PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

QUARTER 2 – MODULE 1

Quarter 2 – Module 1: Personal Relationships

MELC:
- Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the acceptable and
unacceptable expressions of attractions (EsP-PD11/12PRIIa-9.1)

ATTRACTION, LOVE, AND COMMITMENT

Researchers have found out that relationships are essential to one’s happiness (Berscheid
1985; Berscheid and Reis 1998, Larsen, Ommundsen, and van Der Veer).
To achieve and maintain happiness on relationship, it must consist of these following
components: attraction, love and commitment with attachment and intimacy.

1. ATTRACTION is the first stage in a continuum stage that leads intimacy and commitment.
 Attraction also involves our unconscious assessment of another person’s
genes through their physical appearance. And it is believed that these genes
are usually determinants of good health that will also produce healthy
children.
 Several theories and research results related to attraction and liking:
a. Transference Effect is a phenomenon characterized by
unconscious redirection of feelings from one person to another.
b. Propinquity Effect is the tendency for people to form friendships
or romantic relationships with those whom they encounter often,
forming a bond between subject and friend.
c. Similarity is the state of being similar; likeness; resemblance. It is
an aspect, trait or feature like or resembling another or another’s
characteristic like similarity of diction.
d. Reciprocity, in social psychology, reciprocity is a social rule that
says people should repay, in kind, what another person has
provided for them.
e. Physical Attractiveness is the degree which a person’s physical
features are considered aesthetically pleasing or beautiful. It often
implies sexual attractiveness or desirably or can also be distinct
from either.
2. LOVE is a feeling of deep affection, passion, or strong liking for a person or thing
 There are three different components of love as theorized by Robert
Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love. These three are intimacy,
commitment, and love.
 Love relationships vary depending on the presence or absence of each of
these components.
 Three Components of Love:
a. Intimacy is “that lovely moment when someone understand and
validate us.” It involves feelings of closeness, connectedness, and
bondedness. Intimacy involves the ability the share feelings,
personal thoughts and psychological closeness with the other.
b. Passion is the intense state of being that drives and consumes a
person to pursue an interest, a vision, or a person. It involves
feelings and desires that lead to physical attraction, romance, and
sexual consummation. This refers to the intense, physical attraction
partners feel toward one another.
c. Decision/Commitment is an act of deciding to consistently fulfil
and live by agreements made with another person, entity, of cause,
and where the values of integrity and respect serve as a guide to
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one’s behavior and thinking. Commitment in a love relationship is
expressed continuously in caring and loving actions for the beloved.
It involves feelings that lead a person to remain with someone and
move toward shared goals. Commitment is the conscious decision
to stay together.

Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love which creates 8 Types of Love

a. Consummate love – It is the center of all types of love. It possesses intimacy,
passion and commitment.
b. Romantic love - It is the type of love that shows intimacy and passion.
c. Companionate love - It is the type of love that shows intimacy and commitment.
d. Fatuous love - It is the type of love that shows passion and commitment.
e. Infatuation - It is the type of love that has passion alone.
f. Liking - It is the type of love that has intimacy alone.
g. Empty love - It is the type of love that has commitment alone.
h. Non-love - It is the absence of the three components of love.

3. COMMITMENT is the continuing process of showing love and care; fulfilling the promises
or agreements made with each other; and through bad times and good times, the
commitment stays firm and in place.
 Three variables related to commitment:
a. Accumulation of all rewards of the relationship
o It is considered as the most important determinant of
satisfaction in a relationship, rewards of the relationship include
support from the partner; sexual satisfaction; emotional,
financial, physical security; adventure and novelty.
b. Temptation of alternative partners
o It is the presence of possible alternatives for another partner can
rock the relationship and destabilize the commitment of a
couple.
c. Investments made by the couple in the relationship
o It is important in maintaining commitment because these
investments may include time spent together, common beliefs
and experiences, mutual experiences with mutual friends, and
bearing children. It was also discovered that religious beliefs
reinforce commitment.

Some important responsibilities that are necessary in a relationship to make it flourish and stay
beneficial for the parties involved:
1. Be responsible for what you think and say to the other person.
 Emotions should be considered when dealing with other people. Being
sensitive to these emotions will make a person responsible for what is said
and accept the consequences of how the other party will receive the
message.
2. Be responsible for what you promise to do or not to do.
 Integrity is a key factor in relationships. Coupled with trust, integrity in one’s
word means that you are reliable and trustworthy. When credibility is
questioned, a relationship will not last long.
3. Ensure the relationship is mutually beneficial.
 Balanced relationships are always mutually beneficial to both parties. It is
always good to have a give and take attitude for this assures fairness and
equality. When fairness is perceived, trust follows.

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4. Respect the other party or parties involved.
 Mutual respect is also essential in a relationship. Giving respect to each other
is a common responsibility of any party involved in a relationship.
5. Be ready to provide support when needed.
 Relationships also thrive on the support given by one party to another.
Providing support, either financially, emotionally, spiritually, or physically,
strengthens the bond in a relationship as this is an expression of one’s
commitment to the other party. It is all about the “we’re in this together”
thing in a relationship.

Basic Rights in a Relationship:

1. The right to emotional support.
2. The right to be heard by the other and to respond.
3. The right to have your own point of view, even if this differs from your partner’s.
4. The right to have your feelings and experiences acknowledged as real.
5. The right to live free from accusation and blame.
6. The right to live free from criticism and judgement.
7. The right to live free from emotional and physical threat.
8. The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage.
9. The right to be respectfully asked rather than ordered.

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NAME: _______________________________________ DATE: _______________________

Parent’s Signature: _________________
ASSESSMENT
I. Multiple Choice
Directions: Read the following questions carefully and write the letter of the correct answer.
_____1. Which of the following statements below describes personal relationship?
A. Personal relationship refers to close connections between people, formed by emotional
bonds and interactions.
B. Personal relationship involves a degree of commitment to another person or persons.
C. Personal relationship is defined by two characteristics: privacy and intimacy.
D. All the choices
_____2. What are three components of personal relationship?
A. attachment, intimacy, and passion B. attachment, love, and passion
C. attraction, commitment, and love D. commitment, intimacy, and passion
_____3. Which of the following is NOT a way of expressing commitment in a relationship?
A. Practice gratitude B. Be compassionate
C. Learn to forgive D. Get jealous, it’s a sign of love
_____4. What should you consider when making decisions around sex and sexual limits?
A. your values B. your family
C. your friends D. all of the given choices
_____5. Which of the following is a sign of healthy and responsible relationship?
A. Your partner hurts you physically or emotionally.
B. You are forced to do something that you’re not comfortable with.
C. Your partner undermines your decisions about pregnancy and parenting.
D. Your partner supports you and your choices – even when they disagree with you.
_____6. Which of the following are signs that you may be in an abusive relationship?
A. Accepting one’s imperfections B. Spending time together
C. Connecting with the family D. Apologizing for your partner’ behavior
_____7. Which of following is the purest form of love?
A. Agape B. Eros C. Pragma D. Storge
_____8. Which love do you show to friends?
A. Agape B. Ludis C. Mania D. Storge
_____9. Which theories of attraction is defined as a phenomenon characterized by unconscious
redirection of feelings from one person to another?
A. Propinquity effect B. Similarity
C. Reciprocity D. Transference effect
_____10. Which theories of attraction is defined as the state of having been similar trait or feature like
or resembling another or another’s characteristic?
A. Physical attractiveness B. Similarity
C. Reciprocity D. Transference effect

II. True or False

Directions: Read the following statements. Write TRUE if the statement is correct; otherwise, write
FALSE.
_____1. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in relationships.
_____2. To love someone, we must love our self-first.
_____3. Trying to understand where other people are coming from rather than judging them helps us
build
and maintain relationships.
_____4. Having a good relationship does not contribute anything to us having good health.
_____5. When people listen deeply and let us know that they recognize the feeling behind our words,
more
likely than not, our relationship is doing good.
_____6. In our relationships, it is vital that we practice forgiveness when a loved one has hurt us.
_____7. Our loved ones cannot help us when we deal with stress.
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_____8. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us maintain good
relationships.
_____9. Expressing gratitude to our friends and family help us maintain good relationships.
_____10. Significant differences in core values and beliefs never create a problem in relationships.

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