Chapter Iii: Managing and Caring For The Self C. Taking Charge of One'S Health
Chapter Iii: Managing and Caring For The Self C. Taking Charge of One'S Health
Chapter Iii: Managing and Caring For The Self C. Taking Charge of One'S Health
0 10-July-2020
In today’s fast paced life, people tend to be so busy with a lot of things that at the end of the day,
they usually find themselves feeling more exhausted than accomplished. With so many things that
needs to be done, people are always faced with so much stress that takes a toll on the body over
time. This chapter introduces the different kinds of stress and how the body responds to these
stresses. It also presents the different coping mechanism which can be used to combat the stress
and the various ways of taking care of one’s health
1. Recognize the sources of stress and how they impact one’s life.
2. Identify healthy ways of coping with stress.
3. Create a self-care plan to better manage stress and maintain healthy well being.
Stress is the physical, mental and emotional response of the body to demands made upon it.
Stress is the “wear and tear” our minds and bodies experience as we attempt to cope with our
continually changing environment
Apparently, most of us only think about the bad sides of stress. Distress or Negative stress are
actually about stress that are beyond one’s control. This bad impact of severe stress is often
manifested in physical and mental signs and symptoms
Feels unpleasant.
Decreases performance.
However, when we are only exposed to mild or moderate stress, we are actually able to experience
the good side of stress which include improved creativity, learning, efficiency at work and,
eventually, a higher level of self-esteem that could lead us to be able to withstand a higher stress
levels in the future. This is known as Eustress of Positive Stress.
Is short-term.
Feels exciting.
Improves performance.
The most dangerous thing about stress is how easily it can creep up on you. You get used to it. It
starts to feel familiar, even normal. You don’t notice how much it’s affecting you, even as it takes a
heavy toll. That’s why it’s important to be aware of the common warning signs and symptoms of
stress overload.
Cognitive symptoms:
Memory problems
Inability to concentrate
Poor judgment
Constant worrying
Emotional symptoms:
Depression or general unhappiness
Feeling overwhelmed
Diarrhea or constipation
Nausea, dizziness
Your support network. A strong network of supportive friends and family members is an enormous
buffer against stress. When you have people you can count on, life’s pressures don’t seem as
overwhelming. On the flip side, the lonelier and more isolated you are, the greater your risk of
succumbing to stress.
Your sense of control. If you have confidence in yourself and your ability to influence events and
persevere through challenges, it’s easier to take stress in stride. On the other hand, if you believe
that you have little control over your life—that you’re at the mercy of your environment and
circumstances—stress is more likely to knock you off course.
Your attitude and outlook. The way you look at life and its inevitable challenges makes a huge
difference in your ability to handle stress. If you’re generally hopeful and optimistic, you’ll be less
vulnerable. Stress-hardy people tend to embrace challenges, have a stronger sense of humor,
believe in a higher purpose, and accept change as an inevitable part of life.
Your ability to deal with your emotions. If you don’t know how to calm and soothe yourself when
you’re feeling sad, angry, or troubled, you’re more likely to become stressed and agitated. Having
the ability to identify and deal appropriately with your emotions can increase your tolerance to stress
and help you bounce back from adversity.
Your knowledge and preparation. The more you know about a stressful situation, including how
long it will last and what to expect, the easier it is to cope. For example, if you go into surgery with a
realistic picture of what to expect post-op, a painful recovery will be less stressful than if you were
expecting to bounce back immediately.
COPING MECHANISMS
Coping mechanisms are the strategies people often use in the face of stress and/or trauma to
help manage painful or difficult emotions. Coping mechanisms can help people adjust to
stressful events while helping them maintain their emotional well-being.
Coping strategies can also be positive (adaptive) or negative (maladaptive). Positive coping
strategies successfully diminish the amount of stress being experienced and provide constructive
feedback for the user. Examples of adaptive coping include seeking social support from others
(social coping) and attempting to learn from the stressful experience (meaning-focused coping).
Maintaining good physical and mental health, practicing relaxation techniques, and employing
humor in difficult situations are other types of positive coping strategies. Proactive coping is a
specific type of adaptive strategy that attempts to anticipate a problem before it begins and prepare
a person to cope with the coming challenge.
Negative coping strategies might be successful at managing or abating stress, but the result is
dysfunctional and non-productive. They provide a quick fix that interferes with the person’s ability to
break apart the association between the stressor and the symptoms of anxiety. Therefore, while
these strategies provide short-term relief, they actually serve to maintain disorder. Maladaptive
strategies include dissociation, sensitization, numbing out, anxious avoidance of a problem, and
escape.
STRESS AND THE FILIPINOS: The Social and Cultural Dimensions of Stress
We don’t. Well, at least not in a way that we would in English: I am stressed. It just doesn’t work out;
we don’t, as far as I know, have a word in any of our Philippine languages for stress and being
stressed.
But that doesn’t mean we Filipinos don’t ever experience stress. We feel it all the time and we see it
producing illnesses, both physical and mental, both fleeting (as in having to run to the toilet) and
serious, life-threatening ones. Because stress affects the body’s immune system, we can say all
ailments are in one way or another stress-related, from asthma to singaw (canker sores), to
cardiovascular ailments and even infectious diseases.
There’s also a tendency to dismiss stress-related illnesses as “psychological,” and that these are
self-limiting, easily resolved. The fact is that stress can so overwhelm people that they lapse into
depression, resorting to destructive behavior, directed toward the self, or toward others.
Filipinos do face many sources of stress, around work and livelihood mainly. Farmers worry about
drought and typhoons; urbanites go berserk with tyrannical bosses and vicious gossipy office-
mates.
Rural or urban, we all face the stresses of family, perhaps more so than in Western countries. We
like to say we are family-oriented, with relatives always on hand to help out. But the extended
Filipino family can be stressful too, with all its obligations. Overseas workers have a particularly
difficult time with all the expectations family members have back home. I’ve met Filipinos overseas,
from Hong Kong domestic workers to physicians in the United States, who postpone returning home
for years because they dread the jeepneyloads of relatives waiting for pasalubong (gifts).
OH, BUT the Filipino is resilient, we keep hearing. I’ve been in urban shanties where 15 people
share 15 square meters of living space and yes, on the surface, everyone seems happy.
Chinese Asiaweek once had a cover story featuring Filipinos as the happiest people in the world,
unfazed by the most difficult of circumstances. One photo had a group of men drinking away in the
middle of knee-high floodwaters.
But the scenes of smiling and laughing Filipinos, singing and dancing (and drinking) away can be
deceptive. Quite often, we deal with stress by trying to be “happy.” I put that in quotes because the
Filipino term is masaya, which is really more of an externalized merriment. Masaya is social
camaraderie, it’s making cheer and quite often we do it precisely because there have been unhappy
events, stressful events. The best example is that of a death — our wakes are notorious for its
merry-making, but that, precisely, is part of our stress-coping mechanism.
ALL SAID, there’s a political economy of stress involved, meaning power relations shape the way
one experiences and expresses stress. Common sense tells us the poor suffer much more daily
stress, from battling the traffic while commuting, breathing in more of the toxic fumes, dealing with
tyrannical bosses and snakepit offices. Poor women are doubly burdened, having to deal with the
tribulations of work, as well as of the home, running after the needs of husband and children.
Men may be more prone to the problem of this “political economy of stress,” since they have to live
up to higher expectations of gender. A jobless man, for example, may be more adversely
by stress because of a loss of pride. Machismo also blocks him from taking up jobs that he thinks
are beneath his station. So he ends up drinking with the barkada, which is then interpreted as
“resilience” and an ability to be happy. His wife, meanwhile, will pick up odd jobs here and there,
doing laundry, mending clothes; ironically, that again generates stress for him, as he feels his
masculinity threatened.
… given the deteriorating economic and political situation in the Philippines, are we about to see an
epidemic of stress-related ailments?
I think we’re already in that epidemic, and too little is being done to help Filipinos tackle stress.
Self-Care
When asked the question: “Do you take care of yourself?” most of us will answer “yes” — we’d even
think, “What kind of question is this? Of course, I care about myself.” When asked, “In what ways do
you take care of yourself?” — well, that’s where the tricky part begins.
Self-care is a broad term that encompasses just about anything you to do be good to yourself. In a
nutshell, it’s about being as kind to yourself as you would be to others. It’s partly about knowing
when your resources are running low, and stepping back to replenish them rather than letting them
all drain away.
identifying what you enjoy doing and what's fun for you and make a serious effort to
integrate it into your day
feeding your spiritual self
When you care for yourself first, you have more energy and time
for important things and less time for unproductive or time wasting
activities. This will then improve time and stress management.
Balance is important. Too much work can cause burn out, too
much play or lack of direction can make you unproductive or
“lazy“. When you care for yourself, you find ways to balance out
your work and personal life. This will create the balance of health, work, relationship, business,
family, or friends.
It helps you not only physically, but mentally and spiritually too! Think about it. When you make an
effort to care for yourself, what do you think of?
Exercise? Being happy? Doing things that makes you happy? Reading a book? Being able to stay
in touch with friends? Having time to go for yoga classes?
Self-Compassion
Self-compassion is the ability to turn understanding, acceptance, and love inward. Many people are
able to extend compassion toward others but find it difficult to extend the same compassion toward
themselves. They may see self-compassion as an act of self-indulgence, but extending compassion
toward oneself is not an act of self-indulgence, selfishness, or self-pity.
Compassion is the ability to show empathy, love, and concern to people who are in difficulty, and
self-compassion is simply the ability to direct these same emotions within, and accept oneself,
particularly in the face of failure. Many otherwise compassionate people have a harder time showing
compassion for themselves, sometimes out of a fear of engaging in self-indulgence or self-pity, but
an inability to accept areas of weakness may lead to difficulty achieving emotional well-being.
Kristin Neff, a self-compassion researcher and the first to define the term academically, describes
self-compassion as having three elements.
SELF LOVE
—Reyna Biddy
LEARNING ACTIVITY 1
IDENTIFYING SOURCES OF STRESS. Indicate in the boxes the stressors that you often encounter
SOURCES
OF
STRESS
LEARNING ACTIVITY 2
I Love My Self
Enumerate ways on how you do self-care and attach pictures of you doing these activities
1. _______________________________________________
2. _______________________________________________
3. _______________________________________________
4. _______________________________________________
5. _______________________________________________
SUMMARY
Problems are inevitable part of our daily lives and that is something that we could not change. What
we could change, though, is the way by which we respond to life’s challenges. Self-compassion and
Self-care remind us that in going through trials and problems, we have to be kind and less critical of
ourselves. We should also learn to listen to our body when it needs to take a break from the
stresses of life so that we can be more ready to face difficulties.
REFERENCES
https://www.mentalhelp.net/stress/types-of-stressors-eustress-vs-distress/
https://courses.lumenlearning.com/boundless-psychology/chapter/coping-with-and-managing-
stress/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coping
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/coping-mechanisms
https://old.pcij.org/stories/stress-and-the-filipino/