occasion to learn to express what you feel and defend your
life. The moment you do, you'll be able to stand with a stronger
emotional foundation. This is part of your "character building".
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Part 12 – Your
happiness tools
If you want long term happiness, you want to arm yourself with the
right tools.
These tools are mind sets, beliefs, key ideas and attitudes you can
wake up in your life.
In the next few pages will invoke some of the key pillars which give
your happiness power and strength.
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It is time for change

Change is a very subtle mechanism in your life.
It is a transition.
Right now, everything supports your change.
Everything support your evolution and your stepping forward.
Trust this force.
However, change is challenging.
Every time you shift your mind set, your enter into a new territory
which requires you to integrate new energies.
This is why you tend to resist change: It is because change tends to

put your under pressure.
It is usually easier to stay where you are than to move.
Change requires energy.
It is a move.
It is an action.
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Remove obstacles
The path to happiness is simple: remove what is on the way.
If life flow generates pleasure, then remove what stops life flow.
Life flow is rhythm.
It is exchange of energy.
In other terms, be superconductive to life.
You are a unique being and no matter where you are, life always flows
in your system.
Remove doubts and hesitations and replace them by trust and

confidence.
You want more power to do this.
Happiness is a territory you want to protect.
Destroy anything in you which stops the flow of life force in your
system!
Annihilate it!
Dissolve it!
Remember that you are connected always even when there is no

external response.
Your path of power gives you the tools to preserve your mind space.
This is the invisible support and love you get from nature and the
planet.
Why do we talk about mother earth?
Because the planet is your home.
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Even when you are not nurtured by other human beings or friends, the
planet and nature still do nurture you.
Have you ever felt blessed out or happy by yourself.
Have you ever felt a sudden desire to laugh or smile to yourself.
This is a drop of bliss.
Where did it come from?
How did it happen?
It was the sudden flow of joy and life force.
When you feel any form of spontaneous bliss, joy or pleasure, it is

because life flows in you.
It is the activation of your happiness channels.
The love from the planet or a universal sea of energy sustains this
bliss.
It opens doors.
Any place.
Any time.
It is a basic human quality to be connected with the universal life

power.
Everyone is!
Some are aware of it, some are not.
Now, life force is a precious substance.
You want to wake the power to stay master of it.
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Master your life power

Sometimes, after you feel happy, you are almost afraid it will go away.
You feel a cycle of energy, going.
You see yourself going from a moment of pleasure to sadness or

another negative emotion.
The reason this happens is because your "happiness channels" are not
strong enough yet.
Your mind gets invaded by negative emotions and bliss tends to fade
away.
Your mind is your territory.
You decide what happens in it.
Happiness is something you build consciously.
The moment you feel your happiness channels being shut down, go
and do something about it.
Your life is your territory.
Imagine a pile of gold sitting somewhere on a mountain top.
What would you do?
You would conquer obstacles to reach it, right?
You use your conquering power.
This is your ability to wake up a fresh stream of determination and go

for it.
Relate to happiness in a similar way
Happiness is a territory to conquer.
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It is in you.
It is in your mind.
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Quest for beauty and harmony

There is a moment when the battle stops.
You no longer conquer but you nurture your inner being.
What protects you ultimately is the refinement of your mind.
Imagine a dense tropical forest.
It is fertile and sometimes can't be penetrated at all.
This intertwined vegetation is the result of organic expansion.
Happiness functions in the same way.
Once your mind is fertile to it, happiness simply grows and expands in
a refined way, creating a protective inner ecosystem.
Happiness is nurtured by love.
When you care for life, you exchange love.
It is sometimes enough to have a plant and to water it to feel this

exchange of life force.
It is as simple as that.
When you plant a few lettuces in your garden, you nurture the forces
of nature and offer some support to creation.
This is why people choose to have pet.
It gives them an extra connection with a source of life force.
You share energy.
You love and give care.
When you actively care for your children, you take a similar step.
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You give love and nurture this inner space, this inner dimension of
harmony.
Creation needs your help.
It needs you to participate in it.
As a citizen of the planet, you give and receive in return.
This the art of exchanging life force.
When you listen to music or cook a special meal, you create

refinement in your life and in your mind.
It is this refinement which becomes your inner “tropical forest”.
Refinement is what nurtures and protects your happiness.
Music is sound.
Sound is energy.
Sound opens doors.
It dissolves resistance.
The moment you sing, you open up.
Try it!
Nothing stops you from trying it right now.
It is as simple as that.
Life force is everywhere and you have hundreds of opportunities to

wake it up daily.
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Conquering power
Happiness is a territory to be conquered.
It is okay to use your will power and do what it takes to master your
happiness.
No need to be soft with that.
Use all your weapons.
Use all your tools.
Imagine that you need to protect a child from an aggressor.
Use your weapons!
There are resources you are not using right now.
Why? because you believe it is not okay.
Showing determination to protect your life is okay.
You are fearless and it is okay to do what it takes to protect your joy
and pleasure in life.
Suppose someone wants to put you down.
Defend yourself!
Fight back!
Do whatever it takes to not let this attack reach the core of your
being.
Some forces are here to challenge your strength.
They are here to test your resistance and simply check if you did learn
your lesson.
You can see life as a training ground.
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The ultimate goal is life mastery.
It is the ability to choose and decide for yourself what you want to
have in your mind.
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What are your energy sponsors

and how to connect with them
If you want to climb a mountain, you will look for sponsors who are
ready to help you financially.
It is an exchange.
You carry their name to the top of the world and they offer you
financial support in exchange.
On an energy and emotional level, this happens in the same way.
When you decide to study and your family supports you in that, they
become your energy sponsors.
They provide financial and emotional support to help you with that.
In exchange, you give them love, respect and you make them proud
when you succeed.
They will feel happier of course if you do succeed.
If you engage in politics, the same will happen.
You will have a party supporting your moves and backing you up with
your campaign.
A business association can sponsor your start up.
A community can sponsor you with the education of your children.
Happiness and life force are as well sponsored by sources of power and
energy.
What are these sponsors?
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What are the sponsors of your

happiness?
Check in your past and remember moments you felt a break through
of bliss or happiness.
These moments will be associated with an exchange of love, a feeling

of openness in nature, a professional or sport success, a commitment,
etc.
Can you remember your moments.
If you check the underlying dynamics of your joy, there is always and
"energy sponsor" behind your pleasure, joy or happiness.
If you look into your partner's eyes and have this sudden feeling of
love, the relationship or couple "spirit" sponsors your happiness.
If you are next to the sea and feel bliss when looking towards the
horizon, you are sponsored by the energy of nature.
If you feel bliss when listening to a sonata from Mozart, your joy is
sponsored by an artistic expression.
The conclusion is simple: there is always a "spirit" or energy sponsor

behind your joy.
For you, it simply happens but in truth, happiness is a mechanism.
It happens for a reason.
It happens because a specific balance of energy creates a flow of life

force in your being.
This flow of life force is an opening of your mind.
It is a freeing of tensions. It is a sudden flow of energy.
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Here is an example: music creates

joy
The goal of music is to create bliss.
When you play music, it gives you comfort.
Live music will create a set of emotions which is slightly different than
recorded music.
However, both tend to lead you into the same direction.
If you read a paper, you won't usually feel blessed out.
The news you read activate an inner reflection, thoughts and emotions
which are quiet far away from music's refinement.
It can still be a form of bliss.
Imagine some people playing in the waves.
Look at surfers in the sunset.
You usually feel this mystical union with the ocean and the waves.
The conclusion is simple: different actions create different emotions.
If you want more joy and pleasure in your life, you want to perform
more joy related actions.
Check in your environment.
Check your day.
When are the moments you consciously invoke or invite pleasure in

your life?
If you are used to simply receiving, it's time to change your mind.
As long as you stay passive, nothing will change.
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What brings you from sadness to happiness is conscious action.
You can wait for people to bring it to you...
It won't happen.
You are the designer and the creator.
Happiness is a “meal” you can cook.
The right ingredients will create the expected result.
Every time?
Not always.
At least, not in the beginning.
Happiness is however a "substance" you can learn to manipulate.
You simply become a master in the art of waking it up in you.
What do you need? New skills.
If your set of life actions does not generate happiness, it is time to ad

new qualities in your existence.
I am serious.
Different actions create different results.
Eating an apple creates a different result in your system than eating

junk food.
It is a choice!
Every time!
It is your decision!
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Where to start?
Every journey starts with a small step.
Happiness is simply an accumulation of small steps.
When you start traveling in that direction, you might take a step, and
think to yourself: "Are we there yet?"
wrong thinking.
That's not the way it works.
Happiness is a choice you make every day.
You choose for power, life force, joy, pleasure, passion, freedom, love,
etc.
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Nothing can stop you

You already have all the power you need.
It is simple.
You already have enough energy to break through.
This is why you want to strengthen your links with your energy
sponsors.
You want to strengthen you link with nature because every time you
love nature, nature loves you back.
It is magical.
The same goes with friends or family connections.
Relating to others is a territory you want to conquer.
People can try to stop you, laugh at you or reject you for fun.
All these are battle strategies.
Why battle? Because there is always a conflict for power.
When you reach out to conquer the territory of your happiness, you
create a new mind set which does give you extra power and resources.
People compete with each other.
As simple as that.
The one who masters happiness is sitting on a gold mine.
Truly! This is you.
This is why people can react to it.
Some friends can sponsor your moves.
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Some others will get jealous and challenge you.
Try singing in the metro.
What will happen?
There are those who smile and enjoy it and those who cannot stand it.
You see: sponsors and challengers.
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Wake up you happiness skills

Creating happiness is a life skill.
Where do you learn those skills?
There are actually systems which teach you or show you how to build
it up.
The Dalai Lama teaches a path of peace and happiness, right?
My website where you got this e-book is as well dedicated to

sponsoring you in developing those skills.
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Emotional freedom
Happiness is a flow of energy.
When you get lots of it, it becomes bliss.
Even more? You get mystical trance or ecstasy (not the pill!)
Any moment of intense joy, pleasure or satisfaction is a break through

of energy.
What happens when you eat?
You ad life force to your being.
You give yourself new fresh energy.
Stop breathing for 30 seconds.
Then breath again.
Why does it feel so good?
Because the air is filled with particles of oxygen and you need this
oxygen to live.
Oxygen is life.
The moment you breathe, you connect with life.
What about sex?
A sexual orgasm is as well a breakthrough of energy.
Symbolically you open your being for the possibility of creating a new
life.
Having sex is specifically manifesting a new life or bringing a new life

into incarnation.
What happens on your mind level?
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Your inner doors open up.
You are freed from the limitations of your own mind.
This is why it feels good.
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6 easy steps to establish a new

positive habit in your life
Your mind is a subtle ecosystem of forces and energies.
It is organic in essence.
It is alive!
When you feel unhappy, it means that some quality is missing: it can
be power, love, energy or anything else.
If you want to shift your mind set, you want to ad the quality which is
missing.
The best way to ad this quality is to take action in one way or another.
Habits are actions your perform regularly.
They are the result of a conditioning.
These habits are steps you learned to take in life and which maintain
the frame of your day.
Now, some actions do generate a very positive flow of energy.
Some other actions drain your system and stop your life force.
When you consciously establish a new habit in your life, you design a
new architecture which empowers the way you stand in life.
Take a simple habit like having a good breakfast when you wake up.
You think: “Yeah! Right… What does it change?”
The answer is that “it changes everything!!!!”
When you establish a new habit, you take control!
You decide what your day is going to look like.
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Now, having a good breakfast is only one habit.
Now, imagine what happens when you establish 20 new positive habits
in your life!
What do you think the impact would be?
Your day becomes a succession of positive steps and you jump from
one island of power and strength to another island of power and
strength.
When you day is filled with positive actions, your mind feels totally
empowered and vibrant!
Now, you probably think that this is lots of effort, right?
It’s not!
It requires more effort and energy to be unhappy than to shift a simple

behavior.
I agree with you: any change in your life requires energy and focus.
Now, energy is like money you invest in the stock market.
If you invest it wisely, it multiplies!!!
This is good news!
As soon as you connect with positive sources of energy in your being,

life does the rest.
You are not breathing with your will power right now.
It simply happens.
It goes on by itself without you making any effort.
Happiness functions in the same way.
It takes some focus and energy in the beginning because you shift
habit patterns and mind sets.
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You integrate new energy in your system.
This energy shifts things around and “reorganizes” your inner world.
This is why you feel a slight stress on your being when you engage
yourself on a new path.
Here are some key elements you must respect when establishing a
new habit:
• Establish one new habit at a time. For instance if you decide

to have a healthy breakfast from now on, focus on this habit
only.
• Focus on your habit for a week. In the beginning, you need

to practice it. You can ad another habit the following week, while
maintaining what you already learned.
• It takes 1 to 3 months to really own a new habit. Once you

invite this new habit in your life over a week, be aware that it
will take 1 to 3 months for this habit to be firmly established in
your life. Conclusion? Stay focused!
• Focus on your top priority. To establish a new habit, you need

motivation, desire and will power. You will get all those only if
the new habit you want to manifest in your life is really exciting
and important to you. Focus on what truly matters.
• One day a week, simply let it go. When creating a new habit
you can generate a slight stress or pressure. One day a week,
release the stress and simply let go (Sunday is usually a good
time for that). Everything in life needs a rest. This will make sure
that you can maintain your habit on the long term.
• Choose exciting targets! Focus on what thrills you! If your

new habit is boring, it will die by lack of emotional stimulation.
Focus on what thrills you and you will build up excitement and
energy.
I guarantee you that if you respect these 6 elements, you will be able
to invite new positive habits and attitudes in your life.
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Imagine that every week, you focus on a new habit, imagine the effect
that this can have on your life within a period of 3 months.
It is a direct and simple way to renew your existence and shift around
what you no longer want.
Here is how you can start:
• If you could shift one element in your life between now

and next week, what would that be?
Now, write this down.
If the target you selected is quite vast, break your target into small
“affordable” parts.
For instance if your target is “find a partner and have a happy

relationship”, break this target into small parts like:
• Sign in into a dating site

• Get myself a new hair style
• Go out at least once a week
• Exercise at least twice a week
• Etc.
You break your target into small parts and focus on one of these new
targets every week.
You create an environment and life style which is conductive for your
reaching your goals.
Okay?
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So now, you have your big target and eventually smaller individual
targets.
Write these targets down.
Now, look at your list or single target.
Ask yourself:
• When can you start?
If the answer is “right now”, go ahead and take a step and take the
resolution of focusing on this new action for a week.
If the answer is “later in the week”, take steps to prepare the ground
and make sure that when the moment comes, you are ready for it.
The following week, repeat the same cycle of selecting a new target
and focusing on it for a week.
This is only an example to show you the dynamics of creating new

habits in your life.
You can start right now!
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Part 13 – Key tactics

to wake up your
happiness
Happiness techniques?
Yes!
Techniques!
Happiness is a mind set your consciously build in your life.
If it does not happen spontaneously, it is simply because your

“happiness channels” are not yet fully opened.
What is a happiness channel?
It is a habit, behavior, mind set or attitude towards your life.
You want to perform at your best.
You want your mind to be your ally and help you achieve whatever you
want in life.
Your mind is your tool. It is your vehicle.
In the next few pages, we will analyze exactly what to do to maximize

the full potential of your mind and build up empowering mind sets.
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Get rid of the victim role

When your friends get used to you being unhappy, it quickly works
against you.
When you receive pity and negative projections, it puts you into the
victim role.
This is totally disempowering on the long term.
You must break the cycle and teach people around you how to look at
you in a different way.
Shift your mind and don’t let your friends, family or colleagues
strengthen the victim role in you.
How do you do that?
You tell them!
If anyone tells you “So, are you feeling better today?” in a patronizing
voice, stand up, smile and say something like:
“I am really excited about what comes up today. I have this meeting a

11 which I think will be a total success!”
A mind set is like a shirt you put on.
You decide the role you want to play.
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Connect with positive sources of

inspiration
This might be the most important step along the line of establishing
long term happiness.
Everything around you has an impact on your mind.
Connections, actions, activities, music, books… all deeply impact on

your life and the way you feel.
If you take it one step deeper, you realize that happiness is about
energy.
It is about your core beliefs.
It is about the people you connect to, your community and your
profound sources of inspiration.
Coaching, personal growth or mind power are streams of inspiration.
There is an energy or a spirit behind them.
When you read this e-book, you connect with a specific source of
inspiration.
It is the same source which inspired me to write it in the first place.
Having one book is one step.
Now imagine having dozens of links in your mind connected with

positive streams of inspiration.
Imagine being surrounded and supported by a group of friends who

strive to build up successful existences and make the best with their
lives.
This goes beyond the personal development stream of course.
It touches spiritual values and profound beliefs as well.
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So, where to start?
Here is a simple technique:
Take 5 objects around you (book, CD, magazine, etc)
Put them in front of you and take a white page.
Now for every one of these objects write down the adjectives which
come to your mind (like rational, inspiring, superficial, funny, etc)
Now in a scale between 0 and 10, give a mark to these objects about
the power of the source of inspiration behind them.
For instance, if you feel that one of the books you have in front of you
is very inspiring, give it a mark of 8 or 9.
Now, the next step:
Get rid of the object which scores the lowest!
I am serious!
Take it and get rid of it.
Take another white page and draw a circle on it.
This is a space of energy.
It is empty right now.
If you had to fill it with something which scores at 10 on the level of

happiness, what would that be?
If nothing comes up, let it empty and keep this white open circle on
your desk or stick it on your fridge with a magnet.
Next time you go shopping for clothes or anything else, before you
buy, ask yourself this simple question:
“How high does this object score on the happiness scale?”
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Decide right now to surround yourself with elements which score only
8 to 10.
Get rid of anything which sounds dark, pessimistic, heavy or unsolved.
Every object around you reflects on your mind.
It is a reminder of an energy connection you have with a source.
For instance a Hip Hop CD reminds you of a musical style and a certain
way of thinking.
It is quite different than classical music or ethnic tunes.
There is a spirit behind it!
Check the spirit behind the things you own and if any of these scores
lower than 5 on the happiness scale, get rid of them.
No cheating! (☺)
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Nurture your body mind and spirit

Imagine a garden.
This is your mind.
When you nurture your body, mind and spirit, you water your inner
space with energy and care.
Love and care feed your being and you can give lots of it to yourself.
Here is a simple way to take active care of your being:
Next time you get paid, put aside 10% of what you earned.
This is for you!
You have been working hard for a month.
You deserve a reward!
Now, invest this money (energy) in yourself.
What comes to your mind?
• Holiday cruise?
• A new top?
• Training some skills?
• A bunch of flowers?
• A membership for the gym?
• Etc.
Any time you give yourself a treat, you send a clear message:
“I am worth it!”
And it is the truth!
You own this money!
Now, who do you think should benefit the most from it?
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Eat breakfast!
If you are struggling with weight related issues for instance, the
natural tendency is to skip breakfast hoping this will lower your
calories input.
Big mistake!
Your body is craving for energy!
When your body craves for energy, you become weaker emotionally.
This opens up the door to lots of vulnerability and you can get hit by
all sorts of negative emotions.
You are of course aware of the body-mind link.
If your body misses energy, it is your whole emotional system which

gets depleted.
The solution is simple:
Take 5 minutes to eat something healthy: my first choice goes for

muesli, fruit and yoghurt.
No need to overeat.
Simply give your body exactly what it needs and your level of
happiness will rise instantly.
If you do already have breakfast, make sure that what you eat is
healthy!
This is one of the first messages you give to your body early morning.
It is one which makes a big difference!
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Connect with positive streams

A thought is a “mind object”.
A thought is like a wave on the surface of your mind.
It is an event.
It is the visible part of the iceberg.
If you swim in a river, what matters is not the waves on the surface of
the water, it is the river itself.
Where does it take you?
Why do you swim in it?
What is its temperature?
How does it impact on your life?
A river gives you a direction.
A river is a source of inspiration.
When you wake up in the morning and read a paper, the news become
a source of inspiration.
Choose your stream!
What are the sources of influence in your life right now?
You can choose!
Targeting the thought means only targeting the surface wave.
If you really want to have an impact on your mind, connect with

empowering sources of inspiration.
This is why you sometimes buy an empowering book.
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Now, the people around you are sources of inspiration.
Which ones are positive?
Which ones are negative?
This vast architecture of connections is the network of your streams of

inspiration.
To develop positive mind sets, you need to connect with empowering

sources of inspiration.
Do you realize that you are the architect of all that?
You choose for your daily and weekly activities.
You are the active creator of these connections.
You can choose what you connect to.
The first step is to identify the sources which do empower you.
The second step is to consciously organize these sources of inspiration

in your life, time frame and mind.
The books your read, the music your listen to, the people you connect
to, your community, your work, family, friends, inner growth and
spiritual life are all streams of inspiration.
Now, for your mind development, you need to connect with a stream
of inspiration which does empower you.
You want to connect with a system or a source of inspiration which

opens new doors in your life.
If you have a book in your hands, what matters most?
Is it the book itself or a single word you just read?
Find streams of inspiration you can connect and relate to.
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Positive thinking, empowerment, inner and spiritual growth are all

directions which help you use your mind in the best possible way.
Now, if you want to train your body, you go to the gym, right?
You connect with an environment whose aim is to empower your

physical body.
The same works for your mind.
If you want to empower your mind, you need to connect with inner
and outer sources of inspiration which support you or give you the
energy and mind sets to develop your mind.
The modern streams of mind power, self growth as well as spiritual

development directions are all systems which help you maximize the
potential of your mind.
On top of that, you do have inner sources of inspiration which do help

you take the right steps.
Trust your instinct and consciously choose your sources of inspiration.
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Wake up your mind power

Your mind is your greatest ally.
If you get the feeling that your mind works against you, it is the sign
What is missing?
It is power!
Mind power!
Mind power is a natural resource of energy you have in you.
Mind power is the ability to be in charge of your life.
It is a space.
You own that space.
It is yours!
It was given to you at birth!
Your thoughts, emotions and beliefs happen within your mind.
They happen within your territory!
You are the person who has the greatest influence over what happens
in your mind.
You are in charge!
The moment you realize this, you already wake up your mind power.
You wake up to the realization that you do have resources of energy

inside yourself to protect and preserve your mind space.
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Protect your mind space

When you have negative thoughts, images or feelings popping up into
your mind, you can see them as an attack on your mind.
It is a form of battle and you want to develop new skills to make sure
that you are the winner of this battle.
Your mind is yours!
You have the power to protect it.
Observe how it functions and do what it takes to protect your mind

space.
Suppose for instance that someone judges you in a negative way.
You can either let this judgment take root in your mind and let it grow
and expand, or you can reject this judgment, fight back and not let
anyone put you down.
The moment you react and fight back, you use your power.
You instantly realize that your self confidence is under attack and you
do something to tackle this threat.
In a day, you can have many situations where you let someone else’s
negative thoughts impact on you.
It can be an aggressive look you get from another driver.
It can be something your partner tells you just before you take off.
If you recognize a negative attack on your mind, do something about it

straight away.
Identify the attack as an energy which puts you down and do

something about it straight away:
• Respond to the person

• Consciously drop it
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• Reject the thought

• Stay alert
• Etc.
In other terms, you need to sometimes see your day as a battle in

which you need defend your inner territory.
You can call this psychic self defense.
The moment you realize what is at stake, you give yourself all the
weapons you need to stay in a clear mind set.
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Energize your being

The way you feel in your body directly impacts on the way you feel in
your mind.
If your body is low on energy, you will naturally tend to feel low
emotionally.
There are two main ways of influencing the way you feel in your body:
exercise and diet.
If you don’t move your body enough, you miss energy.
If you over eat or eat unhealthy, you will naturally lower your energy
level.
Don’t underestimate the impact this has on your mind.
A full stomach stops you from performing well or keeping a clear mind.
Modern lifestyles are challenging for the body.
Sitting on a chair or driving a car are not “natural” activities.
However, there are dozens of ways to maintain a high level of energy

in your body.
Make sure you give your body what it needs.
Your body and your mind are your greatest assets.
Respect them and give them what they need.
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Love, respect and positive outlook

on life
Love nurtures your life.
Now, love is giving and receiving.
When you give, you encourage the flow of it in your life.
It works both ways.
As long as it streams in your existence, you tend to stay more happy,

healthy and in harmony.
Love is about the way you relate to yourself and your environment.
Love is a quality you consciously invite in your existence.
How do you invite it?
Through action!
Watering a plant is something which sounds simple but it does have an

impact on your mind and personal environment.
It sends a clear message: “I care”.
Try saying “I love you” more often.
Love, respect and care are your ways of nurturing yourself and those
around you.
It builds up harmony and invites peace in your being.
You can express both love and power in your life.
These two qualities complement each other harmoniously.
Dare to take the step when you see an opportunity to express your
love, care or respect.
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Search for meaning

Your life is a mystery.
I mean, when you realize that you are a living entity somewhere on a
blue planet suspended in space in the Milky Way, you can drop
everything and search for answers.
You touch here on your spiritual identity.
Life beyond the limits of rationality.
Some form of spiritual connection or belief usually gives you an energy

base in life.
It gives you a mind set which answers some of these profound

questions.
A way to empower your mind is to invite some form of spiritual reality

in your life.
If you are religious, this might mean exploring deeper levels of your
spiritual life through prayer, meditation, rituals or other practices.
There are dozens of ways you can connect with your spiritual identity.
Many spiritual streams focus on the idea of happiness, inner peace and
even success and satisfaction.
This is such a vast topic!
I would truly need another e-book to fully cover that one.
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Get rid of what holds you back

What holds you back is in the past.
It can be anything: old memories, objects, negative experiences,

draining connections, etc.
If you want to move forward in your life, you need to create space!
If your mind and life are full, your future can’t open up.
Drop it!
Let go of what you no longer need!
Identify what drains you and make sure that you remove it from your
existence.
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Connect with your destiny

Your destiny is an intelligent entity.
It is not a fixed set of actions and events in your future.
It is more like a river you swim in.
Along the way, the details of your life travel are not yet fixed.
However, you do have a vision of where this takes you.
Goals, life vision and destiny are all aspects of your future.
This is your perspective.
This is what you look forward to.
Part of the energy of your mind is aimed at opening doors into your
future.
The moment you take a good decision or make the right choice, you
get this empowering feeling of inner freedom.
Connecting with your destiny is an art!
It is at the very core of positive thinking and positive mind sets.
If your line of action takes you in the wrong direction, you feel
systematically drained and unhappy. You know something is wrong!
The negative thoughts are simply a surface reflection of an

unattractive destiny line.
Don’t try to shift your thoughts!
Shift your destiny line instead!
This is the true empowering step.
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Positive mind sets and values

Values are your core beliefs.
They are the foundation blocs of your mind.
Love and respect are values.
Ambition and expression of your needs and wants are other values and
mind sets.
Some negative values and mind sets disempower you.
In fact they don’t solidify your mind. They make you vulnerable and
pessimistic about life.
See yourself as an architect!
You can choose right now positive mind sets and values.
What does it take to shift a mind set?
One to three months of focus!
You need to make it your priority number one!
Why is that?
Because your mind has been conditioned over a period of 10, 20 or 30

years.
A conditioning is a mind set.
It is the result of experiences.
When you want to shift your mind set, you need to repolarize and
recondition your mind to respond differently in given life situations.
This means that you need to repeat the right message to yourself until
your get it.
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You will see that your mind progressively adopts a new empowering
mind set.
It simply takes focus, time, repetition and will power to develop a new
mind set.
Will power is fire!
Will power is your desire to change and shift things around.
Your will power is your emotional fuel!
It is your ambition.
This is the number one quality you need to shift mind sets.
It is your driving force and what you will invest in your actions.
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Master your connection with

others
Relationships!
It can be your connection with your partner, friends, colleagues,

community or family.
A connection with another human being can be empowering.
The best way to empower your connections is to focus on synergy and

win-win always.
It is never about dominating or controlling someone else’s life.
Mastering your connection with others means mastering the way you
stand in it.
When you build harmonious relationships with others, you empower

your existence and manifest a fresh flow of life in your being.
Life responds to life!
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Your mind can be under attack any time.
Have a strategy for any situation.
Behave like a martial artist ready to defend your territory any time.
You will notice that the moment you have the tools, skills and weapons
to defend yourself, you feel secure and you perform at your best.
A day can be seen as a series of challenges.
The goal is to conquer!
You have a series of situations to master.
Stay awake and aware of what happens in such day.
Observe the flow of your thoughts and emotions and if you notice that
something wrong is happening, do something about it straight away.
Don’t let negative situations impact on you.
If you feel that something takes you down, take action and shift the
dynamics.
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What to do first when you are

trapped in a negative mind set
Find a new source of inspiration.
There is always an open door somewhere.
Find out what this door is.
Use your instinct.
A part of you always knows the best next move.
It is all about identifying a possible next step.
Your instinct is one of your top mind power weapons.
Once you see an open door, you need to take action and walk through
it.
To take action you need to trust yourself and use your will power and
determination.
Don’t let anything or anyone stop you from taking action when you
feel it is right.
Another excellent way to shift a negative mind set is to shift gear or

activity.
Speed is another key weapon in your mind.
You need to respond to opportunities and open doors when you see
one.
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How to influence your thoughts

Again, a thought is simply a surface wave.
The best way to influence your thoughts is to connect with the right
source of inspiration in you.
Instead of focusing on the details of your thoughts, focus on the larger

picture.
Come to the details once your larger life stream is set up.
If you feel that you can’t connect with a positive stream of thoughts, it
is time to go and look beyond the limits of what you already know.
Connect with a new spiritual or personal development stream.
Open a new door in your being and consciousness.
Obviously, if the solution was present within the limits of your comfort
zone, you would be expressing already the full dimension of your life.
If something is missing, start searching for it and step beyond what

you already know.
You will need to open new doors and invite new streams of inspiration
in your life.
Once you connect with a new stream of inspiration, the shift does not
happen overnight.
It does not go from left to right in one day.
A stream of inspiration is a stream of renewal.
You feel it having a progressive impact on your mind over a period of

time.
Give yourself 1 to 3 months to see the results.
Stay focused on your target and be consistent with your action.
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Tackle the real challenge

If you feel dissatisfied with your love life, do something about it.
If you are unhappy with your body, sign in to the gym.
If you don’t like your job, make a career shift.
All these examples show you one thing:
Very often your negative thoughts or feeling of dissatisfaction are not

the problem, they are the symptoms; they are the warning signs which
tell you that something is not quite right.
The moment you take action and do something about the real issue or
challenge you face, you realize that life starts flowing again.
Action invites life force into your being.
It energizes you, opens new channels of expression in your being and

basically takes you from where you are to where you want to be.
Hiding yourself behind doubts, fears and hesitations does not work.
In these situations, your negative thoughts are an inner call!
Your life is calling!
The only way to break the negative pattern is to take action and do
something about the real challenge.
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Part 14 – Change
dynamics
You might tend to naturally resist change in life.
Why is that?
Because change usually creates some form of stress or pressure.
Change requires focus and energy.
It forces you to go through a transition period in which your life or

mind are “rearranged” and develop a new equilibrium.
In the next few pages, you will discover how to embrace change and
makes sure that your renewal and power has enough room to express
to express itself in your life.
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Change dynamics
You have a natural tendency to resist change.
Why is that?
Because change creates stress or pressure.
Any time you change, you integrate new energies in your life.
This integration of new energies creates a slight discomfort or stress in

your being.
When you change, you go through a period of transition which requires

extra focus and energy.
Suppose you want to shift house.
The whole transition period is obvious in such case.
It will take you a while to find your roots in your new place.
Mind shifts follow the same type of dynamics.
When you want to change something in your mind, you often tackle
thoughts or beliefs which are deeply rooted in your consciousness.
This is why change requires focus and energy.
If you tune into the right source of inspiration, change will happen
more easily.
Now, if your motivation is weak, you might stop half way and not
manage to break through what you wanted to change.
The integration of a new mind set requires focus, energy and

determination.
When you want to shift, you need an effective strategy and a vision of
where you want to be.
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This is why you bought this book, right? Because it gives you a vision,
strategies and the inspiration to take some steps.
Now, the words you read are only a reflection of things you somehow
already know deep inside.
You got this e-book because part of you is ready for some form of
change.
You simply need to bring it to the surface of your mind and clarify your
vision and how to do it.
If you face resistance when you try to take steps, this resistance is
simply the sign that you are stepping beyond your comfort zone.
This is okay.
Any time you change, you challenge yourself.
You invite what we call renewal power in your existence and shift key
elements in the architecture and dynamics of your mind.
The way to go for change anyway is to:
Build up extra power.
Use your will determination and motivation.
Minimalyze resistance.
Have a clear vision of where you go.
Get some support from empowering sources.
Etc.
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How to shift mind sets

Did you notice how positive thinking is sometimes looked at like being
naïve or childish.
There is an underlying belief system which wants to establish positive

thinking as some form of superficial brain washing technique which
takes away character and real life experience.
Positive thinking is not about hiding yourself behind a cloud of

superficial denial.
Positive thinking is empowering.
It is a mind set which strengthens your life and emotional foundation.
This is powerful stuff and the goals are simple:
Greater life satisfaction!
Better performance.
More happiness.
Increased power and life force!
Expanded awareness.
Etc.
Do you want any of these?
If you want more of these qualities, you need to embrace them, want
them and love them.
Imagine what you can achieve when your mind is stronger and you
have greater mastery of what happens in it.
You don’t want to kill nature and spontaneity.
You don’t want to isolate yourself in a fortified castle.
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Positive thinking is about perfecting your mind vehicle and removing

what you no longer need.
Get rid of what slows you down and unleash your full potential.
When it comes to empowering your mind and shifting negative mind

sets in you, you’ll face 3 key challenges:
Shifting your mind set. To shift your mind set, you need extra power
and effective strategies. Positive thinking and mind power are energy
streams. You establish new mind sets by connecting with new sources
of power and energy in you.
Reconditioning your environment. Your environment gets used to your

behavior. If you took the victim role for years, your new “role” will
challenge your family, friends and colleagues. There is competition for
power, success and happiness. Educate those who resist your change.
Letting go of negative attention. If you have been trapped in negative

thinking loops, you probably got lots of pity and negative attention. Let
go of this negative sources of validation and create new relationships
with your environment.
The idea is to expand your awareness and understand the underlying

dynamics behind positive mind sets.
These are powerful tools you can use any time no matter your age,
gender or status.
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Every action generates a result

Suppose you stay at home a whole day.
You will naturally miss fresh air.
The moment you open the windows and take a couple of deep breaths,
you invite life force in your body.
This sounds simple, right? So, why aren't you doing it?
Yes! Right now. You can stand up. Open the windows and breathe
deeply a few times.
Close your eyes and observe your reaction.
This step can sound like an insignificant step. It is only one drop,
right?
One step is a first step. This is how a journey starts.
If you want to travel somewhere, you always need to start with a first
step.
No one but you can take that step.
Right now, I could describe you a series of actions which would make
you very unhappy within 48 hours.
It is easy: Just pick up the phone and start swearing at someone.
Next step? Eat only junk food for two days.
After that, no "body care". Don't wash your hands or your face for two
days. The list can go on!
In the same way I could describe you a series of actions which would
make you happy:
• Quality food
• Exciting goals for your day
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• Meaningful contact with some good friends

• Entertainment
• Some exercise
• Etc.
The key to happiness is partly thoughts and actions.
What makes you truly happy is to live within a powerful stream of

inspiration which gives you power, vision and action lines.
Happiness is about the spirit your live in.
You can decide right now to embrace the values of happiness: love,
passion, excitement, power, etc.
What would stop you from embracing these values?
What is the force which can keep you from wanting more of the
qualities in your life?
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Mind conditioning
Any thought leaves a blue print in your mind.
10 to 20 years of education or training leave a conditioning in your

mind.
Every time you express an emotion, a thought or a feeling your create

a channel of energy in your mind.
If this thought happens only once, this channel won't be strong.
Now, if this thought happens daily it will create an energy line in your
mind which will be imprinted like a major aspect of your inner
architecture.
In the beginning, a negative mind pattern is just a one time thought.
Because you keep repeating it, it becomes a habit.
These negative patterns in your mind become stronger because of this

repetition.
Every time you reproduce a negative thought, you reinforce its

message in your mind.
Now, your present conditioning is not a fixed set.
It keeps on evolving over a period of a life time.
If you know how to do it, you can shift habits and reprogram your
mind to react differently in the given situations.
This is what this e-book is about: showing you the exact technique to
effectively reprogram your mind so that the negative thinking reflex is
replaced by a new set of thoughts and emotions.
Reconditioning takes some time and dedication.
Suppose you have been reproducing a negative thinking pattern for

many years.
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If you want to shift that pattern, you need to repeat the "new"
message over a period of time so that it becomes your new "mind
habit".
In my experience it takes about a week to get really familiar with a

new mind set.
It takes about one month to ground it in your life and about 3 months
to truly own this new mind set.
A new mind set could be anything: it can be an emotion or a thought

like "I am worth it!".
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3 life powers
Any life cycle has three aspects to it: birth, life and death:
• Birth is synonym for creation. This is your creative power.

• Life is synonym for maintenance or preservation. This is
your preserving or protective power.
• Death is synonym for destruction, transformation or
renewal. This is your destructive or renewal power.
These 3 aspects are 3 powers you express throughout your life.
When you express a negative thought, you are using your destructive
power.
Destruction happens because you want to create space.
In fact, you want to free yourself from a limiting situation. Using your
natural destructive power is your way of trying to create space.
Now, because these thoughts are often an attack on yourself and your
self worth, they are self destructive.
Your destructive power does not find its external expression and gets
stacked in your mind and keeps on burning you like a flame.
Your destructive power is a positive force.
This force is given to you from birth.
You use it in all sorts of situations and circumstances. You can express
it in the form of thoughts, emotions, actions, behaviors, beliefs, etc.
Any time you clean your personal environment, you create space and
throw away old things you no longer need.
When you do this, you use your destructive power.
It is the same as renewal power.
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You create space so that new events can happen in your life.
If you were not using your destructive power and creating space, you
would remain stacked in the past and overloaded with memories.
This is why your destructive power is a positive force.
When you exercise and burn calories or toxins, your perform the same
action of body cleansing.
Now, when do you actually take the step to remove the old mind
frames you no longer need?
Negative emotions tend to accumulate and pile up until your mind

saturates and can't breathe anymore.
This is why you use your renewal power.
Your impulsion is to create space.
Your negative thinking loop is your best shot at trying to create space
in your mind but it is not enough.
It burns you from inside instead of creating space in you.
Imagine a wild stallion trying to break free.
Its goal is freedom, right?
In this freeing process, the stallion can get hurt and wounded by
throwing itself against the fences.
Nature's impulsion of trying to break free is right, but because if flows

in an untamed way, it might not achieve its wanted goal.
Nature is not perfect. Your mind tries to function to its best and
sometimes you need to give nature a little push.
The goal is to use your natural freeing power and give it this extra kick
of energy so that you reach your target (creating space and feeling
freer) and don't get hurt along the way..
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You want to achieve positive results by empowering your mind,

establishing a clear mind set and using your natural renewal power.
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Renewal power
Destruction and renewal are one and same thing.
Death is intimately associated with rebirth.
Suppose you had a business and decide to finish up with it.
Before you start with a new one, you need to clear the paper work and
create space so that new projects can be born.
Why is that?
Because you only have so much space.
If your mind is packed with old memories, you simply can't focus on
the future.
This is why you are given this renewal or destructive power.
Now, the term destruction can feel scary but it is not.
Destruction is a force you use every day to clear your mind and get
ready for the following day.
It happens naturally in you.
If you prefer, focus on the terms transformation and renewal.
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Reconditioning your environment

This is one of the top three challenges you face when trying to break a
negative thinking loop.
It is not only your negative thinking you need to solve or deal with: it
is the negative thinking of those around you.
There is a natural competition for power happening between people.
People do compete for power, success and happiness.
It happens subconsciously.
In your circle of friends, there is an invisible hierarchy which measures

everyone's life success compared with others.
An invisible race for success and power is happening all the time.
This happens within your social circle, with colleagues at work and with
your family. It happens as well within a community and between
neighbors.
Within your social circle for instance, the competitive spirit can be very
high or low depending on everyone's attitude.
Friends can get very jealous with each other. They can actually attack
each other's success precisely because a part of them is in
competition.
In other social circles, the level of competition will be very low.
This means that its members value more the complicity aspect of their
friendship. The level of care, love and support for each other will be
higher.
These are called power dynamics.
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They are the underlying dynamics of power invisibly sustaining the

way a group of friends relate to each other.
I know it can sound strange, but when you are trapped in negative
thinking, you are “out of the race” in a way.
What is this race? It is the quest for success.
Negative thinking puts you out of the race straight away. In other
terms, you don’t actually threaten someone’s "victory" in their own
happiness.
When you put yourself down with negative thinking, you are already
giving up on winning the "success and happiness race".
You are not a threat for someone else's victory.
This is why your friends won't challenge you and try to help rather
than try to compete.
Have you ever tried arriving in a cafe to meet a couple of friends and
say something like:
"Whaou! I feel great today! I got a raise from my boss and just booked
three weeks holydays for July in this magnificent resort in the
Maldives"
Check your friend's reactions. What are they thinking?
"Geese! She always has all this good stuff happening to her"
or is it more like:
"Whaou! I'm impressed. You worked so hard this year! That's your
reward! You deserve it!"
Put it this way:
Too much happiness and success can feel like a threat for those who
don't have it.
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There is no right or wrong behavior between friends. This is only a

description of some underlying power dynamics which can happen
within a circle of friends.
When you decide to break a negative thinking cycle, you might face
the resistance of those actually should care for you.
Why is that?
Because it "puts you back in the race" for success.
Today, you take a positive step in your own evolution and deal with
negative thinking. Tomorrow, you might be doing better than they are.
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The dangers of negative attention

Negative attention can put you down.
Negative attention can be the same as pity, altruism or even

compassion!
If you are deeply in trouble, a helping hand will be welcome.
Now, if those around you get used to project pity on you, you generate
a very limiting mind set for yourself.
In fact, you start relying on other’s pity as a source of energy.
The moment you grow and gain power, you will naturally tend to miss
other people’s pity.
Why?
Because pity can be comforting. It nurtures you. It feeds you with

attention.
Again, this is a positive force when you really need it.
If negative attention is your main way of relating to others, your main

role in life becomes a victim role.
You project and see yourself as a victim. You tend to perfect that role
and behave in ways that reinforce it.
You have two options:
The first option is to stay fixed on your victim role.
The second option is to reject negative attention when you recognize it

and establish yourself as a winner, not a victim.
As you can see, these are two different strategies.
Letting go of negative attention might be the biggest challenge you

face when you build up inner power.
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Letting go of negative attention and rejecting pity is your way of

growing.
Imagine a young child climbing the steps.
Its mother wants to help but it rejects the helping hand. It wants to do
it alone because that’s its way of growing and learning.
The process of inner growth works in the same way: you find inner
sources of power and energy and let go of the external sources of pity,
negative attention and support.
This is a conscious decision.
As long as you put yourself in the victim role, you mind set does not
shift.
Your emotional base stays the same.
The only way to shift is to reject negative attention and establish your
life in a new mind territory.
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How to educate your environment

The way to solve “competing” patterns with friends, family, colleagues
and social circle is to educate your environment.
When you establish a new mind set and develop a new sense of
success in your existence, you want to shift some of your connections.
You want to educate people in looking at you in a different way.
This is a challenge and it requires focus, awareness and consistency.
Let’s go back to a previous example:
You are a male and have this male friend who puts you down because
you are 30 and single.
Again, suppose he says:
“So, where is your date? Oh… that’s right… You have no date”
You can say:
“Don’t you get tired of this same joke? Check around you… Do you see
anyone laughing?”
When you respond that way, it is a clear statement. You say:
“Enough!”
When you shift your emotional base and build up power, success or
happiness, you need to reeducate your environment in the way they
look and relate to you.
Realize that this is a battle.
There is competition.
The first step is to identify the ones who are challenging your growth.
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It can be a sister or brother. It can be parents. It can be your partner.

It can be colleagues. It can be in-laws. It can be all or part of your
social circle.
When you want to shift your mind set, the challenge of getting your
environment to evolve with you can be even bigger than shifting
yourself.
This is why you might feel the need to isolate yourself when you go
through a process of inner change.
If you are aware of the underlying power dynamics, it is much easier

to shift the areas which show resistance.
This is a battle again.
Any form of inner growth on your side requires adjustments and shifts
in your environment.
The good news is that you have actually the power to delete resistance
on those levels.
The quality you need to free yourself from other people’s negative
projections is extra power and effective strategies.
When you educate your environment you stay firm with your direction
and decisions.
You might have to repeat your message until those who need to hear
it truly get it.
It usually does not happen overnight.
Your “new role” can be established over a period of one to three

months.
This is the time it takes for your environment to be reconditioned.
Stay focused and firm with your directions.
Repeat your message a few times until “they” get it.
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Where to go next
If your life has reached a reasonable level of harmony, and you are
well established materially, the next question you can face is: where to
go from there.
This is a very common question.
It is very important because you have a natural need to conquer.
Basically, your life never stands still.
A part of you wants to keep on growing and expanding.
This growth can happen on a material or mind level.
You want to expand your awareness, explore new territories and keep
on growing as a human being.
This need is a reflection of your will power or "manifestation drive".
Another way to keep on growing is to impact or interact with others:

you can do this by creating a family for instance or expanding your
sphere of influence to a larger circle of friends or company.
Change and evolution are natural human instincts.
It happens no matter what.
The question is:
"In what direction do you want to grow?"
Your direction is your target.
You can have an infinite number of targets.
You can choose your targets consciously rather than responding to

internal or external pressures.
Your instinct knows exactly what you want.
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Start by this simple question:
"What is your target?"
Give yourself a week to gather ideas, talk about it with friends and
identify what you are truly excited in exploring in for instance the next
5 years.
This is your starting point.
It is your first step into your future: defining targets and directions.
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What is the challenge?

Any time you feel something should evolve or change in your life, you
tend to face a basic resistance.
This resistance is your comfort zone.
Your life is sustained by what you can call preserving forces.
A lot of what you create in life is aimed at giving you security and
comfort.
The moment you go for change, you challenge your existing life set up
(your comfort zone) and take a risk by stepping beyond the limits of
what you already know.
It is like leaving a fortified castle to explore or conquer new lands.
To do this effectively, you need extra power and energy.
Change requires energy.
It does require focus and follow up.
If you resist change, it simply means that you reinforce your comfort
zone.
Rather than discovering new lands, you will sometimes opt for
securing what is already there.
This is why change is sometimes not your top priority.
You can have a vision of where you want to go but the moment it
comes to taking real steps, you can delay action and simply step back
within the territory of what you already know.
If this happens, there is nothing to be ashamed of.
These are natural life processes and the quest for security and comfort
is a natural healthy instinct.
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If you feel however that you life has become too secure and renewal
stops flowing in it (basically, you feel stacked or even bored ☺ ), you
can consciously invite change into your existence and start taking
small steps.
If a big step is too much, try taking a series of small steps which
brings you closer to where you would like to be.
If you feel fear, doubts or hesitation, see these as warning signs

coming from you preserving instinct. You can consciously recognize
the dynamics of what is happening and simply increase your ability to
change and evolve by responding to opportunities when you see them.
When you decide to change aspects of your life, you respond to your
renewal or evolutionary spirit.
Change and renewal are inner calls.
There is often a choice or a conscious decision to be made.
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Who should decide?

Your life is a ship or a Boeing 747, and you are the captain.
You are the one who owns the control seat.
Sure, there are situation in life where you delegate part of this power,
consciously or unconsciously.
If you are a teenager or young adult, you parents often give you
strong guidance and directions.
If you work in an organization, you accept to work within an

infrastructure with a very specific balance of power.
Now, when it comes to life choices, nobody but you owns the right to
decide what you want to do next.
It is your birth right to have control over your life and the more you
express this power, the better you tend to feel.
Expression your power is empowering.
Sounds obvious when you pout it like that, right?
The trick is that sometimes, people or other influences tell you what to
do.
They try to decide for you.
This is wrong especially if you never consciously gave them right to

take life decisions for you.
It is your life and you are the one who owns it.
If you are unsure of what to do next, you can of course ask for advice
or even ask someone to take some steps for you if you can't.
What matters is that you do all this consciously.
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If you don't want to own the key choices of your life, it is okay to
delegate these choices if you want to.
If, however, you feel like you miss control over what happens to you,
it is often the reflection of an unbalance of power.
Somewhere along the line you might have given away power in
various forms without actually realizing it.
You might be 30+ and still behave like your parents have to decide for
you.
Or you might be in a relationship and let your partner limit your

choices, actions and dreams.
There can be dozens of life situations where you can reconquer your
territory.
This means one thing:
You decide!
You are in charge!
Always remember this when your life comes to a point where you have
to take key decisions or set up a long term life line for yourself.
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What is your source of

inspiration?
Your source of inspiration is a stream.
It is a spirit.
It is a vision of what you want to achieve or experience in life.
There are many sources of inspiration you can tap into but often, there
is only one which takes you exactly where you want to be.
This is synchronicity.
It is your ability to be at the right place at the right time, performing

the right action.
You don't have to accept everything which comes to you.
You can test what you read, listen to or feel.
You can test what you read right now.
Your ability to tap at will into your inner sources of inspiration is a key
life skill.
You don't have to swim with every river which comes to you.
It is okay to be discriminative, selective and only invest yourself in

what you feel is 100% right for you.
If you are unsure about a choice or life direction, track back your
source of inspiration and identify where it comes from.
Where did it start?
What is inspiring you to take steps?
If you discover more about your sources of inspiration, you will for
sure get clearer answers about your choices and directions.
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This means as well discovering more about your own spirit and what
truly guides your steps in life.
How does energy work for you?
What is your connection to what surrounds you?
As soon as you perceive the underlying dynamics directing your life's

events, you wake up to a whole new perception of your existence.
The key word is awareness. The best way to increase your awareness
is to open new doors in your consciousness.
You can do this with some simple mediation or focus techniques which
clarify your inner screen and help you see the play of energies and
sources of inspiration in your life.
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Why invest in yourself?

Why invest in yourself?
Because it makes all the difference.
Today, there are so many avenues in your life you can work on, and
consciously design an existence you love and enjoy.
How do you invest in yourself?
You reinvest 10% of your time, energy and resources in you!
You can do this by giving yourself a treat, booking a well deserved

holiday on a tropical island.
You can as well consciously train new life skills, do a personal

development course, go for a spiritual retreat, take time for yourself
and your family and so much more.
The moment you understand the dynamics, there is no limit.
What matters is that you give care to your being in one way or
another.
You take a moment to step back and give yourself the priority for just
half a day a week.
You can of course give yourself much more but if you don't know
where to start, this is the best way to go.
Choose a time, choose a target and simply give this to yourself.
Invest as well in it! Don't think that your being, body or mind are not
worth it.
If you find easy to buy a new set of dishes for your kitchen, don't
hesitate a second to buy a new tie, new dress or a gym membership
for a few months.
You are the number one priority in your life.
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Put it this way: if you feel greater satisfaction and higher level of
energy, everyone benefits from it.
You owe it to yourself as well.
When you feel down or low, everyone suffers from it.
When you are happy and shining, it's a win-win for everyone.
You are priority number one.
It is okay to be totally selfish and give first to yourself (at least once a
week! ☺)
So, where or how do you invest in yourself?
What works best is to develop new life skills, gain effectiveness and
satisfaction in key areas of your life like business, love life, social life,
personal and spiritual development.
What matters first is that you understand the dynamics involved and
simply take steps in that direction.
You will notice that your level of life satisfaction can raise a couple of
points instantly the moment you do.
I won't sell you coaching here because you already know that coaching
sessions go in the same sense.
It is all about validating and empowering your being.
Doing this is never a sign of weakness.
If you want to invest in yourself in a challenging way, take a para

gliding course or go do some surfing in the Hawaiian waves.
You can care for your being in any way you want.
You can set up goals and warm up to the idea that you are worth it!
This is not a therapy line by the way.
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I am not talking about healing (even if this can be an avenue as well).
No, the most direct way to invest in yourself is to conquer new

territories in your life.
The targets are simply new.
Focus mainly on yourself rather than systems or people around you.
You are the core of all that, right?
Empowering your mind and life is the most direct way to energize the
totality of your existence.
Don't hesitate a second!
You owe it to yourself!
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Part 15 – How to
change your life in
these situations
In the next few pages, we will check key life situations which require
shifts and effective strategies.
Focus on your target and take action!
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I am not happy right now but I

don’t know where to start
What you describe is very common.
If you were an artist, you would simply say that you face an inspiration
gap.
With your life, the same can happen.
When you face an inspiration, motivation or energy gap, all you need
is to reconnect with sources of power and renewal in yourself.
Imagine channels of energy flowing through your being.
When life and inspiration flows, your channels are active and you feel
truly happy.
If some of your channels feel blocked, you feel unhappy and lack
energy or motivation.
There are two steps you can take: The first one is to energize your life
exactly the way it is.
This might mean changing your diet or exercising.
It might mean as well relaxing with some friends or energizing your

social life.
If you work hard, you can give yourself a break and take some time
off, simply to gain back some energy.
This is the first set of solutions: energize your life as it is.
The second set of solutions goes deeper: you reorient your goals,
redefine your life purposes.
This implies a "structural change".
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You start changing the way you do certain things in life, find new
targets, or use your money, time and energy in a different way.
This implies a bit of "soul searching".
It means that you step back a little and observe your life from the
distance.
You redesign the way you stand in your existence.
Imagine standing in front of your life's architecture.
You are the designer and your first goal is to create a life vision you
are truly excited about.
You take what you have right now and ad new qualities and actions to
it. You can as well simply reshape what you have.
Where to start?
If all the goals you already achieved do not satisfy you, start looking
for deeper and more profound targets.
This might mean stepping into some "spiritual" or "personal

development" fields.
If you know nothing about these, then it's a good sign.
Discovering more about your values, energy and your life gives you an
inner sense of support which radically shifts the way you stand in life.
Does this mean that you need to meditate 2 hours a day and give up
your material wealth?
Not at all.
All you have to do is start nurturing these areas of your life (your mind
and spirit) and define your inner goals in these fields.
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After that, you can simply conquer these new territories exactly the
way you conquer anything else: by focusing on these topics,
developing some new skills and expanding your awareness.
The moment you set up your mind and will power to gain a more
powerful emotional or spiritual base, you naturally head for new
targets which energize your life.
In many cases, it means one thing: keep the structure of your life the
way it is but ad new qualities to it: life force, fun, power, dynamism,
pleasure, excitement, thrill, vision, generosity, love, complicity,
synergy and so much more.
I encourage you to connect with sources of inspiration in these fields.
If you want to go for it, you can as well try solo and reinvent the wheel
on your own.
There is no limit to it.
What matters is that you start exploring your mind and spirit and
discover what truly goes on in it.
This is the first step of many more to come.
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Change job
The first step is to make a quick assessment of where you are at:
• What does your dream job look like?
• What realistically can you expect?
• How competitive are you on the market place?
• Are the other areas in your life secured?
• How do you feel about your past professional

experiences?
• What can you get in a new position that you are not
getting right now?
• Do you need extra training?
• What steps did you already take?
• What key information do you still need?
• What are you deep reasons for shifting jobs?
At the end, what takes the decision is an emotional impulsion. To

strengthen this emotional fuel, the best is to envision the future and to
gather power to take steps.
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Change my life
Change comes with taking action.
What stops you from taking action can be lack of confidence, lack of
strategy, lack of energy or resources, lack of skills or emotional fuel,
etc.
All of that can be overcome with some determination and power. This
is what we focus on in a coaching session: building up confidence and
support to take small affordable steps.
Stepping beyond your comfort zone is always a challenge. No matter

what step you take, changing something in your life always creates
pressure or stress on your system. This is why there is a natural
tendency to resist change.
The way to handle that is to increase your awareness and get familiar
with the emotions and forces which are involved in any change.
These are concepts and ideas. Once you want to change something,
the best is to focus on very practical steps you can take.
Accept that there is always an opening or some form of minor risk

involved but don't let resistance emotions stop you from taking action.
Every time you sit back and hesitate, you feed your doubts. If you
want to build up trust and confidence, the best is to take action in one
way or another.
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Change my life – I don’t know

where to start
If you don't know where to start, the best is to focus on priority
number 1.
Ask yourself this question: "If I could change one single aspect of
my life between now and next week, what would that be?"
Write your answer on a white page. Take another page and write down
your possible options to achieve your goal.
It is better to start with something small, a step which is affordable,

realistic and that you can easily take. Once you get confident with
taking small steps, start focusing on bigger steps.
Give yourself 1 target per week. In the beginning of next week for
instance write down a target for the week. Write down your options.
Design a strategy. And start working on it.
If what you want to change a behavior, the best is to look at it like a

form of life training. If you want a new behavior you have to train
yourself with it. It means repetition, experimenting until you feel you
truly own that new pattern you want to integrate in you life.
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Change my life style

The best is to take a white page and write down the options which
come to your mind. The easiest way to start changing your life style is
by taking small affordable steps.
Any step you take should be oriented towards gaining more fun,
freedom and excitement from life. Why? because unless you are
excited about the changes you make, they won't stay for long.
Don't take hard steps that limit your spontaneity and freedom. If you
focus on discipline, you are looking at short term success. If you want
long term success, the best is to follow your instincts, inspiration and
excitement.
Allow space for creativity. Don't rigidify frames or habits. Focus on

increasing personal freedom instead.
Enjoy!
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Change something in me
What do you want to change in you?
Usually the answer will be:
• An emotion
• My way of responding to a situation
• The way I feel about myself
• The way I relate to others
• Etc.
All these are mind patterns.
What is a mind pattern?
It is a thought form, an emotion, a habit, etc.
All these are the result of either conditioning or genetic imprint.
Conditioning is the result of education and it can be changed. All you

have to do is to reprogram your mind.
If your computer is not efficient, you'll usually ad a piece of software,

reprogram an aspect of the procedure, etc.
Your mind functions in a similar way. To shift a mind pattern, all you
have to do is replace it by a new more efficient pattern.
Here are some examples:
If you tend to doubt a lot, all you have to do is replace doubt by trust
and confidence.
If you miss social skills, go and get what you are missing.
How do you do that? By retraining yourself, retraining your reaction in

very specific life situations.
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You start by reducing the challenge to a size that you can handle.
Divide the problem in very small parts and focus on one aspect at a
time.
In the beginning of the week, you identify a key area you want to
focus on. For instance if you want to strengthen your confidence, you
consciously focus on taking risks or steps you did not take before. You
go beyond your comfort zone by taking action. Focus first on small
affordable steps. Once you feel confident with small steps, take bigger
steps, and so on.
Focus on one target for 1 week. Make it your priority and focus
number one.
The following week focus on a new target, for instance communication

skills. Develop that skill for a week and move on to another target the
following week.
Change will happen if you take action. This means taking steps and
going beyond the limits of what you already know.
It is possible, easy, and within your range.
Action is what takes you from where you are to where you want to be.
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Change the way I act

The best is to gain focus first: take a white page and write down
exactly the behavior you want to change.
Take a specific life situation and describe in detail how you behave in
that situation.
Take then another white page and describe the way you would like to
act in this situation.
Take a real example and write in detail your answers.
Next step is to train yourself in this new behavior. The best is to be

extremely aware next time you face this situation. Observe your
emotions, feelings and what is happening in you. Then try to act
according to what you feel is your best behavior in such situation.
Another option is to simulate the life situation you described and train
your new behavior. The key with training a new behavior is repetition.
It might not flow and feel really awkward in the beginning. Very soon
though, you will notice how you new behavior starts growing and
taking roots in you.
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Change the way I act – I need to

free myself first
The best to change the way you act, is to make it very specific.
Describe the situation and the key behavior you want to change in that
situation. For instance if you want to change the way you relate to
others, start by focusing in the way you greet someone.
Focus on your attitude in these 5 first seconds. Spend 1 week focusing

on only that aspect of relating. The following week, focus for instance
on the way you say good bye. Think of words, smile, body language.
Etc.
To establish a new behavior, the key is training and repetition. You

have to repeat your behavior a few times (real life and simulation)
until you feel confident with your new skill.
Here are the 4 simple steps to establish a new behavior:
• Choose a very specific situation in which you want to change

your behavior.
• Find out what your new behavior could be. Describe it detail on
a white page.
• Practice in simulation. Repeat until you feel confident
• Do it in real life
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Free yourself first?

Here are 7 key ways to free energy, space and resources in your life
• Clear your past

• Clear clutter
• Finish unfinished business
• Establish clear boundaries
• Free time in your agenda
• Allocate financial resources
• Build support structures
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Change my diet – I don’t know

where to start
Here are some common unhealthy eating patterns
• Late dinner
• Lots of snacks
• No regularity in the meals
• No breakfast
• Only 2 meals a days
• Large meals with second serving
• Sweets, candy bars, etc
• Poor in vegetables
• Poor in fruit
• Lots of meet and fish
• Lots of bread
Do you recognize any of these?
Here is what you can do for a start: simply choose one of these and
replace it by a better pattern. No need to take a drastic step. We are
talking about a very simple and small affordable step you can take.
Here are some healthier examples:
• Regular meals
• Replace bad snacks by good snacks (fruit, muesli bar,
etc.)
• Cook smaller meals
• More veggies, less meat
• Buy more fruit
• …
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Give yourself 1 week to establish 1 simple change and nothing else.
Just choose one, write it down on a "post it" and stick it on your fridge
as a reminder.
Once this habit feels established and natural for you, focus on a new
step.
Choose what feels natural for you, something which does not require a
big effort.
The key for long term success with eating patterns is to focus on fun,
healthy and enjoyable food, and find out natural habit patterns that fit
you.
Enjoy!
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Clear clutter
Simple, sign in for a one time coaching session.
I will give you support and show you how to do it.
I know what you are thinking: "too complicate, too expensive, too
whatever..."
Doubts, resistance, hesitation!
See the dynamic?
I can help you but you need to invest at least some time, energy and
money into it.
Motivation is an energy. It is priceless. Once you have it and know how

to access it, you'll have this skill for the rest of your life.
I know, it's not always an easy equation to understand: Motivation

does have a monetary value.
Consider coaching as a "life market" where you can literally "go

shopping" for qualities like these?
Of course you have other options: Find motivation inside yourself, ask
friends, wait until it comes, etc.
If you already tried these and it did not work, I suggest you try
another strategy and see what happens.
You and I want the same thing.
What you want is to get results with a minimum of effort, time and
energy. That's exactly what I want for you as well. I am 100%
committed to it.
Now, take a second to imagine your space without clutter. Imagine

how it feels. You get this feeling of satisfaction and achievement.
Done!
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You have now space, time and extra energy. It feels really good
doesn't it?
I know, on the net, you come across lots of stuff. You are bombarded
by a flow of propositions to buy products you often don't need. It is
truly tough to sort out what is needed and what isn't, specially when
dealing with professional marketers whose only goal is to push you to
blind consumption.
Now, it is essential for you to use your discrimination.
If what you see in this message is just another marketing scheme,

please, do run away fast! You have more than enough of that kind of
stuff. My task is to protect you against stuff like that, not to make you
a victim of it.
If on the other hand, you recognize in this message something

"different" which is here to fulfill a real need with a powerful product,
then go for it. The sooner you take action, the sooner you'll get
results.
Some ideas on where to start?
Everything is made of energy. We have an energy or psychic link with

absolutely everything we have around us. Every object and element in
our personal environment impacts on our daily lives.
There are a few places you can start
• Administration
Take this pile of unsorted bills and paper and sort them out.
Throw away what you don't need.
• Emails
Sort your inbox. Create folders for what you need to keep.
Organize and delete.
• Clothing and personal stuff
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Create space. Clear the past. Clean your personal environment.

This will greatly clarify your mind.
Clearing clutter is a great way of freeing energy. Once you start, you
feel this energizing and stimulating force. When you finish, you can
almost touch the clarity you created.
Take steps. This will greatly clarify your mind and prepare you for
enjoying more the present and the future.
Now, what I want is simply to give you space.
How does that feel?
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Clear the past

If you want to clear the past, start by clearing your physical
environment.
Clear the clutter, past memories, objects, paperwork, etc.
Create space in the present so that you can start moving into the
future.
Clearing the past means gaining emotional freedom. It means having

free resources in you to invest into the present and the future.
Identify what is draining you right now and strengthen your personal
boundaries to protect your personal space.
You gain emotional freedom by taking control of your life. You decide
what goes in it. You take control of your agenda, time frame, actions
and activities. This can mean a major shift.
You are the most important person in your life. You are the centre of
your existence. You take the decision and make choices. You are in
power! You are in charge!
• I free myself
I unhook myself from the past. I clear the clutter. I free energy
in me and get rid of anything which holds me back.
• I focus on what thrills me
Emotional fuel is the key energy which makes me move and take
action. The way to build up motivation is to focus on excitement.
I make anything exciting a priority.
• I gain clarity
I design my vision. I bring in the elements I need. I am the

architect of my life. I am the designer of my destiny. I am
visionary and realistic at the same time.
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• I take action!
Action is what brings me from where I am to where I want to be.

I love risk and learn from experience. Nothing can stop me.
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Find a new career

In the initial stages, the best is to gather information and check with
experts. You can't make your choice unless you have all the info you
need.
Having extra info will give you the confidence and support you need
right now. Dare to go out there ask straight questions and get answers
from those who can help you.
• What are your options?
• What are your desires, passion and ambition saying?
• What are your realistic expectations?
• How competitive are you on the job market place?
• What are the top 10 qualities you have to offer?
• What top 10 qualities do you expect from any future

profession?
• What does it take you to be successful with your career

shift?
• What are the new skills you need to learn?
• Where can you get targeted training?
• Who can help you or mentor you with these steps?
Take small non committed steps and gather key information. The only
thing that can take you from where you are to where you want to be is
action.
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Find answers
If you need to find answers, the best is to start asking questions.
Send me an email and tell me what your questions are. I can give it a
go. You have thousands of experts online. You can tap into this infinite
source of wisdom.
If you feel you need to find the answers yourself (it's okay, it's very
stimulating to search and get excited about getting closer and closer) I
can ask you the questions and simply let you answer them.
If you feel you don't want anyone else but you to get involved, simply
take a white page and write down your question in the middle of the
page. Then write down any idea which comes to your mind, even the
ones that you believe can't be right.
You might notice at the end that you get a strong feeling about one of
your answers...
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Get fit – I don’t have time

When you say: "I have no time", you are in fact saying: "I have other
priorities".
This is fine.
It is okay.
We all have very busy lives.
The trick to create time is to block space in your agenda.
Make a choice, like twice 1 one hour somewhere in the week.
The second step is to focus on a way of exercising or training which is

fun, exciting, social, energizing, etc.
The fun aspect of training is essential. If your training is purely based

on discipline and long term goals, forget it, it won't work.
To succeed, exercising must be fun and flow naturally for you.
Surround yourself with people who train.
Get to meet new friends and make training a more social event.
Give yourself a teat or do something together after training.
That way, motivation will double.
Enjoy!
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Get rid of an addiction – I can’t

take action
The best to get rid of an addiction is to focus on something better than
that.
Most addictions are self destructive.
They literally destroy your life.
The only reason they stay with you is because something in you
tolerates their presence.
Who or what can do something about it? YOU! Mainly you!
You are in charge of your life.
You have full responsibility for your actions and behaviors.
The key for shifting is to increase your power.
You have an infinite source of power in you which can simply break
through any form of self destructive behavior.
The only thing you have to do is decide once and for all to be in charge
and win a battle against anything which is stopping your from being
where you want to be.
I believe in you simply because I know your potential as a human

being.
The moment you take a decision without looking back and aim for
where you want to be, nothing will stop you.
Enjoy!
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I need to free myself first

Free your energy using these 7 simple approaches
• Clear your past
Find out if there are any negative emotions, fears from past
experiences which are holding you back from taking action.
• Clear clutter
Create space around you by simply clearing your physical

environment. Old unsorted stuff, papers, mess is often what
keeps you from moving forward.
Especially with people. Are there hidden conflicts, unsolved

issues in your life?
Protect your personal space and energy. Is anything draining

your energy?
Open space in your agenda. This is an excellent way of

establishing clear priorities.
Put some money aside for a special project. Create a reserve.
• Build up support structures
Gather the support you need from friends, family or peers.

Gather the tools you need. Collect essential information.
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I would like to move

The best is to take a small step and go there first to check it out. Take
a trip to Montana and see how it feels first. Establish contacts there.
Ask lots of question to the locals. Visit real estate agents. Do all that in
a non committed way, simply to gather key information.
Sometimes you are in a period in your life where you want to change
something. Changing location can be the first reflex, but there could
be other options.
Explore other "changing" options, like career and jobs, new life
directions, putting some fresh energy in your relationship, etc. make
sure that if you decide to move, you do that consciously because you
know that it is what you want.
Take a white page and write down the 10 key elements you will find in
Montana that you can't find in Louisiana.
When you know what you are looking for, it greatly strengthens your
motivation and gives you a kick to go ahead and do it.
You are realistic and that's excellent. Don't lose it. Stay with your two
feet on the ground. Estimate how much the moving will cost and how
you will finance it.
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Change house – I am not sure of

my next move
Ask yourself these questions:
• Why do I want to move?
• What will I find in my new location that I don't have right

now?
• Is this the most important step I can take right now?
• What are my possible destinations?
• What is my financial plan for this move?
• Is this plan realistic?
• What is exciting about moving to this new location?
• What will it change in my life?
• Is there anything which needs to be secured before

making the move?
Take a white page and answer these questions one by one. It will give
you clarity and focus towards your target.
Enjoy!
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Renewal power
The single most important quality to change is not ideas and strategy.
It is free energy and power.
As long as resistance is too big, change does not happen. The situation
simply stays the way it is.
The key to change and evolution (whatever that might be) is to

connect with the inner power and energy to actually go ahead and do
it.
Of course you need as well a clear target, ideas and strategies on how
to do it.
The first quality you will need though is always this: Power, energy,
emotional fuel.
I know nothing about your situation.
I don't know if your challenge is inside yourself, with relationships,

with work or something else.
When you have extra power, you can apply it to any area of your life.
This extra force is conquering power or renewal power.
It gives you the ability to dissolve resistances and move forward.
The key is to connect with sources of power which "sponsor" your

change.
Most of the forces in and around you are geared towards creating
resistance and simply freezing your moves.
It is natural.
These forces are called preserving or conservative forces.
They are what keeps society together and stable.
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They are projected by doubts and endless hesitations coming from

friends, coworkers, family, conditioning and self limiting beliefs.
When you decide to change something, the forces of change need to

be stronger than the forces of resistance.
It is a simple physics equation.
If you want to change, you need to connect with a stream of renewal

power.
You can connect with this inside yourself or you can connect with
sources of power and energy which will support you in moving
forward.
You have a wish and desire to change something.
The question is: "do you have what it takes to make that change?"
If the idea of investing a bit of time, energy and money is already too
much, I believe you are stacked my friend.
What you area saying is: "I actually love my comfort and the idea of
stepping beyond the limits of what I know is just too much".
Change is stressful.
It requires the integration of a new set of energies.
This is why there is a natural tendency in you to resist change and

renewal.
You can sometimes get frustrated because a force in you wants to

move forward while another one is resisting, stabilizing and simply
freezing your moves.
You probably know many examples of people who want change but do
nothing about it, right?
They sit back and the idea appears in their mind every now and then.
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They think about it, get frustrated and then move on with their lives
doing exactly what they were doing the day before.
This means one thing. Their will power is not strong enough.
They miss the inner renewal power which allows you to break through
resistances and shift key elements in their lives.
They simply don't have the resources in them because there is no

determination to do something about it.
Determination is an inner decision.
One day, you wake up and decide: "I am going to do what it takes to
shift this situation".
Change is a line of action, behavior and emotions you learn to master

in you..
Change is renewal power.
It is a form of energy you build up, concentrate and use in your life.
To tell you the truth, your power of renewal is more precious than
money.
It is more precious than anything material you have in your life.
When you connect with your renewal power, it is your whole life
stream which shifts.
It is as if you open the doors and allow a free flow of life power.
It is refreshing.
You either watch the river from the side or you jump in it and go with
the flow of transformation.
That's the choice you make.
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You can't be super resistant to life, feel threatened by the forces of

evolution and want change at the same time.
You want to change?
Then lift up your natural resistances and accept to go with it, take
risks, open up and move forward.
What can stop you?
Fears, doubts or hesitations.
You might think I am trying to sell you something?
Definitely yes!
I am selling you your own potential.
I believe you have a strength and inner power waiting to come up.
Don’t sit on this inner volcano of power without daring to open the lid
and free your energy.
You have the power to free your inner resources of energy.
Imagine this inner stallion ready to be freed.
Using your power is a natural human right!
Go ahead and use it!
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Something has to change

Here are some key ideas on how to change:
• Change is stressful
You, like anyone else have a natural resistance for change. Why?
Because change requires energy. It requires the integration of
new mind patterns. This means that if you engage into changing
something in you, you'll be under pressure or stress during this
transition period.
Sometimes you will choose for stability rather than change

simply because of that. Stepping beyond your comfort zone and
trying something new is challenging no matter what.
• I love action! I take risks!
To go for change, you need to totally shift your mind set. Action
is your friend. Every time you sit back and hesitate, you feed
your doubts and comfort yourself in the present situation. Going
for change means picking up the challenge. You go for it even
though you know that taking action means stepping beyond your
comfort zone.
• The easy way
The easy way is to get help! Instead of seeing change like a

mountain to climb, see it like a swim into a refreshing stream.
You can reinvent the wheel if you want to. You can as well
simply benefit from other's experience. The hard way is to
isolate yourself and reject interaction and sources of support.
• Look beyond
Focus on what comes after. Focus on what you can do once you
changed what you needed to. Your mind, body and life are your
vehicle. The sooner you make that vehicle performant, the
sooner you can focus on taking it to the next step. Get rid of
what holds you back. Move forward. Don't stay half way.
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Something is resisting in me
The first step is to identify what is resisting in you.
• Fear?
• Doubts?
• No clear idea or strategy?
• Not sure of what you want?
• Etc.
Resistance is very natural when wanting to change something.
Why?
Because change generates stress on your system.
It generates pressure.
The integration of something new, new energies, new ideas is always

something you have to take inside and integrate in your own terms.
This integration requires extra energy and focus.
Sometimes, you simply don't have the time or energy to invest in it,
so you let it go instead of doing something about it.
From the moment you are born, your mind is being conditioned
(Nothing scary. It is positive and just happens for everyone).
This conditionings are your thought patterns, behaviors, attitudes,

emotional reactions, etc.
When you want to break through and free yourself from an old
conditioning, you need extra energy and extra power. It is quite
natural.
When something new wants to take place, something old has to be

dissolved.
Enjoy!
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Take an important decision

Before you can decide you have to find out what your options are.
Ask yourself these questions to gain clarity:
• Is there something you have to let go if you choose for one of

the possible directions?
• For every option, you could choose, what is it that you would
have to let go of?
• Do you have enough resources, energy and time to follow up

with your choice?
• Are there any conflicting interests?
• Where is resistance coming from?
• Is this resistance in you or outside of you?
• What is this resistance telling you?
• Are there any risks involved if you take your decision?
• What are these risks?
• How will you feel once you take your decision and move
forward?
Sometimes, all you need is simply a little bit of extra power and
confidence. Is this the case for you?
Enjoy!
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Part 16 - 7 key steps

to change your life
This is a simple method to gather energy and shift key aspects in your
life.
At the end, change is very instinctual. It is like jumping in a river and

going with the flow.
However if you feel that change does not happen spontaneously for
you, you can give nature a little help by understanding more about the
dynamics involved and how to empower your transformation path.
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Free your energy
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Free energy using these 7 simple approaches:
• Clear your past
Find out if there are any negative emotions, fears from past
experiences which are holding you back from taking action.
• Clear clutter
Create space around you by simply clearing your physical

environment. Old unsorted stuff, papers, mess is often what
keeps you from moving forward.
Especially with people. Are there hidden conflicts, unsolved

issues in your life?
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Protect your personal space and energy. Is anything draining

your energy?
Open space in your agenda. This is an excellent way of

establishing clear priorities.
Put some money aside for a special project. Create a reserve.
• Build up support structures
Gather the support you need from friends, family or peers.

Gather the tools you need. Collect essential information.
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Identify and eliminate top

resistances
Resistances are forces you can understand and overcome. Here are
some simple mind tricks to empower your action and set you up on a
path of transformation.
A mind set is more than an affirmation. It is a whole stream of energy

which sponsors your action.
Here are some key mind set which will put you on the renewal high
speed track:
Simply focus on the mind set which matches the resistance you might
feel:
• Conflicting interests
I am sure of my next move
• Doubts
I know I can do it
• Hesitations
I take action
• Lack of time
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I free time
• Lack of knowledge
I know where to start
• External resistance
I break through any resistance
• Too many choices
I see my line of action with total clarity
• Lack of energy
I resource myself
• Lack of focus
I stay focus on my target
• Not sure it is the right step
I gain total clarity
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• Can't afford it
I free financial resources
• Inner resistance
I wake up my conquering power
• Too risky
I gather strategies for any situation
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Identify and focus on priority

number one
This is one of the top action taking keys.
Take a minute to gain clarity and identify your number one priority.
This is not a mental decision.
Deep inside you know exactly what you need the most right now.
Focus on your number 1 priority.
This will give you extra fuel and motivation to take steps
• What is your most urgent need?
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Find out why change did not

happen yet
If you tried already to shift the specific element you want to change,
find out what was missing when you first tried.
Any experience gives you valuable information.
Use your experience to understand the dynamics you are in and

develop new power and strategies.
What was missing?
• Lack of ideas?
• Lack of action?
• Lack of follow up?
• Too high expectations?
• Lack of resources? time, energy or money?
• No clear strategy?
• Lack of support?
• No sense of urgency?
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Build up your confidence and

emotional fuel
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Discover these 5 essential ways of building up your confidence and

emotional fuel:
• Take action
Action wakes up an instant stream of life force in your system.

The moment you take action you invoke power in your life. It is
the most direct way to build up energy. Take action even if you
go first for a small step.
• Focus first on small steps
You heard this before: every journey starts with a first step.
Sometimes you don’t have the full picture of where you are
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going. The best way to gain clarity is to take one step forward.
This allows you to test the waters and gather essential
information, feelings and insights.
• Gain control over your life
It is your birth right to be in charge of your existence. When you

are born, you are given a reserve of controlling power. This
controlling power is your ability to sit in the cockpit of your life.
It is a human right! You own it! Use it!
• Gather tools, resources and key information
To take a sound decision, you need to have key information.

Information gives you power. It is like road map of the country
you travel to. Learn from those who have been there before and
if you miss anything for the trip, take steps to gather what you
need.
• Have a strategy for every situation
A strategy is a plan. A strategy is what you need when you

engage yourself on a conquering path. You face challenges and
you win them because you have the right mind set to deal with
them. You foresee pitfalls and deal with them before they even
arise.
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Take action
Design environments
Design environments
to stimulate and encourage
to stimulate and encourage
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Find
Find support
support Affirmations
Affirmations
Find the right support Identify and use key
Find the right support Identify and use key
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with communities, groups,
experts and professionals
experts and professionals
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Taking action
action
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affirmations and empowering
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Train
Train yourself
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Train yourself Read and research
Train yourself Read and research
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Take action using with these 5 key techniques
• Affirmations
Identify and use key affirmations and empowering thoughts
• Resources
Read and research info, resources and tips on this subject
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• Train yourself
Train yourself to respond or react differently in specific life

situations
• Find support
Find the right support with communities, groups, experts and

professionals
• Design empowering environments
Design environments to stimulate and encourage your new

behavior
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Choose an exciting context

The core of any action you take is motivation and emotional fuel.
When you focus on exciting targets and establish your actions within
an exciting context you multiply your level of power and energy.
Focus on these key qualities you want to have in the core of any action
you take or any transformation path you engage yourself into:
My wishes about any new step I take in life:
• Fun, exciting and energizing
• Easy, fast and direct
• Respect for all aspects of my life
• Social if possible – meet people while doing it
• Fit with my natural rhythm
• Makes a significant difference
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Conclusion
I hope you enjoyed this material!
Feed back? Questions? Success stories?
Email me at francisco@vitalcoaching.com
For coaching:
http://vitalcoaching.com/coaching.htm
For more:
www.vitalcoaching.com.
To your power
Francisco Bujan
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Part 1 - Mind dynamics ______________________________ 13

What is self talk and how to make it work for you?____________ 14

Part 2 – Powerful strategies to shift your mind set ________ 51

Connect with positive streams____________________________ 52

Part 3 – Negative thoughts? – Why? ___________________ 69

What is negative thinking? ______________________________ 70

Part 4 – Power dynamics ____________________________ 84

How to strengthen your emotional foundation _______________ 85

Wake up your personal power ___________________________ 102

Part 5 – Power building ____________________________ 143

Gaining back control over what is yours ___________________ 144

Part 6 – Mind performance dynamics __________________ 152

How to increase your mind power ________________________ 153

Part 7 – Your performance power weapons _____________ 166

Emotional fuel _______________________________________ 167

Part 8 - 10 powerful mind training techniques ___________ 180

Active self talk – technique _____________________________ 181

Part 9 – Key strategies to get what you want ___________ 204

How to get exactly what you want _______________________ 205

Part 10 – Use your mind power to create happiness ______ 219

The secret of happiness________________________________ 220

Your quest __________________________________________ 222

Part 11 – Real life examples with best strategies ________ 235

Negative thinking triggers ______________________________ 236

If you feel isolated____________________________________ 269

Part 12 – Your happiness tools_______________________ 281

It is time for change __________________________________ 282

Part 13 – Key tactics to wake up your happiness _________ 307

Get rid of the victim role _______________________________ 308

Connect with positive streams___________________________ 314

Part 14 – Change dynamics _________________________ 334

Change dynamics ____________________________________ 335

Who should decide?___________________________________ 358

Part 15 – How to change your life in these situations _____ 365

Part 16 - 7 key steps to change your life _______________ 399

Free your energy _____________________________________ 400

Conclusion ______________________________________ 412

You can't protect your mind space without power.

• The dynamics of change and how to invite renewal in your life.

• Positive thinking and how you can manifest it.

• Personal power dynamics and hot to tap into your natural

Take a minute to print this book.

Having is in front of your eyes will help you stay focused!

Good luck and stay in touch

Your mind is a complex architecture of thoughts, feelings, emotions

What is self talk and how to make

If you are in a positive mind set, self talk is empowering.

Self talk is the result of a conditioning.

Now, your mind stores memories, feelings, thoughts and emotions.

Self talk is more than a thought.

It is a whole succession of thoughts.

It is a story you tell yourself.

A thought is never an “isolated event” in you.

It is part of a vaster stream you can call your mind set.

A mind set is an inner architecture.

It is the sum of your thinking and emotional habits.

Because your mind architecture tends to stay the same.

Suppose you go one day for a walk in nature.