Defensiveness - it's the gut reaction to defend yourself when you feel someone has said or done something unfairly or negatively to you. This is

Have you ever been in a situation where you felt attacked or criticized, causing you to instinctively take precautions? We’ve all been there. But what causes defensive behavior? How can you be less defensive?

Recently I found myself getting rather defensive at something my husband commented on. I wondered why I was feeling so defensive when I knew it really wasn't a big deal. Why was I feeling the need to justify something I'd done, even when I knew he was correct. He was not criticising or pointing out…

You cannot defend yourself without being defensive. Instead, you need to remove the defense framework completely. A marriage therapist explains.

Defensiveness is a gut reaction to feeling alone or criticized. However, having this be a default state tells your partner their feelings don’t matter.

Learn how to stop being defensive so you can avoid unnecessary pain caused by patterns of defensiveness. Get the 7 tips here!

It's possible to listen without getting defensive or hurt plus have a great outcome from your conversation if you follow my quick and easy 7-step process!